CBT Unhelpful Thinking Styles (STOP Self-Sabotage NOW)

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CBT Unhelpful Thinking Styles (STOP Self-Sabotage NOW)
Identify which unhelpful thinking styles are contributing to your self-sabotage. These automatic thoughts, or cognitive distortions, can create considerable pain. CBT therapy or CBT counselling helps to identify unhelpful thinking habits and uses CBT exercises and cognitive restructuring to help you change unhelpful thinking styles. Unhelpful thinking styles include labeling, emotional reasoning, catastrophizing, personalizing, mind reading and mental filter. This video will help you to challenge negative self-talk, self-sabotaging thoughts and identify unhelpful thinking patterns. This, in turn, will help you stop self-sabotaging behavior!
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@suba_rally9936 4 жыл бұрын

wow, i'm so glad I stumbled on your channel. it's a goldmine of helpful techniques and info!

@BarbaraHeffernan 4 жыл бұрын

Hi subie_grl: I'm so glad you did as well! And thanks for the feedback - it is motivating for me :)

@mikelord2698 4 жыл бұрын

Pretty much what I was going to comment. Great channel Barbara

@BarbaraHeffernan 4 жыл бұрын

@@mikelord2698 Thank you! :)

@d16082 3 жыл бұрын

Big Hello from Australia. Thanks for these insigful videos. I love personally studying all aspects of spycoanalysis.

@lilj1905 3 жыл бұрын

Do you do this over facetime appointments, I'm struggling really bad with this

@GayorgVonTrapp 2 жыл бұрын

Barbara. I was quite surprised to find a channel so freely offering such direct and helpful definitions of cognitive issues followed by really useful advice and actions to take to address feelings and behaviour. I am so grateful for your willingness and endeavour to help. Thank you. Thank you so much.

@aziaa.8663 2 жыл бұрын

indeed i really appreciate her generosity she really saved me by these infos

@franziskaklose11 20 күн бұрын

Hearing this valid emotional response to the breakup, like saying „I am feeling sad“ instead of thinking about the future and how it will always end up like this hit a nerve. I was never able to just express how I feel so I got anxious it might happen again which causes all the catastrophic scenarios in my head.

@WilliamMagnor 3 жыл бұрын

"Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping" - Jordan Peterson, Rule #2 in "12 rules for life"

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

Love that phrase!

@anoopasubahan1706 3 жыл бұрын

@@BarbaraHeffernan correct

@srolesen 3 жыл бұрын

And think twice before you let yourself get mangled by the CBT hamburger machine, are you an actual hamburger and are your state of mind simply a thing to fix and replace, or is there something else going on.

@pokemongurlz 3 жыл бұрын

@@srolesen tf does this even mean

@srolesen 3 жыл бұрын

@@pokemongurlz Means CBT is designed to be convincing at the cost of accuracy, and there is a hamburger like quality to it, the therapist will frequently just close their eyes and chuck all the problems into the machine, more invested in churning out product and measuring success as "% of problems solved" with 0 understanding that some problems are simply not suitable for that hamburger machine and require a deeper level of understanding. I think CBT is fundamentally a good approach to many issues and that hamburgers are fine on occasion, but I also think that there is a pervasive lack of willingness in both industries for the machine operator to stop and think twice before mashing something through that meatgrinder that does not belong there.

@vasantipunchoo3699 3 жыл бұрын

You are soothing .reassuring .constructive.its full of love that reaches out to all of us needing such support.

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! :)

@MmmmOk100 4 жыл бұрын

You are right on track with this one too. I have always been a great friend to others but honestly, have never been kind to myself. Thank you for all that you do.

@BarbaraHeffernan 4 жыл бұрын

You are welcome. Yes, be your own best friend!!!

@xchimino2 4 жыл бұрын

It is a lovely painting. I thought it was a photo! Thank you for sharing all this information. :)

@BarbaraHeffernan 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks!

@alizo3 2 жыл бұрын

I almost cried watching this, I've been doing many of these categories especially labeling for way too long that its like a fact of life with me. Thank you so much for this video ill begin improving and removing these toxic thoughts

@BarbaraHeffernan 2 жыл бұрын

Your comment is very touching. I am so pleased this has been so helpful for you.

@tnnutcase7259 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this, I'm 60 years old and never knew/put together all the negative talk I have been doing to myself. Your channel is awesome and I can't get enough. I just started seeing a counselor yesterday for CBT therapy.. I will use your channel to boost this even more.

@buzzingnoise 3 жыл бұрын

In my room I have my own art everywhere and I love it because it reminds me of how creative and colourful I can be!

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

Awesome!

@vijaysridhar9777 2 жыл бұрын

I used to see things negatively beleiving that if it becomes positive then the reason is that i felt negative, never thought it will take a tollover my happiness . Ma'am, your idea is worth a thesis! Provided me relief and i feel i can deal with thoughts more efficiently. Please do provide more such content, Thanks a ton! May God bless you!

@andreapalumbo6070 4 жыл бұрын

I think being a friend of myself is a very powerful concept, as well as the "self-sabotage" one that is more tricky because the sabotage looks like a solution instead of the cause of the problem. I worked on it - without a strong consistency but with results - for about four years. Yet, the path is long, the tunnel is brighter but not ended. Thank you very much doctor Heffernan for putting these concepts in such a clear way, so that they are immediately applicable for all of us! I'm already using the cbt log and reviewing all my homework on inner dialogue in light of the six styles you explained so well.

@BarbaraHeffernan 4 жыл бұрын

So awesome that you are utilizing the log! Practice is key and increasing our awareness of patterns is the first step.

@kristine6996 3 жыл бұрын

It is a trauma on a deep level, starting in early childhood. One day it Will pass on the mean time I am counting my blessings in the midst of a pandemic 🕯.

@nryane 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. Great reminders! My trauma therapist used EMDR and CBT therapies. What you outline is the kind of thing she would have me practice for “homework”, between sessions. The awareness of these various patterns of thought makes our self-talk less critical. That way, we can be the person who says to ourselves: “Would I say that to a loved one?” It’s taken a lot of practice to come to a place of self-kindness. So nice to hear gentle, kind words in my self-talk, instead of the harsh ones I used to say to me. Blessings!🤓

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

Wow ! Thank you for sharing that. I hope it gives other people hope and the motivation to do the work! It is so wonderful that you have been able to shift your self-talk... Isn't life nicer when we are nice to ourselves?! :)

@nryane 3 жыл бұрын

Barbara Heffernan Indeed! Being able to change neural pathways and practice new habits are a blessing!

@birdhousejr17 4 жыл бұрын

Great overall! I liked the concept of "being a friend to yourself." I believe it's important to view yourself in this manner so that you may reflect on your world and situations in a more helpful and constructive way. 👍🏻

@RosePetal17 3 жыл бұрын

Be your own best friend🙏💖

@pedanpontif 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for posting. My mental illness has caused me to miss the last three days of work.

@laurenellis3147 2 жыл бұрын

Barbara, I love your warm and expressive style. I'm an Occupational therapist learning about CBT. You explain CBT really clearly. Thank you

@BarbaraHeffernan 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for letting me know! So pleased! Good luck in your work!

@HKashaf 9 ай бұрын

So clear and so concise, months of therapy and never understood these concepts so clearly.

@fuhermann1411 2 жыл бұрын

I am almost in tears! i found so much relief knowing there is something i can do and having an explanation on why i am feeling this way and to change it. Thank you for sharing this freely, you have no idea how much it means to someone who is suffering. God bless you!

@BarbaraHeffernan 2 жыл бұрын

I am so, so pleased you found this so helpful. Thank you for letting me know. Wishing you health and healing, Barbara

@edmo1982 8 ай бұрын

Omg, I've check all the boxes😂 1to6 no wonder my mind was so f***d up

@janetstraw191 3 жыл бұрын

Your mom must be an admirer of Claude Monet! 👍🤗👏

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

Yes! :)

@Doglady3 Ай бұрын

THANK YOU!

@lindseyhamilton5016 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for putting this out there

@pixiefilm 3 жыл бұрын

Thankyou so much for sharing all of this 😊

@alisiakrastelcoach 4 жыл бұрын

Ohhhh, labeling... that was so powerful!

@AijazAhWani 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for specifying some of the cognitive distortions and correcting these

@jessicacalderon9427 3 жыл бұрын

So happy I found you, I struggled with OCD and learning how the mind tends to transform situations had been the best thing that happened to me. Thanks 😊 for your educational videos 🙏

@lead-tv1385 Жыл бұрын

I needed this in my life.

@ClaireTanseysKitchen 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this. Thinking patterns are everything!

@KateMurray 4 жыл бұрын

Super interesting that we can label and reframe our thoughts! I'm going to start paying more attention! :)

@christinemaore7107 4 жыл бұрын

This is so powerful. I love it. I also have a beautiful painting from my daughter.

@uswabatool5602 3 жыл бұрын

This video changed my life :) its only been about 2 weeks since i am practicing classifying my thoughts and i already feel so productive ! So much time that i used to spend thinking is saved . Thank you 🙏🏻please keep doing what you do. I am sure itll help many more people 💕

@elena-251 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Barbara 🙏

@brankisouhila8968 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your helpful insights!

@zaidquraishi691 3 жыл бұрын

This is gold !!!!

@markony94 2 жыл бұрын

I discovered your videos yesterday, and what I can say is that you speak in a straightforward, down-to-earth language. Thank you!

@MrBish435 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Barbara, this video has been so good in helping me identifying my unhelpful thoughts. I'm looking forward to learning and implementing CBT tools.

@craigalden54 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much....

@kamaliwickramage2418 4 жыл бұрын

This is an amazing explanation. So profound but so simply explained! Thank you!

@CA-iv6tz 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, your videos are very helpful, I've subscribed!

@stevenmurdoch1070 Жыл бұрын

I really needed this today. Thank you so much Barbara. I really appreciate this so much.

@sthitipragnyamohanty309 4 жыл бұрын

Beautifully explained..I just love the way you explain it ..it really helps me ,as I have done my advanced course in CBT.

@tinegaharon6919 2 жыл бұрын

Wow! Amazing! God bless you! 👏

@lucyperalta7978 3 жыл бұрын

So grateful.. Your channel is what I needed ❤️🙏🏻

@jeandresley275 4 ай бұрын

I love the idea of being a friend to your self.

@fionakingery3701 2 жыл бұрын

Amazing! First 10 minutes summed it all up for me… thank you.

@2theja1 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks, super informative for growth

@shaziaaslam6104 3 жыл бұрын

Great I revisted ur video again today. Really makes sence Thanks a lot

@24CarrotCake 3 жыл бұрын

I have a friend who was struggling to remember all the distortions so I gave her names that made it easier to remember and identify. Chicken Little (catastrophizing), Kardashian(comparing ourselves to others), Betting on the Ponies(Predicting the future), Moving Mountains(Changing things out of your control), Cement shoes(intractable), Trigger Happy(generalizing), Been there, Done that(Worrying about past), Grinding Gears(perseverating), Bad Trippin'(Fanaticizing the worst).

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

Love this!

@24CarrotCake 3 жыл бұрын

@@BarbaraHeffernan Thank you for your wonderful work!

@nilzabento1143 2 жыл бұрын

I can say for sure that changing behaviour is very difficult. I am very glad that I found your videos here, I am waiting to be seen by a psychologist and there is a big waiting list. Thank you very much for uploading these videos!

@wilma.espiritucrowley 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for this, Barbara! I appreciate you and your work!

@Trisha_B_done 3 жыл бұрын

Wow....did not realize I'd gotten to the "Why bother" stage. Life circumstances and the thought patterns you mentioned hit me on point. I am a caregiver by nature (& was one by profession) and have wondered lately WHY I don't seem to treat nor care for myself as much as I do others. This video helps bring the patterns to light, and gives me tools to work with. Thank you. Much needed in these days of forced isolation due to the Covid. Will fed to others. Off to view more of your videos.💕

@vivianaf649 3 жыл бұрын

Brilliant!!!!! 👏👏👏

@francesbeth2077 Жыл бұрын

I was not aware of CBT. It was so helpful for me because I can relate to some of the unhelpful behaviors. Thank-you again for sharing.

@jones10121970 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for your videos. I feel comfort when I watch them.

@MaisyDaisy333 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for the effort you put in to create and share your videos! Great info here -- thank you! ❤

@neila.rochelle565 Жыл бұрын

3:57 thank you Barbara. I’ve worked for years with CBT but get stuck and revert back to negative self talk. Excellent reminder for me. Also a reminder of how hard it is to change these thoughts

@aliciaalexander6745 3 ай бұрын

Great explaining and examples

@elleaprilterrell Жыл бұрын

❤❤❤thanks- and I am sure this is a rewatch with a pen and pad😀

@gracemaerz8872 4 ай бұрын

Love the picture, how lovely!

@janisdelson6603 2 жыл бұрын

great and informative video. Really hit home with me. I didn't realize how much my thoughts, feelings and hence behavior were hurting me. I look forward to exploring this topic more.

@donnaa3479 3 жыл бұрын

I always feel very lost and anxious snapping on friends and family. Glad I found this it makes sense and may help in the future. Following here and Facebook.

@mdabdullahilkafi8116 2 жыл бұрын

You are amazing. I loved the concept of being friend with myself. Best wishes for you.

@chrismcardle8102 3 жыл бұрын

This is so helpful

@eduardomartindelcampo1134 3 жыл бұрын

Magnificent, I´ve just seen two of your videos and are amazing. Thank you for helpling us.

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

You are welcome! Thank you for letting me know!

@catcaa9027 4 жыл бұрын

I’ve been looking for something like this for over 10 years, thank you so much For sharing, after listening to a couple videos, somethings I can put into perspective now, I hope this helps other people, I will continue to post updates and improvements in my own life in the hope that It may help someone else in their journey to find peace and solutions with depression and anxiety which was unknown to me and was never properly diagnosed until much later in my life.

@BarbaraHeffernan 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Cherry: Thanks so much for letting me know how meaningful the videos are for you. I hope they truly help you on your journey!

@rochelleromero270 3 жыл бұрын

Please keep posting videos! I’ve been searching for the practical help you provide.

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

I will! Thanks for the encouragement. And I'm so happy they are helpful for you.

@adelebouthillier4641 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Barbara. I have been in programs that use CBT and DBT. I am in therapy and my therapist is using the same techniques tht you are. I feel like with watching your videos and my therapist I am on the right track to healing from trauma and being a more healthy adult. Agape.

@mahmoudsalahat259 Жыл бұрын

Thanks alot about this feedback my specificly, cognitive thoughts distortion

@hew195050 3 жыл бұрын

Byron Katie work is one of the ways to do CBT work on yourself. VERY helpful!

@essiees3151 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for being so kind to offer this for free 😊🙏

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome 😊

@lifeisbeautiful7047 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much

@tjmills2559 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for putting your work out into the universe. I have been struggling with many different issues. You have helped me find a path through with your channel. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

@lesleygarvs4640 Жыл бұрын

I am suffering the consequences of ptsd... In this time, from time to time... A totally heavy emotion comes out of nowhere(apparently, now we know it comes from past trauma and abuse)... And it s so intense as if it doesn t let me breath for the next minute... Before would be worse... Now getting better, simply by realizing it is a huge step... Soo intense and chronic... Wow, thank you, Barbara!

@BarbaraHeffernan Жыл бұрын

❤️‍🩹

@vinina2009 3 жыл бұрын

I love the way you explained all the mental distortions ! God bless you .

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!😀

@beetlejuice3171 2 жыл бұрын

Like your vibe, approach and tone! Your Mom is a great painter.

@SparkyWaxAll Жыл бұрын

thank you. I'm 60 and now just learning this valuable life saving information. I appreciate you.,

@Smurffamily 3 жыл бұрын

Excellent! Thank you for posting this.

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

@joeyzalman8254 Жыл бұрын

thank you very much, very clear!

@BarbaraHeffernan Жыл бұрын

You are welcome!

@aosorachan 8 ай бұрын

The concept of ''Being a friend to yourself'' is a very important and essential starting point to attempt to think in a more accurate and less distorted way, to begin to make small progress as much as possible and to stop the negative thinking and categorizations. Thank you so much for all the videos and the PDF. It's greate help. Sincerely appreciated.🙏😊

@JacobsRegeneration 7 ай бұрын

Being a friend 2 your self.. can you elaborate some.. I feel this will help many. Thanks in advance!

@bonniel4325 3 жыл бұрын

Barbara, thank you so much for your informative and healing videos. Absolutely you are very much on track providing great strategies for positive change.

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Bonnie: Thank you for your feedback and encouragement! :)

@DrTerezaTherapy 4 жыл бұрын

Your videos make a huge difference to my wellbeing. Thanks so much!

@BarbaraHeffernan 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Tereza: Thank you so much for letting me know - that means an enormous amount to me!! :)

@cokecl 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you again for the effort you are putting on these videos, they are super clear, helpful and comprehensive!

@BarbaraHeffernan 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks! :)

@tinakarp4718 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks SO MUCH for explaining CBT in a way that can be understood

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

@frankuriegas1888 Жыл бұрын

I cried watching this video because it’s my first time in a long time trying to seek help for my anxiety and a lot these negative thoughts are how I think, this was really helpful and im going to start developing a better thinking pattern, thank you.

@the.marriage.coach.youtube Жыл бұрын

Love your videos! Extremely helpful!

@BarbaraHeffernan Жыл бұрын

I'm so glad! Thanks for letting me know!

@b_boy5x22 3 жыл бұрын

Your channel has really opened my mind. Thank you for the work that you do.

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for letting me know. It means a lot to me :)

@brendaparker3658 4 жыл бұрын

So happy I found you dear Barbara. Love it and love the water lillies.....so wonderfully gifted and helpful you are. Learning so much. Love and light, Brenda

@BarbaraHeffernan 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Brenda! :)

@medhachakraborty7474 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🌈

@BarbaraHeffernan 2 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome!

@Snowystardust12 8 ай бұрын

I really appreciates being reminded to be a good friend to myself. I would love to hear you speak about the various cognitive distortions more often. They are eye opening and like purification for the mind.

@staceystace_ 3 жыл бұрын

I really needed this information. Thank you for making this video.

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome!

@annali6848 Жыл бұрын

I really enjoy your video. I learn a lot from them. I also like your calming voice. Keep it going~

@hsmint Жыл бұрын

Thank you Barbara

@BarbaraHeffernan Жыл бұрын

You are welcome! I hope it is helpful!

@jasminedsilva9087 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you thank you thank you!! You’re helping me help myself ❤️ Priceless gift.

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome

@edithruflo1517 3 жыл бұрын

You explained the Cognitive Distortions really well! Thank you! You deserved millions of subscribers!

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks! Hopefully I am on my way :)! Feel free to share with anyone you feel might benefit!

@anasamer7223 3 жыл бұрын

OMG! I can't express how happy I am to have stumbled onto your channel! Your explanation is really simple and effective. Keep up the good work!

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for letting me know! Welcome and I hope you continue to enjoy the channel!

@estherloh9791 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you. I learn so much from you Barbara. I will continue to watch your videos. Take care

@BarbaraHeffernan 4 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome!

@kaentboy5142 4 жыл бұрын

Brilliant content! It’s really assisting me in dealing with anxiety. Thank you, Ms Heffernan 😎

@BarbaraHeffernan 4 жыл бұрын

Awesome! I am so happy to hear that. And thanks for letting me know! :)

@28.bijeetborah11 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot

@TeachResource 3 жыл бұрын

Boy am I glad I stumbled on your channel. I'll be tuning in to see all the other videos. This video puts everything I've been experiencing and especially during a pandemic in perspective. I am so so grateful!

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

So glad you found the channel and are finding it helpful! Welcome :) I truly hope the videos are helpful.