Be The Queen Of Your Life! - How To GET UP & Become A Confident BADASS

Be The Queen Of Your Life! - How To GET UP & Become A Confident BADASS | Sonja Stribling

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It’s Lisa Bilyeu and get ready for an inspiring and super insightful episode of Women of Impact that is all about how to actually change your life so you’re always moving towards living a life with more purpose and confidence and that’s actually authentic to YOU!!
Today’s guest is sharing her step-by-step roadmap that she’s taught to thousands of women to do just that, it’s my homie, Dr. Sonja!
Dr. Sonja is a retired U.S Army Major and combat veteran, a mother of 3, and an 8-figure business owner. From the battlefield to the boardroom, this woman is a TOTAL BADASS, and she has overcome SOOOO many challenges in her life - including a long, painful divorce - BUT despite all of that she has endured and she’s sharing her stories and lessons to help women like you and me learn from her hardships and be able to get back up every single time you get knocked down!!
In this episode we’re talking all about:
- How to endure, even when it gets SOOO damn hard, and not let feeling ashamed or guilty stop you back from LIVING YOUR BEST DAMN LIFE!!!
- The 4 aspects you should focus on to move towards something that will bring you purpose in life
- How to build your resilience (it’s a SKILL SET!)
- The difference between being strong vs. powerful
- The power that comes from harmonizing your life instead of balancing it
- What to focus on when you feel like quitting & giving up
- How to make the most out of the lessons and journey of your life
- Dealing with the different “battlefields” in your life and how you can look at them differently
- What to do when you are tempted to just settle with the hand you're dealt
- The 7 warrior woman traits you need to find your POWER and live your life on your own terms!!
- How to decide if you want to stay on the “battlefield” situation that’s going on in your life
- The HEALTHY discipline method to get you where you want to be
- The power of the RIGHT self-care routine FOR YOU
- How you can be a strong, powerful woman AND be with a man that takes care of you
- The beautiful possibilities that come AFTER you have the courage to leave!!
This episode is FULL of tactical tips and takeaways to elevate your life, so make sure to listen up homie, because it’s NEVER too late to be a warrior woman, but you HAVE TO take action to make it happen!!!
Chapter Markers:
😓 [00:00] Facing trauma and overcoming hardships
👊 [18:30] Break barriers for the life you want
🛡️ [36:08] Facing your battlefields
❤️ [50:39] Using a difficult experience for good
👀 [1:00:10] Navigating guilt, shame, and self-acceptance
💗 [1:29:21] It’s never too late to embrace change & empowerment
❌ [1:43:51] Seeking validation & embracing fear
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Themes: Confidence, Relationships, Business, Mental Health, Self-Improvement

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@LisaBilyeu Ай бұрын

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

@tellavisiontav3033 17 күн бұрын

I love this. I'm 73 young. 15 years old I was raped by my father. My mother didn't believe me. I was never ashamed I was 15 years old. I told what happened. I was a virgin. My mother took me to the doctor he confirmed I was raped. I called the police and my mother would not press charges. Detective Banks I would be sent to a g irls home. My mother sent me live with her friend in a other city. I cried 10 years. Because I was forced to leave my family through no fault of my own. I am successful today and I share my stories with women on my tv show and when I speak to inspire women. This is the beginning of my life. I have endured so much in my life. Dropped out of high school because I got pregnant. Then married had 3 more children. Started a school. Divorced. Got 2 degrees. Bought my home Bankruptcy and so much more. I am an author, looking for love at 73 and sharing my stories because our experiences are not for us but for others. Thank you for sharing your stories. God bless you Queens.

@Kashmir-lt4cx Ай бұрын

52:44 "the more you hide the shame is the more it takes over you and becomes toxic!

@carolgonzales4262 7 күн бұрын

50 yrs with a narc ... 6 yrs free but the shame is still there...I can't believe I let anyone treat me like a slave.

@lorrainedevlin6409 25 күн бұрын

When you had a hard life you become resilient ,not all people do,but the brave do.

@angelalynn596 Ай бұрын

OMG. When I first saw her I thought to myself, “She is so beautiful!!”

@msmia8016 Ай бұрын

Im currently on my healing journey and loving all the amazing things i'm discovering about me.

@ccc-eu8ln Ай бұрын

I love that word that relationship shouldn't be something fulfilling you but a compliment on what already you're.That is very true.

@Kashmir-lt4cx Ай бұрын

42:47 when you speak out the truth, your body knows, and lets it go! ❤😊

@speakingpositivelywithlorie Ай бұрын

May we all receive and accept the healing we need so can step outside of our comfort zone, be our authentic self and tell our story! There are people assigned to You waiting to hear your story. 🙏🏾💚

@velvetgardenia Ай бұрын

I'm only 5 minutes in, and this Queen is lifting me UP!! AND she is a 🇺🇸 VETERAN! Thank you, ladies, for helping inspire and strengthen us. 🪷

@happycutebox Ай бұрын

I really needed to hear this. It’s so true that we as women are programmed to care for everyone but ourselves. It’s time for a change and I choose to treat myself better.

@carolinemyers5994 19 күн бұрын

Amen

@carmenlux1775 Ай бұрын

I always lived by: "share your story, you never know when you are going to unlock someone else's prison." I have noticed that some people are very uncomfortable when others are vulnerable around them. And that is the sticky part, to be compassionate of others while being true to yourself.

@shaniecegullison Ай бұрын

She looks absolutely amazing for 53!!!!!!!!

@shaniecegullison Ай бұрын

Yes same I agree

@jameskelly9243 Ай бұрын

Haha still old,no value

@shaniecegullison Ай бұрын

@@jameskelly9243 your a old geaser lmfaoooooo

@joanwinga9123 Ай бұрын

@@jameskelly9243 take your dimentia meds honey...

@vchgs2872 Ай бұрын

@@jameskelly9243Self-hate much? Respect yourself.

@Kashmir-lt4cx Ай бұрын

59:15 awww I'm sooo sorry you went through that! 😭He's inadequate, insecure, and ugly! You are beautiful!❤😊

@ladonnamorrison3616 26 күн бұрын

This is such a powerful "chat" between two truly inspirational women. It really didn't feel like an interview to me - more like two likeminded souls coming together, sharing of themselves with the rest of us, so that we can learn and grow from our past in ways that can take us from the battlefield to the boardroom. I have learned, cried, laughed and felt the most inspired in 2024. I will definitely keep this one on repeat. You hit sooo many truths that speak to my own journey and I am sure countless others. Kudos to you both.💞

@monicabass3145 Ай бұрын

I’m a survivor. Divorced after 22years. #FDI #toxicbond Dr Sonja mentored. Coaching catapults pain to power. Happy for a new life.🎉❤

@jameskelly9243 Ай бұрын

You mean the prince lived happily ever after. Unless your stole his wealth

@lovewins699 Ай бұрын

This interview was right on time. I havent seen Dr. Sonja in a while now, but I had to stop and admire how beautiful she is! I love this WHOLE look on her!

@lexlow2780 Ай бұрын

My soon to be ex husband made me feel like the ugliest person as well. That hit home! Geeze…

@JCX-9 Ай бұрын

I went through the same, it just shows their inadequacy so they have to make you feel as inadequate as they feel. Anybody who feels good about themselves will never try to bring you down.

@jameskelly9243 Ай бұрын

That's cause your gender thinks emotionally not logically. So you blame others for your failings

@lindayeboahboateng4793 Ай бұрын

Absolutely. My husband made me feel that too but at a point I realized that it's not me who is the problem, he is rather projecting his negativity and instability to me. So I started focusing on myself and my mental health and took a step away from him. Yet to process my divorce though, but I love the peace I am enjoying now

@dialmstyle Ай бұрын

Dr. Sonja! I met her virtually through Periscope about 9 years ago and here she is! Beautiful, inspirational. You both make for an amazing episode!

@missdragonflies81 Ай бұрын

Thank you Ms. Sonja Stribling and Lisa Bilyeu for this amazing, authentic interview. Feels like two good friends chatting it up. So much gem from Ms. Sonja. I loved the question "Am I hurt or injured? can I, or will I get back up?". Powerful stuff. and Lisa you reminding us to Pivot & things do not happen TO me, it happens FOR me.

@amayaraymond4486 Ай бұрын

This woman is beautiful 😍

@_serreina Ай бұрын

I own all the seasons of Murder She Wrote on dvd it is absolutely my comfort show hahaha

@LisaBilyeu Ай бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

@lorrainedevlin6409 25 күн бұрын

Thats what a brave,strong woman does. Good for her. Some women would shame men with their bravery.

@cathyjennings5580 7 күн бұрын

Constructive THINKING ABILITIES, STOIC , LOGICAL FACTS , SENSIBILITIES, REASONING THINKING QUESTION SELF about your troubles. I wish for HEROS TO Work for this person to lighten my load for about a year or so. Need GOOD HEARTED HEROS & HEROINS !!! SUPPORT this person.

@aidaniang1154 Ай бұрын

Great conversation! thank you so much Lisa for inviting Dr Sonia to join you on your truth sofa. I have known of Dr Sonia a few weeks ago and she is a remarkable lady. Every episode you share with the world is God's gift to us all! May it continue for a very long time.

@LisaBilyeu Ай бұрын

Thanks so so much for the support! 🥰

@HappyCat1111 12 күн бұрын

This woman is beautiful, powerful and inspiring! Absolute royalty! I needed this today. I’m sitting in my lowest low, starting over at 50 from scratch like my life has been a long suffering waste. I’m so grateful for this incredible person!

@mindshiftmami Ай бұрын

this was a FANTASTIC episode. Thank you both so much Dr. Sonja, Lisa, and the editing team!

@LisaBilyeu Ай бұрын

Ahhhh thanks for the shout out to the team! I couldn’t do it without them and they are so passionate about this mission too! I’m gonna send them this message! Appreciate you!

@mindshiftmami Ай бұрын

@@LisaBilyeu I love that you respond to your own youtube comments Lisa! Let me then add an appreciation for the immense impact you are making on the world by showing what it looks like to follow your joy and passions. Thank you for displaying beautiful vulnerability about your gut health in this episode too! Have a wonderful day :)

@josievaccaro Ай бұрын

Inspirational ❤ Sometimes I slip back into victim mode and Sonja is a genuine thriver. So, I would like to learn more in depth of switching into thriver mode and being in Sonja's words powerful and mainatining that.

@leilagomulka5690 Ай бұрын

Yea. Give them something to talk about. An inspiration

@pelumiraheen4936 Ай бұрын

This woman is inspirational I'm looking forward to this thanks for this 🙏🏾

@carmenalmodovar151 Ай бұрын

Wow, I can relate to her story... being alone fighting against the battles of life. Not having anyone to support you but you still have to get going with your life. Inspired to write my book.

@rklund13 Ай бұрын

After abuse and trauma some people lose their high level of success. Usually because we are surrounded by still or were with someone who made and makes us believe we will never amount to anything and do or have encouraged suicide.

@legendmoloi154 Ай бұрын

I’m loving this conversation. Came at perfect time for me right now. Thank you

@katnez Ай бұрын

Thank you for your service❤ unfortunately too many people are training, princesses and ballerina that they don’t even know the gender of no one appreciates the freedom and the people that put themselves on the line for it. America is such a great country and it’s being literally destroyed by our own people.

@busiwaliuma3658 3 күн бұрын

Sonya, your story is soooo inspiring. I'm in tears. I will start over. Its possible.Thank you

@MissLatashaPope-sf6ts Ай бұрын

You ladies are changing the world💕💕

@sherranballoons7455 4 күн бұрын

Thank you!!!! I don’t know where this show came from, but I’m crying. 😢

@sandram6913 Ай бұрын

This is true blessing to hear. I want to read each of yours books and do the work. Thank you so much!!

@joannemaier2797 Ай бұрын

This is so inspiring, thats what i needed for my day ... Im at my own battle and dont even know how fight all of my own. Just watching this video gives me strength to get through again one day after a day... Thank you @LisaBilyeu and Sonja ... God bless you

@farializ Ай бұрын

Great inspiring authentic interview, thank you Ladies 🧘🏻‍♀️💯❤️

@jlovelynne7096 Ай бұрын

This was incredible! Thank you for sharing! You are both phenomenal women. Love and blessings to you both!

@nicolesgray 14 күн бұрын

Awesome episode!!! Thanks.

@supernovameditationproject Ай бұрын

Thanks ladies.

@aprilstardavisjewelry Ай бұрын

Thank you so much I was literally feeling sorry for myself and guilt and shame over some health issues and randomly put this on and it’s lifted the negative feeling I’ve been struggling with ❤

@shaniecegullison Ай бұрын

This was a great conversation

@demetrybarnette3798 Ай бұрын

My God, I needed this. Thank you, Lisa. ❤

@amandadavis8855 Ай бұрын

This was an amazing interview, thank you ❤

@queenveepositivepalace7704 Ай бұрын

This video has Inspired me so much, I love everything about Sonia and you Lisa. This video is a keeper I will definitely always come back and watch it❤

@GETRIGHTWITHT Ай бұрын

💜 loved the whole interview very encouraging. Thank you!

@leilagomulka5690 Ай бұрын

Wow. An inspiration

@MissTee127 Ай бұрын

This is so very inspiring ❤

@PatriciaCDaway Ай бұрын

❤❤❤TRULY INSPIRED BY THIS CONVERSATION DR SONJA & LISA! I needed to hear this message today! Thank you for sharing! Bless you 🙏 ♥️

@sherranballoons7455 4 күн бұрын

Thank you so much!!!

@user-fe9gs5pc2m 23 күн бұрын

Thank you beautiful Queen for your confidence in sharing your story to help mend the brokeness in so many of us and to help us get back up and thrive.

@lindawade1203 Ай бұрын

Put One Foot In Front Of The Other And Keep It MOVING

@charmainebwowa4455 Ай бұрын

💯❤

@abuorayieta Ай бұрын

I was in Afghanistan, Kandahar working alongside military as a contractor and i remember that siren telling us there is an incoming rocket attack or being locked up at a DFAC because there was a ground attack. Scary stuff & it stays with you. She is a warrior..

@jameskelly9243 Ай бұрын

Warriors are combat soldiers she was just a solider depended on men to keep her safe

@leilagomulka5690 Ай бұрын

God bless you both. ♥️♥️♥️

@user-ow3wj7hp6k 19 күн бұрын

Great interview 😁

@Stravavitalita 18 күн бұрын

Thank you for such inspiring talks that have the power to help people see the bright even if one thinks it is the end of the tunnel.

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 Ай бұрын

I am so glad I have come upon this interview.

@creatorlemon7963 19 күн бұрын

"addicted to fear"really resonating with me. Thanks ladies ❤

@nicoleml4491 16 күн бұрын

I love that phrase, in addition to your happiness that we create

@Anonymas-di6zc Ай бұрын

Juste thank you 💖💖 I cry because it's ouer story and you go under my skin. You stay noble and my be I projecte, but what I saw on your face was pain, juste at the begining... Lisa went so gentel ❤ 🙏 Thank you I need to see women like you, you get me, I get emotional and I feel the healing because I feel again. I'm not that much numb any more, anger, Sadness, Joy, Happiness and less fear.... Never did wake up that much, thank you 💕 it's time, I'm 53....

@Anonymas-di6zc Ай бұрын

Loved that interview with Sonya 💕 I'm 53 struggeled all my life, guess my super power is indurance and keep trying even when nothing realy worked, but I know my self and I don't belive I would be capable to do what I do without wemen like you I can look up too, didn't happen often befor I knew this Amazing moovement, gives me hope for me and for humanity, at least those who staves for change and don't know how will jump on all those informations I needed and still need. Your my support and I never felt as supported as NOW Even if you don't know me, you describe me and love poeple like me and for me that's huge There's magic, real healing juste by lissening and put intoo action. Love Wonderwomen, didn't grew up with her, but since a saw the film I changed my posture more and more because I love her posture 🤣 I 💖 how she keeps her arms a litel behind and I do that too and I found out that's a very good one 👍🙌 I had a strong wake up when I read a book with amazons and feminin initiations. And I decided that my life was my initiation, put truly I was in a deep fog, frozzen, didn't found a way out of chronic pain, lost the plaisur to walk and went so numb that I coulden't feel it most of the time and with cptsd, unknown, I had chronic fatigue syndrôme and felt threatened all the time, my mind was blocked on " you can't proove me that nothing terrible can happens, in some seconds ahead... I knew it had no scence but it didn't change my fear, I was a basquette case, still ame a, but I'm a lost case for them and all I get from them is hard medication, at least it protects me against the strong stress, I was loosing my hear, and those big fears. But even with that medication I feel again and I love it. Some times it's strong and anger feels so good and fear fades away. I know how to deal with anger and I'm so releaft too feel it again and how I want to bite. I come back 🙏🏼😘

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 Ай бұрын

Thank you for hour post. I hear you. 53 is still young enough for your life to get good- well done you- you are a warrior. Compassion and strength to you. Pace yourself, it’s very small steady steps with big heavy health stuff.

@jamilahamadi6937 Ай бұрын

Thank you!!! Wow!!

@cayennesinivassinel6977 22 күн бұрын

She is definitely me...I train warriors....I Am a warrior....I Am Enough. Know ThySelf....Know Self Love first. Have a partnership first... Push people to love themselves first... 😊People who lack Self Love and those who forget that we "Reap what we sow" have to settle. It's a learning experience and as you mature, you learn that you you dont have to be stuck in it. Connection is ok.....but Connect with yourself first... I would rather be in a partnership than to be married. I love myself enough to Know I Am Enough. I won't waste my precious journey trying to live on man-made ideals of thinking I have to put up with anyone who is Not maturing spiritually. Listening to Inner Guidance is the key to Inner peace, love, joy & extreme happiness 😊....I definitely Give what I want to Receive. .....and that is very fulfilling. Life is simple. We make it too hard. 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😊

@harmonyintime1019 Ай бұрын

This episode makes my spiritual baby's leap...LOL at Whirlpool. No more Hotdog Jacuzzi water...Lisa, you are a real one. This is my second favorite episode...My favorite episode is DFW...Kudos to seeing how you and your husband are so yin and yang ☯️ since the beginning.

@shaniecegullison Ай бұрын

I love these women ❤❤❤❤❤❤

@markesabowers1567 28 күн бұрын

My second time listening! Am owning being radicallyhonest about many things I had suppressed in the name of being strong.. am committed to becoming a whole woman holistically unapologetically nolonger considering what others opinions or dream killers.. this resonates enough is enough.. ❤

@elly-smileyndume6806 27 күн бұрын

1 minutes into watching and I decided to I’m watching till the end.

@paulettebruce-williams1849 23 күн бұрын

😊

@paulettebruce-williams1849 23 күн бұрын

😊

@user-ow3wj7hp6k 19 күн бұрын

God bless you both🙏🏻😁❤️

@user-wz2cd9oe6k 11 күн бұрын

Watching this moment on TV Awesome ❤❤❤❤ love it , I gotta share this with other WOMEN Amen

@joyce-wj8db 18 күн бұрын

It's like she's reading what's inside of me. Exactly the way I feel.

@michelehill2036 Ай бұрын

Loves the conversation I can identify with a lot you’ve discussed

@innerdivadance Ай бұрын

Perfect timing

@ToniaRichardson-tm3ff Ай бұрын

Brilliant.

@user-ow3wj7hp6k 19 күн бұрын

I agree with her words

@Kashmir-lt4cx Ай бұрын

50:21 awww sorry to hear that Lisa and cause you said stomach issues, you're obviously talking about soiling Not peeing! 😭😭 i am sooo glad you overcame it! 😊❤

@ps6572 28 күн бұрын

This woman is amazing. The more I listen to her I can’t stop crying, feel admiration , pride and hope.. thank you. Lisa , I checked out Sonja’s website , there seems to be nothing on there apart from her book.. what is the best way to ask about any programs or coaching ?

@lorrainedevlin6409 25 күн бұрын

I think god blessed women who had a tough time in life with eternal beauty.

@veronicacamarillo400 17 күн бұрын

God bless you!

@adrienedorsey-tynes 29 күн бұрын

AMEN LADIES ❤❤❤❤

@cathyjennings5580 7 күн бұрын

Low level depression symptoms getting in way to get up & START OVER . TIMEBLINDNESS Disability Behaviors symptoms. Whom to TURN TO TO GET RESCUED by a COUPLE HEROS . COMMIT TO THRIVING ???

@Kashmir-lt4cx Ай бұрын

@3:27 I even look at strong n powerful different than that.

@carriedolha788 Ай бұрын

I relate. ❤

@user-ow3wj7hp6k 19 күн бұрын

I can relate to her

@kimberlylilfox4996 Ай бұрын

Love this lady! So inspirational. Wish I could be one of her warriors in training. So 🔥 fierce!

@internetgoulash5917 Ай бұрын

55:47 Encore marriage ❤❤❤it

@lesaadejola8136 20 күн бұрын

This was phenomenal and so encouraging, outright uplifting and has inspired me to keep moving forward with my goals despite all of the negative changes that have been occurring recently. I didn’t hear her mention her faith but surely God (I know my savior Christ Jesus) gets all the glory.

@Kashmir-lt4cx Ай бұрын

41:16 who cares if you hide your life from those "ppl"! It is uour life afterall!

@meneri515 24 күн бұрын

I wish I heard this 2 years ago, grief made me feel as if I lost myself

@denisemphahlele 23 күн бұрын

She is very beautiful🧡

@Senuawolf Ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@user-ow3wj7hp6k 19 күн бұрын

Get back Up!

@nompumelelonkosi9023 Ай бұрын

😥What do I want?😥😥Mhhh, this question is really important.

@carmenlux1775 Ай бұрын

Time does not go fast; it is just that dreams come around very slowly.

@user-ow3wj7hp6k 19 күн бұрын

Compliment

@iam_ntli Ай бұрын

@ Lisa Bilyeu Your voice feels tthe pain she went through. 😢

@Anonymas-di6zc Ай бұрын

Thank you ❤️😊😊💖 There's a lot of emotions, Lisas eyes look like mine and I cry often this times.... You talk befor the show ? I thought it is a signe of healing, also strong angar, I was so numb for decades and feeling again is amazing evev when it hurts. And I have my validation, craying is a signe of healing, thank you 💕 I