Why am I so lazy - and is that a bad thing? - CrowdScience podcast, BBC World Service

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Lazy. Unmotivated. Procrastinating. If those are words you’re used to hearing from your inner critic, you are not alone.
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Take CrowdScience listener Laurie. On her days off she loves to relax on the sofa, watch TV, put off chores and generally do as little as possible. Meanwhile, she sees other family members and colleagues apparently buzzing with energy: Going the extra mile at work, taking up hobbies and going to the gym. Why, she asks, is she so lazy?
CrowdScience turns to experts to find out whether or not so-called "laziness" is a fundamental part of biology or psychology and why some people have more energy than others. We offer a few tips for boosting energy and motivation. Or maybe Laurie is just being a bit too hard on herself?
0:00 Meet CrowdScience listener Laurie Douglas, an intensive care nurse in the US
0:32 Laurie wants to know: Why am I so lazy?
1:50 Why Laurie feels like she's lazy compared to others
3:53 Why the L-word has negative connotations
5:58 Laziness or procrastination?
8:27 Is there a biological reason for how much energy we have?
10:30 Is there a link between energy and metabolism?
11:24 Environmental factors and energy levels
12:57 Laurie's job as an intensive care nurse
15:06 How active does Laurie's job keep her?
17:21 Learning to be self-compassionate
19:26 Strategies to help boost your energy and motivation
21:00 What is it like to be an energetic person? Start-up CEO Akhil Aryan lives in Mumbai
25:24 Mumbai has one of the longest work hours in the world
27:30 Why Dr Devon Price is against the idea of laziness
31:39 Burnout and compassion fatigue
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@pumpthewater419 3 ай бұрын

I’m too lazy to watch the whole video but I’m just glad someone is rethinking my laziness.

@Dylanshandle Ай бұрын

That's funny

@evamaria7298 Ай бұрын

Ha! Very good 😂

@jemjem9699 Ай бұрын

😅😅

@lindazhang8004 Ай бұрын

lol

@MegaAries83 Ай бұрын

😂

@springagain111 3 ай бұрын

life passes by, when I don't have energy. It´s not laziness, its fear, anxiety eats all energy, and person feel tired, and want to be at home, in quiet place.

@threadbearr8866 3 ай бұрын

Do you get overwhelmed easy? Have a hard time remembering where you put things? You may just have adhd.

@entertainment6630 3 ай бұрын

Spot on…!

@springagain111 3 ай бұрын

@@threadbearr8866 no I don't have ADHD, hyperactivity is not about me at all. I’m very quiet in front of people, with high anxiety, a little socially phobic... and it eats up all my energy. And this slows me down from being active; I have no energy left. Before I didn't know why I'm always tired. But now I know...

@CheonWoongKyoo 3 ай бұрын

😊

@mkhanman12345 3 ай бұрын

@@threadbearr8866 do you have a degree

@tinabraxton4906 3 ай бұрын

A lot of the people I've seen who are busy all the time are not doing things that need to be done. They clean things that aren't dirty, rumage through things that are not causing a problem, and just just burn up nervous energy.

@foreverstriving4u 3 ай бұрын

Facts. I'm the evidence.😢

@The_Apollo_Show 3 ай бұрын

So true. This used to be me and now I see it so obviously I’m others and they don’t seem to realise it!

@questionmark9819 3 ай бұрын

I think this is guilt passed down from generation to generation etc., the other one is cleanliness is next to godliness.......please just chill out people, those spoons don't need bleaching or other pointless tasks.

@MissAnn-xu9oo 3 ай бұрын

If nervous energy they need to burn the energy. Better for everyone. Just stand to the side.

@questionmark9819 3 ай бұрын

@@MissAnn-xu9oo if they have too much energy then maybe cardio? Someone like that in the house is annoying and disruptive to others, the same way when someone is in a bad mood and it creates an atmosphere.....go for a run or something but just stop being inconsiderate with others in your home.

@MomoDuJardin 3 ай бұрын

My Mum labelled me as "born lazy" , I used to think I really was. Now at 40 I know I just have a low energy level and I need to pace myself. It's totally ok!

@imrockygorden 3 ай бұрын

😊

@yengsabio5315 3 ай бұрын

Were you ever diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome?

@threadbearr8866 3 ай бұрын

You should also look into an adhd diagnosis.

@annnee6818 3 ай бұрын

@@yengsabio5315 that's a different thing.

@annnee6818 3 ай бұрын

@@threadbearr8866 also a different thing. There's other symptoms

@farrahlipsham5533 3 ай бұрын

Comparisons to other people can be our biggest downfall. You tend to only see what you don't do, or what you aren't - not what you DO do and who you are.

@The_Apollo_Show 3 ай бұрын

I do this! Then I focus my attention on all my achievements and all the good I have done in the world, and it helps

@nikita_kozlov 3 ай бұрын

Yes! Therapy really taught me to look at my own progress and compare to myself in the past.

@tashamclean 2 ай бұрын

I agree with your comment but also giggled at "dodo". 🤭

@33Jenesis 3 ай бұрын

I like to think, read, learn, and do something creative or repetitive on my own. I am a night owl, too. I tend to clean house and do laundry once in a while (keep things orderly and have a lot of clothes). My goal has always been “no school no work no busy life”. I retired early and now live my ideal life. I am really at peace being a lazy hermit.

@festerbestertester1284 3 ай бұрын

Same here. Yay for us!

@mochipii 3 ай бұрын

No you're not. Your 1st paragraph doesn't describe lazy.

@velmuralgs 3 ай бұрын

@@mochipiiTo people that don't like to read, readers seem "lazy". I love reading, it's my favorite thing in the world, and whenever I sit or lay down to read, my partner can't stand it. For them we're doing nothing.

@imalrockme 3 ай бұрын

I'm sorry but I discovered I have every single trait of a person with ADHD. To make things really worse I have a very stressfull job - nothing close to 9 -5 and don't exactly have a salary. My place is on the verge of hoarding, but I really love to read, watch movies, listen and learning. Everything else is tough, and even my work shores are resenting.@@mochipii

@clair233 3 ай бұрын

My dream life

@kierlak 3 ай бұрын

As an introvert I love "doing nothing". I like slow/intentional living. I am also into MBTI which helped with understanding myself (I tested as an INFJ). And I noticed other personalities e.g. ESTPs ENTJs they work a LOT. I would never be able to live life at this pace. We're not lazy. We need to understand ourselves, there may be so many things behind all of this. Can be stress, can be anxiety, depression, ADHD, CPTSD, OCD, physical symptoms, we may be introvert, we may be experiencing burnout, maybe we don't eat well, not sleeping well, spending too much time on our phone which takes away dopamine, maybe we have unmet needs (e.g.close connections with others) etc etc etc. It's our toxic culture that tells us we're lazy. It's important that we follow our own path, we treat ourselves with acceptance and compassion ❤ Comparison is a thief of joy. Live your life at your own pace ❤

@libbybaker86 2 ай бұрын

I'm an estp but I also procrastinate at home and worry a lot. Also I have B12 deficiency and possibly ADHD so just all over the shop really

@lyudmilashmigol813 3 ай бұрын

It's not laziness, it's something going on in you body( inflammation, constant stress ect.) You body trying to protect itself. I know ot from personal experience. After years of pain, sleepless nights I had steroid shot done in my hip. Righ away I felt like a new person. Waking up 6 in a morning, refreshed , full of energy and doing declatering in my house all day long.

@ritamccomas9271 3 ай бұрын

I'm not lazy, I'm getting older and I'm done with pushing meself til I drop from exhaustion. Single again😊 and my kids are raised and on their own, it's my time now to do absolutely nothing if i don't want to 😊

@corvettesbme 3 ай бұрын

EXACTLY!❤

@kimdavis5403 3 ай бұрын

Bingo!!!

@kodwat2134 2 ай бұрын

This is Life❤❤

@jacquelynn2051 2 ай бұрын

This is me. I keep clear path, take out garbage and cook twice a week to last me. I still work as a nurse...at night so yeah once I get home, uniform off, shower, BED and leave me the hell alone...I live alone so no problems there.😊 I do a deep cleaning (shredding papers, clothes keep toss give about twice a year). That's it. That's all. Simple life. I am getting back into exercising because it makes sense.

@sarah2576 3 ай бұрын

4 twelve hour ICU shifts per week?!? I did 3 per week and I was zapped! Plus, when you deal with life and death regularly, everything else seems small and insignificant by comparison.

@mkhanman12345 2 ай бұрын

So how is that being lazy, lmao I think it’s better when you read about people in books. All this other random non sense makes no sense.

@dklee.01 2 ай бұрын

@@gallopinggoose7997med surg here. three days a week has me burnt out fr

@Squeegees123 Ай бұрын

Exactly. Doing overtime and wondering why she’s tired? The worst example they could use in this podcast is an ICU nurse. They’re always dying to do more to compete w each other

@Squeegees123 Ай бұрын

And a mom on that 🙄

@kambrose1549 3 ай бұрын

Lori is actually being responsible by relaxing and recouperating her strength. If she burnt out from overwork that would be terrible for her family her patients and work mates and herself. We all have to take care of ourselves properly. Im sure the kid who cleaned 5he room felt proud to help and to earn some pocketmoney too

@julianapicard8660 3 ай бұрын

I have been told that I’m lazy most of my life. Never more so than during the years when I was a single parent to two children, running a law, practice, working 80 to 100 hours a week, and spending my limited free time sitting on the couch doing literally nothing Other than thinking about my cases and all the stuff I should be doing. I have a nocturnal circadian rhythm which means that I struggle horribly to be awake in the morning. So my work hours tended to be something like 10 AM to three or 4 AM with almost 0 breaks. For decades, I slept 2 to 4 hours a night every single night of the week. And yet I would hear constantly that because I couldn’t make myself get up one hour into my sleep at 7 AM. I was lazy. It’s now my goal to practice laziness every single day.

@Battlekitten-sl2vn 3 ай бұрын

Hustle culture and the Protestant work ethic has done a number on us. Why does Laurie feel the need to push herself to keep up with others?

@lindsay6518 3 ай бұрын

Because christianity is poison for the mind!

@audy2174 3 ай бұрын

I think it's a response to this impossible situation that healthcare workers face where they clock in to crises each day and are expected to provide humanity, care, hope, etc. and so in that situation -someone who is going above and beyond - it's both SO appreciated because I'm sure SO MANY of the coworkers felt less cluttered, stressed out and super appreciative of that coworker but it is ALSO maybe guilt inducing because they know that person sacrificed for the good of the group and so pressures you to want to do more. I think acknowledging that, because I'm sure the person cleaning the shelves wasn't trying to induce guilt and was just trying to help others, so acknowledging the guilty feelings and using that to fuel the gratefulness and appreciation by expressing that to the person cleaning can resolve that (I think) at least it helps me in situations like that. Usually talking to them I realize the person who did that was also operating out of complete intolerance/couldn't take it anymore. I use that as a cue for me to figure out ways we can then maintain it at that level and the person TOTALLY warms up to that idea and feels the appreciation reciprocated, so it becomes a win win! TLDR: Use guilty feelings that signal you want to do MORE (to just change 1 thing - like in the example I gave, maintaining) is actually not really doing more at all - it's just making one change in the moment as a way to do LESS in the future! It is SO much easier to keep up maintenance than to have to do big overhaul stress level cleans!

@hhjhj393 3 ай бұрын

Oh dear god..... It's common sense dude. You have a short life, you can do things, it wont hurt you to do things, so do things??????????? This isn't rocket science. You are in a competition whether you like or not, and you are on a timer whether you like it or not. The rest of the world isn't lazy and they wont stand around waiting for you they will come take your lunch money. Blaming protestants LMAO, what a joke. This is how ALL ANIMALS are to survive dude. Do you think all that we have just appeared? No people had to work their asses off to create it.......... If you don't use your one life to do things you WILL regret it 100%. Almost all regrets I have in my life can be traced back to not giving that extra 10% and not pushing myself. You literally have NOTHING to lose by pushing yourself a little bit harder. I'm sorry but people today are just lazy and spoiled. People in the west are spoiled babies and everyone knows it, that's why they want to come to western countries and work you out of jobs, because they know you are weak.

@yesimemoin0935 2 ай бұрын

We're social animals. People react poorly to someone, especially a woman, who is more idle that they "should" be so there are consequences for not fitting the norm even if it's a stupid norm.

@kelkabot 2 ай бұрын

I love the warmth and kindness of the interviewer, along with his obviously quick mind. A great listen.

@user-of2co3ke5p 12 күн бұрын

Cringe

@1991-present 3 ай бұрын

People are TIRED.

@Ecclesiastes3v11 17 күн бұрын

😂 I know I am

@The_Apollo_Show 3 ай бұрын

I feel that, by pushing themselves so hard and constantly being busy and having an unhealthy level of stress, most people set bad examples of how we should live. A slower pace is healthier. I know this now I am recovering from CFS after pushing myself so hard in life.

@hongkonghottie Ай бұрын

i believe some folks just have a natural energy level

@ChristopherHaws90 2 ай бұрын

I feel the same way as Lori. I am a software developer who works 12h days regularly and I love working, but doing anything around the house is the absolute hardest thing for me to get done. I have months of unopened mail, trash piling up, dirty dishes, etc. By the end of the day, I am so mentally drained that the thought of doing any physical activity is just too overwhelming. I get between 500 and 1000 steps per day.

@dorotak6280 Ай бұрын

get a cleaner once a week. It will change your life. You will not want to live in a dirty place ever again.

@ChristopherHaws90 Ай бұрын

@@dorotak6280 I actually have one that comes every two weeks specifically to make myself pick up before she comes. It’s the only copping mechanism I’ve found that helps!

@user-ut8gh7ww9y Ай бұрын

You need to reprogram your life. It's senseless and illogical the way you have configured it.

@seasonmists 3 ай бұрын

I love this. It needs to be recognised, the unnecessary pressure often comes from one's own mindset. Once you realise Why you are procrastinating, you are saved from it.

@JC-od3tg 3 ай бұрын

I'd use the term "Energy efficient."

@polythewicked 3 ай бұрын

Before I got far into the video, I thought “it’s probably ADHD or some dopamine imbalance”. Could also be autistic inertia. I was raised by a type A personality mother who always told me I was lazy, so I grew up feeling immense guilt when I didn’t get anything done during the day. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized my mother was an outlier - and she often was “lazy” herself, but was demanding of others. I have to constantly remind myself that it’s okay to take a day off or to give yourself what you need at the time. I also have fibromyalgia, so imagine telling someone who’s chronically tired and in pain that they’re lazy.

@NerdyFeminist 3 ай бұрын

It sucks to be a low energy person. It leads to a boring life. I have no energry for anything except a boring low key job and essential house chores.

@Minney-Me 3 ай бұрын

You may be low in vitamin D ☀️

@klhawaii393 2 ай бұрын

Also a healthy diet can help with energy levels

@LH-yc5vy 3 ай бұрын

I have thought about the word lazy and thought it may apply to me only because I did not have a better word for how I felt at the time. But now I accept that I have more decision fatigue and introverted burnout stemming from my job and then combined with my procrastination, I feel unproductive. But I have to keep reminding myself of how much work that I really do in effort to not be so hard on myself.

@threadbearr8866 3 ай бұрын

I also struggle with productivity. I didn't know it was because i had adhd. I'm nearly 35. You may want to look into a diagnosis. Olivia Lutfallah has an excellent channel with a ton of adhd content. See if you relate to it.

@reginafick6620 3 ай бұрын

They should study these “active people” 10 years or more later. As a person that in my 30’s that went to school full time, worked full time, ran around chasing kids to regional sport events, performed committee work, and did my chores, by my mid-40’s, once the kids moved on to their own lives and I graduated, I felt like I was lazy because I would just tell myself I could do it later. I sit around thinking I should do that, and often wonder if I burned up all my drive in my 30’s.

@anonymousone6075 3 ай бұрын

im in my 40s and spend about a dozen hours a week cycling, live alone and alway have a tidy clean house, cook most my meals.. people are just lazy and look for an excuse to be idle.

@jeneuweenlaf948 3 ай бұрын

I wld bet if you are doing that much in your 30s, you probably are quite busy now still, just relatively less, but without measuring, you just THINK your 40-self cant compare to your 30-self. The number of things your 40-self is accomplishing is probably somebody's 30-self. I say this cus I can push myself hard for a week but totally have to recuperate the next week. The amt of exertion one can endure is limited by the body's natural activity level, I feel.

@yoursubconscious 3 ай бұрын

you are not lazy. You have accomplished more than most who may live for 99 yrs. Be proud, really. You sound like you had a good fun 30's .

@yengsabio5315 3 ай бұрын

I need you just need some form of recalibration & 're-tiring' of sorts. Then, move on from there. Don't get stuck into idleness for too much. Cheers & mabuhay, from my end--the Philippines!

@anonymousone6075 3 ай бұрын

they are too lazy to make the effort to improve their fitness levels@@yengsabio5315

@reynaldocavalheiro3000 3 ай бұрын

I agree with Laurien! I work hard and when I came home, I Iove my sofa. On the weekend I don't like to do nothing. I confessed that I am shame about this. Now I learnt about self compassion, I will try to use. Thanks for help me.

@garrystubbs4891 3 ай бұрын

I don’t like to do anything*

@kofisugar 3 ай бұрын

Lazy people are the smartest people in the world... They just needs something more stimulating & challenging.. to invest their time- They just need to explore more...

@upendasana7857 3 ай бұрын

I would wonder if that nurse who feels "lazy"as she doesn't go to thr gym or committe meetings or organise the cupboards,whether she is putting in more effort emotionally into her nursing too ...? who knows but maybe and things like emotional labour are not as easy to see as organised cupboards or going to committee meetings,not saying that those things aren't important too but sometimes the things we don't see being done or are not as visible can get missed and a job like nurising which involves alot of physical jobs but also ALOT of emotional care if done well is harder to quantify. But otherwise a really interesting podcast looking at why we might have reisitance to certain tasks and consider ourselves "lazy"when it might be about emotional regulation or the judgements and stories we tell ourselves about certain tasks/activities

@KJ-yises 3 ай бұрын

I think I am not lazy with work, but lazy with certain non-work activities.

@_aiborie 3 ай бұрын

I love how the resounding advice is to have self-compassion, and that Laurie's laziness is the very thing that's making her physically and mentally demanding vocation sustainable for her. Listen to your body, it will never fail you. Thank you, it was a fun listen ☺

@mariaalejandraalmiron4746 3 ай бұрын

Qqq😊

@mariaalejandraalmiron4746 3 ай бұрын

Qqq😊

@Cathlalalulu 3 ай бұрын

One thing I learned was never compare with those who are on top of the pyramid. There is always a small number of people who are genetically far beyond of the average. They don't feel as bad as us in same level of tiredness or frustrations. They may also decide to weigh in work over other parts of lives. And the successful people are less likely showing their struggling side for sure

@zenstoryshare 3 ай бұрын

My mom once branded me as 'born lazy.' I used to believe it, but at 40, I understand I simply have a low energy level, and I need to pace myself. And that's completely fine

@sp123 3 ай бұрын

it could be ADHD too where youre focused on so much its hard to pick on thing to work on.

@justanotherfella4585 3 ай бұрын

I do as little as possible. All the time. In fact this brief comment is all I can bothered to do.

@chandni3584 3 ай бұрын

😊

@courtney2835 3 ай бұрын

BAHAHAHAHAHA

@wintersprite Ай бұрын

I have low energy a lot of times. I work in retail and try to do active tasks to get more steps in and stuff (such as getting carts). I’m an introvert which can drain me after social situations. I have mild to moderate anxiety and depression, and I also have iron deficiency. Some days I have more energy and some days I have very little. I’m trying to workout at least four days a week. I also am an adult violin student and try to practice four or five days a week. I have a lot of different creative hobbies which cycle around, and some days I don’t get to them. A lot of my evenings and days off involve binging KZfaq (sometimes I color or do something else while watching/listening). My bedroom is often messy and cluttered (I live with my parents still) and, due to being a kid at heart who collects dolls and stuffed animals, I have come to conclusion that my room will never look like an adult’s bedroom, lol. I also have a lot of my art supplies in my room as well.

@jackdeniston59 3 ай бұрын

We are ´lazy´ because we are not doing what someone else wants us to do.

@anti7257 2 ай бұрын

Nuh, if I woke up tired and can't even play computer games or watch tik tok

@lizreyes4382 3 ай бұрын

I am disabled, yet even still can't turn off the voice in my head that says I should get up and do something productive. Even though my health dictates I rest , I feel guilty.

@user-qy2kw9kx3o 3 ай бұрын

Same

@phybe_seto 3 ай бұрын

Who's voice is that? What would a more loving, helpful, voice say?

@user-qy2kw9kx3o 3 ай бұрын

@@phybe_seto for me it’s my mums voice and my mother in laws voice but they are not saying it about me they are saying to me about somebody else. If it was said about me I would have the opportunity to defend myself. So what would a kinder voice say? ‘ I can see that person needs to rest because of her health’

@phybe_seto 3 ай бұрын

Right, our minds often play a subconscious script that isn't even our own thoughts and beliefs! It's someone else's but we internalize it. The more we're aware of the inner critic, the more we can question it, who's voice is that, is it serving me, how can I change the narrative so it's more loving and empowering for me. Often with that mindfulness, starts the journey towards self-love and healing. ❤

@lizreyes4382 3 ай бұрын

@@phybe_seto My father's voice.

@iloveyellow7214 3 ай бұрын

I just project, visualize, and feel what I would feel in the future after I finish what I should be doing. That helps a ton and mkaes me less lazy... Maybe that should be a suggested task for other people as well?

@robinholland1136 Ай бұрын

Very interesting. I'm over 70 now and I've always characterised myself as being 'lazy'. This goes back to my childhood, youth and education. I was very good at some things and received lots of praise for being 'bright'. Other things, I was less good at (obviously!). Being complemented for my 'talents' meant I tended to concentrate on the things that I found easier and justified my inattention to the things I found difficult by saying to myself that I had already proved my worth and there was no need to try too hard on those 'other' things. So, I've always prioritised the things that gave me the most pleasure, which tend to be the creative, more 'abstract' things, whilst shunning the mundane (but essential) tasks I find less rewarding. I'm more resigned to it now and, as I don't have to go to work on a daily basis any more, I can give free reign to the things that give me the most satisfaction - my daughters and grandchildren, my (small, but valued) circle of friends, my art and woodwork, crosswords, reading, vegetable gardening, walking and, most importantly . . . daydreaming. I will often visualise and imagine doing something to the extent that, once I've done it in my imagination, I don't feel the need to make it reality and go on to something else. To do so, requires a different kind of effort. Probably why I never submitted my MA graduate thesis, even though I'd done all the necessary research and thinking. I just didn't feel the need. Nature or nurture? I don't know. I think I always have had a bent towards the less material side of life, which was definitely reinforced by my academic education. Do I feel fulfilled and happy? Just let me sit down and ponder that for a while and I might come to a conclusion. Or, I might not . . .

@yizhou5903 3 ай бұрын

I'm jealous of those who can do a lot of things energetically. I just can't do it. Little things can make me exhausted.

@kerikah 3 ай бұрын

They briefly briefly mentioned autism. Every activity and thought takes a certain amount of energy and everyone fluctuates in terms of how much. Cleaning one's room might take one person a medium amount of energy and therefore be doable, but it might take another person (like a person with autism) a lot of energy because they have to mentally prepare and deal with a million internal questions, like do I need this piece of paper? If yes, where should it live? Oh, in my file cabinet. But should it be filed under Bills or Auto? And maybe I actually need to create a new folder, so I have to find my blank folders and tags. Oh, and btw I have a ton of stuff I have to move out of the way of my file cabinet before I can reach it. Oh, and my cat puked in front of it, apparently, so I have to clean that up first. Oh, but where are the paper towels and-- oops I'm out of enzymatic pet cleaner, so I need to go to the store, but I don't need anything else for awhile, so everything else gets put on hold because things have to be done in a particular order, and while I'm doing all this running around in my head and am exhausted, I haven't accomplished very much. Maybe I haven't explained this all very well...

@godisnotinvisible 2 ай бұрын

Relatable

@deanaderrick3474 3 ай бұрын

One of the problems is with comparisons. I'm a housekeeper and put out amazing physical energy at work, but yet I compare myself to those who go to the gym after work or run their entire days off (my sister too), but WE, me and Lori run all day. We shouldn't have the energy left that our sisters do who maybe just work in an office (mine does). They're likely to be more mentally drained, but not physically. They likely have a reasonable need to get in some physical activity by the end of their day, while I walked over 10,000 steps in my day to their low low number.

@violett874 2 ай бұрын

This speaks to me because I struggled with this too and turns out I may have EDS. There's days when I feel amazing and to others I look like I have endless energy, but other days, I feel like crying if I lift my head off the pillow. I think it is absolutely physiological, and we just don't understand our bodies, especially our brains and hormones, enough to explain it. If we did, I think it would be a lot easier to get diagnosed and treated for invisible chronic conditions like EDS or CFS.

@zoeoleary7019 3 ай бұрын

I thought I was lazy. I had the desire and motivation to do things but not the energy and focus to follow through and ended up feeling frustrated and disappointed. I had PCOS, general anxiety and low B12. With stress management, supplements, a better diet and medication I now have energy to do most of the activities I would like to do and I find working out much easier. I wish I had taken my health more seriously earlier on.

@AnaPaula-nh6hb 2 ай бұрын

Which kind of Dr. did you seek help or you did these changes yourself?

@relaxation-Corner Ай бұрын

What medication helped you?

@youreincredible1648 3 ай бұрын

Lazy, tired, tired of waking up to a list full of chores day after day, we just need a break sometimes.

@shyraikaldybayevna104 3 ай бұрын

I found this podcast pretty informative and thought-provoking! I did shame myself with L word as well, being a mom of 4 and working as a part time teacher and keeping the 4-storey house clean sounds a lot for some. By delegating my chores helped me a lot and I have ‘lazy’ days per week to recharge myself.

@Ravenousyouth 3 ай бұрын

also if you speak to yourself nicely in third person it can help .I.E : "john i know you dont want to get up and do this but just put a timer on for 5mins and you will feel so much better when you are done . You dont have to do all of it . 5mins is better than 0 . then u can have a 10min nap"

@poucine832 Ай бұрын

That sounds like an idea I could use. I thought this vidéo does not even understand what it is to be lazy. But I am quite sure that if I tell myself 5 mins is better than none I shall end up by getting the job done. Thanks for the tip

@nicolarollinson4381 3 ай бұрын

There's a difference between being lazy and being tired and needing a rest. Its ok to laze around

@marshallebee Ай бұрын

I feel lazy and sometimes feel guilt because of it. But then I think logically and realize that I live in a clean house, I'm raising three kids, work 2 jobs, cook our meals and then I conclude that I'm everything but. I guess we just have an inner voice that keeps bugging us wanting more and more. It's important to ignore it and let ourselves be lazy when we feel like doing nothing.

@user-qy2kw9kx3o 3 ай бұрын

Ahhhh. Coffee. I don’t drink coffee and I can’t keep up with coffee drinkers. My mum used to drink lots of coffee at work and then she would crash every weekend and didn’t realise why. The doctor asked about her coffee consumption and everything clicked. She stopped drinking it. I can’t take caffeine and neither can one of my sons.

@NurseViv 3 ай бұрын

I’m an overnight nurse and work 12hr (minimum) shifts and I feel this to my CORE…I wasn’t like this before I was a nurse…so I blame it wholly on my profession. It is what it is I suppose…

@thjbird 11 күн бұрын

I am a very low energy person and have been for my whole life. It makes life very difficult. My battery never charges above about 20%. I think of things that I want to do, but am frustrated by lack of energy.

@vineetha6942 3 ай бұрын

Saved to 'watch later'

@David-cm4ok 2 ай бұрын

😂

@micosstar 2 ай бұрын

5:09 oh dear

@user-pm7ck6ij9s Ай бұрын

I often feel this way, but then I look around at what I actually get done from month-to-month and it's WAY more than most people. I've come to accept that life is hectic and demanding and I need time to decompress. I still get all my sh** done, but I definitely say "no" more often to invitations knowing I have limited energy as I get older (I'm 50, I have three university degrees and a full-time career and a small homestead).

@nathanandsopa Ай бұрын

In Thailand, people say they are "too lazy" and seem proud of themselves. I was shocked when I kept hearing it as a response to "you should put in more effort", amongst my students. I figured that what they meant to say was "i can't be bothered" but didn't have the English. However, I'm not entirely sure. I think that they may have a less negative attitude to laziness here in Thailand.

@nikita_kozlov 3 ай бұрын

I think lazy isn’t really a thing unless you’re dropping major balls. It’s boredom that is the red flag. I almost can’t imagine being bored like I used to feel as a teenager. If you’re bored you just don’t find things rewarding or you’re not challenging yourself enough.

@Cocoa_Kalypso 2 ай бұрын

I grew up being told I'm lazy, making excuses, not trying hard enough, etc. These words messed with my self esteem so much and I really believed it was just a part of my personality. I reached a point of almost laying down and accepting that was just who I was because some tasks just felt too challenging. And sometimes, I'd project the same notion I was told on to others who didn't deserve it/needed just as much compassion in the same areas as me... I only retrospectively realize how ableist and unfair this was. I'm not proud of this. Anyways, I was diagnosed at 26 as Autistic with ADHD. This makes so much make sense. I'm unlearning seeing myself as lazy and working to give myself more grace for the chronic burnout and anxiety I feel just trying to survive in a world not built with people like me in mind.

@CaraMarie13 2 ай бұрын

As someone who has to talk herself into cleaning her apartment, I totally relate. Like for some reason, cleaning it's a mental block for me. I think I do it so infrequently the habit just won't even begin to form.

@poucine832 Ай бұрын

😂 me too. But despite what they say in this vidéo it is not good to be lazy. You feel so much satisfaction when you have got a job you don't want to do done

@mikedunning265 27 күн бұрын

I 57 years old, I procrastinate, and while not officially diagnosed with ADHD, my children have been diagnosed as adults with ADHD and we all have the same traits. I walk, run and hike about 12k steps pet day, and do not consider myself lazy, but I get a bit of anxiety if im not working 12 to 14hrs a day. I can totally relate to this podcast!

@nurseratched5537 2 ай бұрын

I love relaxing and doing nothing on my days off. I'm also an intervert and enjoy time alone. I quit beating myself up for not getting things done... life is too short.

@Emily-jg5kp 2 ай бұрын

I like that they didn't want to judge laziness, but I also think this kind of sidestepped the actual question by not choosing a truly "lazy" person to follow. What about those of us who don't walk 17,000 steps a day? :) Also, I feel like Laurie herself was not really satisfied with the conclusion. They were saying she devotes so much of herself to her job that she can't also balance her home life... If that's true, she either has to devote less care to her job, find a new job, or accept that her home life will remain the way it is.

@poucine832 Ай бұрын

It doesn't address the problem of Real lazyness which is a lack of motivation

@allyssapoolman2012 Ай бұрын

People have stated I am lazy before, but I have re-framed it to be energy conserving. I can be highly focused task oriented and get a lot done, when I can rest I do. I conserve my energy, I am not lazy.

@ZentaBon 3 ай бұрын

Ive burnt out before. It took only a little over 1 year. I had worked hard and and never took a break mentally or physically and didn't spend quality time with my family or friends for basically the entire time and this was for a job I LIKED. The worst part is I never even got as much done as when I eventually healed from my burnout in another similar position. Recouperation is 100% required for productivity.

@saeedsobhani1981 3 ай бұрын

My entire lifetime I felt the same, now that I’ve been diagnosed with anxiety and ADHD disorder, I understand the body imposes limitations on you, don’t mark yourself with negative titles

@lizy0902 16 күн бұрын

Thanks for this podcast especially the conclusion!

@Orophile143 Ай бұрын

My friend is a nurse in a private hospital. Her shift is of only five hours and then also earns a very good salary. Well, I am talking about India.

@ddialogu6011 Ай бұрын

I know a couple folks in their 30s that do not have severe disabilities, have only had few short term jobs in their lives, don't provide for the family financially, and only minimally provide household care/labor for those who are working. One still lives with his parents. Their survival is based on others providing with the providers getting significantly less support than their efforts in return. The podcast does not describe capable people who literally don't put in honest effort, even for their own creative endeavors or hobbies.

@aungseoulhtoon7507 3 ай бұрын

OMG. Thanks for recommending this video to me. It helps a lot

@me_stars3549 Ай бұрын

Thank you for covering this topic! It’s an important one

@janemack2667 3 ай бұрын

I remember about 20 years ago telling a colleague that I was the lazy one in my family. I have no problem having dirty dishes in the sink--I get to them eventually. I can sleep until noon and read until 3 am. My colleague looked at me as if I were insane. She told me flat out that I was not lazy. I work like crazy at my job. I'm perfectly free to relax at other times.

@nancywysemen7196 20 күн бұрын

nice pacing.clear. thank-you.

@vivianagambetta9197 3 ай бұрын

Thank you!! It was awesome

@RaptureReadyforJesus-qv2ql 2 ай бұрын

I don’t care what people say or think about me anymore!!!! I do as I please!!!!

@lyndagabriel6539 23 күн бұрын

I haven't finished listening, and you have already helped me so much with one observation about the brain.... thank you so much for this piece.

@HagiaFantasia 3 ай бұрын

I'm eo glad you guys made this video. We are so stressed and need more down time 😢

@berenicewaters4096 Ай бұрын

It's a gift to have energy to get lots done and I feel sort for people with no motivation to do as little as possible.

@jseon87 5 күн бұрын

I was always labeled “lazy” by my parents and family. It was definitely hard to hear as a child bc I felt so misunderstood and mislabeled.

@ChubbyUnicorn 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for a well researched, reasonable report. It's wonderful to trust what I'm learning.

@theresacard2237 2 ай бұрын

Love this, thank you!

@user-hd1rf3kr8s 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

@cwtobar9688 3 ай бұрын

Man, I love this episode. I feel like I can relate and understand why I feel low energy levels most of the time. Awesome insight! I'll definitely try to be more compassionate with myself, recharge, and do stuff that make my life more meaningful 🥰

@questionmark9819 3 ай бұрын

Lazy is such a lazy word, we're all different and some people have different ideas and energy levels. It's infuriating, the judgment from people.

@2009ccastillo 3 ай бұрын

Sensitive considered people tend to need more rest. As I grow old I care less about other ppl opinions and left unhelthy world standards, I also value now my ears ready to hear smo who need it @work, encourage ppl, help if I can or pray🙏, l will keep doing that while being compasionate to myself, I ❤ it, my incredible husband chose me for that and support me...I'm happy. I feel very greatful and want to share what has been given to me with w/others, even thou I will never be rich or a boss lady or whatever. ❤ one another :)

@guidofaria6721 28 күн бұрын

It was fun to listen.

@flatlanderfl 2 ай бұрын

I run a super busy landscaping business and have plenty of energy to keep going and getting things done until bed time. Don’t drink, eat well, stay active- I believe the key.

@thegreatfulgamer5749 2 ай бұрын

I'm short term ambitious to be long term lazy.

@jinglebell9107 3 ай бұрын

I guess your not lazy as long you have work to provide for yourself. You are just relaxing, that is the right term. Not lazy.

@bryanbrown7367 Ай бұрын

I think the issue of laziness was still not dealt with. I don't have a job and so I started a master's degree. However I'm not doing well because I feel lazy most times. My grades aren't so good and I still wake up most days feeling like not doing anything when I've not even done any hardwork for a week.

@Hanzz. 5 күн бұрын

amazing! I love this sm

@kinakaposanglahat 2 ай бұрын

Kind of bummed that they did not touch on the correlation of socio-economic factors to laziness (or having low or high energy)

@rabiatul1912 3 күн бұрын

Malaysia should come up with this types of social gatherings so that introverts/lonely youths feel they have safe & comfortable space to explore with especially with sudden urge of social media era.

@hildawambui1468 Ай бұрын

I got my last born son at the age of 41...he is the life of our quiet life😅. I love him so much❤

@noniesundstrom119 3 ай бұрын

Dr Devon Price, great points, I totally agree with you, based on my 76 years of lived experience.

@biscottiluigi711 2 ай бұрын

Laurie isn't lazy.She is taking care of herself.Our health care workers do very important work and deserve our respect and care.

@user-kp6ss8sx8m 3 ай бұрын

There is a difference between laziness, being overtired and procrastinate. Soon we'll see a BBC video saying: "sleeping 3 hours per day is all you need to be happy", "excercise is bad for your body and mind", "Studies say that you don't need to blink during your day."

@Stella-bl7te 11 күн бұрын

Excellent! ❤

@kristhelshakiralluscasuqui3591 29 күн бұрын

Gracias .... este episodio me ha ayudado a quererme más y aprender que debo descasar❤

@SheilaEnglish2 3 ай бұрын

After 4 days of a physically, mentally and emotionally job in the ICU it’s natural that she needs to replenish her energy reserves. If important things are being neglected on the home front she will need to take a portion of her days off to get things in order. Even a small investment of time will help the household and make her feel less “ lazy”. But the most important thing is to rest enough to regain some energy first.

@lovelasnow 3 ай бұрын

I feel this too, it seems to be worse if you have any level of social aversion, especially when you live with family

@corvettesbme 3 ай бұрын

I love being lazy on my day off. So what if my project I think about is not completed on the only day off? It was not tragic.

@thesamardahab Ай бұрын

Exactly, it’ll be there tomorrow. I can do it whenever.

@KatherineRoseArt 3 ай бұрын

Maybe its laziness with some ppl but with others its literally a slower metabolism or lack of energy due to whatever reasons... for me i have a slow metabolism ever since i was a kid... other kids ran around and i would be the one laggin behind always. I later foundvout i actually have asthma and i really think that was part of it. I also have an autoimmune disease and the inflamation zaps all my energy. Ive been called "lazy" my whole life and couldnt be further from the truth. I want to do so many things and just have no energy and when i fo feel i have some energy it quickly becomes difficult cuz i get outa breathe at times and cough a lot

@kimhandley1523 Ай бұрын

I do what I need to do. I am minimalistic, organised, if I do dinner I wash, put away as I go, if I have a bath I clean it after etc, I hoover & mop daily and so there is never any big chores. I go gym daily, I cycle. But I do these tasks religiously because I need a clear head - if I am not doing the above I am in bed (with fresh washed sheets ha) socially I am completely lazy - cba with social interaction. So I am obsessed with being organised so I CAN REST and have NOTHING to do, NOTHING on my mind and can FLOAT AWAY :-)

@sophiaiswisdom1 25 күн бұрын

I can understand what the woman in this story is saying about the way she feels. I work in a hospital and I see how the people I work with function on different levels of energy. I am a technician in a psych unit and Sometimes when I do my three days , I don't want to even feel the obligation to do anything the rest of the week. She said she works four days/ 12 hours a day but that is a long day that people are not built to actually do. You have to factor in the time it takes to rest up to get energy to go to work and get ready for work then you are driving for who knows how long and that can be tiring sometimes. Not only is her body recovering but also her brain.

@stephanc6138 3 ай бұрын

some people aren't built to be energizer bunnies. depends if they found their chargers. the culture of constant busyness shames anyone whose not .... some are jist not cut out for the drama of living.