7 SURPRISING Signs A Toxic Relationship (No One Tells You This!!)

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Unlock the hidden truths about toxic relationships in this eye-opening video, '7 SURPRISING Signs A Toxic Relationship (No One Tells You This!!)' We'll unveil the less obvious yet crucial signs that may indicate you're in a toxic relationship, shedding light on the red flags and emotional abuse that often go unnoticed. Learn to recognize the surprising indicators of a toxic bond, such as love bombing and gaslighting, and discover whether you're in a relationship that's harming your well-being. Join us for essential insights to help you navigate these complex dynamics and find clarity on your path to healing.
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@CommonEgo 25 күн бұрын

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@fruitypopwhickle6806 Жыл бұрын

I was stuck in a toxic cycle for 6 years. I ended it last year

@EdmondAOG Жыл бұрын

This was my life for 22 years. I’m left 18 months ago. She’s dragging out the divorce as a form of control. So not completely free yet. It’s exhausting.

@Truthteller1s Жыл бұрын

I left my toxic wife of 29 years. She is also dragging out the divorce. They don't want you during the marriage and they don't want you to move on. Evil people.

@EriksPsychology 5 ай бұрын

Stay strong!

@Blackwaterswamp Жыл бұрын

I went through all of this, even worse. Going to jail for a night was the safest I felt in 8 years. Best thing ever because I'm out of that toxic mess. Now I just have to get my kids out

@CommonEgo Жыл бұрын

Glad you’re out now and hope you’re finding some peace 🙏❤️

@emreisthle606 Жыл бұрын

You got out 4.5 years before I did, what a blessing.

@mrsherwood2599 Жыл бұрын

Women are delightful. Sugar and spice.

@aliceroberts1980 11 ай бұрын

Same here and I’m a woman when I tried to defend myself he thought it was funny with beam me up so I defend myself and I’m the one that went to jail. He love that !!! Now the shoes on the other foot. He’s going to jail this time.

@J87513 11 ай бұрын

6:05 The problem when you are trauma bonded as you cannot even realize what is really going on.

@writer1986 11 ай бұрын

I dated my husband for a year before we moved in together. The biggest red flag, that I ignored, was the constant arguments. I'm not an argumentative person; I don't argue with friends and family, but my husband and I were constantly bickering, since we moved in together. It took me 3 years to realize my husband is lazy and entitled, so he would argue to try to get out of doing chores and other responsibilities. I left him a year later, and he's finally working on himself. I cannot tell you how peaceful the house is, and how it should have been like this from the start. But I ignored this red flag.

@will_Iam61 Жыл бұрын

One of your last points about feeling like you cannot be yourself around your partner hits home real hard because for the last few years I have been educated on the toxic cycle I have been undergoing for the last 3 decades and the more educated I have become, the less I share of my thoughts, feelings, and happenings in my life with the toxic partner. It has reduced the conflict, but there is nothing left between us. Needless to say, I have been working on ending this charade and moving on with my life. Now that I know all the ins and outs of this, I won't be fooled again - even if it means I stay single for the last part of my life. I'll just have to make more friends and do volunteer work so I don't feel isolated.

@emreisthle606 Жыл бұрын

I believe in you!! YOU CAN AND WILL DO THIS!! It will be the revelation missing in your life, my dear!! Time is growing shorter.

@jfb8552 Жыл бұрын

Another sigm is how they treat you when you are ill or upset . They do not try to help they may pick a fight .Leave or make out that there is something wrong with you or they will be sick upset and expect you to look after them.

@SarahBeth9811 6 ай бұрын

Exactly, I was sick with the worst stomach flu of my life and I had to ask my ex to bring me a cup of water. He never checked in afterwards. It was New Years Eve and he stayed up late drinking while I was in the next room throwing up all night. 😣

@juliejen2605 Жыл бұрын

I thank God for the power of prayer and deliverance in these relationships. I pray and I know that God is working. Even if I don't see it.

@patriciamacnichol5061 Жыл бұрын

Amen Julie, The Lord "awakened" me as well. The only positive result of this relationship is that it stirred my faith up again and I'll never neglect my relationship with Him, ever again! God Bless You and Godspeed! And thank you so much Chrisrina; you have been a Blessing on my healing journey!

@emreisthle606 Жыл бұрын

We can't hold onto anything, this is both a logical, literal, & spiritual truth. Your thoughts and words are telling of one's soul, and it's Dis-Ease. No medical journal created this entomology, Only Our Creator

@emreisthle606 10 ай бұрын

This adversary will be your greatest call to arms, figuratively but mostly literally. I Thank God for the enemy, and it's champion (as I see mental sickness is nothing more than demon possession IMHO, and I'm not the only one.) I would have never gotten up to learn what I've learned seek what knowledge I have nor played the game and learned the rules and manner in which I will vindicate the children and I against this (My Term) "Skinbag"

@carolb3869 Жыл бұрын

‘The feeling of relief’ was something I experienced. It was hideous. I knew I had to get out, and did. RIP: abusive relationship - will never have to repeat this again💙👏

@noturbo Жыл бұрын

i dont even know what the hell happened anymore

@Cellia836 11 ай бұрын

I went through this hell. I felt like I was going insane or crazy. I thought I was the problem. It wasn’t just a roller coaster… the feeling of walking on eggshells drove me nuts too. He was a complete psychopath!

@emreisthle606 10 ай бұрын

DSM IV Class B SOCIO-path , PSYCHO-paths, & NARCICISSTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER, 3 peas in a pod. 12-18% of American Populace, well 10 percent on conservative estimates up to 18%. This should be taught in schools, but alas they are just INDOCTRINATION centers meant for slave labors not thriving and growing a community, SILLY ME!

@GingerNinja1 Жыл бұрын

Your content is so informative!! This was a great video. They should share this as one of their educational videos in high-school health class. 6:45 THIS is your break! If you didn't leave before now RUN 🏃🏽‍♀️🏃‍♂️ & don't ever go back!

@mase2285 Жыл бұрын

I'm here to admit I'm guilty of some of these things. Especially the love bombing. For me I've always had a difficult time connecting with people. Usually i think i like someone and quickly realize i don't and I'll just walk away. This girl I've been seeing for 8 months has this hold on me and my feelings haven't decreased at all. There are some....complications in the relationship that cause a lot of these extreme highs and lows. Usually initiated by me. I do wonder if it were not for these complicated circumstances causing us issues, if we'd actually be mostly okay.

@mrsherwood2599 Жыл бұрын

I think if you go ahead and get straight before f*cking with innocent people's hearts and lives, you'll be good 👍

@emreisthle606 Жыл бұрын

I will pray for your enlightenment! From my 12.5 years with a NPD that if you identify with Love bombing then seek therapy IMMEDIATELY! I'd say that's a HUGE SIGN of underlying issues. From your words, I could easily infer that you might suffer from this illness. Just saying. I am not a therapist but have had 2 narc parents, and so I wondered long and hard how this type of person might have fooled me for this long period, and it sent me to therapy in which I learned of my true childhood life that I had reimagined as a loving home! At 48 years old, I had come face to face with the Darkness of loneliness that left me with a pang in my heart. I realized When as a grown man I would think back to my childhood I would quite literally become that hurt and abused little child all together mentally, physically, and emotionally lacking understanding, lacking direction and feeling the greatest sense of loneliness. Yahweh and his son Jeshua's spirit guided me past this pain and through it. PRAISE AND HONOR to the Great, I AM! Thank you & may our creator guide and protect you from this point until your last.

@mandyporras07 8 ай бұрын

It’s called Bpd traits.

@brianjarrard869 11 ай бұрын

When they are bad…. You finally got the truth

@JPM_1104 Ай бұрын

My ex GF would constantly bring up the past when she was drunk. Things we talked about and got over together that would’ve been 20 min arguments when we were sober. She wouldn’t let it go, she’d get drunk, name calling me, do anything she could to get a rise out of me, she’d keep t trying to take cheaper and cheaper shots at me until she called her ex boyfriend and told him to come over on speaker phone right in front of me. That was the last straw for me. I did so much to work on it make it right, treat her well. But when she was drunk she’d turn into a different person

@izawaniek2568 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for a great video. Your list o Red flags is Spot on.

@dinab7852 Жыл бұрын

Yet again, I'm watching your videos to stay sane. Thank you 🙏 My 12 year toxic relationship ended for the final time last month. My ex-husband said "I love you" and "you're the one" after 1 week of knowing each other online and wanted to get married my 1st time in his country.

@Roswell33 Жыл бұрын

The first time my ex said he loves me, he paused and then said "and i hate you" because i had supposedly ruined his single freedom. After we broke up he got with someone else asap. He was also drunk when he said it and didn't remember later - or he just denied it, maybe he was lying I'll never know. He was so good at making it seem like insults were compliments

@emreisthle606 Жыл бұрын

passive aggression is a TOXIC bullshit spewed from cretins, I revoked my membership long ago.

@emreisthle606 10 ай бұрын

U CANNOT PIN DOWN anything with these psychopaths.

@user-ds1co4jp1d 10 ай бұрын

My female Nex of 17yrs would often say,"i wasted my youth on you." In the end I woke up. She was a serial cheater. Pretty evident who was wasting their youth on who now. Attempt after attempt to gaslight me didn't work. No arguments ever got resolved, ever! She called me,"unhinged/crazy." Which did seep in to make me question my own actions and behaviors. I said enough after she got physical and handful of times when I would confront her. She filed for a restraining order on me. She listed her sister on the documents to get the court order saying i was violent. Towards them both. Court day arrived. The judge asked her sister about the claims. Her sister replied to the judge and this ones great.....Her sister says," I don't know why I am here I just came with my sister & as far as him being violent I've never even seen him yell at her in all 17yrs." When they argue he leaves, always. There you have it. The best part was when the judge told her lying was punishable by law for serious fabrications like this. It was obvious how much the rage in her was building up In that moment. Still healing after all this 11 months later. It's not easy but it is definitely possible. I hope you are doing well for yourself and you never go thru these types of relationshits again. Excuse the potty mouth. Take care.

@jazz_honey Жыл бұрын

Thank you Christina ❤ Also I love your top, I'd love to know where you got it!

@kittervision Жыл бұрын

Thank you this is very helpful to watch it really confirms what I felt was going on and I'm definitely stuck in this cycle of extreme highs and lows and I know there's no hope of this ever ending it's just I'm having a hard time knowing when it's appropriate to make a break we have a kid and no matter how extreme it gets you always comes around and apologizes it says he loves me and wants to be better and all that and just sucks me right back in again and I don't have the heart to be the one to cause the upset at that point it's all very complicated isn't

@emreisthle606 Жыл бұрын

May your Sunshine be brighter than your darkest days. You CAN DO IT! I believe in you.

@emreisthle606 10 ай бұрын

Yes, I have three with my ex, and she did everything in her power to eradicate the relationship with our children. Things like plan everything during the communication time, watch , movies before i call, put it on speaker in the vehicle with her soon-to-be husband that she suckered into this evil deception and 21 years my Jr. Then when confronted regarding this we were made to use TalkinParents a corrupt and half written Google Play app that is made by an attorney and then propagated in TX by the corrupt and not impartial Judges / BAR assoc. Now this HAS been a great and useful tool in some respects but when the English voice to text is writing down "Hell No!" but in reality from the recording you can clearly hear me say "What?, what?, what?" Then that which is automatically admitted as evidence then you can see the problems right? Also, I spent approx. 1.5 years studying law, and it's application and it's layers and have yet to defend myself but will and still can, but she won I have been left to the wayside but have peace, no vehicle, no home but joy again! There is a long road to recovery if your life is like mine. GO WITH YAHWEH and Messiah Jeshua's example and guidance, and you too will love again, trust again (very few), and will Live and Thrive. In his path, you are victorious!!!😇

@l.5832 6 ай бұрын

Triangulation. My husband was constantly comparing me to the achievements of his adult daughter. I repeatedly told him my achievements are my own and I am not in competition with his daughter. Then he would accuse me of being jealous of his daughter and tell people I was trying to put a wedge between them. You can't win with people like this. I am now happily divorced and his family disowns me saying I tried to tear apart the family.

@mikeleuk Жыл бұрын

Thanks Christina, appreciate all your videos

@paddyh6530 8 ай бұрын

I use to leave my ex female covert once a quarter to visit my grown up sons 350 miles away, I would.go for a week. A few days before leaving her I would start to have feelings of euphoria and a few days before coming back I would have feelings of dread. Initially I put this down to looking forward to seeing my sons and sadness for leaving them. I now know 100% it was the relief of leaving her and the fear of returning to her! 16 months NC and now feeling back to my old self. My replacement is welcome to the monster.

@terriwhalen3618 Жыл бұрын

Hi Cristina!😊

@CommonEgo Жыл бұрын

Hi 👋❤️

@terriwhalen3618 Жыл бұрын

@@CommonEgo 🥰

@memoria.7 3 ай бұрын

I have been in a long-distance relationship for more than a month. And the beginning of this video made me a little sad because he actually said "i love you" to me a few days after we started talking. He always treats me well, respects me and loves me very much. He compliments me a lot and says words of support. However, sometimes...Sometimes I have a strange feeling like I can't have personal space and personal time to myself. I noticed that I stopped doing the things I used to like, and instead - I do everything he does - listen to his favorite music, watch his favorite movies, hang out with his friends, even if I don't really feel like it. It's like I've wasted my time... When I write to him about what bothers me and what I didn't like, he always blames me even when I don't feel like it. I feel in control even though he has never forced me to do anything. Sometimes, I think he's just fascinated by the idea of me and not me, but I can't even tell him that because he won't like it

@Aamir694 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Christina for this informative video 😊

@l.5832 6 ай бұрын

I look back at photos of us together when I thought we were happy and I was. However, I look at HIS face and it's not really a smile. More like a sneer or a half-smile. Like he'd rather be anywhere but with me. In group pictures I see him smile....but he had an audience.

@theresafowler9000 Жыл бұрын

It’s so hard for me to admit that this is happening for me.

@emreisthle606 Жыл бұрын

It is a scary PARADIGM change, for you are becoming a wise guru the steps that you take now will bring more freedom and self realization than has most likely ever occurred in your lifetime. Keep It Up and understand you are pioneering a great future, YHWH.

@emreisthle606 Жыл бұрын

You are in the early stages my dear, it's one moment at a time, and one day at a time to keep from overwhelming yourself with what you've endured! A Dios mi amiga.

@emreisthle606 10 ай бұрын

WELCOME TO YOUR NEW PARADIGM, but also your new found family. You are loved and understood unlike in the world around us. Sincerely, your brother.

@naturegirl372 7 ай бұрын

...you just did...

@jennyherzog9872 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for your videos! You're helping so many people. Thank you!

@mrsherwood2599 Жыл бұрын

What about when THEY say they love you after a month and when you reciprocate they begin treating YOU as "needy" and "clingy"? I'm asking.

@emreisthle606 10 ай бұрын

GASLIGHTING

@hoby7439 10 ай бұрын

Yep, been there -- and I'm still there, sadly. If I go in for a hug, I never know if it will be accepted or if I'm going to be pushed away and told to F off because I'm "clingy". Then when he wants s*x or something else from me, he lovebombs me and is the sweetest person imaginable. It's incredibly hard to know who I'm dating -- Jekyll or Hyde. I am educating myself and starting to wake up though and feel more able to stand up for myself. Hope you're getting there too. Wishing you happiness and peace, however YOU choose it xx

@InspireOthers2023 10 ай бұрын

LITERALLY ALL TRUE… been in this for 3 years and it’s horrible

@lynneivison5773 6 ай бұрын

This happens in friendships too

@hopeinhumanity. Жыл бұрын

Yes ❤️

@user-gz2tp1ru3i 8 күн бұрын

How about if he always compared you with his late wife

@lindahaney893 Жыл бұрын

My common law husband does not stand up for me against his parents,he lies and takes off with them for days at a time and doesn't tell me.makes me feel unworthy and not appreciated,I do lots for him but he doesn't do things for me ,plus his dad is manipulative and mean .and his mom and dad are cousins.

@jwcopple Жыл бұрын

Get out of the situation. It's not going to get better. I'm sorry you're going through this. I wasted 28 years on the same thing. You are worth respect and real love.

@emreisthle606 Жыл бұрын

Your problem is of Viewing with the mind and removing the feelings of your heart. You just answered with your words in this comment the insurmountable problem, and it's in the foundations. His familial foundations were built from Cork, lol. Much kinder than the words I was thinking, but hopefully you can reexamine word by word with the observations and experience you have, and you can clearly see that the problem is you. Anyone who understands what is healthy for them sees that this relationship is DOOMED, but yet you ask for a solution to something that isn't the problem. No one else can teach you your BOUNDARIES. BOUNDARIES keep you safe from investing into a relationship that doesn't value you. So if you are investing into something that has little or no return, then you can't be the Authentic "YOU". I've known 5 at most healthy, and they are the exceptions to the Rule. So at almost 50 and on the "Front lines" and single, for the first time in my life I'm becoming stronger and near RESISTANT to evil forces that now in a mental way and emotional way can manage the "HICCUPS". ALL THIS IS POSSIBLE THROUGH YHWH, My Lord in Heaven, PERIOD. Thank Him as this was only part of the gifts he bestowed upon me. May He Reign for Eternity.\

@emreisthle606 10 ай бұрын

TRY Loving yourself, he seems to be taking care of himself just fine. Spend at least if not WAY MORE than the time on Him but on defining who you are, who you want to be, and go about making your Heaven bc he has a cold Hell prepared for you, IMO. YHWH Bless and keep you

@anetakudrnova4479 Ай бұрын

what If they feel like they can't express their anger in front of me and have to hide it because yelling and punching objects scares me. Does that mean I'm toxic because I'm trying to change him and I don't love him the way he is?

@shmuel5708 Жыл бұрын

What if we both said it fast but we dated as teenagers so we had a connection already ??? Some advice wld be nice. We did scale back the intensity tho

@stantonluke3 Жыл бұрын

The comments should create a dating site cuz it mutual bond is so much better than a common

@emreisthle606 Жыл бұрын

TRUTH is truth.😁

@MapSpawn 11 ай бұрын

Are you aware that you're claiming a narcissist who is forcing the love bombing, is going to say "I love you early?" But this contradicts common sense to me, their objective is to get you to say it; hence the bombing. They're bombing you to get you to say that you love them. I agree that saying those words early and often can be a sign of a problem, but again; do empathic people not attract narcissists? It seems more likely to me an empathic person would say "I love you" early, as they're being victimized by love bombing.

@emreisthle606 10 ай бұрын

ARE YOU NEW? Rhetorical. These individuals are CRAZY you'll never understand, TRULY, but can educate oneself on their Modus Operandi. Get ready for a harrowing Roller-Coaster ride. BOUNDARIES would have solved all these HAWWRIBLE and Heart-wrenching stories of Loss and Cruelty.

@edwinrivera2747 7 ай бұрын

What if your partner is bipolar and depression conditions… ? How can I know if it’s not her conditions or just Hovering to keep the cicle of abuse ?

@guitarciaaleon5900 Жыл бұрын

She said I was her favorotist guitarist then I saw her touching Howie's whammy bar down at guitar haven...I said Howie doesn't even play a Floyd rose tremolo system he was just showing off because he has a guitar store...well I should duel Howie on acoustic for 5,000$ then I'll win her love. 🛸🎸🍊🍊🍊🤘🎵💌📫

@emreisthle606 Жыл бұрын

comedic intermisions are nice.

@emreisthle606 10 ай бұрын

Yes they are, but EVEN I as an entertainer, still balked at this one. WAIT till he comes crawling back in here, with desolation everywhere in his life! That would truly be comedic. Irony is not banned from export, YET.

@aliceroberts1980 11 ай бұрын

One more year my Daughter will be 17 and free no judge can force her to live 1/2 of her time with him I live in a county, where they split everything down the middle, including your children we can go no contact and never talk to the bastard again

@user-gp1pq5up6i 11 ай бұрын

She got me to feel sorry for her when I ment her as she told me that baby daddy took her boys away and then she told me that she had smoked WET for 5 years 😮 Well no wander why 😕 and I still didn't take the hint , thinking with the wrong head (Idiot 😞) than she comes around a few months later and says " This is my new Drug , Heroin 😮 , I told her that I lost close to 100 people to that shit, and a woman friend of mine , died in my arms from it 😢 didn't faze her at all, " Well I'm only Snorting it " 😮 Ooh my God , I should have got out then , but after ALL the STEALING my money and Lies and I find out that she is Hooking 😮😢 4 yrs later and I'm just getting out , a cat , she has clawed me in my face and it's been brutal mentally and I thought I could help her but all she did was Lie to me !! It's been a Living Hell and she is still out there running the streets , Care Free 😢 Unbelievable, 35 yrs old and a Total Mess 😞 Mentally Desturbed and a Heroin addict , Hooker , Theif 🤢 🙏🙏 she almost killed me !!

@emreisthle606 10 ай бұрын

Well ALL OF US MUST NOT PLAY IN OUR PITY when ALL OF THIS WAS ALLOWED, and ALLOWED, and ALLOWED etc. by ZERO BOUNDARIES. BOUNDARIES KEEP PSYCHOPATHS away from non psychopaths/sociopath/NPDs. DIDN'T teach us this in school. You are congratulated on at least recognizing part of YOUR part in this Hell of your making, cling to Who you are and more importantly Who you are to BE. YHWH Bless and keep you.

@kuibeiguahua Жыл бұрын

Let me be the one to help the community this time: 1- When they order breadsticks with marinara sauce they never share. 2- They try to one up your trauma with barely hidden references to popular horror movies. 3- They steal your favourite pillow. 4- Way too much farting close to your mouth. 5- They validate your emotions but then tell you « OPPOSITE DAY! ». 6- They gaslight your cat. 7- They are a cat. Be safe out there!!!

@ecace8699 Жыл бұрын

😂🤣😂 they are so ridiculous smh

@kuibeiguahua Жыл бұрын

@@ecace8699 wowwwww, your narcissist playlist is longer than my self healing playlist!!!! I’ll save yours!!! I think that I’m at a point I could stop avoiding by doing research and just jumping back into the social world lol