May Allah give her the highest Jannah.

اللهم آمين

Ameen Ya Rabbal'alamin

Ina lillah wa ina illah raji'oun May Allah according her the Firdaws And gives you sabr amine

AMEEN

@@shabanayasmin3075 I mean women are the leaders of the household not women

Maybe that is why husband's obligations are mentioned first, because if a husband brings enough money no wife should be angry. 😉

We are about to get divorced because my husband doesn't want to be responsible as a man of the house.he is pushing me to go to work and pay for everything and insults me and my parents and when I told him for the sake of Allah and the two kids we have together be a real man and treat me with respect and share responsibilities with me ,he just grabbed his own stuff and left so that he doesn't do his duty to care for his wife and kids.there is a saying :happy wife happy life.of the man takes care of his wife she will eventually be his Janna and happiness.

Yeah... And how you show your anger has to be well thought... Like talking to him first for like a week... And if he keeps repeating it, the wife has the right to talk to her family about it and let them talk to him... And even if he doesn't give her her rights, she can go to the court ... And if he has no intention of giving her rights she can even ask for divorce but if she wants to live with him despite all that, thats her choice and all she can do as long as she is married to him is to give him advice..

As you can see it is not that important to shout at or argue with the husband ... Islam gives all woman the right to get what they deserve... But in the right way ... And with patience...it's not wrong to get angry., But getting angry and not having any control or having arguments with the husband and even when an unexpected argument occur not stopping when you realise that it's going too far, that's what should not be done...

@@hoshie5788 well... Not it my case ... So I suppose there must be in laws who aren't as nosy and doesn't want to ruin marriages

mashallah sister

Mashallah I pray Insha'Allah I can be like your husband to my wife

@@smhashimnasser5619 Insha Allah. May Allah gives all of us a paradise in this world too, which mean a peaceful family and a marriage that makes our heart content. Alhamdulillah It's been 15 years now, I hope it'll last to Jannah. Aamiiin.

ameen

MashaAllah TabarakAllah May Allah Bless You Both With The Best Of Duniya & Akhirah Aameen Ya Rabb ❤

Yes

Alhamdulillah. Same here.

Yes

Me....always! Salaams and duas from Pretoria, South Africa❤

Me

I have a problem with that. it's really difficult for women to break out of abusive situations. I'm sure it's difficult for men too. I won't go into details here, but victim blaming is just wrong in so many ways.

@@Ladycooks I agree with you. It takes self esteem and confidence to leave a relationship. But abusers generally take this away slowly and progressively, and it's usually not recognized until the self esteem is gone. There are so many psychological games played. The abuser is guilty and responsible. The victim needs help. May Allah give us guidance.🙏

So true! May Allah give those victims strength to stand up for themselves and guide them to make the right decisions

But most women in Desi culture accept abuse as they are misguided by telling that tolerating abuse is normal thing what a good women should do.

@@Ladycooks I don't think he was victim blaming. To me it seemed more like he's trying to warn/advise you of the sufferings you and your children will keep facing and so that is why it's really important to find help somehow. Yes it's hard for victims of abuse to find help but it just seemed like a friend telling you that you need to get out for your own sake and your kids' sake.

I feel your pain

I understand that sis Tell him ok I will work and provide for the family but he has to take ur place and take care of the children and cook and clean That is when he will understand ur feelings

it's not just Desi, or Muslims, or a nationality... there is a breakdown of society and much of it comes from the psychology of marketing and brainwashing of what is success here in the duniya.

Sister...all men are not the same.I belong to a well off family married to a middle class man.But my husband never considered meas a burden.He bear all my expenses.And Alhamdulillah I have a teenage son who says that we won't take any dowry from his future wife as he believes he will earn by himself and bear all the expenses of his future wife...This really makes me happy.

I hear you dear sister. The world at large need to raise better men. Most men just want slaves and are doing it in a little bit better way by marrying; but still with that marriage, they become so controlling, and demand the women to take care of them, bear children, raise the kids, clean the home, cook and on top of that be there for them whenever they need you! Who have time for that??? I have done most of the work I mentioned for my dear parents and I owed it to them and a whole lot more fpr I can never ever repay my parents! To conclude, I must say that there are some few good men out there but hard to find

Good graduation may Allah keep guiding u and many others

Thank you and (shukran). :)

Asallamu Alaikum Congratulations on becoming a muslim. All praise is due to ALLAH the almighty. Alhamdulilah you have found the truth, May Allah strengthen your Faith and bless you with all the good things in life.

Welcome to islam dear. You have no clue how happy I am to read you're new to islam. You guys are who Allah talks about in the quran. Those who conciously find the deen, you guys are resilient, brave and honest. Allah showed you the way and you were sincere enough to take it. I love for Allah 💛 BarakAllah feeeki.

Thank you for feeling happy for me. Yes Allah showed me the way and without questions I followed because I know it is God's will for me. I feel humble and thankful to Allah (fake).

Ameen

Had to say, that cap fits great on your head brother

M4T jazak Allah. Thank you brother 💖

@@rjabdul3551 ❤ wa iyyakum

Ameen

InshaAllah

Gray Kin she looks like a feminazi modernist thing. What are you expecting.

Such powerfull words

*100%*

That would make us children. Just children in big bodies. This is sad.

And That needs to change

Straight path Dawah tv Ameeen

insha'Allah...pray for us unmarried girls too💞 my Allah get away the fítnah from us

Provider and protector is only Allah subhanawatala.

@@user-ib2lk2hb2i may Allah reward you with a husband that will give you a lambo as mahr.

Ameen

Rahmatullaah Alqaasim I pray you succeed to be the best wife for your husband. Aameen

Same here

@@nadeemanaz9572 assalam alaikum and I'm from India🇮🇳

Me toooo

But that's not his wish. I think Nouman wants us to practice what he preaches!

Me too

May Allah put barakah in your wealth :)

Give in charity, I promise you you'll be amazed insha'Allah. Another thing is make istigfar as it says in the Quran that your wealth will increase.

kingofthe hill 123 this is satan try to make conflicts between spouses subhanallah im glad you realized it ... keep reading surat albaqarah or run it at the house or car ( we do me and husband always to keep the house and ourselves out of shyateen) alhamdulilah... may allah bless you

Hahahahaha, gd one bro

As a woman who has struggled with husbands who did not pull their duty, may I say lots of respect to you!!

Keke i was thinking the same. Ill keep in my mind

Same here!! I m praying since years now!! May Allah accept our duas and grant us spouse that will be coolness of eyes!! Aameen! May Allah make it easy for us!! Aameen

OK best future student husband, lol

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I won't agree

I wished there's more muslimahs like you sis, who look in themselves within first before pointing fingers May Allah Ar Rahman bless you with your doas, Ameen ya Rabb'al alameen

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I know right !!!

And about the mahr? Mahr is being neglected in Brazil by so manu muslim brothers, specially when they end up marrying women who are not muslimahs. It is a real shame!

Ninevah Barreiros alot of people from the sub-continent are either not islamically educated enough or purposely do not give mahr right after. Like Ustadh says here they might talk about giving it 20 years down the line. It so important for people to first educate themselves about marriage within the islamic realm before getting married.

Same is my family's case. My mother does inside and the outside. While my father does not even cooperate in the house chores.

@Gray Kin You can make it work if you're responsible, not wanting to marry just because the mahr is too expensive just means that you don't want the responsibility.

first of all islam never asked women to work. Some women want to get into workplaces then complain their husband don't help at home. like wait, who said you should work and still depending on the husband to finance you? normally most women who work has in mind to balance the financial situation of the family. you get yourself into something islam never asked you to do, then complain about husbands lol!!!

Don't be so.. excited... not all the males fear Allah in regard to women

Aameen ya Rabb, and may Allah ya kareem bless your marriage, keep it safe and guide us all in the right path and help you make the right decisions, akh. Verily with every hardship, Allah ya Rahman will bless us with ease. Stay strong, akh.. wasalam..

Ahmad Ziaye Ameen

Ameen 🙏🏼❤️

Ameen

Ameen

May Allah make it easy for you guys.

@@jazib8589 Ameen

There must be fights in any family...but Don't fight in front of your children this will affect them badly.. i happen to come from a totally non stable family ...🌷🌷

Take care of your family especially your wife, if you make her happy she will make your life happy, I am talking as a woman and from the way we usually think. Only treat her the right Islamic way, no magic, but not the way most of our generation brought by. May Allah bless your family

Inshallah Allah shall accept your duas. May you find peace

I wish to be a good husband insallah

Inshallah

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Alhamdulilah & Ameen to your wonderful niyaats, sister..

Ameen. What a beautiful dua

Facts

Ashley, agreed. Honour killings are still legal in Saudi Arabia and Iran. And Tommy Robinson also had the right to speak up for rape victims.

@@nimrahkhan9105 honour killing is legal in saudi arabia? do you eat from your toilet each morning to vomit such bullshits??

May Allah make it easy for you

Sharing your exact situation sister. I also have a 5 month old daughter. And a husband 😂

Me too, it has gotten to the stage now, I would be happy if he ask for a divorce. When a woman is fed up that's it. Mines is emotionally and financially abuse and to top it off his got an anger problem. I hope it get better for both you ladies.

Same.I am expecting and he haas hot me thrice in 3 months because of his mother.His mother is so so controlling.I am not allowed to sit with him

So sorry it will be fine Insha Allah

& u too, sis.. may Allah ya Rahman ya Rahim bless u with the highest of jannah, Ameen

AMEEN

Lol no you still do what you are suppose to do even tho he is not. Alhamdulliah 🥰 sister 🤣

@@Kedda486 But how long can that last? It will a matter of time before the wife just bursts.

The wife is not obliged to fulfil her duties if the husband is not fulfilling his She can if she wants to but she doesn't owe her husband anything This goes both ways

I guess that's one way of not being accountable for one's shortcomings.

We have them offcourse but maybe they are not so well known

Well said bro.i'm also from Bangladesh

Uuy

InshAllah in near future someone will come by the grace of Almighty Allah

@@hafsamubasheer6930 Ameen!

@Angjellushe that's what boggles the mind..it simply doesn't make sense..

gogo dodo We shouldn't say that to the women of this dunya. Jannah is only for the pure.

You know, the thing is that women want to follow a man who has a purpose in life, who has a higher goals, purpose, meaning in life... Thus she will feel that her life has a meaning... She doesn't want a man whose whole life is just about her, and her mood, or desires etc. Women will respect a man who have a mission in life and strives to accomplish them and at the same time he takes care of her needs, and gives his attention and gives her a feeling that he loves her despite of her shortcomings....

@gogo dodo Did u noticed that she's only talking abt her 'needs' akh, lol nothing abt being obedient to the husband or whatsoever. Whatever you've been saying right from the start is true, akhi. Ma shaa allah, Evidence. So scary, she mentions nothing abt islam or husband's or wife's right. Its abt me, me, me. Why do muslim brothers gets trapped marrying such so called 'muslimahs' above i wonder with the - You have to take care of me but u cant tell me what to do crap because im so call 'independent'. She doesnt care abt any of his rights. She's not completing his deen or encouraging him, working as a team. Its irrelevant to them. None of that. Our Al Ameen asked us to choose either 4 traits, and if you chose wrongly you marriage is dust. Choose wisely brothers, choose wisely. Nothing last, not looks, money, status. At the end of ur life, you have to answer to Allah ya Malek and ur material possesions, dunia success or ur feminist movement aint going to help. Nope. Dont get married to em, once they get single, old mayb they will change their perceptions then and understand the value of a gd brother who's purpose is akhirat and not dunia. We're not in need of such materialistic 'respect', move aside. I feel so sad for the muslim brothers..

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salaam where are you located

Your profile picture makes some of men temptations higher

Assalamu Alaikum Sister, plz change your profile picture to something halal .

@@chummychimchim6734 walaikum assalam, I wonder y your comment is soo negetive I understand am not wearing scarf in the pic, but since you could sense something bad I may happen to change inshahallah. But I do not understand other than my face wat else is posted n seen. M being told as something is too revealing.

Aameen