Can a Parent Who is Not Seeing Their Child Get Joint Custody?

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Command the Courtroom

Command the Courtroom

8 жыл бұрын

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Today I want to talk about whether a parent who is not seeing or spending time with his or her child or children stands a chance of getting joint custody or parenting time.
Can this result in one parent getting sole custody of the child?
Will it result in a restriction of parenting time allowed for one parent?
The answer to that question is it really depends on a number of factors. These factors are called ‘The Best Interest of the Child Factors”. If you haven’t already download my ‘Best Interest Factors Checklist’ by going to:
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Whatever State you are in you should research your child custody statutes. And in those child custody laws there is going to be a list of factors that the court is going to consider in making a decision about custody and or parenting time.
Again, this list is commonly referred to as ‘The Best Interest of the Child Factors” And not ONE factor controls, in other words the judge usually looks at the Interplay between a bunch of different factors. Not one factor is going to outweigh all of the other factors.
So the fact that a parent is not spending time with the child is not the only thing the judge is going to look at regarding whether the parents will get equal decision making or equal parenting time with the child.
Now another thing I pose to you is you really have to look at the reason the parent is not spending time with the child or that there is no communication with the child. Some examples for instance:
Is the other parent is getting in the way and impeding that relationship or refusing visitation?
Are there indications of parental alienation by one of the parents?
If that is the case then I think that is not a very good thing for the parent who is getting in the way of the relationship and essentially preventing the other parent from spending time with his or her child or children.
At least in Arizona child custody laws one of our best interest factors is Which parent is more likely to promote a frequent, meaningful and continuous relationship with the other parent. If one of the parents is not doing that then I would say that is a strike against that parent.
Now not all states may list that as a best interest factor in their custody laws and statutes, it is still something you can and should bring up to the judge during your custody hearing.
You can tell the judge, yes judge I have not been seeing my child because he or she, the other parent hasn’t been letting me.
The second thing to consider is if the other parent is letting you see your child or children and you already have been awarded parenting time but you are NOT seeing the child then why not? You should be exercising all the parenting time that you allowed to see with your child that is possible. If you are exercising less than the court has ordered then I would say that will be a problem for you.
IWendy Hernandez is a family law attorney in Phoenix, AZ and founder of Command the Courtroom which teaches you how to handle yourself in court and achieve the best outcome when representing yourself in your divorce or child custody case.
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@MsKG-nl5ot
@MsKG-nl5ot 7 жыл бұрын
How to prove that the other parent doesn't make any effort to make time for the child?
@Peppermon22
@Peppermon22 6 жыл бұрын
What about a parent that walked out of the kids life for 5 years. He came back and is wanting the kids over night with no supervised visits.
@angelamarchbanks2621
@angelamarchbanks2621 5 жыл бұрын
These videos are super helpful. We are dealing (in California) a fight with my boyfriend's ex and parent alienation on our own. It's been helpful to watch and see what exactly we should be documenting and bringing to the court's attention.
@Teewaree13
@Teewaree13 5 жыл бұрын
This was excellent tips for me..Im going to court this Tuesday! This is like legal representation and consultation without paying for it. Thank you so much. The best interest factors I had no clue about;I live in Massachusetts, so this will be critical information I need to take into consideration and mention to the judge.
@jermainepearson6835
@jermainepearson6835 7 жыл бұрын
I think you should have led with a haven't been seen my child because she has not been letting me because that's usually how it goes down
@orlandobrazier3010
@orlandobrazier3010 5 жыл бұрын
Your video was so helpful. Thank you very much. Even tho it's not for me , but still
@ABeautifulMess101
@ABeautifulMess101 7 жыл бұрын
Found this video very helpful. I'm currently going through this situation now. 😑
@divinceocristao3321
@divinceocristao3321 6 жыл бұрын
I'm going pro se. Ty so much
@andrewhamilton4600
@andrewhamilton4600 7 жыл бұрын
I'm in the Military and I have proof that my ex-wife is keeping me from seeing him. I live in another part of the country. I send for him(buy airline tickets) but she will come up with an excuse not to send him. Plus we have 50/50 joint custody and I am not considered in any decisions when it comes to schooling or anything. Can I go to court alone with this and have a good chance at getting custody of him?
@vybzmusiq7964
@vybzmusiq7964 5 жыл бұрын
Good Video
@aurillashaw8382
@aurillashaw8382 6 жыл бұрын
what if he is lying saying that I am keeping the kids away from him????
@leannacohen5983
@leannacohen5983 5 жыл бұрын
Did you figure this out?
@jenabell2429
@jenabell2429 8 жыл бұрын
I've kept a journal of all the times he's missed with her and the reasons why he stated he couldn't be with her from he had a headache to his son was sick so he couldn't leave the house putting in the court documents that he doesn't participate in any of her school functions doesn't know her teacher let alone how great she's doing in school and all the judge can say is that I'm being tedious nowadays the court does not care about all of the documentation to prove that the other party is not doing their job as a parent
@vybzmusiq7964
@vybzmusiq7964 5 жыл бұрын
Jena Bell so How Did He Win Custody Then??
@leslierae2387
@leslierae2387 7 жыл бұрын
I left my husband about 9 months ago, at the time I was 6 months pregnant and he hit me. I filed a police report and moved out of the state. I attempted to work things out and co parent but he continued to threaten me and mentally abuse me. He has not met our son or even tried he also hasn't helped financially at all. He calls using our son as an excuse to demand to know what I'm doing. I decided to cut off all contact with him out of fear and I'm gathering evidence in order to help my case. Will keeping him away hurt my case? Also it took me several months to admit the abuse to my family and decide to take the necessary steps to protect myself, will waiting to report the abuse hurt my case?
@mikelara6252
@mikelara6252 6 жыл бұрын
good morning Wendy like to say hi I love your videos they give me a lot of knowledge about court and how custody Court's work. I just want you to ask you a question I just got out of court today and the mother was on meth she finally was able to give a hair sample in the past she was refusing to do them and today after court will today during court but they're still was giving for days with my daughter and I am going to get her for 3 days I am just wondering is there anything I can do to get back in court and try to remodify the visitation Arrangements
@jacquelinebontzolakes9682
@jacquelinebontzolakes9682 6 жыл бұрын
NY Erie county my child's father is cousins with one of the judges. Things no matter what wrong he does always sways in his favor. Including failure to show up on time for supervised visits. He is the custodial parent. 17 out or 32 visits he was late over 10 minutes. For the one hour that I was given by the court. I went for unsupervised . It was denied. For FAILURE of family healing. I been in supervised for 7 years+. How can we heal with his interference? And one hour every other week? Suggestions? Should we change court venue? Should we demand change of supervision agency? Since this if the venue they chose to supervise us and it's "not helping heal the family"?
@jessicajhonson6280
@jessicajhonson6280 7 жыл бұрын
same here my ex didnot pick up my child and had me arrested what to do he gets in the way of my relationship
@oneone6865
@oneone6865 7 жыл бұрын
Hi just want it to ask u what can I do if she moving with my please in I don't want my daughter to far away from me can u please help
@oneone6865
@oneone6865 7 жыл бұрын
I really want to what can I do to stop her from going away with my daughter can u please help thank u
@jackmorales3305
@jackmorales3305 6 жыл бұрын
What if the dad is out of state? He moved for a “better job” and says he still wants to go full joint custody. I don’t see the point of it because he is not in my sons eveyday life. Even tho he Skypes with him but it’s only for a little bit of time. My son is 9 months old. He doesn’t talk yet either.
@jess89mc
@jess89mc 6 жыл бұрын
So my estranged husband hasn't cared to see our child in the last 8 months. He has even denied he was the father. It was only until The child support services started to get after him that he started to pretend he wanted to see my child and wanted time with him via email only 2 or 3 times in the last 8 months. He just recently filed a motion for joint custody and visitation and used the excuse that I am not letting him see our child or as the term you used "getting in the way" although I never responded with anything saying that I don't want him seeing our son etc. My question is: is if he can get away with using that as an excuse in court? How I am the one not letting him see our son or will the judge easily see that he didn't try and take actions to seeing our son?
@ritamanley2246
@ritamanley2246 7 жыл бұрын
Husbands ex wife is ordered supervised visitation (due to drug charges) every Saturday dated back to December 2, 2014. She has never exercised her rights to do so. That wouldn't be considered husband is preventing her from the having a relationship with the children would it. I highly side with best interest of the children.
@angelaortigoza6406
@angelaortigoza6406 6 жыл бұрын
What if the child is in south Dakota and father is in California the mother who has the child is not allowing the father to video chat or talk to his child no courts he just pays child support
@christinao9062
@christinao9062 6 жыл бұрын
Do u know if I will be able to get custody of my kids if once I get a stabled housing .i been doing my vistations,.if they're was allegations about my kids father sexually touched my daughter.,he was domestic to me.and I also took parenting classes and received my certificate
@merlextog9651
@merlextog9651 6 жыл бұрын
Hi..i have a son lived in California..while me his mother live here in Philippines..the only way i can see my son is thru messenger.. his father block me on messenger. I didnt see my son even in videochat. Pls give me advise what to do.. my son is only 3 yrs old
@sandyship8610
@sandyship8610 6 жыл бұрын
I have question my son father is not on birth certificate never asked to see him he only wants to stay in contact with me i dont want nothing to do with him i have never kept my son from him. But my ex i know will lie and say other wise. My question is how do I go about getting sole custody for my son because I don't want him to keep bothering me and I am to the point where I want to get a restraining order against him
@mikelara6252
@mikelara6252 6 жыл бұрын
hi Wendy I love your videos they give me a lot of knowledge about the courts system and how it works I have a question. I want to know how I can relay to the other parent my message about co-parent our child together when the other parent is unwilling to give you more time with my son. I wanted to say first of all my son's mother is not a bad person she's a very good person she was willing to help me out in my court custody case with my daughter but when it comes to more time with my son she will not give me more time with him my daughter and my son are from two different relationships my daughter's mother was simply on drugs so I fought for her and got sole custody without an attorney my son's mother it's simply about child support it's just about the money she used to leave them with me for weeks at a time and it seems like when it came to my custody court case for my daughter she wanted more time with her son and started asking my son to stay with her when he didn't want to now I know that I have to send my son to her when it's her time and I do tell my son you have to go with your mother you cannot argue with your mom you have to do what the court wants us to do my son is 12 so he knows what is going on he knows that me and his mother have a very good relationship for example when she was sick with the flu I went to her house and took care of her I have text messages from her thanking me for that and the very next week is when she decided that she did not want to allow my son to come with me no more for what reason I don't know I tried speaking to her and she seems very angry now and bitter over something I don't know what it is but I want that time with my son again and now I know I have to go through the court system because my son is hurting over this thank you very much Wendy if you can reply please reply I know you're very busy as an attorney thank you bye bye
@kimmorajones9743
@kimmorajones9743 7 жыл бұрын
same my ex did the same thing to me he lied on me I can't see my son until after court I the did pick up my son
@rockyaguilar7990
@rockyaguilar7990 6 жыл бұрын
? I havent seen my lil girl or heard my lil girl in a year and i want to get custody of her cuse iam im in good care for her but the boyfreind gets in the way of telling her wat to do i know cuse her brother tells me and i only have a number to get of hold of her brother cuse my exs dont give me her number to talk to her to talk to my lil girl i just want to know if i can win the case becuse of that
@lonely_-wolf33norori11
@lonely_-wolf33norori11 5 жыл бұрын
Why? Would a judge give 20% time sharing to the biological mother if the father had never been around
@GODHATESADOPTION
@GODHATESADOPTION 5 жыл бұрын
Cuz shes an abuser alienating
@jasperalcocer642
@jasperalcocer642 7 жыл бұрын
Ohhhh Wendy, the non custodial parent choose to leave my son and I when my son was 6 months. The non custodial parent has been gone 11 years, and now is twisting this saying I've kept him away..... Ummm what with chains on my door? An imaginary border around my house? My son and I have done everything it takes to move on. This is so not nice to do to my son nor I. It's created a lil insecurity in my son. My son sees how hard I'm working on this case. Any suggestions, Wendy advice?
@PRISM_828
@PRISM_828 5 жыл бұрын
We're going through the same thing. She hasn't seen or talk to the child since she was 4, she's 14 now. My fiance and I are fighting for custody now. She took her to go visit in an other county and said "she's going to school here now!" . She did not ask, she demanded. We have an interim hearing tomorrow.
@sevennasmr
@sevennasmr 8 жыл бұрын
can I message you on yahoo or any other site.
@glitterfairy899
@glitterfairy899 7 жыл бұрын
if parents in el centro ca the father has our son Friday noon until Monday at noon also if me or he wants to take him out of out should the father tell the mother where they are going incase they have an accident god forbid or her gets sick
@vybzmusiq7964
@vybzmusiq7964 5 жыл бұрын
Maryann Oatsvall I don't think The Judge will Allow You THAT
@goodguy80501
@goodguy80501 8 жыл бұрын
do you know if Colorado is the same? I don't see my daughter because her mom doesn't let me but now my daughter is 16 and I got a chance to talk to my daughter and she said she didn't want nothing to do with. im sure the mother put some bad ideas in her head or place fear to her if she does see me. what can I do?
@vybzmusiq7964
@vybzmusiq7964 5 жыл бұрын
Anthony Carrillo WOW!! I'm Going Through Something Similar if she's 16 There isn't Much you Can Do Because She's Going on 18 Soon But I WOULD ASK A Lawyer But Maybe Keep Trying to Reach Out To The Daughter Even if She's Rude!
@itzeltorres2063
@itzeltorres2063 8 жыл бұрын
i need your help i recently file for my daugthers custody i haven seen her in 4 months just because the father dont want me to see her its my first time going thru this i need help some one to preparme
@vybzmusiq7964
@vybzmusiq7964 5 жыл бұрын
Itzel Torres What City/State is this in??
@jenabell2429
@jenabell2429 8 жыл бұрын
I just got my daughter taken away for the summer I get two weeks during the summer to visit her and they cannot be consecutively I was forced to move out of my town because of rent to another town where I can afford to live with my two children on my own the judge said that I either need to move back or I get Summers taken away the system has never done anything to help me and has always seem to let me down how can I get my baby girl back she's never been without me more than 3 days and that's only when her father shows up for visits
@vybzmusiq7964
@vybzmusiq7964 5 жыл бұрын
Jena Bell what City/State is This??
@aprilzapien7397
@aprilzapien7397 7 жыл бұрын
what if the father only seen his child 6 times since he's been born and brought him necessities 4 times? Claiming that its because of me not letting him when I let him & his family. his family seen my son numerous of times seeing him but not his father. He has a jealous fiance not letting him spend time with his son due to the fact he has to spend time with me in order to see his son. can he still get joint or equal parenting time?
@Three-tides
@Three-tides 6 жыл бұрын
Why is the father only allowed to see the child without you? It sounds like Mom has the control/jealously issue.
@sevennasmr
@sevennasmr 8 жыл бұрын
I need help.
@vybzmusiq7964
@vybzmusiq7964 5 жыл бұрын
jen jd what's Wrong??
@juanventura6752
@juanventura6752 5 жыл бұрын
Depends if the. Uncle Sam feel like
@lizlicona1043
@lizlicona1043 6 жыл бұрын
What if he’s in jail repeatly? Can I file for full custody & possibly win that case?
@Mublica929
@Mublica929 6 жыл бұрын
Yes.
@aprlar5lil1s
@aprlar5lil1s 7 жыл бұрын
My X Husband has truely been Keeping me from my children he is doing everything inregard to alenateing me from my kids... i do have visitation and hes not alllowing any contact at all ... i have tryed everything i know to do i need your help please message me..
@ellenhenderson6865
@ellenhenderson6865 6 жыл бұрын
Same for me.
@21gonza21
@21gonza21 7 жыл бұрын
Does joint custody mean neither party pays child support?
@realpeekaboomaster9811
@realpeekaboomaster9811 5 жыл бұрын
no, never. but it could effect the amount.
@robertjr263
@robertjr263 6 жыл бұрын
I just Won Joint Custody lol jan 7th 2018
@nidgeontour257
@nidgeontour257 5 жыл бұрын
My ex wants me to see my kids but with her supervising? She made allegations of domestic violence so wants a no contact order?? The judge was confused so played safe and issued a no contact order for six months? I’m not confused as I know my wife and she just gave me six months off and no payments to her!! Hmmm should have thought that one through before playing the victim! 😂😳
@myreality810
@myreality810 7 жыл бұрын
smh the things the other parent does my son dad says I can't see my son because I'm ugly ,slow, retarded and lack knowledge on being a human I'm a first time Mom and I don't give up with fight in court see u hm soon for life my dear child...judge sees this man and his girlfriend are crasy they call me a deranged stranger to my child but his girlfriend is called his mom she was also my x best friend
@johnlew8025
@johnlew8025 7 жыл бұрын
my ex wife says I can no longer see my kids until after court because I missed the school pickup truck, overheat on the highway,anyway that's what she says she made a police report,i told her I also have made police reports for her not showing up or answering the phone Tru my Xmas and new yrs holidays and fathers day not trying to play tit for tat I try to be nice her new husband always disrespectful,my ex barely answers my texts and phone calls etc ,I'm tired ok it was my fault today but I also have police reports
@akadork9432
@akadork9432 7 жыл бұрын
John lew I'm sorry for you my husband has severe issues with his son's mother as well....it's hard on the kids and a form of parental alienation
@johnlew8025
@johnlew8025 7 жыл бұрын
aka DORK just ugly ,for no reason,my children now 8and 9 yrs old ,I sat down let them know how much I love and need them in my life and if they don't see me it's because of their mother I then told her do what you want my children know I love them and that you would be the reason I can't see them soon as I get more money saved I will head to court
@akadork9432
@akadork9432 7 жыл бұрын
Wr started a gofundme for a retainer not helping much yet but we have evidence of neglect and abuse son is now 10 and this is been going on for most of his life...the mother has 2 other kids by different dads and here in Oregon the courts don't like to separate siblings....as we are understanding it....let them be abused together ....I feel for ya ...try a gofundme...look up fathers rights advocates & look for pro bono or reduced pay lawyers...my husband has found we don't have much of any of that in Oregon...and the mother has gone to all available lawyers in the area so it constitutes conflict of interest....at the end of the rope...but still holdin on....the kid is worth it
@johnlew8025
@johnlew8025 7 жыл бұрын
aka DORK yes God bless you,thank you
@akadork9432
@akadork9432 7 жыл бұрын
Good luck to you as well
@stevenphelps1072
@stevenphelps1072 7 жыл бұрын
i csnt see my kids because 1 she is not letting me and 2 she moved 4 hours awaynwith my kid and i cant get down there all that much
@vybzmusiq7964
@vybzmusiq7964 5 жыл бұрын
Steven Phelps Sue HER For Custody!
@ETTHEEDITOR
@ETTHEEDITOR 7 жыл бұрын
Hello I'm going through a child custody case. It has to do with same sex marriage. We had a home insemination and I am a legal parent by law and share joint custody with the biological mother. We got a divorce and stayed with joint custody and now biological mother is trying to modify the existing custody order to sole. How can I get my rights and somehow get 50/50 schedule.
@aliyyaeaton7876
@aliyyaeaton7876 5 жыл бұрын
It seems the court appointed lawyer for the children is working in the best interest more of the absent parent, than the children. He is trying to tell me that my partner of almost five years that has been raising and loving my children as his own, means nothing. Period. That the absent parent regardless has rights, and I can not have them taken away. He admitted that he hadn't read our court file in whole, it is Not thick yet at all. And then told me he wants me to take a parenting class to learn how to be a better parent because I have to learn to deal with the absent parent, he most likely will disappear again, so there is No point in making him take a class, he doesn't like rules...... And the court will never help me with what I asked for, full legal and physical custody.
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