This was so brilliant. I have always loved Bridesmaids and felt inexplicably connected to the movie. Watching this movie, the "why" is glaringly obvious. The Take just read me for filth.

@@barrymoton1 I believe you're a man so your comment is extra moving (to me). Sorry if it seems sexist but that's just how I feel.

Hey The Take ! Thanks for the videos, they are always so interesting!!! I would love to see an analysis of the characters in Gilmore Girls, especially the family relationships, which I think are extremely toxic and interesting at the same time :)

the power and control of being drunk

No truer, more profound words were ever spoken. All Hail Megan, the Queen who tells it as it is, and suffers no fools!👑

I was 14 and severely depressed when I saw this film at the cinema (my mother took me to cheer me up, sneaking me in as it was rated 15+ haha) and when Megan spoke that line my mother turned to me. It made such a powerful impression on me.

We NEED a friend like Megan in our lives. AMEN!

Joeyta Dutta that’s so sweet 😭🌹

😪😔😪😥😔😪😔

I agree, this channel doesn't judge or look down on those for loving chick films, and points out the incredibly insightful messages that you may have missed at first glance. 😻

its not trivial, its a cult classic!

Agreed. I don't know whether other channels do that or not, but if they are ignoring them because it's trivial or girly, they are not very good analysts. Bridesmaids is a really funny and well written comedy and I think a good comedy tells more about Western life than an action or suspense movie. Superbad falls in that category as well. Others might think Superbad is stupid, but it captures teenage life perfectly. Would love to see the Take's take on that as well.

Bridesmaids is a big crossover hit

Exactly! Hit the nail on the headddd. Love this channel sooo so much 💖

Same here, although I'm currently taking the 12 step programme to gradually free myself of my addiction!💗

I'm still a bit like that. That good old "fuck it", that's why it hurted so bad when a few people saw my kindness/ worth. Selfreclusssion when life's extra tough or when I "relapse" on depression and PTSD helps me heal though :) Different things work for different people at different times. My dad for instance is an introvert who looooves going outside and excercise to deal with his own childhood trauma and with his bipolar disorder. I was social too sometimes, but now only indoors loneliness feels safe and nourishing :) I hope you get good times soon

Same and main protag and I have same name so it hits a lil too close to home.

I used to do that but therapy helpssss

I am

Anyone who can quote avater has respect from me

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Greatest series of all time

Uncle Iroh but close enough!!!! Love that show

@@iankincaid1216 I was quoting "Endgame", the last episode of Korra, Book 1. The scene where Aang's spirit appears to Korra and restores her bending.

Middle age?! Her character is 35

@@JulianneHannes That's pretty much middle age for most of us...There's nothing wrong with that .

S M lol true

@@JulianneHannes you get the average human lifespan is 70something right 🤣

She may be middle aged but it's been made very clear that her eggs are wet. 😂😂🤣🤣🤣

Very true! Whenever one falls into depression or generally feels down about themselves, one of the coping mechanisms is stimulating your creativity, whether it be writing, dancing, drawing, etc. And in Annie's case, baking. Stimulating ourselves creatively with the thing that we love to do the most reminds us that we do have self-worth, and we are good at what we do. However, because Annie is addicted to feeling bad about herself she doesn't want to admit that she clearly has talent. So when she bakes her carrot cake after her therapy session with Megan, it's clear that she's beginning to remember that she has self worth.

Thank you.

Thank you so much. That's all I can say

Man I didn't know how badly I needed to hear this... thank you so very much

I’m going through a bout of depression rn, but it’s the kind of thing that I feel incredibly bored but I have no motivation to do anything else. I got a fantastic concept for a story the other day, and I’ve been struggling with starting it. Thanks for the little kick I needed😜

I'd definitely recommend checking it out, for laughs, female friendships and Melissa McCarthy's scene stealing supporting turn!😆

You should watch, it's one of the best movie ever made. I mean it. It actually is one of the funniest movies ever, though now I see it has a lot of deeper meaning as well.

Do watch it.

Jom Cueto there are certain scenes that are literally laugh out loud funny. The rest of it is top notch ‘chick flick’. I recommend it for anyone

I feel you

I was legit trying to remember there old name, I'd forgotten it lol

screenprism bullshit evolved into this quality chanell?

@@Vent69420 Screenprism was always good, though. At least on youtube, I don't know where else it's been on the internets.

@@Vent69420 Their old content is great, what are you talking about? They only changed their name, not anything else

Yes, yes, yes, a million times yes

Or maybe how she manages to succeed in the world that rewards the Helens and sets up the Annies of the world to feel like s***. A woman who doesn't fit the standards for femininity but manages to succeed on her own merits

Yes please! Megan is such an inspiration

@@jessicavictoriacarrillo7254 , yes! Yes, that would be a *perfect* topic to cover for Megan's character.

@@stephaniewozny3852 Yeah! Maybe even that one doesn't have to be a successful as Megan to be successful but that they managed to achieve a great sense of accomplishment and peace about who they are. We always seem to get a lot of rom-com heroines who seem to consider themselves ugly or fat when they're not, but Meghan McCarthy's characters can manage to look their absolute worst you know but they managed to get the guy and have lots of adventures.

I was going to say I wish the narrator would have actually made the point that Annie was suffering from depression. It’s not just hitting rock bottom she is genuinely depressed. I remember watching some of Annie’s terrible behaviour and it was really difficult to watch because it’s something people do when they are in a very dark place. I definitely hit a point where I was engaged in really self destructive behaviour and it’s not till I had therapy that I understand I was depressed

Casey W. That is true

EXACTLY! In the program, people constantly say that you don't have to hit rock bottom in order to change and recover.

@@ValerieBleak Exactly....as an addict, I had MANY "rock bottoms". Find your will to live, not your rock bottom.

@@caseyw.6550 whitney houston for example

Exactly. One doesn't necessarily have to reach the rock bottom to improve in life. The moment we have the realisation that things need to change, we need to start improving from that point onwards.

It's an oscar winning movie for screenplay, so yes, you are the target audience, just watch it already! :)

Me too!

Luboman411 if you are a human with even half a brain you should see it. Very entertaining and deep in certain ways

I'm a gender studies minor and I want to tell you that when women are portrayed honestly - like in this movie - is probably when you find them most relatable. We are all human, and much of our lived experiences overlap with one another. We believe we are more different than we are, or we assume that we are based on surface differences in responses that, in the case of men and women, are usually because of social conditioning. :) Like my boyfriend asked why woman will be passive aggressive and catty and stuff when guys will just shout or punch and be done, I was able to point him to whole books - "Queen Bees and Wannabes," "Reviving Ophelia" - that point out how, because aggression is human but girls are always supposed to be sweet and nice, all our natural human 'mean' gets leaked out in these covert, subversive, tricky ways, so we express it or get what we want without losing face (all usually without consciously realizing it). If you're interested in the inverse, how young men are socioculturally pumped up into hiding 'soft' emotions and being aggressive and sexually competitive, try "Guyland" by sociologist Michael Kimmel. The world is a mess but I mostly like it. :)

It's on amazon if you didn't see already

Seconded, Annie and Helen are mirror images of the other, but it takes them almost the entire film to realize this. On the outside, Helen looks pristine, poised and immaculate, but is falling apart on the inside, and doesn't have any real female friends, so latches onto Lillian by overcompenstating. By contrast, Annie looks a total mess to everyone around her, but unbeknownst to her, has the support of Lillian, her mother, Rhodes and her other friends, and the power to change her circumstances. 💖

@@trinaq Also as the end of the video and the previous video put it the other married women in their Bachelorette Party don't have it together (one drinks a lot to get through being a wealthy housewife with rowdy boys and another doesn't experience total sexual satisfaction in her marriage and they end up making out with each other). Like everyone has addictive patterns in their personalities. And Megan: she is going full throttle in her life and enjoying it.

Me too! This video is a great reminder for why I started therapy. Let’s do our best to become better. I’m rooting for you. 👍

Yes when they made that point I thought of CPTSD. Seems to me like a good example of it, albeit not from childhood. As someone diagnosed it looks very relatable and I’m eager to watch it. Your interpretation is more compassionate. But from what I can tell the video was just summarizing what the people in her life were saying. I didn’t feel like the video itself was harsh toward her character

A lot of Annie's problems are completely beyond her control (economy crash/recession which led to her bakery going under, boyfriend leaving, best friend getting engaged, kicked out of her apartment, etc). She's doing the best she can and yet continues to get shat on throughout the movie. And Lillian isn't exactly kind or conscious about her best friend's budget when it comes to planning her wedding. Would her and Dougie even be getting married if they weren't financialy privileged to do so?

Granted her situations were bad and she was in a recovery state. The video should have said that. But sometimes this process leads to self-destructive habits that she had inculcated. She realised and she was made realised which is why she eventually recovered.

I think it's a mental trap for every human

I've watched the movie, and it's wonderful, but this video made me see it so much more deeply and also brought me to tears

So ... I'm exhausted, and therefore copypasted this reply from originally writing it on another person's comment, but I really mean it for you, too. Obvs I'm just a random internet stranger, so grain of salt, free to disregard - but I've had similar problems and I've finally been starting to get better lately and I want to share what;s worked for me because I feel for your suffering. It's great you've had this realization, but for I long time, I had it without really 'improving' because I didn't know the way or have the tools. Here's what's been working for me: I've been working really hard the last few years on 1. radical acceptance (acknowledging my frustration/grief/etc without digging into the cause and raging at it and resenting it, but accepting that even that is a part of life, that Life/God/etc isn't attacking me personally), 2. cognitive behavioral therapy (challenge and replace damaging thoughts, alter behaviors), and 3. psychodynamic therapy (talking about what events affected how I think and feel about the world/new events, patterns in my life). (2 and 3 in the same session). What's REALLY, FINALLY starting to make a biiig difference in my day-to-day mood is taking a good, hard look at what I blame myself for and hate myself for - not just that I DO, but the specifics. Mistakes I made, traits or predispositions I have, things I "let" happen to myself ... It's SO painful and SO hard, but by acknowledging them and thinking, "Would I hate my best friend for this? Would I hate my hypothetical child for this? My mother?" I have been forced to acknowledge that I judge myself too harshly and in so doing, I not only hurt myself, but the people who love me. Only by treating myself as kindly as I treat them, by forcing myself to see that self-loathing is a form of arrogance (I deserve more judgment than anyone else, I have more power over myself than anyone else, my mistakes are more impactful than anyone else's) and a pattern which allows me to continue in misery instead of trying to rise up because I'm afraid to fail - only in this have I started to really get my s**t together, to feel happier, and to therefore be more able to help other people and redeem myself for whatever I feel I still need redemption for once I have forgiven myself. It's a work in progress and always will be, but it's SOincomparably better to how I lived before that I can't see myself going back no matter what untold horror life might throw at me. I feel optimistic and empowered even when I'm staving off a panic attack or crying because I hate something about myself so much. Sometimes I still have that kneejerk response of "oh this sounds dumb" or "oh this hokey pseudo-religious language" ... but it works so well I have to accept that my opinion is wrong, not the material, lol. I highly recommend viewing the self-loathing as an illness or an enemy, not "right" or "what you deserve" or "how you've always been and therefore will be". It's not about what we deserve; it's about what's best for everyone. All humans are capable of transformational change - think of reformed Nazis or Klansmen! (Arrogance: Am I really so special in my badness, in my illness or predisposition, that I am less able to change than a Nazi??) I highly recommend therapy - studies have shown all mainstream forms are comparably effective if the therapist and client are both committed and have a good bond. (So if it takes nine shrinks to find a good fit, it's normal and worth it and that's a 100% a 'good enough' reason to change therapists!) If you can't afford it or the idea of a human is too scary, try Woebot! It's a free, artificially intelligent cognitive behavioral therapy app which lets you do "sessions" in 5-10 minutes! Books that really help me include "In the Body of the World" by Eve Ensler, "You are a Bad*ss" by Jen Sincero, "A Long Way Gone" by Ishmael Beah, "Hunger" by Roxane Gay, and "A House in the Sky" by Amanda Lindhout. All are scary, painfully real, humorous, powerful, inspiring (hokey word!) true stories of people overcoming some rill serious s**t and choosing to think and live differently, to forgive and be happy. Good luck with your realization, wherever it takes you. :)

FiddlebirdBlue that was a really kind thing that u did. Going Out if your way to write all that and explain so thoroughly. Thank you times a million. That was so thoughtful of you. I have no doubt many people will benefit from that.

@@FiddlebirdBlue this is the sweetest thing ever

I am currently going through this, I'm working but not in uni. I don't believe that I am smart enough for uni. I tried for two semesters and ended up failing cause I wasn't even trying. How did you come to the realisation? Was it like an immediate thought? Or did it slowly come all together?

Agreed, I'd love if they focused on how Megan isn't the most conventionally skinny woman in the movie, yet she's unabashedly herself, refuses to care what anyone else thinks, and lives her life to the full. We could ALL use a Megan in our lives!😻

Megan was more of a friend to Annie than her “best friend” Lillian, who basically ended up ditching her for Helen, and then when Lillian started feeling bad about herself for her father not being able to pay for the wedding, etc. then Annie is allowed to come back in her life and come to the wedding (essentially for Lillian to feel better about herself). When people start hanging out with more elite people (rich and good looking), then they stop hanging out and caring as much about their other friends (like Annie). That’s what I believe Lillian did to Annie, and then let her back into her life so Lillian can feel better about her life.

MK912 I agree that Annie should have been happy and it was Lillian’s big day, but at the same time I think she started ditching her childhood friend whose always been good to her for Helen which definitely led Annie to eventually having a breakdown. I think Annie was trying to be happy for Lillian but freaked over Helen pretending to not like her wedding shower idea and then stealing it, then overshadow Annie with extravagant gifts and gestures though she knows Annie (THE maid of honor) can not afford it (which of course Helen was doing on purpose to make Annie look bad). I think Lillian realized this after the breakdown Annie had at her shower and then Lillian told Helen to shut up when she said she was proud of her for telling Annie off. I mean if i was in Annie’s shoes, I’d be pissed too. It leaves a feeling of betrayal of your best friend and that you’re not good enough. Lillian wasn’t an awful friend but like I said Megan was there when Lillian (her “bestie”) wasn’t when Annie needed someone the most. Just because you’re getting married doesn’t mean the entire earth and all your friends have to revolve around you for that period of time. People still have their own lives and problems and for Annie, money was a huge problem which she shouldnt have to pay for over the top presents and bridesmaids dresses when it’s not even her wedding. Megan was the one that made Annie well enough again to try to salvage her relationship with that nice guy cop and finally get her car fixed, which she should have done anyways but Megan woke her up with that speech she made to Annie at her house that you can’t feel sorry for yourself, which is what Annie needed to hear and everyone else was too afraid to tell her. I think that’s what makes the greatest friend, someone who can give you the harsh reality, not pretty “comforting” lies which are not not helpful in any way.

Yep, and watch this movie =)

lidette711 I hate to get all preachy but I’d you have your health you must be great full and move in with your life and make something of it. No self pity please if you are healthy

How did it go?

Sala Mander Pretty good. Thank you for asking. It's a slow process and I'm just getting started. Still haven't changed that damn light though...

Its been a year. Hope you are well.

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I totally agree!

Completely agree.

It was a bit too fast, agreed. On the whole, a lot of things that happen in the movie in which Annie feels the right things. But I think the whole movie is about how Annie _reacts_ to things.

She told him b4 she has passion in baking, that’s why he did that.

I feel you. I was there. You will come out. I know that. I am on my way out. Not completely out of depression, but on my snail small steps out of depression.

I feel exactly the same way right now. I have an apointment with my doctor next week to ask for a referal to a therapist cuz things are just not looking good right now... The past is haunting me and the future is scaring me, more than ever. I hope things work out for you

Hang in there. What you are going through is very common. You are not alone. Please take care. :)

Cheers to you too! Hang in there and remember your self-worth. No one can take that from you-not exes, not friends or acquaintances, and not even your family.

Same, dude, same. Cheers

Long distance hug

Good luck, hope you feel better

Me too. It's time to start over

Same. We can do it though. We're not starting over, we're starting from experience :)

I feel like the first step is recognizing the problem, and thus the solution, and finding confidence in yourself to then solve it. Often, the complex problem that has been haunting you is way simpler, and that makes the solution way easier to determine. Please know that you’re loved, and that there’s always sunrise after night.

It's so worth a watch. Incredibly fun and heartfelt

By destroying the shower she's probably testing her best to she if she, like the lost boyfriend, would abandon her if she failed, If the Bff's love is truly UNCONDITIONAL

And what the hell does it have to do with men? I'm sick to death of men being punish for nothing, grow up

It’s because as the take pointed out, it’s about a group of female friends, and focuses on actual issues rather then simply pander to male fantasies, in contrast to most movies.

@@jrdn48 The system of misogyny is one that tells EVERYONE that things made for women are less respectable, less important, and silly. Misogyny is more than just "men bad"--it is a social system embedded in our culture that BOTH men AND women internalize and perpetuate. The movie has low ratings because the people who watched it--whether theyre men OR women--think that a movie about women and women-specific issues, is vapid, shallow, and lacks complexity or interesting things to say. Internalized misogyny between women is WHY toxic femininity, and the vindictive, catty, back-stabbing competition between women that comes with it (like with Helen and Annie), exists in the first place.

Ruben, ffs. Not everything or everyone that doesn't agree with your particular opinion is misogynist, racist, --phobic or whatever else you need to label it as. Grow tf up. At least stop publicly embarrassing yourself.

I agree, that's what I love the most about The Take- their spot on analysis of our favourite shows and movies always hits the mark, and makes you think more deeply about it!😍

Love that idea. Dolemite is My Name was awesome. Also, that era brought us the first generation of female badasses.

*panic!. Sorry

Coolness, that's a good omen, if anything, now that the movie is fresh in your mind, it resonates with you all the more!❤

Likewise, this channel is perfect for chick flick lovers, since it doesn't judge their viewers for daring to like "girly" movies, and outlines the insightful messages that they teach us at their core. 😊💝

Oh, Wilson!

So good, lol

There's something they are not telling us!

she‘s wearing traditional clothing and she‘s churning butter

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