If the father has guts to offer the option to marry her off to his second son on national TV without feeling any guilt or shame, imagine what all they must have said to her in private! It is natural for any woman to run away from such in-laws. If "communication" was the only pain point, they would not have riased so much commotion in media.

Mai khud army wale ki wife hu 4saal ki shadi me unki death ho gae us time me 3 month pregant thi pr mere in laws mujhe ghr se nikal diya aur department nd samaj me ye bola gya ki paisa le k bhag gae dusri shadi kr legi... Aj meri beti 3saal ki h wo log ajtk ise dekhne nii aaye na mujhe lene.. To aise saas sasur ka kya bole..

What if the situation was reversed? The bahu dies and the son is the next of kin and gets everything. Nobody in society would expect him to stay with in laws and take care of them or give all the benefits to girls parents. They are also parents of deceased right? That sums up indian society who just can’t see a women happy in life. In laws and society are with women only if she constantly suffers.

The parents don't have a single drop of tear while talking about the death of their son. Their voices don't shake while talking about that devastating incident.

I lost my father at 15 years. I remember the environment at that time. Mere to Dada dadi bhi nahi the. Do bade papa aur unki bachhe. Jo government se documentation hone aayi thi puri family ka naam upar likhwaya gaya tha aur mera aur mummy niche the. Ek pe ek puri family mere papa pe dependent ho gayi. It's easier to bash the widow but the ground reality is puri family becomes the gold digger.

They hate their daughter in law more than they love their son

I am also with the widow. Why should she stay with the toxic in laws ???

Yesterday,His mother said in an interview that if the girl belonged to our community from either bihar or UP ,then she would have stayed with us n wouldn't have behaved like the way smriti did . How cheap of her to say such thing about her daughter in law 😖😖😖😖

Let me share my story, my father died in 1995, after his death, my grandfather and his sons became like devil for my mother and me, they treated us like a outsider and fought almost every night . They secretly put name of dada, dadi in money of my father which was just 4 lakh. Dada was headmaster retired and his other two sons were employed, they don’t want my mother to get job offered by government on compensatory ground after father death, instead wanted to make career of his unemployed son by giving job to him.Dada also put his name in land bought by my father so after dada death, land distributed to his other sons and daughter . So huge injustice was done. I think wife sd be given all money if father is getting pension and if money is too less even to support wife , and if wife stayed unmarried with kids then all money sd go to wife becz she has all responsibility of her kids on her shoulders in this nasty world … Generally father of demise wants to distribute money of demised son in to other siblings which is wrong morally and ethically, unfortunately me and many like me had suffered becz of poor vision of policy maker …

This is not a saas bahu issue but saas sassur vs bahu issue. The sassur is equally selfish.

Bete ka balidaan itna bada aur parents ka dil itna chhota ki bahu ko hi zaleel kar daala. Parents ne bete ke itne bade balidaan ka meaning hi Zero kar diya. Kuch problem thi bhi family mei but fir bhi wo national issue nhi ban na chahiye tha. Social media unko wo chakra laakr nhi dega. They spoiled their relationship with bahu forever. 😢

the father in law is the most shameless man I've ever seen in my life, suggesting that his other son should marry the widowed dil. Like who is he to decide who the two people should marry or not marry? Most pathetic parents

Anshuman Singh's parents are absolutely shameless. They seen to want media attention only. And are treating their son like a commodity. I dont understand how the father can say that I will have my other son married to my bahu . what about her wishes ? This is not stone age.

Amit Sangwan has always been very upfront. Whatever he is saying very correct. Parents are doing very wrong thing.

One thing that has come out is not a single person cares about "love" in this country. Had it been any where else we would never had this discussion about parents. What the wife deserved, she got.

Such shameful behavior from parents. Why would she live with her in laws, especially after her husband is no more? What kind of wrong societal expectation is this? What do they want; the Medal of Honor or the pension money? They already got Rs. 65 lakhs and they have their own pension and two children who are doctors. How greedy they are to want what little the poor girl got. They were offering their second son to this girl for marriage to keep the money. No wonder the girl wants nothing to do with them.

Thank you sir. Finally somebody had to speak this out. Father in law publicly discussing marrying off his daughter in law to another son is so disgusting. Smriti is such a brave and courageous lady. How can she live with such sick mentality people? She had to leave that house eventually.

It's such a shameless act of degrading the grace of a widow. It's already so sad he died in action serving and in the line of duty.

Horrible thing to call a young widow a gold digger! Her husband had nominated her as Next of Kin. Media and family is making it ugly. The father is an ex fauji himself and should be a pensioner too ... they are not left on the streets. I understand that the parents are hurt but we do not know why she left the family.

Log kitni asaani se ek ladki ko galat kehne lag jaati hei

Again a wife is vilified today in society for not being enough . Parents look at children as their investment who should yield in future .

Army gives NOK to wife after marriage reason being so that if something unfortunate occurs the dependent on deceased can live independently. Especially if you take example of someone residing in village and or belonging to non officer rank , sometimes the woman has no awareness about being the NOK and is dependent on others for her livelihood , NOK enables her to live with dignity

The greed of the parents is very clearly visible!! What is this stupidity of getting the daughter in law married off to their second son? Is the woman an emotionless object that these people will decide her future? How regressive their thoughts are! Their sons death is just a financial deal for the parents

Finally someone talking sense. For the last two days i was feeling so disgusting. Regards!

His parents are not only disrespectful for their son untimely death but also towards love of his life. Why father is giving choices as he does not have any right to impose choices on widow and being a part of family..as they are well to do..they can give property share of Late Anshuman to his wife and set a good social example n that would be justice n honour to the late Anshuman. Let her live peacefully and grief too as she has lost her better half n need a peaceful life without any social dramas

This is one of the Sensible interview after so many medias were throwing dirt on Daughter in law & supporting this greedy parents with low mentality, no morality & ethics

Conclusion of the whole podcast in two words Greedy parents 😮‍💨

Please understand that monetary compensation was distributed as per the will of the late officer. Army has rules in place for this.

If it was her instead of her husband who died, would her parents be ok to go to media and speak like that about her husband. Disgusting patriarchal Indian society

In one interview maine suna sasu mom said humare culture ki hoti to aisa nahi krti 😊it means shadi ko lekar hi pehle se issue tha but beta k marji k aage nahi chali ,now its not about respect ,its about ego that n baccha tha aur five months ki marriage thi just ,how can she walk like this ,we should decide her future 😮

I really don't understand the point of saying she can have another man in life..then parents also have other two children and both are doctors in Noida. She does not have any child so obviously parents wealth and property will go to their 2 other children...also parents have received a handsome amount from different funds...they also get their pension...both are physically fit and available to support each other...help uski kari jati hai jo lachar ho...but inko sab kuch milne k bad bhi bahu ka hissa chahiye..when indian parents will stop using their kids as future investment? Everything was fair enough said by parents if Anshumsn was a single child but it seems they are just becoming greedy... Nothing more than that...a marriage is a marriage whether it is for 5 days or 5 years!

Policies are clear, since his perents drawing army pesion they are not dependent on his son secondly they got share of amount been paid by state govt + Army group of insurance. Pesion will go to her wife full. Widow is not claiming any property but the greedy In laws wants to marry her to their yonger son just to keep all the benefits with them. Thia case shows even for parents money matters most. 😢

Parents are toxic! This family is hostile towards her. No doubt the chivalrous, deceased husband made her NoK. He ensured a comfortable life for her in case he was no more...

Indian parents hamesha kahte h aajkl ki" hamne kitni mushkil se paala h bachho ko".Apne bachhe ko paalna to ek happy experience hona chahiye, bachha to bhagwaan ka roop hota h aur apne maa baap ko khushi deta h. Agar bachhe paalna itna kasht ka kaam lagta h inhe to ye bachhe paida hi kyu karte h. Hindu shastra k anusar apne bachhe paalne se pitr rin (ancestral debt) utarta h, iske liye parents ki sewa nhi karni hoti. Bhartiya sanskriti m parents ki sewa karne ko kahi nhi kaha gaya, pahle to log 50yrs ki age k baad jungle chale jaate the vaanprastha and sanyaas ashram m jeene k liye. Pahle log apne bachho par nhi latakte the, balki isko bahut kharab maana jaata tha. Agar parents-child rishta bhi equal give and take ho jaayega to is rishte aur doosre rishton m fark kya rah jaayega. Bhagwaan aur parents kewal dete h, lete nhi h. Isiliye parents ko bhagwaan tulya maana jaata h. Mahabharat yudh k baad paandav raaja ban gaye hastinapur k lekin fir bhi unki maa kunti raajmahal m nhi rahi apne beto k paas, balki wo gaandhari aur dhritrashtr k saath jungle chali gayi sadhna karne.. Kunti n yahi kaha tha ki m apne beto k diye tukdo p kaise pal sakti hu. Aaj indian parents bht laalchi ho gaye h, apne bachho ki khushiyon se inhe lena dena ni h, apne bachho ko insurance policy ki tarah treat karte h. Ye sasur to poora asur hi h, jab ise apni bahu se itni dikkat h to apne doosre bete ki shaadi kyu karna chahta h aisi bahu se? Is umar m itne paise ka kya karega? Ise to already ek pension mil rahi h.

I just don't get the 5 months thing. They were in relationship for 8 longggggg yearsssss before marriage. People are saying she'll marry again but what if she doesn't. And she is not with her in-laws because they wanted her to remarry her Devar(younger brother of Mr. Anshuman) They wanted it so that they can control all the benefits that are given only to the spouse. Whether she will remarry or not, it's up to her. Maybe, she can't even think of replacing Anshuman even with his brother. Getting daughter in law remarried to another son in family is what parents wanted which Smriti denied. She's not saying anything that doesn't mean she's wrong.

such pathetic parents. omg what is he talking marrying her to the younger son. Treating both deceased son and daughter in law as a commodity. greedy pathetic parents.

The parents are financially comfortable and have their other children. Yet, they are crying for loss of money and not so much for their son. This is truly a sad state of parents. Atleast have some respect for your dead son and show some maturity. No wonder in laws are the biggest reason for marital discord and divorce.

All these cases show the universal hatred that inlaws have for the Daughters in law. Pls advise Sango Sir, Can a wife legally claim her right in her living husband's income?

How can widow be a goldigger? She married a normal guy going as a military doc who dont earn as much as doctors in pvt practice shame on everyone who is calling her that

Parents are very greedy

Its disgusting. Bhabhi aur Dewar ki shadi ki koi tradition nhn raha. Rather Bhabhi ko maa ki tarah hamesha treat karne ko milla. Lagta h yeh uncle bahut jyada PORN dekhtey h jismein sari ristoin ki band baja di h.

Greedy parents...no sadness seen in the parents...kya karega iss umar mei paisa lekar... And this parent has sent the child to mil school in such a tender age and now trying to claim all these shit....disgusting greedy parents

Parents commenting on money shows their attitude ki unka focus kaha hai..relations bhi buisness ho gaye hai

I admit I judged harshly by looking at the thumbnail of this video. But I was wrong about this video. I don't understand why are the Parents so mindless that they are vilifying and maligning the memory of their own warrior son. He died for our nation, let him be remembered and revered as a Hero. But No, they have to wash their dirty laundry in the public and now when you search his name, all you get are videos discussing about how his widow is a "gold digger". They could have easily settled this in private but they involved media, who will distort anything for some TRP. These parents did great disservice to the memory of Great Captain Anshuman Singh. And what the f was about getting his widow married to Devar so that she stays in family ?! I lost all respect for them right there. Thank God, she left.

Its deplorable how the parents are acting they should be ashamed

As a man I feel sad for the man that even after his death he is being treated as a commodity by his parents and his wife for the money and pride.

Parents had said.. Hum ne to shadi me spoon bhi nahi liya tha..... They expect.. Smriti to take care them.. Whole heartily.. After death of anshuman.. They cant imagine how could she be free.. With compensation.. Amount.. She should be bound to them

Thank you for concluding this session with the statement..."Maa apne bacho ka khilona bhi sambhal ke rakhti hai...yeh to insaan hai". I think it sums up everything!

Why would she live with this kind of parents ..they could have solved this issue at home but parents are seeming to be greedy..even they have another son ..they are not alone ..but the girl is all alone

It is better not to marry with armed forces officers. Atleast better than this public humiliation . I will suggest all the girls I know to not to . As after death in this field a lot of money is involved and money bhale bhale ko pagal bana deti hai. That panipat case it really horrible the child is really small . So don't destroy your daughters life on such witch hunt

Even the law says wife has the first right b core the mother .don't understand where is the issue .It is very bad on the parents part that they r washing dirty linen in public.Parents want the daughter in law to get married to their other son which is obnoxious.

Parents have no sympathy for their daughter in law, they are after money.

बाप ने बेटे की शहादत का मजाक बना दिया

Very self centred,mean,greedy. Parents

Ye admi bina dare sach bol raha h ....baap re himmat h ...gaaliyo ka to khauf rakhe aap dono ...but hats off to you both ❤

I was waiting for sango sir to make video on this issue. Correctly said.

Aj kal not only females but ab to males and senior citizens pura time victim card play karte hai Parents accept nahi karte lekin at times apne hi bachho k liye bahut toxic ho jate hai aur bachho ko guilt trip m dal dete hai

The widow of Swargiya Anshuman Singh is correct in cutting ties after the parents decided to do politics over their deceased son. The parents are under pappu's influence and want to get more money out of their son's tragedy. It is blatantly out in the open. If the widow was a gold digger then she wouldn't have taken his clothes and personal belongings as they hold no monetary value but emotional ones

(3) Teenon bachche doctor hone ke baad bhi maa baap swarthi hi nikle.

Hats off to you sir for being so transparent & truthful on such harsh reality of India. True, it’s a suffering a widow undergoes if the husband is not from army background. In laws are so awful & believe me, they literally don’t even accept that the daughter in law has lost her husband, they even taunt, what did you loose? What could be more painful. My heart goes out for all the woman who are undergoing such pain. Lost her husband, being judged with no empathy by her in laws. What a victim phase she has to overcome. How strong she has to become to breathe & strive to live as she can’t end up her own life. So shameful that in laws are labelling her as a gold digger, her most precious thing has been lost, what will be the value of money which she will be after. Show some respect to your son by atleast not talking ill about your his wife. You create an environment where the girl can’t survive with you anymore & now you alleged her of leaving you. Son has left you, this toxicity will kill her too & think if she has a child, then who will look after the kid. Show some humanity if you can’t show love.

Media and her inlaws has done injustice to the wife of late capt Anshuman singh . She didn't deserve this insensitive treatment snd brutal judgments from our biased uninformed society.

Toxic in laws , reason - if they actually are in need of money rather than creating controversy legally step lete , ye sab kya kuch v media mai bole ja rhe hai

This case no body think about girl's parents. What they do . Only 5 month marriage and so much controversy in media what they do. Please think about them also

Shadi ke 7 phere ki koi izzat nhn rahi. Shadi ke baad 5 day ho yah 5 month . Doesnt matter. Its marriage. Shame on people saying ki sirf 5 month ki marriage thi.

These parents will not loose nothing by doing all these but poor girls name is getting deatroyed ...she has a full life ahead ..she is just 26 years old...she has a living

तमाशा बना के रख दीया शहीद की शहादत का ।

True face of our society😑 "Mirror can't take responsibility of how you look"

For parents, loss of their son, should be the biggest cause to talk. Nothing else. Gain to his wife, should not be discussed at all. This shows that for them, their son was a source of money, whether alive or not. They will not have any affinity to his wife. But they should reapect the relation. Even if it was a shorter duration. She was their son's wife. She is not their daughter. They would not have given the kind of love and appreciation to her, that she would have felt happy or comfortable to stay with them. She may take a long time to move on. And if she wants to move on, that does not mean that she should not get compensation. She has lost his husband. (She had longer relation with him from before marriage as well) Money, will not replace that relation.

What is the point of discussing her personal issues in public on media ? They want money and award for which they want the dil to marry their son so that she stays in their house and the money and honour will also be at her in-laws house and now she took decision against their wish they are creating issues in public to humiliate her and trying to take away her right to live with dignity. In greed of honour they are compelling her dil to live life as they want for her The decision she took is right for her . At such sensitive and tough time instead of supporting her they are humiliating her in public just for their selfish reasons. It's better she move on and live her life on her own terms. "sach me sass Sasur kabhi maata pita nhi bn pate apni bahu ke" they have proved this.

What kind of father or mother wants to claim NOK benefits from his own son's death. He himself must be geting pension still he wants more money, that too out of such a tragedy. And the father in law's proposition of suggestimg her to marry younger brother is so medieval, repulsive and disgusting. They just want to retain the money in family even if it means doing something so repulsive. Which woman would want to live among such regressive people.

Watching this from Canada, this problem only happens in India. Western world marriage creates a separate family (Husband, wife and kids) and parents are your extended family. For the last 20 years, I have only used my parent's information for emergency contacts (they also live here in Canada separately). The government doesn't bother who is your parents once you are 18 (adult).

Such a disgusting parents. Kalyugi parents are so toxic. Mine both in-laws and biological made my life hell but now i am mature enough to understand their toxicity and started dealing with them likewise. Being selfish is the best thing until unless it is not harmful to anyone.

Sir ye log galat kar rhe hain. Koi b ladki army man se shadi ni karegi.

I so much wanted you to put forward your opinion in this case, guruji. And here it comes. Clearly, you are so right. It's a huge disrespect to the late Captain and his beloved wife by the toxic parents.

Thats how nature has made it . Parents are there during our first breath, n life partner will be there till last breath. And if life goes on, wife lives a longer journey with husband. How can role of parents and wife be compared, that who is more important. Martyred Captain Anshuman Singh's family is degrading his position by talking such cheap things for his Widowed wife. Cheap n typical laalchi In-laws they are.

Toxic and greedy parents!!

She is not a gold digger

बिल्कुल सही कहा आपने आप अपने बेटे के प्यार को कैसे इतना बुरा बता सकते हो after death of your son, क्यों कर ले वो आपके दूसरे बेटे से शादी,उसने प्यार किया उस dynamic person से,बहुत पुरानी और बेकार बात,loss दोनों का है पर आप किसी को मजबूर नहीं कर सकते,बात अगर पैसों की है तो खुल कर कहें, मुद्दे से हटे नहीं और culture की बात से दबाने की कोशिश ना करें

if wife brings dowry its for in laws and husband whatever she earns is for in laws and husband during her stay she works for the household and for the parents in laws, gives up her parents' need. Then why husband's money should go to parents? why people vilifying the wife. The parents are creating drama, they want money in exchange of their son's demise, pathetic! They already get pension have 2 more children working as doctors, life set hai. Indian men especially in army are know to give half or more of their salary to their parents and woman generally never has any rights on money thanks to patriarchy, though i would hope this is changing. Money could've been shared had Capt's parents were struggling but this isn't the case they are well of. A widow's life is full of struggle in indian society money is the bare minimum that is given.

Y r patents playing victim card

पहली बार दो लोगों को अवार्ड लेते देखा है । अगर शहीद शादी-शुदा होता है तो अवार्ड पतनी ही रिसीव करती है । एक तरफ विधवा व्याह को encourage करते हैं यहां कयों तकलीफ हो रही है ? लोगों के कमेंट्स पढं के लगता है कि आने वाले वक्त में लोग deand करेंगे कि शहीद की पतनी को शहीद के साथ सती होना चाहिए ।

"DEWAR AUR BHABHI KI SHAADI KI PARAMPARA RAHI HAI HUMARE DESH HAI " dude ye kaunsa bhojpuri movie dekhte hai .

Families bachani hai to husband wife k beech m mat ghusooo

Thank you , for supporting the girl...this family has insulted there son,s death ... matter is only of money, they just want pension and all other money for themselves, the father himself said he is doing law and will fight for the pension matter in court , it is clear he is greedy man..Girl should get all support form airforce, and I think they are supporting her after seeing the whole situation.

May be ye saas achi bhi ho par bahut common hota hai saas ke liye bahu ko taanne dena ki mere bete ko kha gayi. Kisse patta ki saas sasur ka behaviour kaisa tha bahu ke sath. Bahut acha hota to ye nobat to nahi anni thi. My sympathies are with parents but bahu bhi galat nahi hai ye to pakka hai. I m waiting for bahu replies

The family sounds financial secure still they are very much incline to account the money. If she took everything then still why so hue and cry. What will they do with all the money even they get. They sound more upset for money than their son.

सास ससुर बस फायदा उठा रहे हैं मां बाप होने का

I am a continuous viewer of your videos guru ji,when i came to know about this case ,the first thing came into my mind was a dialogue from your video that-shadi ke baad ladka ek east facing plot bn jata hai,jiski registry har koi apne naam krana chahta hai ,biwi ,bhai -bhehan bhi aur ma-baap bhi.and see es shaheed fauji ki registry to uski shadat ke baad bhi apne naam krane ki jaddo-jehad chl rhi hai.

I'm glad that i watched this video....makes lot of sense! By laid down rules, an army wife stands to some benefits after her husband's demise. In India, the girl is expected to be subservient to her in-laws whatever the case, and even to stay on as a 'widow' ...to continue to 'serve them' (but why?...she has parents...and her life of her own). An educated and independent girl of today will not abide by this 'culture'. Even the suggestion by the 'in-laws' to keep her with them and marry her off (as a daughter) or even to marry her to their second son, is preposterous! They should gracefully let her move on...with their blessings.

Such a sick mentality. Parents seems to be selfish. How can she marry the younger brother. She might be going through so mental trauma.

Vshameful act by parents,apne Shaheed bete ki shhaadat ko sharmsaar Kar diya

It's because of free social media , saas bahu issue blown out of proportion 😊

Ese lalchi parents hote hen esi lalchi bahne hoti hen ki dead bhai ke biwi bachho se bhi unka hakk noch ker le liya!

I think the way they blaming her, we can't ignore if they blame her for his death as Indian society, shadi k just baad aise kuch ho jaye toh ,blame girl ko jana normal h. Iss family ki baato k according they r showing such similar characteristics then why any girl should stay thr

In our country, if the marriage has happened recently and the husband's death follows, the wife is seen as bad luck, someone who has swallowed her husband...even when natural death happens and there have been a couple of children I've seen this kind of accusation by the in laws on the daughter in law....they will not say it on media but they despise every cent that she has got

Sir u are right......... parents ka drama laga mujhe to ..........

Sir parents ne pala posa he to apni .....koi aehsan nahi kiya ........peda bhi to kiya tha .......peda hi nahi karte ............enke 2 or bacche he phir bhi widow ko badnam karte he...........

Ye log publicly bahu ki buari kar rahe hain ghar ke andar ki baat hai bahar nahi dikhani thi and mother agniveer pe bol rahi thi rahul gandhi ki baat mann ne ko keh rahi but why inka agniveer se direct koi relation nahi toh kyun bola agar ye topic nahi tha full interview dekh kar sharam aa rahi thi kya bezzati kari hai bahu ki itna nahi hota and they said that devar se shaadi kar denge kirti chakra se nahi compensation ka hai saara khel

Seedhi baat hai, aag lagi hai parents ko ki padki ko paisa kaise mil gaya

Parents to beti ke bhi hote hain , bhudhhe to wo bhi hote hai.. wo kese jeete honge ?? Ya sirf ladko ke hi parents hote hai .