I asked ONE woman (a bank teller I saw daily, and saw her belly bump growing) when she was due. She replied that she had liver cancer and wasn't expecting. I've never asked another woman about her family plans. It's no one else's business.

AFRICAN PARENTS NEED TO HEAR THIS, SO MANY WOMEN ARE DYING IN SILENCE BECAUSE OF THIS. THANK YOU FOR VOICING IT.

My husband passed before we made it to the 2yr mark but I am so blessed for all of the times we shared. I enjoyed every second of him. Enjoy each other and explore and experience the fullness of life together. Gods blessings upon your union. I love watching your videos.

I remember even church elders asking me if my wife was pregnant as soon as she arrived in the US. Then we were not even planning to start having kids. Not that they will help you raise your kids. It's just so ridiculous.

If I could give this a double thumbs up , I would. Thank you for having this conversation, its quite insightful.

Being a "senior citizen, lol" now I just want to say that the more I listen to you two the more I wish I had had the mindset you have when I was younger. So much would have been different, but I let others make great influences on me instead of following my own heart and dreams. I love listening to you both and I do have to say one thing, Ling you are such a beautiful lady and you both seem like a lovely couple. Keep loving each other and may you have plenty of joy, peace and happiness in life ✌💜👍🤗🌻

Glad you guys are talking about this topic. My ex-husband knew before our marriage that I could not have kids, he said that it didn't matter, but a few years into the marriage he decided to have an affair in order to have a child. I chose to love myself and divorced him. Congrats to you both...

I can't stand that question. I had twins 13 years ago, and folks still ask when are you going to have a boy. Smh...rude

It's ironic because when I was in a relationship I was asked that all the time. Now I'm a single mom of 3 and get asked why I had so many kids. But still no one helps me take care of them and no one asks if I need anything or if I'm alright. Live your life and mind ya business

Lamb ! You the man, real big man with real conscious talk 🦜"Children will come out of the abundance of love you have for each other. Maan that's real talk right there.

I can totally relate with you guys, I respect Lamb for the kind of man he is, my husband left me because I wasn't able to give him kids. Thank you for standing up to these nosey Parkers

I can't stop loving you guys. Exactly the same thing I told my wife back then in 1997 when we're courting. I specifically told her that I'm not keen about making babies, if they come fine or otherwise.But,as long as we are happy together the rest is story. Thumb up for you guys...

I love listening to these type of conversations, people can learn a lot from them. I learnt a LOT from this - “outside of children, do you love your partner” awesome!

11 years in marriage, no kids and very happily childfree. My womb my business. As long as my husband and I are happy, no one else matters.

This hit home. I am Indian and my hubby is Caribbean, married 6 years. I am asked constantly when I’m getting pregnant, almost looked down on by my parents, extended family and mother in law. Someone asked if I was ‘doing it right’. My mum even said I just need to get pregnant and she will look after him/ her. It makes me feel less of a woman. Hubby and I love our relationship and with PCOS, it has been hard for me to conceive. I’ve made peace that it might not happen but the constant expectation really gets me down.

I've NEVER thought to ask you all. I just think you guys are building an empire! Keep GROWING!!!!❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾

I totally agree with you on this topic. I waited because I didn't want kids in my 20s and 30s. When I was ready in my 40s I had a difficult time. I would cry in private because of the constant pressure and questions. I have not been able to be a biological parent, but I have mentored tons and have tons of God children.

Subscribers keep increasing!!!.. most authentic KZfaq couple.. Thank you for the advice.

First of all, I think you two are a great couple. Second, you are so right about asking couples about "when are you having a baby". My husband and I had a very difficult time getting pregnant. It took us 10 years! We went through everything, even IVF. It was such a pressure on us, especially me, when people would make a comment or ask. It's such a private matter and people should just be respectful of such matter.

Being in a similar situation when I was young, I fully understand how the two of you feel. Enjoy your lives. What’s to be will be. You two seem to have so much to accomplish, go for it. You both have a wonderful spirit and energy together. I wish you well.

What a beautiful couple, you guys really do inspire us the young married couples ♥️.

DON'T ASK HER OR ANY OTHER WOMAN PERIOD...

I agree with you two. My wife had a hard time getting pregnant with our son. It was very stressful for the both of us because couples around us were having children but finally god blessed us with a healthy baby boy. It’s no one’s business when or if you want to have children god will bless you when it’s time. Y’all have a great day love the channel y’all are hilarious

This is a healthy marriage, husband and wife communicating and expressing how they feel to one another in a positive healthy tone no yelling shouting or talking to friends or family first before one another. And i agree I have been trying for 8 years snd it sinks my heart everytime someone asks me when we are planning on starting a family, it’s devastating and depressing every time i hear it. God bless you both enjoy one another because in my eyes its obvious you were made for one another❤️

Yes! Key words “There is much more to life than kids and getting married!” WHY CANT PEOPLE UNDERSTAND THIS?!

I'm bored shitless on a Wednesday night and waiting on my husband to arrive home from work. I was contemplating watching Judas and the Black Messiah on Netflix until I tapped into KZfaq and stumbled upon your channel. There's a vibe between the two of you that I'm digging and yes, I said digging because I'm a 58 year old black hippie, lol ! I love the energy that both of you give off when you interact with each other . Your banter seems really genuine , non pretentious , non scripted and it's is really cool . I completely agree with you regarding the topic of asking a woman if she's pregnant , to deem it an invasion of privacy would be an understatement. As someone who chose to only have one child, the question of why I didn't have more children was the bane of my existence. Please continue to enlighten and entertain us folks on the other side . Cheers , New Subscriber

Having only just subscribed to your channel (yesterday) and binged the past two days, I want to say this video has shown a serious side to you two. And you both are right. Social media isn't only about antics. It's also about responsibility. Ling and Lamb, keep up more of this (and more funnies - love the foodie tryouts 😁)

This right here is what I personally need to hear . Am really encouraged guys. Thanks for hAVing this convo👏

I think more people need to see this, especially African parents.

All you womb monitoring spirit, leave this beautiful woman alone. Dang! I had the same thing and it was not nice and yes it was a struggle until God answered my prayer. Leave her alone in Jesus name! 😡😡 My darling Ling, I give you permission to use the block button on them!

You guys nailed it. Everyone should stop asking about when couples are going to have babies, as if it's their business. Thanks for standing up for the rest of us women who have lived through the pressure of having children because others wants us to. 🙏

I love watching you two. I think you compliment each other very well. I totally understand where you're coming from. You're gaining momentum and popularity as your relationship shines bright 🌞 to your viewers. I don't think most people meant any harm, its just the programming that's embedded into us as a whole. Fine the perfect mate then create the perfect family. I appreciate your boldness to express your boundaries and be the author of your own book.

This video was serious, not a single joke; This issue most be very close to their hearts. People asking just like relatives may be asking because they want to see their brother and sister experience the joy of parenthood. As Lamb says God's time is best and adults do not need to be pressured on something like having children.

I have been married for 2 years and I can relate Ling....as if to say when the kids come they will join in in raising and fending for them.....busy bodies......

"To my future children, no one will suck more than 3 months" 🤣🤣🤣🤣 you have me on stitches Lamb

You guys are hilarious I love your relationship I'm not sure how y'all have the patience to have your cameras on 24/7 like this but I'm glad you guys take the time to share it with the world it's good to see things that are fun and enjoyable on the internet instead of people making asses of themselves keep up the good work

The 23 people that disliked this video are the ones asking Ling if she pregnant, or when she's going to have a baby. People need to mind their own business in sensitive matter like this. ✌Peace

This is what you guys signed up for and you are the both doing a beautiful job. Don't take it personal when people say things like that. Just live love and enjoy what you are doing. You are making a lot of us happy

There is so much more to life than just getting married and having kids #facts!!

I completely love you two. I can't get enough. You make me laugh no matter how much pain I'm in. I wish I had you guys in my family.

Ling and Lamb, I love you both, more, for putting this out there!

What a wonderful man... full of wisdom ☺️. A blessed couple indeed!

Thank you for addressing this. So many women get bombarded with intrusive questions like this in the midst of struggling with miscarriage etc. Someone else’s marriage and how they choose to run their life is not public business. We need to learn boundaries.

I’m glad you guys are having this conversation and bringing awareness to this topic. I’m African as well and it’s a thing to immediately start having kids. They… (Africans) are so invasive (People in general as well). I’m 28 yrs old now, and people are still pressuring me to be married and have children. I dance to the beat of my drum. That’s how we rush into things and become unhappy, miserable or simply unprepared. And the same people that were applying pressure will be no where to be found. Advice to the Public* Move at your own Pace.

Was having an argument with a friend some minutes ago and while making my points, the only thing I could think of was Ling and Lamb. I constantly felt the need to share a video from you guys with the person. It's not just about the chemistry, charisma and whatnot. I chose to share this cos of the words said in it. It was wisdom for me and it got stuck so tight in my head that I couldn't stop thinking about it while the argument was on. Cheers

Man keep grinding forget them they don’t have to help you guys take care of this kids that they want y’all to have. Enjoy y’all life

Ling and Lamb, God bless you both.....thank you so much for speaking into some of life's most cringing topics, spoken about once everything has fallen apart instead of up front before, like it needs to be. Thank you!

🌴🌺 I didn’t even finish the vlog and I’m up hauled that people would ask you about babies or assume you’re pregnant. My son got married and I never asked because I didn’t want to put pressure or invade their personal decisions. I respect the decision to create a human being. That’s a big responsibility and commitment!!! Enjoy your lives together, of course you know this. Life has so much to offer see and do! Thank you for sharing❤️🙏

Ling and Lamb, thanks for this. I am one of the wanted kids but after a miscarriage it never happened again. I have experienced some rude and even insulting comments about having children. My husband and I have come to terms with it. Now that I am getting older and had a hysterectomy due to cancer it is totally impossible. Although I don't have kids I have invested money and time into my nieces, nephews, God children, and friends kids. I am thankful to have had the means to help. I would have loved being a parent but it wasn't meant to be. I am content and often happy with my life. Many of my dreams or life goals became true. I am working my bucket list for the rest.

It’s the facts they are spilling for me. People really need to have you guys mindset it’s 2021.

Thank you for bringing this up. It's so difficult for women who want to have kids and can't or women who are not interested in having kids at all. No one should ever get into someone's private business like this even if they are doing it from a good place. You never know how you may be hurting someone by that careless question. As always, love to both of you!

This needs to be a conversation i think needs to be talked about so much more ❣️ Thank you

I love this. That's where we get misplaced priorities in Nigeria.

Actually there is more to life than kids. ✌

You'll never have to worry about me asking such personal and private questions. I recently discovered and love your channel. Your antics keep me in stitches. You guys and your relationship is a awesome 👌 one. What's really interesting and fascinating is that your sharing knowledge of so many things that I've never experienced or know about and Ling I'm your moms age. Thank you both. I have a lot of videos of you to watch. I'll binge watch on those rainy days.

You two are the most beautiful influential couple. I’m grateful for your openness and love how you are so truthful. Thank you 🙏🏾

I love you Ling and Lamb and the best way is to live your life, love each other and ignore the noise coz that is what it is! You are an awesome couple❤️

It’s rude. I get this question and people don’t understand, I’ve miscarried, privately. I wish I would have a baby right now, but it’s not time. It’s your marriage. Your body. God’s and your timing.

I love you guys! Great conversation and I hope people will respect your requests.

I just love watching u guys, but I can't imagine DMing a total stranger and asking such a personal question! Y'all are just beautiful and you make me smile!! I would so love to find this kind of love!! I was married 22 years, been divorced 11, have 2 grown BEAUTIFUL, girls inside and out, so I would be so blessed to find a relationship like you guys!

The very end was epic!!!....😄😄....About the topic, Truth is once you are out there, people will always talk...I can bet you, if you were to have your kids now, they will look for the next big thing to pressure you or talk about...Am glad you guys have spoken out about it but please, just block or ignore such persons...Nice video!!!

💯 I couldn't agree with you more, it's very personal, people need to learn to mind their business! I Love you two 💜

I speak Shalom over the two of you Ling & Lamb. You two are such an inspiration thank you for sharing your lives.🥰

Love it because you are funny.... most of the time. but you have the ability to talk, as a couple,; seriously about a topic that people just avoid. Love you guys!

I love it when Lamb is always referring to his grandmother. My grandmother used to say if someone says something that doesn't concern you pliz carry it with other ear and immediately drop it on the other side with the other ear. So don't worry about them asking for pregnancy it should not annoy you you have a lot to do.

Ling & Lamb just take your time and savor your new marriage, no pressure! You guys are doing just fantastic! Be unconscious to useless questions

Thank you for having this conversation. Outside pressure is never fun! I love you both!

Yes, its such a privat and sensitive matter. I really appreciate the conversation you have about it! A really big thank you for that Video!

I just loved the way you both communicate to each other. Much love ❤️ to you both and God bless your beautiful family..

With all due respect; when we as people in general invite society in our home like this; this is exactly what is going ro happen, because they have no respect, or they are just excited to know more and more of your lives! Its sad that people just cant watch what you offer and keep their mouth shut in the process. I commend you both for calling this out and taking care of it before it gets worse. So, moving forward, if you dont already know more things will be coming at you. Especially as you keep doing this. I wish you both the best and just set your standards, boundaries, and topics that you will ONLY address throughout your life keeping society remaining in your life together as an interracial & international marriage. You are doing great and just remain to stand your ground and maybe you may have to make a video just on topics that you will only be willing to cover and expose to the world. Set your BOUNDARIES!!! I encourage you. I resoect you both. Have a great day.

You have healed alot,thousands and gazillions of people. A relatable topic. To hear you say it the way you did is Magic. Abracadabra!!!.I love you guys. You are simply: awesomeness .💯😍🌹xoxo

😭 Ya’ll are so refreshing. Please continue making such videos

Thank you for this! Fifty years old. I had reproductive issues all my life. Never able to have children. My friend messaged me last month and told me I just have "the wrong gardener," and I need to go where they live to see good doctors. I'm FIFTY! What the actual f****? Get out of my womb. That ship has sailed. I don't want a baby at 50, and I have 3 stepkids now. What is wrong with people?

The 5 people that disliked this video were the nosy ones in their business. smh

Well said to you both. The nature of social media is that people follow you because they love you. However, they can become so intrigued with your life that they will ask questions that lack sensitivity not meaning to offend you both. They are excited for you both and possibly pushing the timeline to accelerate the next post marriage event. You've never discussed this publicly and like celebrities when you go public, some people believe that you belong to them... you have now set the boundaries, and no doubt the question will be asked again (I.e. new subscribers etc.). keep it positive and remain blessed as those that ask the question love you both. Btw I wouldn't ask... blessings

This was great! Love the philosophy for sure. I was searching for a client/patient and found myself interested because I have made the conscious decision not to have children. I run a private practice for children and families and I recognize that if I had children, I most likely would not be able to continue my practice and service to the public. Something would go lacking and that would be my family or my clients/patients who I highly value. To prevent that "crossfire" or "crossroads" that destroys so many families and business owners, I have decided to wait. Doesn't mean it won't ever happen -- but for right now I am fine. I see my child-free time as time to work on me, work on my career, work on my family, work on the people who need me. When it is time for children (if ever) I will be ready then. Thank you for sharing this wisdom with your audience. I will share this video with my clients/patients. Blessings to you both! Love your channel!

I was actually wondering what you did for a living at the beginning of the video. Thank you for reminding people that having children is very private. Sending lots of prayers & love from lasagna, I mean Louisiana! 🙏😉😂

Amen Ling and Lamb! I absolutely hate nosey people or people that try to pressure people to have something they won't have to deal with. It's your body, your life. And yes, if you want to see a baby go have one yourself and stay out of other people's business! Love y'all

You guys explained this in the most calm and beautiful way. 😍fav couple as always. People will talk whatsoever, biko keep entertaining the rest of us. God bless you two😍😍😍😍

This guy's is so hilarious and her laugh is contagious. Somehow their videos cheer me up.

Lamb is right don’t let anyone buy pressure for you

Some people are trapped in marriages because of the kids - brilliant point Lamb!

Agree! 🔥💯 Thank you so much for bringing up this topic! 🙏🙏 People and family have asked me and my husband when the baby is coming for 12 years now. We take our time, and have no hurry with children. The question about a baby get us so fed up too... and the assumptions of me being pregnant, when people see what they want to see... It's no one's bissness to ask couples about children, if a couple what's to talk about having children they will talk about it.

Many hearty congratulations to you both Ling and Lamb for this awesome tuition.

I think after weeding the coups need time to still plan their lives together before a Child should come.

Marriage is all about understanding between couple, love your chemistry

Y’all are so cute! It’s nothing wrong with getting to know each other first and enjoying each other.. Lmao Limb just went so left at the end!

Great message I hope they have more people like you guys 😘🥰🥰🥰 ❤️ ❤️ Key point: there are more things that are important in life than just having kids. Everyone have different reason of why they should or shouldn’t have children.

Although my life never did match it, I was told that at least the first three years of marriage, you are supposed to learn, love and continue to date who your husband or wife are first, then you have children. Prepare your nest when your ready, and just enjoy loving each other. Many blessings to you both!🥰🥰😘

So true just enjoy each other when you both are ready you are doing the right thing a couple should enjoy each other first and I love that you can do that first🤗

Thank you so much for addressing this issue! It is a very insensitive question and never anyone's business. BTW just recently found your channel and totally enjoying your videos.

I respect & appreciate you two.Thanks for the video.You two spoke well.You have a right to privacy.Keep rising.

Please do a video on how y’all survived the long distance, immigration issues & lambs adjustment in the states! For those of us currently in Nigeria-USA long distance relationships! (PS I live in Connecticut too! ☺️❤️)

I absolutely believe them when they say there are people who are miserable in relationships and feel “stuck” because of “the kids.” Let people move in their own time and for what works best for their relationship.

A topic of a thousand dimensions, I really do hope your fans understand your points and learn to keep their nose off such sensitive issues in the future.

You two are awesome and so fun to watch. Some people are just not good at minding their own business. Your video here addresses this so well. God bless!!❤️🤩

Sorry Lamb people don't see u suffering, some even think u getting cash from KZfaq. They see u happy, thats why they presume all is well. I think they wish u well while asking about pregnancy. Not all wish u bad, some dont know its a pressure. Just respond to them God will do it at the appointed time. Thats a cool response to them instead of cutting them off on phone. Love you guys 👦

You guys don't do it unless you want it, because it's not for everyone. I can respect the fact that you both know what you want.

I totally agree with you guys on this topic @ Ling and Lamb. And I'm glad you talked about it