Hello everybuddy. I've been working on the techniques in these videos for 9 months. I've learned how to love myself and stop living with labels. The thoughts are still there, yet I have become skilled at which thoughts I allow to manipulate me. I've learned about boundaries and defensive behavior. I'm 50 years old , I wish I would have learned these practices years ago .

2:45 you cannot control your thoughts but you can learn how to manage them when they come in 4:34 acknowledge that your thoughts exist; do not ignore/deny them 7:00 your brain is always going to throw defeat-ful thoughts at you and that's okay 10:45 attach to the ones that are helpful and detach from ones which are not 13:13 decide which thoughts you want to be thinking

Writing my thoughts down has greatly helped me manage them.

can't afford therapy this is a life saver thank u so much

Why aren’t more therapists like you? So many are just dead in the eyes. Sorry to be so glum, but it’s fantastic to see one that has expression! Thank you for your content.

Admitting that your thoughts do not DEFINE you darlings. We can not control anything ALL the time. When the negative thoughts arise tell yourself immediately in that moment that this thought is a BAD Habit, what I've been taught poorly, I can change my mind, I am Allowed to be whoever I want to be, and this negative habit is NOT that person. I can grow. I can learn. I can adapt. I AM capable of taking care of my needs to drive healthy behavior and mindsets.

This is helpful! Therapists I've worked with in the past said thoughts are just thoughts. However, I think my thoughts relate a lot to my core beliefs about myself. So, my beliefs are the things that are hard to change for me. I see the thoughts as a symptom of what I believe to be true about myself or what others believe about me that I take on as truth. Trying to let go of that is hard. Work in progress!

Got it! I should not ask,"Which thought is true? But which ones are helpful?" Great insight!

Reframing from negative to unhelpful thoughts. And responsible thinking......I like that. Hello from Tacoma Washington.

I really like that boss in a meeting analogy, especially if you use the DID or OSDD personality model.

THIS SHOULD GO VIRAL! Thank you so much Julia, you're awesome! So your videos and content in general

Doubt ALL thought for they are not your own. Watch them come and then watch them leave…bye bye thoughts. We are not meant to live by thinking from thoughts. But by knowing from understanding. Don’t think, just know.

Thank you for your content! I just stumbled upon your channel recently - I appreciate the aesthetic your videos have, and also that you don’t edit out every single pause or breath you take... feels like you are truly speaking to me/us. ✨

Always glad to be here! Ty gor saying you can't stop your brain!!!! 💕🎉🎉🎉

Great video, thank you! Helpful insight.

that was so nice 👌🏻 thanks Julia 🙏🏻

This video is so liberating to know we are always in control of our mind. We have got to be intentional about the thoughts we choose to think . Beautiful 😍

I have been following Julie for several months now and I so appreciate your Teachings, thank you Julia

Thank you thank you thank you!❤ Love your video's you read my mind all the time!🙏

I always really enjoy your videos and feel I always learn something. Thanks for doing what you do.

Excellent and very helpful. Many thanks and Happy Canada Day.

Thank you for this video. It's very informative and helpful for me.

Thank you Julia ❤😊I definitely recommend joining the Shift Society 😊

Julia Kristina your awesome thanks you help me get better understanding of my situation ❤️😊 thank you

Good information, as usual...appreciate your insight and perspective...rock on...

Thank you so much Julia,it help me a lot.take good care too

Great stuff, going trough difficult time and your videos has helped me big time

Thank you Julia, you are saving people’s lives by what you are doing.

wow this is great ,,,,, your learn something new everyday

Absolutely love this video so helpful thank you ❤

Thank you!

Great video! Ty💕

Thank you for posting

I joined the shift society a few weeks ago and done anything 🤔 listening to this was helpful and has motivated me to join next zoom meeting on Wed

I just came across you and love every video I have watched!

Thank you.

Thank you so much for your lessons....

Which thoughts are helpful and which are you intentionally willing to think, which are after consideration result in responsible action. What do you need to hear from yourself ? It is not about me but them. Julia, this video is PERFECT! A life-changer! Thank you so much! Which thought is helpful? We can manage ourselves, becoming in charge of your mind is POWER! And a path to living a REAL FULL LIFE!

Too many people whimsically assume without questioning themselves and others. Inquiry deepens the pool of meaning and increases relevance, reliance, reality,…

Unfortunately people are not taught this-so many parents are not capable of teaching this and the school doesn’t teach this.

Hi new subcriber here from the philippines. Your videos are very helpful please keep on uploding. God bless you and ty for this great video.

❤❤❤its so helpful and thats what my brain is saying right now

Excellent content!

Happy Canada Day Julia 🇨🇦🤗

Very helpful

Good morning sunshine

Great. Thank you”

Thanks Julia...greetings from Guadalajara, Mexico.

I really like your videos, I'm just stuck getting past some parts.I see the overall reasoning but thinking thoughts that make me feel the way I want to feel seams like I might be missing some reality checks that I might need to function in the environment I'm trying to exsist in.

Thank you

I'm new. Greetings to all from California!

Excited to be here, and learn this 5 steps!

Hello again Julia!

A video of responsible thinking would be helpful for me to stop overthinking

thank you for the video..really helpful...pls upload color videos

I'm back again....thank you

Can you explain what you mean exactly when yoy say "grounded". Might be a good topic for a video. Thankyou.

I think I have a mixed relationship with that word ‘control’ also…. Lol

Hey. You're awesome.

Wow! wow!! wow!!!❤

These negative thoughts are driving me crazy. Your right thoughts are thoughts how liberating. I tried to looking for your free guide but it’s asking me to sign up for a monthly payment.

Susie here!

Hello Julia Kristina”

We are simply vessels for incoming thoughts

Hi Julia 👋

It's important to be your own brain boss because what's the alternative? Hire someone else to run it for you? They don't have temp agencies for that kind of thing. Also who else is to be the boss but you?

I think some thoughts are environmental, spiritual,intuitive or primordial.

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Hello everyone) a lesson learned from what was said

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hey Julia, first of all lots of love from India.this is my first time watching your video , I have a issue and I don't know whom should I ask about it,who will be better then you, So the thing is I don't know why I can't let people raise their voice at me like I get hurt and angry if somebody shout at me , what happened is 15 days before I was hanging out with my girlfriends and one of their boyfriend was on call and he pushed us further so there's no disturbance on call and we went a bit further and started talking and suddenly out of no where he shouted at me shut up and and tears came up and I said I don't even listen to my mom's raised voice who he is ? And came back home so the my two girls friends are like my sister they are my childhood friend so I consider them my sister and she talked to her bf that it wasn't right of him to shout at me and later she called me that it was wrong of me too that I said who he is because he is also 6 year old friend he was quite close he texted me sorry too but I didn't read it and denied that I can't talk to him anymore as he disrespected me and I won't agree that it was wrong of me to say that because I think he got response against what he did , from that day she isn't talking to me and I am feeling weird like that is my boundry I can't let somebody shout at me I can't take it but then I think maybe I should have agreed that it was wrong of me to say so ,I am in selima please help me

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Sam Harris talks about the thoughts that just pop up into you head

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In fact, I think most people do …..including Julia

This upload is a Helpful Thought. Thanks. Much of the advice folks give is Unhelpful Thought, but some of these folks are manipulative and have made them Intrusive Thoughts which are harder to avoid ruminating on. I've really been needing to become the boss of my own mind again.

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Well, theoretically the advice here is reasonable, but... I have experience in trying CBT and similar techniques. I am not ruling out it might help others, but things are not so simple for me at least. You cannot expect to use logic and sort out what thoughts you want hold on to and so on. The problem is that we are not pure logical Vulcans from Star Trek. The reason tons of thoughts you don't want continue to pop into your head is emotional. And those emotions needs to be adressed before any lasting positive change can be made. Meditation is one very good way of self therapy and adressing your emotions. A healthy lifestyle and some sense of purpose in life will also help of course. So if we really could choose thoughts like in the video it would be excellent, but if you really can do that you are either not human or don't have any greater emotions behind the bad thoughts in the first place. I appreciate the effort in the video though and I hope it helps other people.

Can you email me how to handle life being Bipolar… and outbursts for no reason…Being called crazy and a clown

Can I beg you for a favor? Can you do a podcast or message me in comment how to use your mind for strict logic strict logic. You got a taste of it when studying for your msw test. I'd be in your debt

I prefer a narcissist or other owner take control of the brane

Can't focus. Lol.

The guy behind you will zap me

Thank you.

Thank you