Coping with Anxiety and Depression

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Andrea J. Severson - Author (aka JeSuisJusteMoi)

8 жыл бұрын

READ FIRST!!!!: This video is intended for those dealing with anxiety and depression or those who are interested in learning more about the experience of dealing with mental health issues. If you’re not interested, don’t watch. Please only leave positive feedback in the comments. I was so nervous to upload this, and had to refilm it after the first time resulted in out of focus footage. I’ve tried to edit this to be as concise as possible but there was a lot I wanted to cover and I didn’t want to split it into two videos since I feel my personal experiences are closely connected to the advice I have to share. So no hard feelings to anyone who skips around through the video or skips it entirely, this one is definitely for a specific audience that might not include all of my subscribers. I think you all will understand.
This is a subject that is very personal and that I care very deeply about. Everyone has a right to be happy. In fact, here in the US, it’s part of our founding documents, the right to “life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.” My journey to be happy has been long and ongoing and I can definitely say that while I still deal with anxiety and depression I am happier now than I’ve been in recent years. If you would like to share your experiences in the comments I would be very interested to read them. If you have done a similar video on your channel please feel free to link it below. Likewise if you have information or resources for dealing with mental health issues or getting help with them please link that in the comments as well.
xx Andrea
The “Positivity Tag” • Positivity Tag!
Links for general coping skills and strategies:
Anxiety and Depression Association of America
General tips: www.adaa.org/tips-manage-anxi...
Links page specific for college students: www.adaa.org/living-with-anxi...
10 ways to cope (I do some of these): www.realsimple.com/health/mind...
Coping statements (some of these are really good and have worked for me): anxietynetwork.com/content/cop...
This has lots of great tips and guides: www.helpguide.org/articles/dep...
Mayo Clinic (lots of good stuff here): www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-co...
Mayo Clinic on Anxiety: www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-co...
anxiety.org college page: www.anxiety.org/university-st...
Let’s connect!
Instagram: jesuisjustemoi
Twitter: @SeversonSimotti
Snapchat: seversonsimotti
My blog: researchandramblings.blogspot....
Facebook: / researchandramblings
Disclaimer: I’m not a doctor, just someone who has personal experience. Please consult your doctor before starting any treatment.If you are having suicidal thoughts or are afraid a friend is thinking about it get the help of a trusted adult, if you fear your friend are in immediate danger contact emergency services in your town, and stay with your friend until help arrives. All thoughts and opinions expressed on this channel are entirely my own. None of the products featured or mentioned are sponsored. Any links included are just to provide you with more info, they are not affiliate links.

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@lynseymacmakeup 7 жыл бұрын

I've had this video on my to watch list for ages - I'm so glad you made it, thank you so much for talking about your experiences. I'm sure this video will help more people than you can imagine. For every person who leaves a comment there will be lots more who are grateful for it who just don't type it out. I absolutely loved that idea of your current situation sucking but your life being fine - I think that's a fantastic way to look at things, especially during a particularly bad patch. x

@AndreaJSeverson 7 жыл бұрын

Aww thank you Lynsey! For watching and for sharing your thoughts, I really appreciate it. This was such a tough video to make. This, the "feeling like a failure" video and the fibromyalgia video I just put up are probably the videos that cause the most nervousness as I hit "publish". So comments like this mean the world to me. I know that there are a lot of people who don't comment, so I know it's helping more people than I realize. And yeah, I think it's really important to remember that our lives are going to be ok, even if our current situation isn't that great. :) xx

@mariann.6253 7 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video. I had a lifetime of emotional and physical abuse. Stuffing it down was my coping skill, and I truly believe all of that has made my life what it is today. Stuffing down does not work. So now I work at living with chronic illness. This video is powerful!

@AndreaJSeverson 7 жыл бұрын

Stuffing it down definitely doesn't work. Thank you so much for your comment. I hate that other people go through this but it's always nice to hear from people who found this video powerful. It was one that I was very nervous to put up but I hoped it would help people.

@belindalaurie 8 жыл бұрын

You advocated SO WELL for those of us who've dealt with or may be dealing with anxiety &/or depression. Your mothers quote is something I will take with me and cherish so I thank you for sharing that with us. You are SO right about switching therapists. It's slowed down how I'd been able to deal with anxiety and depression in the past in ways I could never have imagined at the time (that was horribly put, but I hope it makes sense). One thing that helps me now with my anxiety is being honest with MYSELF about how I'm feeling and giving myself permission to feel whatever I'm feeling. It can be overwhelming and scary but it's been so, so important to being able to cope. Thank you so, so much for this video. Maybe this is why I feel so connected to you despite the distance and computer screen lol. I'm so happy you have a support system but I'm also always here :) xx

@AndreaJSeverson 8 жыл бұрын

Aww giant internet hug to you Belinda! You and a few others on here have definitely become part of my support system and your comments on my videos or my other social media posts always make me smile and feel better. I was so nervous to put this video up but I knew there'd be friends like you that would have such a beautiful and kind response. Yes, you are so right that it's important to give ourselves permission to feel what we're feeling and not fight it. And I would add, that there isn't a time limit to it. I think one thing I've struggled with since childhood is feeling like I can only be mad, sad, scared, etc. for a short period and then I have to move on. Now I've gotten better about letting myself be sad or whatever for a longer period of time as long as it's not continuous (because that's another issue). My grandma passed away back in January and it was pretty sudden. She had a stroke and was never going to recover and she passed several days later in hospice. I still have moments what just devastate me to think about it. When those moments come I let myself feel them. I don't tell myself "it's been 8 months get over it". Thank you soooooooo much! Really glad I've found such a supportive group here on KZfaq between my channel and yours and others. It makes a huge difference, especially now that I'm working from home primarily. :) xx

@belindalaurie 8 жыл бұрын

+JeSuisJusteMoi I'm so sorry to hear of your grandmothers passing but you bring up such a great point from having experienced the pain. The whole idea of having a time limit for emotions is unreasonable and causes more anxiety from being anxious or depressed that you're still anxious or depressed... A horrible cycle. I've already shared this video and hope others do too. Never know who's silently needing hear something like this. PS. So happy to have 'met' you. The power of KZfaq, eh? Oh goodness, my Canadian is showing lol!

@AndreaJSeverson 8 жыл бұрын

Belinda Laurie thank you for sharing this, it means a lot. So far in less than 24 hours it's already over 160 views, not a lot of comments but hopefully it's helping people. :)

@belindalaurie 8 жыл бұрын

I think it is - I'm sure many aren't comfortable speaking of their personal experience. But you've created it for those who need it and that's what key ;)

@FarahAsifa 8 жыл бұрын

I think this video is so brave, first off, and secondly, extremely helpful! Everyone has bad days and bad moments, but when I see someone like you who seems so happy and strong, and positive talk about these serious issues and that you deal with them - it blows my mind. Lately, my life has been going through a strange dip and it's definitely for the good but at this time there was some adversity and what you said "Your current situation may suck but your life is fine/fantastic" I could NOT agree MORE!!!! It's the wisest statement I've heard in awhile. I just wanted to say, it helped me so thank you for sharing your experience and for caring :)) Big hugs xo

@AndreaJSeverson 8 жыл бұрын

Aww, big hug right back. I'm so glad this was helpful. I knew it was important to share this and my experiences. I get a lot of comments about how I seem so positive in my videos, and I definitely think the same about a lot of KZfaqrs I watch. But these are such common issues and I thought it was important to share that even people who seem positive like me struggle with this. And yes, sometimes our current situation is really hard but our life is still great and definitely still worth living. Thank you so much for watching and for commenting. It means so much to me. ❤️

@FarahAsifa 8 жыл бұрын

+JeSuisJusteMoi Absolutely and you're welcome ❤️

@AnnieThyme 8 жыл бұрын

Hi Andrea! first off, MASSIVE HUGS to you and major props for doing this. I know how hard it can be when you're having that tougher time and you're right with regards to school everything will get there in the end. I have so much I want to say and yet this is one subject that I can never articulate on very effetively. It's (talking about it)has probably only gotten worse these past couple years. I have been home bound, if not completely bedbound as we try to salvage my health. and often when I see residenta they seem to assume that is due to depression rather than problems with my autoimmune disease. the sr. doctors always seem to have a better grip but it turns every appointment into this weird tense thing while I deal with the residents. It's also exposed me to some pretty nasty comments and in general stigma that I'd been lucky to never have to deal with regularly before this. And I think that has made it more difficult for me to discuss while I try to reconsile all of that in my head and not retreat from pursuing treatment for my AI disease. (which I have been so tempted to do this summer- but it's not really an option to even have a break) these last few weeks have presented a lot to deal with on all sides and I'm still not certain how I'm going to manage it. What tou were saying here made me think alot about the things outside of mental health that I've got on my plate and a lot of what you said applies to other health problems as well:) Apologies for just exploding athis all over your comment section-I got massively off topic &down my own little path on this one. I tried to keep it short and I'm pretty sure I only made it more garbled but c'est la vie- hopefully the intent shines through. I do DEEPLY feel for you and have been there in my own version before. I know you have IRL friends and supportive family but if you ever need someone different or a distraction from things know I'm always here if you want to talk. xx

@AndreaJSeverson 8 жыл бұрын

Oh Annie, massive hug right back. I know you're dealing with a lot right now yourself and I can relate to some of what you were saying about the doctors. I think it's one reason why my fibromyalgia was undiagnosed for so long. I think part of my depression is from external factors but part of it is internally sourced from feeling so miserable physically for so long. They feed off one another. Feeling sick makes you depressed but then being depressed causes physical symptoms that make you sick. And round and round we go. I want off this ride lol. A HUGE part of my depression last summer was from being sick and being on the wrong medication but not being able to do anything. I felt horrible physically but feeling helpless to solve that made my depression worse. And I'm sorry you've had to deal with nasty comments. The stigma around mental health and other invisible illnesses is so frustrating. Just because someone doesn't look "sick" doesn't mean they aren't dealing with something. Ugh, I could rant about that for paragraphs lol. Never apologize for long comments. I always love reading your comments and I appreciate more than words can say that you care enough to share your thoughts. I was just saying to Belinda in another comment here that you all have become part of my support system, I'm so lucky to have found such amazing people on KZfaq that support not only my channel but support me personally as well. :) xx

@ejcchriss7582 8 жыл бұрын

So many people go through this. I've had my fair share of anxiety. it's great more and more people speak up about it.

@AndreaJSeverson 8 жыл бұрын

It's sad how common it is and yet so many people feel alone with their experiences.Thank you so much for watching and commenting, I really appreciate it.

@ejcchriss7582 8 жыл бұрын

xoxo

@AndreaJSeverson 8 жыл бұрын

❤️

@TheDesertRoseJournals 8 жыл бұрын

i could feel each and every emotion you were talking about. having experienced depression myself, I can imagine how tough it was for you, and I'm sorry you had all that turmoil going on at a young age. more power to you😘😍

@AndreaJSeverson 8 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your kind and supportive words, they mean so much. Everyone's comments so far are proving to me just how sadly common these issues are. No matter where we live or what our background is, anxiety and depression are so common and none of us are alone in our experiences. Thank you for watching. xx :)

@MelanieLyneBeauty 8 жыл бұрын

You are so brave for sharing this hun!! I think so many people can relate and you will have helped so many by sharing this! So truly thank you for opening up about your struggle and I'm happy to hear you're in a better place now :) I wish you all the best going forward with this as I know it's a continuous struggle!

@AndreaJSeverson 8 жыл бұрын

Aww thank you! That means so much! I really hope this video will help people. It is a continuous struggle but filming this video and the positivity tag really put into perspective just how far I've come. :) Thank you for watching sweetheart! :) xx

@ItsmeSavy 8 жыл бұрын

This made my day. Such a beautiful and inspiring video and message. Anyone who's reading this, you are awesome, beautiful and special. Such an inspiration Andrea.

@AndreaJSeverson 8 жыл бұрын

Aww thank you Savy! That means a lot. :)

@ItsmeSavy 8 жыл бұрын

Of course! Your so strong!

@HannahRhodesxo 8 жыл бұрын

Loved this video sooo much!! I've been dealing with anxiety and panic attacks for about 2 years now and it can be very difficult sometimes and stressful but thank you so much for sharing your story

@AndreaJSeverson 8 жыл бұрын

Aw hun, you are definitely not alone. I might do a video on dealing with panic attacks specifically. They are so miserable to suffer from. I hope some of this video helps, I'm glad you enjoyed it. Big hug! 🤗 💕

@HannahRhodesxo 8 жыл бұрын

+JeSuisJusteMoi Yes it definitely did😊

@PagesAndPolish 8 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for sharing your story sweetheart. I think we can all relate on some level. My sister suffers from really crippling anxiety and so many people really don't understand it or her. I'm gonna forward this video on to her as well. It's always so helpful to hear someone else's story. ❤️❤️

@AndreaJSeverson 8 жыл бұрын

Yes, please share it with her, and anyone else you think it might help. There's such a horrible stigma against depression and anxiety, and other mental illnesses, and it just makes it worse to deal with. These issues can be so debilitating and isolating to begin with but when people don't at least attempt to understand them it just makes it worse. Your sister is definitely not alone in dealing with anxiety. ❤️

@ChristineThomasdashofdiva 8 жыл бұрын

Andrea, if I haven't told you yet today, you inspire me! You are such an awesome woman and I'm so lucky to call you friend. I also suffer from anxiety and depression, if you ever need to talk-I'm here. ❤️

@AndreaJSeverson 8 жыл бұрын

Aww thank you so much! It means a lot to hear that. I'm sorry you deal with similar struggles. It's not fun. We'll definitely do that coffee meet up soon. Maybe once the back to school madness has died down. :)

@ChristineThomasdashofdiva 8 жыл бұрын

xo definitely!

@shewearsglasses7694 8 жыл бұрын

This was so inspiring Andrea! I know this is a topic we've discussed before and so this really spoke to me. Day = made :) Thanks for expressing your helpfulness and knowledge on the subject to those who may need it right now.

@shewearsglasses7694 8 жыл бұрын

Positivity tag sounds interesting btw :) Can't wait for you to upload that!

@AndreaJSeverson 8 жыл бұрын

+TaraDeebs aww thank you. I'm glad you liked this. It was tough to make and so hard to edit lol. But it was worth it. ❤️

@AndreaJSeverson 8 жыл бұрын

+TaraDeebs it's exporting now. Looking forward to sharing it. ☺️

@romanceduchess 8 жыл бұрын

I can relate alot to this video because I have suffered from anxiety for years since i was in high school my mom also suffer from anxiety. I havent had it for a while though but when i was younger an before i turned 30 I had it really bad where I thought i was going to die also numbness in my fingers, shortness of breath and this feeling like I need to run. So im glad you talked about this.

@AndreaJSeverson 8 жыл бұрын

Anxiety is no joke. It can make you feel like you're having a heart attack. That's why it drives me mad when people try to act like it's no big deal and people with anxiety need to just shake it off. That's why I wanted to share my experiences. I knew there'd be other people around my age like you who could share similar experiences here in the comments and younger subscribers who might be feeling like it's just them who feel this way. Thank you so much for watching! :)