This reminds me of the story of a man whose wife was in a home. He visited her every day. One day a nurse came over and asked «Why do you visit her every day? She doesn’t know who you are anymore». He replied «I know who she is.»

Peter and Mat are real men. Despite the circumstances they continue to be the support their poor wives need and are unable to realize. My kind of men.

The husbands must never feel guilty, and no one must judge them.

He's doing the right thing. He still loves her and you can tell.

I started watching this because I wanted to know more about dementia, and there was Mat! Clare passed away in 2020 - he still misses her and sings songs to her on anniversaries and such. A real gentleman, very thoughtful and kind.

People planning on marriage should be required to watch this.

I hope I find someone who loves me as much as these men love their wives

One of the saddest documentaries I have ever seen. These men truly love their wives and seem so lost without them.

I did the same for my husband who died 5 weeks ago. I don't regret one minute with him, just miss him terribly.

Mandy and Clare have amazing husbands. It brought tears to my eyes to see the love they still give to their wives. Husbands of the year 👍

My husband died slowly from cancer. I was his only caregiver. Family and friends immediately disappeared. Even after his death, no cards, no flowers, no phone calls. He was a Vietnam veteran. He was a good guy. He dropped everything to help anyone in need. Maybe if we had been rich then we would of had support and love. There is no good way to die.

I loved how that carer gave Clare a good night kiss, so loving and caring and Gentle ❤️❤️❤️

Good men with caring hearts...

I work in Healthcare and it's good to see these people stick by their loved ones because alot dont and most dont have anyone. It's sad, God Bless them

Gosh that was sad. I'll be 71 soon and have been living alone for years, but I'm healthy thank God. I never had someone to love me like that. But that's life isn't it. We can't have everything.

watching 2023 , Thank you for this video xxxx These husbands were so loving and caring and understanding.

Mandy's husband did not betray her. He cared for her in the best way he could. And both men clearly love their wives deeply. Beautiful to see.

I wish I could meet a man like that. Some times I forget that good men like that really do exist.

This terrible disease stole my mama/best friend from me 5 years ago. It was so heartbreaking to watch this strong lady, whom I loved so much slowly perish. She and my father were the best parents I could have asked for!! The last thing she was able to tell my brother and I was " I love you" and this was on the day she passed! That's one of many beautiful memories I have of her. God bless these gentlemen for all the love they have for theirs wives, you are true angels!!

The pain in his voice when he talks about the dishes is crushing, I cried. His love is beautiful. Both of the husbands just wonderful. I can’t finish this, so incredibly sad.

Talk about the true meaning of love. There is truly a place in heaven for these gentlemen.

True love will prefail. How precious and caring both husbands is towards their wifes. God bless them.

"feels like you've been shot and you're not dead." - heartbreaking. beautifully done documentary.

A lasting love will never be forgotten.

God knows I want to find love like this

Tears started running down my face when that men started singing. This is real love!

I watched this after returning from a very hard visit to my Mom who has Dementia and Alzheimer's She begs to die every visit. She is 88 and hasn't been herself for 18-19 years. Last week a dear lady - age 61 died of cancer. I would love to take the last 10 years from my Mom and give it to our 61 year old friend. I think my Mom would agree to the arrangement. Life is not fair. Sweet Couples!

In sickness and in health. I love my spouse. I am older and aging. He never complains.

I have worked with young people with dementia... It was horrible. I met their families all the time and it was terrible to see them grieving a living person whom they had already lost....

My eyes are broken! They won’t stop leaking 😭

This made me cry so hard. Keep her dancing.

The husbands of these women affected by dementia express themselves so poignantly. Beautiful words that clearly, sharply zoom right into their feelings and thoughts. I feel privileged to be given the honour of sharing this. The devotion, care and respect given to their beautiful wives fill me with hope and admiration. Life is fleeting and we need to make the most of what we have, when we can. But, my goodness, life is so unfair!

I was working in a a residential home in Kansas City Missouri USA in 1990's starting to take care of patients when I was introduced to a 54 year old woman in a wheelchair who had dementia at the time I was in my 30's. I was shocked I never heard of such a thing, I had always thought it was a late 60's and older disorder. I am now in my 60's...

My wife had a major stroke at 47. We are 58 now. She recovered with speech therapy. She has short memory. You marry till death do you part. These are real men. God bless them! 🙏

So tragic and so beautiful. Terribly sad to think of how lonely home lives can become when a spouse can't come back home.

Love does not end when everything around you collapses , Love does not end when the person you love no longer recognizes you , Love does not end when your life is suddenly lonely -true love is infinite .These are wonderful men and I really hope they have someone who take care of them,because all too often, all the friends are suddenly gone when it gets difficult. I also hope that you can enjoy many wonderful hours together with your wives. Life is sometimes very cruel.

One thing that really hit home: “that’s where it stays, because that’s where it belongs.” Certainly the same can be said of the commitment and feelings of both these wonderful husbands. Devotion. Hard to find these days. That song Mat wrote was immensely beautiful. 😭

I love him for truly loving her

I often forget that dementia can occur so early in life. God bless these two couples.

Blessings on you guys, i work with folks with dementia. it is very hard.

The true meaning of loving someone. Heartbreaking. These men are absolute diamonds

My Grandma has Dementia and I’ve taken care of her everyday the last 2 years.. it’s very very hard😕 she finally went to a home just two weeks ago.. but the person she is now is no where compared to the person she was😕 she’s still my Maumau and I see that side of who she is every now and then.. but it’s getting less and less each day.. it’s such a horrible thing to happen to anyone I think.. but all we can do is treat them the same as they once were!💗

These men are the very definition of unconditional love; unselfish, considerate, respectful and loving their partners in spite of this devastating illness. We should all be lucky enough to find partners such as this in our lives. And the carers are a special breed in and of themselves, their compassion and empathy seem unlimited, going above and beyond for their charges...this was a beautiful, but bittersweet documentary, thank you so much for the upload 💞💞💞💞💞💞💞

God bless them all. That song Mat wrote was so beautiful, too. Made me cry. 😥💌

Like the Notebook, I have my tissues at my side while watching this. God Bless these husband's. Real Men. ♥️

Nearly 20 years ago my wife died of 56 died of pancreatic cancer; she remains in my thoughts every day. That these two men and others like them cope daily with the slow death of dementia says much about the strength of love. This film is a sensitive treatment of a sad process; hopefully though, it reminds others in this situation that they are not alone.

This was really heartbreaking to watch....Bless them all and the caring workers who look after them

The longest long-distance relationship, almost completely one-sided and yet they loved and love through it all. When he said he screamed at the moon and thought he saw a face in it, first thing that came to mind was god. Wanting there to be something more than just the darkness and just a cold indifferent light.

Such amazing, dedicated, lovely men! Please, please, please don't live with guilt! You did what needed to be done for her and she would tell you that if she could!

Its sad there are only 410 views. This is an amazing documentary! Theses husbands are wonderful to there wives. God bless all of them. U can see true love . 💕💕

Why would people say move on she is still alive...

Essentially the person you fell in love with is gone. It really is a death. I used to watch some people visiting their spouses, who were vegetative and literally were sustained on ventilators for years. There was criticism for people, who visited less often, or who married again shortly after the spouse finally expired. People seem to forget that the spouse really died a long time ago, and the living people had been grieving the death for years.

Til death do us part. Much respect sir. God bless you.

Heartbreaking but so lovely to see how these husbands are so dedicated to their wives. Unconditional love. Damn Matt that song is beautiful it had me in tears

I am shattered by this, as empathy allows us to imagine going thru what these couples are going thru & it is unbelievably sad. So sorry for the loss of the love of your lives.

OMG MATT FERRIS, THAT SONG WRITTEN FOR YOUR LOVELY WIFE MADE ME CRY, SO BEAUTIFUL, THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR STORY, GOD BLESS X

Regardless of what ever the circumstances maybe, no one should be alone . Alone is a very sad place to be ... that's why I have 3 dogs ... they're company, they listen and are always happy to see you. You have a beautiful voice. Mat.

My heart warms me to see and hear these husband's loves for their wives is precious as gold and their wonderful caring carers.

I'm very touched by the love these men have for their wives.

That was beautiful, well done. True love.

Just imagine what kind of world we would live in if everyone had a huge heart ❤️ like these fellows! And our world without dementia. My mommy passed away 13 years ago with this disease it was so sad to see this disease take over so quickly, my mom was a strong woman 👩🏻 I always thought nothing could knock her down. But this disease took over in a matter of a few months😢. I miss her everyday. Blessings to all of those who are suffering with dementia in their family.💐

So very sweet and sad. This is what true love looks like. ❤

So many people saying these men are exceptional. My dad cared for my mom when she had pancreatic cancer, as did my uncle, her younger brother. My brother’s wife had a massive stroke 5 years ago and she’s 100% dependent on him for everything. My husband has been my carer through some horrific illnesses. These men aren’t exceptional, they are simply good humans, and it’s kind of sad that women expect so little of the men in their lives that these particular men surprise them with their dedication.

They don’t make men like that anymore. And btw who is cutting onions? My eyes are messed up.

My brother is 64 in stage 6 I am so sad :( His wife & Kids he no longer knows them or me his sister I am so sad :( Thanks for the video!!

So glad they have each other ~ They do LOVE their wives . God love them all !

”And if you had your time again, I would do it all again” That teared me up real good.

Enjoy your life Get out, do things every day with the people you love. We never know how long we have to be healthy or in our right minds. Life is such a beautiful and fleeting thing. You wake up one day and wonder where the years have gone. My sister has early onset dementia caused by damage done by years of undiagnosed adult hydrocephalus. She's only 57. She's just a shell of who she once was. Her husband refuses to take her to a care facility yet. He'll care for her as long as he can and I'm afraid when he has to it will kill him. They've been together their whole lives. Childhood sweethearts. All 5 of my aunts on my mums side died of dementia or Alzheimer's. My grandma was diagnosed in her late 40s. Needless to say I'm expecting for me but hopefully I'll be spared and can enjoy some time after retirement. The one couple with the guy who plays guitar remind me so much of my sis and brother in law. So sad to happen to such loving people.

This is so sad. I know how dementia effects people and it is awful. Then it often turns into Alzheimers and that is even worse. These videos make me feel so blessed to have 2 healthy parents. I cannot imagine anything different.

What amazing love.. I hate dementia.....

This is so beautiful. I lost my hubby in 2014 to pneumonia as a result of Alzheimer’s. It caused him to have trouble swallowing and he aspirated his meds. He only made it 18 months after his diagnosed with early onset dementia because he was only 63. His great fear was becoming a violent dementia patient later on. God protected him from that and his death was a gift to him. I miss him horribly but can’t wish him back. His dementia progressed rapidly in the physical rather than the mental. He went from just occasional balance problems to needing a walker within four months. Some days/weeks he was super sharp, reading, doing things, and others where he didn’t seem to understand anything. Very heartbreaking because he knew what was happening to him. The 12 days he was in the hospital before he died he was sharp, clear, and really great. We really enjoyed him. Even on a ventilator he was clear and unseated, ordering us all around and joking in motions. When his vent was removed, at his request, he told me thank you for letting me go home to heaven. He talked to us for 50 more minutes, clear as a bell. Then he peacefully went with his Lord.

💔💔💔💔 what a lovely, but candid story. My heart goes out to the families. Hugs from Boston

They were lucky to have such wonderful husbands who REALLY cared. This Jan 24th it will be 1 year since I lost my mom to dementia. The last 2 years I was her main caregiver. My step father helped some, but spent most of his time on the computer and would just walk by, look in her room and wave. That broke my heart. I wish she had someone like you two gentlemen. God Bless You.

What beautiful stories. Thank you.

It is painful to come into this world & it is painful to leave so often. This was so very moving & yet uplifting to see how these husbands cope day by day with the sad circumstances of their marriage. True to their vows...'In sickness and in health'.

Mat "So, we got 3 grandchildren" Clare "Wow, can't believe that!" So freakin cute. Yes, this doc breaks my heart but you gotta find the giggles and smiles where you can. :)

Hits home...Living it now....hardest thing to watch a love one deteriorate before your eyes. My 89 year old veteran father has dementia. I lost my Mom in September to brain cancer. It was devastating to tell my Dad that Mom passed every morning when he went to look for her inside their home. 60 years together then a few months later after their anniversary... we lost her. Now, I'm watching my Dad rapidly become frail and disappearing before my eyes. Heart breaking. Mom, like I promised you, I'm taking good care of Dad. 🇺🇸🙏💕🌹We love and miss you deeply!💔💐 The holidays and birthdays are the hardest.

The love and devotion of these 2 men to their sweethearts is so touching. They are true examples of "for better or for worse, in sickness or in health, til death do us part". Bless them all.

I absolutely adore that their husbands came together and opened up to each other. Thank you for taking care your wives and each other.

These are great stories. Good to see that they still love each other no matter what they're going through. Great memories that they share together. No matter what we need to know the signs if this and more. The carers there are great people that care and love them...

My father had it my mum was so good to him write to the end It’s a horrible sickness .my poor dad died at 66 he left such a whole in out hearts Then mum died And there is not one moment hat goes by that I don’t think of them both Had such delightful parents One day I will see them again ..

Very sad, but also heartwarming to see these beautiful couples, the husbands are doing amazing, pray for more support and awareness for people with dementia and their loved ones. Music is a wonderful thing and Mat singing and playing for the residents is so uplifting, loved it when Mandy smiled at the end of the video and when Mat and Clare were dancing together.

To be loved like this is truly a blessing. To be cared for and thought about on this level is my hope and desire.

The world still has good men god bless him

Guilt can eat up your life. Your wives would appreciate everything you do and the fact that you made a difficult decision to be selfless by sharing her care with others.

I honestly did not think that men could actually love seeing this changed my mind. my heart breaks for them I cannot imagine the sadness and pain they must feel going through this 💔💝😔

These husbands are just magnificent!

This video made me cry,what wonderful husbands they have. God bless these couples.

It's so good that the men could get together for fish 'n chips 'n beer! It's good to chat about problems! I wish them well!

I love taking care my Employer which have Dementia she’s so sweet , every morning she always give me a sweet 😊 smile and say Hi 👋 ..still she knows how to say thank you 😊

To have this kind of bond with your partner is a blessing - these people not only love each other they like each other.

My dad has Parkinson’s dementia and this just makes me treasure the time I have left with him and breaks my heart for my mom because she doesn’t realize he is never gonna be the man he was. I try and help them as much as I can.

Beautiful. I lost my mother from Dementia in 2014. I helped take care of her, with my Father for 3 years non stop, at the end of her life. My father said he would never put my mother in a nursing home, but after she fell and broke her hip, she never came out of the nursing home.... I feel so sorry for these gentlemen in this video. If I could talk to them I would say. You did not abandon your wives, and you did the best thing for them by placing them somewhere where they could get the best care, for the end of there lives. Please never think back and say, What if, for the what was is a great memory to always have. All my love and respect to those that are going through this. Some days it will feel like hell, but you will always have the good days to remember too.

Such love they have for their beautiful ladies. It's a tough road. Bless you all.

I worked in a long term care facility for dementia patients, so hard to witness the loss and essence of who someone once was, how they disappear before their loved ones eyes, the pain was disturbing and makes you see life differently. Although these patients couldn't understand what was being said they always knew gestures of kindness, your gentle tone in your voice, calm soothing energy, they could still recognize how you made them feel. This has got to be one of the worst diseases, my heart goes out to all those that face this and the families affected. One of the best movies capturing the development of dementia and the impact of loved ones is called Away from her, it's a journey down a hard path yet a support for all those that feel alone dealing with this disease.

Very Sad...if ever I hear that Beautiful song again, I know the tears will flow. Very Beautiful and touching stories, God bless you all.

May God bless u all 💕💕💕💕💝💝💝💝😍😍😍😘😘 So touching .......love u all...... Stay blessed......beautiful.. Loving.. Careing..... Couples... It teaches me some lessons ....thank you

This brought a lot of memories to me. I remember the day when my uncle phone me and told me that my aunt was diagnosed with dementia. I was in studying nursing then and took time off to came home. My own parents died when I was only 11 years old and they, my uncle and aunt, brought us as their own as they not blessed with children. To cut the long story short, I looked after my aunt till the end. I love her and miss her.

These women have been so blessed to meet these wonderful men and vice versa ❤❤

I care for my husband who has Younger Onset Alzheimer’s. He was diagnosed at 55 but probably had early stage 3 since 49 or so. He is going to be 59 this year. I can’t imagine what is to come…. Even though I watch these videos, I am still in shock with every big change he has….. I pray for God’s strength and mercy and for exceptional care helpers to help us in our home.