Become Who You're Afraid To Be | The Philosophy of Carl Jung

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In this video, I talk about Carl Jung, The Shadow, individuation, and becoming who you’re afraid to be.
Most people are afraid to fully be themselves. They’re afraid to embrace the parts of themselves that might be regarded as unacceptable, because embracing these unacceptable parts makes them feel uncomfortable. So to escape this uncomfortableness, they divide themselves into two halves: conscious and unconscious. In the conscious-half, they construct an ideal image of themselves: an image formed out of the bits and pieces of their past that they deem as good and acceptable. And as result, in the unconscious-half, they repress the parts of themselves that they view as bad and unacceptable. In Jungian psychology, this repressed part of the personality is called /The Shadow/. And unless The Shadow is integrated into the personality, a person can never reach their fullest potential. Instead, one will always remain incomplete, fractured, and partial-living a life of regret rather than the full life that could have been.
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@ShaheenGhiassy
@ShaheenGhiassy Жыл бұрын
The pain of regret is always worse than the pain of discipline
@xanwinters7948
@xanwinters7948 Жыл бұрын
If the price of discipline is too high, then wait until you get the bill from regret.
@sofresh688
@sofresh688 Жыл бұрын
@@xanwinters7948 dude this is fire
@readbhagwatgeeta3810
@readbhagwatgeeta3810 Жыл бұрын
@@xanwinters7948 Wow....amazing way of thinking the same meaning......The thing is we have to pay the price now or then.....Nowonwards I will pay the price to discipline rather than paying high bill to Mr. Regret🤕
@jamalrell7642
@jamalrell7642 Жыл бұрын
Dam.💯
@MrDriedel5
@MrDriedel5 Жыл бұрын
comparing the two in this way makes as much sense as comparing your foot to an apple
@lostsoul2455
@lostsoul2455 Жыл бұрын
The pain of growth is hurtful. The pain of change is hurtful. But the pain of staying the same and not becoming a better person, whatever that means to you, hurts the most.
@bengsynthmusic
@bengsynthmusic Жыл бұрын
Yeah that doesn't appear to be true for most sheep today. They LOVE staying the same.
@Xxiz268
@Xxiz268 Жыл бұрын
@@bengsynthmusic they're that they're perfect in everyway and should oy care aboit their looks what do you expect will happen
@myw5mkblessings781
@myw5mkblessings781 Жыл бұрын
Change is natural evolution is what brought us to where we are! Have a great day lost soul .
@laaaliiiluuu
@laaaliiiluuu Жыл бұрын
No. Thanks to drugs.
@soyboymcgee8529
@soyboymcgee8529 Жыл бұрын
@@Xxiz268 wat
@CYI3ERPUNK
@CYI3ERPUNK Жыл бұрын
to those of you who are reading this ; remember this : 'When the student is ready the teacher will appear. When the student is truly ready... The teacher will Disappear' - Tao Te Ching ; if you are seeing this now , then you are ready , do not ignore this moment , embrace it , and GL =]
@VeganSemihCyprus33
@VeganSemihCyprus33 Жыл бұрын
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
@vindonnaamoruso2499
@vindonnaamoruso2499 Жыл бұрын
@@VeganSemihCyprus33 You’re like a street preacher or a Jehovah’s Witness going door to door. No one asked and everyone nowadays definitely knows about what you’re saying and have the resources available at their fingertips to seek advice and research on their own. A for effort though.
@flordelisdelafuente9194
@flordelisdelafuente9194 Жыл бұрын
@bentobarreirinhas5702
@bentobarreirinhas5702 10 ай бұрын
Your teacher has disappeared? Don't cry
@Veldazandtea
@Veldazandtea 10 ай бұрын
@@VeganSemihCyprus33 What does being a vegan have to do with the darkess of shadows? If anything the morbid slaughter of the helpless animals is a bigger fear to explore and accept. You're kind of defeating your own logic there. Wolf teach sheep. They can also devour a sheep. Best you be a well behaved sheep. Learn claw and fang. Become the wolf. Then you will understand.
@miyamiyukotorres1386
@miyamiyukotorres1386 Жыл бұрын
'A life of fantasy ends with tragedy' 'The path of self improvement is self acceptance' 'Embrace our shadows' 'Fail in actuality, rather reaching success hypothetically' hits so damn hard. we just have to do what we gotta do, and trust the process.
@bentobarreirinhas5702
@bentobarreirinhas5702 10 ай бұрын
You are good at repeating
@andrewweaver2517
@andrewweaver2517 3 ай бұрын
There's a shadow just behind me, shrouding every step I take. -MJK
@mangekyo1918
@mangekyo1918 Жыл бұрын
"The path of self-improvement starts with self-acceptance."
@michaellangan4450
@michaellangan4450 Жыл бұрын
Accept this!
@theplacebeyondthelies2429
@theplacebeyondthelies2429 Жыл бұрын
deceptive talk... what you call "self" is an image you have and therefore far away from God's image and God's truth. Since you talk of Self "improvement" on top of that, there is a self (which is an image) and then another self (just another image you chose to like out of images of lifestyles you have seen on the net probably) which you aren't yet, and thats why you tell yourself you need to improve to become that greener gras "self", trying to close the gap between what is and what is not (while it's just images/ideas in your head). It's the desire that lures people right into a cage. It's like your neighbor drives a big car, you wanna have it to. You don't need a car, but for some reason, you wanna have it too.. the moment you envy someone else life and follow this image in your head is the moment you start to lose touch with who you truly are: God's creation. Your desires make you desperate. You are basically a slave to your own desires, if you have not come behind your true self yet. Most people die of lack of knowledge. They do not know themselves. They do not know their own desires and how the world pulls on them from almost every corner. Why does the world do this? Well because someone who built the car will make huge money from your desire to have it. In order to have it, you take a credit. In order to take a credit, you need to have a stable job, slaving for another richman's rear. And the mental as well as physical prison is perfect.
@Normal_user_coniven
@Normal_user_coniven Жыл бұрын
Yes, accepting the sad truth is the start, but then we must hate it and change it to better thing.
@VeganSemihCyprus33
@VeganSemihCyprus33 Жыл бұрын
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
@theplacebeyondthelies2429
@theplacebeyondthelies2429 Жыл бұрын
@@VeganSemihCyprus33 who wouldn't wanna be brave enough, right? your salesmenship sucks
@TheBoon14
@TheBoon14 Жыл бұрын
"A life of fantasy always ends in tragedy" Damn, needed this.
@agnesbusi3038
@agnesbusi3038 Жыл бұрын
But what is life without fantasies
@TheBoon14
@TheBoon14 Жыл бұрын
@@agnesbusi3038 delusions dude.
@springgal265
@springgal265 Жыл бұрын
🤣
@bellekelly582
@bellekelly582 Жыл бұрын
@@agnesbusi3038 The OP means that things like maladaptive daydreaming or denying harsh truths
@wandajames143
@wandajames143 Жыл бұрын
Except for William Blake
@nanads
@nanads 3 ай бұрын
"we often prefer to be pure potential, we convince ourselves we could be whatever we want to be, but don't actively work to actually be something. we just comfort ourselves with the idea that we could be something if we wanted to." that hits hard.
@meh_introvert1461
@meh_introvert1461 2 ай бұрын
I’m just a regular girl in Zimbabwe trying to navigate this world and luckily enough I ended up here after listening to Right Place Wrong Person. What a beautiful coincidence 😅I’ve been going down this man’s rabbit hole because he’s referenced so much in the lyrics and music videos. Carl Jung was truly a great mind and the influence he’s had in my life these past couple of days is truly incredible though most of it has been secondary so far. Feels like my mind is clearer?? Like I can live the following days a bit better than my previous ones. Anyways thank you for this amazing video
@mathieuchangeux7840
@mathieuchangeux7840 Ай бұрын
Woo 🙌 same here
@lindangculu4027
@lindangculu4027 Жыл бұрын
I don't think people fully understand what Jung is trying to say. Dave Chappelle once said, "you have to become a lion in order to be the sheep you really are." This means, we put on a persona that is far from who we really are. Your shadow maybe that scared little boy, but when you embrace yourself you learn to protect yourself in a healthy manner and set proper boundaries instead of hiding who you are through pretending and putting on a show.
@johnny4062
@johnny4062 Жыл бұрын
100% agree. The example of being too afraid to actualize your potential has nothing to do with embracing your shadow. That being said, the video creator really got the point across that you need to step into the arena and try instead of standing on the sidelines. This is something that I really needed to hear.
@germantarapow9112
@germantarapow9112 Жыл бұрын
I've entered YT to see some stand up from Dave Chapelle and this video appeared on my feed, clicked it and saw your comment. Big casuality
@danurkresnamurti3598
@danurkresnamurti3598 Жыл бұрын
Thankyou unduh
@danielverdel7502
@danielverdel7502 Жыл бұрын
Who (or what) are “you” tho? Every persona is just a mask of god. It takes a lot of courage to see past the mask… and only then can one truly love (not just from the limited individual perspective).
@tnix80
@tnix80 Жыл бұрын
Dave is very perceptive if he said that. Counterintuitive on it's face but that's how it works, fake it Till you make it
@aw4955
@aw4955 Жыл бұрын
Facts. I am long done with living in regret. Failure to accept who we are will always lead to misery.
@wavory
@wavory Жыл бұрын
DONE
@crvlad
@crvlad Жыл бұрын
@@wavory DUNE
@effortless4588
@effortless4588 Жыл бұрын
@@Saber23 You watched the video and missed the point completely still, you expect to win fighting against yourself?
@Saber23
@Saber23 Жыл бұрын
@@effortless4588 yes actually you fight against your laziness and bad habits it'll definitely be a win and you can beat them so you can keep the jargon and I'll stick to the practical
@effortless4588
@effortless4588 Жыл бұрын
@@Saber23 OK I didn't know you talk about laziness only and specifically
@jelob6783
@jelob6783 Жыл бұрын
I've always been aware of this fear in myself, but never really did anything about it. It's not exactly fear of failure, but rather I'm afraid I've become comfortable in imagining my success, rather than taking the steps to achieve it. It's quite a shock to see that someone long ago had already put a name to this complex and that I'm not alone or unique for having it. I definitely caught this video at the right time. Enough dawdling, time to get to work.
@bentobarreirinhas5702
@bentobarreirinhas5702 10 ай бұрын
I know what you mean.
@Veldazandtea
@Veldazandtea 10 ай бұрын
Success in what? Dark souls teaches people to struggle in the worst. Helps people overcome depression. Because life isn't fair. So the game isn't either. The skill just "rubs off" on people. Face the worst more. The uncomfortable. The strange. If it "puts you off" then seek to understand it. Even become it.
@Justice4Skye
@Justice4Skye Жыл бұрын
Being isolated and without friends in this day and age has truly harmed people. And the distrust from those you have met in the past create perpetual fear by so many and almost a world where it's truly a paradox. I'm afraid and alone in this world, a thing I would have never envisioned half a lifetime ago at 19.
@joshuabuchanan1141
@joshuabuchanan1141 5 ай бұрын
That's exactly why I stopped being unique and different and chose to fit in instead, fitting in is much better and totally underrated
@kennedyjames4115
@kennedyjames4115 3 ай бұрын
@@joshuabuchanan1141 fitting in implies that you have to change parts of yourself to be accepted by others. That’s going to do harm to your mental health. Nothing wrong with being “average” and fitting in, but the people who naturally fit in are just being themselves.
@personalcheeses8073
@personalcheeses8073 2 ай бұрын
That’s sad but I’ve been there. Till I decided I was going to say yes, every time anyone asked me if I wanted to do something with them. Obviously within reason.
@Maitreya_in
@Maitreya_in 2 ай бұрын
this hits si fkn hard! i was such a popular person always surrounded people and having a difficult time to choose who to hang out with less than 2 hyears ago. currently i have 0 friends in my city and haven't left the house in more than a month.
@Royalbloodline1990
@Royalbloodline1990 Ай бұрын
@@Maitreya_intake the time to go within and get all your healing in. Self care and nature is all you have. We have. Self is all you’ll have in the end anyways. Find yourself.
@raimahossain2174
@raimahossain2174 Жыл бұрын
It's incredible how this is the same concept between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset. A fixed mindset would choose not to join the math club in order for them to keep the image of their genius intact, whereas a growth mindset would dive in and get their hands dirty right away, since they aren't afraid to possibly look like fools in exchange for growth and knowledge. In this case, transitioning from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset would be integrating one's shadow, and eventually that would bleed into other areas in their life. Its amazeballs! :)
@tomybogadjian1487
@tomybogadjian1487 Жыл бұрын
connecting dots is the best way to absorb content
@VeganSemihCyprus33
@VeganSemihCyprus33 Жыл бұрын
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
@Hifirrrr
@Hifirrrr Жыл бұрын
This.
@kyr1511
@kyr1511 Жыл бұрын
Very true, I think.
@bentobarreirinhas5702
@bentobarreirinhas5702 10 ай бұрын
What concept are you talking about?
@urcanmara-sanziana7707
@urcanmara-sanziana7707 Жыл бұрын
Since i was a little girl i kept saying to myself that I’m going to be a great painter, and In do truly love to paint and am fairly talented. Now i’m in my 20’s and somehow even though that is still my dream, I am afraid of putting more work into it because of the fear of failure and possibility that i’m not going become just that, the great painter that i am in my head. Very insightful. Thank you!
@1989kd
@1989kd Жыл бұрын
We are our own worst enemies. Put your inner-critic in place and pursue your dream of painting. 😊
@jeremiasdelnegro9036
@jeremiasdelnegro9036 Жыл бұрын
You build success from many failures. It's not one path or the other. If you want to be successfull be ready to fail and keep trying. It doesn't matter how talented you are, be ready to fail and try again. Even more, in something as abstract as art. I'm sculptor and to be honest, art is a bit shaky/unpredictable. Still, worth it.
@tphilbin1
@tphilbin1 Жыл бұрын
Do you still paint?
@peripheralparadox4218
@peripheralparadox4218 Жыл бұрын
So there are two things at play here. The part of you that desires status, and the true artist where status is irrelevant. Both are understandable.
@FleurOlivia
@FleurOlivia Жыл бұрын
I have had this with keyboard. When I finally faced all my deepest fears of rejection, I was suddenly motivated to practice. Life’s funny
@dinkyduffy5026
@dinkyduffy5026 Жыл бұрын
This is perfect timing for me…. I want to start a not for profit to help other people, I have the skills qualifications and know how, but in order to do that i literally have to put myself out there and be seen, being seen is scary for me as I order to survive and be loved as a child I had to be quiet and not seen.
@VeganSemihCyprus33
@VeganSemihCyprus33 Жыл бұрын
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
@MrIdonthaveaname
@MrIdonthaveaname Жыл бұрын
You can do it. The world would love to pay you to help others. That’s what it’s all about.
@mathieuchangeux7840
@mathieuchangeux7840 Ай бұрын
I’ll help you!!!
@johnnyofthesticks7260
@johnnyofthesticks7260 11 ай бұрын
Absolutly true. The thing is, you dont have to avoid who you are or what you dont like of yourself, just avoid some people that make or made you feel that way, who boost that side of you, toxic people, agressive people, people who judge you and are always looking for your errors expecting you to fail. And then, permit yourself to fail with the right people, and I am not talking of your beloved people, just someone who is not toxic.
@felipereyes6534
@felipereyes6534 Жыл бұрын
I'm having a hard time accepting that I'm highly sensitive, I don't want to repress my feelings anymore, this video has been very helpful
@springgal265
@springgal265 Жыл бұрын
Im also quite sensitive.
@felipereyes6534
@felipereyes6534 Жыл бұрын
@@springgal265 it's a relief to know we are not the only ones
@springgal265
@springgal265 Жыл бұрын
R your friendships long?
@felipereyes6534
@felipereyes6534 Жыл бұрын
@@springgal265 They are long lasting, but I rarely make a friend. And yours?
@springgal265
@springgal265 Жыл бұрын
@@felipereyes6534 mostli last 2 to 3+ yrs.
@trappart9209
@trappart9209 Жыл бұрын
It reminds of Karen Horney's book Neurosis and personal growth. She talks about being perfectionist who seeks becoming his ideal self and ignoring true self. It leads to never accepting reality and living in a fantasy
@Surya-ji5tz
@Surya-ji5tz Жыл бұрын
@X vonPocalypse The one that remains when ideals are abandoned and the striving to shape oneself into a static moulding that society sets as a standard but incompatible with you stops. True self changes itself according to the demands of the environment, which includes social demands. Any striving or action one takes happens organically. When there is neurotic striving, it's abuse, self-abuse.
@Freedom_is_essential1
@Freedom_is_essential1 Жыл бұрын
This may be one of the best videos I’ve ever seen. How many times do we spend our lives indulging in the possibility of what we can be rather than actually trying to become that person.
@sxulstvr3909
@sxulstvr3909 Жыл бұрын
“Reality can be improved, a life of fantasy always ends in tragedy” 🔥🔥🔥
@colorfulshow33
@colorfulshow33 Жыл бұрын
Whoever is reading this, I pray that whatever you’re growing through gets better and whatever you’re battling with makes your situation better as you’re continuing to be a better person each day. I have faith that you’ll turn out great as your circumstances will change. Have a fantastic day! You got this! 🤗💪🏼❤
@laurenfinucci7305
@laurenfinucci7305 Жыл бұрын
Same to you my friend ❣️✌️💛🌻
@sikanderramgope2579
@sikanderramgope2579 Жыл бұрын
,
@sikanderramgope2579
@sikanderramgope2579 Жыл бұрын
I didn't do that.
@wisdomoftruth0
@wisdomoftruth0 Жыл бұрын
☯️
@nathangabriel2707
@nathangabriel2707 Жыл бұрын
Thank you 😊💕 and same to you
@Ash-tv3ul
@Ash-tv3ul Жыл бұрын
I was very concerned about this topic for years I was always regretting my decisions But l come to realize that it was my fault I was running away and always being in my comfort zone, idolising about what l could if l had better opportunities or a different environment Your video has save me years of disappointments Thanks
@VeganSemihCyprus33
@VeganSemihCyprus33 Жыл бұрын
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
@Illegallegaleagle
@Illegallegaleagle Жыл бұрын
nice u could never form that sentence without humans eating Beef for 100000 of years :D Yikes
@bentobarreirinhas5702
@bentobarreirinhas5702 10 ай бұрын
Now you know
@jazmynww
@jazmynww Жыл бұрын
It’s interesting I ran across this. I literally was depressed so long. One day I start doing deep shadow work and being true to my dark side and what I’m capable of. I open my eyes to the fact that I’m a good person but I’m also a “bad person” and it feels amazing to embrace myself and who I completely am. And not trying to be this perfect patty. But simply Be!! I love and accept all of me!
@dochasbeo5468
@dochasbeo5468 Жыл бұрын
I'm an artist and today had my biggest launch of my career, after 5 years of work. Afraid, I decided to quit what I was doing, and move to a new city, to pursue that life, knowing I might be terrible. And today, I shared my largest exhibition yet. It's been a huge success, more than I ever could have hoped. And yet I've spent the morning in bed, hiding, and even risking being fired from my day job - which I'm really grateful to have - because I feel... afraid. Afraid of succeeding, or maybe more afraid that I will fail. That people will see me for who I am, see all the days I was lazy, all the days I compromised and didn't work as hard as I could or should have. I think I needed to see this today. Thank you. I'm going to get out of bed, do the work I can, and text my friend to go ahead with a celebration party tonight, that she wants to throw for me. Thanks for listening guys.
@fikriasrofi5312
@fikriasrofi5312 Жыл бұрын
When i was in highschool my parents told me that i should participats in many social event and force myself to be a cool sociable guy to have friends but in the long run i feel drained and it burst out when i was in college, since my parent didnt really understand the concept of introvert but now i embrace my introversion and embrace my loner nature
@odizaii1700
@odizaii1700 Жыл бұрын
Kudos to you being true to yourself. Keep going man!
@cassondralynch6342
@cassondralynch6342 Жыл бұрын
We absolutely need introverts in the world. People are brainwashed that think people need to be "on" and "outgoing". That's bullshit and as an unapologetic night owl I'll sleep in until 1 if I damn well choose. F the early worm and f anyone who has a problem with it lol. It takes all kinds to make the world go round and introverts tend to be some of the most intelligent and thoughtful in my experience. Interesting as well.
@sultanaxavier7108
@sultanaxavier7108 Жыл бұрын
it ALWAYS pays off to be yourself. i had a very troubled adolescence, with alcohool and drugs. it was hell, and i dever denied it. i embraced my shadow fully. today, i see how i am happier than most adults my age. i had to find ways to GENUINELY save myself, after being constantly told i was too weak because i couldn't force myself to be positive. now, i see people living lives that they dont enjoy, desperate for meaning and freedom, like i was in the past. please, dont let anyone steal your authentic self and feelings. many of these people are lost. you have you, and that's the missing key. you are the answer you seek
@user-my3uu2mt8q
@user-my3uu2mt8q Жыл бұрын
Of all the comments stated here in the comment section, I think I resonate well with yours than others. Thank you for this, I'm truly grateful. 🙏
@talesfromprincesajesa
@talesfromprincesajesa Жыл бұрын
Love this comment.
@ryankelly1840
@ryankelly1840 Жыл бұрын
love
@strangelitgirl
@strangelitgirl Жыл бұрын
I totally relate to this I thank u 🙏🏻
@nazty121
@nazty121 Жыл бұрын
@Sultana How did you eventually overcome your struggles?
@liliesea
@liliesea 11 ай бұрын
I'm a 21 year old twice college dropout. First, I didn't know what I wanted to do with my life, second because even though I do know the path I aspire to follow now, I chose the most convenient major due to fear of failure in trying to get into a competitive school + a challenging career. All the rush led me to become depressed and consider ending my life, now because of the shame. I'm grateful I have the opportunity to start over and try again once more, this time focusing solely on my dreams instead of weighing the logics.
@BarbaraAnnCatherine
@BarbaraAnnCatherine 22 күн бұрын
How is it going?
@yaitsme8552
@yaitsme8552 Жыл бұрын
When I get old, I want to look back and be proud of my experiences.. all of the good and bad, and say I got to live an authentic life. I have a big ego sometimes but I'm starting to realize that I dont want this whole self concept thing to get in the way of me living the authentic life I want,, I want to take more risks and embrace every part of me because it's all still part of who I am fully. Thanks for this video
@eugenecaudill5361
@eugenecaudill5361 Жыл бұрын
“The rain can’t wash you if you’re lying in the dirt, and the pain can’t heal you if you blame it on the hurt”-Grieves
@VeganSemihCyprus33
@VeganSemihCyprus33 Жыл бұрын
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
@subliteral1380
@subliteral1380 11 ай бұрын
Different sentiment, but it reminds me of this line by Oscar Wilde: "...we are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars."
@coolnamebro
@coolnamebro 11 ай бұрын
@@VeganSemihCyprus33 Will you face your instincts and enjoy a delicious, juicy, medium rare steak?
@vain.a2
@vain.a2 11 ай бұрын
​@@subliteral1380 FUCK man i wrote that lyric in a song and thought it was so nice but someone fucking beat me to it lmao
@bentobarreirinhas5702
@bentobarreirinhas5702 10 ай бұрын
How poetic...
@KadirPeker
@KadirPeker Жыл бұрын
Wow, so hard hitting and right on the spot... "we often prefer to be pure potential"
@VeganSemihCyprus33
@VeganSemihCyprus33 Жыл бұрын
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
@bentobarreirinhas5702
@bentobarreirinhas5702 10 ай бұрын
What is the right spot?
@rachelsawtelle4666
@rachelsawtelle4666 Ай бұрын
This is so true! I noticed this when doing any self-transformation: weight loss, classes at college, reaching out to socialize...
@HopefulMathGirl
@HopefulMathGirl Жыл бұрын
Yes, my fellow students didn't like that they were bad at programming when they first went to study CS. So they took the path of least resistance and laughed at people who studied calling them nerds, etc. They were the worst bullies especially considering everyone were adult there.
@HopefulMathGirl
@HopefulMathGirl Жыл бұрын
was* , grammatical mistake.
@VeganSemihCyprus33
@VeganSemihCyprus33 Жыл бұрын
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
@user-sp9ue1ws7c
@user-sp9ue1ws7c Жыл бұрын
As a fellow nerd who tended to fit in with that group that appeared to be “jocks,” 99% of the time they are just poking around for fun. Its friendly banter but it can feel real if you aren’t confident or unsure about their intentions. If you react seriously they may respond negatively to protect themselves as it is awkward for them (they look like a fool) I hope anyone going through a similar situation reads this. Laugh it off, maybe engage in the banter and you could have a new friend. As long as they aren’t stuck up and dont choose their friends based on appearance (which does exist, but I’d estimate its less than 30% of these cases based on my experience in college and hs which may vary from yours)
@catarinarodrigues3142
@catarinarodrigues3142 Жыл бұрын
If you let your fears of progressing in life and if you let doubts take over then you're doomed. You won't live the life you truly want to live, and you won't get to be what you were really destined to be. Everybody at some point feels scared to try something they really wanted, the difference is you can either find out if it will actually work or you can be thinking about "what if" all your life. I never thought I was smart enough to go to university and study Psychology which is my dream. When I finally got enrolled I was happy but didn't think I was gonna pass not even the first semester, and I did and 4 years later I graduated, and turns out I was not that dumb after all. I'm scared to apply for a masters, but what if it's just my insecurities speaking and I'm actually able to do it? We should really just do what we gotta do, if it doesn't workout so what? At least you tried and possibly learned something valuable.
@HlomlaMlinganiso
@HlomlaMlinganiso 2 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing your inspiring story. You know, I have been the kind of person who isp so afraid of trying apndp being my authentic self because of the "what is". This has made me realise that having these "what ifs" and doubting myself won't get me anywhere. Sometimes, it's worth the try because at the end of the day, you won't have any regrets such as "if only". You will feel proud of yourself that you gave it try and you do not regret doing so. So thank you once again for your story. ❤
@kistar3460
@kistar3460 Жыл бұрын
“The obstacle in the path becomes the path. Never forget, within every obstacle is an opportunity to improve our condition.”― Ryan Holiday
@ethanwinters9419
@ethanwinters9419 Жыл бұрын
He was quoting Marcus Aurelius.
@kyoshiro4042
@kyoshiro4042 Жыл бұрын
The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way - Marcus Aurelius
@RedIria
@RedIria Жыл бұрын
Ryan Holiday is a self-help charlatan, who was paid to write a book about a topic he didn't understand that took off. Nobody cared that the successful billionaire case studies he used as examples of stoicism were the exact opposite of what stoicism is. Nobody reads the source material anymore, ffs..
@donnawoodward3163
@donnawoodward3163 Жыл бұрын
I am experiencing this just today. It's a revelation for me and wow what surprising news! I love how this channel and segment popped up tonight and I read down to your comment. Grateful Thank you for posting it🙏💫
@VeganSemihCyprus33
@VeganSemihCyprus33 Жыл бұрын
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
@trauma2happiness
@trauma2happiness 8 күн бұрын
People's negative traits are trauma defences. Remove the trauma, remove the traits you don't want. Liked and subscribed.
@younghem
@younghem Жыл бұрын
It’s a balance of doing what we need to survive vs. being ourselves. It’s not that being ourselves makes us uncomfortable, it’s that we are FORCED to repress that side of us in order to survive and please others so we can make $$$ to survive.
@caseyschall7419
@caseyschall7419 Жыл бұрын
Oof, this hit hard and was a wonderful reminder. The fear of living in judgement haunted my youth and twenties. I found this to be common among my fellow writing majors for whom, like myself, "writer" was worn as an identity. I've been actively working to shed this perfectionism throughout my 30's and, while it's been difficult, it has been a period of far greater personal growth for me. Thank you for another insightful video.
@Chrisko1492
@Chrisko1492 Жыл бұрын
It‘s just the normal development of humans. There‘s no point in trying to adopt this „I don‘t care what anyone thinks“-mindset in your teens and 20s. It simply won‘t work. Once you turn 30, you will naturally care less about other people‘s opinions. So to all people under 30: don‘t fight it. Accept that you will care about what others think. It‘s just human nature. It gets better with age.
@caseyschall7419
@caseyschall7419 Жыл бұрын
@@Chrisko1492 Yes! A little self-consciousness is a good thing.
@kaydimarco2802
@kaydimarco2802 Жыл бұрын
This is amazing. I’m working on shedding the perfectionist mentality, it’s not easy. I’m constantly being too hard on myself and feel uncomfortable with feeling uncomfortable but I’m pushing through the doubts and fears that keep limiting me. Wishing you well📚🎀
@anival9576
@anival9576 Жыл бұрын
Yes, writer's block is often made up of this fear of the shadow self... or the block could be at some other point in the process, but writers definitely struggle with it!
@delaney.m.
@delaney.m. Жыл бұрын
As a writing major I felt that
@maumiceli
@maumiceli Жыл бұрын
Love it. If we choose to become who we are afraid to be, we go through it just as a transition towards being who we would actually want to be. And if we choose to escape being who we are afraid to be, we actually become our worst versions.
@thahzjj1
@thahzjj1 Жыл бұрын
I did this for two months. People want to be around you when you are your true self because you appear like a main character. Everyone that isn't themselves all look like the next person who isn themselves so they all appear the same outwardly but inwardly they know they are their own being and beg to escape societal pressure so they can be just that. So when YOU come along being yourself you appear like a free spirited butterfly and a breath of fresh air to everyone who is scared to be themselves so people will gravitate toward you to the point its overwhelming a times because they'll either wan to be in that energy that you radiate because it feels so free or they'll hope it rubs off on them by spending g time with you. This is how you'll know you're being yourself. You won't appear like everyone around you.
@joefred4444
@joefred4444 9 ай бұрын
I'm embracing myself right now after years of suppression, and growing up in a family that suppressed themselves too. And I just wanted to say that I'm doing a really fucking good job
@ArtByHazel
@ArtByHazel Жыл бұрын
Embracing both conscious and unconscious brought so much change within myself after so many years of resistance to accepting my own darkness. That brought me so much healing chronic pain, freedom, renewed purpose, infinite creativity and infinite blessings. We’re all conditioned to look at the positive all the time to the point of suppressing our unhealed childhood wounds that creates havoc within and affect our adulthood. I see you. I feel you. Keep being. Keep unlearning the old patterns. Keep celebrating your progress no matter how small it maybe. Keep being compassionate to yourself during the messy, chaotic and frustrating times of change. Keep showing up, anyway. Cheers! ❤❤❤
@sarpsays
@sarpsays 8 ай бұрын
May I ask how you finally achieved to "embrace both your conscious and unconscious"? By the definition of unconscious it means that it's hard for us to even be aware of it. I've been trying to "heal" but it's been a... slow process.. to say the least. I don't know if there is a better technique to follow.
@midwinter8199
@midwinter8199 5 күн бұрын
Its a choice bro. It's counts more than 80% of whether u are going to succeed or not. U have got to choose! Choose now that u are going to create your life into how u love it. And for your good DON'T continue reading this until u completely feel that creation choice in u. Choose to view yourself as the superhero and the body as the wingman. The wingman cannot in any way rule or give orders to the great guy. Impossible. And u gotta be loyal to that choice because the body somehow has a brain of it's self. U like something and then it says I don't that. It starts telling telling u lies of how u are tired, you can't do this, u will do it tommorow, next time, all shit like that. How sad. I So u have to be like, u are my assistant and u tell me things like that, am not believing or taking that anywhere. 💪​ And the more u do that, I promise u will be free. And habitual the unconscious will be the unconscious u truly want. because u will have trained it over time@@sarpsays
@hisenseks
@hisenseks Жыл бұрын
After 10years of studeing arts ,I found out that I'm not good artist. It was painful to accept, but I always felt so. Feeling stupid, but also relifed from life long delusion
@johnnyxmusic
@johnnyxmusic Жыл бұрын
But do you like it? Is it worth doing if you don’t think you’re any good? If I gave you a million dollars, would you make art just because you could?
@hisenseks
@hisenseks Жыл бұрын
@@johnnyxmusic Well, I guess I have to correct myself, that I'm not good at making money with art. 😅 But I think art is very important for us, humans and it's conversation with collective unconscious, but I don't feel like I can make any change with it for society, there are people who can do it better. But I will do that for my self.
@LittleTut
@LittleTut Жыл бұрын
This is so speaking to me. And I've been not who I am really since a kid. I think a lot of people live that way. 🙏🏽
@lukecarey613
@lukecarey613 Жыл бұрын
Look at a few of these comments, it’s everyone 😊
@mis2eye
@mis2eye Жыл бұрын
Acceptance of my high sensitivity toward the world has peaked during this season. Watching this video put the icing on the cake. Thank you for sharing this!
@joyjones7745
@joyjones7745 Жыл бұрын
I’ve read that courage is the gateway, that it requires courage to be kind, compassionate, loving and accepting of myself -flaws and all.
@gamal01
@gamal01 Жыл бұрын
I may have missed previous videos where you thoroughly explained what the shadow is but this video by far is the best I've come across that puts the shadow in a proper and meaningful context! Very insightful!
@edh9500
@edh9500 9 ай бұрын
I love it when a question in life we've had for a while receives an answer. Great video, thank you.
@dmeads5663
@dmeads5663 11 ай бұрын
This mindset actually helped me become a good football player, I would only do the things I was kinda good at but avoided my known weaknesses. I eventually stopped overthinking it and let myself be vulnerable to my weaknesses, which while at first I slightly got worse in performance I very quickly became a thousand times better than I was.
@TheJoamirhawezi
@TheJoamirhawezi Жыл бұрын
This video really resonates with me. It speaks volumes. We need to start accepting who we are as individuals. Embrace our weaknesses. With one common goal, we all share: Being the better version of ourselves.
@ArcadiaDesert
@ArcadiaDesert Жыл бұрын
This strikes a chord with me because I have always known of my shadow and didn't know that it had a name until recently when I started learning about it. I still struggle with socializing and being able to conversate freely but I believe that it is my shadow telling me that I am not able to do that because that's just who I am. I look back at my younger self and see a kid that was happier and able to do those things more easily, and "be myself" more and not someone that others wanted or expected me to be. What I'm really saying is that after thinking of that kid a lot I am realizing that the kid is still me, and for some reason in my mind I tend to see it as a different person. I am the same person, that in places throughout my upbringing certain things stuck in my mind, and became part of that shadow which makes me who i am today and causes me to hide my shadow or avoid it. Because there are parts I don't like or am afraid of like this video said.
@DRJVNAVY
@DRJVNAVY Жыл бұрын
Can you elaborate. I connect with this same thing you wrote, but haven’t quite understood it as much as you wrote. Basically, what have you realized now from your shadow. Are you someone who can’t converse or is it … I’m struggling with this
@ArcadiaDesert
@ArcadiaDesert Жыл бұрын
@@DRJVNAVY well I've learned a lot about myself in the past year to start off. I was 19 last year I that's when I discovered that I have ASD (autism spectrum disorder) it is also called aspergers. But through elementary school and grade school I had no problem conversating and just being around people because it was easier at that age and it feels like there is no fear of rejection as a kid and nothing to lose from doing something embarrassing or different because, well I don't know other than at that age it just seemed easier and you don't have that feeling of needing people to understand or accept you. It seemed like you could find friends no matter what. But middle school, like 6th-8th grade, is where I struggled the most with aspergers, yet I didn't know that was part of my struggle at the time. I think this is where a lot of the negative things I incorporated into my shadow developed. At that point in my life I often remember thinking that there was something wrong with me all the time, and trying to point to a certain thing like me being overweight, or having bad acne on my nose. I remember little moments through that time that made me act different in the future. For example, there were things I would do that were strange to the classmates, like sometimes if I came in the class to walk to my desk I would walk with my arms out like a plane, and the teacher made fun of me for it one day and got everybody laughing at me. There are lots of moments like this that really stuck with me and still to this day have me convinced that I am weird. And of course I had a struggle trying to talk to girls too, it was no different, I would struggle with eye contact and sometimes still do. Conversations felt like a script to me and when the script ran out I was going onto my own which made me kind of funny in a way, but it seemed to be a way of hiding that I am really panicking and don't know what to say. This meant I could make people laugh but I didn't ever have a girlfriend or anything. When I think back on it with a different perspective and just more lived experience I am seeing where my shadow and how I interpreted it really had a lot to do with this. Because of these events and my emotions from them that stuck in my subconscious, I formed a way of seeing myself, like that voice in our heads we always call "ourselves" it is what controls everything you do, but it isn't random. It is built on those embarrassing, confusing and painfal moments of social rejection or failure. As I lived with this shadow of myself and how I saw myself, it affected all of my actions. So going through middle school with this shadow of myself that was creepy to girls and weird to be around or someone nobody liked caused me to act in THAT way. I didn't ever think of it that way at the time. I had many meltdowns about why I was so weird or unattractive but looking back it all seemed to be my shadow in control and me not looking at it and asking myself why I believed those things about myself. To me they just were true and I believed that's how I was seen by others so it's how I acted subconsciously. I don't seem to be great at conversating now but as I've gotten older I've learned that you have to just talk to people like they are a perfect stranger and not someone I should try to impress or have to be liked by. I try not to assume they will treat me a certain way or that they are a certain type of person. Another thing that helped me is to not be afraid to just say hi, and if you are scared then force yourself to like you're not in control and see where it goes, because in our heads we fear that it's bad character or weird, (I did anyways) but really, it's what life is all about. We are all struggling and no matter what someone shows, we don't ever have it truly figured out, we are all constantly trying to do that. I have learned from addressing my shadow more that the feeling of when I was kid and I had nothing to lose from embarrassing myself and just being free in conversation is still a way I can feel, it just takes those moments of trying it and literally saying something like hello to a stranger or breaking that social "script" and really asking how someones life is going and even share something embarrassing thats happened to you. The more you do this the more you'll begin seeing that it's not bad, kind of like the opposite of what built my shadow that way. You have to not care so much about the moments of conversation, because it doesn't carry as much weight or importance as we think in our heads, and the other person feels a lot of the same things. This is a really long reply. I hope this has helped you in any way in your life
@DRJVNAVY
@DRJVNAVY Жыл бұрын
@@ArcadiaDesert Oh wow you’re only 20! Your emotional intelligence is impressive. I don’t think I knew half of this then. Did you ever get a girlfriend? You mentioned that you were unattractive and awkward… do you view yourself differently? I appreciate your thoughtful response.
@ArcadiaDesert
@ArcadiaDesert Жыл бұрын
@@DRJVNAVY Yes, I had a girlfriend in high school but it was for a short time and I found that I really was wanting a relationship for the wrong reasons and that it wasn't meaningful to me or the other person. It was kind of on and off through freshman and sophomore year but other than that no. Through high-school I did view myself in a better light and it did seem to work in my favor for the appropriate amount that I changed or tried to improve on. I still see myself as different but not in a way that I think I'm better than anyone, but in a way that gives me peace of mind to know that it's okay to be me and that at a fundamental level and because of my condition there are things about the way I feel or think in social settings that I can't change. It's not to say I am giving up on trying to confront the shadow and socialize more freely, but that no matter the end result, it will be unique to me, and that nobody is the same, and it's okay to be me. Which is easier than said than done. It's something I've really been trying to work on recently now that I've realized it more. Thank you for your compliment. I don't claim to know anything better than any other person, this is just my experience the best I could articulate it into words. I'm really trying to figure more out and just try the things that scare me the most in a social setting and remind myself that the next day isn't guaranteed.
@rookiesru7271
@rookiesru7271 Жыл бұрын
@@ArcadiaDesert I'm the similar. I have autism and I used to be outgoing and friendly but not after abuse at school.
@noortjebosma
@noortjebosma 11 ай бұрын
Every day I’m struggling I’m on the right direction and some weeks ago I realized that what I want is going to be hard and I’m accepting that. I’m taking small steps. But sometimes weeks go by and I’m just stuck again in my comfortable fantasy potential cage. It doesn’t help that I have so many fantasies too. It wasn’t enough to become an illustrator I still want to be an actor a dancer and a film maker not to forget a musician too and although I know it’s not realistic these fantasies won’t disappear. I make life so hard for myself. Being confronted everyday with the reality of being far off all the professions above at the moment. It’s the greatest cause of my depressive moods and depressive phases. I find this just very hard. Sometimes I would love to be able to just accept and be happy that I’m not gonna be all this fantasies but this urge isn’t going anywhere so that’s why I work through I simply have to.
@noelbundy3229
@noelbundy3229 Жыл бұрын
This resonates with me right now more in the way of embracing your shadows you are so afraid of and maybe realizing they are not so horrifying as you are imagining.. embracing my full personality to stop worrying about how people will take it and realizing it’s not as unbearable as I think.
@bills1967
@bills1967 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video! I have been trying to accept my shadow and things have been starting to get better. At first it caused a lot of depression but the more I take steps the depression decreases.
@ClearMystic
@ClearMystic Жыл бұрын
« And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good » John Steinbeck
@trauma2happiness
@trauma2happiness 8 күн бұрын
Perfection doesn't exist
@danvisk33
@danvisk33 11 күн бұрын
The pain of regret is always worse than the pain of realizing we're not as good as we thought we were or even could ever be - the living in thinking about the possible potential, thoughts like "I could easily be the best in this area if I applied myself", which... could even be true, but we settle for the pleasure and satisfaction those thoughts give us, and just continue being and doing mediocre things.The pain of regret is also always worse than the pain we have to endure... and the time, resources and effort we have to apply or even sacrifices we have to make to improve, and keep improving. Also, who doesn't improve goes after validation and/or "applauses" on the little they accomplish, and sometimes, sadly, this satisfies them enough for just doing nothing or quite little. It's a very sad state of affairs. I'm 37 and I've lived my life greatly like that, and I'm reaping the sadness and regret of having lived like that, and not have realized or matured (sooner) to see reality as real as it is. Like I've heard Jordan Peterson saying (who likes Carl Jung a lot, and has even many of his vocabulary and ideas)... Choose your [damn] sacrifice, the pain will come in one way or another. But if we pay the price earlier, things get easier and better (or much easier and better) in the future. We need to be the heroes today of our future selves. We need to be the person today, our future self thanks for doing the sacrifices necessary to improve "their life". Separating ourselves like that, in like 2 different people, can make things easier to comprehend, to assimilate. And all this also presents a risk of puting a person in sometimes unrecoverable downward spirals like addictions (whicheve kind, alcohol, drugs, videogames or even series TV Shows consumer, to scape reality), or serious, severe psychological problems or diseases like depression or acute anxiety. One of the main ideas a person should know CLEARLY, is... things either improve or deteriorate, living in a way of passivity and expecting things will "remain just the same, no worry", is not true, almost never it's true. The forces of time, and obstacles and challenges that keep coming, will drag us down. Life is like swiming agains a river, swiming agains a flow, keeping still doesn't work, almost never works. Even if one has a family member that will support us financially for the rest of our lives, that's an even worse tragedy than struggling, not achieving much anyway, but at least the person improved, even if a little, in the process. Even if the person ends up being just a little better than before, that's a better outcome than doing nothing, in order to never suffer big deceptions and/or frustrations. Living and ending life as a quite worse person than at some previous peak in our life (I mean, before a person retires, starts to become real old, so I'm talking about a person before they're 70, mostly, or until they are quite lucid, which can go well into the 80s sometimes), is a real tragedy, and I know people close to me like that (actually was close, I distanced myself from them), that is a worse person than they were when they were younger. This person is even a "hustler", but he only knows to work in that area of his life, and applies the mistake pointed out in this video for all other areas of his life, sadly also in the financial/work area. He thinks hustling solves everything, but for not being develped, gained money and lost it all, repeatedly, having all kinds of wrong / unwise decisions, and partenering (sexual/romantic partner) with someone which was quite "lower" than him when they met (now she brought him down more to her low level). So, just a highly immature person, which in some moment in life thought he was a quite well develped person, and for that reason, never developed more, never improved, on the contrary, regressed. This is the worse tragedy in a human life.
@zoidsfan12
@zoidsfan12 Жыл бұрын
This reminds me of when I got into combat sports again as an adult. I can easily win fights with random people that would get pissed and swing on me. I used to have this view that I was bulletproof, that I was better even than champion fighters because of my scrappy nature. Then I actually got into combat sports again, my first practice I got my ass absolutely handed to me. But I had a smile on my face during every loss. Because it made me realize how deep combat sports were, it made me happy that I still had something to learn. The issue in my case is that there are 3 tiers of fighter. The average person, someone that's willing to fight, and a trained fighter. Just having that will to fight is enough to scare off the average person that tries to throw down. But a trained fighter is a different breed. After a year being an amateur sumo wrestler I can headbutt fellow competitors so hard I give them a concussion, I don't even feel strikes to the face or chest anymore, and hell last practice I won a match where my throat was being lunged at by just pushing into it and choking myself in the process. I nearly fractured my own windpipe because of how hard I charged into that choke. And I'm just an amateur. I'm nothing compared to the pros. And I love that. I love to be apart of something so deep that even giving my all I still have a long long long way to go before I could even last 10 seconds against a pro. Recently did something similar with my drawing. I started drawing more and more. There was initial sadness when I realized I'm really not as good as people used to say I was, but I started feeling quite happy actually making my small improvements.
@benjones2850
@benjones2850 Жыл бұрын
“our actual reality is often less pleasurable to live in than our ideal fantasy.” -the video If you can have the humility and strength to see yourself and accept yourself for who you truly are (all weaknesses and flaws included,) you’ll have the PERFECT foundation to make REAL progress. Most people never do this and prefer fake fantasy because it’s more pleasurable.. but it “always leads to tragedy.” This is because their reality sucks because of neglect. “For whoever exalteth himself shall be abased; and he that humbleth himself shall be exalted.” -Luke 14 I believe that we are much closer to success than we think as long as we can make those seemingly small changes we know we need to make when we can truly step into our realities. This leads to REAL happiness!
@edithbannerman4
@edithbannerman4 5 ай бұрын
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
@raigeki.
@raigeki. Жыл бұрын
Never understood the shadow properly until this video. Thank you
@slicklebat5945
@slicklebat5945 Жыл бұрын
“ so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” -Teddy Roosevelt
@MindBenderMav
@MindBenderMav 22 күн бұрын
I have confronted my Shadow, a few years ago. As almost everyone, before this I was in complete denial that I even needed any help or that there was such a thing as a shadow. Basically it's all of those beliefs that keep you 'safe'. Because the subconscious mind is only interested in keeping a person safe, whether miserable or not. It doesn't care if you are thriving, it only wants you to survive by keeping you safe. Anyway, it was one of the hardest things I have ever done in my life. In this journey, you realise that there is a lot of grieving and pain. When you confront those beliefs and you basically hug that pain and try to give it love. But the best thing that can come out of it is for sure - personal growth. You will mature in your thinking, in your spirit and in your emotions. You will likely even do better and excel because previously if you were afraid of 'not being the best' for example like in this video, now you can tackle those things head on and become better or even the best, but without fake hiding from others just to believe that you are the best even though it might not be true. The emotional maturity that comes with this, is not because you hide from your emotions but because you can understand that those feelings are there, and be okay with them, and understand them and where they are coming from. This is true emotional maturity. Most people cannot do this because of the actual pain that comes with it but I encourage everyone because literally this is the purpose of life, it's to stop sleeping on reality of things and confront things as scary as they may be, so that you can become the fullest version of yourself. I am still doing this process, and actually it's kind of a lifelong process but it's for those who want to be aware and awake. It's not for everyone at every single point in time, a lot of people won't be ready for this and it's ok. Everyone is on their own path but which is ultimately about growth.
@skippybe
@skippybe Жыл бұрын
Love this. So many different interpretations of Jung's teachings on the shadow and this one is my new favorite.
@SoloMotivation
@SoloMotivation Жыл бұрын
🌎 🌍 *Sometimes, the hardest thing in life is simply to take the first step.* *I LOVE YOU* ❤️
@aw4955
@aw4955 Жыл бұрын
This +
@HUYENNGUYEN-js7xu
@HUYENNGUYEN-js7xu Жыл бұрын
Sometimes, the hardest thing in life is simply to take the first step.❤️🙏🏻
@mathieuchangeux7840
@mathieuchangeux7840 Ай бұрын
This has a lot of impact in politics… We can’t live in a fantasy; we must act. “Reality can be improved.”
@bingo1232
@bingo1232 Жыл бұрын
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” (Anais Nin)
@dkeefe4068
@dkeefe4068 Жыл бұрын
Wish I'd seen this in high school. I'm 66 years old and fit the description of "a jack of all trades and a master of none."
@midnight62440
@midnight62440 Жыл бұрын
I feel bad for you, 😞
@Brian-zc2ip
@Brian-zc2ip Жыл бұрын
D Keefe, I've been describe as Jack of all trades many times and the master of none part always echos in my head when I hear it. But remember being a jack of all trades is a strength in and of itself. Being able to tackle a problem from your many areas of knowledge is a strength that few have. Have you considered being a master jack of all trades is your purpose?
@cassondralynch6342
@cassondralynch6342 Жыл бұрын
@@midnight62440 I don't think they're looking for sympathy.
@midnight62440
@midnight62440 Жыл бұрын
@@cassondralynch6342 I know
@kyr1511
@kyr1511 Жыл бұрын
I think I'm like you man. Thanks GOD i'm 17 but it's never too late to start getting better, step by step. Have Faith, have hope ❤
@hugoderrica6155
@hugoderrica6155 Жыл бұрын
To all the people in the comments that didn't get the message: Be Yourself and realize your potential in whatever you want to do, with no regrets. That doesn't mean you don't behave normally in society, but it does reflect the way you should look at your goals and personality
@VeganSemihCyprus33
@VeganSemihCyprus33 Жыл бұрын
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
@happysunshinemedia7092
@happysunshinemedia7092 7 ай бұрын
@@VeganSemihCyprus33 lol
@K_TPC
@K_TPC Жыл бұрын
Befriend your shadow. My coach said to me once. This is the best representation I have seen of that concept, well done and thank you. ✌
@walkdi
@walkdi 2 ай бұрын
we often prefer to be pure potential. we convince ourselves that we could be whatever we want to be, but don’t actively work to actually be something. we just comfort ourselves with the idea that we could be something if we wanted to.
@yaskayy
@yaskayy Жыл бұрын
the example you used in this video is actually something I'm going through in college. thank you.
@kylej_music
@kylej_music Жыл бұрын
This is the best lesson I’ve ever learned. Thank you for this
@carmenfranchini550
@carmenfranchini550 Жыл бұрын
wow, i actually really needed this! i made the decision a few weeks ago that i wanted to make a group of two days about self improvement, which i actually was really scared of in the start, thinking about how it would end up being if i actually wasn't good enough to bring such an argument to the table. however i decided that i didn't want to listen the "shadow" and wanted to challenge myself instead! not sure bout how it'll be.. but i'm glad i'm trying.
@samjackson7943
@samjackson7943 11 ай бұрын
Trying to make sense of the shadow is hard. But when presented with the choice of either living a life of perfection in the mind only, or surrendering to the reality of one's true weight in the world, the shadow comes forward. This video really helps.
@edithbannerman4
@edithbannerman4 5 ай бұрын
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
@yaha7039
@yaha7039 Жыл бұрын
I've been doing a lot of thinking these past few months. I suddenly got a problem into things I'm doing. "This is the right thing to do but my feelings don't feel inclined with this right decision." Do i follow what i feel or what i think? do i do what i think i am or what i want?" i would always ask myself and would destroy myself inside out because i was scared of the pain of change.
@Adam-ui3yn
@Adam-ui3yn Жыл бұрын
So this is the origin behinds Jordan Peteron's talks about being nothing but potential as a child which is almost magical, but growing up requires specialization at the cost of the potential. I really enjoyed this video because I'm guilty of this. Metaphorically, I believed myself to be the worlds greatest fighter and fighting anyone to prove it was below me. But it's more impressive to have 5 losses if they're accompanied by 50 wins, than it is to have 0 losses but 0 wins.
@1uc123
@1uc123 Жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I needed to hear. I watched this video three times and took actionable notes. Thank you for sharing this and making this video.
@willl5970
@willl5970 7 ай бұрын
This is one of the best, most helpful reads & explanations of Jung's Shadow Theory I've heard. TYVM for everything you do.
@MrRossoneri55
@MrRossoneri55 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this! What a great reminder.
@usdaddyswife6186
@usdaddyswife6186 Жыл бұрын
Currently, im still having problems with self acceptance. Other than that, i actually fully agree with what this video has shown, as it has happened to me. But instead of not being able to move forward, i fell back and destroyed myself through self pleasure because i thought i would always remain a genius. Also, math topics can actually be very different so i would like to say that no one, not even Sri Ramajunan(my idolll) was great in all aspects of mathematics. If someone compliments us, its best not to simulate it in your brain over again and again too as u will drown in this temporary pleasure.
@Mind-Vue
@Mind-Vue 5 ай бұрын
Embracing the shadow within us unveils the path to true self-discovery. Amazing Video!! Carl Jung's insights remind us that the journey to wholeness requires confronting and integrating the parts of ourselves we fear the most.
@mbao604
@mbao604 10 ай бұрын
I really needed this I've been living in a bubble thinking everything was alright but no its not
@giannemarie972
@giannemarie972 Жыл бұрын
Perfect timing. Sincerely, thank you for the videos.
@ellephant4150
@ellephant4150 Жыл бұрын
Running toward reality is the path of joy Running toward fantasy is the path of tragedy
@Jade_holloway
@Jade_holloway Жыл бұрын
very simplistic
@Human1136
@Human1136 Жыл бұрын
What is reality?..
@AwakenedAvocado
@AwakenedAvocado Жыл бұрын
Not really because it's only achieved when you see reality as presented is a total illusion
@stevec404
@stevec404 7 ай бұрын
Some of us have serious blockages to self advancement: cPTSD. This is not an excuse, it is a reality. Only when one understands the root cause of their 'potential vs actualizing' paradigm can progress be made to embrace one's shadow self, become whole, and live an integrated and fulfilling life.
@kahhtd
@kahhtd 10 ай бұрын
This is the most clear explanation of the shadow self that I've heard. Thank you!
@doda-os3bp
@doda-os3bp Жыл бұрын
The pain of trying your hardest and failing is so great that i just half try at everything so that when i fail i just say "its okay i didn't to my best anyway, if i did i would've succeeded"
@kissit012
@kissit012 Жыл бұрын
Failure is how you know where you need to practice more.
@noosy530
@noosy530 5 ай бұрын
Try extra hard and when you fail say "it's okay I failed because I tried my hardest, which means I actually did succeed." Reality is, when you try your hardest, you end up winning unforeseen prizes that you couldn't predict, usually they end up much better than the prize we were planning on and aiming for. Godspeed!
@TheChoosenOne1698
@TheChoosenOne1698 Жыл бұрын
Really interesting and good video, thank you. The example was really good. It discribes my situation with beeing a musician. Im scared of playing with others and actually forming a band, because then my skills are actually judged. I like the thought of beeing good and talented, but years without knowledgeble progress have passed with that mindset. And im still sitting in my room, practicing and still thinking that im not good enogh yet to go out. I will check out more of carl jung and am looking foreward to your next video :D
@kaydimarco2802
@kaydimarco2802 Жыл бұрын
What instruments do you play?🤩
@TheChoosenOne1698
@TheChoosenOne1698 Жыл бұрын
@@kaydimarco2802 I play guitar, keyboard and bass. And i got an dusty ukulele hanging above my couch xD now and then i play it too
@dollytenbrink
@dollytenbrink Жыл бұрын
But do you enjoy what your doing? Beside the practice? If you feel happy and enjoy it then you don't have to take that second step. Its all about being happy. Not about being great for others or ranking. Maybe you don't really want to go for a band and you pushed that to your unconsious mind. And that may be the reason why you are stil practicing. Just because it makes you happy doing it by yourself. Like a happy kid on the playground without goals and not knowing he is good in making salto's on the trampoline. Only the people who watch him , but he doesnt care if they told him. He only wants to jump and feel good. And there it is, your true self. Like Buddha said: stay as a child.
@TheChoosenOne1698
@TheChoosenOne1698 Жыл бұрын
@@dollytenbrink Thank you, that's a good answer! I enjoyed practicing and playing more in the last couple of days. And i guess thats all that matters. Music is a nice thing
@VeganSemihCyprus33
@VeganSemihCyprus33 Жыл бұрын
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
@sanderabrahamse7288
@sanderabrahamse7288 Жыл бұрын
Loved the phrasing of what the shadow means in this one! Definitely allowed certain pieces to fall in their places, thanks!
@Getbetter2023
@Getbetter2023 20 күн бұрын
Completely informative, The pain of regret is always worse than the pain of discipline
@miyane447
@miyane447 Жыл бұрын
This is so applicable to my situation wow. I was so scared to switch to the major i always wanted cause it was wat more academically challenging but once i did i realised i can do a lot more than i think Way way more actually Like he said i excel in some parts and do worse in other stuff but its all part of the journey and i love it all
@lauinesjunges
@lauinesjunges Жыл бұрын
Thanks for this video! I've read about this before... but I like your point of view. I've been asking myself that question for almost 15 years... I've been trying to live more in the "real life", something not so easy for me because I'm too idealistic. However, this was a great reminder. Thanks for sharing ❤️.
@aelpouliquen8533
@aelpouliquen8533 Жыл бұрын
Simplest and most practical video i've ever seen on the shadow n' shadow work ! (and i've seen many, listened to lots of talks about it ) Huge thanks ! One Love from France
@lisbethwoolf9822
@lisbethwoolf9822 8 ай бұрын
Wow this resonates with me. I applied to art school twice and got in but never went because of fear, emotional instability, not feeling ready. Regret that I didn’t even give it a try. Wasted so much time by withdrawing, self-sabotaging myself, living in a fantasy world. Struggle to face reality and create art again.
@gaylepeeples9749
@gaylepeeples9749 7 ай бұрын
This is me. I kept starting and stopping toward my goal thinking it's a bad idea, having panic attacks. Now I'm in process of actually achieving it. I'm petrified but pushing thru my fear. Good luck to everyone here.
@lisbethwoolf9822
@lisbethwoolf9822 5 ай бұрын
@@gaylepeeples9749 Thanks for sharing. Just had a conversation about trust and what that means: Daring to do something/Take a risk despite fears and being open to what comes. Wish you all the best.
@technicalleon
@technicalleon Жыл бұрын
Took me a decade to learn this lesson. I still have my head in the clouds sometimes, but I've been making an effort to improve my reality.
@drag0nsink
@drag0nsink Жыл бұрын
This reminds me I love card games, I love to play them but I get afraid when it comes to play them in real life, I am afraid people laughs at me, or that I do not understand the rules... I feel that there's a barrier there that I must break, that might be my shadow
@caseyschall7419
@caseyschall7419 Жыл бұрын
@TheChoosenOne1698
@TheChoosenOne1698 Жыл бұрын
Same thing for me. Im always afraid to look dumb when i fuck up, or dont understand the rules. I think thats part social anxiety. Because we are afraid of embarrassing ourselves in front of others. With my family its alright, but with people that are my age, it triggers a lot of stress inside me
@Power50505
@Power50505 Ай бұрын
I am a King at home with my ideas but in a room full of my peers I'm just another competitor. The good news is I do feel my potential when I am there even if its uncomfortable at times especially when I come across those who are more advanced than me in certain areas. It is true, its better to be a contender working my way up in the real world than be the champion in a fantasy world.
@Ufahamu
@Ufahamu 9 ай бұрын
Researching your roots and staying rooted in your culture helps! When I learned about the Celtic culture and what they stood for, that helped me jump in to my warrior mindset!
@pappa_panda
@pappa_panda 11 ай бұрын
I was afraid to become a serial killer thanks to u, i now am one
@talkingshadow
@talkingshadow Жыл бұрын
It took me thirty years to understand what I want.. and then I was so afraid pursuit it and so it took me another 6/7 years to understand where my fear is coming from
@LostJ
@LostJ Жыл бұрын
How did you come to realisation of what you wanted? Did you know it but it was repressed, or did you push yourself to find it?
@talkingshadow
@talkingshadow Жыл бұрын
@@LostJ it was repressed, I was conditioned to do that and I kept doing it exactly as I used to hear it from others, I repeated it.. until it totally disappeared around when I was 15 years old. It's long story.
@AwakenedAvocado
@AwakenedAvocado Жыл бұрын
Im on that timeline too man. The good thing is we're not extremely late, my bet is many people in their 60s only find this out.
@mattiabranchini7347
@mattiabranchini7347 29 күн бұрын
This is so weird, that I ended up watching this video. Its taking me 6 years to get a bachelor in, you guessed it, mathematics. I very often avoided people who I felt were better than I am because I used to rather have the fantasy of being special instead of being confronted with the reality that im most likely not. I guess that I suffer from a sort of special snowflake syndrome and its painful to realize it past my thirties and having to deal with it daily. Early childhood really shapes us a lot, and I wish I knew it much earlier than now. Better late than never, i guess. Thanks for your content.
@W.Stellar
@W.Stellar Жыл бұрын
Omg, i was up set because fail the midterm today. And suddenly i see this video. It’s so meaningful to me thanks you ❤
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