Made more family

Aww. Sounds like EVERY child should have parents like your parents! You all were truly blessed! ❤️🙏🏻

you have every right to know who you are/where you came from. that was taken from you and that is/was incredibly unfair to you. is it right that I know my family tree and you don't? I don't think so.

He certainly seems to have been appreciative.

Of course he is.

just? Mix it up until there are no pedigrees, RHCP

but at least you know. whatever the outcome, you are no longer in the dark about your own history.

The truth sets you free

I'm sorry you had that experience. I'll bet if you get to search back further in your family tree you'll find some fine people. xx

@@AnneAlready I did- my cousins on that side (confirmed and discovered on Ancestry DNA and 23andMe) are awesome 🥰

I think that if you know that you are the product of a sperm donor, you should get a DNA test before you marry someone just in case they are your biological sibling. I saw a story on (I believe) CBS where there was a group of well over 200 people who found out they all had the same biological father. They had formed a group and their "network" was still discovering new siblings all the time. This story reminds me of, how years ago, a couple I was friends with told our group of friends that they were having a hard time getting pregnant. They joked they might be related because they looked so much alike in elementary school. I know the husband said his parents tried hard to get pregnant with him. His family and the wife's family both lived for generations in the same area.

It's probably not God approved, as every child wants their own, true parents. I don't really like "adoption," either. People want their real parents. Family is so important.

​@@mariantreber8055 such BS. I have 9 kids. I only gave birth to 3 kids. Does that mean i should throw away the other 6 kids? Ridiculous. I love my bonus kids the same way i love my biological kids, and they love me. Why shouldn't we love each other?

​@@mariantreber8055 While family is important, adoption can be a wonderful way to provide a child just that - a loving, supportive family . Because sadly, not everyone has a good biological family.

I guessed Irish when watching this. We know our own.

That's bittersweet; he must have loved you to come spend that time with you but could not tell you who he was.

@@thenightporter Yeah. Then there was the day I guess (unless he suddenly passed away) when he knew he wouldn't see me again. Then again, who knows? Sometimes it's like it's someone else's life.

If you really want to know more you should consider taking an ancestry DNA test. It will link you to people you are genetically related to from closest relative to test out from there. You should also be able to contact the adoption agency used and petition to get a copy of your original birth certificate and anything in your file.

Yes, it was donor sperm, the Mother was unaware of what the doctor had done. They can only speculate about why the doctor did this and it was NOT the point of the story. Watch again and stop whining if you don't learn all the PERSONAL details.

@@SlimKeith11 The point of the story was about the deception by the doctor. That is, if the doctor hadn't done this, there would be no story. So, my point is that this should have been explained. Also, this isn't "whining" about "personal details". Everything I've mentioned is central to the story. If it's personal, it's because it's been shared by Matt.

4:20 - they said doctors back then would mix sperm from the partner and an anonymous donor to boost the chances. Assuming doctors never anticipated that people would one day easily be able to run DNA tests.

At 4:13 they literally explain that doctors would mix the husband's sperm with a donor's in order to increase viability.

@@posthocprior It IS explained.

So sad! Does he resent his biological mother because she wasn’t interested in finding him?

There has to be a clear understanding one thing is donating DNA/biological material and another thing is FAMILY, CONNECTION, BONDS that lead to care and love and those DO NOT REQUIRE DNA/biological make up. This guy's story and like so many other does not clearly deals with a FACT: people donate sperms/eggs to make some extra cash and help others but that is it. No. they are not seeking to know who, when, where, what happened with that DNA they donate it and that's it. They are NOT looking for years later SURPRISE! Daddy....Mommy. But for this guy as he indicated there was an underlying theme of NOT BEING WANTED that was bothering his existence and so he pursued a search. Who knows what might of happened the Sperm Donor was dead, so that closes the cycle. He got to met other BIOLOGICAL siblings from the sperm donor. Because of my profession this is an issue I hear many times because same story line a person went on the search of the biological donor and end up with a door on their face: 'look I donated and I have my family and I am not interested on recounting what I did at one time in my youth (donating DNA material )so all the best to you and have a good life. With the current mentality of searching and trying to reconnect with people through social media some become obsessed with this. Some people are in your life for brief period and time but some are trying to reconnect with the kindergarten classmate. There is a saying common sense is like a flower that does not grow in every garden.

4:20 - they said back the doctors would mix sperm to boost chances of getting pregnant. Sounds like she was never told.

From 4:13 on in the video they explain it was common practice then for doctors to MIX the husband's sperm with a donor's to increase the chances of getting pregnant. So it would have been either the biological dad's sperm or the donor's. However, this was not disclosed to the parents.

Did you watch the entire segment? It was explained that donor sperm and hubs sperm were mixed together to boost the chances of conception.

I wouldn’t be here if my biological mother’s husband had not been stationed in S. Korea during the Korean War. She adopted me out before I was born. I’m glad she did. I had wonderful parents! (I refer to myself as a “Korean War baby.”😉)

Was his name Frank Costanza?😂

@@boathousejoed1126 Yes, and he and Mom were always yelling even when they got out of N.Y. to enjoy Florida.

Some people love drama. The guy donated sperm to make some extra cash and if he was not dead he would have heard " Surprise! daddy..." Family, bonds, emotional connection, has nothing to do with biological DNA material. And proof of that is the stepdad that raised him as his own flesh and blood. But the guy had an existential issue 'not being wanted' quite ironic when the mother had IVF in order to conceive because she wanted a child.

Not according to Matt, who chose to obsess about a stranger.

@@tananario23 That was uncalled for and untrue...

Yes - a bit. He has such a great personality!

I don't believe you for one second. I think you feel an obligation to your adoptive parents to not do anything tht might seem like a lack of gratitude. To learn about your biological relatives is your human right.

At the very least, an adoptee needs the DNA and biological details for medical purposes. For better or worse, each child receives "good and bad" genes (like hair color and predisposition to heart disease) they need to know about. It does not negate the bond between the child and their adoption parents, but it may help with warding off future health issues.

@@susansawyer2475 that is the very least of it. our ancestors health problems are not necessarily ours as well. knowing who you are is a human right. adoption can be a human rights violation in that regard.

@@jv-ep2tc not disagreeing in the right to know part, and many adoptees I know want to know more about their personal genetic info, but there are a few who do not want to know, for many reasons. They still need the biological info for their health records, but it is also their right to not to seek out their biological parents, if that is their preference.

@@susansawyer2475 agreed, there is freedom to not know. not enough freedom for those that want to. My state has recently started offering information request forms for original birth certificates. I am thrilled about that for 2 friends.

It is also an ethnicity. Look into it!!

Every time you go to the doctor they ask for or refer to your family history. it is absolutely important to know where you come from .

@@tbernstein You do have a point.

it is not your place to make a value judgment on the most basic need to have a clear knowledge of one's identity.

@@jv-ep2tc What you do with your life is much more important than your physical ancestry. I stand by my point.

@@aguerra1381 its not an either / or situation. if you do something meaningful with your life it won't wipe out an interest in one's identity. if you have read anything about the history of slavery in the United States then you know about the pain of having your self knowledge lost. Many black Americans deal with that now. Its a wound to the psyche. its one of the problems many adopted people deal with.

Who is taking about test tube babies?? IUI, which was done here is not the same as IVF. Look it up.

Hey genius….this was artificial insemination, not a “test tube baby.” Not the same thing at all. Maybe do a little research before posting nonsense.

"Test Tube Baby" is an outdated expression but that's what people used to say.... "genius".... 😉

Judaism is more of a nationality than a religion these days.

No, because those are all just religions. Jews are part of a ethnoreligious group. Similar groups include Shinto, Hindus, Vodun, and Native Americans. Members of ethnoreligious groups have shared genetic heritage that is unique and distinct from the general population.

@@tadatada296 But the Catholic piece will not show up in the DNA. It is cultural, not inherited.

No thanks 😊

That's cruel to say. Unless you are adopted or conceived in an unusual manner, you don't know how it feels.

@@maryanndavis8580 just tired of the constant drone about race to me that's cruel