If a man devotes himself to his partner and serves her fully, with no thought of return, he discovers a treasure that he never knew existed. Women have been in (coerced) service to men for a long time and men have come to expect this and to believe that this is authentic surrender. The paradox is that he must give of himself without expectation to experience her full surrender, He must learn to experience her pleasure as his pleasure. To do this he becomes the "gentle" man, cultivating his sensitivity so that she feels safe to open up. When he becomes attuned to her unfolding, he is speaking her language and so she opens more and more and he discovers that this is never ending and full of surprises. Through his willingness to surrender in service to HER, he unlocks his full creative power because he has learned to tune into the language of subtlety, which informs him on his own path. Such a dynamic requires TRUST, which is cultivated through devotion, consistency and commitment.

Polyamory does not work long term, it only produces discomfort and pain. If you need that to elevate go for it otherwise monogamy will lift you the highest. My personal experience.

It’s interesting how people are a mixture of many aspects. Conscious and unconscious, and they try to liberate themselves uniquely. I don’t think open relationships are for me. I am deeply satisfied with a the depth of one soul. There’s already so much how can one want more???

Oh I love the topic of the unknown around attraction. The pull when you met someone. I’ve recently discovered the reaction to a person can be a response/ reaction of the body( as the mind) to a person that will reflect your past to you so that you can see what is in the subconscious mind and rewrite it. So I tend to question my excitement and pull I feel when I meet someone. I ask myself is this a body response to my past or is this a future opportunity. Funny how either way it’s opportunity 💚

Girl, I am so glad I found your channel! I have been bing watching every free moment! I listen at the gym and in my car and in the bath. 😂 Thank you so much for getting these amazing people on and asking these amazing questions!! You’re helping bring me back to a place of remembering that has been blurry for a few years! 😅 🥰🙏🏽 Blesssings your way love 💝

I'm 40. Found you from the interview with Sky. Trust me, women in their 40s and 50s are still trying to understand these issues too. Thank you both for this interview. 💗

Such divine timing - I am going deeper and deeper into my unconscious patterning right now and this encompasses such great reminders to keep going ... I was running away from these particular patterns until Recently and today I have allowed more and more and these reminders are gratefully received ❤️

I believe that non monogamy is for people who want the comfort and security of a "primary partner" with the promiscuity of not being partnered. The story just doesn't sell for me. You either want to be single and have the freedom of dating/seeing/hooking up with multiple people or you want to be in a monogamous, committed relationship...which takes hard work, but it is ultimately worth it because one day we're all going to get old (if we're lucky) and we won't bring all our fuck buddies with us. One day we'll all want someone by our side, who's been there for us through our young & beautiful years but through to when our skin wrinkles and our bodies don't look so graceful anymore. It's disappointing that our generation, especially the "spiritual" community - doesn't see the benefit of monogamy. Or thinks that monogamy is for less open-minded people, or for people who aren't sexually adventurous enough. I, personally, have trouble accepting the confines of a monogamous relationship at my age... so I choose to stay single and open. I think open relationships are a cop out. I personally believe also that there is no one person out there for us. So if I was with one person and still wanting to engage with others, I wouldn't be with them anymore. I'd be single. It depresses me to think of being committed to someone who doesn't sexually, emotionally, intellectually, all across the board satisfy me enough so that I'm not seeking out others. consistently seeking out excitement and pleasure from other people - THAT IS ALL EGO.

39:20 YES!!!!!!!

Thankyou!! It is so uplifting listening to you both talk, saying things matter-of-factly, so aware and open. Thankyou its refreshing and incredibly healing.

Holy moly… I listened to most of this but not the end & fast forward today I set an intention before resting/flexibly meditation on things both person & professionally which I’m embarking on… & I go to finish a different podcast Aubrey posted actually & my phone glitched turning it to this one. The 49 & gene keys discussion began & this could not have sparked more chills than it did bc of how aligned it is w/ my current life.

Its called playing the field. Desire is desire no matter which way you want to dress it up.

What you're doing is of great significance. I highly appreciate your work and seeing you working so hard is just adorable. It is the first time I'm commenting, it might be my last time as well. But, just know you're doing it right, you'll get there...🙏🏻

Thanks so much, Blu and Aubrey! very interesting and cool. If possible, adding subtitles is sooo helpful!

This was lovely to watch. I really appreciate you two doing this.

I listen to other spiritual content, but when it comes to Aubrey Marcus I always have to give my undivided attention to understand. This makes me realize that there is learning levels in spirituality, once you understand one level you unlock the next. Aubrey Marcus is absolutely the next level.

@aubreymarcus what a rad soul you are! Vulnerable raw and willing - fantastic combo! @Blu as always, loved it! Thanks guys :)

Awww this one is GOLD!!! Love that you brought up the Genekey 49- that’s actually my life’s work wooooow transmuting the shadow of reaction, into the gift of revolution, finally Rebirth 🌸

I was Poly for 9 years in a married relationship. Polyamory is a way to bypass going deeper. I recommend avoiding it.

Amazing conversation. Thank you all so much for your work and sharing your beautiful selves with us. Love and blessings. ❤️🙏

I truly just found the both of you and have listen to several of Aubrey’s videos now and now I’m moving into yours. I find him interesting and I also find that I align with people like him in life. They seem to go into the so called Taboo and make them not Taboo. Fearless in a way. Maybe not fearless but courageous

so much love for this podcast ❤❤

Blu…I found you right after I stumbled upon Aubrey’s video with Matias de Stefano about the dimensions. And it sent me on a binge of videos. 🤣😂 So….when I found the video interviewing you about your healing gifts from grandmother…🙏 I was floored. And ever so grateful. Your insights are symbiotic to my own. Thank you, Both, (And Vylana 💕), for all of your candid and raw shares. Vulnerability is actually the epitome of brave. Exposing your tender parts allows others to acknowledge their own realizations. Forever grateful. 🐝🐞🐟🍀🌞🌻🌎🌈💥

This was beautiful, thank you 😊

I'm so grateful to Aubrey for bringing her into my life! And to Deja Blu of course, for sharing her wisdom/medicine with us here through her podcast. 🙌💓🌈🤯🥰

So powerful!!!!! And so grateful that I understand!!!

Great conversation. I loved it.

Love you guys 🌟❤️ thanks for the insights

Great share thank you 🙏🏽 filled with much useable timeless wisdom sans the trappings. Bravo 🎉🙏🏽

Hey Blu. For sure you both resonate with me. I am a Vipassana practitioner, but am feeling guided to and a feeling of mother calling me to her breast. I loved also Aubrey interviewing you and discovering your work as an healer. Could you please provide recommendations of teachers? ❤️🙏🦋🙏❤️

Thank you. Aubrey is an admirable human 😊

Thank you for all this juicy knowledge and wisdom 🙏 it all came to me at a perfect time in my personal life 🥰 Happiest of birthdays beloved Blu 💙 Sending you a big big hug. Till we meet again Fairy Witch Sistar 💫🤍

That was so inspiring ✨🌱 thanks to both of you

My new favorite podcast

Woe. You both are such great speakers. The communication flowing between you is so electric I can feel it through my screen. I am rushing to subscribe lol

Such an incredible interviewer I have no words

Love your energy Blu ♥️🙏♥️

This helped muchly. Thank you.

Blessed to have access to this knowledge at such a young age. See it.

so good!!! aubrey’s the goat, and you’re not so bad yourself blu 😅

Thanks to both of you for these very interesting insights. I myself am on the path, psychedelic mainly mushrooms, meditation,... for 28 years, can relate many points.

Polyamory doesn’t have to mean promiscuity. I like to call it multi-beloved relationships where I know that I have space and ebullient and overflowing love to give to 2 people (men) at the max. Just like I knew that I had to stop at having 2 children. The quality of my relationships whether it is 2 romantic partners or 2 children remains high. More than 2, things fall apart quickly for me! So long as there is no conflict with whoever else they are entangled with my relationships with my loved ones stay smooth. Everyone in the container of defined relationship must want the best for the others and understand their own limits. Peace and love to all here.

Two of my favorite people

So POWERFUL MR MARCUS 44:53 ...47:50

The only thing that is appearing to stop you from enlightenment/self-realization/eternal life/knowing yourself to be unconditional love is identification with thoughts, emotions, sensations, perceptions and experiences instead of being aware of being aware and knowing yourself to be that unconditional love pure consciousness in which all thoughts, emotions, sensations, perceptions and experiences appear but are not inherently one with you; they are an expression of unconditional love; you are that infinite that is expressing itself as suffering/pleasure but inherently you are neither; you are that nothing/unconditional love/pure consciousness in which they are appear and by which they are perceived; Suffering/pleasure comes and goes; there is an awareness that is aware of them coming and going; that you are; remember and know what you are; never identify with anything that is appearing within you; since it appears within you; it can't be you; you are that in which it appears. When you abide as that in which it appears instead of identifying; nothing has a grip on you; if anything comes; it quickly goes; like clouds passing; only if you identify as a cloud then it will appear as if the cloud is here for longer than it is originally supposed to; if you simply rest as the awareness and do not identify; it will quickly dissolve; be unconditional love by being aware of being aware; this is the highest; this is what you are seeking in absolutely everything else; you are seeking yourself; you are seeking unconditional love; but you are looking outside of yourself; instead of being aware that you already are timeless, unchanging, eternal, unconditional love, peace, joy, compassion, wisdom, contentment and fulfillment; your true self is what all beings seek. Love love

There is a definitlve certain magic that is created and occurs when people form a honest real bond of love between each other, this is the type of magic that can move mountains. However when you middle away at that magic with distraction and a constant wanting from others you lose that magic, and your relationships become "convenient" instead of powerfully magical. I say good luck with that. Its an ego issue, an emptiness that never gets satisfied and a true fear to commit your soul to another. So half baked versions of relationships are trendy just like every other trendy thing leading us away from real truth and real forms of a deeper connection.

Team Earth...I'm rooting for you!!!💪🏿. I love it❤️

Loved it 🤍🤍🤍

Interesting conversation!

This is such a powerful and grounding interview. I am constantly so inspired by you and your ability to be your authentic self so effortlessly. Thank you thank you thank you

Polyamory is like filling a void in its purest form, it’s completely need based;sexual, physical emotional. It makes people lazy and treat other people like their objects of pleasure

Amazing! ♥️

You can tell a spiritual master from the sound of his laughter 😍

"My love of life is greater than my fear of death."

You’re a good listener

I’m way older than your audience and I really like your journey…

Beware of people who take other culture’s plant medicine then tell a different culture how to live. Whether the ideas have positive or negative affect is besides the point. Be extra cautious

All I can say about polyamory is that people have no wisdom at all about sexuality. The highest form of transcendentalism is to be fully able to transcend the sexual force or in other words the creative force of the universe towards the soul, shredding layer by layer of the conditioned mind. So that the individual soul can grow and one day become the Spirit, which is the unity consciousness. Sex is a sacred form of spirituality, and when 2 people learn to generate sexuality through genuine love in an act of sex and most importantly dissolve all the aspects of lust out of it, that's when consciousness expands rapidly. And yes, you will discover the highest forms of pleasure, so powerful that you can't reach them even in a dream. It is needed to be experienced. Learn tantra, meditate, and don't have sex without genuine love. Let your lustful ego die within and don't be contagious to other human beings with unconscious and conditioned ways of living. One more thing. Never forget that like attracts like. People attract each other based on their vibration level. And sexual energy is stored in our first 2 chakras, which are the feelings of fear and guilt. And most importantly, in order to ascend we don't actually need a partner. Proper daily consistent meditation will do the job. Once a person ascends to the heart chackra that's when he/she is ready to meet genuine love. And when there is a pull towards something or someone you have 2 options, go for it and get the lesson through suffering or back up, pray for God for the answers and meditate, meditate and meditate once again until all the negative energy is transcended and true comprehension comes.

I found that when I was able to be with several people, I was only able to do it when I didn't care about the person as much.

OMG, I have had a dream about the wheat thresher type machine. There was a river filled with human body parts and people the water was red and yellow. The current was strong and led straight towards the machine where it was going to grind everyone's body alive. I was young when I had that dream but it was so intense that that I never forgot it.. glad to know I'm not the only one who has seen it

"Physician, heal thyself." It goes without saying that if you are human, you have been wounded in some way at some point in your life. Since the beginning of human existence, we know that the most powerful change agents are wounded healers, who have gained great wisdom and strength from sourcing the deep mines of their pain. Those of us who choose to be leaders and seek to inspire others need to take it upon ourselves to be in a place of integrity, especially when we know that others may be following our lead and adopting lifestyle choices based on our example or our recommendations. During times in my life when I have been physically compromised, experienced imbalances in my mental health, or been out of alignment with my values, I have stopped counseling and teaching. I am not suggesting that a person needs to be perfect or completely healed. That is simply unrealistic. But, one should be far enough along in their healing journey to be of true service to others. It is absolutely clear in my mind that Aubrey Marcus has a lot of work to do at this point in his life to be in integrity with his words. In a recent podcast with Vylana, they admitted they are practicing polyamory. However, she stated clearly that she does not want to be with other men. Many will try to follow Marcus's lead regarding plant medicines and polyamory, and not be prepared for these lifestyle choices. Marcus appears extremely sleep-deprived. I understand that once you have committed yourself to a certain lifestyle and way of making a living, it is hard to withdraw and reassess and realign, but it might be time for him to take a time-out and take some time for self-healing.

Respect this man

I have had a similar plant medicine ceremony last saturday. I had so much incredible insights and I loved the mental clarity and the deepness of feeling. I struggle with the lack of clarity after and how to integrate these insights into my life. I feel quite unclear about what to do with the experience.

Wow 👏

Polyamory naturally came to me on my spiritual awakening which was amazing at first but yes it got uncomfortable after a while. Very interesting.

Open relationships for life

Hi Blu, Not sure if it's just me but I have listened to quite a few of your videos and I always have to have the volume up all the way to hear thr interview and then it still not good audio quality. Just some feedback to improve the videos. Doing a great job though

Only when reflection and projection meld seamlessly will you see that the question and the answer are in the same breath. Be that which is you, for there are not 2.

2021 Blu: "a DaRkNeSs ReTrEaT??" O.o 2022 Blu: * channeling the goddess of the dark while doing the darkness retreat * ✨🖤✨ Dear Blu, if you read this: I'd like you to know that I'm 100% positive that you channeled the goddess Nyx/Nox❤️ as "the lady of the dark" while your bathtub channeling when you went into the cave. She's my goddess, I LOVE HER SO MUCH. And I could hear her talking while you told Aubrey (in I think your guy's latest podcast) what you channeled. I know those are the words she'd use to introduce and give love. Your story touched my heart with an impact of love and magic that'll propably last forever. I spontaneously screamed of excitement and tears shot into my eyes instantly when I heared you tell the story! I wish one day I can channel like you❣️ (btw maybe you should/could? ^^

But hey y'all - if it works for Aubrey, then so be it.. I don't think you should project your personal dislikes on an experience that is not yours.. This Man is telling his experiences and what works for him.. More power to him - Good for you Aubrey..

I love you Blu and Audrey.❤️🙏🌟

Rodge is laying the foundation of his future…which he can change monthly which is amazing, physically, mentally, financially, multidimensionally, or

And I’m glad I clicked to listen because the title threw me off lol

Are you energetically attracted to people to have sex with them or to learn from them. Why/how are you attracted to people is desire to learn a lesson. Sometimes we f- it, married it and have kids with it, but a lot of times you were just supposed to learn the energetic lesson from them. No judgement at all.

Definitely do not agree and feel any positive true emotion associated with open relationships polygamy..so not as nature intended and godly in my truth and feeling

If we’re gonna die we’re gonna die, but im gonna live 😁💫 Thank You Namaskar

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philosophy = convenience

"Find the edge, lean it, transcend, uplevel." 🚀

Divine loves like the Sun, that explains my name.

No rush

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Woo Woo

Aubrey! Been following him for yeaars now and he is one of the biggest teachers in my life :)

@ 50:00 “Dude! Take your foot of my furniture… damn! This interview is OVER!”

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Wow everytime I see you in these kind of dresses you look so beautiful 😍

I think 3 as a Group sounds about right. I'm not looking for a town. LoL

Dude. That's the idiotic way to have an open relationship. You cannot expect yourself to be part of the pleasure that your partner is gaining from other ppl. You cannot go into it wanting to be a saint and altruistic. You have to be selfish. You take what you want and what satisfies, and everything else is their business. You cannot pretend to be happy that they are having sex with another. Takes more courage to admit we are selfish and to live that way, than to pretend to love unconditionally. It's deceitful and non human.

Not all are human beings or animal beings, etc. There is the creation (illusion) and the one before that. The illusion which as creation can't be perceived.. Can't say what we are, you can say what you believe you are. But thanks for your opinions.

Why have an open relationship why not work on the one that you have? I don’t understand this other than there is an element of not being able to commit and in that case why would anyone enter a union which should be sacred and no longer is when it is open to other peoples energy coming in and polluting that relationship this is absolutely not for me and it is taking it the wrong direction this is why people who use substances to expand their spirituality start to go off track and yes I do firmly believe that this is misleading to people and it will cause a lot of pain and suffering that is completely Unnecessary so I’m gonna go ahead and turn the video off and give it a thumbs down

I don't buy the idea that God loves unconditionally. I think there are conditions and that is the meaning of good and evil. God is absent whenever there is darkness.

Damn, hope to marry his copy :D

Polyamory fail? Huh. That's weird. How many sheep though? Joking aside, respect to Aubrey for owning it, and all the best to him and his wife! And you're the best conspiracy theorist ever!

Blu, the expansion happens in well........yeh ......doen there 😂

To justify polyamory by saying that God's love doesn't discriminate is just ignorant. It is our human nature to distinguish who we want to procreate and be with. We cannot compare God's love to that of human, sexual lust and desire. In my opinion being devoted and monogamous in scared union with another is divine, because it is not fueled by the ego's need to satiate its many desires.

The Polyamory movement was needed in our times for the future generations to discern recklessness and cowardice from true commitment.

WE ARE IN THE FUCKING GOLDEN AGE IT HAS BEGAN IT IS HERE 🤩🤩🤩 as within so without🥳 love you divine reflections beautiful conscious huemanity 😌🫂👁🌞🦋♾💚🕉