Yeah, why doesn't anyone ever ask men why they're child free? All the pressure is dumped on women to defend their reasons for not wanting children.

My 3 reason: 1. I was raised by a single parent and I refuse the possibility of repeating that life. 2. Women die from child birth or pregnancy complications and there is no plan of action to change those odds. 3. As one person said the expectations of parenting between men and women are not the same. Women are called lazy for wanting a break for themselves and men are praised for taking the kids to the park.

I was a 19-year old mother who gave my daughter up for adoption. The sheer amount of hatred I faced...not just for my ORIGINAL plan to abort...but for my ultimate plan to give birth and give her away...was astounding. But here's an interesting tidbit: Clinically, I am considered to be a woman with psychopathic traits. I've been diagnosed with a personality disorder. Part of that disorder includes me being hostile, dissociated, antisocial, narcissistic, rageful, petty, and manipulative. People knew that about me long before I ever conceived and they were sure to never let me slip by without criticism. It was always about how horrible MY disorder made them feel when they were exposed to my treatment of them. I was always the enemy, always called crazy and told that my life would be restricted. Yet..... When I conceived and gave my daughter away, I was poached for "abandoning my duties as a mother." And for being weak and selfish. So, wait...you just got done spending the last 5 years telling me I'm mentally insane and now you EXPECT me to keep AND raise a child? You expect a mentally disordered mother who is unable to form emotional attachments to be the single parent of another human being? I knew from day 1 that I felt nothing for my child and I wanted her out of me. So if you think I failed my duties as a mother for being the adult and realizing that? You're probably the crazy one. News flash: not every woman who conceives and gives birth is a MOTHER.

I hate it when some people shame other's for not wanting to have kids.

I’m not sure if people are aware of the costs of raising a child. Especially the times we’re living in

“I don’t even want to be here”…. That’s is the most wonderful explanation. I’m not thinking of self harm but if given the option I would just go.

I love my unborn children SO much that I've decided to make the decision of keeping them 'unborn' as opposed to bringing them to this place where the suffering and trauma is almost too much to bear. Like the first woman said: I don't want to be here my damned self. Why would I bring a child into this?!

The overall underlying reasons is that people just want the freedom

I’m uninterested in permanently attaching myself to a man through kids. I love my freedom If I ever change my mind there are thousands of children to adopt from. 🥂

1. Cant predict the man 2. Cant predict the child 3. Cant predict the world 🎉😅

1. Kids… in this economy??? 2. Freedom 3. I already have plenty on nieces and nephews I love and care deeply about

Reasons I am a mother to one, regretted my decision and never had any more: 1. I never fully understood the responsibility 2. Thought I'd have some support, didn't 3. Never thought past the 0-2 year mark 4. Didn't realise how hard it is 5. Thought it was something I was supposed to do. 6. I assumed his father would wake up one day and be responsible, never happed. 7. Never realised i wouldn't see my six pack again 8. I'm actually pretty selfish and being a parent highlighted this 9. I messed up my potential 10. Kid is pretty cool. I've done a relatively good job so far but never again!

1. The thought of being a single mother is LITERALLY my worst nightmare. 2. I'm not using my portal to bring a SINGLE soul onto this prison plant. I'm not participating in trapping another life here to be a slave to capitalism, fight for work, housing, a livable wage, recessions and living through MULTIPLE historic life events etc. I refuse!! 3. My temper. I don't have the patience to deal with crappy teachers, school bullies or all the drama of a growing child.

1: Freewill and Evil exist 2: I'm not creating a new slave for the system 3: I'm convinced Earth is HELL

I don’t want to ruin my body or my bank account.

I think the girl who was washing her face said something that a lot of women aren’t ready to hear. That a lot of women just want the experience of having all eyes on them at that moment and all the fun preparations that come with it. I think what it really comes down to is, it’s not that you really want to have a child, but you just want something to HAPPEN to you. You want to be planning something, looking forward to something, have somebody congratulate you, have someone dote on you, etc. Especially as a woman. You want to be entered into the sorority of motherhood because society doesn’t like women with no children. After high school, there aren’t a lot of chances and opportunities to celebrate if you’re not climbing the corporate ladder or trying to start a family. If you’re childfree or single and childfree then, unless it’s your birthday, no one has a definitive reason to celebrate you. So a lot of people feel sad and hurt when they see other people getting married, having children, buying houses, and doing well. They want the joy that comes with a brand new life experience, even if that means not doing the work to actually get it or not being prepared for the work to maintain it.

I love that it’s the younger generation that’s actually RESPONSIBLE!

I respect these women for being true to themselves and for being so responsible.

I'd like to see women who have children explain why they had or will have children.

1. It is hella expensive 2. I don’t want the responsibility of parenthood (it is a time-consuming and miserable job, and you may lose your identity as an individual) 3. I love my freedom and money (being financially independent is amazing and beautiful) Bonus: we are 8 BILLION people. There will be kids around anyway.

Childfree here bcus my god I cannot overstate enough how much i love peace/quiet/serenity! How much i love reading by the fireplace with a glass of wine, the random nights out with friends i happened to make the day before, the random cinema dates/coffee dates.. I’m obsessed with the fact that Im not tied down (to a baby). I love the childfree life Ive created for myself. My god i love it!

I never knew there were a lot of childfree women. Thank God I have people to relate to. 😩

I've never been interested in motherhood and can think of a million things I'd rather do that are way less stressful tbh. I didn't even like baby dolls as a kid. As an unambiguous BW I can't even explain the way people's microaggressions jump out when I say I'm childfree and happy living a life on my terms...it's undeniable how little people think of women who present the way I do (locs, long nails, bright colors, etc). they automatically assume (even if it's is not blatant) that I'm unwed, uneducated, with kids all over the place. It's super weird how so many people (black and non black) become visibly uncomfortable when they see the life I actually have vs the one they assumed.

Don't need 3 reasons....only 1 reason... I DON'T WANT THEM!!!

People need to understand that someone's decision to not have children is not a criticism of your decision to have children.

I am childfree by choice as well as romantic relationship free 1. I already can't sleep, I get very short and frustrated easily when I don't sleep now, imagine having a kid and being aggesively sleep deprived 2. I am under no illusion that anyone would actually help me, the village to raise children no longer exists. and I do not believe that I would get a spouse who would be involved 3. They are expensive and time consuming

I am 71 yrs old, I have 2 grown sons who are doing well and both have long term partners. Neither are married and have no plans to have children. I'm often asked if I will regret not being a grandmother, my answer is simple, it's not my call. My sons have the right to make these choices for their lives and I support their choices. I have so much respect for the women who are making choices for their lives with so much thought and care. Their is nothing selfish about it.

🙋🏽‍♀️ Child free 32 year old here. (1) Im not married; (2) Too expensive; (3) I ❤ my freedom & prioritizing me.

The reason I am child free because of The support (emotional, financial, mental) isn’t guaranteed, fraudulent hospital/government control, and loving my sleep.

The United States does not provide proper support to mothers or parents, in general.

People are never happy with other people decisions, misery needs company. I have one child and people still asked me, when is the second one coming even do they know I almost die from bleeding ulcers two years ago and still suffering with health issues from that terrifying episode. I have a lot respect for this women, that decided to love their children so much that they don’t want them here in this trash society from one group taking rights away and holding the country hostage for their selfish beliefs.

That first woman saying “I don’t even want to be here” hit a little too close to home lol My narcissistic mother can’t be trusted to not abuse grandkids so I don’t even feel pressure from her to ave kids with my fiancé/soon-to-be husband - even though she tries to pressure me lmao

Why is it even seen as selfish (specifically for women) to not want to have kids??? Its so weird and then people will attempt to fear monger and pressure you as if a womans only purpose and road to happiness is kids....

My top 3 reasons for not wanting kids 1.) I’m selfish asf ! I like to live my life on my terms & not others. 2.) They’re too expensive & I can barely afford my lifestyle now. 3.) I don’t like the idea of the kid is mine no matter what & the man I have it by can just walk out & pop in when they want. I’d leave the kid on your doorstep & be called a deadbeat mother before you think you’re about to leave me with a kid to raise. Bonus reason : I love my freedom, I love to come & go as I please. I have a really sporadic lifestyle, I don’t do routines at all & I wanna keep it that way !

1. I enjoy my money/freedom/space/clean house 2. I’m not willing to be a single parent…married or not 3. I’ve never had a desire to be a mom 🤷🏽‍♀️

I suffer from depression and anxiety. So did my mother before she had me. After she did, the postpartum depression exacerbated her existing mental health issues and became post-partum psychosis. She NEVER RECOVERED HER MENTAL HEALTH. She was disabled for LIFE. My father, like most men, could NOT COPE with a woman who required long-term care and their marriage fell apart. The religion they were in (JW) is notoriously TERRIBLE about mental health issues. The country we lived in, in the Caribbean has TERRIBLE services for those needing help with mental health. Her mental illness made her unable to parent. Growing up with a mother who was sometimes too depressed to get out of bed for DAYS ON END to do basic tasks like making meals and cleaning up and I was parentifed at a very early age. By 9 I was cooking meals for myself and my stepbrother (yes, she went on to have MORE children *sigh*) and me and him walked miles by ourselves to the children's library to spend the entire day in a safe, clean place with some adult supervision, while she lay strung out. This was enough for me to NEVER want to subject an innocent child to the very high risk I have of having the same problem. Pregnancy and childbirth can irreparably change a woman's physical and mental health. They do not speak about this enough. Mental illness runs in my family. Why would I risk it? In THIS, backward, developing part of the world, without proper mental health services, especially.

The only reason that matters: I just don’t want them 🤷🏽‍♀️

One : men can create children and then demean women for not being tied to the father Two: men can abandon their child and you get blamed because you chose him Three: everything about your life changes to accommodate a baby because the man always has the option of being forced through the state to help the minimum amount It’s a set up to make women dependent on men who have every intention of gaslighting you and bartering his help during minor disagreements or because he wants to cheat … men act the worst after they’ve compromised your life with a child

I'm 40 I love my money, time and freedom.

I’m very much *ON THE FENCE.* I love how the majority of my concerns have been voiced throughout the stitches, and my greatest concern is bringing a child into this world to live a life of *pain, danger, and struggle,* no matter what you do… and I won’t be able to save them every time. 😔

I have 7! 1. I just don't like kids. Period! 2. Compared to human kids, dogs and cats are practically better in every way! 3. I don't have the money and resources for myself plus an extra person. 4. I was raised by narcissistic parents and a bullying older sister, so I want to spend the rest of my life focused on me and my recovery. 5. I have autism and I don't think I can handle a kid with autism should it pass through me. 6. I don't want to pass on my generational trauma. And 7. My abusive parents don't deserve grandkids. Amen!

I am soooo happy that more women are starting to speak on this matter. LOL about to be 33 and thought I was the only one who felt this way about having kids!

It's her body her choice...good for her🙏🏾

Here's my reasons 1. I don't want to continue the dysfunctional cycle for another generation like my parents did with me and my brother 2. I don't feel the need to become a parent 3. Having a child is expensive I grew up poor I don't want to end up like my mother who struggled taking care of me and my brother by herself because my father was in and out of jail

I too am a childfree woman. 44 years old. Never wanted them. Notice how all these women are extremely smart and articulate. It's sad that a lot of the ones having children are not a lot of the time.

Being a mother holds a whole lot more responsibility than being a father. You are expected to constantly give and sacrifice for the sake of everything else. I love my peace, freedom, sleep too much to commit to parenthood.

1. I used to be a babysitter

I'm the oldest daughter of six siblings, practically had kids all my life 😂 I love my freedom too much

I hope all these women who choose to be child free succeed in lowering the population, helping to save our earth and lowering the number of people so bosses have to pay us a living wage. This has so much potential

It’s really scary and a huge responsibility to be a parent. I respect parents, but I think woman who decide not to have kids should also be respected and not questioned.

If I was wealthy I would have children right now. I could afford assistance and my children would grow up without struggle.

3:28 you took the words out of my mouth I’m also a introvert I need to be away from people to recharge my battery 😁 My mental health

I'm a very irresponsible person, I live very carelessly and carefree. I have two cats, but I very rarely have to do much with them. They mostly go out and play in the woods and come back whenever for food and sleep. I'm not rich or anything but I'm very comfortable and my job is easy. I absolutely love my life very much.

My primary reasons for being childfree is personal freedom & autonomy, getting a copious amount of sleep, peace & quiet, getting myself ready in the morning for work, going out on a whim whether planned or unplanned, grocery shopping & cooking for myself, clean home, numerous amount of time to study/work on my crafts & hobbies, going to the gym/doing yoga/bike riding, shopping for nice clothes, getting my hair & nails done, among other mental health & self-care fulfilments to relieve stress of a long work week. The list goes on, but I must say that being CF is worth it & not worth being jealous, sad, or regretful about. #YouDoYou

Every single comment in this series IS VALID.....trust me! BUT at 61 years old I'm glad I have a 28 year old daughter as my bestie. Girls, the sacrifice is real and I'm happy that ALL of you are thinking about the liabilities of having children. WELL DONE! 😊😊

Since being child free, I'm free to quit jobs i hate and not be forced to work for SHXT because i have kids, free to do what i want, when i want, I'm free to sleep in!! Hubby and I get to take care of ourselves! We get to baby each other. All of my money is MY MONEY! i can go shopping and all the money i make is play,play money (fashion, travel, fun times), body isn't ruined, love my autonomy, i can divorce and leave anyone and not be attached to them or their dumb family through kids!! Once am done with you am done with you and your family!! I get sleep in on weekends, weekdays, i can watch cartoons as much as i want to, hell I CAN BE A BIG KID MYSELF!! SO MUCH FREEDOM IN NOT HAVING KIDS!!

“I don’t EVEN wanna be here”…😂😂😂 Yea, yea, yea… I’m with you there!

I just don't trust anyone. I trust myself but it's unfortunate that I can't trust others it sucks.

I'm child free and plan to stay that way. My top two reasons are the dance at most people 1. Financial and 2. It's time consuming. But for me, 3. I'm not close to my family, and I grew up an only child. I really believe in "it takes a village", so raising kids ALL on my own would drain me SO bad mentally and physically.

I don’t want to have to keep anyone else alive other than myself.

I agree with women who said that the level field between women and men is no where near equal when it comes to raising kids. And I will probably end up resenting my partner in the end!

The women at the 8min mark about the all the "baby" things....I believe that's what 75% of women who want/have children envision is all those cute "baby" things and then the reality of having an actual human hits .....and they find out it was not for them. ....that's why they hit the repeat button so many times.

My top 3 reasons: 1) this world is a bad place and no kid deserves to be raised in it. Danger is EVERYWHERE and I REFUSE to risk a child's safety or wellbeing. Plus the future looks GRIM with the planet heating up and AI etc. 2) As a psychologist I know kids put a HUGE amount of strain into a relationship. No 1 reason of marital conflict is kids. Not money, not infidelity, not incompatibility. KIDS. And I'm not risking losing the love of my life because a kid came between us. And, last but not least, 3) Motherhood is a DEMANDING job which will inevitably put a whole lot more stress and unhappiness in my life. And my ONLY goal in life is to make it through as stress-free and happy as humanly possible. Having kids goes 100% against that goal.

My 3 main reasons for being childfree: 1. My Physical Health - I have 2 different areas of my body that give me chronic pain and will for the rest of my life and I have barely enough energy to look after myself let alone another human. 2. I'm an Introvert - I LOVE my alone time, people just in general stress me out. 3. The World we live in - The suffering, Global Warming, War, Poverty and everything else. I am of the opinion that it would be selfish to bring a child into this world the way it is at this current time because the world is bat sh*t crazy. I'm actually glad to see that there are other people who are seeing what I'm seeing when it comes to the societal pressure of having kids and how much we are being lied to about parenthood. I also agree with the girl from the first stitch I didn't ask to be here and I want off this hell ride already and I'm only 26.

My son has battled cancer since 5 months old and now he is 22 months old. We are living in hospice care because there is no cure for him. So I will be living a child free life soon. Idk how I could chance not having a healthy baby again so I'm looking into maybe living the child free life after he passes. He's been sooo much extra work. I love him, but I have gave up everything for him including my sanity. What a tragedy. I brought him into this world and all he knows is suffering from cancer.

its so good to see all these women with the same desicion ✨

The question should not be "why don't you want to have children?". It should be "do you want to be a mother?". Everyone should think long and hard on that - what makes a mother? What makes a good mother? Am I willing/able to do what it takes?

All three of my reasons is, I don't have that desire for being a mother.

My Top 3 reasons why I choose to be childfree as a man: 1. Children are too expensive AF 2. Too much responsibility in childcare 3. This is a disgusting and cruel world Nope, I DON'T WANT children!!!!!!🤨🤨🤨🤨💯

The lady scrolling to number 3 was HILARIOUS! She had so many reasons. 😂😂😂😂😂 I too chose to be childless and agree with everyone who gave their reasons. Best decision of my life. ❤

I don’t have the capacity I worry about myself enough. Know yourself.

I'm cheering for all of you. I became a mom at 17. It was very stressful. Don't get me wrong, I love my son very much However I knew after I had him, I wasn't going to do it again UNLESS I met a good stable high earning spouse. That never happened. I struggled with trauma in my childhood it made things extremely difficult on top of all the regular stressors. My son is 32. I'm happy I decided not to have more. It was a serious struggle for both of us. I think it's wonderful that these people know what they want or are capable of. Don't let anyone put you down for not reproducing! You're making he right decision!!

The question should be “why do you want to have kids” not “why don’t you want to have kids”

Yes im child free and I love it.

Thats why I say pro-lifers don’t actually care about life.

When my son was 7 he pulled me aside and said, "mom, you and dad are doing a good job with me and my brother, BUT, I never want to have kids". I asked him why? and he said, "I want to be a scientist and I want to place all my focus and efforts into that". He's 18 now, started University this fall and is majoring in Physics.

My top 3 reasons: I don't want kids I never wanted kids I don't want kids 🤷🏽‍♀️

Kids are expensive. Kids are for life and not just for Xmas. I get bored easily.😉

I just made 44 and still. Childless. I was made to believe like a lot of us that you are not a woman if you do not have children. They dont tell you all of the pros and cons that comes with this. I was born with diabetes. In my younger life I was pregnant 3 times. All miscarriages. Never married. After the 3rd time and I wasn't trying, I looked at me harder and told myself that I needed to do better. Financially I'm not good. I been seen I would be doing this by myself. Looking for my momma to help all the time was selfish because my daddy wasn't going to help. And don't get me started on the the daddy that would been. Smh. I left it alone and glad I was blessed to be able to. The majority of us dont get this. I dont look down on anyone that is choosing to do this. Stop judging. The majority would chose different if they could do it all over again truth be told. 👀

This demonstrates the power and importance of language. In my youth, you only ever heard “childless” or even worse, “barren.” Child free suggests choice and positivity, I’m so glad this is what we call a woman these days, when she doesn’t have children.

I'm 49 and childfree with no regrets. These are my three reasons. The first and GREATEST REASON for me is money. I am already a fiscally conservative person, so I always have more than enough money. Being financially responsible for a whole other person literally makes me nauseous just thinking about it. Second reason; the responsibility of shaping another person's life. That's a crazy burden in my opinion. I know that God doesn't make mistakes but the burden on parents to bring children up "right" just doesn't feel feasible to me. It's just too much. And third (but there are MANY MORE reasons); personal time. I NEED MY TIME FOR ME. Honestly, life is very difficult, especially if you're the type of person who is very conscientious and believes in consistent personal self-development, which I am. My life literally is a journey of self-discovery and personal development. I do not have the time nor the desire to step away from my own journey, only to then have to completely focus on guiding my child through their journey. I'm still working on me and I prefer to focus my time and energy on my own self actualization.

I didn’t set out to be child free, but it was the result of my life circumstances and choices. I’ve never wanted to have a child with the wrong person (ie someone who won’t be heavily involved in the child’s life) and since I’ve never met the right person, I find myself where I am today. That said, I’m not sad about not having kids the way some women would at my age (late 40s). So I am not child free by choice, but I’m not upset about it. My anxiety would be thru the roof imagining the future my child would have, the financial responsibilities, etc. All in all, I think it was the right path for me.

1. I like my stream of consciousness to be uninterrupted. 2. I like my sleep uninterrupted. 3. Pregnancy/childbirth don’t look like fun.

Let me first start by saying all these comments make me smile. 😊😊😊 i love that this generation is waking up!!! Ase. So proud of yall. As antinatalist, i truly feel this whole life experince of surviving to make it safely to our death beds is insanely stupid, and i have no reason to bring another being into that. If i have to suffer so my nonexistent children will never know 1 day of suffering, that is truly what selflessness is all about! Childfree women research peaceful exit methods so u will be ready to exit this earth when u are ready to.

We need a Child-Free (is the way to be) holiday to celebrate!

I don't like kids. I was bullied for 15 years so I know how evil and ruthless they can be and how society still says they are so sweet and innocent.

When people ask if you want to have kids it best to say “Perhaps if I find the right guy.” This will usually shut down the conversation without having all the intrusive additional questions and trying to convince you that you should. Unfortunately people especially elders think they have rights over a woman’s womb and will gaslight and pressure women (especially if they are young) to have kids. In addition pregnancy has been historically weaponized to keep women “in their place”.

We live in a world that preys on children. They cost tooo damn much. I work with them I just know I don’t want one of my own.

If I weren't craving my space and autonomy so much _(also challenged with neurodivergence),_ I would consider adoption/ fostering since the child is already here. I believe more healthy people should consider this _(esp. if their concerns are environmental or pregnancy/childbirth)_ vs. entertaining the desire to have biological children. Adoption costs should also be more reasonable.

1. World conditions. I can not in good conscience bring a innocent child here. 2. The never ending fight to have your basic needs met is insane. 3. Mental health issues. I suffer from depression and anxiety. I can’t imagine trying to care for my child when some days I struggle to find a reason to go on. 4. Family trauma and diseases. These genes stop with me. 5. I’m black and so is my spouse and the thought of having a son terrifies me. Bringing a son here and knowing that i honestly can’t protect him from systemic racism keeps me up at night. I have many many more but these are my main reasons.

Men hold no empathy or remorse. Not the best choice to give your children to. He wouldn’t understand your pain

I LOVE the women with the red hair and black hat in her car and the lady in the bathroom with the furbaby. They are AWESOME!!

So I decided to make a list of why I'm childfree. Up to 103 so far. Decided to be childfree since I was 12. Don't even ask me why I was thinking about that 😂 but I'm glad that I did. It's been 17 years and ain't changed my mind since. 17 years down, forever to go 🤌🏿

People with children do the LEAST within the volunteer/altruistic sphere. I run an animal rescue and guess who barely ever contributes to helping animals in need, to the point where they'll see tiny kittens in danger in their yard and still won't take action because they have kids, and that justifies their inaction? And guess who creates the most problems in terms of animal abandonment (dumping their pet at the kill shelter due to pregnancy or a new baby) or overall neglect of their pet due to finances because "I got kids and it's expensive." The most useful people within this arena are child-free women. They're the most compassionate and empathetic. We rarely see mothers of young children doing anything useful, including adopting animals in need. It's like they're paralyzed when it comes to giving back.

“ *I don’t even want to be here.* ” A lot of people don’t want to be here on this planet. Yet women keep creating them…. As women are elevating in our consciousness, we need to stop being so selfish and creating people just so that they can suffer on this planet, and we can feel “accomplished” as women. It’s crazy.

my main 3 reasons: 1. I don't have the mental capacity, still dealing with and working through the trauma from the abuse I endured from my parents 2. money, we (hubby and I) don't make enough to give a child a good life 3. I'm an introvert I need time alone to recharge

The pet giraffe took me out. Lmfao!!!! 😂😂😂😂

Im not risking my life for a thankless job

My 3 main reasons stating childfree: 1. The world is f’cked up. Bringing a child into this world just means that child has to suffer. 2. I love my childfree lifestyle and I don’t want to limit things. Cause I will travel, love my sleep and quiet times. 3. If my parents have genes diseases? Why passing that to their descendants. They have no descendants. Their lineages ends with me.

1. money (kids are too expensive) 2. Delivering a baby looks painful and scary, and I do not want to do it. 3. the responsibility of being in charge of someone else's life...I do not want to do that.