*FRIENDLY REMINDER* | Avoid spending time with people who bring you down. Surround yourself with good people and good things will happen.
@CourtneyRyan2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely!
@nolanbaptiste3582 жыл бұрын
Well said.
@inyouall2 жыл бұрын
@No One You're not?
@varun.shenoy102 жыл бұрын
I can relate 👍
@adam.maqavoy2 жыл бұрын
@@KyleKingson Oooof! I see you there Mr.Pyccki
@SouthernJaeger Жыл бұрын
This is exactly why I now believe I’m single. I don’t wanna deal with all this crap. I’m 36 years old and the way people are these days you’d swear they haven’t left high school. Thank you Miss Ryan for being a classy and mature lady
@StrumVogel2 жыл бұрын
Hookup culture is like trying to become a lawyer, by breaking the law.
@JAREDGRAF81812 жыл бұрын
Underrated comment. lol
@seanhoude2 жыл бұрын
Had a girlfriend once that walked us into a Louis Vuitton Store expecting me to pay for the $520 belt she was fawning over. Hell no! I've never paid more than $30 for a belt in my life. We're done here.
@MCOGroupNews2 жыл бұрын
Should've played along and told her to stand in the checkout line or whatever, while you go to the bathroom, then sneak out the back 🤣
@TomFox12 жыл бұрын
wow
@Euclides2872 жыл бұрын
It's like they think the *hard earned money* we have in our pocket fell out of the sky. smh
@moleahy68802 жыл бұрын
This was a girlfriend? Weren't there any other red flags before this one? Or did you cater to her wants earlier leading her to believe she was now entitled to this overpriced belt?
@StrumVogel2 жыл бұрын
$30 for a belt? I’m over here doing two for $11 on Amazon. 😂
@redsox4life2 жыл бұрын
4:40, I'll be honest with you, Courtney. Hookup culture benefits NOBODY. It hurts everybody who is looking for a real relationship.
@rogerward33902 жыл бұрын
You don't say that at 2 in the morning when it's about to happen!!
@redsox4life2 жыл бұрын
@@rogerward3390 , you better think again. I've outgrown that garbage.
@Dwahada2 жыл бұрын
Exactly it ruins it for men who want a real relationship and have expectations their so used of being agreed with and lied to until their got in the bed they can’t handle a man who has expectations and not just looking for a hook up they can’t tell the difference
@inorite45532 жыл бұрын
Say that to a Swede and watch them look at you as if you have a 3rd eye growing out of your forehead. For context, it is super easy to find a hookup there as people don't have the same hangups around sex as Americans do. In fact, they generally feel that they need to sleep with you before they even know if they really like you.
@volusiasorange Жыл бұрын
disagree. it's great for men who just want to hook up. i got laid a ton before i got into a committed relationship with someone that i wasn't just hooking up with
@gordonbecker14562 жыл бұрын
The men had it right. Any time a woman is describing the man they want based off of other things than looks is because they are thinking about the guy they want physically having those personalities traits. Not the ugly guy
@warrenbfeagins2 жыл бұрын
Years ago, I was at a restaurant on a date with a 10. We ordered drinks first, before ordering food. As we talked and looked over the menu, she started telling me how she is accustomed to being catered to and spoiled. I nodded and said curiously, "Really?" Now I'm not a Tyson Beckford look a like, BUT have never had any issues with women finding me attractive and have been approached by more than my fare share in my life, asked out and the date paid for by...... the woman. As she continued to tell me about her 'expectations,' the server came back asking if we were ready to order our meal. I looked at her, smiled and then said, "check please."
@warrenbfeagins2 жыл бұрын
@KCBOBX I assume you mean say it sarcasticlly and laugh to insinuate that's for guys she thinks are suckers. Otherwise, they may actually think you are onboard. 🤣🤣
@tendiie2 жыл бұрын
Then everybody clapped
@Ddx6292 жыл бұрын
What was her reaction when you said "check please"?
@warrenbfeagins2 жыл бұрын
@@Ddx629 She had a ,"Oh........ okay,. Whatever," facial expression, but she didn't say anything else. I walked out without escorting her and got MYSELF a cab.
@kngnk8152 жыл бұрын
Chad
@karlvonboldt2 жыл бұрын
If you’re at Sea, and someone is drowning, you throw them a raft. If they start pulling you down with them, you let go of the rope!
@mobilemcsmarty14662 жыл бұрын
at sea I'd still make another effort for this one, the drowning panic reaction can lead to this through no fault of the person drowning. now let's say you throw the person in the water a life-saver float with a rope to pull them back in but they say "wrong color!" *that's* when you let go of the rope 😎
@karlvonboldt2 жыл бұрын
@@mobilemcsmarty1466 Fair enough!👍🏻
@rogerward33902 жыл бұрын
Or take ecstasy
@carlosverde-datingtips70012 жыл бұрын
I hear ya - Thunder Boldt! Great tips - by Courtney! And I agree with her. You shouldn’t really waste your time with women like that, don’t even give them the time of day - they’re not worth it! This is also why you got to have standards, expectations, and boundaries - basically, things you’ll tolerate from a woman, and things, you’ll not! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@KC_Eden2 жыл бұрын
As an actual drowning survivor, this is disturbing!
@GarySaini82 жыл бұрын
Social media and “reality shows” have really brainwashed so many people. What’s sad is when the dude in the TikTok said “in todays age…” that statement hit different! Seems like a lot of people are out of touch with reality. It’s fine to have high standards IF AND ONLY IF you meet those standards yourself.
@jacobtani97852 жыл бұрын
What’s sad is that people are followers nowadays always trying to copy what someone else does and that is because of social media. Materialism is at an all time high right now because basically everyone is living in their own material world. Just like Madonna sang it sadly it came true. And when people tell me my expectations are high, oh that drives me insane cause when they tell me theirs, I want to smack some sense and reality back into them. These are my 7 expectations for a woman of my preference: 1. Be mature 2. Non smoker/vaper (literally almost the same side effects) don’t understand for anybody how they can say that they are on the path to recovery by switching over to vaping or just doing it to fit in, there is literally no difference overall 3. Doesn’t do drugs or smoke weed (I hate the smell of weed) 4. Isn’t a social media addict (constantly on it or basically is their life 24/7) 5. Not partying or getting drunk on a daily basis 6. An independent person (can live comfortably by themselves already financially, mentally, and emotionally) 7. Has a sense of humor and can also take sarcasm as well. I honestly don’t see how this is unrealistic compared to others that have told me theirs. Its unrealistic though sadly as well because it’s hard to find a woman that fits my preferences in todays society cause more than half are actually the opposite of at least one of them. But at least mine aren’t absurd expectations like most others that other men and women have.
@temitope68302 жыл бұрын
"You have to be able to provide what you require" Courtney with with her sage wisdom
@Viewable11 Жыл бұрын
But it is wrong. Men and women look for completely different attributes in a person.
@j.k56542 жыл бұрын
I went on a date and she told me her bday was in 2 months and she expects an 8k bag, a trip to Paris (am european) etc. and those were her standards. I said OK… She smiled and touched my hand… Then I told her that my bday was in 3 weeks (lie) and cuz she has such standards, I would like to have a 6k Rolex. She froze
@user-cz5lj2vx1f6 ай бұрын
LOL classic come-baack (from a woman)
@random199110043 ай бұрын
Well played😂
@mohamedharris43252 жыл бұрын
"beauty is trying to be best of yourself". and i love courtney sayings on keep standards but in a realistic way. that's lacks more in western countries rather in eastern.
@Brandon.manga.2 жыл бұрын
The rare and elusive good girl is becoming harder to find in their natural habitat. Pursue your goals and women will pursue you.
@Brandon.manga.2 жыл бұрын
@@isaura-22 only with that low level thinking sure
@kcirtapelyk6060 Жыл бұрын
Those women are never single for long.
@Viewable11 Жыл бұрын
A man will run out of money while chasing women, but he will never run out of women while chasing money.
@Mmhashbrowns Жыл бұрын
@@Viewable11 only materialistic women care so much about money but that’s a lot of them it’s sad
@Gnomesmusher2 жыл бұрын
I'm very progressive too and I always viewed hookup culture as being harmful to everyone, especially women. And yes I was accused of slut shaming too. It's just that I've seen women get used over and over and their self esteem plummets because of it but they try to blame it on just not finding that right guy. And studies show that hookups often times give women anxiety afterwards but not so much for men. There's nothing wrong with sex. A women never has to be "pure" or shamed for having sex. But this extreme culture of hooking up just because you can is bad for women's mental health overall.
@joser_12952 жыл бұрын
I got out of a relationship back in January. Fast forward to March and I hook up with this girl. It felt like she manipulated me into hooking up because I told her I didn’t feel emotionally ready yet. Then she proceeds to ghost me and I felt completely empty/used. This is coming from a young man (22). This is the first and last time I participate in hookup culture. I’d rather keep it in a relationship since I’m more traditional.
@kcirtapelyk6060 Жыл бұрын
“Slut shaming” is good for society. It’s a sign of a healthy culture that has standards and believes in itself. There would be fewer unwanted children and fewer STDs.
@Viewable11 Жыл бұрын
It destroys women's ability to bond with a man. Long term relationships become impossible.
@CrawfishEnchiladas2002 Жыл бұрын
@@kcirtapelyk6060 You’re absolutely right!!
@mjesns779 ай бұрын
i think a medium is where society would benefit. should everyone wait till marriage and push the purity agenda? no that’s shameful. should we push hook ups on teens and young adults? no that’s materialistic and harmful. in between is best
@DEmersonJMFM2 жыл бұрын
As a guy, the idea of hooking up is completely the opposite of what I want. It's not even an option. I don't want to play pointless games either (I've always hated stupid advice like waiting three days to text).
@Introvertedalpha2 жыл бұрын
"I'm not going to chase you if you don't want to date me." Excellent point!
@mcr2011ukgs Жыл бұрын
Having never been on tictok, watching these vids is really revealing. The level of narcissism and just toxic-ness that these girls poses shows exactly why there is suck issues with dating and finding genuine people. Its all a game to them
@BrentWigginsWords2 жыл бұрын
That last clip (20:51) hit home. I met a girl who embodied those good qualities she was looking for, and I showed those same good qualities, yet she did not want a relationship. The circumstances were that she was under stress and was driven to succeed in her career, but like that clip (13:11) said, she was not ready to show or was not showing all of her natural feminine self. The disparity in dating and relationships this day and age is sometimes depressing.
@RedNightHawk2 жыл бұрын
Some good advice i learned is to never force anything, let it happen and it will come to you 🌌
@drip3692 жыл бұрын
2:33 and somehow they say men need to hear the word no more often... Fellas, if you pay attention, you will notice the woman trying to set the terms of the relationship before it gets past the first date. Be aware: beware. Have standards and learn when to walk away. Courtney wants us to find quality, and wants us to become/maintain quality
@coolbreeze2.0-mortemadfasc132 жыл бұрын
All of this shit is incredibly toxic. I can see substance abuse and suicide becoming a much bigger issue in the future.
@JREALNICE.2 жыл бұрын
I'm honestly glad to see women that understood , your best choice as a man is to self improve. stay up yall !
@Kakarod2 жыл бұрын
I love how Courtney breaks down things for guys looking for good women....God Bless you
@Courtney-Alice-Gargani2 жыл бұрын
Courtney is spot on about masculine and feminine.
@Brandon.manga.2 жыл бұрын
She is dang close but missing a few things as a whole. Women pursue the best men. She refers to men as a whole when there are more that aren't getting attention than are from the opposite sex
@Janopooh2 жыл бұрын
I can't imagine Courtney ever saying the F-word
@91722854 Жыл бұрын
food?
@WriterProfessor Жыл бұрын
I’m a 45 year old professor who does not relate to his students as well as he used to. Someone recommended your video channel (as well as others), and after several videos, I feel you are giving me ideas on how to “meet students where they are.” Also, while I feel I understand the young men somewhat better (though hardly perfectly), the young women are mother matter. (I did not know what a Tender box was.) I did subscribe. Thank you! Maybe a video for people like me who love what they do, feel like what I do really matters to young people who have been more heavily influenced by media than I was, but do not always know where to start, would be an idea?
@scottclark37612 жыл бұрын
Hi Courtney! I love how gracious you try to be. I am very direct, so it's a little weird to me, but I find I like it. But yes, hookup culture hurts people, feminine women attract masculine men, and vice versa, and if you want to play games, break out some Yahtzee. It amazes me how many times this relationship advice boils down to just being a human being that's worth a damn. Love your content! I think a voice of reason is something needed in this day and age.
@emanspi2 жыл бұрын
You’re amazing Courtney. I’m so happy that you are sharing such knowledge with us. I’m going though a breakup and I know I treated her well. So you are giving me some hope. Thank you.
@jairos98662 жыл бұрын
The Realest content I heard from your whole platform. Thank you Courney R. I hope to god women relize this year this Paradigm of evil deceiving tactics this world feeds you young ladys.
@drip3692 жыл бұрын
Which is why we definitely have to share this content with the men and women in our lives, and make sure to hit the 👍 button so that we can rank her videos in the algorithm
@nykia312 жыл бұрын
I was fortunate enough to find a selfless, gracious women who appreciates simply spending time with me and values my company. Doesn't need elaborate nights out. Sure we'd have a nice, fun night out, but a simple, quiet evening together with just the two of us, is enough. I detest these texting games..If you are over the age of 15, stop playing them. People make their lives way more complicated than it needs to be. If you want to talk to the man or woman, friggen talk to them naturally. 19:32 You are such a kind soul lol
@rogerward33902 жыл бұрын
You're a lucky guy
@NK-ne1ny2 жыл бұрын
I have a question to you: as you have found a selfless woman that does not require much from you, do you go above and beyond to give nice things to her, or organise nice dates, even if she doesn’t require it from you?
@EmpireGuy912 жыл бұрын
“Hook-up culture benefits men far more than it benefits women.” This is patently ludicrous. 8 out of 10 guys have 0 options. They get 0 likes on dating apps and are most likely drowning in some level of despair & hopelessness. It’s a small number of men getting all of the action while the rest are effectively starved of intimacy and closeness. Women, at the absolute least, can still play the field and have a “great time” in their youth. They’ll complain later regardless. Gentlemen, this is why so many influencers encourage young men to never take advice from women (I don’t entirely agree). You’ll end up wildly gaslit.
@MrPaxio2 жыл бұрын
and the reason being is that you dont get alimony or child support so its disadvantageous, oh boy 🤣 glad im in the percentile where my features give me a chance with pretty much any girl i wish to go for and not be that desperate. clowns been clowning strong post pandemic tho
@rh57762 жыл бұрын
@@MrPaxio That's cool your so full of yourself. That'll came to a screaming halt soon enough. Now, how about that education. From what I'm seeing you didn't make it very far.
@Cyrus9922 жыл бұрын
Who are those men that get it?
@MrR403882 жыл бұрын
Short term it benefits them. Long term not so much.
@rh57762 жыл бұрын
@@Cyrus992 They are kind of like Bigfoot. Yeah, a lot of people claim they're out there. Maybe, maybe not. After a few decades I realize that if a woman says a man that "gets it" it means he realizes that he's going to have butt hair in his teeth the rest of that relationship. If you get it, you'll know.
@MoshiurRahmanGFX2 жыл бұрын
Thank you sister Courtney for the video. I am learning a lot from your content. Personally, what I have experienced because of social media is that most of the girls nowadays have some kind of ego, entitlement, and of course princess mentality based on how many followers she has and how many likes she gets on those apps. They play mind games and as a man, it's very hard to find a quality feminine girl. Should I need to become a monk and start living in a mountains! I feel that sometimes
@decks59822 жыл бұрын
Texting to get to know a girl before asking her out, yes. Have the date then when you're ready to for the next date text again and then set a date. In the beginning stages (my thoughts) it's best not over text. You become boring and like every other guy. The way to do this in a healthy way is to be productive throughout the week, the more you get to know her through the weeks, the more you can pop up to check in her but remember to set the date as phones are for setting dates.
@hitmanmonaghan66332 жыл бұрын
Hook up culture benefits Chad. The average guy isn’t sleeping around.
@ethanmiller54872 жыл бұрын
Ive found that whenever the mainstream culture says to do something and you aren't 100% in agreement with it, DON'T DO THAT THING EVER. Do things because you want to, not because is popular.
@moleahy68802 жыл бұрын
I think a better rule of thumb is that you should never do what the mainstream culture says. Why not? Because the mainstream culture in 2022 is anti man, especially if he is whyte, straight, cis.....etc. The mainstream culture is arrayed against you. You are to blame for every ill. Why would you tolerate and go along with that?
@ethanmiller54872 жыл бұрын
@@moleahy6880 I wanted to leave room for the off chance that culture says to do something smart.
@moleahy68802 жыл бұрын
@@ethanmiller5487 Good luck with that.
@ginjaninja32092 жыл бұрын
Your content is refreshing and you show great wisdom. Would be interested to hear your take on dating post covid? Particularly with society seemingly being segregated into vaxxed vs unvaxxed and people having strong views about it on both sides.
@jameshumphries50592 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Courtney! It’s truly amazing to have a women talking about these things. It’s so sad to see young venerable girls 14-18 being told to have loads of casual sex. 30-150 different men and wait until they are older to settle down. By the time these women get to settling down they are totally broken.
@timheidel58492 жыл бұрын
When young girls are out there bragging about their "body count", it is difficult for a man to feel "special"...it is difficult to respect them.
@jameshumphries50592 жыл бұрын
@@timheidel5849 - I’d go one step further and say it’s impossible for a man to respect a promiscuous women. Men are expected to give a lot in modern relationships! The least a women can do is only share her body with one guy. It’s also terrible for women because when women have sex they release oxytocin which builds an emotional connection with the girl to the man. When women have casual sex it affects their ability to pair bond with a future guy. Even if a girl has casual sex from 18-28 and then wants a guy to marry her and have kids she won’t be able to pair bond with that man. Resulting in a break up, divorce, broken home. Just to also add 82% of divorces are initiated by women. I don’t think it’s by accident that the media is pushing this onto women. Women tend to be the less assertive sex and tend to go with the flow much more than men. Women very rarely go against society and conventional ways of thinking and doing. That’s why governments target women, what does women being promiscuous actually cause? The breakdown of the traditional, strong family unit! When families are broken women become emotionally destroyed and men become weak and lack purpose. This mean we are easily manipulated by the powers from above. This of course is just my theory but I’m closing to being right than most are.
@timheidel58492 жыл бұрын
@@jameshumphries5059 I agree with you. Honestly, why should a man get married? What is in it for him, especially when he is likely to get harmed financially?
@jameshumphries50592 жыл бұрын
@@timheidel5849 - The only time a man should get married is if you’ve found a traditional women who actually brings value to your life, you’ve been vetting this women for years to make sure she’s the right women, you’ve lived with her for 2 years and it works! and finally you want kids. If you want kids then you should get married but not before years of vetting and thinking with the big head oppose to what most men do and think with the little head.
@moleahy68802 жыл бұрын
But most of these girls won't end up setting down. The quality men they want won't marry girls who have been run through and run over a hundred times before.
@greatgyatso54292 жыл бұрын
Hookup culture doesn’t benefit anyone. It’s fun at first, but when you’re done having fun and want an actual partnership? Good luck to you
@paulprice17052 жыл бұрын
The biggest aspect about having high standards when wanting a relationship is, an accurate and honest reflection of: Why the hell would He pick YOU? instead of the hundreds of others that want that guy. And girls; most of you don't have an accurate reflection of what it is those men want. And that is IF he even wants a relationship. Chads will sleep with you, but you play this game too much it makes most women that sleep around extremely unhappy in a marriage they do end up in, as they keep comparing their future husband to an amalgam of the Chads they slept with for a night or a week in their past.
@TheIndieMusicSource Жыл бұрын
Even though I am in a committed relationship, I regularly frequent Courtney's videos because it's SO refreshing to see another woman who feels the exact same way as I do when it comes to dating/women. Sometimes, it drives me crazy to see the way women behave and expect to catch a man. You are a breath of fresh air, Courtney! ❤
@asdax83112 жыл бұрын
Girls to aim for: girls like Courtney!!!
@drip3692 жыл бұрын
100% spot on We also want a lady, a compliment to enhance our lives. We don't want masculine competitive women who kill us faster. I know they say that men work more dangerous jobs which is why the life expectancy of men is 5 years below that of women's, but stress can definitely shut down a lot of things in your body and lead other things to not work properly so I would definitely say that a contentious woman will shorten your life because even in the Bible it says it's better to sleep on the corner of a rooftop than it is to live with a contentious woman
@marcmays482 жыл бұрын
Courtney is nice enough, but she is human, and has her faults (like we all do). It's more important to know yourself, and what you want, and then, to choose the type of woman who is right for you. 🙂
@drip3692 жыл бұрын
@@marcmays48 yes but she definitely has qualities and mannerisms that should be a part of the majority of women, and not the minority, then again, same with how quality men are the minority and the majority are below-average if not completely complacent and unattractive to women
@marcmays482 жыл бұрын
@@drip369 She definitely presents herself well, and seems to have a good head on her shoulders. That said, people create and present different personas-- whether at work, with their friends, or before they create content for social media. When you start a relationship with a woman, you're getting the whole woman, along with all the different avatars she presents to the world (and she is getting yours, too!). The personal qualities that Courtney has, might be wonderful for one guy, but only tolerable for a different guy... or completely incompatible for a third guy. So while I adore Courtney, and think she generally gives great advice, I don't put her (or any woman) on a pedestal. You have to find someone who works well for you, as you work well for her. 🙂
@marcmays482 жыл бұрын
@Rick Sale She reveals who she is, over time. A good first step, if you think a woman is a good romantic possibility, is to take a long road trip with her for a weekend. You will probably learn more about her during a 12 hour drive, than you would by going on 50 short dates with her. Then you can start to make informed decisions about how to proceed further with her.
@GhostOfMint2 жыл бұрын
17:55 If you want a 10/10 you have to be a 10/10 If you want a high value woman, you have to be a high value man ^ This has become my personal mantra, and allows me to work on myself everyday to become the best version of myself. Thank you Courtney for another great video!
@anthonystike60342 жыл бұрын
1st one: he stepped on her HARD. Granted the language was kind of sloppy, but he needed to get his point across to her. Normally I wouldn't say use that kind of language, but in this case it was understandable from his viewpoint.
@JohnBrown-ig5nc2 жыл бұрын
He stood his ground and respected his boundaries and that's what ultimately matters. Not sure if that first video was staged like a Hooman TV "prank" but still, if a woman does something like that, respect yourself enough to walk away
@psychology1202 жыл бұрын
Courtney Ryan should write a book with this excellent knowledge.
@kimmiddleton9512 жыл бұрын
"...why are we playing all these stupid games?" The person who answers that question will never have to work another day in their life.
@angelocarantino48032 жыл бұрын
Exactly. People have two choices to think or not to think. They choose not to think and wonder why they always do what others do or what they've always done instead of what they should do
@Jenson22swift2 жыл бұрын
I would love for you to do a video on these silly manosphere terms, especially “alpha widow” It might be one of the funniest and ridiculous terms I’ve heard 😂
@katemiller78742 жыл бұрын
I saw that. It was the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. Those guys are toxic.
@jeremynguyen38072 жыл бұрын
Thank you Courtney for reminding men that hook ups are not the answer to dating if they want to a long term relationship. And you shouldn't have to buy anything to make the lady like you
@daserfomalhaut9809 Жыл бұрын
The first woman is a living parody. What an absolute husk of a person.
@msbae2 жыл бұрын
7:36 I am not taking advice from any woman (let alone that nasty one) on how to be a man. How could any of them possibly know what living a man's life is even like?
@darknova78632 жыл бұрын
Courtney thank you for always reading the text on the videos. It's so nice to not have to pause the video to read it, not against reading but it takes away from the video.
@marlonmoncrieffe07282 жыл бұрын
Yeah, I feel the same way.
@IamjustBruh2 жыл бұрын
My apologies, but if I have to EVER take advice (jokingly or not) on how to be a man in 2022 on TIKTOK, I'll be in my grave
@alfonzonhampton Жыл бұрын
When she say I should give that girl a hug that is code for she is speaking facts! I see this pattern!
@JohnBrown-ig5nc2 жыл бұрын
In regards to hooking up, that can go both ways in my opinion in regards to a woman getting pregnant since she could track the dude down for child support, both men and women can get STD's and hooking up can most likely ruin possible pair bonding of both parties for a future long-term relationship
@Trvity2 жыл бұрын
Amazing video! Keep up the amazing work. you are helping to many people become better everyday. Cant thank you enough :)
@stevenlawrence57332 жыл бұрын
She doesn't respect him. It's much deeper than her attitude and her entitlement. She's amusing herself via her game of seeing what she can get simultaneously having zero respect for him for the benefit of amusing herself. Her diva self.
@jacegallagher85892 жыл бұрын
Sorry but the woman talking about how hookup culture is bad for women kind of shot herself in the foot the moment she admitted to being a feminist. Don't get me wrong, she is right about the damage that comes from hookup culture and it damages men as well. However, it has nothing to do with patriarchy because in the end the woman made the choice to sleep around as well. There is no law that says a woman must sleep around. It had nothing to do with "patriarchy" but with 2 people and the choices they made to get where they are. Also, the feminist movement is so radical now that anyone putting that label on themselves lessens their own credibility, even when they are right and otherwise have a sound argument. The reason for that loss of credibility is that the moment you label yourself a feminist people think of the crazies who use that title and associate you with it as well. Let your argument stand on its own merit instead of relying on trigger words like "feminist" or "patriarchy". The moment I hear a woman say she is a feminist, I will kick her to the curb because, as a man who can be accused of anything and be guilty until proven innocent (in part due to MeToo), I cannot take the risk of finding out if she is a crazy feminist or just one who truly believes in equality. No sane man will roll that dice.
@prometheuszero96 ай бұрын
The unrealistic standards are totally crazy for sure. I think that's part of why I avoid dating apps, etc, because it's just so superficial seeming and based on who can craft the most compelling profile and pics. The thing about only 2% of men between 20 and 40 being over 6 foot and making 6 figures is hilarious too. Some of my female friends lament about how they can't find guys sometimes and a few of them have exactly those sorts of standards and MORE! Over 6 foot, 6 figure salary, in great shape, etc. For every new "standard" they set for their imaginary future partners, they just further reduce the already miniscule chances of finding anyone that can meet those standards. I mean trust me, I'd love to find a woman who is a smoking hot 10 outta 10, but I'm certainly not expecting it or even trying to look for it. I'm trying to find someone that I find attractive who shares the same values and overall lifelong ambitions and goals. And even that is hard! I feel bad for people stuck in the trap of unrealistically high standards.
@victorrios56062 жыл бұрын
I Love You!!!! @courtneyryan I know someone who did the whole “hook up culture” thing when she was young. Guess where she is now. In her 40s, single, and in menopause. #stophookupculture It’s incredibly sad but hey she recently got a puppy. There’s an inherent feeling we have where we want to be responsible for someone else. We want to take care of others and care for others. Sometimes though we don’t see ourselves as an other even though we are. Even though you are one body we embody “the other”. Meaning another person. There’s the adult us, the child, the elder, the fool, the sage, and on and on. Take care, love, and respect yourselves people!!!!
@AdiPad-2 жыл бұрын
Once again, Thank you Courtney for genuinely good advice, and sticking up for the lads.
@macgrady20042 жыл бұрын
I, for one hate when they say "he has to be funny" thats like me saying, she has to know how to cook" Imagine the backlash
@gabeperras37117 ай бұрын
To be more specific hookup culture only benefits the very top 10% of men and severely hurts everyone else. Young men being left out will feel the negative effects more immediately while the woman will realize the harm it's done them once they start getting more self aware.
@jtfritz91692 жыл бұрын
Man, girls just hate me. Maybe because I don’t party, I don’t drink nor do drugs. I just want one hottie to hang out with. Is that too much to ask?
@drip3692 жыл бұрын
They don't hate you, but there is a phrase that says you can do anything you want to a woman other than bore them and they definitely do need some sort of emotional tension (tension that isn't toxic or abusive even though a lot of them end up with toxic and abusive men). Become captivating, or practice being such. Women don't hate you bro
@drip3692 жыл бұрын
Like Courtney talks about, being mysterious and being funny are two good points to keep in mind
@moleahy68802 жыл бұрын
I doubt they hate you; it sounds more like they just find you dull. Women need drama and emotion. And if you aren't giving them that, they'll look for it elsewhere. Try being a self absorbed jerk and see how that goes.
@tommygunn69012 жыл бұрын
🎵Run away, run away from the pain!🎵
@m_heavy82082 жыл бұрын
There are few things more pathetic than a man whose only concern in life is with getting laid and what hes willing to do for it.
@jrsampson292 жыл бұрын
Thumbs up Courtney Ryan I stay away from toxic women and hookups are pointless I think like you 😉
@peepgamenc69752 жыл бұрын
Hook-up culture is harmful to both women and men. Aba spoke about the effects on men. I personally know some guys that slept around in their 20s that feel lonely and unable to commit in their 30s-40s.
@josetercero77142 жыл бұрын
Thanks for always putting out great advice out here Courtney
@drip3692 жыл бұрын
She is definitely clear and authentic and deserves the two million subscribers she will reach someday soon
@CommanderReplay2 жыл бұрын
"You want to be a lawyer, but you go to school for fashion." Im pretty sure thats the plot of Illegally Blonde.
@inyouall2 жыл бұрын
I'd love to hear what you think about the traits I mention in my video. Do you agree with me? Disagree? It would mean a lot to me to hear your perspective, especially since you're a successful woman yourself. It will mean the world to me Mrs. Ryan 💕 Thank you
@susanoo2502 жыл бұрын
you are a life saver. Thank you
@michaelchambers7691 Жыл бұрын
We need to pay attention to how our own behavior and decisions effect the future and who comes after all of us. Not leading our children to destruction. I have a couple friends who are educators, the modern day schools are disaster.
@willarmendariz76632 жыл бұрын
Make no mistake gents. Court is marrying the man she judges women for wanting. Make no mistake. Actions over words. Get your value up.
@Gabster19902 жыл бұрын
Hookup culture isn't going to make a man less likely to commit. A guy who wants to have sex with lots of women will do so even if he is married. This isn't a new thing. Men who like to have lots of sex with other women go to brothels where it's legal.
@SkullAngel0022 жыл бұрын
1:14 - "Name three qualities about yourself real fast"..."I can cook...I'm clean and healthy, I can bear children..." Courtney - **stares in the distance in disbelief** Us - **Slowly sighs while rubbing temples**
@pete5668 Жыл бұрын
I was hoping that the passenger seat in his car was an ejection seat. I think he handled the situation perfectly.
@ChadwickVonGriffindorIII Жыл бұрын
Stressed, overwhelmed, not the best me - is 100% masculine, and that's what men live everyday.
@markg.31712 жыл бұрын
Just make people feel secure with themselves and the connection that happens. And progress it accordingly
@Saranda47875 ай бұрын
When I told my then boyfriend I had been celibate for 6-7 years prior to meeting him, you can imagine his reaction. He asked me how I had managed that, and then later on when our relationship became physical, he said "I still don't get how you managed to stay celibate for so long now that I see how se**al and insatiable you are". The thing about me is that I consider my se**ality sacred. It's something I don't just give out left and right. I need to feel there's something there. I need to feel that we're connecting on many levels other than a physical one, because s*x is two people exchanging energies, and I need to feel that my partner is adding, not taking.
@aaronsaiz24982 жыл бұрын
Great video Courtney I really love what you do your videos help me out alot
@jsparkz_44032 жыл бұрын
Basically to Men, all of this is exhausting. Women have this extremely long list of qualifications to go by before you can seriously date them. Men dont have a long list for women. Relationships should be simple...thats how Men look at it. Not this "Dont Do This Dont Do that Mentality that Women have to just Date Them. The "Princess Mentality" is embedded in the Majority of Them. And Men are "Tired" Geez. Lol
@boomds56022 жыл бұрын
Clearly you’re never met my ex. I could literally not meet his standards even when I was doing exactly what he said he wanted. Girls can’t be too clingy but can’t play too hard to get. You have to pump up his ego but also take care of him. It’s ridiculous
@katemiller78742 жыл бұрын
Both sexes are hard to please nowadays joe.
@ki11atj492 жыл бұрын
Going to be honest it doesn't benefit men like you said I honestly benefits no one A good amount of men are not involved and Usually the men involved are not the best and the women involved we're lied to about it being empowering
@nickcox14082 жыл бұрын
Most if not all of these ridiculous dating rules are mostly seen in the U.S.
@robsolf2 жыл бұрын
There is nothing truly feminist about acting masculine. I wish more feminists knew this.
@neilt64803 ай бұрын
19:04 Chasing a woman who has said no is stalking. It's not just illegal, it's offensive, contemptible, and just a bad thing to do. We've had decades of learning that no means no. How can there possibly still be people unaware of it?
@tya112 Жыл бұрын
Hookup culture does not benefit women or men. Commitment helps both.
@Coyote-wm5op2 жыл бұрын
Lol the not being clingy part has pissed off several girls I talked with. Basically they want attention and to be chased but won’t commit to meeting up so I ghost them instead of waste my time. Then they start complaining about being single on social media so their simp clan gives them attention.
@hummerzdca Жыл бұрын
I bet with listing the exact word for word same questions, using a girl interviewer, and a guy interviewer, compare answers side by side to better see. I think some answers are different based on who’s asking. Great post.
@huooful2 ай бұрын
I would love to see a well made comprehensive video about marriage as a whole. I have seen parents getting divorced time and seen what it does for a mn and it left a mark on me as well. I think it is possible to have a commited relationship without the actual ”marriage” label on it. Because like you said in this video at 5:28, it is quite expensive to get divorced especially for the men out there and it has a lifelasting effect on both parties and especially on the children involved.
@jchborg902772 жыл бұрын
The powerbase of our culture wants all adults to be in an aspirational mode, which prompts consuming. Hence, female models are unreasonably thin and unattainable, and men are celebrated when they earn big money and are tall and ripped. If you are not in those categories, you are prodded through marketing to either become that way or get out of the way and do not complain about it. I'm glad those anxious years of striving are behind me. Even so, it is painful to watch my middle class young friends suffer in this milieu. My rich young friends do not even notice that less fortunate people have such issues.
@Kratatch Жыл бұрын
All the guys answered the things they see what women go for. What a woman say and what a woman do is not the same thing.
@ijack3072 жыл бұрын
Great video and I haven’t even watched the whole thing. A sign of a legit lifestyle coach in my book, Courtney, is someone who’s willing to hold a position that’s true to them ESPECIALLY IF it goes against the mainstream culture. But then again, I’m very outside mainstream culture.
@juelanthony2 жыл бұрын
Hoping and praying all us men meet and wife up a real one like Courtney 🙏🏽
@teddychalgren2 жыл бұрын
Friday night 13 May 2022. Thanks for what you do for us, Courtney. Great "unpacking" of these TikTok vids. Take care.
@Sonny02762 жыл бұрын
Great Video. Thank you for posting.
@RTG5622 жыл бұрын
Great video today. Liked how long it was. I was super productive at my desk while it played. I'd like to see you do a video on dating a guy with child/children. Really tackle it, don't shy away or half step.
@junglejuice232 жыл бұрын
Not so great people giving not so great advice, that's a good way to word it.
@mikecicero61772 жыл бұрын
Was thinking the same exact thing!
@falsesectslikeshiaarejudeo65436 ай бұрын
post 1 is princess post 2 - is hook up and feminism conflict post 3 - is dont wait to text or overtext, share appetizers and quick call is easier to talk post 4 - girl says as a sucessful woman i gave u feminie energy and attract narcicists. courtney adds feminie vs masculine also shines for having kids. post 5 - girI says be over 6 ft and make over 100k. post 6 -
@Matt_Nor2 жыл бұрын
The first girl made me want to ask her "Where on the street did you lose your self-esteem"?
@annatar64532 жыл бұрын
Sometimes I am so glad I’m single
@BALHAM692 жыл бұрын
A dating video from Courtney today 😊
@CourtneyRyan2 жыл бұрын
Enjoy! ❤️
@BeatrixMushroom Жыл бұрын
Don’t worry, the younger generation is starting to question hook up culture