i lowkey feel bad for Gudeh ,he stayed quite most of this episode you can just tell he did not continue to say his opinion because he knew whatever he would say some one would have a problem with it and make noise for no reason.

Becoming 100% comfortable with being alone is like a superpower. It's tough at first cause you feel lonely, but after you overcome that you kinda feel invincible. It's liberating and you get WAYYYY more stuff done. And you get to do exactly what you want to do.

Monty didnt need to say that comment about why he falls out with friends. Using what he vulnerably shared, against him in front of everyone. Disrespectful. Yh you can both have ur different opinions but from when your bringing up something like that, ur taking it too far tbh.

Monty has hella attitude from the remarks to lani being suicidal to her saying that’s why guh deh friendship always fails , idk she just seems off

Monty is disgusting for the way she attacked Guh Deh. She needs to fix up and I hope she reads this.

Monty's attitude stinks. She thinks she's the end all and be all of the conversations. She thinks everything she says holds more weight than the others. How dare she tries to invalidate Lani and Guh Deh's opinions like someone died and made her queen. She had no right to insinuate why Guh Deh's past friendships ended like it was facts or very personal to her. She needs to learn how to keep her opinions diplomatic and not incorporate too much of her personal biased feelings into it. She doesn't know them personally or what they're going through so her insensitivity and gaslighting tactics came off quite narcissistic.

a lot of people in this generation have no idea what friendship is

Thank God for siblings. They’re the real MVP’s. Friendships change also with major life changes eg., getting married, having baby. True friendship relationship is one that stands the rest of time.

monty saying that guh deh's mentality is mad is funny coming from her

the fact people chat behind your back and pretend to rate you is scary asf

I’m gonna say it…Monty didn’t have to be so rude to Guhdeh, he could’ve said what he meant in a better way and if you listen closely, Ade even agrees with what he’s saying. I’ve clocked on for a while the distaste Monty has for Guhdeh, idk what happened between them but the animosity is very blatant😂 Plus she was sounding bad mind at the end, a friend can support you in many different ways, just because they not doing it in the way you would like them to doesn’t mean they don’t support you. She’s giving broken energy.

Monty didn’t need to be rude to guhdeh idk what the back story is but she stay coming for him in certain episodes

Monty hates Guh Deh and it really shows.

Lack of emotional independence is why people rely on their friends too much

Lani such a sweet heart loool she means well but misunderstood

JAY SQAURE SPEAKING FACTS PEOPLE ARE YOUR FRIEND TO BENEFITS THEM LOUDERRR

why does lani love drawing out Joseph everytimeee😭😭

Monty shouldn’t have! Shutting Guh Deh up like that was in no way nice.

this show is like a car crash. I can't help but watch it😩😩

ngl i love monty but she was wrong for that. she doesn’t know nothing about what actually goes on in guh deh’s friendship. She had no right to say that.

We live in a world were people think having friends is a must you can't trust people like that people move crazy lol you don't know how they chat to you behind your back it's best to have a small circle of friends tbh

I get the point Gudeh was trying to make . If only he was able to make his point without everyone jumping up and down.

how can Monty come for all of GuhDehs friendships based on a single example he made about his dads restuarant she even went on to further sy that his mentality is mad . She has no right icl very rude shes doing wayyy to much , some loud girl.

14:54 - 15:02 can't lie I was that friend. I won't tell you to your face "why didn't you invite me?" But I'd feel a way if you went out with people who are our MUTUAL friends AND I'm closer to you than them... yet you didn't even ask me if I wanted to go. And on top of all of this, you put up snaps & stories so it's like you're rubbing it in. I'm so glad I became a loner lol. I'm at complete peace now.

Why does monty always tryna be the pick me girl like when I watch this it’s always her speaking over the girls and being on the guys sides always she’s always just chatting bare seems like shes the type who acts different when guys are around pick me gyal 🤣

The main problem is a lot of these people are NOT your friends. Stop using that word. Everything that ‘is not the deep’ is because the friendship/ relationship isn’t that deep. The sooner we realise this the better.

I lost a 10yr friend cause he found a girl & basically kicked me to the curb. We'd been best friends throughout secondary & a couple years after. It hurt short-term but long-term it has helped cause now I don't expect nothing from no one. I roll alone & that brings me the most peace cause I obviously can't turn on myself. I'm not anitsocial, I talk to people but I just keep them at arms distance.

The fact that I lost a friendship of 8 years this video came at the right time.

Hey hey hey guys “This is not Destiny’s Child” I’m 💀

First time ever Lani hasn’t annoyed me. keep it like that Lani!

People in the comments saying that they’re proud they don’t have friends, and happy to be alone and not get too close to people/investing in friendships are a waste of time etc. are missing the point. In life, friendship is a beautiful thing and should be treasured. You should be open to making friends and investing at least some time/energy to getting to know people and having meaningful relationships. Yes, sometimes you will be hurt by people, but that’s expected in life. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try maintaining friendships because you’d be missing out on a beautiful part of life. You could meet amazing people who could enrich your life by just giving it a chance. And of course, you can still be independent and focus on yourself at the same time.

I’m ngl, with the “friends have to share your content/project etc” both sides make sense to a degree. I don’t feel comfortable forcing my friends and family to support my stuff if it’s not their kinda thing because then it’s not genuine but *ultimately* , if you’re somebody’s friend and you love them you will find a way to support whether it’s sharing it or mentioning it with or to someone who might be interested etc or even encouraging them…if you love or value someone you will find a way to make them feel supported. This was a very good discussion though. 💯

People usually say that you have to be friends with your partner for the relationship to truly work and I feel like a friendship bond is way way stronger that a romantic one, which is why it hurts the most. During breakups, people mourn for that lost friendship, which is essentially the same type of relationship someone would have with a best friend, sans that romantic stuff, like kissing, dates and sex (for some). But it’s that bond broken. the late night calls, leaning on each other and telling each other your deepest, darkest secrets. It will most definitely hurt more if you’ve formed and established a close friendship with anyone, even with a partner if they were your friend before they were your partner.

Honestly "friends" can switch up at any moment!!! it's healthier to have and discuss boundaries if friendship is to have longevity.

I love how they stay on topic

Some friends get mad when they see u doing better then them. That’s why they won’t support you. That’s not a friend.

Vast majority of friendships are temporary, that's the cold truth.

Adefolake is beautiful 😍

Monty needs to chill out on GuhDeh a bit... The shade is unpleasant to watch. It's making her look like a lowlife tbh.

We need to learn to STOP using the word FRIENDSHIP so loosely. 9/10 times everyone is only out for themselves, and they will be who you need them to be at a time in your life but that rarely lasts forever. Just be original with people and stick to your guns. Those that are for you, will be with you and please remember to give everyone you meet a certain criteria that they must accomplish before you air them out as your "friends".

It’s them trying to embarrass Guh Deh when his point about his dads shop was very valid for me chile

stop mentioning renee, she doesn't bother you lot...if she makes a comment on this you'll say she's seeking drama,just stop.

This was actually a good discussion

Wow, I genuinely loved this episode…nice convo and everyone had good valid points to add and felt very relatable 🙏🏾

I don't depend on anyone. People are quite shocked at how much I rely on SELF. I spend so much time alone I've learnt to enjoy it🤣. I don't have expectations from people. The thing about me is, I connect with people easily so I end up having wonderful conversations with people even when I'm out alone. But yes back to friends, if you're there, great! I'm grateful and I've been blessed with wonderful friends, but I do not expect anything. Some people are too co - dependent it's exhausting. Learn to be self reliant and work on yourself spiritually emotionally mentally and physically.

That’s why girls ain’t friends for long. So much expectations. Sometimes take notes from guys.

When i told my "best" friend that im planning to relocate for better pay and better job, she said i cnt do it until she gets married, i can do it after, i cnt leave her 🤷‍♀️ she said she meant it as a joke...it was not funny to me. Lots of ppl u consider friends actually try to hold u back for as long as they can.

First episode in a while that I didn’t want to end. It was a good discussion and well needed💓

I have friendship PTSD...hi and bye acquaintances is fine for now

Friendship is like a family you choose and usually are an extension of your blood family to some extent, depending where you place individual relationships.

Why the hell did Monty attack my man? 🤣

Y’all should do an episode on colorism

Best episode ever! Everyone had good points. Speak on it.

I’m more with Lani on this one! (Not the suicidal bit). I love my friends but thinking about my long-term relationship ending. Hell naaah. Doesn’t even compare. While you’re young I understand that we spend more time with friends but as you get older, you spend most of your time with your partner/husband/wife/gf etc. Things just change. Priorities change.

Monty's comment was very cheeky, her attitude stinks. This isn't the first time shes been outright rude to guhdeh. Guhdeh's seems like a good friend to me. She says stuff to get a reaction its weird

12:33 Joseph's face when lani said "me and Joseph had a thing, yeah?"😂😂😂

Monty is so jarring - so cringy

Love this discussion 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

21:56 when jay said mines affection stillll I DIEDDDD🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💀💀💀💀💀💀 he’s too funny I swear

The way I am just going through this rn I gave this friend of mine 600 dollars and all of the sudden they started moving differently and just decided to stop talking to me and says they don’t want to be friends and this video just came in at the right timing cause it happened today and honestly find that so fucked up

Love how no matter the topic I'm always cracking up

In life you're not going to be friends with certain people forever. Put it this way if you go on public transport. It has a destination to go to. During that destination it makes many stops some of those stops you'll meet people that will either get off the same stop as you or they will get off earlier. So there is no point saying it hurts losing a friend. Unless they lost their life physically that's the only time it is suitable to get in your feelings about losing a friend.

Lani calling Joseph out had me in TEEEEEAAAAAARS 🤣🤣🤣🤣

This has been a very deep episode one of best, I say, everyone showed real majority. At da end of da day Humans like to have a sense of a control when a person finds a kind hearted individual that is loyal humans take the loyalty for guaranteed and continue to take, it's all energy and in 2022 it must be protected because u cant get it back. Use your energy for those and match your. Period!💁🏾‍♀️

10:12 - 10:18 100%. And it's sad cause those people you don't even fall out with & they've never wronged you. But the friendship just comes to an end because you guys have just grown apart. I've got like 10 of those, I've only actually fell out properly with one friend.

Wonderful topic, enjoyed hearing the views, what I really picked up on is the unspoken emotions being expressed. Yes bkchat. 😉

It’s funny bcos Guh Deh has helped build ALL his ex friends platforms. You people are piping up at the wrong person. How do you know he’s learnt from his past behaviour?

MONTY NEEDS TO GO EASY ON GUDDEH ITS PRETTY EVIDENT SHE DOESN'T LIKE HIM BUT HE WAS RIGHT 100% BUT HER SAYING SOMN ABOUT HIS FRIENDSHIPS THATS JUST WICKED TBH A LOW BLOWWW

No size of a circle will protect you from a snake.

I wish there was a show w actual people that know what it means to debate. forcing someone to agree w your stance is not debate. Monty was way left field for that comment.

Yessss Jay! We expect too much from friends. Like chill. My family are my closest friends tbh

You can’t stay friends because of loyalty 💯 …your friend is clearly toxic today but because they had your back that one time, 4.5 years ago, you’re holding on 🙄 !! You don’t owe anyone anything.

The point is everyone’s standards of friendship is different and ideally having people with similar standards/values will help make it easier

Finally. An important topic to discuss.

This was a good one

Toxic is a hell of a drug. 🤦🏾‍♂️

I’m really convinced that there’s something between Lani and jay sqrrd

True friendship don’t count favors.

Why is the young lady in the leather outfit always the loudest in the room but often displays the least amount of intelligence and thinking??? I will give her credit though here, I believe that her take on the friends posting your stuff is spot on.

Jesse is so intelligent 🤣🤣🤣

I never experienced that because I'm already dealing with abandonment issues from not one mother but two biological/ adopted. Already messed up potential friendships I dont allow people completely in my life. Added once it ends it's easy to let go because don't have any expectations because I expect it to end soon. 🥺

Love this topic tbh

About the whole supporting your business stuff If they are your friends one way or the other they will support and encourage you Your content,what you sell or whatever doesn’t have to be their interest but yes they have to support you

I just personally prefer to have a small group just bc it means less headaches

Past 3 episodes Lanis fav word is compatibility deadass🤣

I hear what Guh deh is saying no one should ever feel obligated to repost anything your friends doing unless you want to. They could be doing other things outside social media to show there support does not make you a bad friend if you don’t post it on net. Monty coming for him like that just because he didn’t agree was very much not needed and gave mean girl vibes. I doubt she knows Guh deh personally outside the show.

"Sometimes your mentality is a bit mad" ah!!!! Monty why?!!!😂😂

I really have time for this one still, but the issue is in this day and age, no one takes the time to teach your friend how to be your friend, and for those that do, that’s why it hurts so much because you should know better one, and secondly, you know me!

Not Lani talking about " A Big Pink Elephant" in the room lol. i just love her

i love the fact that they all seem soo happy

this one was good

I’m still friends with the same 3 girls I went to secondary school. We are family ❤️ we share the same values and morals

I realised i cant really build deep relationships , most of them are just on the surface. And im fine with that. I did lose a friend of 10 years but u got to realise having "best" friends is dangerous, they know too much and if the friendship ends they can use that as a weapon. Thats why no one will know too much bout me. Ppl come and go in ur life as ur changing. U may get new job, u may move cities etc, so u will meet new ppl and create new relationships

Ty for upload What topics do you guys want to hear , this show is it ✅👍. Any new cast members btw?

11:37 - 11:55 This exact thing happened to me. Had a tight 3-man friendship group from primary. Went secondary & 2 ppl got added, that was cool. Then another 3 got added & it got torn apart. Fallouts, separate group chats, sides picked etc. The initial 2 that got added were close to all 3 of us, so that's why I think they blended in seamlessly. The next 3 that got added were only close to some of us so the separation happened from there. I could see it happen as it was happening but what could I do? it's not like I could kick the 3 guys out cause others in the friendship group already welcomed them in. So I just distanced myself from all of them. I couldn't do the drama.

Monty didn’t need to come for guh deh like that ,attitude was not not needed at all she misunderstood him

That comment Monty made about guhdehs friendship always failing is true, what do you mean you don't have to support your friends? What .🙄🤣🤣🤣🤣

Msrfabulous brought Gphilips you on they both supported each other even the graphics for her label she mentioned it and I remember knowing that…

I understand montys frustration i feel like guhdeh likes to say things just for the sake of being different and bringing attention to himself

Great topic