Living & Dying Alone In Singapore: Facing Lonely Deaths

Living & Dying Alone In Singapore: Facing Lonely Deaths | Dead Alone In Singapore - Part 1

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In recent years, more lonely deaths were reported in the media and at least 37 cases were reported in 2023. Who were they and how did they landed up dying alone?
In part one of this series, we meet an expert, Corinne Ghoh who decided to track the cases as there were no official data, uncovering the social dimension of this phenomenon. We also meet Rahman Razali, the trauma cleaner being tasked with cleaning the remnants of decomposed bodies, reveals stories of solitary lives.
Heng Aik Min, who is fear of dying alone at home, shares his worries and how he is trying to prevent his body from decomposing till the state that would affect others. And Linda Tan, an eldercare programme executive, who claims unclaimed body and execute their last rites.
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About the show: Lonely death looks to be a growing phenomenon here in Singapore. We speak to those living alone, to those impact by such tragic deaths and those who deal with the aftermath of theses deaths.
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@celestialstar124 3 күн бұрын

Trauma cleaner isn't a job most people can do or cope. I have high respect for them.

@theachilles96 3 күн бұрын

Trauma cleaners are okay. They're wearing full suits. Respect goes to the Police and SCDF who sees the actual body and has to carry it as well to the Police hearse.

@NavyBlue2020 3 күн бұрын

@@theachilles96 Yeah I agree, everyone play a role. If one person do everything gg bro, i will trauma confirm. imagine u remove the body, then u need to do the showering, then you need to do the cemetry or burning stuff. gg

@celestialstar124 3 күн бұрын

It hurts so much when the uncle said he purposely keep his main door open so if he die, people can find out sooner. 😭

@ravenjaxsnerdymommy5297 3 күн бұрын

It hit hard when he said he hasn’t spoken to his child in a while and doesn’t take the initiative to contact people.

@prolikereal2 3 күн бұрын

@@ravenjaxsnerdymommy5297 he has one son and two daughters. After he divorced from his wife, he lives alone- no contact with any of his children

@kengleetan63 3 күн бұрын

Karma to this uncle and many ,who kept VOTING THE SAME WAY AND TO THE SAME PARTY FOR DECADES! This is his end result and so will many like him. But not to those who have PLENTY OF MONEY here!😆😆

@celestialstar124 3 күн бұрын

@@ravenjaxsnerdymommy5297regarding this part I am more used to it as i start visiting the old folks since i am 13. It's something i already got used to for decade. Those flash back of knowing people who die alone, people whom i once talk to and spend quality time with. I am crying like baby while reading the comment section to seek some peace.

@celestialstar124 3 күн бұрын

@@prolikereal2i understand some people might have not been a good parent thus their children abandoned them. Also for divorced family, some times the children stop communicating with dad because they feel the pain of the mum. My good friend who is divorced at 27 with 2 children. She is already uncomfortable her ex hubby see the children once a week. I try to convince her that the ex also have his rights as a father. I have a tiktok local host friend who's mother will explode if anyone mentioned her father. She just said she cannot put on weight because she have her father's gene and the mother blow out and show her lots of tantrums for 2 weeks straight on live stream even when she cry.

@celestialstar124 3 күн бұрын

Dying in hospital is better than dying alone at home. 😢 This episode actually make me cry

@nickng-jm1vk 3 күн бұрын

unfortunately in SG, with aging population, our hospital bed crunch problem will just be getting more and more serious, beside lack of bed space, there is also a lack of nurses and health care attendants, so as much as possible, the hospital will want u to be discharged asap to free up available bed space.

@georgettetaylor8899 3 күн бұрын

I am a Registered Nurse in the US , and I have older patient who tell me that they came to the hospital to die, because they. Don’t want to die alone in their houses. ‘

@user-sn9yh6bw5l 3 күн бұрын

😭😭

@RaulSelva 3 күн бұрын

Not for me. I might get a van and convert it into a mobile home and die in there. Better than soiling the house. No problem at all dying alone where I want to be rather than in a cold hospital bed.

@celestialstar124 3 күн бұрын

@@nickng-jm1vkactually i got blood disorder so I know the hospital actually got reserves special bed for those in need. As a social worker, i do know of plenty who stay warded and especially die hospitals (not hospice or community hospital). It's just that they don't show such story to the public. My dad have to wait almost 48 hours for a hospital bed. But i can get a bed in less than half day if my period show up. But the specialist of other departments have to call my gyne or blood specialist to book the bed for me. Happen to me last year when i have uterus infection post surgery. The radiotherapy doctor cannot get me a bed for iv antibiotics so i told him to call my gyne and he was shocked too. My own grandmother stay in hospital for more than 4 months during covid (bed is so limited) because she is in her 80s and living alone and will go to her hwaker stall to work when discharged. They know she refuse to go hospice and is dangerous to be discharged so they allow her to stay.

@Aurica34 3 күн бұрын

This hits so hard, I cried when they show the muslim women who died alone. Her son bought her a bag that she wanted very much. Her husband passed on and she lived alone.

@tanchye1720 3 күн бұрын

Simple solution (1 way) 1. Elder people can rent out their flat. Rent out to foreign workers with ‘s’ pass at a low rate. Their pay is usually low and will be glad to stay at where they can afford. It’s a win/win situation. They help to pay for your water/electricity bills. 2. I rent out mine and I am 76+ yrs now. Tenants now are like my children. They ‘take care’ of me and I take care of them like my children. 3. Their rooms/my room are not lock. When they go to work I tidy up their rooms & do gardening 🪴 & house cleaning. When they come home they cook and we eat with together. They help to clean the house on their off days. They are happy, I am happy. 🙏 …and stay healthy.

@ShweMyaukMyauk 3 күн бұрын

My ex landlady did the same thing, add to her income, got someone to “look” after her and she has things to do like managing the tenants

@hendonanwar8656 3 күн бұрын

Hai, I am from Malaysia. Almost 75. Though I don't live alone, I support your idea. Just be cautious of rouge tenants. May be install a strict filter via recommendation from good firnds

@VViv37 3 күн бұрын

Good idea! Thanks for sharing :)

@tanchye1720 3 күн бұрын

@@hendonanwar8656 Yes. One has to filter out the potentially ‘bad & ugly’ out before renting out. In my case I rented my rooms to my Myanmar acquaintances. They are very nice people. My more older couples left their door open even at night but only with the metal gate closed. They are both near to the 90s. The hubby is ‘near bed ridden’. I do chat and look out for them.

@hendonanwar8656 3 күн бұрын

@tanchye1720 oh dear 90. May they be helped

@ravenjaxsnerdymommy5297 3 күн бұрын

My dad died alone. He kept pushing me away the two days before he died. A few months before that, I forced him to give me the keys to his house. As a result, those first two days, I would just come in to check on him as he yelled at me to leave. I found him the 3rd day. As his child, I always wonder what those last moments were like.

@clt2744 3 күн бұрын

Very sorry for your loss, I m sure u have done yr best ❤

@gahaha1234567 2 күн бұрын

Your father must be a Buddhist

@francisleu6382 Күн бұрын

Now you can install a camera in the hall, you can use your handphone to view the whole aera from your office or any place, at

@yukiefromoz2573 3 күн бұрын

What is sad is broken relations between immediate family members.

@queva3062 3 күн бұрын

In my case I chose not to have them in my life -- sad but it's better this way

@damianrhea8875 3 күн бұрын

@@queva3062. Very ironically. Sometimes the instigators of “broken relationships” themselves are the perpetually vocal, very loud, self-righteous, holier-than-thou, Bible-thumping “evangelical” so-called “Christians” … They are THE TRUE EVIL that is of HELL and BURNING IN HELL.

@tangt4860 3 күн бұрын

When money is the key to survival in Singapore as designed by Hakka LKY, you just need to see the results from his own family to understand what is really going on here.

@celestialstar124 3 күн бұрын

Because some parents are toxic. I have toxic parents too but I force myself to stay for them. My younger brother already stop commuting with them and refuse to visit them at hospital. My bdp dad use to threaten to throw by brother down by carrying him at the edge of the kitchen window and force me to call my mum home just so he can beat and kick her to vent his anger. I refused but give in because my brother begged me to save him. Even all the psychiatric doctor i see in hospital suggest i end my relationship with my dad or at least call the police when he is in rage. They just don't know the consequences if i really call the police.

@ivanshi839 3 күн бұрын

@@celestialstar124 Sorry to hear what you've been through. We go down different life paths eventually to end up at the same exit. Live for yourself. Make your life worth living.

@shupette 3 күн бұрын

How advanced a society is really is marked by how much the government and ordinary people both pitch in to include the less fortunate/socially excluded - I hope this trend continues for Singapore.

@johnji3537 Күн бұрын

We all have to accept that we die one day. While you're alive, live your life fully, peacefully and joyfully. I have absolutely no fear of lonely death. However, the fear of dying slowly and painfully in sickness is more frightened than dying alone.

@dominique-valois 2 күн бұрын

As I watch this, I may be one of those who will be dying alone. I am not afraid of death, I am afraid of the transitioning to being dead.

@CAdler-xj6is 2 күн бұрын

God bless you， my friend。

@raspberry9313 3 күн бұрын

Dying alone sounds like such a scary prospect to me...Rest in peace to all the deceased 😢

@waiwai5233 3 күн бұрын

Being nagged to death and not being respected by your spouse is probably worse.

@lights6865 2 күн бұрын

All fools soldiers, colonizers, the one being colonized, slaves throughout history all most of them dying alone with no one can even remember even know their name especially the orphans one. So what. That's life just absurd, who are you to degrading or judging them to choose being loners.

@syl-dr1re 2 күн бұрын

Suggestions: A typical strategic way to monitor the lonely death may be to come up with a monitoring and signal alert system. This can be integrated to the relevant authority should there a need to install a home surveillance system, or/and with an emergency button(similar to hospital ward) beside the bed to sound any emergency alarm direct to the social welfare department and the hospital(a hot line link). Perhaps these requirement will all depends on the personal situation, movement or having critical condition of the lonely tenant. Thank you(from Brunei).

@prolikereal2 3 күн бұрын

I donated to cheng hong after this. Sincere hearts

@Almsoo7 3 күн бұрын

If I recall correctly, I recently came across an article about a place in Japan where the elderly have an agreed daily practice of hanging specific colored flags outside their door to let their neighbours know they are alive, as Japan also has a high rate of lonely deaths at home.

@dannwing4224 3 күн бұрын

If u pass out / faint suddenly, u wouldn't have a chance/strength to hang out ur flag.

@judymckee5992 2 күн бұрын

@@dannwing4224 , That is when neighbors know there is something wrong.

@arlscent Күн бұрын

What if she hanged it, then died suddenly afterwards

@dan_1612 Күн бұрын

Would make sense to change the flag colour/design by time or the day itself. If someone doesn't update then something may have happened

@gohalvin21 3 күн бұрын

Kudos to the cleaners and also the communal support that various agencies for providing. This is a wake-up call to younger family member to always stay in touch with your elderly family member . For those already living alone and without intruding their privacy, possible to get them wearable heart-beat tracking device ? This is just my 2 cents worth of opinion.

@KanojoRinko 3 күн бұрын

The elderly Muslim lady passing away at home is really tragic. I think people didn't notice her death because those who knew her thought someone would find out if she died. She actively befriended one of her neighbour's daughter, participated in social events in the community, and her son even checked in on her weekly. But she slipped through the gaps precisely because she had such a strong safety net. We tend to keep to ourselves so sometimes maybe people don't like to be 'kay poh' or overreacting when no one replies. I just feel so much for her son and her daughter-in-law, they need therapy to grieve over such a traumatic experience. Kudos to the trauma cleaners for their hard work! It definitely isn't an easy job but a necessary one.

@celestialstar124 3 күн бұрын

Exactly. I have to especially stop when I watch that part. Then i resumed watching today. My neighbour pass away at home alone about a year ago. His elder son kick his 2nd son and he moved out and only visit him outside the house. There are food delivery to my neighbour twice a day but no one find out he died. It's after the 2nd day the social worker notice the untouched food then call the police. Police even ask us before they break into the house. My mum said we just saw him chatting at void deck a few days ago. My malay neighbour said she got uneasy feeling when she didn't see the old man water his plant in the morning but didn't dare to bother or be kaypo. None of us even notice the food are untouched as we never open the plastic bag. Usually he will put the eaten food in plastic at corridor for the delivery person or cleaners to throw away.

@gbear8207 3 күн бұрын

I was just wondering why no one knew she was dead. Her son said he visits her once a week. So how can that happen?

@KanojoRinko 2 күн бұрын

@@gbear8207 The son stated that he got busy with work, so it's understandable that sometimes he failed to check on her weekly. Plus, he assumed that if she did not pick up the phone when he called, she would be at JB since that's a habit he knows that she has. Even the neighbour thought she went to JB because she was healthy enough to go to JB by herself. Each part of her social net thought she was accounted for, and they don't check in on her everyday. After all, you can visit on a Saturday and the elderly might pass on a Sunday due to some freak accident. This is completely out of their control. That's why she slipped through the cracks. In another part of the documentary, there was a niece who failed to check in on her uncle due to life events. By the time the neighbour alert her that something was amiss, she missed catching her uncle alive by 3 days. She had to mourn her husband's passing a few months before and now has to live with a traumatic experience of finding her uncle's corpse. We are only human...

@KanojoRinko 2 күн бұрын

@@celestialstar124 Yeah, sometimes we tend to not check in because there's a habit by the elderly where it can explain why no one noticed something was amiss. There was a period of time where my elderly neighbour, who stays alone, did not check in with my mom for a while. It scared us. Later, the neighbour returned to tell us that she had been hospitalised for surgery. She did engage some home nurse service but decided not to, preferring her own freedom and doing things her own way. We need to respect the elderly's decision to live on their own but yet sometimes, they themselves may not be receptive. Nowadays, people tend to close their doors, so it's even harder to encounter your neighbours...

@boonkhimyap8937 2 күн бұрын

@@gbear8207😮k😅 no kill😢😮

@puvanespm6096 2 күн бұрын

I think we need more visits by social workers by identifying who is who above 60 and living where and with whom. Also to appointment a neighbour volunteers to keep an eye on people who live alone. I can volunteer to do this during my off days. To take care someone living within my vicinity. It's very sad and these elders deserve love, care and respect.

@HermitQuack Күн бұрын

Saw this three part documentary on TV. Finally it is here on KZfaq. Now we know what is trauma cleaning. Next of kin is important. Thank you Cheng Hong Welfare Service Society.😢

@suzyzoo5545 Күн бұрын

When you are old, whether you choose to stay alone or have to stay alone, be prepared for this.

@w.qbuffy5389 Күн бұрын

This series makes me cry. But at the same time heartened that there are kind souls out there who care. Kudos to CNA for yet another brilliant documentary 👍

@KK-kn3sn Күн бұрын

I used to be so afraid of dying alone as I have estranged relationships with my family and I don’t have any close friends. But someone told me when you die, you won’t know what happens after that.Your neighbor should be more afraid than you.

@mizzsia2077 Күн бұрын

It actually depends on how you die 💀

@gasohwjchen 3 күн бұрын

Thank you for the service 🙏

@geoffreylim6993 3 күн бұрын

Life is so hard nowadays, everyone wants to succeed to the point they have no more time for their parents.

@marvint480 3 күн бұрын

At the same time, we often neglect our health leading up to diseases etc. as they grow older with mobility issues.

@shadowdarkness2860 2 күн бұрын

yup true

@geoffreylim6993 3 күн бұрын

Without intruding privacy, we can install motion sensors and social services can be notified if there are no motion detected in their homes for a few days. They can try to contact the home owner when it's flagged out.

@gel-go-gett 2 күн бұрын

Wow this is a great idea. Telco should chase up on this. With bundle SIM card for easier setup. With both build in rechargeable battery and direct AC power line too. There should be cameras with wide angle such that one camera per room. They can ask to have CPF pay for the service bill.

@hijaques Күн бұрын

Really heart of gold. Salute and respect. Esp Linda who even bought the late Mr Ho clothes for the last sent off. 😢

@wongxinhao1996 3 күн бұрын

Watched another video by MOSG which featured Rahman's teenage daughter who does the trauma cleaning with him. Kudos to Rahman and his family for doing such a underrated job.

@aubreytay1 2 күн бұрын

A very touching n educational program 👍Well done too!

@andytoh-toh6488 3 күн бұрын

Respect to the social workers 🎉

@moxiecreature7158 Күн бұрын

Excellent content again 💯

@katvadee 3 күн бұрын

So sad that some of them have son and daughters but live and die alone

@James-mc5hc 2 күн бұрын

So do I. Brought up all my children paid for all their education till degrees. But everyone of them abandoned me upon an instruction.

@thulomanchay 2 күн бұрын

@@James-mc5hc What about your parents? My parents brought me up, but left me nothing in way of inheritance. So I am leaving nothing to my children too. They have to build up their own lives, with the education and all that I had provide them with. They are on their own when they grow up. I have done my part, their part is up to them.

@thulomanchay 2 күн бұрын

Living and dying alone is not the problem. The problem is not discovering the death early. Find a solution for timely discovery, that human right activists, Freedom and Democracy proponents, right to privacy requirements, will not take issue with the government.

@ryerye9019 2 күн бұрын

I have an old uncle who will likely die this way. What you don't read from these stories is how toxic these family members are. They get plenty of warnings about their behavior, so it becomes their choice. We should only feel sorry for those who lost their family.

@bernadettetay7745 2 күн бұрын

Singapore is very blessed to have young entreprenuer who are willing to undertake such challenging work. Keep up your good work

@carinwiseman4309 3 күн бұрын

Check on your neighbors. Make sure they check on you.

@tangt4860 3 күн бұрын

Not all neighbours are kind and nice people. You can be sure those foreign ones like PRCs will dash into your unit to search for valuables first.

@PeppaSauceQn Күн бұрын

My neighbor and I do this. We make it a point to check in with each other. Because basically we're all each other really has. And we don't go any more than 2 days without saying hey you okay just checking on you. I have a key to her house. She has a key to mine. I'm thankful for that!

@tangt4860 Күн бұрын

@@PeppaSauceQn only with good neighbours, after the Vax, many have become a bit crazy and anti - social.

@Sminsky 2 күн бұрын

I recently watched “Move to Heaven” a Kdrama about trauma cleaners. Male lead Lee Jae-Hoon. My great respect to this profession.

@markshen3280 3 күн бұрын

Singapore 🇸🇬 is not the only country with lonely death people. Many Gen-Z people in Japan, Hong Kong 🇭🇰, and China also can’t afford to start a family on their own and if this trend continues, there will be more Lonely Death Syndrome in Asia.

@TheOldmankk 3 күн бұрын

One prolonged heat wave, could easily end many India, Pakistan, France, China, Korea and Japan, esp the old folks. There was an old Japanese movie, called Ballad of Narayama.

@thulomanchay 2 күн бұрын

Singapore need not be like the other countries with no plan on these lone deaths.

@doreenl44 Күн бұрын

A very inspiring video

@markshen3280 3 күн бұрын

Young unmarried people below the age of, say 45 years old,these days will also face lonely death with no one to help them

@tee6128 3 күн бұрын

A very good informative video abt end of life

@MrBoliao98 3 күн бұрын

We should have stronger social work networks. If die, at least friends should ask questions.

@doreenl44 Күн бұрын

When her son said his mother lying on the location where she wanted to find him who was used to sleep there breaking my heart

@metallitai 3 күн бұрын

having no kids vs having useless kids

@queva3062 3 күн бұрын

It's better to feel lonely when you're alone than lonely with toxic family

@lazyjane1223 3 күн бұрын

@@metallitai Why is the responsibility and blame only on the kids? Ever thought the parents could be such shitty parents that the children want nothing to do with them. Aka broken relationships.

@tankman20064 3 күн бұрын

Or karma to themselves.

@metallitai 3 күн бұрын

@@lazyjane1223 not blaming anyone. relationships do take 2 hands to clap. Hopefully everyone finds peace and purpose in their lifes.

@judymckee5992 2 күн бұрын

@@metallitai , Exactly honor your parents ( it didn't say don't honor your shitty parents ) that all may go well with u. Love overcomes all obstacles.

@JO-og5tp 3 күн бұрын

Unfortunate events like these is why legalizing euthanasia is a topic that should be seriously discussed.

@RaiunHana 3 күн бұрын

I agree with this. It'll be nice to have a dignfied death in my old age (when my quality of life starts to go into sharp decline) where I can say my last words to everyone in advance and have a last celebration of my life and then pass on, rather than living on, becoming senile, losing control of my senses and not knowing what's happening around me in my last days.

@queva3062 3 күн бұрын

I'm lucky it's legal where I am

@allantankl 3 күн бұрын

The risk is human error and pre-matured life termination

@clt2744 3 күн бұрын

@@allantanklthere are plenty of safety precautions that can be legislated to ensure euthanasia is practised legitimately. Switzerland and Canada have already legalised euthanasia in their countries....Singapore should learn from them.

@qibcentricsplayground2043 3 күн бұрын

and then what though? it'd just lead down to a messy path look at canada - one veteran who lost his legs was requesting for a staircase lift for his wheelchair and they not only refused that but also suggested him to go off himself through euthanisation. not to mention how one third of canadians surveyed are down to euthanise homeless people just because of what they are. you really telling me it won't be used down the road to euthanise XYZ people as a pretense of "releasing them from their suffering" ?

@Thunder97629 2 күн бұрын

Good educational video eye opener 👁️

@moonhmy5517 2 күн бұрын

Well done! Very good documentary!

@roubini74 2 күн бұрын

in Japan there are also similar cleaner like the trauma cleaner. except, the cleaner do their own prayer before entering the decease house. They use Oz.

@johnlim7318 3 күн бұрын

Respect to trauma cleaner. Semoga dirahmati Allah untuk arwah. Alfatihah

@Ms_Siri 3 күн бұрын

Oh my GOD my heart is crying it hurt me so bad I hope no one will die alone

@areyeh4979 2 күн бұрын

lone people, especially elders or one with illness, should be monitored or put into a community living space organized by the government.

@lingth 20 сағат бұрын

In Korea, they are also having "Silver Towns" Towns created for ppl over 65.. and dun have a family . These towns cater to single elderlys, and they offer daily meals and also a health care center nearby and freq visits by health care workers to provide health screening and to check on then if they are alive, and also having activities for elderly..

@sleepy_dobe Күн бұрын

As I watched this, I'm seeing several similarities with my situation. This is triggering my depression disorder and also causing me some worries that I will be another statistic.

@jj96432 3 күн бұрын

unpopular opinion: if this is the trend moving forward, shouldn't we try to change the norm of dying alone is not ok, instead of trying to reverse the trend?

@pearlyung 3 күн бұрын

Everyone dies alone. Nobody will want to die with you.

@jj96432 3 күн бұрын

@@pearlyung i believe anyone with a decent mental capacity will understand what i meant by "dying alone" given the context of the video

@rayallinkh 3 күн бұрын

@@pearlyung always interesting to see such level of IQ in YT comments

@manyue2003 3 күн бұрын

How to change?

@jacksprat73 3 күн бұрын

I don't think there's a possibility to change the trend, but it's very heartening to know that there's someone trying to understand this very important societal issue more so that policy and other changes can be made to make improvements as to how this can be managed better. Peoples' lives do matter. If these deaths can be made more dignified thru societal, community, policy level changes that also brings greater awareness and compassion for lonely death issues, then it's a good thing.

@nglijie5716 3 күн бұрын

Death: I am everywhere. I never sleep. I never rest. I am standing behind your back right now regardless of where you are.

@missfishyfingers5788 3 күн бұрын

I've got work on Monday any chance of a bump up the ladder.

@norachong1067 3 күн бұрын

I think death of a physical body is not the end.

@meharihabtemariam3035 3 күн бұрын

@@norachong1067how do you know?

@norachong1067 3 күн бұрын

Our body also have soul and spirit.

@judymckee5992 2 күн бұрын

@@meharihabtemariam3035 , I know as death is just a physical but the soul and spirit, u need to take care. Lord Jesus open his eyes to see u and grant him wisdom and understanding in the knowledge of You

@jessicalim1379 2 күн бұрын

Reflect: Thanks CNA Insider for sharing the topic. Indeed Singaporeans living alone during old age is getting common nowadays. But what I hope to see is everybody can live with dignity especially those whose aging population can enjoy their luxury aging lifestyle instead of just being assets rich. *How well the national resources have been distributed fairly to ALL aspects of community need is very important* . God Is Love! 佩（贝）玲笔。🙏🏻💕🌻🌏💕🌈

@audreychoong7323 3 күн бұрын

Maybe those living alone should make it a point to befriend the neighbours, and the neighbours should make a point to check up on the elderly living alone to avoid elderly dying and decomposing for days in the apt. The government or local GRC minister should do something about building community or neighbourly care and concern to avoid this. Alternatively, those elderly with wealth, can choose to go to a good nursing home or co living with another elderly (share cost for living and companionship) .

@valeriequek6243 3 күн бұрын

Do volunteer in the community to get insights. 5 not as simple as you see from outside.

@Annahoneybee93 2 күн бұрын

This issue should be addressed by the ministers. I'm sure they're aware of this becoming more common with an aging population and declining marriages and birth rates. Society has already changed with less children willing to live with parents. Will building more elderly homes/community be one of the solutions..

@orapark7629 3 күн бұрын

My opinion on this is try to live minimalist.. since my father passed away, I realized we should not stock up too many items. Now, I am trying to keep the house as empty as possible, recycle items and minimize shopping limited to necessity..

@judymckee5992 2 күн бұрын

I keep food for 6 months worth as u never know at this time, war, terrible climate ( we humans cannot change ) as shortages will be coming with inflation. FYI

@peat6154 2 күн бұрын

Yes sorting through a dead parent's things is a melancholy experience.

@orapark7629 Күн бұрын

@@peat6154 if you see all these cases in the video.. Its really headache to the "clean up"... And to the next of kin if available..

@user-hq4ew7rk9c Күн бұрын

What hurts is the one person father and mother can look after 10 children, but ten children can't look after one mother or a father, what is happening to the families, you seldom come across this 50 years ago

@alexaez2946 Күн бұрын

Most likely the 10 kids have bad parents

@noorhalizaasari8798 2 сағат бұрын

But Singaporean don't have many children... 1 or 2 only... Maybe that's the prob.... So sad living so lonely and died alone😢😢😢

@tschoong3897 3 күн бұрын

The richer a society is, the more likely it is to see lonely deaths because the children migrated to far away countries or they live far away.

@tangt4860 3 күн бұрын

Sometimes it is better to keep the children and relatives a distance away as the movie LahnMah have shown

@celestialstar124 3 күн бұрын

As if the poor people don't go overseas to work or choose to marry overseas.

@jeanlee4568 Күн бұрын

I hope more elderly who live alone can on board the Red Cross HoME+ monitoring system which is a non-intrusive motion detection system. They have a network of trained responders to help when the need arises.

@angieng71 Күн бұрын

This video made me recall a almost similar KZfaq video about hikikomori in Japan.

@JonKhoo76 Күн бұрын

I think we need to open up more discussions into this issue and what we can do to give elderly folk more choices

@Padayachee Күн бұрын

I salute these cleaners

@tankman20064 3 күн бұрын

Where got alone ? So many social workers around. Even family not easy to live together. Some get old and get more and more crazy.

@dimplezrere0_0 3 күн бұрын

It’s so heartbreaking to watch this 😢. Getting old and dying alone is my worst fear 😰 😢

@park_suhong 22 сағат бұрын

You sound like a girl who would do weird and nasty things with men😂💀

@chenricky5272 Күн бұрын

More ppl remain singles will add to more lonely deaths. These ppl are young and healthy now but not forever.

@yenlim2797 3 күн бұрын

Clear lapse by town council which anyhow tell the concerned neighbour that the smell comes from rubbish. This delayed the discovery of body by a few more days. Why does town council always patronise residents who lodge concerns with them?

@thulomanchay Күн бұрын

Having attended a few funerals where the deceases was not embalmed, I have notice a smell in some of them, sometime the flowers and perfumes cannot cover them. I have heard policemen say they recognize the smell of dead humans. I think that would be the same smell. If its a recent death the smell is not so bad that you have cover your nose. You just notice the smell. It the BO of a dead person. If I catch that smell again, I will surely suspect a dead person nearby.

@celestialstar124 3 күн бұрын

So sad to hear his daughter move to usa then no more news. I am dating a usa guy too but i told him from start that i won't abandon my citizenship and parents. He needs to move to Singapore.

@joyceflamingo4815 3 күн бұрын

My daughter lives in Germany, I think I will probably die alone too😅

@hell0h0bbit 3 күн бұрын

I live in Canada and I brought my parents here to live with me

@Cubicon2 3 күн бұрын

What goes around comes around

@judymckee5992 2 күн бұрын

@@joyceflamingo4815 , Auntie rent out your rooms in your house , there u have people.

@TheBlabberfish 2 күн бұрын

I always left my door open for this reason. But humidity is getting bad so I have no choice but to close door.

@yapsweeleng 3 күн бұрын

Am looking forward to Part 2. Looking for more insights and good tips like uncle having his entrance door open and make his home as his palace. I too do not wish to be collected in pieces, scrapped off the floor and leaving bits for people to gather me. 😅 straight to the point and Kudos CNA!

@dicostigan1449 2 күн бұрын

I expect to die alone and for that reason my cat only comes inside during the day when the back door is open. Quite a few people have died alone in the tiny town where I live so it isn't just a problem in Singapore.

@bkerdas Күн бұрын

Tak sadar air mata aku mengalir sepanjang menonton video ni, barangkali pada usia emas begini emosi ku memang rapuh. I'm now 71 and live in JB with my wife, 66 and a son who for most time wfh. I don't know for how long this will go on, and I don't brush aside eventuallity of living alone one day for either one of us. Nowdays, living alone in our final years of life makes us vulnerable to dying alone. Sadly, this is becoming a norm within modern societies. Orang Melayu kata, kita kini hidup bernafsi-nafsi, masing-masing dalam gelembung keluarga nuklearnya.

@kittoybig 3 күн бұрын

This is a universal problem and most profound in western societies.

@queva3062 3 күн бұрын

Yes, I used to have a neighbour who lived below my apartment. With heart problem, a social worker paid her a visit every Tuesday with some medications. Her only son abandoned her for some reasons

@thulomanchay 2 күн бұрын

I hope Singapore don't resort to "International Standard" on this one. Every time Singapore can't explain an issue that is untenable in the Singapore context, they point to the International Standard.

@littlejourney3178 Күн бұрын

So sad this is happening. I might be on this same state once I grow old but that is life . We need to deal with it.

@midnightteapot5633 2 күн бұрын

There are duress or emergency buttons are often provided for elderly or sick people, they can be worn on a necklace or just kept handy in the house. The button is pressed once a day (or if there is some kind of emergency) to indicate the system is functional, and the person is awake and active on that day. If it is not pressed, I assume later in the day the system operators call the phone number or with some systems use an in-house speaker. If no answer a person will be sent round to the house, and it goes from there. A place like Singapore could have a system like this organised in a pinch.

@hasnanhashim4386 Күн бұрын

Work work work No time for family or kids In the end, very sad Its very correct that finally the measure of your success is how many people love you - Warren Buffett

@maytan3913 2 күн бұрын

Hope this video helps to bring awareness to End of Life better and do a better planning

@gabia.6213 20 сағат бұрын

This is so sad...nobody must die alone

@hanscheong2676 3 күн бұрын

looking at this video, think I will be one of them soon, good thing is my house downstairs has an AAC, at least can make some elderly friends, just in case if I die in my house...... hope there is someone can and clean my mess..... :*)

@user-pw3if8jh4z 3 күн бұрын

If i were to die alone so it will be then. Im already 45yrs of age n still no life partner. Sad life. No human beings deserved to be treated this way. Its one of the basic human needs - To be loved. Must wait really to be in Heaven to get what we really want.

@tankman20064 3 күн бұрын

No life partner. You want those SEXY One. AHAHAHAHAHAHHAA. Want love mah. More LUST.

@judymckee5992 2 күн бұрын

Go out and join walking club, gym, dancing etc...

@fariszengi 3 күн бұрын

they should build app/device for elderly people to trigger the button everyday to make sure they are alive.

@csking6377 2 күн бұрын

Lonely deaths are very common in Japan and South Korea since the last 2 decades. In fact, the term "lonely deaths" is a literal translation of the Japanese term for it, "kodokushi" . I guess it is inevitable that this will happen in all developed countries as families become smaller and more dispersed. In Japan and South Korea, a good proportion are younger people who suffered social isolation, instead of simply growing old alone.

@Moira_Gloucestershire Күн бұрын

In Singapore, the Advanced Medical Directive allows individuals to register their wish to reject extraordinary life-sustaining measures when terminally ill. This ensures that their preferences are respected even if they are unable to communicate their wishes at that time. Euthanasia refers to intentionally ending a person's life to relieve suffering. It is illegal in Singapore. Assisted suicide involves providing the means for a person to end their own life. It is also illegal in Singapore. Palliative Care: Singapore emphasizes palliative care to improve the quality of life for patients with serious illnesses. Palliative care focuses on pain management, symptom relief, and emotional support. Hospice Care: Hospice care provides comfort and support for terminally ill patients and their families. It aims to enhance the patient's quality of life during their final days.

@demsyciu 3 күн бұрын

Isn't there any device/gadget that only with one button pressed the social workers would be notified if these elderly were in critical condition? Just like an alarm in stores that connected to police station.. I think that would help a lot if they were in need such instant help

@celestialstar124 3 күн бұрын

This gotta be the most painful cna video for me... I even have to take a break from watching.

@celestialstar124 3 күн бұрын

I came back to continue watching from 39mins. I actually cried upon resume watching. The flash back of those old folks I use to visit to help clean their house and spend time with them. Plus those i accompany to see doctors throughout my secondary school days. Those who die alone and in fact all already pass away. I still have to watch part 2 and 3.

@Xeno_of_Luyten 2 күн бұрын

I will be part of this statistic in 30 years or more, if I am lucky. It is hard to find a partner especially now with constant torrent of unrealistic expectations of what an ideal partner looks like. Humans are living in their own fantasy world today. Death is the ultimate grounding and equalizer.

@moonstarsun633 3 күн бұрын

Very important to inform friends, nrie, relatives or social workers to visit once a week. Must whatsapp or call daily for close family. Or install cctv at home.

@maytan3913 2 күн бұрын

Aging population is real globally. Elderly prefers Living in Place. Some live alone bec they dont have a partner nor children. Some children move out of the country. Yo support this trend, it takes a community to do it.

@viralloger267 2 күн бұрын

Alot of people in sg dont want to be so kepo. Alot respects each other privacy.

@michaelfuxeklint4909 19 сағат бұрын

The value of taking care of one self 😊😊

@cinnamonbun5510 2 күн бұрын

It is because the people in the community, do not reaching out to elders. Old people are easily to get tired and no energy to talk sometimes has a brain fog or Alzheimer’s that’s why they are not asking for help. It is not hard just asking the neighbor who is need help or check once in a while.

@Thunder97629 2 күн бұрын

Sometimes a 3rd world country is better as there are many close knit neighbours constantly looking for each other though they don’t have much but live happily alongside 1 another while in developed country the stress and rat race /fast pace life is doing much damage to social lives and sometimes living in extended family is good despite the space constraints and lack of privacy but it is a blessing where grandkids can take care of his/her grandparents

@francinez Күн бұрын

If Singapore have these numbers, imagine overseas....

@oileengrace8228 2 күн бұрын

I lived in front of the home of a woman who had died for over 6 months. She lived on the top floor of a 3 storey village house in HK. Her next door neighbours, nor the neighbors living under her, didn't complain till....As I had just moved in, I thought it was the smell of dead rats or a dead dog. The smell permeated my home and I had to throw a lot of my clothes and papers away. Intially, it's a terrible salted fish past smell, then it became a sick , sweet nauseating smell. She was only 49 and she had 2 small dogs. It is very sad...6 months and nobody noticed? What a noble job, to do the cleaning up with respect. I salute you all.

@birdsinacity8877 Күн бұрын

Did the dogs starve to death too? They did not bark?

@oileengrace8228 Күн бұрын

@@birdsinacity8877 It was like raining heavily for days so perhaps the doggies became weak and didn't bark loudly. I was told they were tiny Yorkshire terriers. 6 months la.

@suzannayong9484 3 күн бұрын

Elderly staying alone n they have children, why don their children can in store a CC camera in elderly home ? So that the children can check on their H.Phone for 24 Hours especially the elderly is not well. Thanks. ☺️

@damianrhea8875 3 күн бұрын

I am a renter in an apartment in Los Angeles, USA. ~11 years ago, an old grossly-overweight Caucasian male neighbor, whose unit was ~20 meters from mine, died alone in the warm late spring. His body was discovered by his visiting daughter ~3 or ~4 days later (we were not sure exactly, of course). The odor of his decaying dead body, once his unit was opened, permeated the entire hallway for days … It was horrifying.

@williamtan7912 3 күн бұрын

I once use to visit an old lady who was staying alone unfortunately she passed away inside her home for 5 days when I went to visit her. It wasn’t pretty. So old people should be taken care of and not live alone something must be done.

@judymckee5992 2 күн бұрын

My husband and I wanted to help a lady who had disability to bring water and clean her place but she won't even allow us to enter. How to help?

@atqzxx1114 10 сағат бұрын

My uncle is one of them who died alone and was not reported in media. Body was found about 4 days later ): i believe theres many more uncovered. This is sad..

@arisuaozora 3 күн бұрын

This is so depressing to watch. Few years back i watched videos of dying alone in Japan and now the trend have reach singapore

@tankman20064 3 күн бұрын

No worries. SG for FT

@user-gl4ii4su4m 2 күн бұрын

Is everywhere around the world…😢

@debraone 3 күн бұрын

Really good welfare for SG citizens

@MrTeow 3 күн бұрын

Dying alone is not scary. Living without any love ones that you know are there for you is what scares me.

@queva3062 3 күн бұрын

Two sons of a neighbour with eleven children, were arguing over their inheritance while he was in his hospital bed

@LuciThomasHardylover-qx6ts 2 күн бұрын

That's the point though, isn't it? That the obvious end of a lonely life is a lonely death? To die alone, knowing that you are alone and unnoticed is an unimaginable fate. And so much more likely to happen to people who have led lonely lives. If you have people in your life you are in contact with you can tell if you don't feel well, you would hope they would visit you and look after you or get you in to hospital.

@Utube1024 Күн бұрын

You can join Cheng Hong and everyday clock your present with them. One day absent they will can contact you.