Who paid for my doctorate degree? Me. Who paid for my marriage? Me. Who paid for my cost of living, car, medical/dental, insurance, house, etc? Me. My late-mother passed right before I entered college the first time. My father was severely ill when I returned back to school to finish my doctorate. Never once did I expect any monetary support from my father or my siblings. All of us were struggling. Finished my doctorate with >$155,000 debt, but that’s the path I choose for myself. No matter how destitute u r, the government has many tuition/financial aid packages.

Sister, you were very fortunate to have such loving brother to support you. Most parents do not support their kids through college. My parents never helped me and my in-laws didn’t help my husband either. We took out loans and paid them off ourselves. My son is in college and he’s also taking loans so he can be motivated to get a job and pay his loans later. College is a choice so if you choose to go, you have to take the financial responsibility that comes with it. Congratulations on your success and don’t forget that your brother contributed to it!

One thing that parents need to remember is that you don't need to be rich and you don't need buy your kids everything. To show your kids that you love them is through your actions. Hug them, take them to the park, have a small pinic, take a walk, do things that don't require spending lots of money. Don't let your kids feel like you don't love them.

This is inspiring story and it’s unique different from most others. The love of siblings-very rare; most siblings are like salt and pepper.

To the sister of this story, don’t let your trauma affect you from being the person and parent you want to be. We have to remember that sometimes our parents are struggling just like us. It’s when we become parents ourselves, we see our parents real struggles, whether it is financially or personally.

For those who expect their parent to support them through college.. when you are done. Are you gonna come and work and give your parents half of your paycheck every month too.. you go to schoo to better YOUR LIFE not theirs. You should find your own money dont expect your parent to fund you.. your parents dont own you anything..

Tus siab kawg hnub no kuv Los quaj2 rau koj zab dab neeg kawg li os vim kuv muaj niam coj peb mus ua neej li koj thiab tas sis yog peb txiv tuaj lawm xwb os Kuv twb tseem txom nyem rau lub sij hawm kuv tseem kawm ntawv tshaj li os kawm tag Los nrhiav tsis tau hauj lwm ua thiab ma nyuaj2 siab kawg kev li os thov kom kuv muaj hmoov li koj thiab os niam laus es hov mus dhau txog kev txom nyem no mus thiab os

I'm so happy for you and sad for you, but most of all, I'm so proud of you❤❤❤ you had so many obstacles to overcome and you made it. Your healing is inspirational. ❤ I'm sorry for the loss of your beloved brother. 😢

The Dr seems self fish. Nothing about her loving people just how others helped her.

My mother has always told me that my education only benefits me and if they can't afford to help me, I can't blame for it. I was sad when I was younger but growing up, I always knew that she was right. You're not the only one who struggles with support while in school. Now that we know better, we can make it better for our children.

Many parent need their kid to be a lawyer , doctor but most the kid can not do it !! Your parent had divorce but you can do and your brother help you to pass this way to success . Congrats to you .

First of all, I want to congratulate you on your huge success!! My dad always said he raised us up but not raised up old. My parents didn’t have much when we were growing up, but my dad always tells us kids to keep going with our education. I took up a big fat loan just to get my BS. My Masters were too expensive and it scared me so I stop going.. pursuing my education wasn’t easy because of life. I kept thinking to myself to not give up, instead at a point in my life it’s too hard and what do you have wheytheres no one to support you emotionally and financially? You only got yourself!! I’m so happy you got an angel that’s your brother who helped you financially even if your parents can’t do nothing for you. I’m glad that in the end you forgave them. Sometimes life’s a struggle, it’s what you are willing to sacrifice and who are willing to help you. Thank you for the reminder to keep on pushing and not give up on one’s dreams and education. Maybe I should go back to school. You are an inspiration. Wishing you all the best!

Sister, I'm sorry for what happened to your sister and your brother. It's life. Marriages isn't a forever thing in some people. Your parents do not know how to be parents. They're too selfish and only cared about themselves and their needs and cheating ways. You can not blamed it all on them. Your father only care about cheating. Your mother only care about not being without a man in her life. Learned from it and evolved from it. Live your life for you. You have your own children and families now.

Moral of the story. Only family will know your struggle.

It’s a great thing that your brother supported you with financial hardship through your education and gave unconditionally support through your struggles in life. You are very blessed to have him. I don’t judge you on why you ask for your parent’s financial support. All you did was ask to see if you could get help towards your education. In all, great job on achieving your goals in life and making something out of your struggles.

Peb ua neej nyob cas kuv nim tsi nco qab hlub kuv os hnub no kuv pab tsi tàu kuv yog ib qhov uas txom nyem thiab tu siab tshàj os. Hais li twg Los luag ntiab yus ua qhov twg Los luag ntiab yus os yus txoj Kev zoo lub siab zoo rov Los tuaj yus mas tu siab thiab chim siab tshàj os.

Your mom is a good person..she didn’t turn the other way like most would when she heard your stepdad touched you..don’t be mad about your mom not giving you 14k..our parents are poor, at least she was able to send you a couple of thousands..do you realize how hard it was to get that money to you ?..

All my siblings and I took out student loans and worked part-time. My parents divorced too. I applaud your brother, he's such a good brother. God bless you and your siblings

Thank you for sharing your story! My heart breaks for you and your siblings. I, myself was an orphan at the age of 14 and was the youngest out of my siblings but I was very grateful to have older siblings who love and support me as I was their own child. During my second year of college I was so broke and have to get two job but once my two older brother found out they told me to focus on school and let them worry about my school bill because they know if my father was still alive he will not let me worry too. Without them I wouldn’t be where I am today. Your brother love you dearly and will be watching over you. God bless you and your siblings♥️.

When you pay your own way through college, you'll be more motivated to go to classes, complete your courses, and graduate. If your parents are the ones paying for you to go to college, you tsis tshuas mob siab mus kawm ntawv thus acting like you're a spoiled, ungrateful and greedy idiot. I've seen plenty of college students acting like that when their parents were the ones paying for EVERYTHING!!!

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I don't really listen to Hmong stories but this one is good...so good that make me cry from beginning to end...😢😢

Such a great & beautiful story! You’re a really smart person!

It ok.. sis you did is right most of the kids that parents are not together they always have good education. Nrog koj tu siab for the loss.

I told my kids to never let financial stop them from becoming successful. If you have no money then loan. School is like running a business where you may need to loan money with a risk.

I don’t understand the point of this story. So she could come brag about herself and talk shit about her parents. You talk like you don’t have parents. Your parents are poor and divorced but still loved and cared about you and your siblings. You were not an orphan so don’t make the statement of “tsis muaj niam muaj txiv.” I have been an orphan all my life, was a single mom of two small children, and still paid my way to obtain a Bachelor and a Master.

When you cant rely on your parents but you have yours siblings, who share the pain and struggle with you…the worse fear is losing them. Every broken family is a little different. Some of us will always muaj txoj tu siab that we will only get partial love.

I’m so sorry for the loss of your beloved brother. He lives in you and he loved you, don’t forget that. I’m very proud of you for your accomplishments. You’ve accomplished a lot and I’m proud of you. Thank you for sharing your story of encouragement that despite your economic status, if you are hungry for education, you can reach it. You are inspiring others to never give up on our goals.

You are more blessed than many of us. U have parents who love u, but just can't support u financially. U have a brother who loves u and was able to support u financially. Some of us have none of those.

Oh yo, you don’t even take out any loan and owe any debt like us and you said that koj lub neej nyuaj siab nyob peb college😮Girl, kuv kuj yog neeg kawm tag Dr thiab tab sis I never ask a penny from anyone or wait for anyone to hand me cash free. I pay my own way up and so does my husband (another Dr). Higher education is a choice and you go to school for you. Not, your parents or anyone else. Your expectation is too much! My girls are in their 20 & 23 and they too pay for their our college. This is how one learn to be independent!

Ntuj aw koj kawm ntawv siv nyiaj ntau npaum ko es leej twg thiaj yuav muaj nyiaj support koj na cas koj ho tsis mus qhov ua hauj lwm rau school es lawv pab koj xwb ma

Omg you and your siblings making me cry a river. Siblings loves is unconditional.

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Koj tseem muaj neeg tuaj saib. Yus ces tiav doctor degree es muaj ib tug phooj ywg tuaj saib xwb. Koj tseem lucky dua txhob tu2 siab

Easy for you to say but if you didn't have your brother to help you with his money, you would have told a different poor story. If anyone don't have the money how can anyone continue in college. Not Easy like you said.

Lady, I don't understand why you demanded your parents to fund your higher education? Many of us, including me, had no parents and we supported ourselves throughout doctor degree. You sound like orphans would never have chance to get our higher education. In fact, many orphans did also earn their doctor degree. So what is your problems. I have a daughter. For under graduate degrees, I supported her and she received scholarship. For her graduate degree, she didn't ask for my financial support anymore because she had scholarship and work. So I don't understand why you have problems but others don't. Without patents, many of us orphans were eligible for grants, scholarship, work study, and guaranteed student loans. My children now are not eligible for any grants and subsidized student loans, so my children have to rely on us parents and scholarship. I am proud of a daughter who refused to allow me to help her on her graduate degree because she studied hard for good grades to receive scholarship and she worked.

Who has $14,000 to pay their child’s tuition per semester? Wow, you’re crazy. My parents only helped me buy my books and im thankful enough.

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Koj rau siab tiag thiaj kawm tag Dr zoo lawm yus peem yus xwb yus thiaj tsis tshuav twg nqi

I'm glad to hear your story and the lesson you learned about loving and understanding the love of your parents. They did the best they could.

Thank you for sharing your experience and words of wisdom. I’m sorry for the loss of your brother. 😢 all your hard work paid off. Live a great life now you deserve it

Me ntxais ua tsaug rau qhov koj nkag siab txog Kev txom nyem ntawm lub neej kawm ntawv os.

Don't be too sad. Learn from your hardship. We do better when we have to struggle verses getting fed and money handed to us by our parents.

txhob tu siab kav tsij kawm.cov muaj niam m7aj txiv twb tsis mob siab kawm

Ég Niam laug aw cag kj haig tau từ siab luaj li og

Me sister aw txhob tubsiab rau koj niam os ib txhia niam txiv ces khwv npaum li cas los yeej khaws tsis tau ib phav li hos, yog xav kom ntawv tiag tiag ces yuav loan xwb mas

This lady is just being greedy. Help yourself instead of depending on others.

Tu tu siab os

Tu siab tshaj 😢

Hlub koj me nus

$14k, that's too much to ask our parents at once. Don't doubt your parent's love by asking this big amounts of money. You can't feel sad for this reason, i think most parents won't be able to afford.

You study for yourself. I don't understand why you like to blame your parents

Sim neej no kuv tuaj txog lub teb chaws no ib xyoos xwb kuv mus yuav txiv lawm. Kuv mus txhawb kuv tus txiv mus kawm xwb kuv tsi txawj ib tug ntawv li nyiaj hnub no kuv tus txiv nyiaj hnub ntiab kom kuv khiav xwb tu siab kawg li os

So sad story😅!!!!!

Tu tu siab heev li os🥲

Tej me nyuam yog koj yug ces koj yeej hlub lawv unconditionally thiab equally. Txawm cov ho tawv ncauj zog thiab tsis mloog koj qhuab qhia los koj yeej hlub lawv yam tsis cais ib tug twg li vim lawv puav leej yog koj yug.

Tiam tam sis no es nej lub chaw ua hauj nyuam qhuav them $17.00 dollars per hour xwb ntshe dev nrog nej ua xwb os hmoob ruam aw, tam sis no peb ua hauj lwm qhov nyiaj qis tshaj plaws twb yog $25.00 dollars per hour mas peb thiaj ua taus neej nyob tim meskas no nawb.

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Tusiab tiag2 li os .

Nrog koj wuaj2 ler o lub neej tu siab nyuaj siab ces g pom qab qhia leej twg. Tsuas yog cov tsug txoj kev no xwb thiaj paub

🥹🥹😭sim neej no os lub Ntuj Aw

Tu Siab tshaj plaws...Cas txoj niag kev Tuag nim txeeb tu neeg zoo mus xwb o lawv e...k&uv xim tshaj li o

Can everyone just stop bashing her? You’re misunderstanding this story cos of the title of the story

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You can't blame your parents for not having money to pay for your your masters and phd because they can't even support themselves you have to work and take out a loan to pay your tuition you can't expect to have your parents pay for it

Sorry about your brother 😢😢😢

What a sad story. Your brother loved you so much. He supported you through college but did not get to see you get married.

So sad😢😢😢😢😢

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Thaum twg koj mam hais nrov los hais koj zaj dab neeg “tus tuag tsis nco lawm” os.?

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Too many Hmong are going around presenting themselves as Dr.

koj zaj no es 2 nas this xwb hais ua dabtsi ?

Koj hais lus tsis txhob SEEV NTEV NTEV...!

"SOME TIMES YOU WILL HAVE TO EXPERIENCE THE BAD, SO THAT YOU CAN LEARN TO APPRECIATE THE GOOD"

So sad story😅!!!!!