Life's a book. Characters don't have to be present on all it's chapter. Some people are temporary. Those who stay longer, they're the people who sees you more than just a main character.

I think eto yung type of vlogs na dapat natin kinoconsume from time to time! Thank you for talking about this Ben ❤

I had a college friends before. As someone who doesn't like to go outside, they were my first group of friends that I know to myself will last a long time. We do things together, go to conventions, watched movies, share our hobbies, playing games, sleepovers and so much more. We were known to be the solid group of friends among our classmates, among our batch that even our seniors and instructors respects the bond we build. We know each others family and their family knows us. 4th year of college happens and that's what everything went sideways. We had our fallout, misunderstanding and fight among ourselves got the best of us. Since the last semester of college were meant for OJT, we did not talk to each other for the whole semester like we didn't exist in each others universes. Until a few days before graduation we met and had a dinner, feels like the old ways. But for me, I know to myself that nothing was ever the same. We still do things we did before, we hangout from time to time until now but it's never the same. I don't know about them but for me, I always hold back when I'm with them. I'm not being plastic, when we are together it's always a genuine fun and happiness, but something inside me keeps on holding me back. Maybe the reason why is when everything went south, I was told by one of my closest friend in the group whom we treat each other as brothers, he told me then that he don't see me as his brother anymore. I was hurt. Maybe it was my fault, maybe it's his or maybe none of us but that's the reason why I always walk on the eggshells when I'm with them. They are still the best of friends I know and we still talk about our futures with everyone in it.

I don’t know kung timing yung vlog, pero this is what I have felt this past few months 🥹 shemzz, hirap ng adulthing life. Paano naman po yun friendship breakup na walang closure? 😅 but I guess, this is the ANSWER. Sobrang sakit, kala ko maayos pa pero yun time na rin ang nagsasabi, tigil na, ayaw na nila sayo then you must move on. Eventhough di ko alam kung anong nasabi kong masama, focus nalang to those people na hanggang ngayon nandyan pa rin. Kbye. Thank you for this vlog 🥹♥️

"I love life" HUHU so happy for you, Kuya Beeen! Naalala ko lang yung ghinost mo kami due to mental health reasons at ngayon ito ka na 🥲♥ proud of you!!!

So proud of you Kuya Ben! Always have and always will be. Glad to see na you are in such a better place right now. Love you po Kuya Ben ❤

*After watching benedict's vid 6 months ago ata yun. i've realized alot when it comes to friendship at marami ako natutunan. from that day hindi ako makatulog at sobrang napapaisip ako kung icucut-off ko ba mga "friends" ko. after a month i decided to cut them off, walang sabi sabi at hindi ko nalang sila kinakausap. i think, hindi na kailangan ng paliwanag when you cut your friends off lalo na pag medyo personal yung dahilan, they know what they did. i started unfriending them sa fb at medyo cold na ako pag kinakausap ako if makasalubong ko man sila kung saan. at first, mahirap at ikaw talaga ang magsa-suffer pero para sayo din yon eh at after a while mawawala din yung guilt na mararamdaman mo. kaya sobrang thankful ako kay ben kasi siya lang pala ang makakapagpaliwanag saakin for a very long time na nag iisip ako kung icacut-off ko ba sila. minsan, parang napapaisip ako kung tama ba ang ginawa ko, pero minsan pag nakikita ko silang nagjajam o nag iinom feeling ko tama yung ginawa ko. haha now medyo okay-okay na ako na walang friends at wala na akong sama ng loob kahit na sino, kung hindi man nila ako mainvite or masabihan. okay rin pala mag cut off ng firends pag wala silang matutulong sa growth mo as a person.*

Ben, thank youuuu. Everytime I watch your vlog, I get to understand myself more (how I feel about myself and life in general). It really resonates...grabe! Salamat 😭❤️

Luh, ganda ng topic. Parang nakikinig ng podcast. Nakarelate ako , lalo ngayong 2023, hindi lang lovelife nawala sakin, nawalan din ako ng friends kasi nagFO kami nong mga taong alam na may pinagdadaanan ako pero hindi man lang nagpipreno sa mga sinasabi at joke sakin. Ayon. Love this vlog ❤️❤️❤️

Thank you for uploading this Kuya!! I need to listen to this kasi I need na mag listen how doea it feel nga mawalan nga kaibigan...

Hi, Ben. I’ve been watching your vlogs from the beginning and I’m very proud of where you are now. You are appreciated. 💫

sobrang nagswak yung humor nyo ni Lou Yanong ❤

I’m a fan but don’t usually watch all your vlogs. It’s this kind of videos that always reminds why I/we admire you. Glad to you benny, I love how good everything reflects as you speak and with your aura🤎

I felt this. I had realizations of some one sided friendships. At yung iba friend ka Lang as shock absorber but when they are in good places na nakakalimutan ka na.. Gnun tlaga kaya ako I keep nlang un quality friends

this vlog is relatable! grabe when I became adult I realized na may iba't ibang type of friendship talaga at okay lang yun. hindi rin yun kabawasan sa kung anong klaseng kaibigan ka sa iba. minsan din talagang marerealize mo na kelangn mo rin matutong tumayo sa sarili mong mga paa. eme HAHAHAHA pero grabe adulting really hits hard 🤍

I agree with this. Several years ago I cut off some of my old friends without telling them because of toxicity and personal reasons, it's so fulfilling now and freeing. One of the best decision I did.

Dami talagang mapupulot sa vlogs nang isang Benedict Cua❤ Miss ko na vlogs nyo ni Jerry.

I like the randomness of this vlog in the beginning and the thoughtfulness, intelligence with truth of the second half. Your best vlog this year in my opinion.

sana ganito mindset ng everyone around me or someone knows me. I do understand them but hopefully they understand me. Go Ben! Relate ako sa nararamdaman mo.

Ito talaga yung vlog na lagi kang may natutunan. I agree with you, lately ganyan na rin mindset ko with my friends. And it's okay na, piliin mo muna yung sarili mo. 😊

I really appreciate this vlog of yours Ben! I've been supporting my family since the pandemic and I don't have an extra budget for extra curricular activities so I rarely go out with my friends which is unusual since we always travel before. I feel bad because they think I no longer want their company but it's helpless because I need to stick on my budget.

so, so proud of you, kuya ben! watching u grow each day really warms my heart as if im watching a friend succeed. continue to grow and may u always prioritize yourself over everything else. i love u! mahigpit na yakap!~~

Thank you Ben, this is the vlog i really needed right now, since i had hard time to chase him, we've been friends for a year, we give and take, we haven't talk for two weeks, and i need some advices, thank you for sharing ❤️ I have mental health problem too. ❤️❤️

Love this vid! A friend of mine has been asking bakit hindi ko na kinikibo si ganto. AND THIS IS A PERFECT EXPLANATION. Sometimes, somewhat, marerealize na'tin how draining it is to be friends with them and having that friendship break up feels like I'm free doon sa mabigat na dala ko. Siguro I feel pressured being their friend and idk anymore HAAHAHAHAHA. Btw. Thank you for love life Kuya Ben! You deserve the world 😍

Thank you kuya Ben for making this video. I hope magkaroon po ng content din on how to handle pressure. At ano na gagawin kapag nawalan ka na ng desire mo sa ginagawa mo. Hindi ko talaga alam kung ano gusto ko sa buhay, too complicated.

WOAH! Thank you for this, Kuya Benedict. Needed to hear those things as I'm currently going through that phase.

PERFECT TIMING AHH.... MAS NASAKTAN AKO PAG SA FRIENDSHIP KESA SA RELATIONSHIP KO SA JOWA. Sa totoo lang, ayoko maseparate sa friend but i realized na ako lang pla nag effort for them but knowing they're just avoiding me

My favorite part of this vlog is yung last part na nag-share ka ng life lessons mo, like yung about sa friendships (spot on kasi), & lalo pa yung na-teary eyed ka sa realizations mong nae-enjoy mo yung life mo now.. I'm happy for you & grateful to know you're living the life that you enjoy.. Keep on keeping on, shoti Ben 💙💙💙💙💙 P.S. I actually have mixed feelings about this vlog once I saw that person that I'm not a fan of hehe 😬😌😅 Pero you don't have to mind me ha.. Besides, regardless of who you're with in your vlogs is your prerogative, & I wholeheartedly respect that 😉 Labyu, shoti Ben.. Always stay genuinely "you" no matter what.. I look forward to your next vlog, kung kailanman yun, remember no pressure ha.. 保重! 😘🤗

Parang katulad sa mga bestfriends ko. Low maintenance friendship nga kung tawagin nmin. We dont need to talk, or to see each other everyday pero alam namin na bestfriends din kami. At pag nagkkita kami it feels like yesterday lang kmi huling nagkita walang nagbago. Sarap sa feeling na may core friends ka low maintenance.

I love the unexpected friendships I found, these are the kind of friendships where I can be myself, even if the world doesn't like that version of me the friendship I have now is comfortable and gentle, I don't have to be perfect with them, Because they never judge me, they always listen no matter how strange or unusual the things I say are, and they don't complain, they understand my deepest emotional scars, and help me heal it this has made me realize that true friendship isn't about how long you've known someone, It's about those who come into your life and say, “I'M HERE FOR YOU” You are Loved lodi ❤

Thank you po sa mga sinabi niyo narealize ko na tama lng dn pla ung ngyari. Ngyari un kc kailangan mo protectahan ung peace mo. 🥰

Super love this vlogggg! Saya mo siguro kabonding. Parang tatawa lang ng tatawa. Good job, ben! :)

What a great vlog kuya ben! Ako now a days i prefer low maintenance friendship na kahit di kayo magkasama at nagkakausap friends pa din kayo. Kasi minsan pag araw araw magkakasaawan din. I also have a lot of friends na naoutgrow ko na and sila din naoutgrow na ako. ang lagi kong motto now a days is expect less and set more boundaries.. ❤

For someone who's been (and still is) loyal to my friends till the very end, this hurts me and yes, at the same time liberates me because I just recently ended my 12 year relationship with my longtime best friend. It still hurts on some days, but to me, I've done all that I can to save it, until I realized she's not worth fighting for anymore. The first heartbreak, I can let it all pass, but this second time around, I may have to lock my heart from her permanently. I know I'll still be around if she'll ever need my help in life, emergencies or extreme situations, but that's the only gift I'm willing to give. To make sure I wouldn't do the same thing to her, I left her a note saying how much I appreciate her and how I tried everything when I didn't have that much love to give anymore. 💔

Kinda excited to watch this vlog because Ben, it's really ben a while since your last upload. I never thought that this ep would turn into a wellness session which is not bad. I really admired your thoughts and views about friendship breakup. 🌈✨🥂

For me Friendship is like a season, they change as you grow, as you meet other people, as you move from one place to another or depending on situation or scenario. I just don't believe that there's such a thing or maybe because i haven't found them or never look for them.

Thanks Ben, thank you. So timely. Needed this. Thank you

Tawang-tawa talaga ako sa inyo ng lodi ko Lou Yanong. Super kalog😍 Na miss ko na rin yung mga vlog nya. Love your vlog👍❤️

late 2022 up until june 2023, i suffered friendship crises and it was one of the most lingering pains aching emotionally that affected my mental state i have ever experience in my entire existence. less communication and hatred had been with me throughout the journey and honestly it was really really really draining especially that she was my classmate so basically it affected my study. i think the biggest lesson i've learn in my recent experience is that it's okay to lose a friend, i know it hurts, super, but we have to accept that a person has an ability to change and decide. let's just not ruin their image in our minds. cheers to everyone who feel the same way, you will get through these! God is with u :>>

Finally!!!❤ namiss ko upload mo SOOOBBRRAAA😍 buong buo nanaman ang buong linggo ko❤️

Love this vlog. Your words kuya Ben is what I really need at the moment. "Master to love yourself first"

Unconditional love.. kapag ikaw padin pinipili nung other person whatever happens. pero kung may iba naman.. they don't deserve your unconditional love.

True friends stay madalas man o hindi ang communication. It's maturity that comes with age. Keep growing, Ben. Congrats!

nakakahappy talaga kapag may update from you❤

Thanks Ben! Your mental health journey is such an inspo to me and I love how youre sharing this, I can relate. Ive been also struggling with my mental health and like you; Im also choosing to listen to myself that the world now. Thanks for this! 🫶🏻

recently, i've come to realize that i invested so much of my attention into a friendship that was ultimately one-sided. the pain from this experience has even led to trauma. that's why, when people ask about my connection with a certain person, i tend to describe us as acquaintances, we just know each other. after all, what if i consider us friends, but they do not share the same sentiment? that would make me a delulu 🥺

Lagi na lang akong umu-OK bigla pagnapapanood ko tong mga ganito mong vlog Benny. Lablab

Thanks Ben.. this is good video.. nakarelate ako so much about having how to handle friends in their different seasons in my life.. me as well with them.. pls do this often.. thank you❤

Always informative! Thanks Ben.

been loving some of your vlogs lately, yung mga with self-reflection kasi sobrang nakakrelate ako :)

“I love life.” 😭 Happy for you kuya ben! Everyone deserves to feel that way huhu

totally agree with this. Thanks, Ben! ✨

Ur funny and what u’ve just said, made a lot of sense. Feeling the same way with my friends. Except for self love. Coz they say, we naturally love ourselves. We feed, take care of ourselves. (Just low self esteem perhaps?) For me, focusing more on knowing what God wants me to do.

Pag wala kang upload pinapanuod ko mga past video mo kasama friends and kapatid mo❤️❤️ nakaka good vibes kasi mga video mo

We’ve outgrown each other. That’s what I feel rn. Thanks kuya ben for this. More vlogs with this kind of content ❤️‍🩹

I totally agree when you said that love never runs out, but I guess it depends on each person how much (more) we are willing to give out even when it doesn't return. The way I see it, we cut people off so that we can continue co-creating and sharing love...to the ones who see or equate our presence as love itself, even when that's all there really is to it. That being said, you yourself become "love" to them.

ngayon lang ulit ako nakanood ng vlog mo but still, you are my favorite! You're not just the vlogger people used to know, you're a great speaker!

Just recently been through a friendship breakup and its totally fine. Feelings are valid for both parties. But also it is just part of growing up.. whether you grow together or you grow apart, its totally fine.

i love your positivity, very contagious po. keep it up and yeah love yourself more

I love your contents eversince I came across your channel from kalokohan to serious topics but I especially love this one. Keep it coming! But of course, no pressure. 😁

I must say, Benedict Cua has always been my comfort vlogger. His wisdom is comforting, it hits a spot for me. His humor bentang benta sa'kin, just I don't know I run to this channel whenever just how I needed a friend to talk to because he made his vlogs that way.

Hi kuya ben, i just want to say thank you for sharing your thoughts on losing friends it comforted me so much😭💗

love never runs out, love u kuyaa and thank you! I needed this :)

Tight hugs Kuya Ben! love yaaa😊 lagi ko inaabangan mga vlogs mo stay strong ❤

parang ang saya mo kausap, ang lawak ng understanding 🤍

Thank you kuya ben. You’re statement sa dulo lakas ng impact saken. I also read a thread on twitter about “Does friendship expire?” something like that 😅

exactly. this is my current chapter also, wherein I no longer force friendships. especially, if I felt that person was draining me and was no longer a livable relationship.

You're indeed perfect here!! Well deliver!!!

Nakakatuwa naman yung vlog na to. Sana maging ganyan din yung mindset ko para maalis na yung trauma ko sa friendship break-up na na-experience ko before

halos 3 yrs din akong nagtiis sa isang friend due to her attitude and finally nakalayo na ako sa kanya and nagkaroon ako ng new friends ngayon which is my childhood friends back then. nagtiis talaga ako sa last year ng high school to have a peace of mind HAHAHA and im happy now

agree.. one of my closest friend since 2011 left our friend group and cut us off with no specific reason. at first, medyo nakakatampo.. pero siguro nga hindi na kame relevant sa buhay nya. And it’s okay, sana okay din sya.

Thank you for those reminders, Ben. ❤

Kaaliw tlga kayo ni Ate Lou.😊

9:15 Medyo tricky yung sa transactional na part kasi mahirap siya i-quantify. I guess depende yan if you will consciously check on "Ano bang ambag ko sa buhay mo or ikaw anong ambag mo sa buhay ko?" Emphasis on "consciously." Kasi di ba sa tunay na friendship parang di naman nagbibilangan? I am very much aware that I am not perfect but throughout my existence, I've been told once na "You give meaning to unconditional love." It's not from a lover though; it's from my gff. Naiiyak pa rin ako kapag naiisip ko yan ngayon. At least there's one person who can "see" me even when the rest of the world can't. Ang sabi niya sa akin, isa raw ako sa pinaka-understanding na tao sa buong mundo. I care for people even when I don't get it in return. I support my friends even when they don't give it back freely. I stay even with the slightest spark of hope there is. Ironically, I rarely get it back. I also rarely cut people off, and when I do, siguro sobrang toxic ng dynamics namin ng tao na yun. But lately, I think I got tired of watering dead plants na. Which reminds me... Ben, yung assessment mo ng friendship breakup is so much like your assessment of the romantic aspect. (Kasama mo si Jerry dun sa vlog na yun.) At the end of the day, sometimes we just have to let people go while we still have some respect left for them. We move forward with the hope to give (even more) love...to the right people this time.

I love watching your blogs while folding clothes! Super fun and I forget that I’m folding clothes 😆

Nakita koto bandang kamuning diko na maalala basta parang doon tas nakatayo sya sa may parang parking kasama yung girl na kasama nya sa condo lagi, tinitigan ko sya nasa bus kasi ako that time chineck ko if sya talaga yon tas tumingin sya sa window kung saan ako nakapwesto tas nag wave back din sya. Nakakatuwa lang ang bait nya sobra hehe.. Im so proud of you ben!!

Hi po dahil tatay ka na even hindi now pa lang ako nakapunta sa yt mo. Natutuwa ako sau kasi alam ko apakabuti mong tao n tatay... parang ako mahilig ako sa mga bata kaya nung nagkaanak ako hindi pa din ako nag sasawa mahalin anak ko bukod sa anak ko sya ofcors. At dko alam bakit dito ako napadpad kasi naka relate ako sa title mo kaya ang lagi ko kasama now is aso ko pinalitan kona mga tropa ko sa aso ko mas may quality time na ako sa pet ko and im loving it at mas may time na ako sa passion ko which is vlogging

Cheers kuya Ben! Learned sumtg meaningful on this vlog of yours.

Yay! Finally, nag upload ka Kuya Ben! Your vlogs brings me comfort thank you for this Kuya Ben 🥺🤍

Good friends likes having you around. Great friends supports you. BUT TRUE friends stick with you both in good and bad times. They’re ready to face whatever you’re facing. Sabi nga nila, bonds between true friends sometimes are stronger than that of a sibling. And it’s okay to lose a friend, IT HURTS YES BUT it can help you both. Sometimes you’re toxic for each other, sometimes you just had misunderstandings, sometimes you just lost that happy and secure feeling, and it’s okay. Some friends leave, and then you meet new people, and you become friends. PERO, amidst all pf those, meron at merong lilitaw na TRUE FRIENDS na kahit magkaaway na ang buong mundo, magkasama parin kayo ❤

Thank you so much for this. 😭❤

"I love life" 🥰 Thanks ben, anyways ung nasa ref mo tlaga yung napansin ko din. BTS album magnet 💜

Ok lang yan nandito kami for you ❤

VERY WELL SAID MYLOVE! WORTH WATCHING ❤️ Thank you ❤

As a Gemini baby, I can attest to the sudden change of social life when you kind reached a certain age. And it's tough for us to admit it sometimes because we love interacting with people. I love how you've said in the last part of the video that you really love life; it looks so genuine, Ben. :)

Friend Close friend Best friend True Friend iba iba po meaning nila, lalo n po sa reality, Kaya enjoy lang po Ben.. Naks sa lahat ng vlog mo po dito lang ako napa comment.. about friendshio kasi..hehe mas masaya pa din makahanap ng true friends..hehe

I like how you differentiate friendship in this video

We lose some, we win some. Not in just material stuff but with people too. And that is okay.

Yes its againg .. pag tumatanda you will know and learn as time goes bye who you will keep or not.

Pinakamarami kong friends talaga eh mga tatlo Ngayon eh nag iisa na lang sya. Habang tumatanda tayo, quality talaga ang mas magiging mahalaga kesa quantity

Kaya ko ang "Friendship Over" lalo na kung malala na like yung tipong di ka na babayaran sa inutang frm you.

Love this for you bhieee 💜💜

Benny, thank you sa point of view mo. Had an impact on me 🤗

another wholesome vlog from kuya ben < 3333

Ang ganda nitong vlog mo na to. ❤️❤️❤️

This should be the mindset 🙌🏻

thank you kuya ben ❤❤, it make sense lahat, you are substancial as always

Darating talaga sa point na may maiiwan kang tao sa previous chapters ng life mo, and that's okay. Life must go on☺️✨

Maybe or somehow, it must be the age? We grow, ganyan din ako before na sobrang nagtatampo over “silly” things, pero ngayon na i’m in my early 30s sobrang hindi na. Tapos liliit ng liliit yung circle of friends mo, but that doesn’t mean na yung mga naging friends mo before eh hindi mo na friends ngayon, it’s just that may matitira lang talaga na parang sila na yung parte na soul mo or pagkatao mo. Tapos yung nasa maliit mong circle of friends hindi na yan kagaya dati na halos linggo linggo or araw araw kayong nagkikita, minsan or madalas isang beses isang buwan. Meron pa nga isang beses sa isang taon. Pero gets nyong lahat na wala namang issue, kayo parin yon. Hindi ko alam kung nag mamature o sabay sabay lang talaga tayong sinusubok ng buhay.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts about FO.