I hope they stay together so that the rest of us remain a little safer

Sorry...know your worth. I will always love myself more than waking up to a cheater everyday. My vaginal and mental health are worthy of so much more

A councillor slept with my husband. She told him to take out an injunction on me in order to have my house, which I solely purchased. I divorced him and they only lasted 3mths, where we were married for 14 yrs. Be wise, check if your councillor has marital issues before sharing your story.

Yhoo guys!! Normalise going to therapy, healing, helping your own self BEFORE going into a relationship. Cheating should not be something you get used to, can we start building healthy relationships?!!!

I wish this couple would stop being featured on these Black Love channels. A woman was literally murdered as a result of an affair he had. Their marriage has bodies and negative energy.

Do people go to counseling before marriage cause we need to make that the norm.😒

"he has had a lot of affairs" ...are we just gonna.... hell no

So y'all were both trying to fill voids and had a toxic relationship of which a person lost her life due to infidelity? Wow...

Lmao "My mom died so I'm gonna be so toxic,disrespectful and cheat on my my wife"

You know this is real life. A lot of married couples cheat on each other, damage other people and then get back together like nothing ever happened. IDK what to think about marriage. I NEVER want to get married and go through infidelity. I hope my man has done whatever he needed to before he even meets me. PERIOD!!!!!

Why do these black love shows keep popping up and the common theme is the man keeps cheating and the woman stays , Then 10-20 years later they worked it out? Can we see some where the men don’t cheat otherwise I’ll pass.

No respect for this foolishness

They are telling their story so others won't make the same mistakes....these comments 🙄 I don't get how some people feel they're promoting toxicity. This is their story and it's TRUE when you're broken, you attract broken. Heal yourself first.❤💯

Lmao This goofy ish. Bw please leave once the loyalty is shown to be false. We are free !!

Toxic culture will say YOURE wrong for being upset/judge mental with this mess. Demand better!!!

Toxic marriage. She should have left you. This type of mess is not good. It’s tragic. I reject this...

I feel as adults me and my husband sat down and was 100% honest with each other. How he felt how I felt. And we with the help of God we made it through and are happy 17 years in.

"Broken meets Broken" then, you have broken this, that and the other. That's a word sis. I thank them for their honesty. I take age and family background into consideration. I heard growth and *God* . They'll be blessed

I'm myself dealt with infidelity in my 13yr marriage (currently going through a divorce) during my self healing I realized that we were 2 broken people. I tried to swept my hurt under the rug & my ex acted his out (I'm an introvert he's a extrovert). I didnt realize but I was trying to be everything for him while giving myself nothing. He's a marine so catering to him and his career I got didnt recognize myself I had no identity. Once I started working the infedility continued it became a norm. But we all have that breaking point and it was then that I realized I couldnt continue down this path & grow. I took 2yrs to dig in that nasty suppressed pit, acknowledge my pain, validate it, heal (from marriage & childhood traumas), forgive and release. Though this is a transition (I've been with him since I was 16 am now 33) I know that I will be just fine. I have since met a beautiful being. And the difference now, is that the bag lady I use to be is no longer weighing me down. I wish healing and immense blessings to you all!!!

Black love and infidelity in the same sentence? Can you block and delete a whole channel?

So glad they were able to get counseling and work through it. Also happy to hear him say what he did about people telling people God took their loved one. That shouldn't be a go to statement to tell people.

I’m so shocked. Why would they put them on the same stage as Tamia and Grant. 🤢 Not the same lane

I think it's so important to hear/ see these stories. Marriage is not easy, we need guidance and support and when you don't have what you need within your circle its okay to look for what you need from professionals.

The men do it because they know we won't leave. See that big beautiful house? She can't afford that on her own plus when your over 40 or 50 it will be harder to find a mate. 50 old men WILL always find another desperate woman. There's lots of them

I appreciate them even willing to get up here and share their story/testimony with the world. You never know what couples go through behind closed doors. I think every one is always so focused on thinking marriage is supposed to be perfect 24/7 365 days a year. It isn’t always rainbows and sunshine. Don’t judge this couple and further more be careful saying it could never be you because it honestly could be you one day.

That man is demonic, if this is black love I don’t want it.

Thank you for sharing and keeping it real.. We need to hear it...💯❤

YOUR COMMITMENT AND COURAGE ARE BEAUTIFUL. Yes I am shouting because your honesty and love are worthy of celebration. Thank you for modeling marriage.

This is so damn toxic can they please stop portraying struggle love relationships as normal because this nonsense is not Ok!! and I do not want black women thinking this is what you have to deal with in order to have a man. No!!!! Ladies always remember "You should never have to suffer in order to receive love" If a man disrespects you or harm you leave they ass immediately and find someone else. You can do bad all by yourself.

Happy they worked it out. Who am I to judge... Continue to be Blessed!

As a certified faith based clinical therapist, I hope to see more couples like this. Usually, the couples I have met can't get passed the idea that the infidelity is a symptom of a much deeper issue and those who do get that are fearful to go that deep. As counselor of any kind, it's our job to provide that safe space for revelation and healing to take place; a safe place for people to fall apart and to rebuild themselves.

Love conquers all...God’s love is is untouchable...and when we don’t draw near to God...we’re left up to our own devices...which is not good...I’m glad y’all got Him..:and I’m glad that y’all made it 😇

Many obviously have not watched this channel. There is more than just cheating being discussed. It actually is very informative. You learn a lot if you're open to actually learning.

Wow awesome insight from the husband!! Its all about growth💯💯💯

You cheat, I'm done

We focus on quantity instead of quality of relationships in our culture. I would rather have five amazing years of a great marriage than to emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually, etc suffer for DECADES just to say "We've been together for 35+ years". If you're never happy and having to force/fake it for so long, it changes who you are as a person. Glad they are able to help others through this, but...🥴

♥️🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️thank you for sharing your story.

I get why everybody in the comments is feeling the way they are. Cheating is wrong and it’s very unfortunate that someone lost their life. I can’t judge their marriage because God knows I made mistakes of my own but I have learned that faithfulness whether to God or to another person is not the absence of mistakes but is the ability and determination to persevere through the mistakes and keep fighting for what matters most.

Thanks for sharing these with us, grateful

👀. I dont know what to make of this. If this couple is ok with blaming it on spiritual attacks and absolving full responsibility then who are us... but this is wow 👀. I don’t feel empowered after watching this. I don’t see them as a success story. I see trauma bonding won out over self preservation and common sense.

It's great to see a couple overcome toxicity and infidelity through the grace of God. This cam help alot of people if they can understand the message

This is more than just infdelity. That first couple had too much going on. Nothing for us to learn from. Avoid these men at all costs.

Man lord knows I needed to hear this so much I've been dealing with alot with a break up and I keep goin back to when we both entertained others how dangerous it was to the relationship also he was my first real boyfriend and I can honestly say I didnt have a clue how to be with a man so everything he did to me i made sure I did it to him didnt solve anything but lesson learned

So he's promiscuous in the marriage and she's ok with it. None of this is love. They are committed to staying together no matter what. That's not love. They have millions of excuses for why he was constantly unfaithful. She feels triumphant for staying in an unhealthy, abusive, unsafe public/community marriage. Y'all?!

at 1:17 when he puts the blame for his behavior on his friends SMH

Blessings to all… Really grateful for being able to witness this couple’s story, here, and in-person. There are many comments on what should have been done before they got married… I AM gently offering the following: Work is an on-going, ever evolving process. While it is possible to “work on oneself before marriage,” doing so is only to a certain extent. None of us is perfect; therefore, regardless of “the work we do, or THINK we’re doing on ourselves,” we will have flaws. Marriage and other situations sometimes reveals “stuff” we weren’t aware of “while we were doing the work before we got married.” Also, after marriage, we have to (then) “be committed to working on US, while we’re still working on ourselves individually.” Again, work is an on-going, ever-evolving process. May we embrace it openly, learn to discern God in the process, and be grateful for the growth and joy that is possible for each of us. Continued peace and blessings 🙏🏾💞

This story should make people think before they cheat . Don't play with people heart it can cost u ur life

Struggle love at its best!

I appreciate this couple for being honest, transparent and open. Marriage is HELLA messy. It’s so easy to say “they’re toxic” when your on the outside looking in. Obviously, adultery isn’t to be condoned or taken in an lackadaisical manner. And YES, they rightfully could have chosen to quit! ( Tbh, I would’ve left🥴) But this is THEIR story, so who are we to throw stones? 😒 They DECIDED to make the decision to reconcile, change, and NOT stay in malfunction. And now they are using their story to help other couples struggling. 🙌🏾 I applaud this couple for CHOOSING to fight for their marriage. 🥺🥺🥺 “Love conquers all.” 💕

Love these short clips

Great testimony!!! Blessings to ALL of the beautiful couples up there!!! New subbie here!

Hot mess. Our mess. Stoppppp

Not them blaming the counselors. Lol

All these comments out here are petty and negative. People saying she should have left, this is a toxic marriage, this is messed up, but y'all have never stepped one foot into their shoes or their lives, so don't judge people unless you have been where they have been. To me this is a success story of true human life. This is what a lot of people go through, but never share in the public. This couple went through hell and came out of it alive. And they are giving God the Glory cause only God could take them out of that. So please be quick to understand and slow to judge! Not just on here but with your loved ones too! I bet you there is someone out there thanking God that they heard this testimony because they want to fight for their marriage instead of walking away like most people would!! Remember this, hurt people, hurt people! It doesn't make it right, but it makes it real! Get out of here with these negative comments man! Just saying, no one needs to respond lol!

It’s crazy how we make bad decisions and mistakes in life and yet some people feel as if marriage will be isolated from these things ... people are unrealistic IMO .. no need to judge them learn from them

That struggle love shit.... Black men expect black women to deal with this shit.

I don't know these two personally but I get the sneaky suspicion that had the tables been reversed and had SHE had "a lot of affairs" and had SHE been living in the same house as the person she cheated with, they probably wouldn't even be anywhere near cuddled up on anybody's couch talking about a success story. But hey. What do i know? 🤷🏽‍♀️

People can be so judgemental. The purpose of their marriage testimony is to share how they made it through THEIR storm. Y'all need to stop it in these comments

I was reluctant to get married because of how my parents were but now I've made up my mind.

The counselor was right. She should have left. They should never have gotten married. Both were broken people and should've healed before getting married.

It's so funny to me. Unbelievers call the church judgemental but will get on here and judge this couple because they decided to work it out lol . This is why ppl are afraid to be transparent

He had to reach for her..... she’s not healed from his bs.

Soooo she's bothered that a therapist asked what her plan b was?

🥰🤗🙏🏽MY ABSOLUTE FAVORITE COUPLE‼️🥰🤗🙏🏽

They are too broken to get with anyone else. No one else would put up with the BS.

I don't even know what to say

May God bless you abundantly and I am so thankful for you. Thank you for sharing your story🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 God protect your love

Fuck going through smh I would’ve had to leave. This is just too much to put someone through, too much for someone to go through 😔say no to struggle love.

Wow awesome video… I pray that God will make their marriage wholesome.

Yep, judge this hot mess all day and every day. He still don’t get it after all of that grief and trying to tell people not to judge.

Gosh I love Todd and Alicia! Although cheating is a deal breaker in our marriage, I agree with their desire to push forward.

Why is this on Black Love? I'm truly disappointed.These are not examples of relationships we want our children to build their future around. Garbage!!!

Turning your Mess into a Ministry!!!

People are people, this is real life and people fuck up, they made it through and learned from their mistakes and NOW ARE HELP OTHER!

Y’all are missing the point. It’s easy for us to judge them on the outside looking because we’re not in the thick of everything. However, they both made bad choices and have worked to correct those issues. Both sides have taken responsibility. We don’t have to glorify their infidelity, but let’s celebrate their testimony and how they are using it to help others. Of course their reality isn’t the most ideal, but look at the bigger picture. Who are we to judge them? We have accepted and done things that we shouldn’t have in relationships. Check yourself too!

Y’all crazy for listening to these fools. This is toxic.

Omg..... nobody worth going thru all that behind Damn 🙄🙏

My husband came with love and been nothing but love we talked about divorce one time because of my smoking but that was one day and I'm trying to stop smoking its hard but I'm trying

Todd and Alicia I love you guys Can you guys please make a KZfaq or something y’all need your own show you guys would blow up I can’t get enough of u guys I watch this Over and over along with the other few clips

Praise God!!!

I honestly think that before you get married you should have all that out your system before you truly commit to a person. Once you take them vows you have to take them seriously . You’re not just committing to your partner but also to God too.

I’m glad it worked out, I just hate that it’s always the double standard and the women being in that position of hurt. Society does not equal the standard!

They killed his mistress is what Twitter is saying

Inspirational and beautiful couple.

For better or Worse are the vows they took. Not justifying it at ALL but they honored it.

Is she ok? She's breathing too heavily on that seat.

Wow this is the realest shit ever

All that are married hit like. I’m curious to know how many that are married are in the comments.

Whew gosh these comments 🙄 judgemental and critical like yall have never been in relationships that had infidelity and toxic traits...at least they've owned it and healing from it... we've all tolerated and overlooked things in relationships.... yall need to realize things like this happen, hopefully yall never have to eat your own words.... throwing stones smh this is why people don't open up

I feel like sometime some people misunderstand God reasons just to make sense to there situations. I'm not saying things couldn't get better after the infidently and everyone has their own breaking point, but you don't have deal with infidently either..... it's a choice that you make. Once it happen you have every right to leave and be remarried (in biblical sense) now there story can probably help those who choose to stay after infidently has enter into their marriage.... but you also can leave with no regrets as well, you don't have deal with it.

For everyone in the comments thinking that their story is a story of triumph. Please do your research. In addition to your research, ask yourself how did he call the cops if his hands were nailed to the wooden board ? 🤔

I am not sure I could deal with being cheated on smh

Question? Why are all the women light skin?

A man needs to disrespect me ONE time for me to 💨💨💨💨 Say something offbeat to me? 💨💨💨💨💨 you play me, you play yourself

There are many couples going through the same ish and this was an excellent show on how to overcome. Yes demonic forces are real I have experienced them almost all my life. Read my book (DON'T SLEEP WITH THE HELP)

Throwing heavy shade in these comments like yall flawless" stop"!

Yes people can grow from cheating, but trust is broken. Instead of working on your issues you chose to step out of your marriage. That's the issues a lot of people have. I don't think it right to judge people that choose to move past it, but he needs to stop acting like they didn't choose the easy way out first.

"My grandparents have been married 76 years, this is why y'all women can't keep a man" . The Grandparents:

WowZer 🤩 how God can turn what the enemy meant for evil to good so that others might be blessed and glorified

Lmaooo gurl