You are probably Fe dominant or ISFJ lol. Either that or you are just a very slow learner. I have learned not to be a doormat since 6th grade. Not immediately successful, but at least I tried.

Ditto

It is often far easier and more beneficial to adapt my own reactions and hence feelings than to expect to be able to or attempt to change these in others. I have far more control over my own mind and it’s contents than I do another person’s.

@@caffemocca8855 Or had some significant trauma along the way, possibly in early childhood. Nothing steamrolls your boundaries quite like family. Marinate in that toxic stew, then go out and make choices that echo the voices of your childhood, and you're set up for decades of remedial work. Not slow as much as having a bigger pile to climb out from under.

Wow, sounds just like my life. Once I realized I'm the one who is being the magnet, I slowly learned the signs to look out for. Boy Howdy, did I suddenly lose a bunch of friends and associations with Family members. Well, my life is so much better, more in balance and I found- I can say no, or when I help a friend or so out, they know that to be my friend, at times If I need help, they need to be able to return the help just as I have helped them.

I agree. I've been studying type theories for about 15 years now, and this was one of the freshest and most accurate takes I've heard in awhile.

Plus, he's really CUTE 😍

INFJ's for ya

I totally agree Barbara! (You too Jeff!) 😊

That is because he has "lived it, then reflected, analyzed, and understood it" before speaking on it.

Exactly. I couldn't agree more. One of the most frustrating things to me (when dealing with other personality types) is that some of them insist that the 'why' doesn't matter and are highly annoyed by my need to figure out the 'whys'.

@@onyxwelborne exactly. It's something that has always interested me. I feel like if we truly understand the why's then we have a better understanding of how to solve related problems. If I never figure out how or why something I'm interested in works, then it bothers me and I feel like I only know a fraction of the story.

i cannot talk for all the infp people out there but because i am an analytical infp i tend to collect facts and emotional information by reading and talking to people and find out the most reasonably answer to all the things that happen worldwide or in interactions with others. only listening to opinions of people is not enough because it is to subjektiv and also misleading. if someone really wants to understand circumstances they need to see the whole. ofc that also is a problem for infp like me. we see the whole but the individuum sometimes is an own universe and needs to be thought about seperately. people wonder why infps think so much or are often on their own. thats why. we search for truth of the whole and the individual truth. it takes a lot of time XD

Yup

Cool so I am not the only one who has to break everything down the molecular level then rebuild it to truly understand something therefore be able to make a sound decision.

Makes sense!

I get you

@@abigailkahiga5179 ❤ Thank you 😭

Funny how that happens.

Me too. I tested a an INFJ a few years ago and then retested like 6 months ago and got INFP. I partook of shrooms during that time. Maybe it's related 🤷‍♀️ but when I hear Clay explain the differences I feel like the jury is still out on what I actually am. I feel like I'm bouncing between the 2.

🤪 yup 😔🤚

Funny. In my professional life I can make very dedicated 'sniper' plans, to be executed by person X (could be me or someone else), but in my private life I hardly plan anything for myself. My team leader takes care of my work load LOL. I have the tendency to want too much on my plate (slight people pleaser there).

So so true!!! Bahaha. :)

Same. If I am left to my own devices I would be a hermit in my room forever.

Ahhh don’t call me out like that XD

I got an INFP result recently, and so here I am on KZfaq watching videos on the differences. And, yes, every single detail and the overall picture makes it obvious that I am not an INFP. I think that these tests are good to a point, but as a reference point. I am who I am because of my personality, first, and because of how I deliberately live in response to that personality so I can function in the real world. Therefore, I probably have developed skills, therefore practices, that might differ from the base feeling of who I am -- which I would say is actually who I am. That is the internal me -- the INFJ. The external me (let's say, INFP, sometimes) is just trying to cope as an INFJ.

This sounds very much like myself.

Same. Thanks!❤

Hello me!! You basically said me in a nutshell, right down to not being able to articulate what comes out of my mouth so I shut up. I have been tested as INFP but really feel like INFJ for many reasons.

@@monika.71 So there are other people out there like me. LOL. I have always felt that I beat to the tune of a different drum. I do so envy the people who have the gift of gab - would love to debate (since I have so much to say) but just don't have that quick wit.

​@bettinaseelman7043 it seems our gift of gab comes in written form not spoken

Me too

Good break down. Same here.. although I have issues with people pleasing because of childhood trauma. I learned at a young age to read the room and try to anger my father so he wouldn't lash out, constantly worried about saying the wrong thing or making him mad. Because of this I struggle with being able to express my own needs and feelings and become more focused on someone else's happiness sacrificing my own. I didn't even realize how much of an issue it was and how badly it was messing with my core values and true authentic self until recently. Instead I had convinced myself that it wasn't a bad thing at all. Rationalizing it as me being a compassionate empathic person. Although that in a sense is true It doesn't make it healthy. I'm still working on it. Hopefully one day I'll be able to rewire my brain and voice myself also put my needs first.

Sounds like me... 100% 🧚‍♀️ But i cannot put those things into words... -infp

YES! Exactly 🙌🏻

yes

I would say no...my INFP friend bugs the hell out of me with his self centered way of seeing things...I can't tell him what I think about that because it's very easy to hurt his feelings...and I don't want that... despite that I love how he is able to go his own way...I'm too concerned about how my actions will affect other people 🙄 I'm an INFJ I'm never authentic...I don't know what it means to be that...I adjust to the people around me...I'm a Cameleon who doesn't know which color is my true color 🤔 The only time I think I could consider myself as authentic (whatever that is) is when I'm alone with my thoughts...but even then I struggle with how I feel about things 😬 But if you mean being able to talk about abstract things without feeling like a complete weirdo...the answer is yes...but that goes for my ESFJ friend too...she's very open to listening to me...the thing is though I don't think she truly gets what I'm talking about 😬😁

@@t.c9537 I totally get how hard the self centered part is to deal with. This person is like that too, without even meaning to be half the time, though isn't as easily offended when told so as most INFP'S would be. There are times I have thought that maybe they are an INFJ with ADHD and depression, since we tend to think and act so much alike. It can be really hard to tell what personality type someone has when they suffer from both. Also, the chameleon effect can definitely make it difficult to really figure out our authentic selves, but I just don't find the need to automatically enter into some kind of role when this person is around because we genuinely connect in a weird sort of way.

@@wonderingpilgrim I hear you...and of course not all INFPs are the same 🙂 Being a Cameleon is not so much a conscious thing...I'm not playing a role...I automatically adjust to the person or situation ...somehow I just know how to talk and behave to fit in...my identity is a mix of all the people I've met during my life 🙂 Who I really am is not that important to me...I don't go around thinking about that 😁

@@sirmadam8183 ESFJs are the best...so caring...maybe a little bit too much of control freaks...she loves to be the one who plans a vacation 🤭 and sometimes she needs help to stop and think before she acts...she just wants to get started...not like me...I have to think for a long time... but when I finally get started I'm unstoppable and I know exactly how to do things in the most efficient way 😁 She gave me a t-shirt for my birthday with a print that said "I'm not bossy I just have better ideas" 😂

Not at all for the most part. I tend to feel myself more around INTPs or INTJs. They don’t interpret my scatterbrained thoughts as personal attacks.

Omg yessss Same I'm an INFP too And I do relate with the mental health part...I've had depression and sometimes it's hard to know if im just the way I am or is it cuz I'm an INFP

Same, and I think I’m pretty INFP. I’ve tested and got both, which is weird. But I can relate to this deeply and that can’t be complete coincidence? lol

Struggling with a brain injury and trauma. How much does this affect cognitive ability as we age.

im infp and hsp...imagine that fun i have not being able to fully concentrate on my own emotions sometimes...yey...dito on the trauma side, i genuinly have the thought that i take everything in my life as a trauma with me though its nothing to others at all. I love recommendations! i love learning new things! or about new things. more stuff i can think about instead putting my mind on the hardships of our system or world around me.

I'm an infp and being fake is the worst feeling ever. Gives me imposter syndrome. But at the same time sometimes pretending to like something that isn't my forte might be the only thing that could keep me in a friend group. And that gets me in a depressive episode.

Same... I would write a liner comment but that pretty much sums up how I feel. It’s so refreshing to go in the internet and see I’m not line but at the same time I wouldn’t want anyone else to experience that.. yeah

I make sure I only please people who are worth it. Selfish emotional sponges aren’t.

Lol !!! Recovering people pleaser ? Don't quit just include more of yourself in that process ! Learn to kick the can down the road and try some new approaches ! Some of your evidence comes from living don't think that every time you stuck your neck out a little some one's going to chop it off! Live a little ! I walk with my head high ! Not blindfolded mind you," but Level and confident.

@@Coneman3 how do you sort out the worthy and the " Worthless " I'm sure Jesus had a hard time with that one too ... That thing with it being more blessed to give than to receive . It makes one wonder if any of the 10 commandments are ever obeyed by men that call themselves Christian . I'm not a Christian but behave more like one than so called believers . They call it common sense .I've taken a few under my wing and been disappointed . That's life it doesn't always go as planned but , you have to try just like climate change ,$ It's been long past time to aggressively combat it's onslaught , however we just look At each other in shock and mumble to ourselves about it ! Or should I say most of us do ! What are we going to tell the kids ? We Tried ? Lol we fool ourselves not them .Sometime I feel alone in a room full of people and sometime the life of the party !? I love the earth and all it encompasses save ignorance and cruelty .

this is why energy levels decrease so much. its a struggle to say no sometimes

Yeah that shirt more suited to INFJ.

@Kiwi Sound Design sounds like me

My parents told me, that as a 3 year old, I decided I wanted to be a boy and refused to wear anything but boy clothes, and would pull all the hair bows even with pulling some hair with it. 🙄 The self-expression also was always reflected in my hair styles and dying and cutting it in uncommon ways. ...as a teen, I would actually refuse to wear anything that was trendy. I started making clothes as a teen and at some point of my life designer/clothing and costume making was my income.

That's the "I don't care" character of INFPs.

Almost my entire wardrobe is black. I think I have one dark blue shirt (which I don’t like), and that’s it.

The “completely unreachable” is so true. The INFPs I know have such a difficult time understanding anyone else’s point of view. They have an idea or thought that they are set on, regardless if it’s right or wrong, and there’s no convincing them to see otherwise. It’s exhausting.

Jip so true

Agree 100%. I think thats why they like INFJs. We are willing to set aside time to be present with them...all sides of them. I believe they feel this is one of the most important components to a satisfying connection.

Hmm. It depends on the context. I tend to shy away from giant circles, but not from small groups. Also, on the dance floor, I am quite sociable. In terms of friends, I tend to seek out people that read to me as non-judgemental , emotional types, and I have an admiration of anyone who is following the beat of their own drummer, regardless of if I agree with them. Except racists. I appreciate someone trying to get to know me for me, tho.

I disagree. I'm an INFP and I can be pretty extroverted in group settings. I tend to be good at responding, and affirming others while also understanding people's needs. I can be very spaced out and in my head but I can also have a flip switched where I'm engaged with others.

I'm having the same experience. It can be quite frustrating. But then I remember that it's just a sign that every human being is complex, and these categories can sometimes lead to oversimplifications of the human psyche, so don't get too caught up in the pressure to label yourself within these systems.

I fall right in the center as well. It can change based on life experience. It can change day to day. Discernment is a super valuable tool.

I'm also a INFP 51/49! I was about to comment this exact same thing because I completely relate to both sides of this.

I'm 50/50 :)

oh my gosh me too!!

Really good point

WTF dont call me out like this

😬👏🏼

Totally agree. Especially if the INFP is an 9 or 6 in enneagram. They would value harmony a lot. Or an INFP with type 5, who would be more logical than usual INFPs.

And an infj may be required to assert their authenticity for the purpose of social harmony

I totally know what you mean. I think my husband is an INFP. When reads something, it's like he has this effortless ability to decode. I asked him how do you do that? And he says, I don't know, just do. It sometimes takes months to put the pieces together.

@@Shanna1215 Exactly! INFP's are good at taking information and put it together (those who developed their Te inferior, I guess?). It's fascinating to see how me and him work harmoniously without even trying.

I had an INFJ partner and I think that we were soul mates, I mean I never felt so synced with someone . My problem with INFJ is it's Fe function, trying to please others and taking the INFP partner as granted, putting his opinions and feelings to second place. In a fight, the INFPs hate when INFJ tryes to help, by counseling, because we know what we are feeling and why, we just need an apology or a hug, we don't need a dissertation about why we shouldn't feel that way xD. I broke up with the INFJ it hurted me a lot because I loved him deeply but I couldn't be with someone that prefers social harmony over the feelings of the partner. I hope that you guys get really well for many many years and I wish you the best because INFJ/INFP are really true soul mates. :D

Im infp and my friend is isfj i think it was And we work great together He and i are best buds and its been like that for 4 years now I feel that he is more organized than me and he follows a plan I just pay attention to the details in life and usually feel fine or dont even notice if i got distracted and changed the expected scenario or plan He is a little better in tems of doing work faster and not get tired as easily I get more tired and distracted but spot details he does not Im more quiet and he is a bit more outgoing Much things i don't have he has them like organization and somethings he does not have like creativity i do I think we both patch up our weaknesses pretty well

@@cristina7317 you are portraying a type 4 INFP on enneagram. I am a type 9 on enneagram and type 9 INFPs are peacemakers they are not rebel and not individualistic in the sense of showing that publicly. Type 9s INFP are self centered on their believes and morals and they really try to blend in.

Yes. Lots of deal breakers that only I know about until they hit that boundary.

Def I think if you can't figure out where your lines are.. it kinda shows someone's true self. And saying u don't know where ubstand.. on things that are so simple seems fake and putting on a mask. So if infps don't like that I'm 100 infp. I don't care about lies.. but I do care about values of what makes a good person. And I don't like people that can stab others because they well " don't really know where they stand"

Me too! I care a whole lot about people's feelings and whether they are okay, and I don't know what I think or feel all the time (I kind of defer to the other people in my life). At the same time, I definitely sympathize easier than I empathize, and though I don't judge things based on my own internal values so much, I definitely value things internally, and don't easily determine whether or not something is outwardly valuable if I have sentimental ties to it (and I can have sentimental ties to a scrap of paper or a dead flower) - I just find myself wanting to keep it because of this one time that I had an experience with it that I want to remember. Lastly, I feel like, though I do take time and internalize and filter my reality before I even speak (Clay I really resonated with your comment about your friend noticing how you just zone out for 20 seconds and then respond) I don't really put on blinders; I get easily distracted, and actually have a hard time finishing projects or staying focused. Please respond if this makes any sense or you know what I am talking about. Or especially if you can explain how these seemingly opposite characteristics (from an MBTI perspective) could coexist.

I feel like this sometimes too, even though I always come up INFJ and usually connect to that more. It makes me feel crazy though

@@edgewise100 same 😳

I had one question that I could not pick between two responses because both were preferred and I swing between. So I did a trial of test all same and choosing one, then test all same choosing other. One said I was INFJ and the other said I was INFP. I do feel I am a split.

@@edgewise100 gosh I relate to this comment more than anything else

thank u, i agree with this so much

the difference is motivation. infjs are emotional harmony. infps are kinda impersonal

@@juliall255 yes, I agree. However, you often go with the flow and don't reveal your true values. Don't you? These values are more like complex feelings than words, so you can't really share clearly. That's why you learn to keep a social distance (stay in your own head) until your values are crystal clear and you're able to express them. Do you feel it right?

@@juliall255 I think it's also sounds right what you're saying.

Thank you for this was really lost for a couple of minutes thought I was a INFJ for a sec

I wish I was more like an INFP. *cries*

@@CuteFluff8 :::hug:::

I'm an INFP and now that I'm in my 30's that is my attitude now, ha ha. Just going to be my true self, and if you like me, awesome, but if not, oh, well. Guess we're not meant to be friends, ha ha.

Well as an INFP i am more like. Pleaseeeee like me the way i am or i would be hurt😄😅

@@farnazyar7329 Same ^^'

The testing of the dichotomies is quite unreliable for sure. I myself was first INFP, INFJ, ENFJ and then ENFP. Cognitive function test are more reliable IME.

This is SO ACCURATE... the test says INFP but when you dive deeper by looking at the traits, you have less INFP trait, but relate to most INFJ traits... Then it just confuse you more...

The online MBTI tests are mostly trash. It's best to shell out some money and get the official test. That's what I did.

Another good way to tell if you are an INFP or INFJ: what matters to you more/what freaks you out more - things(events, happenings, chaos, little details, etc) or people(your relationships with people, what others think of you, are "they" a good/bad person, etc)? The INFJ (lead Ni) will worry more about chaos, changes in their lives, details, everything that is happening, what life throws at them. At the same time they see people as very important, big part of their lives, but still as more or less movable thing because people come and go. The INFP (lead Fi) will worry more about people, their friendships, relationships with others, how they are perceived, while things like chaos, little details, events, unfortunate happenings etc. for them are something that just happens, sure, it can also can be triggering but it is movable because things/events in life come and go. For INFJs people are IN the story. For INFPs people ARE the story. (story=life) I hope this is helpful to someone. :)

I’m an infp, and I experience all of these things too....

I test out as infp in lot of tests. But one test got me infj, I didn't doubt it until then. Now I started researching, I have more infj qualities than infp. But when making decisions to these tests, I answer them like an infp would. One thing to note though is that, my intuition comes out to be ~56 percent. And my prospection also hovers around that. So maybe I switch between infp and infj. But I learned that from an infj that infj test as infp when they are going through emotional turmoil. And that person said her precentages would hover around mine nearing 60. One more thing I learned that infj have shadow introverted feeling function. So it makes sense that I would make decisions using it during tests trying to be overly authentic? Using Fi. But I just know that I'm more of an infj than infp. And situations have a lot of effect on you, so you would use your shadow functions and it all leads to confusion. Hope this helps. I'm not that learned in mbti and cognitive functions, it's been only a month. So I maybe wrong about things..but so far this has been my experience.

@@loreta8249 This seems a bit backwards to me, since INFJs are people pleasers and have extroverted feeling, while INFPs lead with introverted feeling.

@@lilmagill58 you can check out Objective Personality to understand it better ;)

This is a helpful comment. Thank you.

I’m only writing because I’m so confused. I’m positive I’m an INFP but I feel the exact opposite. I feel like the past is so confusing and unreal. It’s like I was in la la land and the present moment is more real. I begin to think did this or that really happen or did I make it up. Sorry if it sounds strange. I’m a beginner at learning the mbti functions😅

@@chrishernan4490 No worries about being confused, oftentimes finding your type takes time. You may want to consider you may be an ISFP vs INFP. They tend to be a lot more present than INFPs. What you described here *may* have been having Se and Ni as your two middle functions. It sounds like you have fairly weak Si and that your Se seems a lot stronger. Hope things helps :)

Yep. For me thinking about the future is more comfortable than the past or present. I don't remember the past much at all. Except when a song comes on and opens my memory of an emotion more than actual events.

@@FromG2eminor wow, so interesting. I can't even imagine being like that. I can still bring back the exact emotion I was feeling in certain situations when I was very young (back to age 2) and can remember with detail what the physical environment looked like and in some cases, even what I was wearing. Very in touch with how I feel and in some cases, quite framed around the subjective experiences of my past. For me, im either living in the past with Si or the future of possibilities with Ne, but the present is challenging for me to sit with in the same way.

@@melbeth79 I really could never see myself as an isfp. I don't believe to be down to earth. I'm always in my head. I fake my personality a lot of the times. At work I don't feel like saying hi to anyone it is exhausting but I try my best to make small talk. It's so hard for me to make small talk. I hate small talk but try to be politeful and respectful to others. I usually only feel comfortable saying hi or talking to others that I feel I can actually connect with.

I know this is an old comment, but I’d like to mention that the INFP has an ENFJ shadow, and the INFJ has an ENFP shadow. You could be in shadow mode now or perhaps when you were a child; this could explain your experience.

This is pretty common and has to do with the technicalities of how the test is contructed, more than anything else. The questions for the J-P dychotomy all have to do with coscientiousness (being orderly, on time, organized, industrious etc). J correlates with higher coscientiousness scores, P with lower. BUT, we know that conscientiousness increases growing up. Even the Ps need to learn the organizational requirements of adulthood. So its pretty normal for a well-adjusted adult P to come out J. But as the video says, if you look at the cognitive functions, the difference is pretty clear. Unfortunately there is no test for cognitive functions, only for the behavioral traits that correlate with them. I honestly don't think such a test is even possible. All we are left with is introspection really

​@@Loudumer What about an INFJ having an ISFP shadow as a child? I was an unhealthy child in many ways. Was selfish and pessimistic about life. I could sometimes be funny and make people laugh pretty hard with my antics but depression and seriousness would always come back. I daydreamed a lot and imagined living in a perfect world a lot. I didn’t have friends... too scared to talk to people. I always desired one best friend... not a lot of friends. I always enjoyed being out in nature, still do. I enjoyed time alone in ny thoughts. Still do, so I can reflect on many things happening inside my soul and outside events.

I have also tested out as INFP and INFJ in approximately equal frequency ... It would be interesting to know how different types coped with the pandemic.

​@@kthybrown007 I am a lifelong INFJ and I personally did very well in the pandemic. I was careful for me and my family and conscientious of other people when I was out and about and didn't have issues wearing a mask (because it seemed trivial to me), but I also didn't get wrapped up in fear and worry. I also loved being at home without needing any excuses as to why I wasn't being sociable outside my household (my husband, sons, and myself).😊 The hardest part for me was seeing what everyone else was going through and dealing with. I pick up on everyone else feelings and energy whether I am in person with them, over the phone, or it's strangers on Social Media or the News. I had to really limit my exposure to TV/News because the feelings, fears, stress, depression and overwhelming suffering could just wrap itself around me if I wasn't careful. Luckily, I have a deep, daily meditation practice that really helped/helps with that and I've learned to clear my energy field every day (took me a while to catch on to that😏) And yes, it was VERY hard to meditate when I first started as my analytical, fast paced thinking was hard to control and was always fighting with my actual perception/intuition. But that gets better with time. I call myself a skeptical believer😊 How was it for you during the pandemic?

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There must be chemical or physiological differences between the personalities. If I could cure myself of INFJ I would because it isn't really acceptable as part of the culture where I live. I wish I had a family member I could relate to but we think so differently.

My twin sister is INTJ and I am INFJ. I can relate to your comment about how we are so similar yet so different. My daughter is an INFP.

You are very lucky. My twin sister is estj, and I am infj. It's really painful, an endless struggle. Thank God for my infp husband.

Have you taken the test? That's the only way to confirm your personality type.

@@PeacefulPariah I have. The INFP is more of a "dreamer" type and I write poetry, and dreamed of "World peace" since I remember myself.... Also, there's a part about the "values/convictions" in INFP case, which they are definitely something I reflect on, before doing almost anything in life and they are my beacon. Don't know, if it comes across right, but I go into deep historical/political etc researches, just to make sure my values are not lopsided, lol. Thank you for commenting! Let me know, how it is for you or your opinions, if you'd like.

Have you ever been to a psychiatrist or psychologist and found out from a professional on their perspective of what type of personality you are and I honestly believe that you are going to be the same person that you’ve always been and the only difference is now you nigh have a better idea of understanding yourself and why you do the things you do as for myself I don’t want to say quite yet because it for sure holds merit that I could be an INFJ and the more I learned about it and the truth behind it I became a little sad because it is not really that great to have an INFJ PERSONALITY because I have learned how to cope with being alone with my thoughts and I am not going to say that I have experienced joy in my lord an extremely long long time and I am more sad just learning how it actually works so I have the ability somehow I picked it up from my childhood trauma to choose the things that I have decided to not give permission to be a drain on my human spirit because we are all capable of doing whatever it is that drives you and I to the absolute extreme adventure and I’m personally an adrenaline junkie and I so bad want to sky dive, base jump, and those awesome body suits that glide right though the air like you’re actually able to fly and I wouldn’t hesitate for a second and I would be so excited in the best way possible that I’d probably jump before putting on my suit, LMFAO

@@PeacefulPariah regardless of any test or the fancy diploma’s hanging up on the doctors office I have no doubt you know yourself better than he does but it takes work to find yourself and that is what makes life worth living is most certainly the experiences you have to endure to get to the next level of your life because I don’t care about what happened to me personally as a child because it’s in the past and it’s never coming back because I don’t allow people that have been very cruel to me to ever get the best of me because the truth I believe is the only person who deserves the very best of you is in fact you and only you not your wife or your children because if you’re not at your best in life how could you possibly take care of your family and bring up your children to be model citizens who have respect for themselves first and foremost they made a huge mistake when they introduced that anti bullying campaign because they are protecting these young people to be living in a damn bubble that they have never been given the tools they need to make it when they are ready to Graduate and the people who are most likely teachers are never going to be there to defend them from harm and I am old enough that when I was in school you settled in the old fashioned way and that is what men are made for is protecting their own lives and the lives of their families in this day and age I’m not surprised they are record numbers of children who have been failed by the idiots running the country that say oh bullying is just terrible but ask yourself this question would you rather have a good young man who knows how to defend himself because he has never been given the tools to defend himself and they are not going to have his back when school is out for good and that generation is the generation of weaklings who by no fault of their own have been brainwashed into believing that they should never hit anyone who is going to beat the hell out of him for the fact he doesn’t know any different because they want to immaculate the children that they are so docile that they don’t pose a threat to the United States government because they want total population control and they are wrong and by all means absolutely cruel to the point they should be charged with the falsifying of a generation olds law of the land that danger does exist in the world and those politicians need to put a damn stop to this because they have no right to take the power away from a teenaged boy who lives in a world of imagination that doesn’t actually exist in the real world and they are the exact reason why kids can’t take it anymore and so they bring firearms to school because it’s been stripped of their right and protect protected people and they are going to eventually snap and that is how columbine happened and the people that are younger than I am may not remember the first shooting and I blame the media for making them look like rockstars and they just killed 30 people who are completely innocent and they paid the price for democrats to be able to make guns the public enemy number one when in fact they are all to blame and I’m furious talking about this because it’s completely true if you just take the time to think about why did the kids start thinking it was okay to do such horrific things that thyroid should allow teachers to carry a weapon on their person and I bet they are going to think twice who’s the better shot and the loser is the one who I’d honestly shoot to subdue him because he doesn’t have a clue what he’s doing and I am not saying that he shouldn’t be sent to prison for life or lethal injection because he must be a man and stand up for what he believes is right to be a good man and citizen of the United States of America and I wish I could have been at sandy hook elementary school and I would no doubt have taken that coward out in the knee’s because he’s not thinking about anything except the enormous amount of pain he deserves to be in and let cowards like that just bleed out and suffer the pain of those little kids 😓😓😓😓😓 I can’t help but tear up when I think of those little kids who never got a chance to start their lives and if it was possible I’d gladly lay down my own life to bring them all back to their parents because I have never been afraid to die but this is so much more fundamental than that I have always had a heart that is so big and I don’t expect anything in return especially thinking about that monster who killed little innocent lives that they probably would have hugged the person that killed those so precious innocent souls 😓😓😓😓😓😓😓😓😥😥😥😥 I didn’t need to know any of those children yet I am literally crying because of how terrible of a crime that was that I wish I had been there and I would have been so furious that I know what it feels like to be shot and I don’t care if he shot me first but before god almighty I would ask the lord to use me as his tool to take out the guy responsible for killing innocent kids and I have no doubt he knows anything about weapons and I’m a tack driver with my Model 22 .40 caliber Glock that I keep loaded with hollow points to be sure it tear’s the flesh from every bone in his body because he makes the necessary monster in me come out to even the odds that piece of fucking shit is burning in hell every day for the horrific lives he took for no fucking reason except he felt like it I’m so sad that happened to those innocent little kids that had not even had a chance to begin life and he snatched it away from those parents who I can’t possibly imagine what they had going through their minds when they got the news that one of their children was murdered by a guy that deserved never to have been born and I would have torn him to peices with my bare hands and not stopped until he was lifeless like the innocent kids he had killed for absolutely no reason whatsoever he better hope the lord doesn’t send me to hell because I’m making it my mission to take his life in hell if it’s possible but I am never going to let go of his throat because I don’t want him to be alive anywhere in time and he should have been aborted by his mother and thrown into a dumpster because he was nothing but trash that needed to be dealt a hard of his own medicine for each of the innocent children and their families my heart goes out to you like you can’t even imagine the pain that I would have knee capped him, cut his fingers off with a dull hacksaw so it takes longer for him to suffer because I feel like Clyde Shelton in the movie law abiding citizen when well it’s a case not even close to the horrible things people have done in the world and I would have this tragedy in the top most horrific tragedies in history of the United States of America 🇺🇸 and may the souls of those lost find their way home again amen 🙏. My apologies for getting teary eyed and I just can’t imagine what monster is capable of taking the innocent of the most innocent and the parents I can’t even imagine what they have gone through to begin the grieving process because it takes a long time especially when what happened and how it happened to innocent little kids were probably just playing and I can’t talk about this anymore

@@Joshua-ug4db lol, I Have jumped with a parachute and paraglided before. ...I haven't dug into Briggs-Meyers with my psychologist, when I had one. I was just thinking, that the way you mention about learning about yourself and understanding your own motives, sounds very much like INFP. INFPs constantly check on their own values and make sure they adhere to them, they want to understand the "Whys" behind their behavior/set of beliefs.

Okay the thing I once heard about conditional love is it doesn’t exist because you’re never going to be able to anticipate it to the truth of what those conditions actually are. I hope I have not confused you because I had a hard time grasping the aspect of conditional love and I personally don’t believe it exist for the reason’s I’ve stated above that we never have had the brain capacity of that magnitude of anticipating the conditions of whatever the conditions are

No thanks. Keep religion out of it.

SAME

@@AshtonKohleralways feeling so out of place and beating myself up as to why?? After watching this, so many things came together. I now after so long of thinking and overthinking and analyzing everything.. just to try to make sense of everything that didn't make sense, was explained in a way that my complicate everything by 10× brain just accepted it without any complications. I can get better acquainted with myself knowing what and why I'm this way..

Difference is easy, do you try and create a good connection with others, or only when you feel it? Latter is INFP, warm on inside, cold on outside. INFJ is the opposite, we feel crap inside but love to please people externally, this we are generally warm to others.

@@Coneman3 so I think Im INFJ then. 😩

Thank you!

Hilarious

😂😂 same! I relate so much to infj's in many ways, but I know I'm definitely infp 😅 much love

ESPECIALLY ORGANIZED

I think I’m slowly going through the same thing, I’d say my mother is also a solid INFP and used to be a complete INFJ but the lines are getting a bit blurred as i get older too. I wonder if this kind of shifting is common for these personalities 🤔

You just wrote exactly what I was trying to say in the past 5 minutes. It's interesting how INFPs and INFJs are so closely related. I'm somewhat the same... I am most definitely an INFP, but I had INFJ traits when I was younger (which was a very turbulent time for me). I was very confused about the world and myself, I never knew where I should stand and I was a classic people pleaser. I had a lot of difficulty understanding what I felt about anything and I always had this feeling of being stuck in a tight skin that I couldn't free myself from... like I could never be myself. As time passed I gradually began to understand myself and my inner workings and "became" more INFP. That was when I felt relieved and more "free." It was a kind of lightbulb moment, like I was finally able to shed that tight skin away and just be me.

Exactly how I feel! To a certain extent of course but some qualities of the INFJ I have not because I value it but I just do it like the restaurant thing and the values being floaty or whatever i hopefully I grow into my authenticity more wishing us da best of luck

@@givemeyoureyes7 I’m so happy for you! I had kinda(the ending is a bit different) a similar experience I hope I get better at being a more stable infp

Its funny changing from wanting to make everyone happy to realizing that everyone sucks and that I really don't want to care about most people.

Seems like we share the same mind lol

Same…

I dont know abt this description. INFJ care too much what ppl think, which is why we often get taken advantage of. We can be ppl pleasers and get caught up in another's world and forget ourselves. When fhe other person is upset with us we get upset too. So i cant see INFJ being more focused on events than ppl. Unless i just totally misunderstood what you are saying.

@@aquariusstar7248 Yes, Loreta got it backwards.

Interesting. I like the way you talk about your phenomenalogical experience of Te. I've been trying to explore my experience of my ego functions off and on for a long time. Ti (I'm an INTP) is definitely "inside." It seems like a matrix inside. I definitely experience Te as outside.

Si is like an organic matrix. It's inside, but it definitely stretches deep into the past, which somehow exists in my body as a type of body knowledge. How do you experience Si?

Oh I like that way of describing Si! Yes, there does seem to be a knowing and holding of things from a time very long ago with me as well. Historically I've also experienced it as seeing a person, place, object or hearing a song and immediately connecting it back to certain events in my life. I also experience it as thinking in images when I'm reading or talking to someone and my mind imaging say my bedroom as a child in the house I lived in the longest but I have no clue why. Like what they're talking about seems to have no connection to my childhood bedroom but yet my mind is generating that image. That happens all the time but I'm not sure why. As I get older I am moving away from Si just being nostalgia and finally moving into making the connection that if I do a certain thing again expecting it to go better, Si now says, you may wanna consider what happened last time. Or the last 10 times and not get bitten again. Because when I get hurt I tend to get hurt deep because historically I've been a rescuer of people due to wounds. I still care deeply for people but the development of Si is helping with more balance for me as I get older.

Yes it's quite hard for me to understand Ti but I have heard the best way for me to try to is through Fi since they are both subjective judging functions so I'm trying to. Historically I've struggled with being certain of what I think vs the vibe I'm getting or what I'm feeling or sensing. I tend to trust that a lot more, but as I get older I'm trying to develop more of an understanding of Ti. I suppose Te is like an external checkerboard grid to me of outwardly measurable "rules" of the external plain. If there are too many of these rules I do balk. They have to run through my code of ethics and not be too pointless or restrictive or unequitable. I like Te structure to a point if I feel it's ethical, but yes I tend to understand Te easier.

Honestly same, COVID really helped me tap into my own internal feelings as much as the isolation was difficult

I had to get off social media (facebook/instagram) because of this reason. Actually a lot of it was realizing and being infuriated by the stupidity/false information/people ranting about things. Me as an INFJ wanting to correct them, writing a huge thing then not sending it. OR if I posted something I was passionate about that may be taboo or controversial I'd find myself deleting it in fear of causing conflicts between people I know.

@@miss.asht0nWhat youve written is me, also, to a t.

I feel you. Quarantine was so great for that.

Same. I lost my "best friend " this year because I took time to myself to sort out my feelings, and she took it personal.

I feel you about the 'being clumsy' thing. I happen to be very clumsy as well, falling, tripping, fainting, dropping stuff that I'm holding, it probably makes me look quite stupid to be frank and it gets worse when I'm nervous. Best timing ever.

BirkeClara Soooo relatable! Yes that is exactly how I fear I look. Now I’m not as anxious as in my younger years so it helps a bit in that sense. However, I’ve adapted an even worse way of coping, I become really upset at my own clumsiness throw whatever it may be, on the floor and yell out a few curse words and storm off to just be with myself for a few. Not proud of it, but hey. 😂

You have some shortcomings but I wouldn't exactly say you're toxic. Toxic INFJs tend to deny everyone else's point of view, and most importantly, they deny the fact that there is something wrong with them. And if you point it out to them (even with the best intentions), suddenly you'll be the bad guy. I'm coming at this with a little bit of my own personal experience, but considering the level of blindness it takes to be a toxic INFJ, you're pretty open to accept your flaws. I don't know you, though. Think about it, okay? ^^

Sounds, "spot on" with myself. I take forever to decide on a answer...cause I go so deep into so many outcomes one possible choice will lead me or people or consequences and I about myself last...I hate being Suddenly surprised with a not plan stop at a store or place cause I haven't had time to think about... I get anxiety or anger. Well just I'm sure. Most of the time I can't explain any of my thoughts, or reason why? I think about something...no one understands why... I don't either? I get overwhelmed cause I can't finish my sentences? because I get too caught up on how to explain it to them the best way I can to them. that's how I am with everyone. I change how I say things to everyone cuz its important to me telling them on a way they can understand and I always got to look them in the eyes I want them to look me in the eyes. so I can read and every tell so I know how they're feeling or thinking or if they're honest it's very overwhelming and It's kind of a curse. I don't even try to read people. it just happens.

The way I get to come back to my own feelings and thoughts,is a struggle. I need to have a day of being alone with myself listening to my playlist of emotional lyrically hip-hop or R&B or whatever connects with me. but it has too have a great beat with a connection with my past... 🤔. Doest last long either... It's a breath of air at that 😒😤😢🥱😁💯👍

Or like a son of Severus Snape with brown eyes. 🤣🤣