Cheating in Marriage: A dealbreaker ?

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On this episode Toke is joined by Toolz, an OAP and they discuss about dealbreakers in Marriages.
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@indecribindecrib9832 Жыл бұрын

True talk, imagine my seven year old son telling me that their teacher told them that a boy is not meant to be in the kitchen. Because of this he has been washing dishes as his core job daily. We really need to change this narrative.

@Letstalkwithesiri Жыл бұрын

I want to be sure you went to the school to have a conversation or called the teacher to order? Did you or did you not?

@ezinneerhirhieneeukaogo1439 Жыл бұрын

Its even in Nigerian text books When they taught my son that mother's job was to do laundry, he quivkly told them thats the job of a washing machine , not his mom

@kiv_daniels Жыл бұрын

Please I’m a woman, don’t let him suffer for the teacher’s teachings. He is seven, is there anyone he can at least take turns with? Or maybe once in a while

@chisomo8088 Жыл бұрын

@@kiv_daniels please rest. Boys need to learn, and what she's doing is her business. Let's stop telling parents how to parent their children. As long as they aren't harming the child, mind your business

@kugbamsendoo3646 Жыл бұрын

You see a guy and he's telling you when I'm gaming no one distracts me not even my parents..... Like are you serious!!! A girl child can't even breathe without being interrupted or distracted....smh My son is definitely doing the dishes he might even learn catering among others.

@rubyben4337 Жыл бұрын

I want to give you a hug so bad Toke. I can imagine how much judgment you went through with the release of your book and how many uncomfortable spaces you had to sit in or friends that stepped back from you. I was one of those people who finished your book on the first day of release in one sitting in my college dorm room and thought, wow! this is the most courageous African woman I know.

@TokeMakinwa Жыл бұрын

Thank you this means a lot ❤️

@seraphinemoses3486 Жыл бұрын

Name of the book please

@Duloiam Жыл бұрын

@@TokeMakinwa bless u Qing na woman u be ♥️ u much tnk u very much for being u

@momoduvalentina405 Жыл бұрын

@@TokeMakinwa I love your audacity to be all you can and more. Keep going girl❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@florenceflourish6367 Жыл бұрын

@@seraphinemoses3486 unbecoming.....hope got it

@dolapom8735 Жыл бұрын

I genuinely love Toke and Toolz. I honestly didn’t know you guys had issues in the past and I sensed a hint of tension and distance during your conversation. But what I love most is the fact that you talked a bit about it towards the end, and that is growth and I am here for it 👏🏾 👏🏾 . Well done ladies 😘🥰

@reconnecttv1061 Жыл бұрын

Shame the culture of Shame. This conversation is closest to my heart. I love it al!!!

@dammieoke Жыл бұрын

I sooo agre with Toke. Just because a man supports financially and the family doesn't lack anything is not a key to to behave anyhow

@247tonytipon Жыл бұрын

As for daughter and son thing it's all depends on the parents. My mom had boys before the girls. She made a point of duty to train us on how to run all the home chores! We all know how to cook, clean and wash. That experience kept us grounded! It deeply helped us as bachelor's.

@freshangel1 Жыл бұрын

Toke I love how Candid and open you are. You aren’t afraid of saying what’s on everybody’s minds - nobody does it like you

@tutsypie Жыл бұрын

Absolutely!! I like her openness when it comes to reality💯

@Dearanthonia Жыл бұрын

So true! i didn't like Toke for a long time because of her book. I felt it wasn't a good idea but as i grow older and now married, i honestly don't blame her. I'm so obsessed with Toke 😍🥰

@GIGAGO121 Жыл бұрын

Wow. The book made me humanize her. Lol

@imoleayoomokoye6001 7 ай бұрын

❤😊

@ch_obi Жыл бұрын

My darling TM, you spoke the truth, our mothers didn't try for us ladies, oddly remembering the time my friend's mum said a woman belongs to one man but a man belongs to many women, I kid you not, stared at this woman in disbelief.....well let God help us to find the right man/woman who believes in sticking to one partner.......

@PaultheSheik Жыл бұрын

Good luck finding that man. I am Ghanaian and I have to tell you that of the about 110 guys on my school year book platform, only about 8 to 12 that I believe don’t cheat. That’s about 10%. 10%. So good luck to you and all the women out there, you’re all going to be fighting to land that 10% of men who don’t cheat. 100 women each trying to land one of only 10 good men. Kpele for you 😁. Of course you can also choose to be single, your choice.

@adebolaadewunmi177 Жыл бұрын

@@PaultheSheik Let's assume you are right, let me also tell you there are Loads of women who cheat too, I hope you except that your wife will cheat on you also.

@PaultheSheik Жыл бұрын

@@adebolaadewunmi177 We are not "assuming" I am right. I am speaking facts. It is your choice whether to accept it or not. Whether my wife will cheat or not is immaterial to the facts I have presented. It is not my fault you don't like the facts I have presented. It is what it is.

@adebolaadewunmi177 Жыл бұрын

I understand you , I am also stating facts that women also cheat, cheating isn't gender based, Men are only indulged by the society when caught. Paternity fraud has always been in existence and is still in existence. Good luck to you in not raising another man's child @@PaultheSheik

@PaultheSheik Жыл бұрын

@@adebolaadewunmi177 Paternity fraud is less than 2% meanwhile how many African men not only step out on their wives but actually have children with side chicks and second wives? I will conservatively say at least 10%. It is and remains a man's world in Africa dear. I must say I am very happy to be a man.😀 Are you perchance a woman? If so I can understand your frustration.

@NinthJewel Жыл бұрын

Cheating is a choice . If one’s partner cheats - the victim should leave without being judged 👏 thanks for sharing ladies

@TokeMakinwa Жыл бұрын

Absolutely. Thank you

@sorunke2002 Жыл бұрын

You mean should be able to leave without being judged. There's a place for forgiveness for both sides.

@taihannae9792 Жыл бұрын

@@sorunke2002 forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to stay, also you cant tell anyone what to and not forgive everyone has/should have a deal breaker

@joyogaji107 Жыл бұрын

"Shame the culture of shame." Yes ma'am!

@CommonSenseSisters Жыл бұрын

One of the greatest power anyone can utilize on earth 🌍 , is your ability to tell your story unapologetically. Peace ✌️comes when you listen to that still voice within you to forge ahead ❤ be courageous, sooner or later you will find your tribe & impact lives in the process

@VoyageFioreNetwork Жыл бұрын

Don't interject when your guests are speaking, please, you cut your guest a couple of times when she tried to speak or explain something - I still love you and enjoyed this interview. Beautiful quality work my sister. 💖

@maraaba6734 7 ай бұрын

I was about to type the same. I love Toke, but I think she interjects too much to talk about herself.

@Dorastea Жыл бұрын

This just revived my spirit. Thank you for sharing this with the world. I'm up again on my dreams.

@peaceamgbapu3827 Жыл бұрын

Amazing! We need more of such conversations around. Love you TM

@okonkwotina2172 Жыл бұрын

This conversation is everything deep all round that one shouldn’t miss. Thanks for sharing this with us TM

@beea.9435 Жыл бұрын

Beautiful testimony and way to wrap up Toke 👏👏👏

@bilikisolayiwola3136 Жыл бұрын

Toolz was so real . God bless her.

@eniolaodugbesan866 Жыл бұрын

I love this conversation very well. You ladies are really good at what you do

@ibhorsfall326 Жыл бұрын

Felt lots of awkward energy coming from this video. Love them both❤

@simiwuyi Жыл бұрын

I think it's because it is a very personal and often ignored conversation. Especially in Africa.

@kelechiwellington3303 Жыл бұрын

I wish Toolz talked more. Great episode.

@dhunnieakanbi696 Жыл бұрын

I love everything about this conversation.

@azeezatsule3412 Жыл бұрын

Toke your doing so well, Powerful Woman🙌❤️

@oparaesther1493 Жыл бұрын

Please Toke air your program on TV..this! your show is too good to be limited to youtube only

@user-nv7pp1kp6g 2 ай бұрын

So true

@talk2solum Жыл бұрын

Really enjoying this conversation, the honesty from Toolz....👍

@OmaThompson26 Жыл бұрын

I loved everything about this podcast, toolz was a wonderful guest❤

@jesselle28 Жыл бұрын

TM is amazing 🤩🤩 But being paired with toolz🔥🔥🔥🔥 Interesting conversation you both had. Keep at it!❤️

@TokeMakinwa Жыл бұрын

Gracias❤️❤️

@winifreddokubo Жыл бұрын

After 4years of following Toke, I finally achieved this 😂😂😂😂

@Up_skye Жыл бұрын

1st to view and comment??😂

@TokeMakinwa Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

@winifreddokubo Жыл бұрын

I’m literally going to faint right now, Toke liked my comment 💃💃💃

@Zeiny905 Жыл бұрын

@@TokeMakinwa I love you sis. Thanks for connecting with us here.

@estarbablo5972 Жыл бұрын

Been waiting for this to drop on here 😍🥹! Yayy! Congratulations Toke!!

@TokeMakinwa Жыл бұрын

💝💝💝

@marthaadebayo8035 Жыл бұрын

I love listening to TM 😊 it’s educating 🥺❤️

@gcbaby100 Жыл бұрын

I am living to Tools Bubu... Love IT

@kind2423 Жыл бұрын

Toke is my bestie in my head. I love her

@abigailaduwe Жыл бұрын

Thank God BBN is over she's back yayyyy!!!!

@TokeMakinwa Жыл бұрын

Back and better 💃🏾

@abigailaduwe Жыл бұрын

To think this was just a genuine comment with no expectation of you replying ahhhhh you've made my day❤❤❤

@florenceflourish6367 Жыл бұрын

I love this....Toke n Toolz.....Fire.

@joyjames6753 Жыл бұрын

I Love The podcast, very insightful and I love your vibe. Keeping doing you.

@temidayoowojori2317 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this podcast...insightful..Many key take home words☺️🤗

@thehappyroom5673 Жыл бұрын

I really enjoyed this vlog 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

@nassambaolufunke352 Жыл бұрын

Toolz looks absolutely stunning ❤

@graceweah3632 Жыл бұрын

Welcome back toke love 💕 you from Liberia

@folushojoke6146 Жыл бұрын

Love this episode. I really learnt a lot from both of you ❤

@bgsonsthriving. Жыл бұрын

❤❤❤loving every bit of this conversation

@damilolaadesina2662 Жыл бұрын

Such an amazing episode

@AliyahAfolabi Жыл бұрын

This was so interesting 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 we need more conversations like this TM !!! Thank you for being so Real Toolz God bless you and TM ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@hunyeiyanuoluwa8136 Жыл бұрын

Loved every part of this❤️

@officialfiwa5000 Жыл бұрын

The thumbnail of this video is great, nice one!

@funkelovethowonla9402 Жыл бұрын

I've missed you so much. Welcome back.

@queen_yemaya Жыл бұрын

Yay Toke has finally posted!!

@TheRealVeev Жыл бұрын

21:53 and so on is a valuable lesson I learned in 2019. Marriage is like a business partnership. You don't own your spouse and you shouldn't control them. Very very key to have this in mind before tying the knot with anyone.

@olubusolaawolaja6831 Жыл бұрын

Wow! This is deep- that you don’t own your spouse! Many women need to hear this

@ebruphiyoemareyo7687 Жыл бұрын

Mostly men

@ashwithlovee Жыл бұрын

I absolutely love how real this episode was. Thank you Toke❤

@Monalisa.3 Жыл бұрын

This is very exciting!

@lauraezekwe Жыл бұрын

Toke is such a breath of fresh air

@mercygolah-ebue5973 Жыл бұрын

Preach ladies..., light n love always. SHALLOM 🤗😘

@TokeMakinwa Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️

@DEJATHECREATIVE Жыл бұрын

Love it ❤️

@christinaiornongu2571 Жыл бұрын

Toke, if you invite Guest, allow them talk. We all love the sound of your voice and the sense in things your points but allow your Guest talk well well.

@florenceflourish6367 Жыл бұрын

I think it is common to all of them....Even Toolz and Gbemi does same...... It's not formal interview though..this is like gisting with your friend and both of you needed to talk simultenously

@DrBarnsnation Жыл бұрын

Love You Guys‼️

@adorable_hilda6247 Жыл бұрын

I love love love toke 🧚🏼‍♀️

@ingotluxury9344 Жыл бұрын

I love you Toke hopefully soonest you will interview muah and tell my success story.

@Joshuaolalekan Жыл бұрын

TM!!!!was waiting for the visuals since 😭

@favouritefay Жыл бұрын

Video is still downloading but I'm just excited knowing we have a new episode yo!! 💕💃

@TokeMakinwa Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️🥺

@cenolynbenard4676 Жыл бұрын

I love this episode

@estherjanet255 Жыл бұрын

Toke is a 💎 ❤

@officialfiwa5000 Жыл бұрын

I love toolz❤

@nimatdaud876 Жыл бұрын

Toke.. You and this your laugh 😂... I've always listened to your show... But this episode made me a fan..

@AQUABEE19 Жыл бұрын

When I say toolz is my spirit animal 😊

@sandradabby4473 Жыл бұрын

Toke is so hardworking

@theophiluschrislovely1879 Жыл бұрын

🎉🎉🎉Another Episode Thank You Tokstarr🎉❤

@Ladyfaithke Жыл бұрын

This video is worth every minute of one’s time!

@theteawithjane3448 Жыл бұрын

Love it

@anthoniabalogun Жыл бұрын

Great conversation!

@OnyinxE Жыл бұрын

Loved watching this 🥰😍

@thedeoladollars Жыл бұрын

Very interesting conversation…just to chip in something where you said “like is greater than love”, like can never be greater than love what happens is on the days your partner does something you do not like you go back to love which is patient and holds no grudges. So love is in fact greater than like.

@queenruthy8406 Жыл бұрын

Very true 💯

@williamsolawale4208 Жыл бұрын

Marriage comprises of love, passion and commitment. Like and friendship is never part of it.

@thedeoladollars Жыл бұрын

@@williamsolawale4208 friendship and fondness are a fundamental part of marriage.

@williamsolawale4208 Жыл бұрын

@@thedeoladollars if you love someone won't you automatically be friends. I'm just friendships is never the basics to get married.

@oginingangam6386 Жыл бұрын

This was lovely to watch❤

@saratuibrahim1348 Жыл бұрын

Omo toke has been a blessing to me

@eucheriajoseph8390 Жыл бұрын

Nice conversations and topics but I feel the guest is not open enough, Toke did most of the talking and the guest kept avoiding questions 😂 overall the show was amazing ❤

@winniepatricks2686 Жыл бұрын

Toke, you have a striking resemblance with mrs folorunsho alakija.

@mollys360kitchen7 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

@tutsypie Жыл бұрын

Oh myyy Toolz went to Adrao Intl!! AMAZING!! An Alunmi💯💯 whoop whoop!!

@sandradabby4473 Жыл бұрын

Toke my best ❤️❤️❤️

@anthoniabalogun Жыл бұрын

You don't own anyone!This is powerful.

@akakandelwakandepwe6061 Жыл бұрын

This my it conversation 🥺🥺❤

@dollyaji Жыл бұрын

Thanks Toke for this

@abasifrekeetuk7997 Жыл бұрын

Toke is such a natural

@maryslens5330 Жыл бұрын

Tokes you Know I love you. ❤

@talkwithlovetta05 Жыл бұрын

Wow!!!! So educative and interesting.. I mean I was glued to the end... Weldone babes💪👍

@stacyhugues1806 Жыл бұрын

She's Kemi Adetiba's twin

@UwaumaTSP Жыл бұрын

i enjoyed watching this video

@peejaytopbliss Жыл бұрын

Toke, please if the situation happens to you as a mother or mother in-law that u were reported to what advise will u give? Sincerely I was thinking that is the best advice a mother.

@augustaselorm2358 Жыл бұрын

Off Air ooo I can't wait oo

@chiamakaenansofor4660 Жыл бұрын

I learnt a lot from this

@fathers_pride Жыл бұрын

Yay

@beea.9435 Жыл бұрын

Beautiful show... Love Toke's "as a matter of fact persona" and I could listen to Toolz speak forever...such a lovely voice, mannerisms and composure. Toke.... Try let your guests land on their points though. I understand your passion and excitement but be cautious.

@maryambenson5835 Жыл бұрын

I agree 💯. Toke please let your guests land with their points and reduce interruptions / interjecting.

@maameadjoapokuaaasare9572 Жыл бұрын

I agree

@damilola732 Жыл бұрын

Toks love your two piece,where is it from?

@lovelynjoseph8452 Жыл бұрын

Toke i love u ❤️❤️❤️

@Mosiwomeka Жыл бұрын

Tokstarr ❤️❤️❤️

@inthestyleofuzezi Жыл бұрын

This I enjoyed conversation errthang. Host and guest and how the conversation flowed.

@dancinginthepurplereign4126 Жыл бұрын

My favorite baby girl for life! Congratulations on your new podcast!

@byst8729 Жыл бұрын

A man cheats based on how he feels about himself. It’s based on insecurities and ego.

@carolynololade4126 Жыл бұрын

Period!!! You said it all in a simple sentence.

@mercypheltrum2489 Жыл бұрын

Pls throw more light pls

@sweetspice9120 Жыл бұрын

@@mercypheltrum2489 if the guy needs external validation he will cheat. It has nothing to do with his partner. An insecure man with no personal discipline

@ekeochaoluchisandra5868 Жыл бұрын

I enjoyed every bit of this... God bless you both for being real

@jaiyeolaolaribigbe6518 Жыл бұрын

God bless the man who reached out to Toke after reading her book. A man or woman WITHOUT DEFINED VALUES (based on morality not money in the bank) in his/her mentality cheats. It leads to 2/3/4/5-timing with multiple partners, increases selfishness and depletes the soul. The end. ⚡️

@TheRealVeev Жыл бұрын

That laugh at 6:41 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣