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My ex husband did this w a couple who treated me horribly. I told him it wasn't ok to choose them over me. 'I came home to you, not them!' 😒 so not the same thing!

what’s that phrase? When people show you who they are believe them? It’s sort of like if your friends defend someone cheating or protects a cheater.. they’re likely cheaters lol

It took awhile to realize this unfortunately my best friend was talking bad about me with an ex and I thought we could get over this and she promised to do better. I realized I was wrong because she never did and it opened my eyes that our friendship was very one sided. I had to end a 17 year friendship and it was very difficult but she dropped me pretty quickly.

Learned that the hard way. I was so scared of not having friends and convinced myself they could change, that they would change. That their friendship meant as much to me as it did to them. We were friends for 16 years. I married one of them. My best friends wife and my wife were cheating with each other. 16 yr. ex best friend one and didn't tell me. It was a horrible mess. Thank goodness for the divorce and my current fiance who opened my eyes.

Seriously 😅... But I hope she enjoys all the weird stories 😂

@@radhikapatil1986 I read on her TikTok that she loves the Suzi Pesto stories. Heheheh!

Right?! Let the poor girl live 😂

😅😅 I thought the same thing! It's more like a play off of her than a dis'. She should be ok.😂

I hope she’s embracing it! She need to come up with her own store bought pesto crazy story!

You've invested in TRUE RICHES! I'm so happy for both of you!!!

But yet you slept with her husband, knowing

@@shieldmaiden8128I don’t think she slept with him I think she found out he was cheating on her best friend with some girl

​@shieldmaiden8128 I could be wrong, but I think they meant they caught the husband cheating with someone else, not that they slept with their friend's husband...

Me too, she wanted to fight for herself

dude i had NOO idea!

@@yolandaogimfr

I thought it was odd

Omm the ones who go the hardest way to hard are ALWAYSSSSSS the ones to watch out for

😂you should have clapped back saying yeah that's why you "don't get it" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 ** P.s. that's not a friend, she's just a witch who isn't any good for you. The kind that cheers at your downfalls, but not when you're winning.

When i got married I had male friends that just completely stopped talking to me. Guess they weren't really my friends.

Should have told her, “I’m quality over quantity “

That is just…. Like what a crazy thing to say 😭😭😭😭😭

Ugh, try having a sister like that!

Yessssss!

Actually she said "believe them the 1st time"... which hits even closer to home :-(

@@martagasowska6772 Amen and preach it louder to the people in the back!

I had a best friend since high school. She'd go to parties but would invite everyone but me. She met this guy that beat her up and called me scared and crying. I asked where she was so I could go get her but she wouldn't tell me. I didn't hear from her for like 7 years and then she called me out of the blue. Turned out that she married the guy and she didn't invite me o the wedding because he still neat her and she even had two black eyes at her wedding. She knew if she invited me that there wouldn't have been a wedding and he never would've had kids. They had two kids before finally getting divorced. I had two kids. They grew up best friends for years. If my friend was sick, I'd go over and clean her house, cook her and her kids dinner, took care of her and her kids. We would go out drinking with another girl all the time. I was invited as the DUFF but I didn't care because I was married anyway and don't believe in cheating. I would always be the body guard if some guy came around and bothered them and they wanted him to go away. I had a not so suttle way of making them leave and not come back. I ended up being hurt in a tornado and eventually became disabled from it with chronic pain 24/7. My husband who was a very abusive narcissist in every way but physically and was a chronic cheater. He ended up leaving me for his last girlfriend saying he didn't want to be strapped to an invalid for the rest of his life. I was not and am not an invalid. I was like Supermom and did everything for everybody and cooked and cleaned and took care of everything. The reason he said it was because he had to make dinner twice in 4 years because I was in too much pain after doing everything else that I just had to go to bed, take my pain meds and cry. Anyway, I tried to lean on my best friend for moral support. I either used two canes to walk or used my wheelchair. Instead of helping me like I always helped her, she told me she couldn't be my friend anymore because my being disabled was too painful for her. What?!?! I later figured it out. It wasn't my disability, it was the fact that others seeing me walk with two canes or seeing me in a wheelchair would distract others from looking at her and giving her all of the attention. BTW I'm a very strong empath and she was a very strong narcissist. Also, I've had 5 relationships in my life, and all of them were abusive narcissists but only one was physically abusive as well. As an empath, narcissists are all I attract so I've given up on dating. As for friends, it's the same thing. They were all narcissists. One friend was verbally, mentally, emotionally, and psychologically abusive. She wanted me to be her DUFF, but I refused. It turned out that I was smarter than she was even though she had a college degree (I have ASD), I was prettier than she was, and she was fatter than I was so she screamed at me, berated me, put me down, and tried to correct everything I said even though I was right and when I proved I was right she still refused to admit it. She even told my ex-husband who she used to work with and hit on (who knows, he may have cheated on me with her, but she was always jealous of me) that I made porn with my boyfriend. I didn't make porn with him in 21 years of marriage so why would I suddenly do it with my boyfriend? I finally had enough of it and told her exactly what kind of person she was to me and how abusive she was to her daughter. She didn't take it well. Her daughter tried to threaten me because she was a Marine. I told her to bring it because I told her the truth. My daughter backed up everything I said too. Her daughter was so beaten down when she was hanging out with my daughter that she was afraid to say anything for fear thar she'd get screamed at or beaten. I had witnessed her doing both and so did my daughter. She only had two ways of talking...calm and screaming. There was never just raising her voice a bit. I think she was Bipolar. My boyfriend who she introduced me to was Bipolar as well. They had a thing before me so again...jealous. I'm not sure why. He was a horrible boyfriend. She was thrilled when I broke up with him though. Her daughter never brought it which even though she was a Marine and I had chronic pain 24/7, I still would've knocked her out. I knew how tough she wasn't and I'm very surprised that she even made it through basic training because she was so wimpy and cried if she bumped her toe...not stubbed, just bumped. Anyway, I gave up friends for the same reason I gave up dating...the abusive narcissists bled me dry. I tried dating again after not dating for over 16 years, I got the 5th abusive narcissist so I gave up. Not one of the 5 ever loved me. Abusive narcissists can only love one person...themselves. They're tricky, they pretend to be nice and sweet and innocent to draw you in for a little bit and then they become who they really are. As an empath, I think I can change them back so I end up staying way too long. I will probably die never having been loved by anyone because I'm too afraid to trust anyone again. As for friends, I don't trust them either. I was burned too many times. So why try? All they want is my energy and I need all I have to get me through the pain every day. It would be nice to be friends with another empath though so we could feed off of each other's energy when we needed it, but with my luck, it would be a narcissist disguised as an empath. I had a few of those too. I've been abused since birth, I don't need any more.

Yes, many people have said that over the hundreds of years...I believe even Shakespeare said it as well. Yes, it's true. People will let you know what they are about, including telling you outright.

One of my best friends is my ex's baby momma. We bonded over what he put us both though. I love having female friends, but finding one that's low drama is like winning the lottery. I'll cherish the few that I have. ❤

@@WhitneySt0rmy we should definitely treasure friends who are low drama 😊

I have a group of best friends that I've been friends with for most of my life, so 20+ years ❤

I am trying to teach my daughter this right now, and it is so hard! I told her she shouldn't feel the need to run to keep up with a friend who won't stop and wait for her. 😢

@OctobersDaughter I get you, I have twin 13 year olds and they have huge hearts that keep getting broken. I tell them never to regret giving love and friendship but they should also have a line that they won't cross and won't allow others to cross. If a friend violates those boundaries, then you know it's time to let them grow away from you. We all have to bloom where we are planted, if your friend turns out to be a weed then get em out before they start stealing the nutrients you need to live!

@Wwydn Oh, I absolutely love that! I hope you don't mind me sharing that with my daughter! She is also 13 🥰 it's great that you have twins. They will always have each other which is wonderful! I also have an 11 year old son, and I hope my two stay close as they grow up because a sibling bond is such an important thing!

@OctobersDaughter feel free to share with her! I agree, I always tell the girls that nothing should ever be allowed to come between them, that is their soul mate, their partner against the world and they should put their bond above all others, even us. Wombmates for life!

​@@Wwydn THIS 👏🏽

Took me actually years to figure out that someone I regarded as a good friend, was so jealous of me that she would visit with my mother (knowing I was at work at the time) and tell stories to cause trouble (when we were teenagers). I actually find jealousy to be wasted focus. It's the one time one should focus on oneself, and improve.

"Men wanting to have sex with you doesn't mean a thing. You might as well be a pie." MORE FACTS!

Unless they grow from it idk

I know this. I have my FAMILY MEMBER to confront. (Not saying names or if sibling or not)

@@niamphdollieofficial She never changed. I let her go.

Saaame! By the way that gasping emoji is awesome!!

Virgo energy haha

Oh my God hun. I’m so sorry you went through that. I am so loyal but never find friends that repay me the same so I just end up hurt. It sucks.

I'm so sorry you went through that. I hope you're doing much better. God bless 🙏🏼🤍

WTF?? 😟😳

Thats what best friends are for. 😢 ppl suck

Happened to me too. All of my friends left me right after my serious bf of 4 years broke up w me. This was 20 years ago and I have never recovered emotionally. Never made new friends. And this was a group of friends that were all connected to each other THROUGH ME.

Hows her life now?

Agreed. Either they’re just casual friends you don’t bother to get involved in the drama or it’s your actual best friend and your ride or die

Yep. As soon as I found out, I'd tell her

This. There seems to be a lot of people who think if someone is *cool* or they never had a problem with them, even if they've been proven to be untrustworthy it's ok to be friends with them. They could be a creep, chronic liar, cheater or whatever and that will still be the excuse. Like wtf? I don't get that. I think that everyone in your friendship should not only know about said person, and that no one who is your friend would be friends with them knowing your history.

THIS!! YES!! 10000000% agreed. That's not a real friend without a doubt. Best friend for me isn't just some thing that can be turned on and off. If you're my best friend. That is a big deal for me. My best friend is the sister I never had. Been best friends going on a decade and trust her with the life of not just myself but my miracle of a daughter. Because time and time again she has shown how much she is truly there for me. I am VERY blessed in that sense. Best wishes to you and yours!!💖

After 12hrs of finding out, I called the cheater at his work (Friday) & gave him that evening to Sunday evening to tell his wife, my BFF, otherwise I would. He didn't, so I did, even though it was between Christmas & her b'day on NY Day. I was devastated knowing the truth would devastate her. But, I had her back & no choice. Best decision. 25+yrs later, we still have this precious, wonderful decades old friendship from when we were 10yrs old. 💝 💐

Same, it makes me laugh so hard!!!

I no and the side eye!!

Me too. Her reactions are the best😂

Her face when she’s so transfixed and then it hits her and you can see the transition from intense listen, to processing, to the yell from the audacity.

@@solenelicorne Ils adorent quand Charlotte passe d'une écoute sérieuse et intense, puis crie de nulle part lol! 😂💋🦄

That's why it's really worth having renters insurance, it's usually less than $20 a month! You also have to regularly photograph your stuff as proof that it exists in the house if it does burn down. But also ditch that chick and make sure you don't text her anything that she could later use in court to try to sue you for money (no apologies or anything). Maybe a simple denial, "I did not cause the fire." Honestly if you're right and she's the one that turned it up she might be pushing so hard so that you don't push her to pay for your stuff that was ruined.

@jessicaolson490 We had renter's insurance, used it... But it was such a hassle as my agent was out of state opposite sides and was impossible to contact. They love making it impossible to get things taken care of so I had to switch agents multiple times and ask what was needed as they refused to tell me anything without me prying for the steps... They did an awful job with repairs (insurance team through same insurance I have that the landlord was stuck with too... Landlord was awesome but the insurance team wasn't, so Landlord did a lot of the fixing of their mess ups) and we almost had a 2nd fire as insurance didn't wire the new heater correctly and they never tested it so it shorted and fried itself plus thermostat the day we were told we could move back in... Not to mention insurancr screwed up the vent fan... Things are all fixed now though through Landlord hiring their own repair team (yay for that) Ex best friend/roommate is gone now. Had to pay her deposit back minus all the bills she owed us to get her to leave, she even sent mean texts claiming we were never friends the entire time we lived together so I've 100% cut her out of my life! She can't do anything anymore as she got money and nothing is owed (never owed her to begin as she gave that money to landlord not me, but everyone suggested paying her to leave us alone vs her possibly picking a massive public fight over it and our landlord couldn't afford to pay her as she had all the extra repair fees. So we just kinda bought her out of the deposit she put down so she's no longer on the lease for legal purposes) And for context non of ex-roomate's stuff was damaged as they had their room closed off and it was furthest from the fire

😢im so sorry. I used to have several very close friends who dumped me. So now i have no friends. This was 20 years ago. Now my fiance and soulmate best friend of 12 years is dead and it feels very lonely. The only friend i have is his best friend. Times are tough. Also im dying. 😂 anyway. I hope you get through this!!! ❤

Good for you!!!! You can do it!!!

You can do it. All the worthwhile stuff is HARD! You are an incredible multidimensional being and You will get through this. You are already learning and this narcissist is a lesson for you. Narcissism is behavior. Have empathy and walk away. Most people don't learn and just keep going back for more. This person will teach you so much and when you are done learning the healing is easy. Discover you and your truth by going inward. Don't focus for long on his behavior. Learn why you are seeking this for yourself and then the healing comes easier and much faster. You already know this person isn't good for you. Trust your instincts. Learn and move on. It's why we're here. Don't beat yourself up. You're learning and you will be amazed when it's over at how strong you are. Most people don't make it this far....you got this. ✨🫶✨

There's video tutorials on KZfaq about how to do this

Love that. Imma steal that

Thanks for the line. I might use it some day!

Rest in peace Ole wise momma! 🙏 thank you for leaving those beautiful, wise words behind for us. ❤😂

"may she rest in peace and I would rather be alone than with you one second"

I'm so sorry that is so horrible. But I am glad they showed you they weren't really your friends so that you hopefully could devote your time to the people who actually have your back. It was nothing this serious but I was kind of serially used by a lot of my friends in high-school and it hurt learning how little I meant to them when we weren't face to face but my college friends showed me a lot about what true friendship is and having each other's back. I only still talk to like 2 people from high school that were genuine friends. I hope you have a good support system now

@@abbiesmith9065 I do I am surrounded by good drs. and my husband who I will have been with 18 years this May, always has my back. Sorry, you went through the disloyalty in HS, and glad you have some friends now you can trust.

That's horrible, and rough, but that shows they weren't true friends to begin with! They did you a favor! Eff em all. Lol.

The trash just took itself out sister. Happy that you're over it now ❤

Ugh, how awful. That’s why they say “when someone shows you who they are, believe them” they weren’t your people and I hope you find your real tribe. A small circle is better than the wrong circle.

Yes 10000%!!!

Exactly. They just stay monitoring and trying to copy your life 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Well said, I was thinking that if I don't feel like my friends have things I want then are they really having a good life? Like the alternative is looking down on them, lol. But, I think I am confusing admiration and jealousy.

@@melodymastache3401 I think a way to tell the difference is admiration is seeing someone have what you want and you being inspired to lift yourself and meet them at their level. Jealousy is wanting what they have by pulling them down and taking what is already theirs.

Late 30s.. I have two legit friends and they’re online only. I understand and sympathize for the loneliness at times. God bless!

@@Jenny_Rose_ 🙏💜🙏 same to you love 🙏💜🙏

Amen to that!

@@tswain92_ 🙏🙏🙏🙏 amen 🙏 🙏🙏🙏

I was in my late 40's when I wrote off the last of my "friends" I don't feel as much of a need for them anymore. I'm not opposed to making new friends if it happens but I won't go out of my way. I like being alone and only very rarely feel lonely.

Not even God likes lukewarm!

Same, but i slightly wonder how much bestie 5 knew

Bestie #1 was conflicted. I am sure.

Naw. If that's your bestie fr she's supposed to take action, not feel conflicted.

100000%. I know a girl like that. She did the exact same thing lmao.

I wonder if beneath the jealousy in them, lies the unpalatable truth that they are not meeting their own best potential? At the base level of all poor self esteem hides the realization that they could be better, if they do better, but it's all too hard, and the friend they are jealous of makes it all look so easy. They're very superficial in their thinking, if they think it out at all. I've had a similar experience to you, and thought "seriously, we're practically old, should be past all that dumb high school telling tales stage and backstabbing". I said goodbye and haven't spoken to her since. All because of jealousy, which honestly, I couldn't comprehend why. If you see someone "ahead" of you in some way, work to make the gap smaller or focus on your own weaknesses, remedy things. Find out how they did it lol. Pick their brains, not nitpick.

@@Kayenne54 I love that. Great insight. We all have attributes that others wish for, as we wish for them too. Use that as a radar for yourself to make yourself a better person. There’s no need for jealousy, that only puts obstacles in our way. Obstacles of our own making. Thank you Kayenne for responding. Have a blessed day.

It probably wasn't material things. Some people will be jealous of your kindness, the way others relate to you, your confidence etc. There's a saying...Some people will never like you because your spirit irritates their demons.

@@Curvesohyeah 🤣🤣🤣 that sounds about right. Thank you for sharing. 😉

@@Curvesohyeah Your last sentence is what I've reluctantly come to observe. The more someone "instantly" dislikes me, the more I have found out that they are in some way, falling short of their own spiritual/moral goals. I'm not coming from some high and mighty Mt Olympus view point; I'm down here in the mud with everyone else, plodding onwards, and sometimes even upwards. But invariably, if I'm met with unwarranted hostility (I haven't set out to offend, or have nasty intentions), it is because they are hiding something ABOUT THEMSELVES from themselves, and I am somehow acting as an unwelcome mirror. Which, for someone who carries the two-edged sword of empathy, makes for lots of relationship juggling. It's not my job to make them face anything. It's their own task. Unless they ask.

mann idk how people are like this!! i been single for almost a year with no action and i kid you not my best friend told me thursday that she was single and she got a sweet guy buying her flowers already!! i was so excited i swear i started worshiping her rizz 😂😂

​@@twocathome399it might not be "rizz" though if ya know what I mean. 😉 She might just be a "304". JS.

​@@user-sn3ek4vj2jthe obsession with women being 304s is ridiculous. Can women breath without being one. Yikes a girl can even get flowers. Grow up

Who sent the flowers?!? It’s like you told only half a story, I need to know! 😆

@@Glowrollerdisco I never did find out. There was no name on the card and no one ever said anything to me.

Thanks to so many for making me feel better about the fact that my so-called bestie (beastie) was a total POS.

she has a channel with her sweet British husband!!!!

I'd also suggest that if you belong to multiple friend groups that don't know each other, avoid mingling them together. You'll start as the common denominator, but could end up the odd one out. It helps a lot because if you get tired of one group's drama, you can take a break and hang out with different people.

❤️💪🏾

I’m so happy for you. One tip from a fellow empath to another..keep saying what you mean and mean what you say. People will never respect you if you don’t set boundaries. You don’t lose a friend by setting boundaries, you lose dead weight.

@carolynmcdonald2746 oh yes, I most definately know half of setting the boundary is holding it. Thanks for the encouragement. It's taken me a LONG time to get to this level of confidence and belief in myself. It's an amazing feeling to know your worth, and when your able to start really seeing it, you start truly seeing who not only doesn't see it, but doesn't value it. Ive put in a solid year of therapy and addressing my BPD. I've made so much inner growth. Onto of that mental growth, I've lost SO MUCH weight and have started becoming a healthier better version of myself. I planted a seed within myself a year and a half ago, called love. And I was so kind to the seed. I nurtured it. And now I can see who is for me, and who isn't. At least a whole lot better then I used to.

I know the feeling exactly

@@shayecastellano5483 that’s awesome…again I’m so happy for you

Wisdom.

Same I felt that story so strong

I wish you both healing, comfort, strength, support, Light, Hope, & Peace. You both deserve better than people who betray, use, & exploit you. ❤️

I'm honestly so sorry, that was selfless of you

Wait... if it was too expensive collectively, how did it make sense for you to go to Spain separately? And them go on a different vacation? What am I missing here?

True... I'm an empath too, but as soon as I felt taken for a ride by former friends... I was like, "cool, have a nice life" and that was the end of it. I'm not sorry I was friends with them, cause I learnt stuff and grew as a person, but yeah. As an empath, you do tend to attract some real selfish people... and I don't mean in the material way. Nor does it stop at just friends... family too.

@@m0t0b33 same.

Wrong. Most empaths are pushovers. You are actually an anomaly if you’re an empath and not pushed over. Anytime someone uses the 100 emoji, I assume they’re slow

@@yeahumad6085 you can be empathetic and still honour your boundaries. So, no you are completely wrong.

​@@yeahumad6085 any time someone judges another person's intelligence by what emojis they use, I assume their IQ is so low they wouldn't know real intelligent conversation if it bit them by the balls

I also don't have friends anymore, although I am unhappy. I still have my freedom, but I don't take betrayal well and I am NOT a peaceful lady.

I assumed banks had some kind of algorithm where if you book flights on a card then they won’t assume it’s been stolen if the same card is used overseas? Then again we know what happens when we assume.. But also I’ve never had this problem so 🤷‍♀️

Such a great great great show!!!!! ❤

I thought the same

Most empathy doormats doofus

Personally I call myself cynical😊