Why Is It So Hard To Be Kind? | Ajahn Brahm

Why Is It So Hard To Be Kind? | Ajahn Brahm | 05 March 2010

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Buddhist Society of Western Australia

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Ajahn Brahm discusses how developing the mind with meditation can encourage and support the practice of kindness and understanding towards others.

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@yaiyasmin 13 жыл бұрын

Inspiring video, everyone needs to be reminded of kindness. I talk to myself first. "Kindness is a mark of faith, and whoever is not kind has no faith"

@suzanneolivar1 10 жыл бұрын

I wish that schools would allow this type of lectures at the high schools, maybe there would be less bullying.

@Beautifulcoil 3 жыл бұрын

There wouldn't. Kids don't understand or care about that stuff.

@nguoithichhoasim1233 Жыл бұрын

@@Beautifulcoil : kids can bé taught the karma and consequence , and the kindness in the simple way suitable to their understanding . But the other religions will protest . In USA , mindfulness meditation were taught at few school , to help them concentrate in studying more , because they were distracted by internet . And a couple of years ago, Christians in a district , signed a letter to protest , said that propagates Buddhism . In the ideal situation , the kids and students at high school , universities , also the parents are taught the kindness and compassion too.

@joycemansfield1108 8 ай бұрын

And just good people

@Elegance191 2 жыл бұрын

Aww...Ajahn Brahm is a good actor with the duck and chicken story 😂 He makes me think of it when I go 'berserk' and grounds me 😁

@FallouFitness_NattyEdition 7 жыл бұрын

I hope someday to meet this man. His talks have made a huge impact on my life.

@nichole7965 7 жыл бұрын

AVET87 me too!

@sachinthaherath4902 Жыл бұрын

Me three😂

@lordbyron3603 2 жыл бұрын

4 years later and I still have difficulty with being kind to others! In fact, I’ve gotten worse.!! I’m applying several techniques AB talks about ie, look at the bigger picture and focus on all the positive things , good qualities in the person instead of the negative things about them. It works but the hateful ill-will feeling doesn’t go away completely. But the duration doesn’t last as long either . So I’m doing something right !

@kevinng1702 Жыл бұрын

Every morning, look into the mirror, say to yourself…I love myself…I am still alive…be grateful with what you have…keep saying that daily…you will see the difference within 3 months…Good Luck….

@5755mettateoh 13 жыл бұрын

It is difficult to show kindness when one is surrounded by difficult people who think they are always right.......have to keep telling oneself to be patient

@lordbyron3603 8 жыл бұрын

I thought I was kind, forgiving and generous. I am not! I lose it every time I'm tested.

@freddylim310 Жыл бұрын

Brilliant Dharma teachings ❤️Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu 🙏🙏🙏 Thanks Ajahn❤️

@Windhorse_Mcghee 13 жыл бұрын

Jewels and pearls of wisdom in every talk, thanks

@mobiusloop339 5 жыл бұрын

I have an insane need to be right. I never thought I did, but seeing this video made me realize my mistake. I learn an immense amount from Ajahn Brahm's lectures. He is a brilliant teacher.

@ip9117 2 жыл бұрын

Blessed are you!

@sachinthaherath4902 Жыл бұрын

@Mobius Loop I can relate to this too, I also often have this insane desire to be right😔 (it's almost like an 'all knowing' sense of ego). This talk reminds me of the need for humility in life😌👌

@thudo5587 5 жыл бұрын

I think you gave this talk just for me. Thank you so much for your wisdom,compassion,and personal humor 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

@Elegance191 2 жыл бұрын

And for me ! 😁

@winnbrad 14 жыл бұрын

Thank you for posting these wonderful videos.

@Ourladyrosaries 4 жыл бұрын

I watch every day x

@sachinthaherath4902 Жыл бұрын

10:20 really hits the spot for me😌 Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu🙏🙏🙏

@jdelafuente04 11 жыл бұрын

thank you so much for posting this. You did wonderful job. I like listening to Ajahn Brahm

@ODDthoughts3 11 жыл бұрын

this makes so much more sense then fighting all the time I really needed this:)

@joakimdernebo8400 6 жыл бұрын

Buddhas teaching is the true wisdom

@ashantasetiadi 10 жыл бұрын

love every second i watch this. a very good talk. thank you very much. Buddha Bless Us All.

@howardcohen6817 2 жыл бұрын

Love after 8 years. And your blessing lingers in the air. Thank you. May I join you in this holy blessing on Us All?

@clearskymind 11 жыл бұрын

Great talk as always. It starts with forgiving and loving self, and everything else in the past and future forever without expectation. Deep but hard to practice. Since outside world is competitive, fault finding and dishonest a lot of time... And rewards that negativity... But it still is worth being kind and forgiving than otherwise for ones own peace of mind...

@sachinthaherath4902 Жыл бұрын

@Kat Y 😌

@lordbyron3603 6 жыл бұрын

2 years later ... and I’m still losing it. But, the unkindness doesn’t linger like it used to. I was only unkind and filled with anger for maybe 3-5 minutes. That’s damn good. What I did was immediately focus on something that gave me a lot of pleasure. ... and it worked. Woohoooo!

@evemerda2583 4 жыл бұрын

Ajahn Brahm at his best. Wonderful lecture.

@thudo5587 3 жыл бұрын

🙏🏻🙇🙏🏻🙇🙏🏻🙇Ajahn Brahm

@lollipop9139 12 жыл бұрын

One of the reasons why people won't let a person, who has made a huge mistake, off the hook is because people nowadays are very abusive. And, that is why people become traumatized and start to protect themselves so as not to be hurt again.

@gonibilla532 14 жыл бұрын

another wonderful talk . thank you!

@symphony1045 2 жыл бұрын

Seelavantham Gunawantham Punyakkettham Anuttharam Dullabena Mayaladdam Buddha Putthan Namamaham 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 I Pay my homage to your respectful Swaminwahansa May my mother A.K.M.Gunawardhana be blessed with Great Health. Please give her your blessings Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu

@claribelsefira3573 4 жыл бұрын

thank you so much for making me a better person hopefully! still trying to be a better person ! this video inspire me so much !

@lordbyron3603 8 жыл бұрын

" it was me!" .... He's so funny.

@michellepeterson5241 4 жыл бұрын

Such a sweet, funny teacher. 🙏

@adth123ify 2 жыл бұрын

Sending you so much 💗.

@JAKEAWAKEOFFICIAL 8 жыл бұрын

Got me started. That's all that matters.

@mipatataquierido 2 жыл бұрын

thank you so much.

@mauriced.turner-brown6703 9 жыл бұрын

Its hard to be kind and have good self control to these people these days

@Sumazndoode 14 жыл бұрын

its nice to be nice!

@kritisrivastava9393 Жыл бұрын

12/1/22. Thankyou Guruji 🙏🏽

@clearskymind 11 жыл бұрын

Never helpful to be self-righteous or angry even when we were unfairly hurt.. Need to constantly reinforce this idea otherwise the mind does start to feel angry and fearful.. Buddha is so wise- desire and anger keeps this unending destructive cycle going. Only way is to realize this and change ones attitude without pride, let things be. Dharma is practical- unless one applies and practices, the mind can never change. Without internal peace, it's hard to be happy with any amount of wealth or ach

@dk4past2now87 9 жыл бұрын

It's not hard to be kind but people do not handle loyalty. The world disposes of each other for such small things. It's easier to push people out of our lives. I don't mind admitting when I'm wrong, but find even that act of kindness, is ignored. People assume they will find better or someone they feel fits their standards. This makes it hard to keep showing kindness or even encouraging others when it isn't appreciated.

@karunabro6061 3 жыл бұрын

beautiful talk

@Frlvonundzu 14 жыл бұрын

Sehenswert!

@vegetariankitchenmagicaljo4948 3 жыл бұрын

Please press the like button if you enjoy the talk to support BSWA.

@AhLeBatard 3 жыл бұрын

Great tolk thanks 😊

@bocabill1907 9 жыл бұрын

So true.

@kadenprowse4609 5 жыл бұрын

Ha! Loved it

@larryprimeau7738 5 жыл бұрын

another good talk

@clearskymind 11 жыл бұрын

There's no perfection but it is kinder to all beings and environment to live contently and simply. But being defensive, having a strong ego to protect and manipulate others through fear, anger, and rating makes this place so hard to live for all beings... not considering how that actions affect everyone... wars, using up resources, unequal distribution, .. it's real, but nevertheless it's more helpful to be forgiving, see the good in everything and get through life. Never helpful to be self-rig

@ip9117 2 жыл бұрын

So true... whatever, a duck or a chicken :)

@lollipop9139 12 жыл бұрын

And, I was wondering if Ajahn Brahm would give a talk about sth on being abusive and stuff...

@TonyPrower 11 жыл бұрын

Ajahn Brahm, is there any knowledge, wisdom or experience you could conceive of which would make you give up Buddhism?

@omnimatty 8 жыл бұрын

8 people weren't kind to this video. thumbs down :(. it is great. :)

@clearskymind 11 жыл бұрын

achievement. Kind of need to look at the big picture. lower the expectation, and start with forgiving and being kind to self first.

@killertaquito27 3 жыл бұрын

35:00 enemy list story

@Andrew_-yo1jh 5 жыл бұрын

Deep done in my head my head say there ugly I say shut it shut it shut it stop being rude now I am kind

@songswithlove2204 7 жыл бұрын

my kindness persent is 83

@lordbyron3603 6 жыл бұрын

Hahahaha.....LOL. “Can I be honest with the person I live with?” ...... oh hell no! I’d be kicked to the curb.

@composerdoh 12 жыл бұрын

Actually, Jesus's point about a camel passing thru the eye of a needle has to do with attachment to wealth/materialism. The Buddha said similar things, and it seems to me the very fact that one must be able to give away all of one's possessions and take a vow of poverty in order to be ordained says that they're not all that far off on the issue. That being said I do understand Ajahn Brahm was just being a goofball.

@jasonsha6844 4 жыл бұрын

conpanuan planting helps teehee just jokes and thank you mate

@bktarch 9 жыл бұрын

He cussed :O monks are not allowed to cuss.

@remedyke1 8 жыл бұрын

+bktarch I've seen him cuss a lot...he's a comedian ;-)

@SisypheanRoller 9 күн бұрын

Who told you that monks can't curse?

@jasonsha6844 4 жыл бұрын

phalosifey is wot it is I did not know Buddism was a religion I know some think of it as such but the budda in ones self is wot it is not religion dosent matter what we call it is wot it ………………….peace

@jasonsha6844 4 жыл бұрын

India for Indians China for Chinese Africa of Africans Germany for Germans and so on Quote Darlolama funny how trees from all over the world live together Rododengrum lives side by side with gum tree

@lordbyron3603 2 жыл бұрын

Why couldn’t the woman be the one to relent ??

@roymarshall_ 10 жыл бұрын

I doubt that would work - you have to be in an accepting state of mind to actually care about what he says. If you're not interested in being more peaceful and kind, nothing Ajahn Brahm (or anybody) says will change you.