Breaking Generational Cycles of Trauma | Brandy Wells

Breaking Generational Cycles of Trauma | Brandy Wells | TEDxKingLincolnBronzeville

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4 жыл бұрын

Brandy shares a personal story of how a 8 year old girl who felt abandonment begin her healing process because of the birth of her own daughters as an adult. She challenges the ideas and practices of generations before her, to show up for her younger self all while being conscious enough to raise daughters intentionally. The 8 year old girl as an adult makes amends with her younger self and encourages the audience to do the same! Brandy shares a personal story of how a 8 year old girl who felt abandonment begin her healing process because of the birth of her own daughters as an adult. She challenges the ideas and practices of generations before her, to show up for her younger self all while being conscious enough to raise daughters intentionally. The 8 year old girl as an adult makes amends with her younger self and encourages the audience to do the same! This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@jameslozano8323 2 жыл бұрын

“Going back to the place in which I was wronged as a child, and telling her ‘I’m sorry that happened to you.’” Thank you for this. I can’t explain what this did for me as soon as I heard it.

@tyq517 2 жыл бұрын

Hit like bricks

@emilydavid3104 9 ай бұрын

That just struck my heart. So deep.

@christinea7092 Жыл бұрын

“You cannot pour from an empty cup.” Love this.

@hannahh5514 2 жыл бұрын

“I refuse to leave a story written of pain”

@choaticlifeofpurvi 2 жыл бұрын

she was nervous but kept going such a brave person she went through so much

@wellbodisalone 10 ай бұрын

It's time to break the cycle of generational trauma. You deserve something a lot better.

@cherhaffen-ut1xb 4 ай бұрын

It grows one up right! Children are wonderful teachers if people will listen? a beautiful masterpiece!

@Nikitaxo24 2 жыл бұрын

I love the poetic language of masking ourselves from trauma. Very touching.

@RestorationEdenMinistries 11 ай бұрын

When she said EPIGENETICS I could have fainted. Yeesss!!! Epigenetics also explains spritually inherited proclivities also.

@JanieandMuma Жыл бұрын

3 Minutes in I can relate tremendously. The birth of my first daughter at 21 was so pivotal, never did I experience a love for another being the way I did when I first saw her. Forget "puppy love" boyfriends or "best friends", my daughter was the beginning of my healing journey and she has not a clue. I saw her look at me like I had never seen anyone look at me. She looked at me like I was the best thing God put on earth . At 21 I had such a low self esteem (of course I didnt realize it then), how could this baby think that of me. It opened up my eyes to see that I had in fact been in an emotionally abusive relationship with her biological father. She saved my life. Now, here, 8 years later I realize God put her in my life to remind me of all the suffering or traumatic moments I had experienced as a child in order to pave a new life for her and ensure she got what she deserved, the space to blossom and grow into WHATEVER makes her life fulfilling. Thank you for sharing this!

@HerLegacyUnchained 3 ай бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤❤

@winnd44 Ай бұрын

She ate this whole speech 👏👏👏 A lot of things to thinks about

@user-xf4ze2zr4h 2 ай бұрын

I'm so glad you over came and thank you for sharing your story Brandee Hayes 🙏

@TerrelleCheers1 4 жыл бұрын

took me awhile to get to this video, but the moral of the story is generational pain runs so deep its internalized in order to survive. we fear whippings so much that we become tramatized from the degree of punishment over reward. ask the reason why? help strengthen within

@scientificallysatvik1650 2 жыл бұрын

Dammm. I can relate sooo much. I am feeling and reliving every single word of hers. The - " I was getting triggered when I saw my husband being the best one. Because "I" Wanted that". Sooo true. I get trigger when I see my brother being the best Dad to her daughter. Coz I wanted that. Nd I didn't got that. That triggers me like anything while I love my neice with all my heart 🙏🙏

@alexisramirez9574 Жыл бұрын

I am no good to anyone if I am no good to myself!!! ❤❤❤❤

@eddiern 3 жыл бұрын

I needed to see this now. The universe sent me here🙏🏽

@malkahavah5853 2 жыл бұрын

His name is YAHUAH! YAHUAH sent me here

@loretta10 3 жыл бұрын

Love this ... one question , why don’t we have cable shows all day everyday like this ? Keep on keeping on Brandy

@JanieandMuma Жыл бұрын

I think because the TV networks can't profit if the viewers know their self worth. I am so thankful for youtube and it's content. It can be so educational when you are trying to improve yourself.

@scientificallysatvik1650 2 жыл бұрын

It just 2minutes in nd I cannot tell you how relatable this looks like. Dammm😭❤

@dmquinta1140 4 жыл бұрын

That was beautiful and made me cry. Thank you for sharing your story!

@eimyroman8879 Жыл бұрын

To just know you’re not alone in this world and you can fix so many things within . So comforting 💖. Everyday I wake up and aspire to be a better person and to run into these types of videos it’s just so powerful . I wish my parents knew all of this .

@Healing_luv 7 ай бұрын

Healing in this message. Taking notes & putting it into action. Sonya.. I am proud of you for being such a dope mom. I went thru allll of the trauma at such a young age just to protect my lil princess from inheriting that trauma.

@melissasue3328 2 жыл бұрын

Girl YES! I hear you. I see you. I feel you and I am with you!

@rollavibez 2 жыл бұрын

This is the most relatable speech I have ever heard. Loved this

@jorgeberumen751 3 жыл бұрын

This will help others in so many ways. Thank you for sharing!

@playsavedthechild.2848 3 жыл бұрын

I liked your talk. on many levels. Especially meeting kids where they learn. resonates with me. Thanks for your "witness" statements., and caring for community and children's development.

@XiomaraThaGoddessMeow 4 жыл бұрын

Wow, I NEEDED this... So many confirmations of my own story, told through another. ✨💚✨

@stellaforde8378 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you, this was great. It really opened my mind and bettered my understanding of transgenerational trauma!

@MwapeLaxtone 9 ай бұрын

Profound!! It's worth the time thanks for sharing

@m.m.williams5776 4 жыл бұрын

Yes!!!! I’ve been waiting for this!!

@nelsoncarreiro6099 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your beautiful gift to the world. 🙏💕

@oonajane6605 3 жыл бұрын

this is so important; thank you!

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks you, very inspiring ! 🙏

@BeeYou369 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your bravery Brandy Wells

@christophersimonbrennan6479 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your process. So much for me to think about. C

@suzannesanders3286 2 жыл бұрын

Important work you are doing! Thank you for sharing!

@YahuahIsKing1229 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely incredible. Thank you, Brandy!

@RR-pn6kf 4 жыл бұрын

9:24 Powerful!

@alexisramirez9574 Жыл бұрын

Thank you this is so helpful and I appreciate all you taught me.

@stantonspoons 3 жыл бұрын

Watching this just in time. 👌

@arlinegeorge6967 3 жыл бұрын

Interesting n informative talk. Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true.

@alexisramirez9574 Жыл бұрын

Teach and model the behavior I want to see !!❤

@littletiff1000 3 жыл бұрын

Beautiful words it almost feels like you’re speaking my story

@santigabriel333 Жыл бұрын

This helped me so much

@QueenTenasia 3 жыл бұрын

This was EVERYTHING! Give Thanks 👑💓💯🙏🏾

@funfrugalfly 2 жыл бұрын

Wow. Just wow.

@BritneyDearest 4 жыл бұрын

Beautiful work Brandy. Since I began following you on Instagram, I have been inspired by your words and experiences you have been transparent enough to share. I hope you continue to reach many more people who are encouraged to take action. 👏👏👏

@gracevilla7916 2 жыл бұрын

What is her Instagram??

@tyq517 2 жыл бұрын

Im just at a loss of words..this hit hard

@bradhunt9518 6 ай бұрын

No facade,just the real you. Be proud,you are the only you on the face of the earth, make you as good as can be made. Its a short life.

@bevanboth9125 3 жыл бұрын

Brilliant, love you Randy 4rm RSA Cape Town ❤️👏💕

@mshannahloganshow Жыл бұрын

This is just gorgeous.

@lovealways2544 Жыл бұрын

BRAVO!

@jo1681 3 жыл бұрын

I'm surprised that this doesn't have more views

@santigabriel333 Жыл бұрын

Amazing 🤍

@Caliban201 4 жыл бұрын

Very touching. ***An outfit

@lisagibuu498 3 жыл бұрын

Me too I’m in out reach in urban

@bribriconte 2 жыл бұрын

youre beautiful brandy

@reginab8145 2 жыл бұрын

Put on your mask FIRST! Great job lil sister!

@firesign4297 Жыл бұрын

🙏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿🙏🏿♥️

@racheal2036 5 ай бұрын

Learned behaviours

@alexisramirez9574 Жыл бұрын

11:09

@amber_toiletbowlfingers Жыл бұрын

7:50 There is no scientific consensus so far that epigenetics plays any significant part in cross generational trauma, let alone in a way that resembles ADHD, ODD, or bipolar (what???). We are in the very early days of understanding the consequences and extent of epigenetics. It _might_ cause extensive symptoms, but she should _not_ be this confident about this. We literally do not know these things yet. I think she's right about culturally transmitted trauma across generations, but the epigenetics stuff is bs and she should know better.