Attachment Theory: Secrets to a Successful Relationship with Julie Menanno

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Attachment Theory: Secrets to a Successful Relationship with Julie Menanno

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Valeria Lipovetsky

Күн бұрын

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@junewambui9293 6 ай бұрын

When Julie said that we can heal our insecure attachment, I felt tears sting my eyes because it's just so hard! As a woman with anxious attachment, this has been one of the biggest demons I've had to fight. I can't wait to heal and be rid of it.

@Dd94949 7 ай бұрын

It's so easy to label men as avoidant and women as anxious but what she doesn't break down is that if nobody is completely secure then most couples will trigger each other in opposing directions simply because 2 anxious or 2 avoidant don't really work. There's no glue. So even if you think you know your style it also depends on your partner and it can ebb and flow. It likely takes a good therapist to really identify the cycle because 99% of the time we aren't aware of what we're doing in the moment - self and other. Our primary relationship is our existential anchor in the world. If we grew up insecurely attached then we won't know the difference as an adult - our dysfunction, whether mild or serious - will feel normal. Further, attachment injuries in adulthood can also disrupt our style. This theory is not simple by any means. It's the physics of human relationships.

@adriennemyers4258 4 ай бұрын

Well said, so many great insights in this comment! I wanted to add about the gender thing, as a fearful-avoidant woman, I’ve been in relationships with more anxious men than avoidant. But there may also be broader trends in parenting around emotions and masculinity that make men develop more avoidant tendencies. Just speaking from the collection of anecdotes I’ve heard from men over the years that they were expected to be emotionally shut down and independent, moreso than their female peers, and how that’s often perpetuated in male friendships.

@AVega-rx4px Ай бұрын

How We Love is another wonderful book along these same lines.

@alexandracristea1991 9 ай бұрын

The example with the avoidant and anxious attachment is so on point! It feels like my partner and I. Good learning curve 😅

@EriPages 9 ай бұрын

Who is the anxious between u too? And hypothetically, would u be more attracted or less attracted if it were swapped between u too?

@ValeriaLipovetsky 9 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

@alexandracristea1991 9 ай бұрын

@@EriPages I’m the anxious attachment type. Interesting though because I see it’s different depending on the relationship. In the past I’ve been the avoidant in certain circumstances…

@EriPages 9 ай бұрын

@@alexandracristea1991 interesting My assumption was the female is typically the anxious type, not always, but only when she really likes her guy

@nevie8158 9 ай бұрын

So beautiful this is. You have a pure heart for this podcast, it’s unbelievable in helping people❤

@ValeriaLipovetsky 8 ай бұрын

thank you so much 🙏🏻🥹

@richmckeemusic 4 ай бұрын

Great interview! The book is absolutely amazing! My favourite interview I’ve heard with her so well done 👏

@arose7514 8 ай бұрын

Privet Valeria, this was such amazing content. Thank you for the good work, effort and personal honesty! As a woman I too have some similar background and have developed avoidant style as attachment. I truly desire connection, am overwhelmed by my loneliness (especially now, so thank you for the timing of this release, I needed to hear this) it’s inspiring that you’ve managed to build a family and life and it gives me hope. Thank you ❤ love and light

@obsessedlaurel4726 8 ай бұрын

Such a great episode! Made me cry, frankly speaking

@allisonavila3580 8 ай бұрын

I NEEDED this video right now. Gods timing. Thanks Val ❤

@ValeriaLipovetsky 8 ай бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

@zsofiaendrody7487 9 ай бұрын

I’m 20 minutes in and this conversation is so valuable! ❤ thank you for bringing it to us! Your questions and comments are so good! :)

@ValeriaLipovetsky 8 ай бұрын

this means everything 🥹❤️ thank you for watching!

@user-cs4fg7bh4r 8 ай бұрын

oh I just love that idea of looking to a relashionships as moments not a one junk!

@valeria-mb3sy 8 ай бұрын

just 10 minutes into the podcast and already loving it! 💓

@carolinevandelden6884 8 ай бұрын

Her voice is so calming! What an amazing episode!

@ValeriaLipovetsky 8 ай бұрын

glad you enjoyed it!!

@isabelmualdri 9 ай бұрын

I love this ❤

@ValeriaLipovetsky 8 ай бұрын

thank you!

@mariel.garcia 4 ай бұрын

I’m wondering how they even got married without recognizing this attachment dynamic during the dating stage?

@acd1168 3 ай бұрын

Because they chose to listen to their emotions versus the red flags. Which is something a lot of people do and then they later find out maybe the dynamic isn’t very healthy

@MohidilYunsaliyiva 9 ай бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤❤

@ValeriaLipovetsky 9 ай бұрын

❤❤

@user-ks3ol3lw3b 4 ай бұрын

This is why the lesbian divorce rate is so high. Gay marriage just became a thing, and already they're bailing out on each other. Two anxious people stuck in one house together is a recipe for disaster.