You don’t have to feel bad. There are always people in the world who are suffering and if you let that invalidate your joy, you are going to spend a lot of your life unhappy. It also means you can hopefully be a beacon of positivity to people you talk to- be it family, friends etc.

It's been a tough one for me, I quit my job partly due to how they handled coronavirus and I've also been happier being at home, however needing a job for money to pay bills is the worst feeling, knowing I am going to have an incredibly tough time fighting my way into a job I KNOW I'll hate and won't last long in, just to get any money at all since I'm not eligible for any kind of government assistance :(

Don't feel bad. I'm pleased that you're finding joy. We need to find you where we can.

I felt just like you when I got laid off due to covid. Literally best months of my life. I was dreading getting a new job. Now I have one. I miss not working :) Hope you're doing ok

Oh my ... I thought I was the only one. Everyone has said something I've felt or has gone through regarding work/workplace.

sacredmeow Less autistic masking during lock down. Which less depressing crying for the world is a problem double empathy I heared it called on aspergers growth channel. Ability to sense negative emotions with channels NT don't have.

Where do you work?? I wanna work from home!

@@studionightshade Same here!

I really hope the pandemic allows companies to restructure and allow working from home. Clearly it can be done.

Yeah I have also done this - too many times 😂 loved Clubbercise so trained to be an instructor but it was so difficult remembering everything and giving instructions ahead of the move! I gave up after teaching about 4 classes 🙈

I feel your pain, I wish I could work alone all day.

@@personneici2595 I guess that people think that saying "you could do better" is supportive because they're telling you that you are better than you think. But for me it doesn't work that way. It makes me feel bad about myself, makes me think I'm lazy, I don't make effort to achieve more. ASD self-diagnosis changed the way I think about myself but it's still difficult to put aside years of self-destructive and self-deprecating thoughts.

@@floriaskite938 Maybe you can. Maybe you can even work from home. - Perhaps a special needs job scheme can help you.

Open plan office made me have a lot of anxiety...and constant taquicardia. I refused to get back to the office after covid. Im working from home but had a big flare up of auto immune disease so now im on sick leave. I cry just imagining i need to get back to work because even the virtual meetings stress me out. I have much better days when im just doing emails and other work tasks.

pw510577w That's all me to. But the customers don't know I had to task a communication exam (to use a metaphor) to talk to customers in the charity shop.

That's what happens to me. It's like a locking mechanism that kicks in. It's been made to happen to me so much through life that I find I'm much more prone to snapping or just leaving the situation abruptly.

I didnt even think of this type of impact

Brilliant 👍

I really feel for you. There is something degrading about having to prove your level of brokenness. I don't know how to explain that but this is something ASD people are told for medical situations as well. I realize it's because the medical community is still learning about autism . I'm glad you are getting assistance though. I hope you are able to follow some of your interests and passions.

Valora Bock try being so exploited that you are expected to work for very little or nothing in conditions where your not accommodated. I was expected to volunteer for over 25 years. The longest I was employed full time was 18 months. I have never had a career. I wanted to be an actress for over 35 years I’m now 39 I was diagnosed at 23.

This breaks my heart. I hope things turn around for you.

My goodness I'm so happy to hear about your story I'm currently 25 and have never been formally diagnosed with autism but have struggled my whole life with the symptoms and signs of it. I'm currently finding it hellish to find any job and most jobs I get I can't do very well due to the high social aspect of them. It sounds just as hellish to try and fight for ssdi too though. I have family that is supporting me currently but am worried about what will happen when that ends.

I find it hard to pass interview

On your new Mic

Erin Waterman Would you ever want to seek a diagnoses in your life time?

Carissa Wyles My advice never tell your boss you are autistic he just find a excuse to sack you. Do everything possible to hide it.

This so much.

All of these points plus consistently bewildering interview feedback! I'm very lucky my fiancée and I found each other. Even so, our relationship has presented its fair share of challenges and I'd love to hear about other people's experiences.

​@@thegalacticjelly2648 Before you get married and live together 24/7, do make sure your fiancee is fully aware of what ASD is. For neurotypical people, life with an aspie can be unbearable. I've been married for 15 years and a bit, of which I was unaware that I'm an aspie for more than 15 years. Life's been really tough on both of us with clinical depressions, suicide attempts, etc. I don't want to scare you, but knowing what you're dealing with will make it much easier on the both of you and give your marriage a much higher chance of survival.

So true yes I felt the same!

Hey, me too! Can’t imagine working without them.

My manager knows i cant do the work of 3 people alone for the last 2 years and only got an extra person now that im on sick leave. Idk if they will try to kick me out of the company but i need to purse an ASD assessment no matter what. My psychologist validated my suspicions and referred me to a psychiatrist specialized in ASD.

I learned a lot from this comment! thank you for sharing.

I've had my pre-assessment and they are not sure if I am autistic or not, but thought I would just give you my feedback anyway. Incessant talking, gossiping and moaning by my colleagues really annoys me, and that's even with half the workforce. I have noise cancelling headphones for meetings which is helpful when the gossiping becomes intense. People want to chat and I just want to work. Some of my colleagues are bossy which I take personally which results in me pushing myself really hard. I find the more domineering characters quite scary and debilitating. That's it for now 🙂

I'm looking for a diagnosis but not diagnosed yet. I start a job like it to start, get stressed and overwhelmed over little things, take things personally, I don't have a degree so all my jobs are with the public which I find incredibly draining and I have no take days off to recharge, I always end up going part time before quitting and starting the cycle again.

My current experience is a nightmare. I have always been different, but I previously got around this by associating with my kind of people, living in places which embrace diversity and working in jobs where I could be myself. I have been working for my current organisation for 2 years, I feel like an outsider and my boss is bullying me. She has told me that she can't communicate with me, that I don't give her eye contact, that I'm a perfectionist, that I am obsessed with details and that I am intense when I speak. All of this, plus family history, other distinctive traits/characteristics and my partner telling me that she has spent years trying to 'figure me out', has led to the suggestion that I am autistic. This recognition has come as a huge relief because up until now I just thought that I was broken. With NHS waiting lists being 2 years long, a desperate desire to be understood and for my boss to back off, I 'outed myself'. This has led to my boss officially questioning my suitability for my job (despite the fact that I am quite good at my job and there have been no issues concerning my performance), inviting me to find another position and worsening the bullying behaviour. I'm now in a terrible position as I have no diagnosis and therefore in the midst of an identity crisis, constantly analysing and questioning myself - if I am assessed as neurotypical then I am just a freak. Additionally, my productivity at work is declining. Conclusions about autism at work: 1) Women with autism have an exceptionally hard time because there is little/no appreciation that women are different generally, let alone there being consideration that some women are neurodiverse. If you are undiagnosed and do not have a clue that you are autistic, you can just come to the conclusion that you are broken and become extremely damaged. 2) As your 'flaws' are more pronounced because they differ from neurotypical issues, they may serve to cast a generally negative impression of you, resulting in people not wanting to understand your problems or praise your strengths. 3) Unkind neurotypical people may detect your differences and engage in bullying behaviour. Please excuse any grammar mistakes, I am typing on a phone. I just want to say that your videos are really helping me at the moment, thank you :)

Only once, I've ever gotten a job by giving an official job interview, to start with (but that was the one job I resigned from within a week). At the age of around 17, in school I did an internship at a local newspaper, and felt like an alien. My co-workers did stuff I couldn't understand. Why on earth would they be playing stupid team games during work-time? With that job I also had a hard time settling in and when I had settled in the internship was almost over. When I finished school (which was in the end of June 2012) I started working for an event agency and my boss told me, she wouldn't need me before August. So I took that literally and just went off making holidays for a month. She was furious. That was the first proper job I ever had, for longer than a month (in the end she was quite accomodating). My second job at a different company was simple. I worked as a stagehand, just carrying around heavy stuff and putting it where I was told to. The lights were too bright, though and also too many people. At the same company I also helped out with catering sometimes. Means, washing the dishes and sometimes taking home leftovers. That was nice, though I hate getting wet. Right now, I'm working for my mum. There's actually not much to do there. At some point I aspire getting a new job in the field I studied, but I'm too anxious as the job I'd aim for requires an "outgoing personality" and "team spirit" and a "hands on attitude" (which I do have, but not in the sense I'd be supposed to). The whole process of getting to a new job stresses me out. Starting with the cover letter. Why on earth should I write a whole litany on why I am the best for this job? Why can't I just write something like, "Hi, my name is XY and I'm good at XY, please give me that job"? I'm perhaps okay at writing but not at self-adulation. I feel extremely frustrated by all these standards. I'm from Austria, I think the standards are pretty much alike in the rest of the EU. I'm not yet officially diagnosed, by the way. If that's somewhat necessary for my answer. But I'm pretty positive on being on the spectrum (and female).

@@sophiearcher1501 Your post mirrors my experiences also. Your boss sounds like the typical NT female B****. This is like the adult version of "mean girls" who would corner us on the playground. I have learned that this type will do all they can to eventually throw us under the bus. They will try to go after performance rather than personality, so document your results w/other depts/clients weekly, and save this report. I recommend documenting/recording your own feedback sessions w/her and requesting another manager (who supports you) to step in (use verbiage like "so-and-so has good ideas also, I would feel more comfortable continuing our discussion including him/her"). Pls be looking for another job while you still have this one, or look internally for a transfer, hopefully you can work remote. Take care and know that you're not the only one :)

I like to ask alot of questions too.

I found this very meaningful too. I have also heard the "finding the location is part of the interview" line and it has caused me a lot of anxiety. I am a freelancer who goes to different sites for interviews and jobs and navigating new locations regularly is very stressful. Even for a person interviewing for a job that will be in one location, finding a new place can still be stressful. And in that situation finding a new place doesn't reflect what they would be doing at the job every day because they would have a routine of going to the same place.

@@alexba1ley it’s never made sense to me... most jobs, you go to the same place, day in, day out and do roughly the same thing every day! How does doing that relate to, finding a new place for the interview?!?!

What is happened since? (I found this video recently) thanks for your answer.

@@ktpktpktpktp ohh!! I cant believe i wrote this . Well im working from home. they let me stay at home and ive gotten a promotion too n.n thanks you hehehe. Of course doesnt mean that sometimes i dont get stressed by some people....and rush projects are ufff but ive been rewarded and that is something that i have never had before in any job.

Jenne they’re being very sneaky. Everything I say that would help, they say can’t be done. Eg I’m being asked to move desk all the time, I’ve asked if this can be a bit more permanent, they’re just saying it’s an “ever changing environment”. They’re not saying “no”, that’s that’s what I mean by sneaky. I’m totally exhausted by it all. Occy health (my GP, everyone who knows the situation) recommended I work at home, my employers are saying this is not a reasonable adjustment...

Madison Heights With eye contact in the stream I do look in people eyes. I don't look around eyes or bridge of the nose. But if I was NT you don't think about eye contact they just do. So I was told I was Aspie years ago ny a psychologist, so I do have to think about eye contact. I know even men with out autism if they are talking to women they don't know. Their eye contact could be off because of social anxiety. So the connection with interview and dating is right. Mirroring and body language are important in interview. Just like on a date.

Wow. Same.

sneez n. cheekan You don't want Sam to turn into The Aspie World. Which is fine I know he get 124k subs. But Dan has a Facebook page, Tik Tok, Samdy tell in a above comment she want have ambition for her channel but she happy for all creators to work together with nerodiversity. Also Dan has his girlfriend help out with his kid. Samdy is full time mum to so not got the time be a social media addict.

We hate open offices

Hey, i got baptized at 22 yo. Im 34 yo now. Psychology, history and religion are my special interests. I related a lot to your comment. Since a little kid i actually believed in the supernatural but i did not know how to go about it. Read about different religions and philosophies and christianity made sense to me. I didnt grab a Bible before all the other religious books because i heard a lot of "bad propaganda" about it. I suffered a lot in school too. Im glad you are making sure your child doesnt go through the same and homeschool. One of the things that hurt me the most about my ex fiancé is that he said "its good you didnt get pregnant, you cant even take care of yourself". I wouldve want to be a good mother and give my children all the love and care i didnt have. Now i realize its not because my parents are bad people (they arent). But my dad has dyslexia and ADHD and my mom has OCD and is likely autistic too.

I was misdiagnosed with many things over 20 years. I was given all the meds. I struggled endlessly until ASD appeared on my radar in the last couple years. Learning about myself hasn't changed my challenges, but it has opened me up to self acceptance. It's a relief to not have to keep trying to figure out what's "wrong" with me. And I have gained confidence in my ability to stand up for myself and to speak up for what I need. I still can't find suitable work, and the world shutting down hasn't helped any. Oh well. 🙃 If I was in your vicinity, I'd ask if we could hang out. I don't know anybody where I am who I can relate to. I wish you well. 🙂

At age 65 now and just coming across these videos, I wondered before about having neurological problems instead of the behavioural and psychological causes of many problems encountered during my 40 year career. Now the stutters, twitches as a child and fidgeting stimming? things done with toes in loose shoes and pens writing and making little sketches makes more sense to me. Surplused from McDonald's and again twice from corporate level. 👀👀👀

Natasha Lysette Masking to cure autism I did that but it's depressing and you loss your identity. I do a chart in my head. Natural me Masking me So you think of the natural things in your personalty and do that. Rather than masking making small talk, saying white less, socialising in groups, multi tasking. So you want to do the second one because it seen as "normal" not autistic/aspergers. So it is difficult process of unmasking. Samdy would agree. There is a unmasking video on the channel.

I know your comment is 2years old as of now...but wouldnt it be possible to move into the UK? I was there for a student exchange and wanted to stay or to go to Ireland...but i didnt land a job there.

​@@etcwhateverI personally can't afford to move back to the uk. I can't speak for anyone else.❤

If you were diagnosed one time by a psychologist or psychiatrist with Aspergers of High Functioning Autism, you don't need another diagnosis, as it is a lifetime disorder. As a Psychologist in the United States, with a Ph. D. IN Clinical Psychology, I just wanted to let you know, that. Even if they no longer diagnoses adults, you can ask them for a summary note of your diagnostic assessment. I hope this helps you.

Maaret k No good on computer or maths. That doesn't sound cognitive abilities of autism at all.

I know being good at maths is stereotype. But I suggested Samdy should do a video on autism and maths. Like the hyperlexia but with numbers.

@@garyfrancis5015 Math in use I understand like how much to give exchange moneys but in school style math e.g. patters, making counting in paper or like how much is volume X, no I don't. Teachers always said I´m just are lazy and dumb, and everybody know these, why you are not. Computer I meant stuff like programming, encoding, connecting IT systems. I know internet use, using google but these are not computer skills as I been told.

Gary Francis Yes ,this is very "stereotypical" and particularly that the Criteria is still very male biased. I suggest you research Dyscalculia. Dys = Diffficulty. Calculia = To compute. Female Autistics are often misdiagnosed or undiagnosed because we can often "mimic, mask" extremely well but then we get Home and are exhausted. We still live in a rather male dominant society, even in our own Neurodiverse communities. During this live cast there were comments made about "everyone is different"

You sound like you could really help some law student/s with their degrees.

German culture is, arguable, autistic. Everything is clearly stated and body language is not so important and everything is so rational. You can be very direct in your communication, for instance, and it's not considered, generally speaking as being rude. The term for that is Klartext.

You cant work work effectively without having a good lunch. Thats Unacceptable

@@c-train3630 It wasn’t that I wasn’t getting a lunch. People often take lunches at different times. I just have that strong a reaction to using phones.

Xmx2772 Yes, sensory sensitivity and autism.