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Her mentioning compatibility means belonging from same class and mindset and upbringing and which really plays a major role in your habits and thinking also don’t forget about education and your profession etc also age and health matters so yeah it is what it really matters

Finding someone with both deen and character is hard enough. Tryna give us a mission impossible or what? May Allah help us

Islam has already told us about that Do nikah with a person who is your match , compatible 👍🇵🇰

Compatibility doesn’t mean that you only stick with your culture or ethnicity, Islam holds no prejudice and we are all extremely diverse. I have a heritage of multiple ethnicities and would need to search for a needle in a haystack in order to find someone that matches my heritage. Compatibility is likes and dislikes, how you value life and your morals and values. I’ve had to learn the hard way that my spouse’s complete lack of empathy and love for myself and our children caused the destruction of our marriage. In a society where Narcissism is being addressed even more, we need to protect ourselves from those who only destroy that which they are ungrateful for...Subhan’Allah

That is also debatable: In the WEST, the entire premise for 'dating' is to look for the most compatible partner. Yet, the OVERWHELMING majority of the MINORITY that get married in the West are unhappy, and a good percentage end up in divorce and/or 'cheating'. Marriage is not about 100% compatibility. That's for Jannah.

Look for a companion who believe in your Faith and honesty and you build each other look at your strenghts and balance your weaknesses and make Jannah your goal

Compatibility means that your personality matches. If one person has outward personality going out, having fun , enjoying life and other person has inward personality, like staying at home , not talking too much , dont have same interests. Now that both husband and wife work . With these two types of personalities are very hard to survive. Especially in these modern times where women now have alot more choices.

When you look someone look for 'imaan' more you prioritize the more you feel compatible. True 'Imaan' is answer for all.

Compatibility is a result of mental or psychological uniformity in thinking, habits, prayer, work, intimacy, health, finance and a few more aspects of life. However, you cannot "choose" any partner on the basis of compatibility before marriage, because you have to live with someone to determine if you're compatible or not and that's haraam.

And also there is tolerance in marriage...

True said mam...thank you..we need this speakers in India too

I think what she ultimately meant was having good chemistry. For example, one can marry someone who is firm on his/her deen but if there is no chemistry between the two then the marriage probably won’t last long

May Allah increase our knowledge ang guide us to the right path,choice.i have nothing to say at all from Somalia

Love her this lecturer, Alhamdulillah, Allah hv blessed her tongue n mind to present her dakwah fluently & beautifully with ref to Al Quran & hadith. بارك الله فيها❤️. Syukran for sharing🙂

Thank you sister! Hope the parents realize this and not force a marriage solely based on deen.

I wish this message reaches every corner of the earth.

Yes she is right. Compatibility is also essential. This does not contradict the advice of the Prophet alehyhisalaam (in an authenticated Hadith), where he said choose someone's religiosity/Deen over wealth, beauty etc. Rather it compliments his advice. So how does one find compatibility? Sadly most find incompatibility in their relationship exists, after getting married.🥴🤷🏾‍♂️ What is required, pre-marriage, is a psychological profile of the spousal candidate. If you can't obtain this from meeting them, then seek this information from their family, friends or people who just know enough about them. If the male is dominant in his nature (Alpha) then marriage to an dominant female will probably end in failure because they will argue all the time & this is toxic for a relationship. So a dominant male is more likely compatible with a submissive female because argumentation is less likely from her side, due to her less confrontational nature. If the male is is submissive in his nature, then he will most likely have a successful marriage with a female who is dominant in her nature because arguments will be at a minimum because he will tend to agree with her on most things & be less confrontational. A submissive male & female will likely get on & have a successful marriage because there is minimal chance of argumentation disturbing the peace because they are both unlikely to be, again, confrontational.🤷🏾‍♂️😇

How do we define compatibility? I think Dean and Good values are the best choice ... Compatibility may be vague as it is almost impossible to find compatibility between 2 people ... You may have 2 or 3 thinks in common but this will not guarantee your marriage but values and attitudes is the key

FACTS!!! Thank you 🙂

Very true ,so agree with you .been there got DIVORCED, no compatibility. Sadly true.

I agree with you to some extent. But compatibility? How can you determine compatibility prior to marriage. There is no way that we can do this. We do not live with our partners we do not go out with them. I think perhaps what you meant to say was maybe look at their family background, meet them with a chaperone and speak to them a few times to see what their thoughts are about marriage. I remember a family coming to my house and asking for my hand and the mother was very adamant that her daughter-in-law would not work at all ever. That was an incompatible marriage. It was always my dream to work. Perhaps maybe you meant in this regard.

If I can find a wife with good character guarding her chastity not interacting with non mahram unnecessarily and taking care of our children that would be a big thing in today's times whether she prays fasts or recites it's between her and Allah. It's so hard to find people with good character only nowadays deen and compatibility criteria are for sheikhs and sheikhas like her. you will remain single forever if you have so many eligibility criterias and then haram is obviously waiting for you wide open.

If you r an empath don t fool yourself to marry with a narcissist a psycho or a socio or a sadist they may have’’ character’’or ‘’deen’’ ...but it will be only a short mirage!! 😅 You won t never be compatible with such people if you r a sensible person That s an example of what she s trying to say There are many examples for compatibility Your intellects should be on the same level to be compatible for ex This is a huge theme .... but first of you should have a lot of commons

We all owe debt in time to Allah subhannah watallah azzwajal for giving us a life

I know what you mean. Am in a terrible situation because of not having compatibility to my spouse . No one understands me. But InshaAllah one day I will get out of this situation . I am sure

Jazzakallah Sister for this super necessary important advice 🤲💕

THANKS For the Videor 😊 Its very important to have compatibility with your future wife or Husband. Its the most essentiel for a happy marriage !!

May ALLAH subhana wa ta'ala guide us

Bismillah Thank you 🌹 Jazakillahu khairan

Assalamu alaikum Yasmin mogahed may Allah revards for the good you doing God bless you and generations we are very happy my name is Amina Suleiman from Nigeria

Yeah people keep finding compatible life parteners and spned half of their life just believe in Allah and adjust and be grateful what ever you get

MashaAllah

بارك الله فيكم

This is the most 100% message

You don’t need compatibility because opposites attract. Instead, what you need to look for a deen and akhlaq as prophet said SAW. After that, responsibilities and duties. However, people are not getting or understanding what that means.

Nicely said..

It's true....I experienced that myself.

Compatible come both parties have to struggle for it it is a struggle gehad because our DNA is not the same ma Allah bless us all

So true. Thank you

First of all, deforce is not a problem but a solution especially when the married couple could not get along with each other for whatever reason. The prophet SAW mentioned the criteria for selecting spouse as beauty, wealth, faith and good manners. The two main characteristics obligatory for both men and women being faith and good manners. Where does compatibility fit in here? The prophet emphasised on the Deen aspect of the person not Compatibility! Who should we listen to "You" or "the Prophet SAW" Compatibility? I smell something fishy!

So true , i know this from experience

How can we look for comparability when we are not allowed even talk to each other according to various ulmas in Pakistan

Mashallahu Jazakumullahu Khairan

How to look for that before marriage. True colors and behaviour comes forth aftr marriage.. What to do

She through in a seed of doubt and warned people of marriage when the first 2 choices was more then enough and justified it with a rare occurance in history, who gave this person a microphone.

Absolutely great

I genuinely believe that whoever puts in the effort and compromises, can be compatible with everyone. If two people are "opposite" of eachother, it will only fail if one or both fail to put their ego to the side. You don't have to change yourself to be with someone, but marriage is a responsibility for both husband and wife. Marriage isn't always lovey dovey, you got to fight, and you only fight it you put your ego to the side and compromise. Deen and a strong character that forgives, learns, compromise and love are the foundation for a happy and healthy marriage.

This lady with all due respect misses how to deliver her points across. She said you have to look for compatibility, but how can you achieve that before living or getting to know someone for a long period of time? It's actually not taught nor is it required in islam.

We must give first priority to OBLIGATIONS........before dawah abt any good deed

It's true that we should look for compatibility but how do we really know until we start living with that person? We can only make some vague guesses about compatibility before marriage if you are a deeni person.

well said sister Yasmin

True….many things in nature have their own importance and value but are not compatible with each other. For example, Honey and vinegar are both useful and have their own benefits but are not compatible. We cannot mix them with each other but can be used individually. Similarly there are more examples. The same is with humans, some are compatible with each other and some are not and this is not the case in a husband wife relationship but also in other relations too. Both two individuals may be good or right but maybe not compatible with each other.

May Allah grant me a man who has deen and character and is compatible with me. Rabbi inni lima anzalta ilayya min khairin faqeer.

Nop People usually see Deen as Believing in One God, praying 5 times etc But following And Incorporating Islam in your way of life , in each and every act every day is a total different thing. When you act , you think that Allah is there watching you, When you speak, you think that you are accountable for your every word and action , that is called Practicing on Deen . That is what we are asked to prefer and choose such a man or woman for marriage . Your children will be brought up by that chosen spouse equally and A good Muslim child would be a sadqa jaria for you in this and hereafter. While on the other way around, think what will happen to you if those children that you left them in this world were not brought up as good Muslims because you and your chosen spouse were not practicing true Muslims. Reading Quran and learning Hadith is the basis of it But Practicing it every day 24/7 is another thing.

True 👍

We don't have to we have to work hard to build love patience forgave but make sure you are not marrying a psychopat May Allah bless everyone with good partner

MaShaAllah ,jazakAllah

ماشاءاللہ تبارک اللہ

Thank you very much 💞💞💞

ماشاء الله اختي

Thats true 👍

Yes mam alhamdulillah

Subhanallah may Allah guide us amin 🙏

excellent

MashAllah tabarakAllah ❤❤

How to look for compatibility ?

Surah 4:34

Machallah tabarakallah barakallahu fikum

If after having Deen, morals and a good character, people still feel it’s not enough surely they are being ungrateful truly ungrateful, (Deen, morals etc Sunnah teaches you to accept and compromise for the sake of Allah for the one who believe in Allah and loves Allah) but no some people are too practical when it comes to their Deen, worldly life and character! Those who lack knowledge and wisdom, Shaytans will always be their Friend directly or indirectly, learn to compromise, bend a bit let go of your arrogance, it’s nothing but a veil between you and Allah, be humble treat everyone with love and care, learn to understand Quran, Sunnah and than each other! So that may Allah reward you for your humbleness! Learn to accept that everyone is different and learn to love Allahs miscellaneous creation in all forms and colour and ways. rest Allah knows best. JhazakAllah

Making sure the are pretty much similar in Life. If one spouse wants to travel and enjoys quality time with family/ friends And the other spouse just wants to go the masjid all day and be at his mommas house It’s not Going to work out.

100% true

When she says compatability she meant physical attraction and chemistry.

اللهمَﷺصَلِّﷺوَسَـــلِّمْﷺوَبَارِك* *ﷺْعلىﷺ نَبِيِّنَـــاﷺمُحمَد ﷺ ┊✯┊✯┊✯┊✯┊✯┊✯┊ ✯ ﷺﷺﷺﷺﷺﷺﷺ جزاکــــــــــــــــــــم الله خيرا

I like you english speaking.....mises......good.......

Your words sounds fantastic 👌 in secular countries. Do you know and feel the condition of women in IRAN OR AFGHANISTAN??? NAUSUBILLAH.

I agree 100 over 100

Woah! Sis, slow it down. You cannot use that parting to exclaim your narrative. First of all; that was a Devine decree how the whole dynamic occurred! Secondly the implication that somehow this is an excuse to add more to the Sunnah . Our Prophet(PBUH) gave us four things for a woman to seek in criteria. "Compatibility" ain't one of them. Stick to religion (Deen), family status (good Family), wealth, means to provide, beauty(attraction). Since I assume your target is a female crowd, your opening a door to a bunch of innovation . Stick to criteria. And with the Almighty's permission. "Compatibility" will grow. Now if you'll excuse me,I must pick up my darling wife of 23 yrs from the dentist because she can't drive on novacaine. And I better not be late or I'll here about it all the way home. Lol

Assalamualaikum please elaborate the word compatibility!!!!

Very true Wallah

This is indeed true. But, the problem is in our Islamic society, we have no way of finding whether our potential spouse is compatible enough for us before marriage.

Here is what my sisters and brothers should seek. Deen and imman yes. The most important parts are who follows the commandments of Allah and the path of Mohammed (SWA). Willing to sacrifice for Ikhira. If this is what you call compatibility? Ok then

mashaallah.

Dean is must, but not sufficient. IMAAN increases and decreases. Hadith is choose one who has a dean.

maa Sha Allah

The reason of those two (RA) were different, of course lack of compatibility was one of the reasons but not just the only reason, it was ordered by prophet (Pbuh) . We must not pass incorrect context, not everyone reads it that way. She’s got to be careful

Thank You ❤🙏👍

So true ❤

Also, age difference shouldn't be a limiting factor. Nowadays, for some reason, so many people find it problematic when the man is a few years older, or the women is a few years older. But it isn't, because if both parties are happy, if both partners are willing to commit, then no one has the right to complain or even interfere.

Superb sister

Compactability means which ...things

Coz you always want or need more

Be VERY careful when you say looking for deen isnt enough. That is a very dangerous subject. Cause remember islam understands that people arent compatible and should divorce that is also part of deen. And even before that alot of people say they saw deen, but when you see the reasons for divorce, you realize the problem was lack of deen in the issue.

Naa. Compatibility is important for people under 25. This is how they view it. Like they have to be best friends and we know as you get older, it's natural to drift apart. So compatibility is temporary. If your looking for your best friend, you will never find it. You may think you have but 3 years after you will be questioning it and your world would turn upside down because you gave importance to that one thing. That's why it's not most important.

Allah and his Rasool is enough sister believe it or not . Computable in deen make sense, but comfortable in video games , money , professional level or class all can be adjusted .

Amazing

My Sister in Islam. Compatibility is acquire during the relation of Nikah. You cite superior Saha is of Rasullah Sallawhu alayhe wa Sallam to make your point. But, we aren't comparable to them. Their faults are superior to our best efforts. Islam is sufficient. The standards that were given for us are useful because we aren't in the company of those great people. The immaturity in relations can be cured in Nikah. Not outside Islam. We don't learn about companionship outside of Nikah Zina is Haram. Ameen.

Agree

When she said compatiblity, i had no idea what is that mean, until i read some of the comment.

True Imaan