Havilah Cunnington: How to Honor Our Loved Ones With Our Silence

Havilah Cunnington: How to Honor Our Loved Ones With Our Silence | Better Together on TBN

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This week on Better Together, Havilah Cunnington helps us see the wisdom in keeping quiet. Join the conversation as Lisa Harper, Nona Jones, Brittney Boarders, and Dianna Nepstad join Havilah Cunnington to help encourage women to keep free from gossip and ill-talk, particularly in regards to their relationships.
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00:00 Bring the Best of You Into Your Marriage by Avoiding Toxic Talk
06:00 The Importance of Trust and Keeping Quiet
07:19 Be a Story Keeper Instead of a Storyteller
10:44 Set Out to Serve the Other Person
13:22 Having the Wisdom to Know When to Speak and When to Keep Quiet
15:21 Is Our Motive to Speak To Fit In?

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@lwitherspoon7069 5 ай бұрын

Publicly asking The Lord's forgiveness for being triggered by spiteful girls yesterday in a retail business and just letting loose rather than retaining poise and grace. I was just tired of it! Lord please have mercy on my weaknesses and forgive my loose tongue. AMEN

@ashiah1212 5 ай бұрын

Don't beat yourself up sis. God feels and knows our weaknesses. Just stand on His word. He is true. Give it ti Him and let him fight your battles. ❤ 😊

@lwitherspoon7069 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for your encouraging words. It scares me that people will hurt me because of actions claiming it is to help me.

@Uservdv2 5 ай бұрын

Havilah is hilarious 😂. God bless

@lwitherspoon7069 5 ай бұрын

@@Uservdv2 👌 👏 😍

@awatts8224 5 ай бұрын

I pray your strength in Jesus name

@CharmeleSuccess 5 ай бұрын

Be a story keeper, not a story teller. Soo good! ❤️

@Shadreckandkaygee 5 ай бұрын

Trying to be a Proverbs 31 woman. Pray for me y'all.❤😂

@dianafritz3117 4 ай бұрын

Same! 😂

@donaldsonlatisha5693 5 ай бұрын

I'm dealing with work hurt and marital issues related to from it. I have become so bitter and extremely judgemental to the people who l feel havw betrayed me. I have let my anger be shown and my it has only affected me emotionally,spiritually and physically. I am truly a wreck. But the Lord spoke to me this morning and said to be quiet and watch me instead. I am tired of the merry-go-round. So keep me in your prayers as l continue to keep you in mine. Remembering that God is a forgiver and that his GRACE is more than enough,Also that God uses my weakness to identify the areas where l need him the most and yes l fail miserably , but there is no growth without pain. THANK YOU JESUS FOR LOVING ME IN SPITE OF MY BAD DECISONS. QUIET MY MIND,BODY AND SOUL. SO I CAN SHOW LOVE TO THOSE WHO HAVE HURT ME ,JUST AS YOU CONTINUE RO SHOW ME...AMEN

@awatts8224 5 ай бұрын

Praying with you and for you in Jesus name🙏🏽

@carla7657 5 ай бұрын

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💙

@sheilasekati836 4 ай бұрын

Praying with you and know that God is there always

@maryibeji6678 5 ай бұрын

Keeping things in your heart Being a story keeper and not a story teller. More like redusing to gossip or to over share. Thank you ❤

@movingonup149 5 ай бұрын

God almighty help me to be a story keeper! This message just blessed my soul. Thank you!

@walkingministries5803 5 ай бұрын

This is so helpful for us women who aren’t married and desire marriage. Solid spiritual advice 🔒

@mariagraves2474 5 ай бұрын

I know I'm not a wife but this just spoke to me on a different level. It allowed me to see that when your trust has been broken by those swore to protect you or even by those closet to you it can be hard to then entrust someone with your story even if you know you may be able to help someone else in telling it. Especially if those same people already weaponized your story or weaponized your words against you. My story is mine to tell or not tell and I pray more people hear this message and understand the realness in this message. Thank you for sharing this message 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

@monicanava8 5 ай бұрын

These videos are so wise and I just love hearing from these ladies! I'm also striving to be a proverbs 31 woman daily! I am currently in a relationship that is heading into marriage and I love this man! However I've realized it takes time and work to get there.

@natalierose7620 4 ай бұрын

My brother in Christ has never ever, in years of marriage, said a single negative comment about his wife. He always raves about her and glows when he shares about her. He says ‘I love her so much.” He models the qualities of a Godly man who stands for God in marriage, and it has altered my perspective on showing up in marriage. So beautiful.

@jilllingenfelter4682 5 ай бұрын

I’m a women of God. And I’m Extremely 100% Single :) and Jesus has always been my Everything. And that will never ever change. And I’m patiently waiting for God to bring an amazing Passionate Godly man into my life in His perfect timing :)@Better Together on TBN

@ireneturner5482 5 ай бұрын

Amen!! Same here sis!! 🙏🏽🙌🏽

@lorrainehooks9847 5 ай бұрын

Roundtable discussion allows an opportumity for each woman of God to contribute. ❤️🙏🏽

@latoyaross1709 3 ай бұрын

You said it best. I was thinking this same thing

@silverbirdy6770 5 ай бұрын

There is a time and a place to be silent... In my situation, the Lord told me to speak up. He wanted me to speak the truth and not hold it in. This is NOT gossip or ill-talk when He is the one telling me to speak up in my relationships; it is godly. Also, keep in mind that when you say this to a group chances are that some actually need to speak up. ~ "my 2 cents"

@bridgettmayberry1383 5 ай бұрын

Ecclesiastes 3:7

@sandrajean3338 3 ай бұрын

Yes there is a time to speak up and u may find others find solace and comfort no longer feeling alone!

@sandrajean3338 3 ай бұрын

They ended perfectly…don’t share it all to everyone. We know in our heart who to share with. I’m 63 and have 3 great friends I’ve known since age 12. All three are married, two for the second time due to abusive situations. One is very godly and always there for me praying. I could confide in any if these women in confidence. I love the gazelle analogy! As an early retired teacher I taught my kids that when u do the right thing only a few will follow at first but later they change their mindset mist times..not all but mist. I’ll be married 42 years in May. Since age 21, together 45. I am strongly working on following Gods word and valuing my spouse!

@renettermarie9465 5 ай бұрын

Powerful, powerful. Let it marinate in our own heart.

@radhamenon2769 5 ай бұрын

These discussions are so good. So much to learn from these wise women of God.

@2bethankful48 5 ай бұрын

Oh so good guys! Keep me in your prayers! This is so true a virtuous woman puts God first place and most before everything! We are not perfect but Gods love is so perfect for us all. God is a forgiving father! Amen!🤗🔥

@Listentomusicist 5 ай бұрын

This is much needed wisdom 🙏🏾

@angelamartin2336 5 ай бұрын

Parental trust too. My parent till this day shares our mistakes. Silence unless involving the offspring in a conversation with God or those involved. I hate gossip, even with family. Hear ye! More discernment. Lord You are so trustworthy and safe.❤😢

@elicha1111 5 ай бұрын

Yep....I talk to mine once a month..about 5 minutes because of that very reason. Her mouth. And all she knows about me and my life...is the good...learned that as a teen. She won't ever again and again and again have opportunity to do as described. She does it to everyone. If she calls me, it's only because I'm a new ear to hear gossip. I don't answer.

@lucindaadkins2645 5 ай бұрын

This is so good & true! What Lisa Harper said is Bullseye 🎯 we as women & men need to zip it shut!! 🙏🙌

@lucindaadkins2645 5 ай бұрын

Respect our husband & wife ! 🙏

@mortonarries8073 5 ай бұрын

Thanks for this conversation I can testify how long did it take me to boast about my husband in friends circle and to build him instead of throwing his weakness in the open for fools to judge him keep secret sacred it will be holy unto our Lord shalom❤

@telmaagbortabi4052 5 ай бұрын

There's sacredness in your relationship with christ❤.....🎉🎉🎉.love from cameroon

@anastasiaryce7133 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing these gems

@neish5486 5 ай бұрын

So good. Such a humbling topic! Thank you for addressing the hard topics.

@ladennayoung2939 5 ай бұрын

COME ON NOW. AMEN. THIS IS REALLY GOOD. THANK YOU ALL FOR CHOOSING TO SHARE WHAT THE HOLY SPIRIT LED YOU ALL TO SAY. THIS IS REALLY BEAUTIFUL AND VERY MUCH SO NEEDED. THANK YOU, LORD JESUS. THANK YOU, LORD. AMEN. HALLELUJAH. THANK YOU, LORD. AMEN. HALLELUJAH. THANK YOU, LORD JESUS. THANK YOU, LORD. AMEN. HALLELUJAH. THANK YOU, LORD JESUS. AMEN. THIS IS REALLY GOOD. AMEN.

@Santosgarza-pu4vu 5 ай бұрын

Thank you women of God, I receive these revelations and the wisdom and understanding thank you father for everyone of these women thank you thank you thank you❤

@mrscarissa 5 ай бұрын

Amen. Good word.

@awatts8224 5 ай бұрын

Soooo on point To God be the glory thank you Ladies for this confirming conversation 😇

@user-tg2fd7kg6g 5 ай бұрын

I hear you all. I wish I could be as positive about our marriage problems as you all are. I am close to give up.

@camzloren 5 ай бұрын

Thanks for this discussion and prayer. I have learned so much from Mary's story and how she hid the thing that was revealed to her in her heart. I am now so protective of my loved ones and will honor the relationship by not gossiping about them or berating them with others. We have to protect them in front and behind their backs.

@joifant8884 5 ай бұрын

This whole episode 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯 amazing!!! So many nuggets. Will have to rewatch!

@alettahtsotetsi3276 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for Spirit of wisdom

@KelsyNanji 5 ай бұрын

Be careful of words that you throw in environments that will not cherish them. 👌👌👌. Don't talk about others to fit in. Protect community by being confidential with information about people's lives ❤❤❤

@beautyluputa3189 5 ай бұрын

Thanks very much for working may God bless you ❤

@jefferyvalentine 5 ай бұрын

That is so right and I love listening to you ladies of God

@leedeaharrison 5 ай бұрын

This is so good!!!

@ellewinters5975 5 ай бұрын

That was sooo good. Thank u❤️🙏🏻

@alicemukuru1112 5 ай бұрын

Thisbis helpful and impactful!!🎉.. thabk you ladies ..God bless you..from uganda east africa

@valenciawalker6498 5 ай бұрын

I'm not a wife .but this blessed me greatly.🙏🏽💕

@faithphaleng9285 5 ай бұрын

I really thank God for this video, I really struggle with keeping some things to myself. May God help me to be a story keeper and not a storyteller. 🙏🏾

@selenamoody4088 5 ай бұрын

This truly blessed me as well. From Jacksonville Florida ❤❤❤❤

@mlr.1485 5 ай бұрын

Much needed ❤

@shirleybell7913 5 ай бұрын

I agree with certain apsects in this conversation but not all of it including being able to share frustrations with your Godly friends and sisters in Christ about the struggles in your relationship to be able to get some godly insight other than just them listening. You have to evaluate your circle of confidants on what you speak about!

@erinpompa 4 ай бұрын

This so good thank you so much

@rc_1477 3 ай бұрын

So good!

@JNL3K2P 5 ай бұрын

I needed to hear this.

@lillianmcgrew217 5 ай бұрын

I love this and amen

@deniseobryant302 5 ай бұрын

Profound words

@lisadenlinger9964 3 ай бұрын

Good word!

@CaroleDZLeMariageDIVIN 5 ай бұрын

SOOO GOOD

@lindanorrell7812 5 ай бұрын

Lord help me to be quiet and give the wisdom to hear what I’m saying Forgive me for times I have opened my mouth and told too much

@notimeforthat 25 күн бұрын

Say good things even when there gone

@anastasiaryce7133 5 ай бұрын

Protect trust Protect the word of God over your life

@ML-rh7lv 18 күн бұрын

Hi, sisters you have all taught me a lot today. God has not given me a husband as yet I take board all you have said today God Bless and Keep You All can I get a Amen ❤

@RiseUpTheKingdomOfGod 5 ай бұрын

Division in the church is a real thing my heart breaks and so does Gods! We must truly repent and Lord please remove our Stoney hearts and give us a heart of flesh remove the religious spirits & I rebuke any immoral and demonic spirits in Jesus mighty name amen!!🙏🏼♥️ We truly need Jesus’

@CalijMusicRapGospel 5 ай бұрын

Amen🙏🙏🙏

@keninchrist3195 5 ай бұрын

SHALOM...

@sumikobento2802 5 ай бұрын

I recently withdrew from my friendship with my cousin bc I could not tolerate her constant disparage against her immediate family.ifinally cut th pus relationship when I learned that she was doing this against myself and family.

@DevotedLady53 5 ай бұрын

AMEN❤❤❤🙏

@GrowingTogetherInc 5 ай бұрын

What do you do when the information you hear is heavy? I know not to tell it, however, do we just ask God to help us carry it? I imagine being a story keeper can be trying at times.

@undividedheart4436 14 күн бұрын

I think in that case it’s important to pray over the situation and give it to God so that He can handle it and you release it in that way. We are to bear one another’s burdens but it should never be that in our bearing, it is now weighing us down. This is also where guarding one’s heart comes in. Shalom

@nesijordan145 5 ай бұрын

Proverbs 31:11-12

@joychepngeno4283 2 ай бұрын

How do you approach looking for advice vs bashing husbands? Is there a difference?

@undividedheart4436 14 күн бұрын

Speaking from experience, when it comes to advice, it’s important to perhaps only have one person whom you know will not come with a spirit of condemnation but with godly wisdom in order to give you an unbiased advice. For me, that is my sister in Christ/best friend. She has always been my go to anytime I needed to speak about something that might be troubling me and it’s because she’s never condemned anyone I’ve ever spoken to her about or held any bitterness or resentment but instead would give practical wisdom for how to view or even handle the situation. And after speaking, she has never brought up a matter to anyone else. Which shows how trustworthy she truly is. My heart has always been to protect my husband. So approaching it that way helps one to be more selective with whom to confide with in regard to a matter. And then there’s also the question of well what is my motivation for even wanting to share this. Is it merely to vent or to truly get an answer to a problem? Shalom

@lucywanjiru1427 4 ай бұрын

Very edifying information. May God help me to be a story keeper not a story teller.

@phoeniciacloud1515 5 ай бұрын

I want to repent for not always being a story keeper and for ever fitting into a narrative that does not protect my relationships. Lord forgive me and help me to be a keeper as it is your way to guide and keep, let me as well in the name of Jesus amen 🙏🏾

@modelslikemepresentswhenmo7126 5 ай бұрын

The was very contradicting. Left me a little confused on what they were say until she started to pray and then the prayer made sense.

@sandrajean3338 3 ай бұрын

Yes the end explained that basically we know who to trust in confidence…nit at a group lunch table venting.

@feliciataylor1412 5 ай бұрын

🙏🩵

@user-zd1qg3hi6y 5 ай бұрын

Oh lord help me to be a good wife.

@user-zd1qg3hi6y 5 ай бұрын

Thanks

@kimberlyperez3175 4 ай бұрын

GOOD AFTERNOON! WE CAN BE A GOOD THING OR BAD THING. WE CHOOSE. BE A STORYKEEPER, NOT TELLER. GO TO WOMEN THAT HAVE MAYBE BEEN MARRIED FOR MORE YEARS THEN YOU.

@wywy4803 5 ай бұрын

Wooooow!!!! My! My! Oh my!!!!!!!!!!!!! Titus 2 in play. Older women teach younger women to respect your husbands. This episode has soo much meat. I have to make meatballs and marinate it aka ill be back again and again.