Ikr, the biggest fake friend I've seen, "Don't call me shallow" Ok, you're not shallow, you're a B!tch.

I don't understand people who put looks above true friends. Those kind of friends are hard to find. My BFF died about 10 years ago, and I'd give anything to laugh with her and have fun again like we used to. She was a big girl, but her heart was even bigger. I have no friends now, and I'm so lonely it hurts to live some days.

The bride is not a true friend. She's a fake friend. All she is concerned about is herself. I hope her friend finds out and drops her like a bad habit. I would be petty enough to show up at the wedding looking sexy AF! I would even hire people to follow me around at the reception taking only pictures of me. Yeah I can be a very petty potato!!

@LazyIRanch I'm sorry for your loss, don't give up. I'm 53, my BEST friend is very big, but not only do I love her for who she is, SHE loves herself! She knows she's big and owns it. But she's so much fun AND I trust her with my life! There's no judgment between us and never has been through the years. This girl is going to regret her behavior one day, but it will be far too late. Hearing her say how she "ruined" the prom pictures made me sick. I bet 10 years from now she'll look at those pictures and think, God I miss that girl, she was the sweetest friend I ever had. PS: you'll make a new friend, please remember, she wouldn't want you to be sad!

That’s a bully that made their victim a “bestie” to pick apart and make themselves feel better. So sad

I agree with you. I don't think it was meant as a slight towards you. Maybe she asked you because being her friend, you might understand and show compassion. If she asked someone else to drop the position they might be offended.

You are a sweet, thoughtful friend who has emotional maturity! You are sensitive to your friend's grief and you lessened her worries by letting her know that you understood completely that the unforeseen tragedy required a change in plans. Your friend is lucky to have such a kind friend as you!

Understandable.

I'm so sorry this happened to your friend and her now family, but you're a beautiful human being for understanding the pain and grief your friend/her hubby was going through. You supported her in a different way. Much Love!😘💖🫂

It would have been nice if they still honoured his place. This happened to me and I walked down the aisle by myself with what have been his flower. It was sweet. Lovely.

Lollies? Huh?

​@@melodyabcdefghijklmnopqrst1663Lollipops or just candy in general so they could raise their sugar levels quickly.

As a diabetic on a pump. I appreciate you and the effort and kindness you showed to that cast member.

As an actor thank you for wanting us to stay alive during the show

Wow thats amazing, the actress must've been happy with your above and beyond attitude!

Yeah it does seem that way. I know people that have had over-the-top, Pinterest weddings and it doesn’t last. My husband and I wore jeans and tees to run down to the courthouse and get married. Fifteen years later still happy that he’s my person. Having those memories can be amazing and fun to look back on, but that relationship is more important than that one day.

It's so true! I wanted to elope so bad, but my husband really wanted a wedding. So I planned one since it was so important to him. It was an outdoor ceremony and the most common comment we got was how much fun it was. It was a short outdoor ceremony in a pretty Chapel courtyard and a big dance party reception with snacks and cake. No seating chart. I let everyone pick where they sat. It was really simple compared to a lot of over the top weddings that are so common today. We've been happily married for 13 years. And as much as I did enjoy our wedding, I still think eloping is the way to go lol

💯💯💯

Yup a family member of mine did a big one and honestly it was supposed to bigger than it was but some tings couldn’t happen so there’s that…… Later like a year or so found out he was unfaithful and not treating her right I was young and blind so I believed her (her mom raised me) but when I got older her brother told she been doing the same thing probably even before her husband 🤷🏽‍♀️😩

Easy to see why, really. I mean, if you've been obsessing about that ONE day for your entire life, everything after is going to seem kind of a let down afterwards, surely? If you're willing to throw genuine friends under the bus for the sake of this one day because it truly is the most important thing in the world to you, your one "perfect" day, then chances are you're gonna get itchy once your relationship no longer has this end goal to work towards, and you're gonna break up, and probably start the cycle again so you can be all about having a wedding day again.

HOW DOES SHE HAVE A SPOUSE?!!!

Seriously! I was a bridesmaid at my cousin's big beautiful wedding, and I was delighted that her MOH was her best friend since childhood, her BFF is lesbian and not at all feminine. Honestly, I can't even remember if she wore a dress, I'm thinking she wore something different than us bridesmaids and maybe not even a dress but everyone looked nice. NOBODY CARED! We were just all happy that my sweet cousin had a wonderful wedding with all her loved ones around. My cousin looks like Selma Hayek, and her dress was gorgeous so nobody was even looking at the wedding party!

People like that usually keep their gross side hidden until something happens like this where they feel like it's "their day" and they're entitled to "full control".

She's good at faking it. She probably doesn't have too many friends though. Her spouse is probably as crappy of a person as she is or will likely leave her or cheat on her.

Her circle of friends are probably as insufferable as she is.

Either that or it's purely because the bigger friend has more money so gets used as a meal ticket in exchange for them 'putting up' with having her there.

I cannot even understand how disgusting people like this bride are.. What you said just hurts my soul.. To think of how she will feel when told, "THANKS FOR THE THOUSANDS NOW SIT IN THE 5TH ROW!" Uggghhh

I love how Charlotte tries to turn it around and says "YOU'RE UGLY on the inside", but actually that still implies that being fat is ugly and that is just something that should be subjectively determined (who we find attractive and who we don't), but it is in fact fed to us through all sorts of channels that being fat equals being unattractive, while this has to do with fashion and has not always been the standard at all times all across the globe. And what to you may be "bigger arms" to another person may be a normal size. Imagine telling someone you didn't want them as your bridesmaid bc you didn't like their face, their freckles, or god forbid, "you'd be the only 'darker' person in the bridal party" yikes

Oh my gosh! That's horrible. I feel so badly for you and the sweet grandma who hosted.

So sorry 😞 the same thing happened to my brother's baby shower. Since then I try not go to anything of theirs except funerals

The same thing happened to me during my Sweet 16

@unicorn69 people suck sometimes! Ugh I'm sorry you've felt this pain too!

Aww. Hugs 🫂 that happened at my 10th bday

That maybe how they feel love. The "over $50", isn't part of it. I can understand their frustration with extended family members who are mooches.

In my part of the country, giving gifts in weddings is frowned upon. It is always mentioned in the invitations "please don't bring any gifts and embarrass us!"

Ooooh good point!

Hmmm, idk I remember hearing that most people's love languages are based on how they show you love not the other way around. So if someone often gives complements or gets more hurt by insults than most ppl they probably have "words of affirmation". And someone who buys alot of things for people probably has "receiving gifts" right?

That part is legit though. Google the six love languages and you'll find that the one they're talking about is called Receiving Gifts. There's no such love language as Giving Gifts. That said, just because that's your love language doesn't mean you should weaponise it or use it as an excuse to request gifts. That's not in the spirit of the love languages.

And she will never understand why she has no friends. It will always be because people are mean or inconsiderate. Poor thing.

@lindahind2205 exactly 💯 It will always be the other person. She really needs to take a good look at herself. I bet she deleted all the responses to her post that she didn't like... sad.

Here's hoping!

@@kristenwilliams3632Cant imagine all the negative attention that post got, she’s a terrible friend.

@@IndiTol-pi1wk you must be talking about yourself

I live for these videos.

Ahhhhhh your profile 😍

That they do. They also serve as a lesson NOT to be like them. Better to just enjoy your wedding than be a Bridezilla or a Groom Kong and risk losing all of your family and friends or even your wedding and fiancé all together. 😊

Heck yeah. I see bridezillas, I come running.

My concerns are for so many people out there who don't know they have such horrible friends. I'm so sorry. Truly.

Me and my sis got matching dates of the same year. The 5th of Feb and the 2nd of May. 02-05/05-02 😊

I think that's so cute that you and your husband joked that it was like your anniversary trip. I want to be able to make cute jokes like that with my partner if I ever find someone.

Agreed! also whats DKA?

​@@creativelyreactive5284diabetic ketoacidosis, maybe? Dunno, that's what popped into my head

@@PoisonfangStrikesyep, that’s what it is.

Then I guess the bridezilla would accuse her of taking all the attention 🤷🏼‍♀️

Yup! We are currently planning our wedding and my mother-in-law is diabetic in addition to other health issues. I will personally make sure she is okay throughout the day. Not only do I care about her generally, but it’s also important she has a great day. Yes it is our wedding, but it is also a family event. There will be people will health issues or mobility issues, kids who might run around and, well be kids. These are the people we care about and who care about us, whether they are “perfect” or not!

After needing open heart surgery I can100% say that getting older is a privilege and something to be proud of.

I had a dear friend who was in home hospice care at the end of his life. He had heart and lung issues because he was a lifelong firefighter. He said most firefighters who live to retire end up having these issues, and they knew it going in. When I'd visit him and ask how he was, every single time he's laugh and say, "Beats the alternative!" As I get older and I deal with a health issue, I always remember that it beats the alternative and of his gratitude for making it that far and having so many people who loved him. I always wanted to do something for him, but I could never think of what until one day I had an idea. I went to a bakery and got a gorgeous chocolate layer cake, with chocolate icing and curls and just so damn much chocolate. I went over and said that sometimes you couldn't think of what to do for a friend, but there was always chocolate. He said he wasn't eating much lately as he didn't have much of an appetite, but he was going to have a slice of that cake AND a glass of milk. He didn't quite finish a whole slice but he enjoyed the heck out of it. We all had some: his wife, the home care nurse, various kids, and nieces and nephews who stopped by. We sat around, talking and eating cake. It was a wonderful day of almost normalcy. His widow stopped by a few days after he passed. She had been taking care of all the paperwork needed after a spouse passes. She hadn't wanted to go home quite yet, because the house felt empty. We sat in my living room and talked about him and we were both crying and I wished I had some chocolate cake. Then I realized I had something as good if not better: kittens! I was fostering a litter of orphaned kittens for a rescue, and they were in that wonderful wobbly learning to play stage. I went and grabbed a box, filled it with 6 kittens, some yarn and toys and piled them on the couch between us and we played with kittens for a couple of hours until everyone wanted a nap. With sleeping kittens piled on us, we talked about how wonderful her husband was. The next week she stopped by again. She'd been at the funeral home picking up his death certificate and she had to step outside for a few minutes to compose herself. She was the only visitor there and her car was the only one there in the whole visitor parking lot. She sat in her car with the door open having a bit of a cry when she felt something on her foot. She looked down and there was a fluffy 8 to 10-week-old kitten. There was nothing around but other parking lots - not even grassy areas or anything. She picked the kitten up, walking around looking for other kittens or a mama cat or anything but she couldn't find any other kittens. She took the kitten inside, got the paperwork and a cardboard box for the kitten, and came to my place. She told me the story and said she was bringing the kitten to me but then she thought maybe it was a sign from her husband - maybe he was sending her some companionship when she needed it. She had the kitten in the box and asked me if it was a boy or a girl. I opened the box to the fluffiest most adorable male tabby kitten. I laughed and said if her husband had sent her a kitten - or been reincarnated as one - he'd want it to be one with a full head of luxurious hair (he had been bald and made a LOT of bald jokes). She laughed and laughed, and then named the kitten after him and he was a great companion - and so spoiled, as he should be! Growing old is a privilege and someone choosing to spend their last days with you is even more so.

​@@MoniMoniDeMonika that is such a beautiful story... Thank you for sharing! I definitely believe her husband sent her that kitten. ❤

Yesterday I heard that a friend's son passed away, he was only 23 😢.

I can’t wait to get old and lose every last ounce of tact I even possess. My grams was epic eating Jell-O shots, eating cool ranch Doritos and drinking Mountain Dew in her 80s. She also told people they were getting fat or if an outfit was ugly. It was glorious.

They say "When people show you who they are -- believe them!" She showed herself to be self-centered, lazy, and inconsiderate. Who'd want to have a relationship with someone like that? :)

Funny how the ugliness inside a person works its way out to the physical (how long it takes depends on the amount of ugliness inside) so that it becomes plain as day to everyone just by looking at them.

True! And adversely, I've known some internally beautiful people who had terribly self destructive lifestyle habits but still miraculously dont deteriorate physically any quicker than anyone else...beautiful on the inside leeches to the outside too!

@@jacklow9611 👍 Just so.

@@rachaelbrugmans4309 True!

What Charlotte said in this vid just shook a memory loose... an analogy my mom told us as kids. She said (verbatim;) “sometimes a plain box wrapped in brown butcher paper and tied with string contains a fortune of rare jewels and amazing treasures while another gift box that’s beautifully wrapped with ribbons and bows will surprise you by being completely empty... or worse!” Mom was great observer of the human condition; a rare combination of both inner and (being a straight-up doppelgänger for Rita Hayworth) outer beauty. She was also very kind but humble, constantly down-playing a MENSA-level intellect. Most importantly she proved that “common sense” isn’t as “common as it’s name suggests. *You schooled us very well mom; RIP*

You are obviously a sweetheart!!

My best friend was about 250 lb when I got married, you better believe she was my maid of honor. I let her pick out what ever dress she wanted to wear. It was more about the marriage and not the wedding for me and my husband. We just celebrated 27 years in July.

@@TheNeuroticjetfan awesome. Sweet of you to give her a choice of dress. That way she could feel most comfortable.

My niece was just like this for her wedding! We were all different heights and sizes and all she cared about was our comfort. We ended up with a beautiful 2 piece set that worked well with all of our different figures. We had two-tone wraps so MOH had her wrap adjusted differently than the rest of us (think black with the champagne top edge folded to show, and reverse for us bridesmaids). My sister however, was a MOMZILLA. 🙄🤦‍♀️

Listen, I sorta get being worried the type of dress wouldn’t look flattering on the bridesmaid, but you don’t think about dropping them! Pick a dress that’ll be flattering for them so they feel as good as they do you for being there, and if that style conflicts with another’s body type, then just get different dresses that flatters everyone in the same/similar color. That is what the sales people are for, to help we stuff like this. This is why when I’m having a wedding I’m having all my bridesmaids have their own style of dress (maybe ask if they can keep similar length ones but that I don’t care as much) just in the same color. There! No issue! No need to drop someone! If the bride really cared, she would’ve come up with solutions, not immediately thinking dropping her out.

Amen!

Indeed. What if something happened to a relative of her fiancé?

I wouldn’t give it a second thought my answer would have been don’t worry about the wedding go be with your loved one. I would be asking about grams and offer to save some cake for the friend. I know cake doesn’t fix the hurt of losing someone but it’s a small gesture that you are being thought of.

What if the relationship is only a month old ? It's her business, I wouldn't impose but, if my lifelong best friend ditched me that day for a maybe husband to be, I would be mad and I don't care about weddings that much.

​@@franchescamayialmonte1303than you are just as selfish as this bride🤮🤮🤮

Besides, according to etiquette experts, guests have one year after the wedding to send a gift. How does she know the ones who "show up empty-handed" haven't sent, or made arrangements to send, a really nice gift? I think it's tacky to bring a gift TO the wedding, then someone has to deal with it, figure out afterwards how ti will go where it needs to go.

My father in law, a retired cop, stepped up and said he would be in charge of "wrassling wedding gifts and ensuring they were delivered to our tiny house". I trusted him, and because of our jobs my late husband and I married in a town neither of us was from. dad in law pulled in grooms side of the family to help, people i barely knew, and after our honeymoon my in laws had everything waiting for us to open at-home, and money was locked away safely. Yes some folks arranged gifts to come in advance like etiquette recommends, but reality is, when all are traveling they carry the gifts with them.

I think some of my wedding guests didn't bring gifts. They took the time and energy to be there, before the wedding day, during, and after. I know it's cheesy, but that really is a gift! I think most people were very generous, but if you can remember a wedding gift at all years later it was either a REALLY special one or your life is pretty lame, IMO. Then again, we got married at 35, so we were far enough into our careers and maturity to prioritize and not spend money we shouldn't... I can't imagine a much younger version of me would have been as responsible and reasonable... Which is probably why I had to wait so long to get married 🤭.

Oh my god, that's awful I hope you're okay 😟

a lot is wrong with them... I hope they get divorced because they've gained weight or became older than 30...

They're awful, aren't they? When I got married, all I cared about was that my loved ones were there, happy, and having a good time. I didn't even think about their weight or hair colour, because they're people - their characters are far more important - and I love them for who they are! These bridezillas will have a rude awakening one day when they're older, bigger, and greyer... I kinda hope karma pays them a visit and they're treated the same way they've treated others... You must have your first anniversary coming up (or you celebrated recently) - congratulations! 🥂 Wishing you many more years of happiness 💕

How long you got? 😂

I got married in May and none of this ever crossed my mind. Everyone looked great. The only person who stole the show was my father because he looked amazing. I told him I walked him down the aisle and allowed him to give me away lol

Nothing is wrong with them, they are just showing very clearly what is actually important to them. Sadly, it is the stuff that is superficial.

Honestly, any half decent person has the same opinions as Charlotte. You don't *ever* need to thank anyone for simply not discriminating or judging you for your weight; that's just basic decency. You have just as much right to exist, be happy & love yourself as ANYONE else. x

@@charitygoldart I think this depends entirely on where you grew up. Where I live you get ridiculed a lot, even by adults when your still young, for your weight. But thank you for your kind words

Girl you are beautiful! A beautiful soul also. Have a great day!!!

@@melissaoderso249I’m sorry people have been that way to you. That is so dehumanizing and you do not deserve it. Your existence is beautiful, you are a beautiful human being! People make me so mad with how shallow they are. That’s definitely coming from some insecurity within themselves.

Thank you all so much for your kind words. You made me cry happy tears and brightened my day. I hope you all have a blessed life because you all deserve it with such beautiful souls. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️

I am so sorry this was done to you. It's a horrible way to treat anyone, especially someone you consider a friend. It sounds like you still have contact with her. I hope you found a better friend since.

I have no words. Are these kind of people raised in barns?

Thank God she had no intentions to hurt your feelings! Imagine how more cruel things she would have said.

Same. Only I was a teenager and super close to my cousin (the groom). The bride to be told me I'd be a bride's maid. Then she decided I was going to do a reading. I got to the church and suddenly I wasn't doing a reading and she started screaming at my mother and me. Turns out she had already picked someone else for the reading and planned this all. I haven't talked to them since that moment. It's been years. They've got a kid going into college now. Now I'm the one engaged. Feels weird.

My sister who is disabled was left out of her best friend's wedding party "for her own sake." The friend passed it off as not wanting to put too much pressure and such on my sister, but I'm very suspicious that that wasn't the real reason. Especially because she didn't even ask my sister if she thought she could do it 🙄

They kind of go together as the way you both express and feel love, but I'm going to go out on a limb and say this couple has no idea what their actual love language is, they're just saying it's gifts because they like to get stuff.

Yup. I wore a dress from Ross, Hubby and I got married in his parents' living room, and we're still happy 22 years later.

Mine was a bridesmaid dress in white. $62 dollars. Still looked beautiful even in pictures and the whole wedding including the food, venue, etc was $1500, including the $800 photographer. I did a lot of the stuff myself, including my bouquet. You can have a charming, small wedding and it still look great. I am in no way upset with how it turned out. We wanted a day to spend with friends and family and that is what we got.

Recieving gifts can be a love language in the way if how a person feels loved- but not the caveat of expensive gifts. Some people love gifts, but any! A little trinket you saw at a shop that reminds you of them, their favourite snack, a heart shaped rock you found on the beach, etc. If they're mad at gifts that aren't several hundred dollars, it's not about the act of giving them a gift. It's just about the material stuff

Ahh! I got to give you the 100th like! What satisfaction in addition to agreement with your lovely statement. How many years, may I ask?

I wish Charlotte could sit down in person with these entitled little brats and give them the business! So disappointing that these people walk among us.

​@@Birdbike719trust me there are worse people amongst us than few entitled brides.

Yes, they aren't required, but I'd feel weird not giving something. I did go to one wedding where we didn't bring a gift. We were poor, I was pregnant, and the guy whose wedding it was had cost us a lot of money. I felt zero obligation to bring a gift to that wedding.

Thank you. I swear, I would just send the wedding gift in the mail. A dying family member is a damn valid reason to miss a wedding

well entitled people don't think that way. they believe they are the best and the world owes them everything! i had a co worker that was like this thankfully she left. my Grandma died and this coworker said I couldn't go to the funeral because I didn't let them know in time. i called 4 days ahead of time. i was mad like wtf who does that. alot of other workers couldn't stand her. she's finally gone and we all are Happy.

Pretty rude and inconvenient of grandma, like she set the date first!! /s How gross huh, how do these people even have friends?

@@rainbowpegacornstudios In the mail! That's way more work than I would do. Looks like I got myself a new set of crystal wine glasses! Woo!

@@funnyusername8635 I'm just saying, bare minimum: send it to them through the mail. Otherwise, I would definitely have some petty revenge and keep the gift for myself. My message to them would be: "You were being a dick, so I'm teaching you a lesson, you entitled, obnoxious, ungrateful brat."

Yeah I noticed that too, if there are "monthly agendas" for the wedding, MAAAAAAJOR red flag! 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Right! 10 more weeks of grey hair will ruin the look of the dress 😂

I think the whole idea of a 'Bridesmaid agenda' is bonkers. When my best friend got married, I had already started getting grey hairs, she literally didn't care as long as I was there. As it dang well should be.

@@strawberrykatnzAnd it shouldn’t matter! So many people don’t even live long enough for grey hair so we should own it with pride. I didn’t think I would and I’m looking forward to it if I get there

Those monthly agenda meetings will create more stress and more grey hair! I started getting grey when I was 20 and decided that I wasn’t going to spend my life coloring it. Some of my friends when they were older went and got professional coloring that was very natural. One friend told me that I would look younger if I dyed my hair, but she used box mixes and her hair is a strange unnatural orange with missed spots but everyone is to polite to point that out. I still get compliments on my shiny hair and because of the pandemic, many had decided to quit coloring it as their hair had grown out. It’s a personal decision and frankly don’t care what people do to their own hair.

glad you are still around to celebrate it

exactly. i lost my son 33 feb 2/22 and i would give anything for him to still be here to grow old along with me. i lost my husband days after he turned 47 married nearly 26 yrs. i lost my mom when i was 3 days shy of 18 she was 42 she would have loved to grow old and seen me married and met her 4 grandkids. i am so disgusted by these bridezillas and bet the vast majority of them will end up divorced anyway because they are terrible ppl and those perfect photos won't mean shite anymore.

Well... I have death anxiety 😂 I started freaking out every year in the weeks leading up to my birthday when I was around 5 or so... Can't be explained why. I think I'm just defective 🤣

As someone who just turned 25 for the third time, I absolutely agree. Think of the alternative!

@@shelleyg1836 I'm so sorry for your losses.

Same!! And for favours we made a donation to a couple of special charities in their honour, so we left everyone a personalised hand written note explaining that and a pin badge for their charity. I wanted my special day to be a celebration of love and to me love is caring for those who are vulnerable!

Thank you for this, I financially struggle to feed myself every week, so this kind of 'faux pas' attitude makes me feel like the only reason people want friends is to give them gifts. Charlotte's attitude will make me rethink accepting any wedding invitations on the future. If you feel I am terrible person because I can't afford a gift what are we even doing?

@@bethsweeney715 Just the fact that you are there to spend my special day with me is enough and if someone NEEDS a gift, they don't know me and are not worthy to have me there.

We did that on our wedding invitations.

Get her to give you the $450 back, that’s really f-ed up on her part

What an absolute asshole, I am so sorry that happened to you. I hope your marriage has been an extremely happy one. (And I won’t straight up wish I’ll for her……but I don’t really wish her much happiness.)

Holy crap! I hope that coworker has the life they deserve!

That is so effed up

So the money is the gift!

That would be *amazing*. I hope it happens for some of these.

I hope it happens! 😜

Because it's ok for fat women to have fat purses but heaven forbid that fat people are also fat in your wedding photos. I am a fat woman, and I would seriously have torched this friendship to the ground if I found out that is how this friend feels about me.

@MyLifeMyWay hurts my feeling for the friend then to put in online 😪

My mother-in-law lives with us and she is diabetic among other things, wearing a sensor on her arm. I learnt so much about diabetes from living with her and also got kind of excited a few weeks ago when I saw a young woman at the gym wearing a sensor on her arm. The more we are exposed to people who need (medical) devices - be it sensors, hearing aids, walking sticks, etc - living normal lives unapologetically, the more normalise it will become and society can hopefully be more inclusive.

@@s.a.4358 💙🩵💙

Yay Mama Bear!!!

Any tech that allows you to live should be considered an external body part! Period!

yesss i call my omnipod my external pancreas :) i'm a proud cyborg and your daughter should be too ❤

Same thing with mine, minus the dogs, although I would have loved to include pups in my wedding. I didn’t have any at the time, or I definitely would have

❤

Ivycityco makes my dream bridesmaid dresses! So good for all sizes 🎉

I asked my niece if the outfit I chose for her wedding was okay and she replied without even looking. "I don't care what you wear. Wear ratty sweats if you want. I want you there." I am glad both you and I have nieces who know people matter more than pictures.

Yay us! 🎉

I agree. Your friend handled it really well. She also seems to have a decent amount of empathy, maybe partly due to her own experience with personal loss. I hope your nephew is ok.

​@@moonhunter9993She really is one the most amazing people - I feel incredibly lucky to call her my friend 💕 Thank you for asking about my nephew. He was badly burned and had to have several major operations, but he's doing really well now. As he's still growing, he still has ongoing treatment once a year, but it's not stopping him from living life to the fullest. We're all really proud of him 💖 Wishing you all the very best ❤

Good for you!! I love grey hair, I always smile when I see people rocking it and hope that it's a sign that they know their worth and beauty. Loving yourself is so valuable ❤

That sounds absolutely amazing!

Sounds perfect! We are planning our wedding at the moment and I would totally jump on the opportunity to have a backyard wedding if someone in the family had one available 😋

Rain falling on a tent sounds like the perfect mix of happy and romantic!

That's lovely.

Absolutely 💯

I am really sorry she said and expected that. I am glad you put her in her place.

Oh no! As someone with a lot of surgery scars. Including one on my neck this is really sad and horrible of your friend 😢

@@NataliaPessoaXOXOMAKEit was her sister not friend 😬

That is horrible. Good on you for standing up for yourself.

It would be even better if she gets shoved in a chocolate fountain on her wedding day, dress and all 😂!

why did your friend ask you to do that? just cause of the... height?

You are correct. These entitled bridezillas should be left at the altar.

Ah the 80s. I got married in 1987. My not at all froofy sister wore a puffy pink dress. When we cleaned out Mom's attic ( AKA the archives) we found the abomination. She (all 5' 3" of her) MADE us take it to the dump. I said she was depriving some Goodwill shopper of a great Halloween costume.

As a fatty, I am so distressed that this happened to you. I promise we're not all that way.

You were doing OK until the last part where you'll never be friends with anyone fat again, go step on a lego

You should have gone as a guest and looked fabulous--I doubt that they would have had the balls to have you thrown out. You could have given them the hairy eyeball and said out loud "ARE YOU SURE YOU WANT TO EAT THAT?" as they scarfed up food.

I totally agree and want to add that I have definitely seen a fair share of 'plus size' people totally pull off a strapless dress (because you know, there's some boobage there to keep it up) as opposed to small-boobed me who totally needs straps to keep clothes from floating down to the waist 😅 so 'big arms' is definitely the wrong thing to worry about when it comes to strapless dresses!

Strapless dresses are SO over used. Everyone wears them, including people who really really should not.

Exactly!

I had strapless dresses at my wedding, but the bridesmaids could choose if they wanted straps on them. The design came with both. I don't see what the big deal is with that. I had five bridesmaids and three of them chose the straps, two of them didn't. Everyone looked great. And to be honest, if I'm looking at someone's wedding picture, my eyes go first to the bride then the groom, then a quick glance at the bridesmaids. The last thing I'm thinking about is symmetry with the dresses or the color of someone's hair. smh...

At one time, virtually all Christian churches forbade strapless, off the shoulder or even sleeveless dresses during church ceremonies. The shoulders were always to be covered in church.

to them it's not who they marry, it's the party. and being the center of attention.

My wife and I have this convo so often! 💜🏳️‍🌈 We got married with just best friends because our families loved us BUT just couldn’t attend a gay wedding.

This!! It’s amazing simply to have a person you care so much about, and who cares so much about you, and be able to freely celebrate that in the company of people who matter.

@@purplekristen2932 As a gay trans enby I have to say, people who won't attend your wedding because you are both the same gender don't actually love you.

Right? How many people talked to their friends today about grey hair and are allergic to box dye? She definitely knows who posted that

Yes, please. 😂

I hope you don't become a motherzilla or MILzilla ...

A vicious threat if ever I heard one! 😂🤣

she's been warned

I don't think I will be a momzilla but everyone says that so who knows 🤣🤣🤣

No because then she would be an empathetic and understanding human being and obviously that's just way too hard for her to do. 🙄🤣🤣

I am known in my family for dressing...unusually. So when my niece got married I asked her if the outfit I sent a picture of would be okay for me to wear her wedding. I don't think she even looked at the picture. She replied back immediately with "I don't care what you wear. You can wear ratty old sweats if you want. I just want you to be there." She didn't choose her bridesmaids' dresses, just told them all the color scheme was shades of purple and to choose anything they liked that was purple. She had a really good grasp of the purpose of a wedding, which is to share your happiness with the people you care about.

Friend is a good friend bride is a leach.

it already started as shitty as possible... what a terrible, TERRIBLE person and friend! I do hope this kind of person ends up as alone as possible, DIVORCE!!!! At least now I understand why the family is not helping, she must be insufferable! Just to be clear, I don't wish her loneliness because of her per se, but because NOBODY deserves to live with someone like the first Bridezilla.

the lack of empathy borders on the sociopathic... and the entitlement is mind-boggling. If I heard of a friend doing this or having something like that done to them, I would intervene: I would totally blast a person with the reality check they need.

Does the bride not realize that Type 1 diabetes is autoimmune and that any children she has with her husband could have the same disease? These control freaks are going to have a rude awakening when life doesn’t always get what you want.

It’s also pretty telling that she asked it to be REMOVED, when it could just been hidden by another person or accessory placement!? Like, put some fake flowers on it or hide it with your arm, it’s not that difficult if truly bothered her! Seems like she just didn’t really like op in the first place

@@kaynebula2093Why would a couple of bumps under the dress need to be hidden? No one is going to look that closely at the photo and even if they did, no one would care. If fact no one, except maybe immediate family, would even care enough to look at the photos more than once.

Inner ugliness exudes from all orifices so they become outwardly ugly, too.

I'll never understand people! I had a classmate in HS who was very handsome, and he had some grey hair his senior year. I saw him 20 years later at the class reunion, and his thick, beautiful hair was pure white! Talk about a silver fox! 😍

I'm in my early 30's and completely skipped the grey and went straight to white 😂

@@elysegnade9967 I love white hair, I think it's gorgeous. My favorite musician from the 80s, Nick Lowe, is now 74 and has had beautiful white hair for decades. I got to meet him 21 years ago, and was mesmerized by his beautiful hair. He wrote the perfect song for a wedding reception back in the 1970s called, "I Knew the Bride (When She Used to Rock and Roll). The music video is very funny, and sweet. I highly recommend that Charlotte and Mike have this song played at their wedding reception! This video is about 40 years old, but Nick's hair was already going grey. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/gdRhdruTy5jcdmw.html

I saw my first gray hair at 19. I finally decided about 4 years ago that the silvery look I was trying to achieve was in letting my hair go naturally silver. Now, after a bout with chemo, I even have curls!

My sister started getting grey hairs at 15 and me around 24! it's just genetics for some people. Literally who cares!

52! Me too!

49 and due to a medical scare 3 years ago every day above ground is a blessing.

That's how I see it too, I love my grey hair! I inherited my mom's hair, so like her, I have pure white streaks framing my face, kind of like Lily Munster (hey, I always thought she was pretty!). I've had people ask how I was able to completely remove my "natural" color to get those bright white streaks. I smile and say, "Oh, my mom did it!" It takes temporary color well, like hair chalk, so that's something fun I couldn't do when my hair was dark brown. I'm sorry you lost your siblings at such a young age. I'm the youngest of four, so I'll likely face losing my sisters first because they are 15 and 17 years older than me so they are in their late 70s.

I have MS. Imagine someone telling me, “you cannot use cane walking down the aisle.” I feel privileged that I’m not at a bad state with my illness. Grays are a badge of honor.

Just loss a beautiful friend just after her 50 birthday I'm going to be 55 in November I'm bald but do have some gray facial hair I've lost alot of friends never made it to 50 so it's a big deal

That is sweet of you to return the money. If I went to wedding and there was a money tree I would feel a lot of pressure...

Is it a family tradition on your husband's side? She shouldn't have put it there without asking, but I'm curious if it's part of the family tradition. My family's tradition is a money dance. I can't tell you how many people were asking me throughout and after the wedding why I didn't do the money dance. Many were looking forward to it and were disappointed.

I am not from the western society and it always fascinates me how people over there worry about others " stealing their thunder " when they get married/ get engaged ^^" I mean where I come from people don't care at all when others announce a wedding/ engagement party ,pregnancy ... etc during another's wedding . For us all what matters is that it s happy news to share which makes the wedding merrier . Like you can literally say that you re getting married tomorrow and people , including the bride and the groom , will congratulate you and wish you happiness and that's it 😅

@@mariamariafujoshiinurarea2524 Your culture is very healthy. American culture is very focused on looks, especially women's looks.

😂😂😂

no other response is reasonable

IDK, RSVPing with an invitation to all your wedding dates set for that year would have been just the right amount of petty, even if you had to renew your vows ;-)

How about NC for a year just for her?