www.spartanlifecoach.com/Loving-Inner-Guide-Course This new course has been developed specifically to massively accelerate your healing/therapeutic process by removing a little-known block that is holding everyone back. So you're willing to go to therapy and do courses. You’ve spent your hard earned money on sessions, books, seminars. You’ve made the effort and given it an embarrassingly large amount of time. You’ve humbled yourself. You’ve “been vulnerable”. You’ve revealed your inner most to total strangers. All in the name of therapeutic progress so you can get back to living your normal life. And yet… Progress is patchy. Its slow. You move forward. Then you move back. A modality or therapist seems to be working, only for you to later hit a brick wall or feel so dispirited you just want to give up. Why? There is a part of the healing narrative that is a little embarrassing for clients, therapists and coaches alike. It’s a prickly topic. Its boundary breaking and impossibly, excruciatingly intimate. BUT It is exactly and precisely here where the essential work is. We can create a catalyst to your process and your progress here. Whether you are a therapist/coach or client (many are both, that’s ok too!) you need to understand this simple key element to push things forward. Simple questions like this would be a start: 1. How would you rate your relationship with yourself on a scale of 1 to 10? Do you retain new information easily or is it very difficult for you? 3. How efficient are you at regulating your emotions or do they frequently overpower you? 4. Can you pay attention for extended periods of time or do you drift off? 5. Do you often begin tasks only to abandon them half way through? These are just simple (and not particularly penetrating) examples of questions we could ask clients/ourselves before beginning therapy or a course. WHY? Because these questions indicate the level of “boss ability” you have and whether you are a “good friend to yourself”. WHAT DIFFERENCE DOES THAT MAKE? Read the questions above. Arent all these things absolutely necessary to completing a course, a seminar, reading a book on psychology/healing or attending counselling/therapy for months? This course is a lightweight, easy to consume and adopt first step towards developing better “executive function” and a stronger, more supportive relationship with the self. If you DO have these two things in order: -you will be able to retain information and organise your life more easily - there will be less dramatic outbursts of emotion, theatrical cries of “WHY AM I NOT GOOD ENOUGH” and less interpersonal turbulence with the people in your life - less temptation to use old/not helpful/poisonous coping strategies like drink, food, drugs, toxic relationships and so on to avoid the sense that “nothing you do ever works” - better ability to concentrate and pay attention for longer periods on tasks you need to get done, skills you are learning and the therapeutic process in general - you will feel optimistic and resilient, there will still be bad days but you will be able to track clearly the progress you are making which will keep you from the “pit of bleak despair”. We must be able to be a supportive friend to ourselves for our brains to function properly. This is a psychological and neurological issue. That means that elements of what blocks you are almost certainly physical. There is some debate but it is largely agreed “executive function”/”boss ability” is located in the prefrontal cortex. If your brain is not functioning well, it will be unlikely you will be able to cope with the stress of real therapeutic work. Why would/should we expect you to cope with a counselling programme if you struggle to go to the shops without issue? It doesn’t make sense. This course is simple, uses no jargon, is step by step and largely requires only the simplest written exercises (15 mins a day) and to listen to a couple of audio hypnosis before sleep, and one you can listen to while doing your daily chores. This course will NOT recover a damaged executive function or self relationship completely but it will get you to a point where you can cope with and retain the progress you make in a coaching context.

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It takes daily work, there is no end-I’m 75 and started my healing at age 70. I must battle CPTSD every day for the rest of my life. But knowing this is a blessing compared to living my life in the throes of codependency! Thank you for, Richard, for being one of my guiding lights!

"Your therapist can't cure you, because you're NOT sick." The way he words things, always so much better than any therapist!

For the people who are "so sick of being strong", I can totally relate to that. I have a friend whom, instead of replying "that sucks" will just constantly tell me "you're a strong woman", to the point where it has become a trigger. Now when someone tells me I'm strong, I cry. It has become an insult to me. I don't need to be constantly reminded of who I know I am. Sometimes I just need some empathy, or a hug. Edit: Great video! And much needed.

You are so ahead of your time.. no counsellors, psychiatrists, psychologists in our area even recognise CPTSD let alone understand how long it takes to heal, or how to help you heal. I wish there were multiples of you, scattered around the world to help people.

Comes back to the famous Yoda quote, "you must unlearn what you have learned." It does take time, consistency, and having compassion for yourself. Really good vid Richard.

This is why people follow your work for years. They are getting better. It is a way of life. Otherwise we fall back into old habits. Thanks Richard.

I was severely abused as a child and I ended up marrying and divorcing a very abusive narcissist. I have dedicated myself to weekly intensive therapy to overcome my trauma and PTSD. 2 years in and doing great! I have found my sweet loving self again. I was also in MMA for 3 years. I understand the concept of strength and conditioning. Thank you for your content, Richard. ♡

Kindness, understanding,compassion helped me to go further than tyranny ever could. 😊

My biggest problem is the inability to remain in the present. Living in the moment is almost impossible for me. And I end up on KZfaq all day in order to escape my own thoughts. (And not necessarily watching good things like this but most the time I watch other ppl that have had it worse then me so I can feel empathy toward them and not myself. Sigh 😔,,, I know I'm really screwed up).

Great analogy of the captain's deck on the Starship Enterprise. Complex trauma makes decision making, planning, organizing your thoughts a mess if nobody is at their station, there's no captain, the place is littered with trash. You've got to take time to clear your head, develop new positive habits, set some boundaries, take charge.

Grannon you were instrumental in my CPTSD recovery. Thanks man

When you said, "you're not sick" that was like a giant weight lifted when I heard that, and I got a little emotional. I didn't even know I needed to hear that. Thank you 💕

"The soft overcomes the hard. The calm overcomes the fast." | Tao te ching

Having ADHD and CPTSD both has made my life a very painful struggle just to do basic normal things that normal people do. Because I was the scapegoat and black sheep in my family, I’ve learned to be merciless with myself. I now have fibromyalgia, and of course, I still try to work out like I did before I had it - relentlessly and, again, without mercy. I’m endlessly patient and forgiving, but not with myself. This is exactly what I need to hear. Thank you!

My affirmation for today seems to be “it’s okay to have thoughts in my head” as if I try and hide that they exist. Good thoughts, bad thoughts. They are always there. And part of accepting me today is accepting this. Usually when I voice them they go away, but not always. But I can at least be okay with my own thoughts. No need to meditate them away. No need to deny their existence. Just accepting. "When people realize they are being listened to, they tell you things." -Richard Ford "If mind and body is listened to by heart it will tell you things." - Hulda hurricane

Working through this course has been profound. I began with the fortress series and the consistent work over time has been the key to my progress. The growth I have experienced and the reduction of flashbacks and increased healing has been insane. This course has been great.

TIME & REPETITION = STRENG-SKILL🙏❤ I will writte down and put on the mirror 👊👊👊

Thanks Richard! I appreciate the reminder to not make healing a re-traumatizing experience, but a place for self acceptance and love ❤️

Yesterday I had a nap cause it's like 100° here and dreamed that you came for a visit and I was beside myself with excitement to tell you how much you helped me and made it bareable.

LOVED THIS.......we are conditioned to repeat and think the Negative comments and assessments we’ve so often heard about and to ourselves.....(making us Double Victims of the aholes who did this to us)...we repeat their “Legacy” when we negatively self-talk...we are Agreeing with them !!!! Let Us NOT Agree and Make up our own Better, More Positive Attitude and Self-Love, or at least, self-acceptance..... WE CAN DO IT ! I just HATE that it supposedly takes so long - let’s blow it Outta the water...DO IT....and Shorten it’s very Life within us...... LOVE YOU RICHARD LOVE how you suggest we BE KIND - as KIND as we are to A Child..... GOOD ONE

At the age of 45 I said to myself enough. I had enough. I have changed. My priorities are now very clear. Never let narc back into my life. Have only emphatic and supportive friends. Never ever letting anyone back who will use me! I am standing myself tall with no fear to do what i want and how i want it and when i want it. I exist. I can read or watch a movie or eat ice cream or just be happy as i am. I am capable of loving myself and i am free to believe in anything and i can spend money how i wish since i have a job! And i matter. I do.

"No one can tell me, when it's over." What a kick in the gut. Just Damn!

I am getting better at being kind to me. I like what you said about not saying anything to yourself that you wouldn't be comfortable saying to a child. Beautiful reminder. 😍

Inner critic. I’m 68 and I’m so fatigued with my inner critic. I over eat to drown my thoughts. I always want to be somebody else than me. This is a new layered message to just learning brain plasticity. I am so done with hearing Jesus will heal you. I come from a Christian toxic family. God is no loving father figure feel . Parents are no loving people in life. They won’t stay dead. Always returning in my dreams. Siblings male dissecting me so I told to stay out of my life. This is a promising message and I’m still raw. I go one foot forward and ten feet backwards. I’m up at two thirty trying to sleep listening to this.

I have a very harsh inner critic. I blame myself for what I do, what others do, pretty much everything. I've realized that taking responsibility for other people's actions was something I picked up in childhood. If how my parents treated me was my fault,, it removed the conflicted feelings of anger vs love. I'd be angry at myself so that I could still love my parents. I've repeated that pattern over and over. I've been in EMDR therapy since Nov 2020 . It's helped some but it's not easy.

100% right. Not many people are going to want to hear this, if they have cptsd that is.. I have been slowly healing for decades now, each type of therapy as not been a cure but a step towards that healing .. unfortunately so many think it's a one and done, some give up ..god knows I've been that person , a few times... Yes I still struggle now and again, and yes I have a way to go but when I think that once I couldn't go out the door, or chat with someone .. and now I can talk to people I meet, even catch public transport to see my son's ..I know all the listening to people like Richard is and was worth it... Don't give him guys keep going

Thank you for this, Richard! And for creating a course at an affordable price for people. What a gift! I've spent 20 years healing CPTSD and I'm in a wonderful place now. I help others in my coaching and this is going to be so valuable!!! Xx

Totally agree, discipline time and repetition.CPTSD symtoms will wait and strike even if you consider yourself almost healed. It's creating new neurological pathways as complex trauma caused brain injury - enlarged amygdala, shrunk hippocampus and less active front neocortex.

i grew up with a covert narcissistic mother. this whole concept of being conditioned very clearly explains something that i've tried to explain to people who don't understand. my mother was sooo subtle that i can't really explain what she did or didn't do. but it was always, always there, and she taught us (me and my siblings) our value, not necessarily by what she said, but how she was with us (much like people don't understand how you raise a dog more by how you are with him/her than by how you train him/her). thanks for explaining this so clearly. i really do appreciate it.

Mr. Richard Grannon, each single video you make is a piece of diamond! Your words are so beautifully healer! Thanks so much. A gigantic hug from rhe Amazon, Brazil. Love sent your way.

Intelligent, strong, sensitive, experienced, wise, funny, real cool! Beautiful caring man. Just an observation. 🤩

I know Richard wouldn't like this being said, but lightly speaking I believe Richard is one of the messengers of God of our times giving us healing advices, life saving wisdom for those who listen carefully. Whether you like this Richard, I thank you for all your time and work that you put in to help so many of us, may God bless you! 🙏

Tim Fletcher is incredibly good. Like the source of the knowledge.

Thank you’s will not be enough. Thank you for being the person to do this. You’re a hero. Prayers for your health and your message.

Strength-skill when I hear this I think of the word resilience. Thanks so much. These are incredibly helpful self-development videos. 💗

You're looking quite fit,Sir. I struggle to restructure myself...and yes, I am my worst enemy..hyper critical and keeping myself down as I have been my whole life.(I am 64) When life rains down hard on me I can't cope...but if things are going along normally, I can cope. Right now....life is raining on me

This is a really good video explaining everything that is missed out in normal videos. You can't bully yourself to heal.

Ok, i know I'm over commenting at this point but "hurry up and heal, you idiot" had me in literal tears laughing at myself. THANK YOU!!! It is so nice to feel seen, even when it's an ad campaign.

A lot of your therapy work, specifically on PTSD has helped me tremendously. I think you are in a very noble profession - helping others is really the key to life, in my opinion. Thank you is an understatement and sending love, health and happiness to you and your family 💕

I truly can't thank you enough. Humbled, honored, and excited for shifting into a whole new perception :)

“Hurry up and heal you idiot” cracked me up hard 😂 I see how I got a good few of these voices in my head and I didn’t even realise it was that bad. It’s a normal way of handling threat because its all we ever heard, for me from day 1 all around. As someone reading the Kybalion, we actually create more oscillation, the up and downs in our life, by yelling at ourselves, so healing keeps getting sidetracked or sabotaged... it’s what narc childhood sets up. Remember “energy follows the structure” - it follows the path of least resistance, so it’s literally impossible to heal without creating a new channel down which it can run !! So I see as Richard is saying it’s important to lay the foundation and the space in which we heal! So important! Wow wow this is powerful AF. Thank you. With that alone I feel 80% of my healing already in motion and available. 🙌🏽 law of attraction and law of rhythm at work. Everyone please know you are special and precious and you can take ALL THE DAMN TIME in the world to heal or arrive to a reality you feel safe and confident in.

Thank you Richard 🙏

This is a great reminder of the vitality of self-compassion

wim hof breathing realy helps calming your nervous system ,cured my panic attacks

CPTSD and a shitty relationship with myself. I kinda figured out this is not going to be a quick fix. Appreciate your videos, Mr Grannon, both psychological and self defense. It baffles me too how can a person teaching violent intent (controlled, but still) be so caring to his sparring partner

I’ve been doing this for 20 years but it took awhile before the really good tools of today were available. Yes, it’s wax on and wax off and a lot of days that feel like you’re starting over, but then every six months or so you discover you’ve made a massive leap. Journaling your progress helps you see that you are actually changing because when you’re that close you sometimes can’t see. I am so glad I stuck with it- life is much better! Thank you for making these resources

It's a complete breakdown and rebuild to get to the other side, micro dosing can help

I strongly suggest Marty Glenn’s videos on inner child work

True the fear is debilitating. The fear

It takes discipline even having to get out of bed at 9am is your repetition then I’m frickin awesome

So thankful I came across your channel today. You've helped me get thru this extremely tough morning. Thank you for the work you do and put out to the world.

You're a top man, Grannon. Your work is incredibly valuable, helped me so much a few years ago and continues to do so.

Thank you so much Richard. I love listening to your videos when I need mental support to help myself up again. I have followed you for long time and I still learn new things.

Honoured our paths are crossing. Thank you for your generosity in sharing this important lessons. Will get this course sometime very soon

This guy is so insightful without being pretenious !!

Richard this is one of your best. Beginning my journey to healing, thankyou. Fear and anxiety improving with videos like these.

I havent seen one of your videos in a while and I must say you have really come into your own. You seem to have followed your own advice and have come out better all around. This is really good advice and you deliver it in a clear, easy to understand way.

One of the best ways to define what makes a great therapist and teacher is proved in this video - being able to see things from another's point of view and circumstances, and realizing all of the details that are different for each person, but admitting it truly shows what someone is all about - it's obvious that Richard does everything he does to help others, first and foremost. This is also a sign of just how far he has come in his own healing.

Once again you nailed it and do so with such humility and compassion. I really respect you and see such divine Providence over your work. Keep going your such a LIGHTSOURCE

One Word for strength and skill together is “prowess”

It sounds like a great new course, love, patience and consistency over time...just what a pure baby needs from a good loving parent. Thank you for your continuing work and support Richard, you are right no one can force or bully that baby into growing quicker than it can...

As per usual, playing in the background and suddenly, I hear something..."it's makes it hard to go to the supermarket..." And as per usual, you have my attention, sir.

Thank you for this- incredibly validating Richard

Right on time, thank you Richard!

"Satir model of change", when transformation is initiated, chaos comes, lost in performance.... this is often mistaken for failure

Hi Richard, I'm so grateful I have found your work again after glossing over your site and some videos 4 years ago when Trauma Bonded with a Narcissistic older boyfriend. Thanks for making the courses affordable, it's evident you have a true passion for helping others over making money. It feels like the right time for me to enrol on this particular course now! Sending you a massive hug from London Uk

You're a shining beacon of light for me right now. Thankyou ❤

I started watching you in 2014-15 you haven't aged a bit you look amazing! Love listening.

I have watched numerous videos on this topic. This is by far the best explained video I have seen . Your approach is non threatening & also very strong at the same time. Firm but gentle. It’s makes sense! Like …… it makes sense!!!!!!🙏🕊💖💎👑✅💯. Thank u💜🕊

Thank you Richard Always timely wisdome....💖🙏

It is very crucial to truly understand and apply this message you are sharing with us and I am grateful that you are emphasizing the importance of having a loving inner voice. I have done a lot of inner work, some of you courses and this is something I STILL struggle with, the inner critic pushing for "you should be healed already" " why do you still feel sad or feel despair" etc... "you are not doing enough" "you are not doing it right, look at you feeling sad again".... Your message is very much appreciated and needed

really good stuff, except for the part about treating yourself as a parent would treat a child. I have CPTSD because my parents were neglectful and abusive. I do not connect with the idea of a loving parent because neither i nor any of my dysfunctional friends had loving parents. I connect better with the idea of me being coached by the kind of teacher I am when I teach guitar. Patient, adaptable to the student's needs, generous in spirit, setting them up to succeed.

This is phenomenally incredible. Need this course.

Pretty sure I watched this when you first uploaded it but I'm watching it again and getting so much out of it. Thank you Richard so so much! 😊

Excellent episode Richard. And thanks for your honesty on the latest episode with Pierre. Sounds like you really got thrown for a loop with that female. I really felt that, up until last October when my significant other was killed life was just sailing along. I was an owner of a treatment center and seemed to really have my act together until the Universe hit me with that knock out punch. With the help of your programs and with a lot of determination I'm back on track.

Your delivery on this video is fantastic! Really strong message - penetrating, veRy useful. So grAteful for you and the healing you make accessible via your videos..

Learn to play guitar.... Its helped me no end!!

Thanks, Richard. This is a timely video for me.

Mind set absolutely knowing that negative thinking my world would crumple underneath me positive thinking has propelled me forward and into more healthy ways of dealing with the trauma

Dude was curious what this was and I gotta say for my first video only 2:16 seconds in I can already tell you are a genuine and thorough guy can’t wait to hear what you have to say about this as I am just learning about it.

Richard ur videos are a godsend! thank u for validating wot I know ive always suffered from in both my emotional and mental health problems! this is my therapy wiout judgement or biased assumptions that usually always come with CMH team therapists that decide wots wrong with u after ONE 45 minit assessment then palm u off to anotha department ASSuming they've done their bit and onto the next! that is not helpn anyone! so with that being said I really can't thank u enuff for giving ppl the facts and truth and help that not everyone can afford to pay for or end being another MH patient draining the NHS community adult MH teams n stil not gettn real help and being heard as an INDIVIDUAL!

Solipsistic, love it!! Your vocabulary is fantastic and with your accent OMG!! Seriously though I learn from you in a very good way. I learn and continue the hard work after your lectures. Thank you!!

Thank you - great video as always. Very empowering

Wow! Thank you, Richard. I'm sure that if i had access to these insights looooong ago, i would've saved years of suffering. Hoping to be able to join your official courses soon. For now... Thank you for this 💙

Thank you for honest answers. Just what I needed.

"I can't cure you, you're not sick" is both the best and most painful thing I have ever heard. Thank you. ❤

@18:50 Thank you for your reminding me that I have done enough suffering and I have beat myself up enough over my foolish mistakes.

I finally feel validated and understood. Going to the grocery store and panicking or crying, or not being able to consistently go to work, always wondering what's wrong with me. Its not my fault and I can work on this

Its hard , you think your doing okay then you experience a wave of disgust in yourself and your own appearance .. your so exhausted by the feelings- just doing the things that you know will help are more than hard ... I resorted to Thomas halls sleep subliminals on confidence/ self esteem with rain to sleep, which did make me feel better in the short term

So I’ve been suffering from a lot of trauma when I was younger (Still am) I got into toxic relationships and has been abused verbally with no one to help. When I tried to ask help from my parents they just disregarded me like it was nothing. So now I’m reaching out to a trusted relative and hopefully get the right treatment I need ❤

Loving, self, guidance 🥰❤✔

Unbelievably helpful video. Thank you so much.

Oh, great! This sounds as exactly what I need now. Im stucked too long and sick of myself doing nothing about. Ups, here we are 😉 To put it different way: Im finally ready to move forward!

"Super ego injunctions", a name for what I have been struggling with while working on Personal Development School's courses! Such intention to improve my relationship with myself and feel safe and supported, and then I can be SO JUDGEMENTAL if I miss a step or have a feeling that seems incongruent. Dude, I want your course in my life.

I was following Dr. Sam Vankin’s videos and one was with u Richard. U were so insightful & brutally honest which catapulted me into wanting to watch more of u. Of course the ladies here will agree u r not bad on the eyes which is helpful…just being honest💕U show us to b courageous & get really in touch with ourselves. The course sounds wonderful. Ty for your wisdom. 💯

Love your neighbor as yourself? Loving yourself is good for everyone!

I do agree with the analogy of the Infantry. I was in the Infantry and the longer you're in the less of screaming you hear. It's more about training it's more about getting things right than learning how to follow orders.

Solipsism. What a cool new word and concept. You just blew my mind sir.