Automatic Negative Thoughts - Break the Anxiety Cycle 11/30

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Automatic negative thoughts are involuntary, habitual thoughts that focus on negatives, exaggerate problems, or predict disaster.
The impact of automatic negative thoughts is profound; they can distort your perspective, trigger strong emotions, and influence behavior in harmful ways. For example, you might not go to a social activity because your automatic negative thought says “You’ll have a terrible time,” and that can lead to missed opportunities, isolation, and a cycle of feeling worse and worse.
In this video you’ll learn about the automatic negative thoughts that fuel the anxiety cycle and lead to feeling overwhelmed or hopeless. You probably aren’t even aware of the types of thoughts that take you there, so we’ll explore them. And then we’ll talk about both a CBT and ACT approach to dealing with them.
Let me tell you a story about the invisible thing that fuels anxiety and depression. And then I’m going to teach you some skills to stop letting it control you and how you feel.
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@christinegresham6965 Ай бұрын

You're anxious because you see the world as a dangerous place! That hit home for me 😢

@will4782 27 күн бұрын

@@bethb9248 A rose is dangerous, it is simultaneously beautiful. Adjust your approach, but don't forget to enjoy the journey.

@cyny6305 20 күн бұрын

@@bethb9248 Yes. It is dangerous, especially for women. I like these videos, but too many times they live in the realm of, academia and theory, rather than the real places where many of us actually live.

@odin4261 7 ай бұрын

I want to thank you for your channel. I am still deep in this health anxiety and depression hole, but I am digging out and see light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you!

@PizzaHandhelds 7 ай бұрын

Keep going! It gets better :) you’re doing great

@odin4261 7 ай бұрын

@@PizzaHandhelds thank you :/ I'm really trying

@VS-tg9xq 7 ай бұрын

@@odin4261I suffered from really bad health anxiety for a few years. Even now - from time to time - I worry about the smallest thing. BUT therapy saved me! I didn’t happen over night, it took maybe two years but it was worth it. Hang in there! ❤

@joeybashaw4548 7 ай бұрын

I’m dealing with the same right now, I started taking lexapro and the health anxiety still comes at night, it has been getting better though but still very real, keep your head up

@0Ciju0 7 ай бұрын

Keep fighting the good fight. We live in a weird time, born too late to explore Earth, and too early to explore the Universe, this generation's "frontier" is the human mind. Don't try and remove anxiety all together, it most likely wont happen and it will cause additional stress. What has worked for me, is learning to accept the feelings, and wrapping my head around the fact that they don't actually hold any power; its an automated (albeit OUTDATED) defense mechanism that is no longer opperating in your best interest. And remember: It's the stuggles in life, and how you react that define you as a person. The more discomfort you go through now, the easier things will become. I know it may not seem like it at the moment, but trust me. Humans are creatures of homeostasis; you will look back on all the work you've done and be able to help others.

@GriefInspiredCatherineMcNulty 6 ай бұрын

"Our emotions don't come because of the situation, they come from how we think about the situation". Emma Macaw

@alphasotogrande943 5 ай бұрын

Yep. One thing that helps me is stop putting a story to a situation ie I didn't get the job ...because I'm useless, they ignored me...because I'm horrible.. I overspent this month... this means I'm going to be homeless. Drop the "because or this means" bit...... No story attached or negative meaning. It just is - good or bad. It's the negative storyline attached that makes you spiral into negative emotions. Some say just put a positive storyline to it, but that's like throwing pink paint over shite. Some things are shite but with no story attached to it's easier to move through, get over, take action and move on. I didn't get the job. Full stop They ignored me. Full stop I overspent. Full stop Is how the thinking should go. When you're not attaching a story to a situation you can then go back and think about them or deal with them after some space not flooded by unhelpful emotions.

@NINA-jh9pw 2 ай бұрын

Emma is awesome but this is a quote by Greek phisolopher Epitectus as Emma often mentions..

@Arrasel Ай бұрын

McAdam*

@CWorld383 6 ай бұрын

What my therapist used to always tell me is to use the phrase “I feel” whether talking to myself or expressing my feelings to someone else, instead of saying “I’m mad,” “I’m sad” instead you say “ I feel sad.” It gives so much more power to YOU rather than your thoughts and feelings. When I really started implementing this it changed my life

@mannyamato7298 6 ай бұрын

I thought I had anxiety, but it turned out I simply didn't like the people around me.

@ClaudetteMiss Ай бұрын

Congratulations! That's huge.😀

@whatthis4366 22 күн бұрын

Omg, me too!!!

@gerrieshapiro2147 20 күн бұрын

But that can cause anxiety if you are stuck with them like parents

@Lifewithketlyd_ 13 күн бұрын

So true

@sarahlouiseg.3142 8 күн бұрын

My god I am so blown away I just realised I don't like a thought which is causing anxiety ! Thanks for sharing

@baterickpatman 7 ай бұрын

People pay LOTS of money for this info. Thank you so much, you're saving lives

@azaljp9340 7 ай бұрын

My anxiety attack started after cruel judgments! Now I just know ,what others think is non of my bussiness :) In my darkest days, ur videos were like miracle💌 Thank u for being so nice among people who just show off!

@jenpasca5250 5 ай бұрын

True 💯 It's like it's God sent.. God guided.. We're guided Thank you God Thank You Emma Keep it up Let's keep guided Amen

@jessicanichter4646 3 ай бұрын

I don't take criticism well, but I really heard it when you said 'what others think is none of my business'. I really need to let that sink in!

@kathygy1 3 ай бұрын

Phymnrio,n

@phasor50 7 ай бұрын

For me, it's the saliency of negative emotion accompanying the negative thoughts that makes them seem so real, and that makes them take over my attention.

@atl3630 3 ай бұрын

You and me both. The negativity seems so real when combined with emotion

@alexanderguryev2416 7 ай бұрын

Thanks for the video! When dealing with OCD, recognizing automatic thought patterns is also very helpful. For example, a mother, due to the stress, may have a thought:"What if I hurt my baby." The next thought she may have:"Oh my god! Why I am having this thought at all?!! I'm definitely a bad mother." And that's how she gets trapped, by being stuck in arguing with her first thought (aka. If I have this thought, then I can indeed cause harm to my baby). In other words, understanding that we don't choose the nature of thoughts and that many of them are just automatically generated by our brain, would help see the person that it is merely a thought, not a reality.

@mannygalindo8235 7 ай бұрын

Omg the way that you explained that made me realize so many things rn, literally a wtf moment! Thank you!

@SizeHappy 6 ай бұрын

I have OCD and 🩷 this.

@Minecraftgamerboy2015 6 ай бұрын

This has been my ocd intrusive thought for 15 years since I’ve been a mum and it causes me so much distress and anxiety I’m working hard on challenging them now I know and starting to understand that we don’t chose our thoughts and they aren’t facts Thank you!!

@alexanderguryev2416 6 ай бұрын

@@Minecraftgamerboy2015 Yes, as you told yourself, it's precisely two types of behaviour which reinforce intrusive thoughts: i) Judging your thoughts as good or bad, and especially judging yourself as a bad or non-adequate person for having uncomfortable thoughts. Everyone has uncomfortable thoughts, and it's OK to experience them (like the bad news you hear on the radio). Like our dreams that we don't choose when we are sleeping, our thoughts have pretty much their own nature and life; very often we don't choose them (I'd rather say, they choose us instead depending on our emotional states; for example, more chance to have negative thoughts when we are tired or stressed); ii) Taking your thoughts for a fact or a matter of reality. But once more, thoughts are just thoughts, and very often they are poor predictors. Coupled together, these behavior patterns reinforce intrusive thoughts.

@alegce4497 4 ай бұрын

🙏💗

@christalhuff4764 7 ай бұрын

You have helped me so much! I can’t afford therapy so this is my therapy. I really appreciate you and all you’re doing ❤

@heaven7360 Ай бұрын

Being able to rely on yourself really helps develop inner strength. We do have the power to change. it isn't easy and I'm learning the meaning of work, but at this point in my life I think I want to claim my inner strength again. I don't want to be fooled by my thoughts and I don't want to rely on pills.

@3lttlbrds 7 ай бұрын

This channel is a godsent. After dealing with injuries from an accident and PTSD, I fell into a deep hole while dealing with severe pain. This channel helped me pull through. Even though I'm seeing a psychologist too, this channel helped more tbh. Even to deal with issues I didn't know I had outside the accident. Thank you 🙏

@rutaphondke6356 6 ай бұрын

@heyitsC1 4 ай бұрын

Leaning off antidepressants for the first time in 3 years and I'm trying to manage my anxiety the best I can! I can't/don't want to depend on medication forever but I love my therapist and have so much love in my life.

@berniefynn6623 6 ай бұрын

SPEAK positive thoughts as if speaking to some one, you cannot have a thought and do this at the same time, repeat and memorise and speak it out everytime you get negative thoughts.

@nolabrah 6 ай бұрын

I’ve been dealing with excess anxiety for the past two weeks. Waking up in the morning due to one negative thought spiraling into a whirlwind of worry and negativity. The “What ifs” are a big problem for me right now. But I’m currently in therapy and I started taking celexa to help get myself back on track. Really appreciate the community here. Nice to not feel like I’m the only one in the world dealing with this. ❤

@bradymom10 6 ай бұрын

I recently posted on a forum about this - feeling excessively anxious and depressed, even more than normal, for the past week or more. I got hundreds of replies from ppl who felt the same. I don't know if there's a disturbance in the Universe, or if it's just the state of the world right now, but do know that you REALLY aren't alone. I wish peace for you, and for all of us feeling this way right now.

@NM-pl8so 6 ай бұрын

Same here man. I have that... what if! Mostly cause I drank alot and blacked out and now I feel like what if! Just robs me of my inner peace

@rileybrock781 5 ай бұрын

How are you doing now? Any better?

@shirleyfrost9909 5 ай бұрын

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@ElleMaree25 4 ай бұрын

I'm the same for a couple months now. I hope we all feel better soon 💓

@penelopemaldonado911 6 ай бұрын

I can't breathe seeing the words of the feelings of negativity. Mine don't need a stimulus, just the minute I wake in the morning and feel the dread of having to face another lonely day.

@carrie-joylloyd5785 21 күн бұрын

I feel like that too Penelope. It's the stomach churning as well and strong rushes of anxiety. I can't stop it unless l take a benzo but l am scared to take them so it's once in a blue moon. You're not alone but l know that doesn't help.

@mikep.473 8 күн бұрын

I feel this same way and I try not to feel alone but each time I try to date a woman I get rejected and feel more of a loser and alone

@shayraboeva7393 8 күн бұрын

@@carrie-joylloyd5785what’s benzo?

@anniemciver8355 19 сағат бұрын

@@shayraboeva7393benzodiazepine. It’s a very addictive drug. Thus, taking it with extreme precaution.

@johnmurphy6556 7 ай бұрын

Mental strength affirmations and positive affirmations are also very effective tools to overcome anxiety and can work well with the methods suggested in this video. Am example of this is, My mind is rational and calm. Say like you mean it and do this for 10 minutes 2 0r 3 times a day and it can create change. God bless and remember you can take back your life.

@TherapyinaNutshell 7 ай бұрын

thanks! good tip! I know that for many people affirmations are awesome, for me personally they aren't super helpful, but for many people they are

@dwaynedelario 6 ай бұрын

@@TherapyinaNutshell I didn't find affirmations particularly helpful either, until I started doing the 5 Minute Journal (that my therapist recommended) where, right before bed, you reflect on the affirmation you that wrote down first thing in the morning. Something about reflecting on what your aspirations for the day were and then noticing and actually writing down what went right seems to be incredibly powerful over time. I have noticed a significant shift away from automatic negative thinking to noticing more positive things happening throughout the day. "Neurons that fire together, wire together." :)

@Ken_412 7 ай бұрын

I appreciate what you do. Solid presentation and editing as well. 👍🙏

@TherapyinaNutshell 7 ай бұрын

Thank you so much 👍 I'm glad it's helpful

@jendee1260 6 ай бұрын

thanks for donating to them! some of us cannot at this time. it’s inspiring to see. ❤

@Railfan-uf9mw 6 ай бұрын

@@TherapyinaNutshellhey Emma my name is Andrew and I am really struggling with my life right now it happened last month I was with my friend going to this Korean restaurant and we had a fun time I got back home went to bed after I ate so much food I got up at 4 in the morning on Saturday I had alittle pain in my rib cage I got up and walked alittle bit in my room after that I went back to bed got on my phone and was searching the web about trains and this is where things get worse and worry some I saw this post and video that Israel is at war I stared to have thoughts of oh no why is this happening? Who started it? Is this it? Are we at the end times ? Is the anti christ coming ? Is someone or somebody going to banned religion? And then I searched up the anti christ and end times and got really sick to my stomach it showed a picture of the video showing this person is the anti christ and felt so scared and anxious to the point where I couldn’t sleep at all and felt traumatized by all these things on the internet now tell me if these are just not facts then why do I feel like its real like if they where in my head why did I got it off the news because now I’m thinking if it was all in my head then I’m okay but if I got it off the tv or phone is that a different story? Or is it still the same thing which is not real? Please help me in this

@accuratealloys 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for your generosity.

@ByWayOfDeception 4 ай бұрын

Exactly. Not those quick cuts or sudden close ups and zoom outs of automated editing software.

@Peter-mj6lz 13 күн бұрын

I’ve noticed your videos are soothing. In an earlier video you described how anxiety is reinforced in our modern society by a lot of avoidance through technology and news that is out of our control. I’ve just noticed how the autistic community I follow, although states a lot of truths, helps maintain negative thoughts for me as it talks about issues from a negative perspective and not always with solutions.

@margaret3239 7 ай бұрын

I had a similar experience years ago. I was up in Maine, and we went to L.L.Bean and it happened to have snowed. You couldn’t see the lines of where you parked. When I came out It had warmed up and melted the snow on the parking lot I came out of the store with a very nasty note about what an idiot and jerk and nasty person I was for where I parked. It’s so ridiculous. You couldn’t see the lines of where to park and yes, it upset me. Thank you for your channel. It’s very good and you’ve helped me a lot.❤

@angel.heart007 7 ай бұрын

Thanks you SO much for this! My health anxiety has ruined me. It’s continued to knock me down at my lowest. With all the techniques and knowledge I feel myself getting better. Though 2 steps forward and one step back, I’m hopeful. I talk to myself more and trying to rewire my brain. Feeling pain in my body, a headache, abdomen pain or heart palpitations sends me to a panic and fear of passing out or dying. I’m finally learning to convince myself that they all won’t be killing me every time I feel them. It’s a daily struggle. It’s truly the fear of everything is dangerous. Im staying hopeful!

@maryireland2966 7 ай бұрын

I would love to connect as I am In the same boat

@TherapyinaNutshell 7 ай бұрын

on my website we do have a course specific to health anxiety, it's taught by Dr. Kat Green who specializes in Health anxiety, that may be helpful

@Coco-hd4um 7 ай бұрын

you’re not alone. it gets better

@monisehgal7537 6 ай бұрын

What is helping you get better?

@bradymom10 6 ай бұрын

This is all wonderful, helpful information and advice. The issue is that many people with anxiety and depression (raises hand) are simply unable to act upon the advice. That's the crucial missing in-between step here and I think it's why so many of us get stuck.

@burntoast2200 4 күн бұрын

Having these thoughts/negative emotions are normal, we can’t control what type of thoughts that pop up in our minds. But we CAN CHOOSE HOW WE DEAL WITH THEM! Separating ourselves from our thoughts. Everyone dealing with depression please don’t give up. Your NOT ALONE! We are all here for each other :)

@EphemeralProductions 6 ай бұрын

Another thing I’ve realized is that the thing we fear will happen doesn’t always. And, we have to convince ourselves that even if it does, we’ll make it through one day at a time. Someday, we’ll be moved past that struggle and can feel normal again.

@Coco-hd4um 7 ай бұрын

i get panic attacks and i get stuck in a loop, where i fear panic attacks and because i fear them they come back. i have huge health anxiety and cardiophobia because of the intense anxiety and panic attacks i have had before. sometimes it gets better and sometimes it gets bad. i will keep fighting. don’t ever give up. it’s very much possible to stop them

@jerryvandevort2366 6 ай бұрын

Is there something you need to do but you're putting it off? Try a martial art. I sincerely hope this helps.

@crimsonkim9225 7 ай бұрын

Thank you! The analogy of negative thoughts being like sidewalk salesmen really helps put them in perspective for me! I can imagine myself being at the country fair and passing by booths with animated pitchmen trying to get me to stop and spend money on their games, rides and wares. It takes practice and determination to learn how to navigate around them and still enjoy the fair.

@michaelmurphy7692 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for this. I know I’m powerless over the thoughts that show up in my head and do damage. I’m working hard to focus on gratitude for the good positive things in my world.

@victoriar9105 4 ай бұрын

I can’t imagine the darkness you’ve felt or lived to be so passionate about these topics. I’m happy you lived and thrived through those moments. Congratulations and you’re so much appreciated!!!! 🎉🎉🎉

@kayleebaginski 7 ай бұрын

The story you share at the beginning is a GREAT example. I’m thankful that you shared the truth: our emotions come from how we THINK/perceive about the situation. That truth has helped me realize how much power over situations I actually have, and has allowed me to break through seasons of depression and anxiety. Thank you so much for the work you put into this channel.

@lisabeeke7162 7 ай бұрын

I also found the opening story helpful. Thank you Emma.

@alphasotogrande943 5 ай бұрын

Exactly - if your feeling is bad - ask yourself "what am I thinking about?"

@Dianna-pm2hv 6 ай бұрын

I finally comprehend CBT. I have been in counselling for 50 years. I was not able to "get it" until you explained it. Thank you! My current counsellor is 36 years old. I am 69, the age of his dad. First male counsellor I connected with, and youngest by far, but I am getting lots of help. He recommended an ANT mini program, a kind of printout for specific symptoms, and I found you. Thank you, your information was very enlightening.

@lisat9067 4 ай бұрын

“Automatic Negative Thoughts” can also be a symptom of OCD ie “Intrusive Thoughts” which are not based in reality and usually the opposite of you. Like the “hand washers,” their thought is “wash them again; they’re still dirty” which is not true. Learning to be present and tap into one’s true beliefs can help to differentiate between the “lie” and “your truth.”🌷

@rebeccakuntz2809 5 ай бұрын

Thoughts are like clouds, they float away. The objective is to let the thought go, like a cloud. If the thought won't go away, replace it with a positive or gratitude thought. Eventually the positive or grateful thoughts becomes automatic. ALSO Focus intently on the 5 senses. What do you see, hear, feel, smell or taste? This will help you to BE present.

@lisaclark4517 8 күн бұрын

"Thoughts aren't facts" 😮💡mind blown. Thank you.

@zarkos2313 6 ай бұрын

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

@patriaciasmith3499 6 ай бұрын

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

@Elizabeth-gu8hx 6 ай бұрын

YES very sure of bergwilly11__. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@carsonelias4594 6 ай бұрын

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

@jorgparker2463 6 ай бұрын

@@Elizabeth-gu8hxIs he on instagram?

@JamesTaylor-ff4dp 6 ай бұрын

Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.

@danisehetland3576 7 ай бұрын

Brilliant video! The bit about one’s brain being a word machine and thoughts being salesman was extremely helpful!

@aliciafarnham5616 7 ай бұрын

This was a well-timed video. In Canada, the free mental health clinic kind of graduates you out after a period of treatment, then it's up to you to either pay for therapy or carry on. I 'graduated' about 16 months ago and I've been using your channel to keep all the tools i learned fresh in my mind, but I've been really struggling ever since the summer when a bunch of big things happened all at once. I've felt like life is just coming at me like monsters in a thick fog, and I've started sliding back into old habits from before therapy, and that's just making me more anxious because I don't want to go back there!

@meaghenstandlee6644 7 ай бұрын

Ants or Automatic Negative Thoughts are like 🐜 ants at a picnic 🧺 one won't kill you but 10,000 ants might (I heard this analogy its kind of cool) 😅

@speteydog2260 7 ай бұрын

I’ve had the same thing happen to me. I was not pregnant tho. The fact that someone would go to the trouble to call that out, is disgusting! They must be oh so perfect! Sure karma circles around to get them

@ryanhoward2199 2 ай бұрын

I have never learned anything until I listened to this person. THANK YOU!!!!!

@natalietran1997 6 ай бұрын

This is me it's horrible 😢😢😢

@julieking5151 7 ай бұрын

Thanks so much ❤️ One time I parked in a snowy parking lot for groceries, just lining up with the other cars because I couldn’t see the lines. When I came out My car was alone and the snow had melted to see the lines and I was parked rather badly. Someone took the time and energy to write a terrible note and put on my car. I was devastated, and angry, and even though it happened over a year ago I was still thinking of that and carrying it around. Having PTSD for parking now that it’s snowing again and no plowing. Thanks for sharing your experience and helping me to see I bought that negative thought, and I didn’t need to. I allowed that insensitive person to get exactly what they wanted. I will remember and do differently next time ❤️❤️❤️

@kippen64 7 ай бұрын

What if you have genuine reasons for stress? Not perceived threats, actual threats. I still have to manage my stress but I can't ignore these threats to my life.

@darcyb6678 7 ай бұрын

Great question! Sometimes the stress is for REAL problems.

@rose8968 19 күн бұрын

The metaphor of people selling things like your thoughts is BRILLIANT ❤

@osmanjamilshifat3318 2 ай бұрын

I really want to thank you for saving my life. Though i am still a patient of overthinking, anxiety, panic attacks i am recovering day by day watching your video. Maybe you will never see my comments, Maybe my thanks will never get to you, Maybe i will lose fighting with my past trauma, Maybe i will die fighting with myself like this, But whatever happens i am so grateful that i lived a few more days for your therapy videos. According to all the psychology books i completed i know playing with my emotion and brain like this will never end up good (Maybe), But apart from that your therapy and the techniques to heal my heart worked so well. Again thank you so much.

@mndeepsranz3717 Күн бұрын

@koira163 6 ай бұрын

I've been using these videos a lot to help me clearout my head and to learn while I wait to get into cbt or something similar. I am a huge overthinker and have a habit of catastrophizing events in my mind. Active imagination is a blessing and a curse. Honestly, trying to learn to distance myself from those toughts and naming them as being toughts not reality, has been hard but helpful. Sometimes its easier and sometimes harder, but I know it'll get easier day by day, that even when my today might look gloomy, it doesn't mean I will relapse into deep anxiety and dissociation. And even if i did, then i will be able to pick myself up and continue on. 🥰

@SandeepSinghCreator 7 ай бұрын

When I was a 10-year-old kid, I was playing with the steering wheel of my Dad's car, and I didn't know that there was a steering lock. So I turn the steering and it locks into place and I get panicked at the situation. I literally thought I had done something stupid and broken the steering wheel and I was so anxious and afraid of what would happen next. I thought "That's it, I've broken my dad's car." What will my mom, My Dad, and my family say to me? So I shut myself out from everyone. I had catastrophizing, disaster-predicting thoughts in my head, I could literally imagine them beating me up for my fault and then looking at me gathered around me with contempt. It wasn't until it popped into my head that maybe it was a steering locking mechanism and I asked someone about it that I felt great relief. Thanks a lot for this video. The information you're giving out is very helpful.

@dillonopsahl6517 6 ай бұрын

“What’s wrong with you” and constant guilt like I did something wrong.

@mikeypatterson7966 4 ай бұрын

I am trying the method about sending my anxieties and worries down the other track so I can continue on with the present. And then worry for 15 to 30 minutes or at least acknowledge those things. And then I take something positive about those experiences and I’m like well what did I learn? I take gratitude for it for the fact that I learned something and then I feel better. If I think about myself in the third person as though I’m giving someone else advice, which is always good advice, I need to follow that good advice when it’s my turn to do so and it is OK 100% to accept self-help self loving self-care.

@mushtiar_Engineer 7 ай бұрын

I’m overthinking negative thoughts all time

@darcyb6678 7 ай бұрын

I completely understand. It has ruined my life.

@mtbiker841 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for your great summarizing of these concepts, may abundantly bless you and your family!

@ellaboehme6748 7 ай бұрын

I feel so lucky to have found this video today! I had a super similar experience to the story - was having an emotional day, went to the store, found a parking spot where the person next to me was over the line. I parked in it anyways and it ended up literally boxing in their drivers side door (I was within the lines tho, in my defense 😂) but I thought what the heck I’ll run in and grab my stuff and hopefully be back out before they get back. Lo and behold I get back, they’re gone, and there’s a fat note on my window saying “YOU PARK LIKE AN ASS!” I was super surprised that it affected me how it did - I immediately felt awful and guilty and started beating myself up, telling myself I was an awful driver and I deserved the bad note and literally working myself to tears over it. At the same time I felt so ashamed of the overly emotional reaction. This video really helped me reframe it - to put in perspective that maybe I wasn’t an awful person or a terrible driver, maybe we were both just having bad days. And also to reframe that reaction as constant negative thoughts being the problem, not myself being the problem. I just think it’s wild that I found a video so applicable to todays events that helped me so much! Life is cool.

@vcom2327 6 ай бұрын

This is a basic Buddhist concept: Your thoughts create your emotions . Nothing new here, but it is a nice explanation of the concept.

@judygrover4252 6 ай бұрын

I happened upon this video when I opened KZfaq today and I'm so glad I did! I've been having a crapload of anxiety about work so your example of negative feedback from a boss was perfect. I'm definitely going to practice cognitive diffusion!

@dougOptics 7 ай бұрын

You're the best. I've always gravitated to your channel during tough times and you helped get me through them.

@coldminded21 6 ай бұрын

this separation sounds like mindfulness. Mindfulness helped me with that, it says that i am not my thoughts and etc. I appreciate you channel, thanks.

@jcsolomon6470 5 күн бұрын

By Not Identifying with,External 3-D,Outlooks,that you could take personally,in a Negative way,as Your Validation,Dont!You Have Allways Got This,now!Take care,People!

@boboboludo3885 6 ай бұрын

It really helped me to hear being spoken all those dreadful thoughts outside instead of inside of my out of control mind and your language was also really helpful when you use metaphors to describe things. Thank you thank you!

@rshariane 7 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. I’ve been struggling a lot lately with the feeling attacked by mean behavior of strangers. I couldn’t understand of what was going on it got me ruminating the whole situations for days almost weeks, it’s been so frustrating. But now after I watched your video I finally can understand why, I can understand me. Thank you

@Catlady11123 6 ай бұрын

This channel just popped up in my feed….i wish I found it long ago…I can’t wait to watch more! Thank you! 🙏

@thebreetv 5 ай бұрын

You're a great storyteller! So relatable and I been there girl! Thanks for being on youtube!

@pixiebomb28 7 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your content, i appreciate your practical approach to mental health. I also find that usually when i'm tired managing my negative thoughts and anxiety is so much harder

@hienienguyen6766 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for your words. I hate these negative crazy thoughts

@nicolas_-_-_ 7 ай бұрын

Hello! Thank you very much for this helpful video! I'm glad this KZfaq channel exists.

@MarrisaStrong 7 ай бұрын

I really like this series you're doing. I've tried to watch your content for a while, but it hasn't always resonated with me. This series really is, tho. Thank you.

@sarahschoelwer1530 7 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for spreading truth!! 💛💛✨✨

@jpreviews9452 4 ай бұрын

Your videos are so very helpful and compassionate- I hope you know the impact you’re having on complete strangers out here in internet-land! Your videos on Panic Attacks have been so instrumental in helping me completely change my relationship with my body and brain’s anxiety response. I still have them at times, but I’m able to manage and get through them and you’ve helped me immensely with that. Thank you!

@nadineteunissen5346 7 ай бұрын

Thank you, just thank you! This channel is soooo good!

@varungupta2885 7 ай бұрын

I like the way your videos have evolved Even your overall style. Appreciate the super content

@darkvader8244 5 ай бұрын

HELP!!!! I was raised by a cruel, narcissistic, shaming, name-calling, screaming, slapping... I could go on. I have been to therapy for this issue in particular, however, I experience INTRUSIVE negative, resentful thoughts, being a psych nurse has helped understand untreated mental illness, I understand she probably had trauma too, I think it was not REALLY her fault, however awful endless interference in my brain. TY

@kimofdiamondz 5 ай бұрын

I want to thank you so very much for your channel. You help me get through my entire work day. I start the day of with your videos. I have severe anxiety and CONSTANT negative thoughts. I have an entire notebook, dedicated to notes from your videos. I wish I could have you as my therapist. Thank you so much.

@cleforlife420 6 ай бұрын

This video caused me anxiety

@gipsymoth1574 3 ай бұрын

I am so grateful for this info you give us! These are things I already learned in therapy but the refresher is so needed! Thank you ❤️

@HoneyWindbutton 7 ай бұрын

Your channel is a priceless resource. Thank you. Thank you.

@TIKOTheInnerKnowingOpportunity 6 ай бұрын

I love and applaud the work that you are doing.

@nschilling3 2 ай бұрын

Thank you from the bottom of my heart. You have helped me in ways I never thought possible. The blessing you are… 🙏

@cassietheindigowitch 7 ай бұрын

Ty ty ty!! I've been noticing this lately and have been struggling to cope with this on my own. I will definitely implement these skills🤗

@annawaii4654 Ай бұрын

Hi! Your channel has absolutely been a lifesaver. I have had some bad anxiety over the last couple of months and recently I have been dealing with sleep deprivation due to that anxiety. Your channel has taught me so much on managing anxiety and tools to deal with it. I am still dealing with anxiety but I am definitely seeing myself recovering and working through it. Thank you so much! You are truly saving lives for people who can’t access therapy.

@vernicephillip4882 6 ай бұрын

I never knew thoughts physically change the brain! Thank you.

@sidcrocker3452 6 ай бұрын

My negative thoughts involve my heart rat Lola. I watched her suffer for days before she passed. She was my rock when nobody was around. She was my friend that I could talk to. She loved me unconditionally and I should have helped her more 😔

@afshanazim2204 7 ай бұрын

Thank you so much Emma. Your videos are really helpful and make a difference.

@colinnickerson446 3 күн бұрын

Incredible content! Thank you so much!

@nerd26373 7 ай бұрын

We appreciate your insights. Keep working hard.

@laurenl720 6 ай бұрын

❤ very helpful videos. Working through anxiety and PTSD with a therapist’s help, and your videos help as well. You explain it where it’s easier to understand.

@chrisberry9017 7 ай бұрын

Bless you! This video turned up just when I needed it! I’m dealing with a health diagnosis which is creating great anxiety, and comes just weeks after the death of my husband. I need all the coping strategies that I can find, as my ‘monkey mind’ has gone into overdrive. Thank you again.

@niki1990 7 ай бұрын

Thnak you soo much Emma! You're such a huge help for people who are not financially adept to get a therapist

@kayneich9573 3 ай бұрын

Thanks. Listening to you for years. This one had me giggling at the carpark story. Just sheer giggling. One of many gifts from you! Sending love from Auckland NZ.

@russmelgar5353 7 ай бұрын

Thanks for you videos Dr. A. Great stuff!

@user-en2dw2tw9d 20 күн бұрын

I appreciate this content so much and that isn’t transaction- just there to help. I also think you are gently kindly and perfectly deliver all of it. Thank you!

@misterbotha Ай бұрын

This is truly life-changing stuff ... it works if it's applied

@faithkaykambobe3512 3 ай бұрын

I love the salesman example. The visual is really helpful with dismissing and not engaging thoughts.

@joeltheisen5171 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for making this video. I am going to use what I learned and apply it to my daily life and hopefully I will have success 😊

@grahamfonteyne4792 7 ай бұрын

Great video thanks very much, I'm very grateful to be able to listen to such kind, quality and very thoughtful videos like this😊

@ohmygoshheaven 6 ай бұрын

I’m pushing myself to not spiral annd react or fall into a slump and instead I’m trying to seek help in moments that feel unmanageable. I’ve been making it a point to come to your channel in those moments and these videos save me. They ground me and I feel like I can breathe again. It’s hard to not feel like I’m the enemy. I’m thankful for this one. I’m saving it to my favorites list.

@JanSenn-tg1ec 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for your knowledge and your ability to share it ! Seems you are speaking directly to me

@isadoreiris 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for this. I needed this. I’ve done some things to help with my negative thoughts but this is nicer.

@mandyc9136 6 ай бұрын

I have found so many helpful videos on your channel, thank you for the great help on all of the many topics you cover.

@dee5356 7 ай бұрын

Excellent video! Thank you Emma!

@stacyislas8042 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your knowledge and beautiful heart! I really love your channel and the content of everything you teach all of humanity. ❤❤

@saved_by_grace7919 6 ай бұрын

Thank you so so much for sharing this content!! It’s extremely helpful! ❤️

@user-kr3ct9oh4y 2 ай бұрын

Thank you very much! Your videos just made me feel so alive and fun!! Your video reminded me of something very helpful I found 14 years ago, and kind of forget that thats what I most need at the moment again!! And your knowledge is very helpful to make that work better for me! 14 years ago I found a system for myself where I would remind myself that we have a reflective system in our mind that channels the being that is the universe into what we experience as awareness. And in overthinking that spirals out of control to limit the reflective capacity going in circles around the same over and over. And it helped me to just focus on the reflective system itself, so reflecting on the reflecting, that was a way to take the reflective capacity away from reflecting on fearful things onto something that is neutral, the experience of awareness itself, and that would get my mind "empty" to then be filled with wholesome stuff. Like you mentioned in a video, what Frankl said, the space between where we can find freedom.

@ponyguy99 6 ай бұрын

My life is not all that stressful: just normal daily things that I work out with both breathing techniques and relaxation exercises. However, sometimes either in the middle of the day, in the middle of the night, during what should be a non anxiety situation, I have an extreme anxiety attack. (Panic) I literally can’t function; overwhelming fear, nausea, which is relentless. I know it isn’t fatal, but the feeling is so intense, even a few minutes of this might as well be. All the cognitive mind exercises help over time but doesn’t take them away. It took meditation (SSRIs and anti anxiety meds provided some relief) Physical medical tests came out negative. I did find out that panic disorder runs on both sides of my family, and has been quite severe. As much as I hate taking medication, I am alive and functioning. Without them, who knows. Each person has to deal with severe anxiety in an individualized way. Don’t be ashamed or reluctant to take medication along with breathing,relaxation techniques. It’s your life. Do what works for you. Let it be the best it can! Best of luck!

@whatsup3581 6 ай бұрын

I am dealing with a very painful family issue and i believe it has caused me PTSD or some kind of trauma based on rejection. Because i have been ignored so much and and had life changing events so much, if i reach out to anyone at all and i dont hear back from that person, i find my self wondering and going to a anxious mode and worry mode.. i am going through something very severe that has been life changing and to a very hurtful extent thats debilitating