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BPD’er here. Just want to encourage those who are struggling. I’m living proof that things can get better and are able to be managed. Keep on going on!!

This sounds so stressful. Sending good vibes to all who are suffering from this 💜

I was diagnosed with BPD 5 years ago, and have just watched about 4 of these videos. And this is the first time in my lifetime that someone has described "me" as well as she does. Thank you for this

My positive energy to those with bpd

I have very recently lost my closest friend who was suffering poorly treated BPD as well as a intense substance use disorder. Watching your series has been helping me to heal by giving me understanding as to what she was dealing with and why she behaved the way she did. Her self-destructive behaviours, instability, and the intensity of our friendship makes so much more sense in the context of BPD. I have never in my life met anyone as talented, open-minded, kind, intelligent and frustratingly complex as her. It's heart-breaking that mental health issues are so deeply stigmatized and that services are so challenging to access. Please if you are dealing with this, try to seek treatment. It's may be damn near impossible to do in our medical system, but there are people who love you dearly even if you might not feel that love for yourself.

How does one not just hate themselves for ruining their relationships around them because of having borderline personality disorder and ruining realtionships with people they love :'( it's hard to swallow that my illness is why people abandon me and then half the resources out there tell people to leave if you're with someone with bpd. Then you hear that bpd won't ever go away. It's so disheartening.

She epitomizes someone who has truly found & is living their passion. In turn, she knows it so well that she makes something that is actually really complex, understandable, even to the novice. An excellent teacher.

It's insane for me to think people do NOT experience this? Like how lol this seems like life

Thanks for talking about it! I have BPD, AvPD, ADHD and C-PTSD (I guess I've won the jackpot in the mental disorder lottery, lol) - this all then often also brings a lot of other symptoms along, like depression, anxiety, body dysmorphia, dissociative disorder, etc... Let's just say it's FU*KING HARD to live/exist like that 😞

BPD and a mental illness and in recovery from drugs and alcohol. I used to be the shy little girl in the corner but DBT and Zoloft has made me stand up and speak up.

Holy shit, this is the first time I've ever heard the thing about BPD people suffering sleep disturbances, and it totally solidifies my self-diagnosis of having BPD :( Ever since high school I've been absolutely plagued with trouble sleeping in every single way she mentioned. No matter how hard I try, I cannot adhere to a "normal" sleep schedule. In college I never took a class before noon (all night classes) and found myself a job where I could work from 4pm-midnight. I'm most alert and alive late at night when the rest of the world around me is sleeping. I have taken Ambien for DECADES, as I have a terrible time falling asleep, and I very rarely ever get eight hours of sleep despite needing eight hours in order to feel my best. When you don't sleep it ruins everything else in your life, I swear. When I'm sleep deprived (which is almost always) I become even more irritable, depressed and short-tempered than I already am naturally, which is not a good thing. When I really think about it, I think the root of almost all of my major issues in life stem from my high level of anxiety. I'm just a nervous/anxious person. If only I knew how to rid myself of this stupid and often irrational anxiety, I think a lot of the other problems would lessen or even resolve themselves. The bane of my existence.

I’ve been diagnosed with BPD since 15. But I’ve never really researched it. Seeing ALL of these people who can relate to me and knowing I’m not alone, is EVERYTHING! I’m so thankful for every one of y’all

I'm diagnosed with BPD, GAD and PSTD. I often feel like BPD is the least of my problems yet my psychiatrist concentrates all her treatment suggestions on BPD

I'm going to have to stop watching these video's, think i'm falling in love with DR. Ramani......

If he says WOW one more time!! OMG

Do a video on quiet BPD!

The way that guy goes "wow" must make the BPD-sufferer feel like an exhibition at the freak show.

Dr Ramini is exelent and your features have been very helpful to me! Thanks! Would wish Dr Ramani to be able to make a number of further features about BPD where she could get deeper into the matter. Thankful from Sweden!

Yup, im a quiet borderline with generalised anxiety disorder and dysthymia (chronic depression)

My wife and I are 30. She is hospitalized atm, for the first time. These videos are so helpful. Moreover, they are helping with my own depression about her illness. Thank you.

I got MISdiagnosed with BPD when I was just 15 years old. I'm now 20 and it seems to have been Autism this whole time.. Can you talk with her about misdiagnosing BPD?

It was really interesting to me that Dr. Ramani said they try not to diagnose personality disorders until you're an adult. I actually had a friend that was a victim to this, where a psychology diagnosed her with a personality disorder when she was only 16. Over ten years later, and they are finally willing to admit that she was misdiagnosed.

I love these interviews, both the interviewer and doctor are very compassionate and thoughtful in their discussion. Information like this is extremely important in fighting the stigma of this disease that I and so many others don't feel they can share. I have BPD and depression and anxiety. A day with just depression and anxiety is a good day for me. My BPD is triggered by abandonment.

I really really REALLY appreciate this interview. I stumbled upon the first part and now I'm watching all of them. This is such a WONDERFUL interview. Usually we are portrayed as evil, manipulative, attention seekers. But this really opened it all up and really validated that pain we have. I feel like you really credited us for how hard this disorder is on us. Instead of saying the classic "they do whatever they can to avoid abandonment" which comes off kinda sociopathy in the sense of like "do whatever it takes to get what you want", you explained how it feels to us. You gave examples of how the simple actions of others could come across to us as abandonment. So much of what I read about BPD makes me feel like a monster. Even professionals run the other way from patients with BPD cuz we're difficult to work with, we're complicated, and we are very sensitive. But I didn't feel like a monster watching these videos. I felt like someone actually GETS me. You explained how not knowing your own identity, feeling empty, and feeling emotions so intensely is SO HARD for us. You talked about how we're NOT trying to cause problems for others, this is how we try to cope with what's inside us. And I LOVED that you addressed how once our angry outbursts end, we turn it inward. We feel shame and guilt. Most things I've seen end with just talking about the explosive anger and The End. I get sick to my stomach reading and watching things on BPD cuz it's all so negative, sometimes I feel like saying BPD out loud gets almost the same reaction as when people say schizophrenic (which is also very gross and I want to see that change). So thank you so so much for this interview. You did a wonderful job. Thank you for taking the bad light off us and not treating us like monsters. I can't wait to see more videos, I hope they also shed a light on other disorders that were given a bad name.

Oh.. The sleeping non-pattern is something I've always suffered from.. And I didn't think it could be from BPD, I've always just thought that it was because of my hyper sensitivity. What is doing the sleep pattern so..messy? Why? Edit: yes I've had BPD, but I lost some "points" (because I learned how to deal with some of the symptoms), now I've mixed personality disorder..

I have bpd and bipolar II. This video helped me feel less weird about co-occurring.

Diagnosed with BPD, BP2, anxiety, and mild OCD. These videos help so much in explaining so well to loved ones how I tick. Thank you so much for your great work.

Please do more videos on BPD. This has given me insight on my mental illness i don't feel i have yet found in therapy.💖

I recently found this channel. I am so glad I did. Mental health discussions are fascinating and so informative. Intelligent conversations on mental health are sorely needed on platforms like this. As I'm watching a video and wondering this or that you seem ask a lot of the questions I myself want to know. I have severe depression and anxieity. They seem to go hand in hand too. So many people don't understand and its so frustrating. People ecpect you to just get over it, snap out of it. It's so taboo to talk about your disorder. People look at you differently and shy away from you. So thank you for having these discussions. It's what the world needs.

this is exactly what I go through I have bpd, bipolar depression and ptsd I have breakdowns so much, I feel like the meds don't work, I need more therapy but its hard to get in because therapist always filled. Im so tired of hurting and your family feel like it doesn't even exist, this is why I made my channel because nobody knows the struggle it is, especially when nobody is listening.

Thank her for not being judgemental. BPD is really difficult.

I wasn't diagnosed with BPD until I was in my 30s with a combination of severe depression and anxiety with PTSD and chronic insomnia. Therapy and meds are the reason I'm here typing this!! No rest really does make things that much more amplified and therapy is so difficult to get my head round and I've done group therapy ,CBT and one on one . And I can't imagine how hard it is for the therapists it must follow you home occasionally I hope that they themselves have some kind of therapy support... I love this channel and has helped me explain my illness to output it being overly emotional for all concerned! But I lost a lot of friends when I told them in had BPD and they just one by one cut off,saying their kids were not safe around me blah blah blah some of those kids were my god kids and I've never hurt a child in my life. Their is still so much stigma with a BPD

I have "personality disorder not otherwise specified" (my psychologist told me all of my symptoms point towards bpd but since I'm not an adult i can't truly be diagnosed) but i also have depression NOS and generalized anxiety disorder and the shits tough, but i promise you, YOU CAN DO IT! We all deserve the best, keep your heads up.

Oh! I am so unbelievably surprised by this video. This describes me! I had severe anxiety and obsessions as a young 10 year old and then teenager, suicidal ideations, became bulimic as a 19 year-old, I still suffer from secondary amenorrhea due to the severe anxiety disrupting my endocrine system, severe insomnia and hypnotic jerks, I received professional treatment for severe OCD, and I am highly sensitive to emotions and outside input - and have been like that all my life. If what I say next turns you off, I can't apologize - but Jesus Christ and God saved my life. Their constant influence and guidance kept me alive and directed me toward the right professionals. I have a master's degree, a great job, a fantastic family, and SO much hope! Thank you, Jesus!

I would appreciate some information on what people with BPD can do to heal. I find the description of the illness helpful, but far more helpful for me at this point is to know what can be done to heal.

Can you speak on the topic of adult children of sociopaths, especially mother and daughter relationship.

thank you for making me understand my illness better. I love talks with Dr. Ramani she's so passionate and educated about what she talks about, and helps me understand things so effortlessly. Thank you! keep them videos coming :)

That was so helpful to watch - I was only diagnosed 18 months ago, though I had serious suspicions for several years prior - but at no point have I read or been told that sleep disturbances is common, which mine is (almost exactly the way described, but I also wake up many many times every night). Thank you to Medcircle and the Dr shown for doing videos on BPD - it’s is still so heavily stigmatised, and we are not awful people - we just want to be supported and understood, so we can help ourselves get better!

wow it all makes sense now, i got diagnosed with depression when i was younger, i'm 21 now and i noticed that i got more of the bpd symptoms over the last 2 years, as well as sleep problems

Amazing. You just described my mother completely. BPD, eating disorders, depression and the sleep disturbance. Thank you for your content.

Thank you for these series about BPD, Dr. Ramani and Mr. Kittleson. I’ve gained so much information and I can finally reference these videos to my partner to gain his support and understanding in me seeking treatment.

The sleep disturbance information you shared, thank you so much. No one in the mental health field has ever told me that. In a few mere words you abolished years of guilt and frustration surrounding my lack of control over my sleeping pattern. Again thank you so much for speaking about this, I now know to bring this up in treatment.

Dr.Ramani has such great compassion towards this illness I struggle with BPD, eating disorder and severe anxiety and complex ptsd living with these diagnoses I wish I never had it makes sense why this illness is so incredibly hard to treat and how crippling this illness. I wish she was my therapist. Dr.ramani your so great!!!

I am so pleased with all these new uploads specifically on BPD! I also have social anxiety disorder and major depression just like Dr.Ramani said, that a person with BPD is mostly seen with other disorders. My doctor actually told me that I’m at a risk of developing bipolar disorder later on in life if I don’t get treated. It’s a scary thought but that’s why it’s so important to seek therapy ASAP.

I feel so seen and heard. This is an incredibly helpful video. After an unbelievably horrifying life experience I have spent the last 1.5 years being proactively engaged in my mental health. It really has felt like a full time job and sometimes I question if I’m doing the right thing. This just validated my experience so much. It’s been a long journey and progress is slow but everyday I notice improvements. Thanks 🙏

Thank you for talking about BPD. I have BPD, bipolar, anxiety and depression but live in a country where it's still taboo to talk about mental disorders and I don't have access to the help or information I need. This really helps me in understanding myself and my situation better.

Great interview! I would love to hear Dr. Ramani talk about Histrionic Personality Disorder some time as it seems very similar to some of the other disorders you've talked about.

A video on cyclothymia would be really interesting! I have BPD and cyclothymia and it’s very difficult to work with both disorders!

I have stress related chronic pain,and I notice that my BPD/ paranoia definitely increases on days of bad pain. Nice vid 👍

This makes me feel better but still frustrated as someone with BPD. I saw in writing that I also have chronic dysthymia, cptsd, and a anxiety disorder as well as other things. I feel all of what she says! I wish she was my dr♡ lots of love to my fellow peoples xx

watching this video at 4 and I have bpd and a couple other disorders I really wish I could see this lady she knows me so well.

This Dr. Is spot on and absolutely easy to understand... I have been suffering for 10+ years and have only recently been properly diagnosed... but she makes it so much easier to understand!

Love this Dr. She knows her stuff and is willing to sharing her knowledge with us.

Always look forward to a new Dr. Ramani vid 👌

Dr. Ramani is brilliant!! Love watching her videos :)

Thank you so much for your amazing videos. I have only recently been diagnosed with BPD, and these videos really help me.

I hope she makes more videos, talks, lectures. This woman is so insightful we need more of her.

I love this video. I have been living with bpt, bipolar 2, depression and anxiety, belimia, and insomnia for over two years now. Obviously formed over my life span but at 23 years old I am 100% disabled army veteran. I have two beautiful young children and a very successful 2+ year old romantic relationship soon to be married and my meds are still not perfect. This video really helped me explain my life to my family from someone they can understand. Very very truthful and very interesting to hear someones description be so real of who I am.

I had a recent diagnosis of BPD and am so grateful as I am learning to be mindful of mood changes.

I am so lucky I just found a team of doctors that wants to help me.

Dear Med Circle. Please talk about Borderline Personality Disorder and work/jobs. I’ve been countless times confronted about my low job performance. Like doing so well in the beginning and strongly deteriorate and lose motivation after. Despite trying again after many attempts, still get called out for mediocre efforts but you tried so hard. People just can’t see how hard it is for me. I tried so hard to fight everyday going to work. It’s like the same repetitive battle every single day.

This is such a great interview it kept me interested. ❤

Sending love and support to anyone healing while dealing with BPD! 💙💙

Theres so much relevance and truth that is pertinent to my life and situation that comes from this video that it's almost too difficult to watch. The truth is a bitter horse pill to swallow.

I have been contemplating in getting my mom accessed and diagnosed for BPD. This video has confirmed that I should do it when you guys talked about is the cascadian disorder. My mom can't stay awake n the morning and becomes manic at 1am till the morning. Thank you so much for these videos.

Thank you for the great information. I was finally diagnosed with BPD 13 yrs ago. I have had clinical depression my entire life. I also have an eating disorder & sleep disturbance but it’s never been connected to my BPD. It’s like connecting the dots! It’s been a lifetime of depression, violent anger episodes, abandonment problems, all leading to me staying out of relationships for fear. I went through a year and a half of DBT therapy with mindfulness and meditation. It has helped me tremendously and I haven’t been suicidal in several years. I do still keep the suicide hotline number in my phone. Learning self regulation just helped me get through a difficult situation which in the past I would have wanted to die. I take life a day at a time and work hard to practice what I have learned in therapy. I can’t say that I no longer have violent or self harming thoughts but I am better at not acting on them. It’s been torture living my life.

Sending good vibes to anyone dealing with people with these disorders.

Thank you for posting this ! It is helpful because it relates to a family member.

Thank you for educating millions of people

Thank you for discussing the link between BPD, eating disorders and alcoholism, all of which contributed to my sister's death. This issue is very serious and can cause what I call "slow suicide". The more we discuss the more we can catch these disorders before they become as serious as my late sister's.

Holy....wow.....I literally got chills down my back. She spoke to my psyche and not my self....😅

I have Bipolar 1 with BPD comorbidity, and I found this video very informative. Loving all the positive wishes in the comments too.

Love Dr. Ramani! Would love a video for family/friends on how to deal with someone with NPD. Side note: Why does the interviewer have the big chair? Why not 2 big chairs & a small side table for both?

I am a big fan of Dr. Ramani. Thanks for the video.

These videos, mean so much to me.

Circadian and physical medical conditions is eye opening!

I was diagnosed with BPD, and as I changed so much of therapist and kind of therapies until find one that actually works for me, I was mostly disconnected from my diagnosis, I didn't want to call myself BPD so for me was easy to deal with my personality namely only my personality and work to make it more stable. Fortunately, it is working, but eventually my last therapist brought up the BPD topic which made me look for information about it, so I found these videos and I REALLY find them super useful, also to understand more about myself. The only thing I regret is that there is no subtitles for other languages, I am from a Spanish speaking country so although I can understand and learn, my parents can't as they don't speak English and I would really like them to watch these video. Hope in the future we can find subtitles for different languages.

So much for going to hospital for treatment, you mean neglect and dismissal. I was in psychs office 5 mins as he read my 15 year old medical file. He closed it and said go home Julie there's nothing we can do for you! So I left feeling totally alone...thanks a bunch chermside mental health.

Thanks for the insight .I dealt with a women who had multiple disorders for 5 years including panic ,eating , agoraphobia and borderline and barely got out alive .The physical and mental abuse became impossible to deal with and I finally manage to escape her and as a result ended up having to do therapy for 3 years just to get my sanity back . I could write a book on this matter.

This lady just described my whole life. I wish it was easier to get diagnosed and treatment

This woman is so, so good.

Love these videos! She’s great.

I’m BpD, bipolar and an alcoholic. This is so on point, sadly

I have gone through both anorexia and bulimia and still have relapses here and there and recently found out I'm BPD and was misdiagnosed with Bipolar at 8. This all makes so much sense.

This is so me. I have scizzoaffective disorder, bpd and PTSD. I have been in therapy since a child but really for the last 25 years straight with alternating many different combinations of medications. I have been thru icmp group and we finally got my mood disorder more under control then last year extreme trauma struck again to unfathomable low levels that my bpd is becoming out of control. I have been addressing the bpd with my therapist more so the last 5 months and we are making huge progress. Soon I will be going back to icmp with the Hope's of graduating to the dbt class after 4 months. I'm doing so much better theks past month. My impulsiveness is so much better already . But I am fortunate I have a therapist and psychiatrist that love working with borderline patients and I talk with my therapist 4 days a week and the crisis hot line if needed the rest of thw week. The few people I have left in my life are learning boundaries with me which has forced me to see when I'm out of control or have gone too far ans I feel instant remorse for my reactions out of pure fear. But by others putting up no tolerate boundaries it's really helping me realize what's going to happen if I dont get better control of my impulsiveness. When I need to rage I call the crisis hotline and tell them I need to defuse my emotions and we work on it or I talk with my therapist. I try very hard not to go to family and friends with my outrageous emotions because its driving them away from me. I'm determined to recover from bpd as best as possible. I cant in no way live the rest of my life with such fear and loathing of myself. It just wont happen

I see most people’s comments are from people w BPD but for me these videos have been sooo helpful in understanding my ex . I knew something was not quite right with him and he didn’t think he has any problems but sadly his behavior was so telling of depression at the minimum . It is now so clear to me that he suffers from BPD and it’s such a relief to me to know that when he was lashing out on me and tearing me down for no reason it had a name , splitting , and it was not my fault ! I did so much for this man and had so much compassion and patients but it was becoming painfully obvious that his problem was becoming my problem by tolerating the abuse that he would dump on me when he would all of sudden split . And to now know that his strange sleeping patterns and eating habits are a part of this disorder really brings more pieces of the puzzle together.

Thank you for this. Can you also talk about Favorite Person/FP and what you should do if you are someone's FP.

Would be interesting to hear her on other personnality disorder such as avoidant personnality disorder or dependant personnality disorder. She has such amazing communication and vulgarization skills.

19 next month and was diagnosed at 14 and rediagnosed every year since. Such a terrible illness. Praying for everyone else struggling or who have someone who does

OMG I LOVE YOU, I need a psychologist like you!

This is very true ad someone with bpd, I also have high depression, anxiety and adhd. I was an alcoholic in my early 20s and now have been sober for 5 years. It's difficult for me to sleep with insomnia and night terrors but luckily there is a medication I take that helps.

I got diagnosed with BPD along time before i was told i was diagnosed with it but no one told me bc i was so young (got diagnosed at 13 found out at 16) before i was always told i have depression and anxiety and panic disorder but it never felt like that 100% like i could relate to those things but i always felt it was more once i got diagnosed with bpd and did some research into it and looked back it made SO MUCH SENSE. Also treatment and therapy never worked for me when i thought i had depression but now that i know i have BPD and im treating it im getting so much better!

My heart goes out to everyone suffering from this disorder

I, and possibly many others, would greatly appreciate a full transcription of these interviews! Personally I have trouble keeping my attention to videos, but do much better reading an article!

I had anorexia as a young teenager and have been struggling with bulemia on and off for about 10 years (Im 33 now). I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder at 13 but sometimes I wonder if BPD would have been the correct diagnosis. I know I should probably seek treatment but, for me, and this is just for me, the more I understand BPD, the more I know how to help myself. Thanks for the helpful videos!!

I am watching this after sleeping all day and waking up in the middle of the night! Sleep pattern disturbances... confirmed!!!

Took me 30 years to finally get assessed and diagnosed. It was such a lot of work and waiting, but I had got to a point where I couldn't deny that I was running and I needed to face it and learn to understand, treat and live a life acknowledging whatever was wrong. BPD and ADHD were life changing diagnosises for me, I've had GAD+SAD and general depression diagnosises for years but realising that these may very well be symptoms as well as standalone things? Blew my mind. BDP has been hell to live with, especially not understanding what it even was and feeling as if I was somehow just being difficult/dramatic and not understanding why I felt this way. Fellow BPDers, we're so heckin strong like woah ♥️♥️

I have BPD and Major Depressive Disorder and General Anxiety Disorder! I have always welcomed treatment! I love therapy! I have been in counseling for over half my life and it’s extremely helpful to me! I have done DBT and loved it and I have always welcomed treatment and I always will!

The best coping tool I’ve found is shutting off my cares for those who aren’t significant in my life. If someone has no importance to me, I avoid to uncomplicated things. When you finally become independent from the need for validation, the other symptoms aren’t so suffocating. Respect for those who also have bpd.