"You support celebrities more than you support yourself". This! I think about this sometimes. This stan culture (that is prevalent not only in K-pop of course) is freaking scary. They do not know that this kind of behavior is extremely detrimental to their mental health.

I like how you emphasized giving ourselves the same empowering treatment we give celebrities and not beating us up when things don't turn out right, though I find focusing growth a lot on "taking courses" and "learning new stuff" will eventually lead to burnout. It led me to burnout and I had to find a balance. You can fangirl and learn something new but find balance on not feeling bad because you decided to watch SKZ Code instead of taking that course you just bought. This is taken from the perspective that you're not binge-watching all the episodes nonstop. It's okay to look up to celebrities and find inspiration, great novelists have talked about how other writers inspired them, but do it in a healthy nonobsessive way. I've met so many empowering fangirls that state kpop inspired them to improve themselves, I include myself there too. Girls who have opened kpop related businesses, made new friends, found joy in new hobbies they would've never tried before, but also spend money going on tours, buying photocards, albums... and they genuinely look happy. Buy merch because YOU want it, YOU will use it and not to make your favs richer or as status. Stream music because you want to listen to it and not to top charts. Great video!

Thanks for making me realize this 💖 I usually put my peers who, get better marks than me or are more intelligent on a pedestal From now on I will be my biggest fan! ❤

perfect timing as always, a couple days ago i realised that the only thing left i need is confidence in myself in schoolwork

Hello, first time listening this podcast. After listening to this episode, it made me recall a bible session I attended earlier. One of the key take aways of the discussions was to work hard and mind your own business. I never realized but, putting someone on a high pedestal is in a form of minding other peoples business. It becomes an unhealthy habit. Thank you

This post beautifully highlights the power of self-belief and the impact of becoming your own biggest fan. By redirecting the energy we often reserve for others towards our own goals and aspirations, we can break free from the cycle of low self-esteem and truly flourish. 🌟

You are so true amy..growing up I have seen in others and myself that we often keep caring about our celebrities life instead of our own..and I used to think that I'll miss out on something if I don't follow every other trends religiously..but nowadays I'm trying to reframe my mindset and putting my needs first. I follow stray kids and they inspire me too but obsessing over them as a fan girl will serve me no good. So I'm always affirming that I'm putting myself first and I'll enjoy my leisure watching them. Just letting you know my story because your videos have helped me a lot and you deserve to get flattered for it!

Amy, you're so on point. I've giving up on trying to understand this timing, but I feel like I need to thank you. I've following you for a while and every vídeos makes more aparece and wise about myself. THANK YOU

ever since i found your channel i have been binge watching your videos( like listening to a podcast)

My dreams are very simple. Spend time with family when you can, life can be very short. Make sure you can independently meet your basic necessities. When you’re financially stable make time for the things you enjoy. Not every moment needs to be filmed on the internet or social media. The joy of not being a celebrity is I can live a life I want without the added stress of a par-asocial relationship. You’re free to live as you are no matter what stage.

I find this very very helpful to the point everytime I overthink at night, I listen to it. Someday, it will be easier to be my own fan 🩷 one step at a time. Thank you, Amy! Your podcast and videos work wonders to me 😊

Really love your dedication to help us in academics as well as life 🧡

You've no idea how much I needed this. Thank you so much for all the advice sis♥️🌼

Finally! This is something I’ve also observed in deep dive of my low self esteem growing up! Not really with celebrities but with friends. When i was younger i find myself lifting my friends up externally and internally to a point when i do, i subconsciously belittle myself. Don’t get me wrong support is something we all need but I kinda learned that in an extreme context as a child and thought that if i support others or alsways consider their comfort and feelings that i would be accepted and will connect. I think some of them felt connected to me but what saddens me is that the closer i got to my friends in that state the further away i got from myself because i didn’t know myself pr check in with myself if i really like the things presented to me or not. what i think how i feel, i was out of touch with that when i was younger. This led to feeling inferior and invalidating my own experiences. it also led me to thinking my girl friends are perfect to a point i became hyperfocus on them and thought i should be like them for me to be accepted. I don’t believe in the concept of “girls girl”… while i respect women in general i no longer want to repress or unacknowledge the way i feel towards others in the name of being considered a girls girl when it means convincing myself i dont feel otherwise just to maintain harmony when deep inside i myself wouldn’t be in harmony if i dont acknowledge my truth. Thank you so much for voicing and sharing your insights about this! I feel seen. Much of the stuff in media encourages too much support in others to a point of subconsciously putting each other in inferiority or superiority. and to a point of making it feel like just a script being thrown at each other. understanding what you said here would definitely help lead us support ourselves and others in a more authentic place 😌

Jungkook said: ‘you should be the main character of your life’ every time someone says how he loves him and is ready to give him the world, he says please cheer yourself up and give yourself this love first, all of them say that and by loving them this deeply i understand how to love myself too, they kinda showed me, that’s how i got my self esteem even though it’s so hard to fangirl myself it’s, easier with their help

Thank You Amy. You are actually amazing and your videos are actually helpful. I Actually Have Understand This Facts on my own(proud of me😁). I also stan BTS. But My Main Priority Is My Life. But They Actually Help me in my life. Whenever I feel so tired amd feel like giving up I would remember BTS has also worked hard. But they haven’t given up. They gave their best. I should too. Or whenever I feel like why my parents don't support me in my dream. I remember not every member of BTS had supportive family yet they achieved it. Their song lyrics also help&motivate me. Again Thank You Amy for your amazing videos

This is so incredibly on point. I´ve seen a few of your videos, and they all have a great value, but this one really hits too close to home. We all truly need to be more grateful for everything we have (time included), and use our time and focus more on ourselves. Thanks for this important reminder, Amy🍀

My jaw dropped when I watch your video, its like I stunned realizing something haha, big thanks ❤

Yes, Im so happy over the last 2 years Ive begun to understand this better^^ I like your approach:)

imagine having a young Amy as your friend in high school lol. I would always have a drive to study then and i wont feel weird too (bcx of not being a cool kid ) X

Thank you for this video💖

Amy is the best big sister that I’ve never had

This was really insightful, Amy. Thank you so much! It really anwers most of our doubts. 😊

Your A+ life 😊the first KZfaq channel offering motivation to students 🎉

Thanks for your podcast Amy,keep posting it, they are the one which is helping me to keep going .

super thanks to you for posting this life-changing video❤ love these kinda videos btw 💌

姐姐，谢谢你！ 通过你的视频学了很多） I know that you are from China, so I used my knowledge of Chinese to thank you for your videos. They are, indeed, helpful!

I don't like actors singers or just entertainers in general and ive never cheered them in the comments it feels super awkward to even see others do that. I like their work not them, so gossiping about TS or Kpop stars is something that saves me so much time and energy! Love their music but don't follow them like sheep

thank you ❤

Girllll we need a podcast asap

My favorite sister, I feel so good listening to you❤ love from 🇨🇴

LOVE THIS CHANNEL!! We dont need cool gifs and stuff we need ur invaluable advice big sis ❤❤❤

i know this doesn't apply to this, but i decided to do a hairstyle w/o thinking too much (for some reason teachers & students refer to people with cute, pretty hairstyles and stuff like that as a naughty kid/a kid who doesn't do school work) i know im not bec i do my work

Great advice!

great advice😍

Love u for this

I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS

Thank u so much for posting this vid amy ❤ I already know it's gonna be amazing 🤩 Btw can you create a video on how to grow your yt channel😅

you are the big sister i never had

I love the colour on your lips can you share from what brand and what shade it is?

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Thank you so much 🤍 this video showed up on my fyp today and I believe it happened for a reason 🥹 (just subscribed!)

I'm so glad you opened this KZfaq channel. You are really helping me. You are such a comfort. Now I listen to every one of your podcasts and advice. You inspire me so much. Thank you. Keep up the good work. So glad I found you🥹💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓🫂