Personally I go with the rule; if my friends are too drunk to get home safely by themselves, It's my responsibility to keep them safe. That's What we do in my friend group - always keep one semi sober friend, to watch out for the others

"How drunk is 2 drunk" When you start making battlefront 2 a pay to win game

If the person is not reciprocating your affection, they do not consent. Drunk or not drunk.

I’ve never heard of “ ask for Angela” but sounds sensible

Speaking as a man, I'm been in a situation where I've been way too drunk to consent but a girl hasn't taken no for an answer.

Good thing I watched this, It sorted out any confusion I had from the time I got drunk and a girl had her way with me and I couldn't consent.

Be smart and aware of your surroundings. Never go out by yourself, always tell others where you are going. never get so wasted or high that you cannot control yourself or you lose consciousness. Unfortunately there will always terrible people. Be safe. ❤️

Regret is not rape

A couple of months back i saw a guy almost carrying this stumbling drunk woman out of the club, the bouncers watched it happen without asking if they knew each other even when she fell over, she was a total mess and gurning and didnt even have any shoes on and he was still tryna flirt with her when he didnt even seem drunk. I went and grabbed her and asked if she knew him and she was like 'nah hes gonna be my boyfriend for the night'. Alarm bells went off and I took her back with me and gave her a sofa to sleep on, but i was fuming how noone reacted to what was happening when they obviously didnt know each other and she had obviously lost her friends. Who is protecting these vulnerable men and women from getting assaulted when bouncers kick them out of the club for being too drunk, but wont help them find their friends inside to look after them

1:55 did she say she told her boyfriend..she was going to another guys house..🤨🤨.did I hear that right

‘The way I dress does not mean yes’ what a genius saying!

Too drunk is when you lose the ability to stand up. It would take a DANGEROUS amount of alcohol to get ME to that point though.

incredible topic. thanks for doing your research to enlighten us 👌💯

“We’ll watch a video”

I’m so saddened by the comments already. The entire point of this video is to raise awareness & to discuss the topic, but so many are doing exactly what the police officers & the victims want to stop; victim blaming / ‘slut’ shaming. It stops both men & women coming forward because of the backlash of nasty tongues from people who have (thankfully) never found themselves in such a predicament. It doesn’t matter what your views are on how women dress, or how much alcohol men & women consume is, the point still stands that if a person is so inebriated they can barely walk let alone talk, they aren’t in a position to consent to sex. If someone is forcing themselves on another person when they’re drifting in & out of conscious, it’s rape. Part of growing up for a lot of people is being free spirited enough to make mistakes & learning from them. Getting blotto’ with friends, throwing up & having a 3 day hangover isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, but you live & learn. You learn your limits, you know when it’s not wise to mix drinks, you know that vodka really doesn’t sit well with you; & as easy as it is to say ‘STOP DRINKING’, it’s still their right to choose whether they wish to drink, that doesn’t mean they’re asking to be raped. Surround yourself with sensible friends, learn your limits, always have a taxi number or a ‘safe’ friend on speed dial (who you know will take care of you if necessary), have fun but be safe. And please. Don’t victim blame. There is never an OK situation (whether male or female) to force yourself upon another person. Drunk or sober. Ever.

Our bodies are our responsibility no one else's. We need to stop putting ourselves in reckless situations then use a serious word to nullify our recklessness and guilt.

I cant believe the amount of people especially women who shrug off inappropriate behavior as "just club culture" if i wanna go out dancing i shouldn't have to worry about being grabbed by a stranger out of no where. No one should have to deal with that men or women.

Honestly there are A LOT of people, both men and women, who don't really understand what consent is and we need to be educating people more. We need to start discussing these sorts of things in schools. I had a wonderful teacher who covered all these sorts of things in health class, including the warning signs of abusive relationships, safe sex, etc.

A thing that bothers me about sex Ed (at least in Sweden) they never talked about consent. Only info we where given was about violent rape when there’s a woman unconscious. Nothing about other types of rape.

You shouldn’t be grabbing anyone in a club on the arse or wherever. It’s not something people should be used to because you wouldn’t do it in a street because you know it’s wrong but as soon as they know they can get away with doing it funny how it’s all okay Shows the true character of people 👏🏻

Always good to have that one sober friend to pull the reigns in 😂🤣

Ive had it when I'm the sober one and a guy has been trying to get it on and I said to him "no you're too drunk" and he got so offended about it, but I did the right thing as I would HATE it if the situation was swapped and he didn't say no.

Years ago I went back to a girls flat, she seemed too drunk to be able to consent, so I made sure she got in bed and I left. I saw her next week and she couldn't really get why I never slept with her. I told her that i wanted too but she was too out of it to consent. She actually got really emotional and thanked me for thinking of her wellbeing. We ended up sleeping with eachoher that night but we was both a lot less drunk and she was able to properly consent. People if you are going to have sex with someone make sure you ask them to consent, even if you believe its a given, just to cover yourself. It may seem wiered but its better to have absolute clarification. Some people may have regret afterwards and cry rape even if it is not true, so make sure you don't get caught up in it. Also remember a person can change there mind at the last. Be safe out there guys and girls.

It's important to educate people to stay safe and be responsible

Regret definitely is not the same as rape. Impaired reasoning should always mean a "no" even if the person say "yes" and taking advantage is dubious as a right.

This is really sad, I am so glad I don’t drink alcohol.... feel saddened by this, woman are raped and they are questioning whether it was actually rape or not!? Or whether it was slightly consensual, gosh what a world.

why can't guys just tell if a girl is too drunk and not take advantage of her? 🙁

A lot of this is so one sided.

When people don’t want it to happen it’s not consensual

"I gave him consent but I didn't really want to.." WTF😂

Answer: Too drunk to give consent is when the person, male or female, is unconscious and not able to give verbal consent or reciprocate. The three cases in the video are examples of this: the first said "no", the second was passed out, the third lost the motor skills to respond. However, if the person was simply so drunk that it affected their behaviour, memory and judgment, it IS consensual if the person responded positively. Regretting it or forgetting it is NOT a justified reason to cry rape! In any case, both sides of the story should be considered so no one is falsely accused.

I once drank half a bottle of wine and then took a cigarette. It made me so I'll that I ended up throwing up and basically couldn't walk. I was so afraid that the guy who I'd been making out with for fun would take advantage of my curremt state, but he only helped me by holding my holding my hair back while I trew up, helped me get to the couch to lie down then brought me water and food. A half bottle of wine is usually just enough to make me tipsy but that afternoon it was enough to make me so drunk that I could barely keep my body up by itself. I feel like I was lucky that day. But if the guy did take advantage of me. Would it be my fault for not eating enough and forgetting my low tolerance for nicotine?

A lot of this is confusing. But what isnt confusing is when someone says "no". Feel like thats pretty straight forward.

another reason to smoke weed n not drink

1:00 looooooool I live 5 mins away from here

how is a guy, who most likely is also drunk himself, meant to judge how wasted another person is or isn't, that's down to the individual to look after themselves. I've definitely had times where ive woken up with a complete blackout of the previous night but my friends all said I seemed completely coherent and stable at the time and I was dancing and walking without falling over and chatting to everyone and had in-depth logical conversations, so were surprised I was so wasted; so if I'd met a guy in that state he wouldn't have known just how drunk I really was. there is a huge difference between getting into bed uninvited and having sex with a girl who is clearly unconscious or paralytic, and going home with a girl who seems really into you and really happy and chatty. just because she wakes up sober in a different frame of mind and regrets it does not mean that at the time she didn't want it and that the guy raped her. also, the girls word shouldn't automatically be believed over the man's and the possibility of her lying should always be investigated.

Did a course on consent and once u have taken even one drink u cannot give consent

Just remember in UK and US law, it is impossible for a woman to rape a man. The definition of rape is "forced penetration of the victim". There is no double standard at all...

You are not to blame the scumbag who did that to you is to blame! !! You have admitted to it and your a very strong woman so much respect to you girl !! Xx

All I'm going to say is that I am so glad that I don't like drinking. Love Microbrews, hate the after buzz part. Drunk for me is a sloppy, low high. Definitely not judging, to each their own and things effect people differently. I just personally set up like a 2 drink max for a 4 hour period if I'm out, and sometimes that's too much. Stay safe!

If u can't walk without falling ur too drunk

I remember as a 13 year old being chased up a road by a guy who began by flashing me. I jumped on a bus and told the driver (even tho I had no money). I'd been working in a stable all day. Fairly sure it wasn't what I was wearing....

Your body is your responsibility, this is true both for men and women. If you're afraid of doing something you'd regret later, just don't drink that much, it's as simple as that

Is that the reason the alcohol ad says drink responsibly?

The way I see it If the person’s too drunk to drive, they’re too drunk to consent

1:07 the guy was blaming himself for being too drunk too

"How drunk is too drunk" releasing the infinity war trailer *WAY* before it comes out

"Just because she's drunk, she's not asking for it. Just because she's wearing a short dress, she's not asking for it. Just because she's weak and vulnerable, she's not asking for it." PREACH👍

well these women are to be blamed for they in the environment and get pissed if they know to well the situation don’t drink

Your still responsible for your actions while intoxicated, if your your kill someone while your are intoxicated while behind the wheel is it still your fault?

3 bottles of wine "suddenly hit me" when I was sitting on his bed. Can't a reporter call bullshit when she hears it?

We have to admit there are some monster in our society who try to harm other and its our responsbility to protect ourselves.i know there is law and other thing but first we have to be responsible.

Forgive me if I am the only one that thinks this, but why would you go to a guys house youve just met if you have a boyfriend ??? Im sorry but it just confuses me.

Main focus being the males fault... not always

I dont drink much on nights out, usually only enjoy drinks for the flavour but dislike the 'drunk' sensation, I always end up as that one sober friend lol

jesus that sexual assault worker literally blames the victim so badly. Imagine going through all that and then going to get help and basically being told they shouldnt have got that drunk because it makes them too vulnerable???

If she had a boyfriend why did she go back with him?

the first woman tho , she had a boyfriend and she willingly got really drunk and went to some random dudes house , WTF ?

I always go with my friends that are heavy drinkers. I don't drink, but I look after them. If some weird guy approaches I give him the bad look.

That chick with the boyfriend going to some randoms for a bit of Netflix and chill lol

In my opinion is everyone ask why you are so drunk? Why they dressed a certain way ? Etc rather than why does this person feel so entitled they take without consent. Why can't a female wear a certain type of clothing, or walk down a poorly lit street or, go out for drinks and though I'm not promoting excess drinking the fear of maybe we'll be raped should not have to cross our minds. I/ we shouldn't have to live our lives thinking this action could potentially lead to me being raped. Attack those who are unable to comprehend no means no & silence isn't a yes

There‘s a difference though, and when it happens to you, you know it. I was 16 when I was sexually assaulted in a club by a guy more than 10 years older than me, and he knew I was that young because he was a „friend“ of one of my then best friends boyfriend. I had never seen either of them before, I only knew their age name and where they came from basically. To this day I still don’t know If I was drugged or ‚just’ completely intoxicated. He got us all drinks, constantly, I accepted, but at one point I just became absolutely unable to speak and move my body the way I wanted it to. I was completely drunk to the point of stumbling. He dragged me to the dancefloor where he stuck his hands down my pants. I know that if I had been concious at that point I would’ve stopped him, and that’s the point. I was out of it to the point of not being able to talk correctly or stand up and also scared. I was very scared, that sort of scared that makes you immobile. I just remember bits of what happened afterwards but I remember he dragged me out of the club first behind some cars standing there and then behind a shed that was somewhere close to the club. I remember just not registering what was happening, but there were people and he had his hand in my underwear and would try to pull down my clothes and all I could hear was people sniggering around us. I didn‘t even feel helpless or afraid, because I was so out of it. I felt like a marionette honestly. Not thinking anything. I blamed myself for years, I was scared to death anytime someone would mention STIs next to me because it would trigger my memory to the evening because I just felt so dirty inside and out because of what happened. even though I knew that he couldn‘t have spread anything to me because he didn’t have a condom with him and that prevented my first time being non-consensual which is crazy. after he saw that though he turned me around and wanted to stick his dick up my ass completely unprepared, which obviously does not work. He let off after that. Honestly horrible doesn‘t even describe the feeling of constantly blaming yourself for something like that. he almost surely doesn‘t even remember anything about me or is the sort of person that think it‘s all fine, even if he knew how young I was. Idk i‘m getting dizzy thinking about it, it‘s just one of those things I stored away somewhere very deep in my brain and not let it out unless I see videos like this and people saying if you drink you‘re automatically willing to have sex with anyone and everyone, which is a weird and incredibly stupid thought chain

I keep looking for a scenario I relate to and I can’t. My story is a little complex and I wish I could tell someone about it.

so many comments are so upsetting because people watch this and still dont understand

smoke green then this wont happen simple \m/

I cannot stand the comments telling people to simply not drink and nothing will happen. People, both men and women, can get raped with no alcohol involved so the rapists are the problem, not alcohol.

What is the track at 11:23?

"She" "Her" "Girl"

how about drinking less?

Too drunk is when you can't get it up!

The blonde one chose to go back to a guy's house before the alcohol hit her, so I get the confusion as to why she drank 3 bottles of wine with a man and go to his house despite having a bf. The second girl that was in her own bed with friends over and a guy let himself in to her room...there's no blurred lines there!!

i feel shes a bit biased to the side of the women

l got so drunk once when l was working in spain that l decided to take my bedcovers and sleep on the beach so l wouldnt miss the sun, l woke up sweating with 1 leg sunburned out the covers and ppl taking pictures of me😂

Unfortunately we live in a real world where there are bunch of perpetrators constantly hunting for their next victims. You can't rely on others to be the look out always. Be smart and protect yourself.

i'm too drunk every day

Yh band alcohol problem solved

The blond chubby girl said that she had a boyfriend but still drunk 3 bottles of wine with another man and went to his house and she said she only first became properly drunk when she went to his room what did she expect to happen when she went back to his house with him?

Poor poor girl 😢💔

8:33 "At the moment we're going out to the home address of the suspect. As a matter of urgency, we need to find out where he is. We know that he lives there with his mum." So a real scary character, this.

So i can kill someone while being drunk and blame the alcohol??? Sweet

Answer: even if a girl is “to” drunk, wearing a short skirt or asking for it... you should teach men that women aren’t sexual objects and they have the right to have consent too.

Moral of the story: don’t drink so much that you can’t even walk or talk anymore

At 3:50 he says ‘it’s not just women’ which is true but it doesn’t only happen to men in an ‘lgbt venue’ either which is what he said too. You can be in a standard commercial nightclub and be harassed by women if you’re a man (not matter how rare it can be)... He made a good point but I just thought it was worth saying that too

Telling people to not drink so much to put them in that situation is not victim blaming, its called personal responsibility. Which will help the situation and people affected 1000x more than dodging the issue ever will. Everyone can make a conscious decision to try and not put themselves in that situation.

Being drunk is no excuse to cheat

What's a weekend without memory loss

What disgusts me the most is in lots of these cases their 'friends left them. How can yoy leave your friend whrn they are that drunk! Go out together go home together. Girl code! X

Guys who take advantage are dogs, women who get that wasted are idiots.

Bruh why is it 75%woman 24% LGBTQ and 1% men

A woman (or man) can choose to drink too much for their own good but they never consent to assault! The person who targets them knows exactly what they are doing which is why they don't go for sober victims - they can fight and stand up in court remembering details. The attacker is a PREDATOR - predators like weak prey to make their action safe from harm of a fight back. Just as if you leave your purse in an unlocked car; the person removing it from the car to use is still a thief. There is no right to take property or person. It is assault and the predator is always 100% at fault. I have been so fortunate in my past drunken states to have never been preyed upon, but once it almost happened, and it gives me chills to hear these women. The "friend of a friend" I hadn't interacted with much at a house gathering (not even party) sought me out as I lay on a sofa in a separate room, after having been sick due to someone pouring me a drink I had no idea had so much gin in it, he tried to feel me up, and I had to tell in as much as I could, to leave me alone, TWICE saying f*ck off, I had just been sick for God's sake, leave me alone. I was able to raise my voice in disgust just enough he was worried someone would hear next door and left me alone. I would not have been able to fight him if no-one might hear - he'd hoped I was properly out. This is how shit predators are, yet so many still blame the victim because then it means it can't happen to them.

I've been accidentally drunk, and I kept singing to Mr Blue sky then one second later realising what the fuck then basically singing. It's not very enjoyable to be honest..

No means no! Drunk means no. Cant see how people can sleep with a drunk guy or girl. I rather go home.

Why would her boy friend allow her to go to another fellas house 😂😂

Reasons why I stay away from drugs and alcohol

the fact that people still drink alcohol😶😶

Good thing I don’t drink 👍🏻✌🏻

The point with this whole thing is not to tell women not to drink, especially when men go out and get blackout drunk and 9/10 times they will be fine. Instead of teaching women to stay at home and not drink, why not teach men about boundaries and not to be rapists?

As a adult everyone knows what is good or bad.If anyone try to fall in bad must see bad..As a girl with respect hv boundaries not to cross in life . everyone will respect and u can save urself too..

So if u go out drinking ur not drunk but bit tipsy does that mean u cant do anything with the women/man

I don't even need to watch this.. I know it's going to be men bashing coming from this channel