Right like why don’t you have custody of your child the judge definitely should’ve asked

Exactly

It’s not always that easy

I had physical custody of my daughter for two years because the mom sent her to me. I immediately submitted for a modification and they ignored it for two whole years. Still charged me and garnished my wages even though my daughter was living with me exclusively and they knew it. I was at risk of being sent to jail, having my DL revoked and a number of other legal issues all because my ex didn’t think it through and got us into the legal system. Fast forward to today I now have 100% legal and physical custody because my ex got caught up in some legal stuff with CPS and had all her parental rights taken away and other children placed in foster care. I say all this to remind everyone it’s not always up to you. The states are incentivized to put men on CS orders and collect on the interest whether you’re a good father or not

Right. It’s like where is the gratitude for what she is doing for YOUR child?

just my 2cents worth of thoughts - But it sounds like your Aunt was a unique person who stepped in on your behalf - not many kids have that, some sadly are stuck with the parents who birthed them. Hugs -

Agreed.

@@jmariew9966 Agreed 100%! I see people with kids smoking weed around them, playing filthy music, cursing around them, throwing trash out their window while on the road, no car seat for them, babies in the front seat and so on... I was raised by just my dad after my parents split at the age of ten. Dad was a coal miner who worked 12+ hours a day who after his shift came home, got cleaned up, went to sleep then repeat and one of my fondest memories with him was a time we went to a tobacco shop so he could get his cherry skoal, after we were back in his truck just getting settled in and in front of us was someone in their car who opened his door and proceeded to throw trash out, not just a paper wrapper or something, fast food cups, bags, cans etc... Dad said nothing while we watched what said person was doing he just got out of his truck, walked up and started throwing all that persons trash back in his car all over him while saying things i couldnt hear but knew was something along the lines that let that person know he was unworthy of breathing the same oxygen we did lol. Mom on the other hand was nothing like dad. She would send me to her plug about a half a mile down the road with cash to get what she told me was her "medicine" as early as 5 years old, beat me with fists when I was around maybe 7ish cause I poured out a 6 pack of beer, watched her bring in men while dad was at work as well as having to listen to them having sex from the next room. I could go on forever with that woman but wont.... Like you said, count yourself lucky and don't hold any grudges or let your parents choosing their needs over you hurt you cause if you had lived with them instead of your aunt your life most likely would have been full of toxicity and destructive influences.

@@williammullens63 yes indeed happy for you sounds like your dad did really well.

The issue i have from this site why is the son living with his aunt instead of the dad

the judge should ask "do you want the custody back?"

He says he sees his child when he can cause he has a rough schedule with his job

As a person who went through something similar. What I will say is that you can tell that the reason why he didn't have custody of his child. It's because of something that they did.

And complains about supporting him. He's repulsive, arrogant and selfish. Thank goodness the little boy has his Aunt. ❤️🇺🇸

He never lost custody the mom took her kids and dropped them off at the sister's and never came back

The child is four, if she wants someone to help with bills theirs four things she can do. 1. Get a job 2. Ask 3. Give the son to the father he didn't lose custody he was alienated from his son by the mother 4. Get married so you can have a joint income coming into the home. This is why women get a bad reputation with men. If YOU want something YOU should ask. Definitely when someone is already paying child support for this child.

@@lovablechipz7742it’s not even her kid tho. Clearly he don’t want his kid, the least he can do is pay

@sadiehumboldt you don't know that. Just a little background since you obviously didn't do research; the mother was having a disagreement with him, so she took the kids and dropped them at the sister's and left them there for months while he (assumingly) was looking for her and the kids, he clearly hints at the sister and mother manipulating others against him.

Who would trust this "financial advisor" with their money?

@@lovablechipz7742 you absolute goofball, he has a stable job and a good income. if he wanted his kid he would fight for custody, idk how some of yall are so braindead

i’ll never understand that. My ex is like that. hoping we can get child support soon for once

I deal with that same shit, my kids dad only gives when he sees fit. He says cuz my kids are on disability that's his child support. POS only knows how to buy toys and treats and only pays for the phone bill. That won't feed 2 kids.

He didn't even pay for food!

I agree 100%. In a new vein I think the aunt is liable to ASK for what the child needs. None of this, "He should know better" nonsense. That doesn't take care of a child but I'm glad she took him to court.

I had a friend that literally would buy his kids 1 pair of shoes from Target once a year!😢

Why don’t these dudes understand the impact that kids have on electricity, gas and water? I PROMISE you her bills would be lower if she wasn’t taking care of _several_ kids that aren’t hers. 😒

Well Said!

also the whole time antagonizing her. Laughing acting like that $800 is just for her bills.

He is far from an awesome Dad!

Hahahahahahaha. You're so wrong.

I don’t believe this man is a Financial Advisor AT ALL.. I work for a FA & he makes his own schedule. He’s a family oriented man & work NEVER comes before it. I guess he thought saying that would make him sound so busy & unable to care for his child lol this guy is a joke.

He could be great at his job but not a good parent, two separate things. And he said he works for a bank so probably doesn’t have the ability to fully set his schedule, but that doesn’t mean he shouldn’t have custody and take care of his child. Seems like the aunt would have no problem helping him out

Dude is full of pride. Just slick.

That and, "You obviously came here to waste my time!"

I’d pay for those shirts 🤣🤣🤣

I used the “Don’t be sorry just don’t do it” on my grandson the other day. Lol

It is 😀 I watched one of her other videos, and she said she has about 3 tshirts coming out with her sayings 😀

and “you just came here to waste my time”😂💀

Had the new baby mama read it.

Okkkkk he just stupid

Bc those are always on the top corner of the paper when you get served or in the middle. But I agree how did he not know what it was about yet he knew the date time and location. That's normally right on the front page. The details are in the rest of the packet. I have a copy of my own paperwork for when I had Court for my child. My baby dad did the same thing and then screamed out "that's all you beeps want is my money" naw dead beat Derek. Said the one who literally left me and took all my money and left me with nothing for your daughter but You laid down with all 4 of us and made these babies with us you can financially support all 4 of your babies.

The marshall tells you when they hand you the paperwork. The paperwork and extra copies are to ensure there is no way you don't know the claim and also to have a copy on you.

😂😂😂😅

You've obviously never been a financial advisor. They work out of banks and they often work late hours. It's never just 9-5 for those people. Most banks only have one financial advisor, 9-7 every day. Some days it's 9-9. Those people work like dogs.

@@nenecuba4068 you can tell he really aiint giving any money just by the way he has snickered everytime he says he pay money he contradicted him self by saying he had paid 300-500 monthly then when the judge brung it up that it was combined he said you can say that.

She is raising his child! The fact that he is snickering about it all and upset about paying child support is not a good father ..

He will never make the effort to get full custody because it would really cramp his style. Afterall, he is the "King".

You would think

did i miss why he doesnt have custody?

i think he could be mad bc shes gonna spend the money on herself rather than the child

​@mihaelavelichkovska6063 no he's gaslighting her to make it seem that way but he definitely needs to pay for that child staying there with her

Why shouldn't she spend that money on herself? If I'm looking after someone else's kid I am going to be expecting to be paid. That is not her child. She is not the mum.

Lol ...I know this happens in the real world, but this is not real and people get so mad!

​@@walkingwithkate7900 that money is for the child's clothes and shoes and other items needed

You missed when the mother came to court. She had asked her sister if she would like her niece and nephew for the summer and never came back for them. When the mother came to court she said she had decided she didn’t want to be a mother anymore! She wanted to concentrate on her career. She was the most annoying woman ever, and resisted even paying, but the judge put a stop to that and ordered her to pay. This father’s smugness is also annoying. He comes to court dripping in jewels , works at a bank which basically is a 9 to 5. But he only picks up the child when he can, and doesn’t think he should regularly do that or contribute money? A woman who has no children took his child in, and he is calling her money hungry?

Looking at you I see why you would say that.. lol You wish you could look like king

😂😂😂😂

@@KingBailey3wipe you’re dirty mouth after zipping his pants 😂

$60k is wayyyy more money than the average American household income. He’s just weird

I don't think that's the case. He probably was paying her money when she asked for it. It's not his fault that she never asked for the money. He was surprised that she took him to court as she obviously never even talked to him about money. And her excuse of that "he should know" is ridiculous. No one is psychic and he knew that she was getting money from the mom. He probably thought that was enough for the kid. This was frivolous and the only reason she got away with it is because the law allows for it. Something tells me that going forward he's not going to be sending her the cash app amounts or the school supplies. She wants child support? That makes her responsible for everything.

honestly thats all i could keep thinking, like if thats the case why dont you have custody over your child

You do know that non-custodial parent does not equal unfit? Right?

sure its just the fact that they just need to understand if they didnt want to pay child support then he should have took custody over his child @@jamesclugston1626

Facts!

@@jamesclugston1626noncustodial but the kid is with the aunt, not even the mom. That’s the point; the dad would take precedence over an aunt so what happened that he doesn’t have his kid?

Wow, he's an amazing dad!!!! Sarcasm..... Why doesn't he have his child anyway?

The moneys for his Son , hes a fool of a father,laughing like a ignorant moron,

She picked a bad man to lay with and have a child with, what a dummy.

Sadly and this is going to sound racist and sexist but it's because of the stereotypes form some reason a dad that acknowledges there child is considered good and a black dad who acknowledges there child is considered great. The reason this has happened is because of the stereotypes that a black man will always run out on the family and that a white man's only job it teach his son how to become him and threaten to kill every boyfriend his daughter brings home and society has normalized this kind of behavior by setting it as the standard and anything above this as amazing which is honestly just disgusting.

“Im an amazing dad but my kid doesn’t life with me and Im not regularly supporting them” 😂 cracks me up

@@hollyb750 I was about to say the same thing! I’m AMAZING, but my child doesn’t live with me or his mother. They’re both sorry.

Yes he’s an “amazing” father whose child has to live with their aunt

@@hinarahyuga1684 dude, i know a guy who beats his kids n wife black and blue, he still praise himself as a great parent!

Or those who say all of it should only be spent on the child for toys, games, etc...🤷‍♀️

In USA you cannot detrmind child cost on water clearly so no. In this country theres a formula for those costs.

This! I am disabled at this point with a daughter of 9. I have a friend that has the same income as me and she keeps telling me her financial state is so much worse... and I keep telling her that besides food and clothes a kid also uses a lot more energy

Thank you! The bills had everything to do with it. Child support is for the bills, food, clothes, school etc.The least he coulda did was contribute to that since she has his child. The aunt was valid in everything that she said.

🥰🥰

I love seeing her drink her tea. 😮

The mug should say “don’t be sorry just don’t do it.”

Y🤣ap

It’s funny when she do it🤣😂😂

HE is the reason? lol

I looked at it during ope enrollment how much the difference is for just me and a dependant. If someone asked me right now, I would have no idea. I don't have it in front of me, and I don't remember

That's why We just get passports and leave amerikkkan black women here

Right

Same here. My parents divorced when I was 6 months old. My "dad" used to give my mom about $300 every time he showed up. He showed up like 5 times during my childhood. He went out to live his best life not caring about me whatsoever. Got a new wife and 2 kids with her. Had a huge house with a pool. Software engineer, once when i visited him, he talked about elephants that he had seen in Asia. Meantime I didnt even have enough money to buy ice cream in the summer as a child. As far as he is concerned he has a total of 2 kids. He never calls, never messages, he just doesnt care. I dont think he regrets or feels guilty at all about not having any type of relationship with me.

I don't think he was saying he's not supposed to take care of them, It's more like his job is to take care of the child, clothes, and such, more than likely she's recieving government assistance already for said child as far as financial and food goes. But she keeps bringing up her bills like the child is running up all the bills by himself. She hasn't even shown what her bills were BEFORE the child entered the home.

I was blessed with 2 amazing parents. My dad worked nights at the post office, busting his butt so he could take care of his kids. Mom worked days, and dad would be there to get us off to school, was home when we got home from school to help us with our homework, and even cooked dinner, so when mom got home from her job she didn't have to. We may not have had a lot of money, but we always had a roof over our heads, clothes on our back, and food in our belly!!

Agree 100%

@@princesongoku You would be amazed how much those kinds of bills shoot up.

Most of the children in the foster care system are biracial. These men never supported their own women now their doing the same in the Mexican and yt community. It’s not a shocker . It’s always someone else’s fault and not their own .

Le seul commentaire sensé !!! 👏🏾👏🏾

It's not crazy and she's not greedy. Both parents are responsible for supporting their child, whether the child lives with them or not.

400 dollars for light bill from a 4 year old

@@unrulysuwoo3075 I don't know where you live but that's pretty basic for utilities for a small home where I live. I don't think shes trying to say the kid ran that up all by their self but she is providing a comfortable home for the child, heating cooling, hot water for baths, rent... certainly child support should be covering a portion of that.

I noticed his jewelry too. Now he will be supporting his child, not buying himself junk.

I don't know. This feels like she baited him with this. Think about it. The scenario is plausible. The mom was the one who had the child initially when her and dad broke up. Dad was never asked for more than $20 or $30 here and there. At some point 9 months ago, the aunt was asked to take the child because mom doesn't want her kids anymore. So she agrees knowing that child support would be paid by both mom and dad. She doesn't ask him for anything for 9 months because she makes more than enough to pay for the kids (she doesn't look poor at all) and thus at the end of 9 months not only does she start receiving somewhere around $1500-$2000/month between the 2 parents but she also gets a bunch of backpay that she can use on whatever she wants. You don't seriously think a child uses $2000/month in electricity or bills do you? When the rent and all the major expenses were already covered by the aunt's income? This is extra income for her guaranteed. She sits there whining about her electricity bill and yet she looks like she's got a good-paying job. Granted they're not her kids but if she didn't care about them then she should've said no to taking care of them. Most likely the dad didn't take his son because he didn't have time and also because he didn't want to split him from his sibling.

I know, he should ask custody of he's child. Instead

Like i did...

Because he doesn't want to be bothered.

It cost more

He has a job. His child is just now going into pre-K. Single dad that works 40-50 hrs a week isn't getting custody of his pre-K child in this world if the mom or this case the aunt and mom can keep that from happening.

@@papabearandjfamily4694 lol the victim father right.

@@papabearandjfamily4694 so hard working mom's are nothing? Fathers get away with waking away from their children. It's disgusting

He should pay a set amount for his child. Any side agreement he has with the Mom or Auntie should cease.

@@kathleencooney1518 i agree could u see the look of satisfaction on her face when she finally knew she was getting money from him it should be a set amount because she already receives support from the mother and two other kids she took in from her sister so in total shes making money on this

@@whatweredoin8779 No, the total cost of the child should be split 50/50 depending on both parents' income and the needs of the child. So yes the child support seems high, but if the parents don't like it they are welcome to take their own child in. This aunt isn't just paying things for a child that isn't hers, she's taking care of it and responsible for it 24/7. All the while the parents are demeaning her commitment.

​@whatweredoin8779 kids cost alot daycare alone cost 400 a week. An who doesn't want the best for their kids. Y should her kids get privileges an then her nieces have to watch them do activities etc the bio parent have raised no kids an don't understand the cost

@@whatweredoin8779 I seriously doubt that she is. The kids could all be in foster care, people they don't know them, CPS can move the children, split them up, and with people who are in it just for the money that the state pays them.

That’s the truth! “Un-parents” is a word I’ve never heard, but it sums up the situation very well! 👍🏾

i know!!!! We said the same thing!!!

It isn’t about the child she need help with that ridiculous ass light bill

What is the mother doi. To help herself y’all don’t like to help yall selves sometimes

@@doughyslatt6397 that’s the AUNT not the mom.

I was thinking the same thing. I bet he definitely is not a financially advisor. Get your son

He said he works at the bank, he has a set schedule, plus he's expecting, sad he can have a child with another women and leave the 1st one with his aunt.

He doesn't speak like a financial professional. Maybe he's the money counter at the local trap house?

Charlie Wilson wannabe

She’s not money hungry. She’s supporting his child 100%

@@mommyheada lol did you not understand how my comment was written?

She do seem money hungry but he do need to send money for his child. But bills ain't his child which let's u know child support or not she's not spending it on the child

@@qu33nT How is she money hungry for asking to accommodate utilities being used by HIS CHILD? If he doesn’t want to give her money to help take care of HIS CHILD, then he can take the kid. you’re are more worried about her asking for money than the fact that the father of the child doesn’t love his child enough to raise him

Please! She's raising his child so both parents need to pay fawk you mean

Giggles, can't read a court summons and knows no numbers.

Also what he means his schedule is hard to pick up his kids banks have the best schedules

Totally agree...

I am glad to see others who see this too. Like you get sick of asking someone to show up and do their part. It comes off as begging when you have to ask every month for money to help with some groceries. Its worse when she has NO kids of her own

Also, notice he has another on the way. Aunt is probably thinking, I better set this by the court before this other child is born 'cause the new one is probably from a newer functioning relationship and will therefore have advantage with a mother and father there.

My mom and dad came to an agreement and he had it automatically transfered to her account each month. Then she decided to go to court to mandate it because he missed a single month due to being sick and not getting a decent check. At the time, I spent half the week with her, half with him. The court ended up making him pay less than their original agreement. Was funny.

Not saying he’s right but that means he hates women?

Yes I felt that way too. It turned me off. The aunt isn't obligated to take care of his son. The auntie was valid all the way thru

I don’t think the judge was charmed by him at all, he was arrogant and really got on my nerves with his conceited laughter!

Facts, she was a single, free woman with no kids before all this

This is her fault tho...why she taking care of kids that don't belong to her

@@ZhenMitch they are her family

@@elisahamilton73 doesn't matter. Family or not it isn't her kids. She shouldn't have to do any of this but she choose to and wants more money for it? Sounds like she's confused and just want money for her bills

@@ZhenMitch Some families are different. There are grandparents with custody over their grandchildren because they don't want them in the system, and there are aunts, uncles, sisters, brothers, etc. that have custody over a relative child because they don't want them to end up in the system. Yes, she does have a choice and her choice is to help her family members out. The reason she mentioned her bills was because those are fixed costing, versus a child which would be a variable cost (school, medical bills, entertainment, etc.).

He does not want to pay child support. The amazing father he is.and why is the Judge being so much to him I dont understand.

Right. It costs $3k a month just to raise one child. He's so delusional!!!!!

Thats his money tho

@@redacted2147 he doesn’t involve himself in his sons though. I bet you he doesn’t know his sons teacher or his primary care number. Like he didn’t even know if the insurance he placed on his child was the best plan there was. All that money and he doesnt bother making sure his childs needs are met at all.

@@redacted2147which he had because he wasn't raising his child.

Exactly

he did say he would like to have his son

He needs to get slapped all around

@@idcimtink facts they’ve been to court already about it too

Am I the only one that see something wrong with him wearing his hat in court befor a Judge?

Wouldn't do it because I surely wouldn't buy the right stuff

@@docdat3468 agreed, especially if you aren't super in your childs life to know that sort of stuff, now him not being in the childs life is an issue in itself, but thats not part of the comment here lmao

@@kyleyoung9326 even if I would be in his life in such a case i wouldn't because I have 0 fashion style and wouldn't like my kid to look like a clown

I wouldnt bc i bought the supplies she can buy the clothes

Just because u start a new school year doesn't mean u need new clothes

Yeah!! I said the same thing an if he such in amazing father why isn’t the child with him. She never ask him that!! I can’t believe she said the bills doesn’t mean anything.

Um he already does and when it comes to child support its so much some people have to work 3 jobs 60 hours a week or more just to pay it and it's horse shit

The sister or whatever dodged every question I've seen for rn

The aunt was erroneously expressing in reference to bills. Child support does consider household expenses that children live under in portions of said bill according to each child, NOT all of it…

exactly this whole time he was laughing and he just wont stop saying she is money hungry but she is the one taking care of HIS kid. Her bringing the bills for proof was her explaining that she needs help taking care of her responsibilities PLUS a child it is just too much. Idk man this episode got me aggravated at the father if you can even call him that.

You are making very sweeping statements based upon a single scenario that didn’t provide enough background detail for any such determination to be made. You do not know what the money is being used for, or diverted to. The man skirted around his concerns but never vocalized them. If the payments being levied are in accordance to the laws of the jurisdiction, that’s all there is to it. Pay what you must, and hope that some small portion of it eventually makes its way to the child. But there are too many situations and too many cases where this simply isn’t true. The only point where you and I 100% agree is that the man should have custody of his son. But I can say exactly the same thing about the mother, as well. Again, not enough information was provided in the scenario to know the hows and the whys of it. Perhaps both were unsuitable. In any event, the episode was very interesting and thought provoking. Thank you, Judge Vonda B!

I understand what you are saying but there’s multiple people in the house so it’s not like the electric bill would be much different if the child wasn’t there

@@Reecekeyz He (and his ex) still needs to pay for his kid's portion.

The reason she is probably having trouble paying the electric bill is because she spent money on caring for the child that would have gone to that bill instead if she didn't have those expenses. "King" could have custody of his son very quickly as the mother has abandoned him and the aunt does not have legal claim to him. He apparently doesn't want custody and for the sake of the child it is best he not go to a parent who does not want him/

@@peterkottke2570 That is a very reasonable assessment of the situation depicted in the scenario.

There’s no rule or law that says you have to. That’s like saying you’re not supposed to wear white after Labor Day. Who comes up with this stuff 🤷🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️

What's the name of that episode?

@@PORTMIAMIMIKE here’s the link to the one w the mom: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/pcpoaauknNeliXk.html

That's great to hear and your brothers lead by example of the way your mom and dad were! We need more parents like yours

Its wasn’t just the father that wasn’t doing right. But the mother ain’t doing right either.

This had nothing to do with the child she wants some help with that absurd light bill. This lady expected him to act without clear concise communication.

@@tyronehuston1260 totally agree. She just wants the dough. That's all she cares about which is honestly sad, especially for the child

@@ameliacatlover1985 you are both wrong. Maintaining a child is to keep them clean, warm, fed and entertained and that costs money. What is to stop him from being a 'great father' and getting custody and actually do all of the above and not just when it's convenient to his schedule....because it will cost more, both in time and money. He can turn up at will and think he's a brilliant dad for the afternoon at the park and a kids meal or buying some pencils and a school bag.

Bingo!!!!

Well if he was "an amazing father" hed have custody of his child instead of letting the aunt take full parental responsibility for a child that isnt even hers. So that right there proves he isnt amazing.

Say it with me, "Non-custodial Parent does not mean unfit."

@@jamesclugston1626in some cases yes but from the most of what I seen as a county clerk, it was. 🤷🏽

You’re very welcome and thank you for your kind words!❤️❤️

He spends to much on all that jewelry

I just discovered it as well and have been binge watching it 😊

@@ameliacatlover1985 me too I love this judge

I love it too, but these people are all actors.

He said it he has "other priorities" 😂😂

That’s what I’m saying 🤦‍♂️

Right! Because he’s such an “amazing” father 🙄 The child is probably better off where he is.

FACTS!! I mean like as many times as he said he’s an “amazing dad” why don’t you have custody of your child then?

He didnt ask for it As he dont want to get custody in the first place...

Facts!!!

I think it's a smart ass laugh!

And stop making more babies!

He don’t want hood kid and daycare is way more expensive than he was ordered to pay.

He doesn't want the responsibility

I going to start using that with my kids.

YOU CAME HERE TO WASTE MY TIME is my favorite line.. U know its good when she says that