I feel so bad for this young lady ! If you talking about “ you’d rather walk on a busy highway “ ur really upset Ladies follow ur intuition! Don’t ask your friends nothing

The fact that he makes the young lady feel like she is keeping the child from him even after all her efforts to make sure he sees the child says that he could be a narcissist or manipulative they try to make you feel like you’re the bad guy when it’s really them.

My goodness. I just couldn’t deal with birthing a kid and having to deal with one of my Ex’s because we’re attached due to a baby 😩😩 That has to be incredibly challenging. I can totally understand why she has so many regrets, this is so sad. God bless this lady and other women like her. God bless you all! Momma’s baby, Daddy’s maybe.

Thank you Tony for reading my letter and providing insight. Also, thank you to those of you who left encouraging words. It’s refreshing to see other single moms and women in general who can relate and can see the type of individual I am dealing with. I may sound bitter and maybe I am because I am still angry. It’s a struggle for me especially when my sons father reaches out and I haven’t heard from him in weeks, sometimes months, asking randomly when he can see his son via FaceTime instead of how his child his doing. My baby is so perfect and I don’t know why anyone wouldn’t want to love him the way I do..especially his own father. I am disappointed in myself that I put myself and my baby in this predicament and I just pray that my baby won’t experience being let down and disappointed once he’s old enough to understand. I am only trying to protect my baby in the best way I know how. This emotional and mental rollercoaster is an uphill battle but I am working towards forgiveness as God has forgiven me time and time again. Tony, I will be taking your advice and I will try my best to just be kind. Thanks again. God Bless.

This is a lesson on why our intuition as women is spot on. I hope this lady is able to heal & things get better

I am sorry but we woman have most of the responsibility, it sound like. Its so draining to deal with our emotions, keep our children level and on top of that try to be cordial with the parent who has less time with the children.

Thank you Tony...for encouraging us to use our skills, talents n gifts...while I'm semi retired and a very small time book author...I have a background in nursing n house cleaning...I recently discovered that the locals in my township don't want to work with the elderly....but there's a need! I looked into the legalities and insurance and opened a business called the help...servicing light cleaning, quick meals, pharmacy runs, grocery runs etc for the elderly still living in their homes...thank you Tony for setting the example of exhausting our gifts on earth!

It's a blessing for her that the BD is not local. 🦋

14:39 but he isn’t a heterosexual man if he is cheating with a transgender woman. He sounds confused, she should just get a mediator to facilitate his access so she can heal in peace and he gets to see his child.

Checking in.

Be blessed Sir!

Evening class in session!!

Great advice Tony! Keep your head up sis🤎

Greatadvice. This was a good one.

The advice was spot on .

Totally agree if the baby daddy/mumma is amicable then be the same as it’s all for the benefit of the children (& you’re self too!). We need to also take accountability for our own past mistakes & learn and move on from it & not to stay bitter. Top advice as usual from our brother TG 🙏🙏🙏

I learned the hard way… active military men = no good

Relationships are about trust, so if you find yourself having to play detective all of the time, then it is time to move on. 💙KZfaqr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

Thank you!

Stay offline. 🤦🏾‍♀️

Again, (cause I commented on the previous video) this don't sound like the Toney we know. The Tony I know would have ripped this man a new one!!! Just based off the fact that he was online and sleeping with transgenders! He told her to answer the phone at 1am? What happened to the boundaries we are to have set? Tony would have told her to go CP and set up visitations and to NOT accommodate this type of behavior. I hope all is well with Tony and the family.

She was looking forward to being that military wife. Nothing wrong with it just be very aware of military men, it’s very much easier for them to cheat because I’ve heard a few stories. Lesson learned.

🥲🥲🥲 this hit hard !

Nothing to do with this video. I watched the whole video with Brinny today and it was amazing. Mr. Gaskin your uplifting words that you gave at the end, along with such a beautiful compliment remind me why you are blessed. God bless you coming and going.

That was great advice I will definitely be putting the suggestions to use !

I feel like he trying to slide back in under the pretense “I wanna be a father “ but he wants to be it under the condition of being able to be with the mom

Happy Sunday blessed tribe. To send any questions to get advice Inbox@tonygaskins.com $TONYGASKINS blessings.

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Gn Mr Gaskins Please help to me to help others. My people are in a dire situation. Please help. I don't do social media to email is my way of communicating.Thank you and looking forward hearing from soon so more details will be given..

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"Yall showll like making that Military look good lol"

I mean no disrespect at all and this is your channel but I’m hoping that your open to hearing every view even if it’s different than yours or your viewers. As being in a very similar situation as hers meaning their relationship not necessarily how they became a couple, I can relate. I would first off like to say she sounds like she needs therapy, she’s hurting and understandably so. We can’t be so rigid in life to say, if I do certain things I must understand and be ok and take responsibility when the outcome goes wrong. I am in agreement with being accountable, I am not in agreement when people make you feel like…what did you expect and your sinning, or what did you expect it’s on line, or what did you expect you knew you felt something was off. Well first off, we are human and it still hurts! And let’s look at some things. This man did lead her on. He wooed her (love bombed) in an effort to hook her, lead her to believe they had a future together (future faking) when he had obviously changed his mind and that was probably because he was lying the entire time, he was cheating unbeknownst to her so he was manipulating and gas lighting the entire time! This is a reason to be hurt, to feel betrayed and to be angry! We have to stop spiritualizing everything and before we go there, I’m a Christian and believe the word of God. However, I also believe the self accountability and responsibility that we teach and preach all over in the world is not only for Christians. It is a moral stance of how we should operate in the world rather you are Buddhist, atheist, Christian, Mormon….these are just basic respect 101 and it’s for everyone! So when people are lying and cheating and being deliberately deceitful, I can take personal accountability as. Christian if I’m in fact Christian in the first place to understand how my actions put me at risk. However, I will not excuse or understand another persons conscious choice to deceive, lie, manipulate, gas light and future fake and steal time and energy from my life when you knew you meant me no good! Not to mention, he could have given her a disease seeing all those other people if he was sleeping with any of them. He could of harmed the baby that he supposedly cares so much about…… But I do absolutely understand her being hurt and angry about it and her feelings of betrayal because it was! He was lying, he wasn’t up front and her personal lesson has nothing to do with him and his choices! We make choices to hurt each other and outside of a true mental health disorder, you knew what you were doing and that makes him wrong! We aren’t wrong for taking chances, otherwise we’d never get anywhere. So do we owe it to ourselves to be careful about what we do, absolutely I would never say otherwise. However, that’s for all of us! Saved or not. You know your wrong or you wouldn’t be lying. So we have a personal accountability to do what is mortally rite rather we are saved or not. However, we know darkness exists, we know people are going to operate from this cloth. My point is, I understand her and I relate to her pain and I see it differently in the sense of how I would of responded because I’ve been there. The other huge part to this is. It doesn’t matter how he’s coming off in the text messages. He sounds very familiar to me and if he is this…he is manipulating others and trying to paint her as bitter, evil and keeping him away when he’s doing ridiculous things like calling a sleeping baby. Or trying to get him when he knows she’s working. So he’s asking when he knows it’s not going to happen or it’s inconvenient to make her seem unreasonable and like he’s a good dude just wanting to do rite and she’s not allowing him. When it could be more that, his actions demonstrated he didn’t want the child from the beginning and all the way through. Those little reach outs mean nothing! If he truly wanted parental rites, he would of been there despite what she said and he would of taken her butt to court. He’s making scene acting like a drama queen I understand why she’s saying it because that’s what he’s doing. He’s playing a role so he can get people to say just what you did. She needs to be more understanding and accommodating, she sounds bitter and childish (temper tantrumish), she could do this or that to accommodate him as the father. If she doesn’t it could back to bite her later because her son will resent her. Well, let me say IF we were truly looking at his actions because it’s bigger than you take responsibility for sleeping with himself and it takes two. If this guy is who he acts like, she will never be able to have a reasonable respectful relationship with him no matter how much she accommodates him. If this guy is who he has come across as, a manipulating con, he has no integrity nor respect as a human being or as a father! And without proper professional analysis to see what’s going on within both of them, I don’t see us being able to make logical suggestions. Because this could be a lot deeper than even she understands. If we are to speak spiritual, then let’s consider this guy is apart of the Prince of darkness, do we see he truly means to call and love his baby at night?! Does he really care about this child?! Will she really be able to make peace with him to co-parent in a healthy way?! No, because we know the Prince of darkness has no intention on peace or rightnesses! He will be there or drive her insane and to try to cause her to loose her mind. Because if it’s spiritual, then like you said it was a set up from the beginning, which means….the ending and everything in between is a show and act to weld a double edged sword. One to make her go crazy and take her off her course, and two to gain satisfaction of deceiving others and causing them to see his perspective while further traumatizing her. So he’s not good for the child and she will become no good for the child. My suggestion to her would be to seek professional counseling so she can properly heal from the damage he did inflict on her. It is never our fault that someone choices to deceive or manipulate us and we should never take that on. We should reflect on why we allowed ourselves to keep moving when we felt uncomfortable and unsafe. We should investigate if there are some cracks in our foundation even if that means why did she listen to her friend instead of herself?! Therapy should be with the rite therapist, a place for her to safely pick apart herself and any underlying issues she had before he came in. But it’s also to deal with the trauma he has caused her. He did devastate her and traumatize her and know life as she knows it has been completely altered. Rather it was her decision or not to do what adults do, she was fine with her choice. She was not fine with being lied to, deceived, taken and manipulated. It’s devastating to trust someone and believe as we should be able to at some point, to allow them in our sacred spaces because I’m believing we’re on the same page I’m assuming they weren’t using protection and so they knew what could happen on both sides. So it’s a betrayal when stuff goes down and you abandon ship. It hurts!!! And whatever I knew or didn’t know, it hurts. So yes, I do believe she needs to be accountable yes I wholeheartedly agree. But as far as accommodating him and being reasonable, she needs healing and it needs to be confirmed if this guy is truly on the up and up meaning that he would be good for his child and that he doesn’t mean her further harm. Because it’s not just about the baby, it’s also about a safe and healthy mother. So like you said, if this guy snaps or whatever…is he safe for his own child meaning does he care truly about the child. Because when we defile each other, I’m not sure we truly care properly about the child and that’s one either side. So what I hear is legitimate hurt and a sense of betrayal to herself, her child because she didn’t wait for the rite man and father, and a resentment towards the man who was in fact deceitful. I’m sorry she experienced this rather she caused it or not. Unless she’s this reckless ignorant don’t care type of person, I’m sorry that she is hurting about his betrayal and the situation she put herself and her son in. But life is not over it can be plentiful, but she needs to get the proper therapy and quick because if this guy is who I think he is from his actions, the trauma and triggers will be for life! And she will have to know how to deal with him and him having access to her and her child. And she will never be able to be successful with that until she heals. But he also needs to be accessed because of he’s manipulating thru texts (wearing a mask) and he is in fact, going to continue these reckless gas lighting behaviors, then there has to be another form of dealings. Even if it’s court appointed as to minimize them needing to be the decision makers. And that’s something that will make her skin crawl I know, but as long as he is not a danger to the child’s mental, emotional, psychological and physical state, then she has to just get as much support as needed and walk through the journey. Because if he’s not a danger then the son could potentially feel some sense of resent towards her is she keeps him away or interferes with their relationship. It’s a fine balance. And your rite, we should do things according to the word, it would save us a lot of heart break but….when we don’t and we find ourselves in the trenches, we still need grace and a safe place to land to heal. Great message as always and thank you to the young lady who shared. May God heal her wounds and meet her at her places of need🙏🏾❤️💪🏽💯

She say that she is a private person but telling her business on social media. We need to stop being hypocritical.

She’s definitely bitter!! She needs coaching/counseling because she’s only hurting the kid smh