Quick summary: 1. You don't see her. 2. No progress. (Nobody from her family/friends even knows you after months of seeing could be a RED FLAG, important comment to that point imo) 3. Disntant / wants space. 4. Makes you an option. 5. You feel confused.

You can tell by her level of attention, comparing to in person, texts, and social media. Choose those who choose you fellas; invest in those whom invest in you

It's okay to keep your options open when dating but when it gets to a point where it seems like the woman is not invested in you, you gotta take a step back and maybe even move on. My rule is simple: if you don't feel like the #1 option, then you're not.

As a man, you should still be seeing other people at the beginning stages. Don’t settle until you know sure it’s mutual between the two of you - you want her and she wants you. Key word: Mutual

A man should not be "worried" about "her" seeing other men .... just work on "you" and "worry" about you ...

You're the first woman who does these type of videos I've come across who actually reveals the truth about women. All the others just lie trying to protect the image of women in general and sell you some program. Finally. Thank you. You got my sub.

"She's not yours, it's just your turn" 🙂 😏 😉

Woman who tell you she needs space, time to look for a new girl friend. Let her go and move on. Act like you're okay with it and if it doesn't work out for her with the new guy. She might comeback to you. It happened to me. It didn't work out for her and she wanted to get back into the relationship. I said no to her.

Dating with the intent for a meaningful relationship that possibly leads to marriage in this day and age is nearly impossible. Everything is a red flag now days, it's easy to swipe and since it's so easy to connect with people online people think they can always find someone better, therefore it's an endless cycle.

True Love shouldn't be so complicated. Hang in there guys. Thanks for all you do Courtney!

In early stages Gents, you have to be seeing other girls too. She has to feel competition anxiety to want to take you off the market and make things exclusive. And that ask must ALWAYS come from her side. Never the guys. Remember, if you are high value, YOU are the PRIZE. Monogamy benefits her a lot more than it benefits you. When you internalize this your relationships will be a lot better with women.

Lol I just broke up with my ex two days ago because she just completely switched up on me. Started leaving me on seen, then said we needed a break, but I found out she was talking to other people, yet giving me no time. I eventually got tired of it and decided to move on.

I have always assumed a woman was seeing others. Until we have that conversation, it's fair game.

Only two signs are necessary to know if she's dating other people: 1. It's 2022 or after 2. She's a girl

Courtney we need more genuine girls like you (and people in general for that matter). It’s extremely sad beautiful and legitimately sincere girls are so rare.

Dating apps are a cesspool.

This reminds me of my ex after having a seemingly great relationship for 10 months she checked all these boxes almost overnight. I always suspected cheating but could never prove it. What a terrible coward of a woman. Disgusting how someone can hurt someone so bad and not give a damn. Good riddance to that trash.

She's always seeing other people. Until she isn't.

She has her phone with her all the time and not keeping it on the kitchen counter anymore. She makes excuses not going out on Fridays or Saturdays with you. She dresses up more and saying she's hanging out with her friend instead of you. She's not as affectionate.

The earlier you discover this, the better so you can move on and stop wasting time. As long as you know deep down that you did nothing wrong to deserve being ghosted, cheated, etc, realize it's her loss. In that case, don't take it personally because it says more about her than you. Don't try to spin the blame and make it sound like if she's not invested in you or leaves suddenly, then it's because you did something wrong; it's your fault...not necessarily. Not your fault she decided to jump to the conclusion that you're not worth it. Haste makes waste afterall. In any case, this video may have good intentions even though it doesn't shine girls in the best light and they're taking a bit of the heat for once and realize life's too short to have too many options where themselves can't choose

A lot of guys are very very aware of what you re saying here courtney BUT the real problem is scarcity mindset that makes men almost "suck it up and accept it " men KNOW you just know when she s not interested some guys just feel like that girl would be their only shot.am i making sense ?

Great tips! If a girl is into you, she’ll drop everything for the opportunity to be with you - she’ll even cancel her plans. Having said that. If she’s not into you - forget about it! It’s just not going to happen, she’ll find every excuse in the book - in order to avoid you! So pay very close attention! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

If she is talking with you and pulls out her phone during the conversation, let her know right away that you do not like this and that you find it rude. Give her the choice of either talking to you or playing with her little toy. If she does not put the phone away, then you walk away. There are plenty of better girls for you than what she is. If she gets a real phone call on it, then this is different, but if she suddenly pulls it out, then give her fair warning or ditch her on the spot.

I suffer from depression anxiety mental health issues and your videos have helped me to see what to look for in woman or work on myself or people I have been struggling alot lately and I want a girlfriend but your videos Have really helped me alot thank you for what you do and I love you for it thank you Courtney have a great day

You can tell by just looking at Courtney and her body language and her tone, that she has been the good girlfriend in the relationships, we need more of this!

There is no woman who only talking to you . So the real question is : why bother with someone who can replace you at the next second ?

I had the situation where she posted a photo of her accident damaged car on social media weeks after the accident occurred. Speaking with her later another time I asked her what was happening this weekend; she replied she was going to see a new release movie on Sunday. Writing to her on Sunday I asked how the movie was & she replied that the movie theatre was busy with lots of coughing people (re: COVID), so instead she went for a drive... "Wait... I thought you totalled your car?", I wrote to her. "So yeah, I needed a car, so I jokingly applied for a loan for a 2009 Porsche Cayan & it got approved...", she said. She didn't tell me she was in an accident, finding out through social media, and she didn't tell me she bought herself a new car, only telling me when she outed herself... She had no interest in talking to me; no interest in involving me in her life, or at least confiding in me dramatic events that have changed her life... Keeping secrets? Maybe... But it's definitely compartmentalizing which stories you're telling which people & why!

I've developed this habit now where if it's not obvious she's into me then I just can't find myself to be attracted to her. If things feel more complicated than necessary I just stop putting in effort... This is probably costing me some opportunities, but it does make keeping a level head easier.

Unless you've had the conversation about being exclusive, always assume she's seeing other people.

Happy Sunday Courtney! It's good to keep your options open in the beginning and after a while, you want to be with the one who treats you the best. Stay beautiful Courtney 😍

Having options initially,you should be naturally narrowing down to the one you are most interested in and go further down with them.Carrying the options all the way till committing to one happens when you are not ready to put value into the relationship and thus it will inevitably fail.

If a woman says she needs her space, it might be she's indirectly trying to breakup with you. She's shopping around to see if she can find a better man.

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ok guys women always keep other options in the dating pool.maybe its just a so called friend or someone at work or a guy she sees at a club she hangs out at or whatever.ladies usually keep a backup plan.a lady that looks nice is never really single with no options and readily makes sure she keeps that in her life.what does that really tell u?

She disappears on a Saturday night then pops her head up late Sunday afternoon.

Your points are very well received. That said, I do think there is a difference in approach between people in general that do/do not have children. I would certainly expect a more guarded initial experience if I was dating a single lady with children...especially when it came to introductions. Perhaps a video with some of your friends that have kiddos and how approach is influenced by that in the realm of dating would be beneficial to some.

I for one was always trying to see the good in people which comes to bite you in the arse usually and something I have learnt aswell is when a person tell you who they actually are, believe them! don’t ignore signs what people trying to tell you not matter how much you like or care for them.

Definitely have experience with this. Match with a girl on Facebook dating a couple weeks ago. The conversation was going good, but whenever I would ask her to explain what she did with her day, she would only give me one word answers. Like, you already told me you’re working, and I know you work on the farm. I want to know what you did while you were working on the farm. Girls are confusing.

You have a soothing demeanor. Very refreshing this day and age!👍

they should teach this stuff at school/college on how to retain a relationship.

If a man or woman going see other people then you need to let the other person know upfront so no one gets hurt. I believe in dating just one person to see if you have anything in common.

I met this girl a few weeks ago, not someone I was really super excited about, she is 5'2" probably close to 200lbs has 5 kids, but I gave it a shot because that's about the best I can get, we went on a few dates and I fixed some stuff on her trailer, I thought it was going well but she started pulling some of the stuff mentioned in this video. She went really cold. Guess she found someone better. Just figures, and I should have known better after she made up excuses to deny any intamacy, just frustrating after I took her to Walmart to buy some stuff for her kids. Being nice doesn't get you anywhere. Wondering if I go up to a 300lbs women if she would treat me any better.

Wow wow wow. All of these signs are so accurate and thank you for putting this out there for us. Very helpful.

When I met that Browns fan serving me at that restaurant a few months ago, she was talking with someone else and then ended up seeing him. I got so devastated, but today she still doesn’t treat me like crap (unlike my crush from 2019 who blocked me), and also I’ve moved on from her now. Find other cuties/hotties.

If a girl says she's a bad texter or she has a boyfriend, that means she's seeing other dudes. It means you're not as good of a candidate.

They should make a movie about this. They could title it "She's Just Not That into You".

Thanks for the advice. I have a female friend who I was trying to date. I told her let's just be cool and see if you feel me that way, thought things were going fine. I texted her Monday after she came back from NY and never heard from her. Safe to say, she isn't into me so I've started to ghost her. Have to move on and be content with who I am as a man, I won't make this mistake again.

What is wrong with dating multiple people AT THE BEGINNING STAGES when looking for a partner? Women get advice to keep all options open until a SOLID COMMITMENT is agreed to.

Just started watching your channel. I'm in my early 50s, great shape etc. The gals I generally meet get a "meh" rating at best. It rarely gets this far as my inner monologue says it's time to go.

Wrap it up gents and get tested on the reg! Especially nowadays with everyone dating multiple people. Be smart and safe!

Shout-out from Israel, Courtney. Been a fan since you started your channel

Hollywood films had thrown some wrong impression on love and relationship movies couple lives very happily but in reality, the main drama starts if a guy is dumbstruck. Then the girl starts to use you and find her right partner. oooh..!! what she can do? if your want a beautiful and eligible girl to be your partner then in return she has the complete right to choose an exact partner for her. Reading women can be really tricky. While she may have made you believe she’s really into you, she might as well just be using you for her own benefits. One day or the other, she’s going to show her true colours and it’s going to hurt real bad. You’re better off without selfish people in your life here are 15 signs she’s just not worth your time. Wake up, and walk off before you go too deep into her trap! 1. She calls you in the middle of the night if she needs you, but is somehow, always busy when you want someone to talk to. 2. She never seems eager to hang out with you usually, but if she’s getting bored, you’re the guy she calls up. 3. She expects you to listen to her problems patiently, but she never pays attention when you talk. She gets distracted easily, starts playing with her phone or changes the topic to something she wants to talk about. 4. She takes you along to parties because she has nobody to go with but starts ignoring you the moment she meets her friends there. She never makes any effort to make you feel comfortable around her group of friends. 5. She conveniently assumes that you’re going to pay every time you two go out. 6. She takes advantage of your chivalry and asks you for favours all the time. You get her phone recharged, you accompany her shopping when her girl best friends are busy, you cover up for her when her parents call, and you do her assignments too. You’re supposed to pick her up, drive her around and then drop her too. She literally lives off you. She’s basically made you her b*tch. 7. She never returns your calls or replies to your texts, unless, it benefits her in some way of course. She is always ready with excuses like “Oh, I forgot” and “I’m so sorry, I was just replying to you but…” But she gets mad if you do the same. 8. She’s never apologetic for her mistakes, never. You can see it by the way she changes the situation by crying. It always ends up with you comforting her, even though she was at fault. 9. Even though she expects you to do everything a boyfriend does for his girlfriend, she refuses to acknowledge the relationship. She keeps reminding you that you’re ‘just friends. 10. She makes you cancel other plans for her and then inconsiderately bails out on you at the end moment. What’s worse is that she’s never even sorry for being so insensitive. 11. She uses you to make her boyfriend or her ex feel jealous. She’s surprisingly flirtatious with you in front of her friends and her ex. While it makes you feel good about yourself, you must know she’s just using you as a device for her own personal gains. 12. She’s always seeking your sympathy. It is almost like she is with you only to feel better about herself. 13. She’s more interested in how much you learn, which company you work for, the kind of people you hang out with, and the restaurants you go to than who you are as a person. 14. Even though she hangs out with you all the time and makes it look like she’s interested, she has never introduced you to any of her friends as her boyfriend. 15. She shows absolutely no interest in your life. It is only about her, all the freaking time.

1. You don’t see her. 2. No progress. 3. Distant / wants space. 4. Makes you an option.

There are so many choices for her that often no choice is made. They only evaluate, try-out and then move on to the next candidate. Always wondering if they can do even better until they are eventually introduced to the wall. However, if she finds that you've won big with the lottery, you will quickly move to priority status.

Your so on point. I wish i knew all of this before i got into a relationship and got cheated on. I should have never ignore her redflags. I tried to ignore her redflags by imagining a beautiful false realtity of her inside my mind. I was emotionally and physically spent. I not gonna let that happen ever again

Good dating topic Courtney and no video on Monday’s 😊

great video as always Courtney, thanks! it's another example of how we still can't escape the obvious. oh, look for a hint here. oh, if she's doing this it means that. I always hear David Attenborough's voice "there! a woman! now she's going to.." and so on, like observing a wild animal. yes, we are mostly animals, but a kind of a step above. she can speak. so can't the girl just say it in words without all the coyness? of course she can because she expects it of men. only she doesn't feel like it. conclusion- she will be treated like an animal, basically a pet. "human up!" is what I might say to women in general. I want a partner not a pet, even if I know how to read and control a pet 😎

When she post a snap of her food and hide the nigga that paid for it 😭

I needed to hear this perfect timing Courtney keep up the positive energy 🌹❤

i dont know what or if you did anything different, but your lighting is perfect on this video

idc if she got side dudes if shes wasting time with me you gotta go

Thanks for showing us the signs Courtney

I see these signs, and not only don't i see her, we don't even text hardly. I'm tired of being an orbiter, i don't stay out in left field for anyone.

You have your hair brushed behind one ear in this video and it makes you look like a completely different person. It's a very good look by the way. Even better than normal, I'd say.

If you think she's seeing someone else, she is.

Dating isn't tough people are just stupid and make it harder than it actually is, too many games and nonsense along w/ unrealistic standards.

This really feels like the Olympics where everyone is competing...too busy= lame excuse

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8:37 genuine and humble women do exist fellas, just look ☝

I wish I saw this before... Thanks for your content!

Hey Courtney could you do a video on Red Pill rage and how overdosing on the red pill content? I'd love to hear your perspective on the topic

I recently had a chick who i was spending a ton of time with at her suggestions and when we weren't together she was blowing up my txt. Still was talking to other dudes and told me she wasnt. Dont believe anything. And dont get emotionally attached. Not in this dating climate.

One thing I’ll never agree with while dating that Courtney and other relationship “coaches” say is: Worry about if u like her more than u worrying about if she likes u. I disagree with this because a woman needs to like u for who u are by being yourself during the dating period. U can already be really interested in her and wanting to go further with her but if she isn’t interested in u one bit well u would know where u stand pretty quickly. My thing is u need to figure out if she likes u as more of a priority than seeing if u like her as well. Woman are the decision makers for these three questions: Will u go out on a date with me?, Will u be my girlfriend?, and Will u marry me? So if u already got the date, now u just need to be yourself and figure out if she likes u or not through her actions and words and see if u can progress forward. Men ask these three questions while the women answers them so if u wants a “yes” to all three, I recommend doing what I said above. Make “if she likes u” more priority over “do I like her” when it comes to dating. It honestly doesn’t matter if we like them. we aren’t the ones who answer these three questions. So all we can do is ask and hope for a “yes” because then that’ll tell us that they like us as well or is at least interested.

I think good communicators nowadays, should be able to have a good 2x speed voice. You do have that. We live in an era which even warps dimensions and reality in many ways. Seeing near distant people, and time and space. So, I approve that quality of 2x watching speed. I like that.

Make sure she chooses YOU, gentlemen

I was seeing a girl for 5 months but it had gotten to the stage where it was basically just like every point in this video. I ended it yesterday.

I find your thumbnails hilariously on point, especially when your face says: 'something is definitely wrong!' XD On a more serious note, regardless of who does what wrong, I always get the impression that your comments are generous and open-minded.

You look beautiful again, Courtney

Hello :)- I am new to your channel and I am a Pisces empath with some psychic abilities. I know when someone is not being honest with me and I know when someone is giving their all or not invested at all. I don't have time for people to start "ghosting" me especially after the 'first date". When I approached her with this "issue"..there were nothing more than one excuse after another!!!! Her LOSS not mine as I know what my value is as someone who lives within his integrity!!! Kudos to you for your efforts and to the information that you bring.

Something both men AND women need to keep in mind: dating more than one person is NOT cheating, unless the two of you have agreed to be exclusive (or if you are married, obviously). Sleeping with more than one person on the other hand...

Great Video once again! I’m sure this will help out many people and maybe even me in the future

Never ever commit to a female that doesn't just let you come over unannounced or give you the key to her place.

You know, Courtney, I have yet to be involved in a relationship, I never had it yet, I continue to work on me until then

Thanks, Courtney for keeping it Real, 💯 👌 👏 you are simply Amazing

"Only Egg In The Basket." Merch. Needs to happen.

Sound level is way better in this video. Usually it is too silent. Keep up your great content

Thanks, Courtney! Looked for a video about this and turns out you already had one! Resolved a lot of doubt I had

Treating people like a basket is eggs is a big red flag. I’ll step aside and discard you if from the very beginning you are treating me like just another option. I cannot be interested in more than one woman at the time and I expect the same from them

What should you do when you know you're a FAR better match for her than her current mate, but she remains committed to him for PRACTICAL reasons. Thus, she never has even a CHANCE of realizing how much happier she'd be with you than him??

You look really gorgeous courteney ❤️❤️❤️

Courtney Ryan is the Warren Buffet of Men’s Lifestyle, Dating & Fashion advice

I like one of my office colleagues but I heard that she is married. I know it sounds creepy to even think about dating a married women but I just wanted to express myself and let her know about my feelings. So when I told her one day about how I feel she clarified that she is not married and it's all a hoax because her family abandoned her for loving someone they didn't approve of and that she doesn't want that truth to come out. She also said that she has broken up with the guy ( she didn't give me the reason for her breakup ) Anyways, she said that she wasn't looking for a relationship and just wanted us to be friends. I have recently come to know that the guy for which she fought with her family and said that she is broken up with is living with her in an apartment. I mean I understand that ex's can be good friends as well but staying in the same apartment, having his number as a emergency contact number, going on hill stations with the guy or using his credit card etc etc is a little hard to believe. Basically I am not sure why did she have to lie to me in the first place. I have left the office for my own reasons I am still in contact with her and she is a good friend of mine. Also she does text me first and makes plans to hangout with me ( of course with our whole group and not just me alone )

Here’s a sign. She has an obvious hickey on her neck and tells you it’s from a curling iron despite her hair looking like a mess.

Speak the truth and thank you for the reminder!!

Since I've known her she's taken two 2 weeks long vacations. She's claimed she has bad anxiety and needed time to herself a few times. All kinds of things. I haven't even bothered texting her since she got back from her second vacation. She also claimed she was busy on her vacation both times

If you are not exclusive, she IS seeing other people

Courtney, do you think there is a healthy level of jealousy? For example, a level of jealousy that communicates care and emotional involvement to a partner. At what point do you think it becomes unhealthy? Can partners interpret something negative from a lack of jealousy?

I have been watching so many of these recently and they literally just confirm how I feel, I appreciate that lol

I know this isn't directly related to the video but I figured I would mention this anyways because I need advice. So I started talking to and hanging out with this girl at the beginning of this year. Everything was going good, met her parents multiple times. We made time for each other even though she was very busy with work and school. In March after I asked her if she wanted to come and support me at semi pro soccer tryout she ended up wanting a break. She got work off for it but ended up not being able to come due to college. (she is very strict with work and school, her family is very career oriented) Anyways after her mentioning this she didn't take a break from us, we kept talking and she seemed confused on what to do. she said she didn't want to lose what we had with each other and said she felt it would be better to officially date once the semester was over. Jumping forward we didn't text for 3 weeks, the semester ends and she says she doesn't think its a good idea for us to try and date now as she ended up having to take more classes in college over the summer and she was going to be working more. There is no doubt in my mind that she is telling the truth, she truly is very career oriented. My question really is about what's going on now. I have a soccer team I run and I wasn't expecting to see her anymore, well she said she may try and help out with my team. Im still not over her and I know I will have a hard time if I do see her. Should I let her be part of my life or should I tell her no? I do not hate her I actually respect her and how she's done what she thinks is best for herself.

guy's this is what you need to know........... She's not yours.... it's just your turn