I always win at shadowboxing.

my japanese teacher used to say about sparring ' someone hit you, you say thank you, they have shown you a whole in your defence'

"If you go into sparring with a win-lose attitude, you're an idiot" I love you.

Lmfao, a grappling shark tank is a human rights abuse. "No, for a grappler it's just Tuesday." Couldn't have said it better myself.

Goes to MMA gym: "I DON'T PAY GOOD MONEY TO GET BEAT UP" cracks me up

I hate people who think you win or lose a sparring match

I believe that in sparring the rule is hit as hard as you want to get hit

Someone should have said something like this to the guy: "Let me settle this thing. Did you or did you not, just punch Joseph square in the face? It's okay to say yes, because we all watched you do it. But, now you're complaining that he kicked you too hard, am I right? Well, I have the perfect solution for you. Come over here with me. You see this? Meet your new training partner. This is a heavy bag. You can spar with this all day long and I promise that it will never kick you in the leg. Have a great workout. You're welcome".

Looks as if Charlie Zelenoff showed up in your gym.

My second time sparring some better guys, I had a dude chop my leg 6 times in a row with rapid kicks. I told him to ease up a little, he apologized and we continued sparring. End of story.

"I don't pay good money to get beaten up here...!" No, actually you do. Every martial artist does, or did, at some point in their lives. We paid good money to a reputable teacher or gym, to put ourselves through combat-oriented adversity in the school, so that people outside can't beat us up with their unskilled moves.

This is the calmest narration of a "Crazy Dude" story I've ever heard, but I intently listened to every word and felt like I had just finished meditating once it was over.

His son was there and my guess is that the “father” was trying to “be a man” and show his son “how tough he is”. The son will do one of two things, follow in his father’s footsteps or be ashamed and use it as a learning experience.

Who knew that if you spar with people you might get hit. What a revelation. Some people blow my mind.

This is without a doubt the calmest rant I've ever seen 😂

"You cannot buy my respect"..great response and very wise words!

I was "that guy" 10 over years ago when i started training and there was another "that guy" in the class. Some people complained, so the way the instructor handled it was that he set us up as sparring partners and we had to suffer each other for a couple of sessions until we learned how to restrain ourselves.

I like to think of sparring as constructive losing. You only truly learn from it when you willingly accept your losses and analyze your mistakes. That's when you get maximum improvement.

Angry man: Punches sparring partner in the face hard Sparring partner: Half power kicks angry mans leg in response Angry man: Surprised pikachu face Angry man: Throws several hour long temper tantrum over unfair it was that he got kicked Angry man: Literally thinks he is paying for the right to punch people with no retaliation and disrespect people It is unreal how some fully mentally developed adults can have such an unsavory mentality. The lesson for him should be very simple: If you can't take it yourself, don't dish it out.

My boxing coach always told us not to hit anyone harder than we're willing to get hit.

I think that guy was your basic schoolyard bully when growing up, then he got out in the real world and realized he wasn't the toughest guy around anymore, so he decided to join your dojo to "beat" a martial artist at a sparring match just so he could tell his friends that he won. And when it didn't work out, it pissed him off. I wouldn't have let him come back the second time, there is no point having someone like that causing problems for the people that came to actually learn.

ramsey dewey takes 15 min to tell a 5 min story

Bro you could defo get a job narrating some documentaries

“I never lose. I either win or I learn”. ~ Nelson Mandela

Listen bro, the reason I raged was because i felt inferior to your radio voice... so powerful! Made me feel like a wimp!

This man is a lot like my Karate sensei, I really appreciate people like this.He has great morals

" If the only thing that's injured is your pride... GET OUT. I like that. 💪

Folks in my first dojo greeted each other with low kicks 🤔

So he thought it was ok to punch a smaller guy in the face but gets upset over a kick to the leg??

I wouldn’t tolerate any person (no matter how skilled or talented ) if they lacked respect for the Art, the school, the trainer and his fellow students. Martial Arts begins and ends with Courtesy. A basic tenant. Enough said.

"Don't be THAT guy." Words to live by

"Measure yourself against yourself yesterday not against that other guy standing across from you today" I really loved that quote and it applies to many things. thanks

You said so many great things in this video but what made me subscribe is "You can not buy my respect." Fantastic, you are a very smart guy.

YOU CANNOT BUY MY RESPECT!!

"You don't win or lose in sparring, you learn!" So damn true. I learned in sparring my first day that you may tap out 1000 times in a week, but you learn something every time, and you thank your partners for giving you knowledge.

He came, was embarrassed in front of his boy and then couldn't let it go.

why does he speak like a prophet

Your voice is like Valium, I'm sending you a crate of books so you can read to me before I go to sleep.

You should be (and I'm sure you are) proud of your entire gym. Alot of people would have turned it into a physical altercation or AT LEAST a screaming match..but yall maintained and didnt let his negative attitude ruin class for the day. Kudos

LMAO... Dude was crazy! Thank you so much Ramsey, for your knowledge and grace... Love love love!

"Disrespect does not exist in this dojo, does it?" "NO, SENSEI!"

Was the guy`s name Charlie Zernoff?!

Had a guy hit me in the head while sparring, shot him in the head. I’m typing this message from the jail

I've had some bad injuries from sparring, but i just laughed it off and hobbled around for a week or two lol Your ideas about what happened are right on sir. I found them inspiring.

I think I have an interesting anecdote: I had a friendly sparring bout with a guy from the club I was frequenting. So we put on the gear: me having 14 oz. gloves, not going all out with punches the guy had some discount unidentifiable gloves but they looked kinda OK So, we start to spar (boxing rules) and after a few engagements and combinations he managed to get a cross into my face that resulted in trigeminal nerve damage. Then, I realized something... The gloves, although were a bit smaller than mine (dude had a bit smaller hands, didn't even consider it), didn't have enough material in them, when I inspected them afterwards they were around 8 oz. or less and didn't have much padding. They were a bit "inflated" so to speak to make them look proper. No surprise that I felt the bite of his knuckles againt my cheekbone. Before that, I trained (striking-wise) with muay thai guys for almost two years, did karate for another two, NEVER I felt the need to inspect their equipment before jiyu kumite/sparring/etc. to confirm my safety. Everyone used proper equipment. And here I was, half my face numb and mildly unresponsive for about 6 months. Lesson learned. But trust... sometimes is a tricky thing.

Sparring is about learning, there is no winning nor losing. If you spar with the mentality of wanting to win then you're never gonna achieve anything.

Wow... Another great video , Lessons to learn... Thanks for your valuable info.!

You are so great and this video caught me off guard. I love your sportsmanship and pure honest style. The world needs more people like you.

Honesty is appreciated. Respect is earned. Trust is gained. Loyalty is returned!

Came for the content. Stayed for the buttery radio voice.

Mr. Dewey, ive watched a few of your videos, and i have to say that you seem one of the most self controlled, disciplined people genuinley good men ive ever seen... (even though its you tube) i would find training with you an utter privialage. thankyou.

Man, I love your channel. Thanks for the gems and lessons. It's always a great watch and lesson.

'It does not matter if you're better than somebody else, only if you're better than tomorrow' Jigoro Kano It's a fairly challenging mentality to genuinely reach but having a hissy fit over sparring is ridiculous

I think he's in the wrong place then if he doesn't want to get hit 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣 If i really don't like any contact to me I'm not going to go do a contact sport 😂🤣

I know this was 3 years ago but man this is some good wisdom. I feel like your student from every video you post. I wish I could be in your gym and learn martial arts from you master. Keep up the awesome work and thanks for all the wisdom and technique.

Honestly it sounds like everyone showed a lot of restraint. I would have cussed him out and threw him out the gym by force

My thoughts are the bigger guy is s bouncer or someone in a position of power who enjoys beating people up. But in this instance someone fights back and he's not able for it. Typical bully.

Even when Ramsey is furious, he sounds perfectly came. Maybe just a little bit excited, but that’s all.

I want a pod cast with this dudes voice

Thank you for your channel and your honesty and for being everyday truth in a industry where so much foolish abounds.

I never lose... I either win, or I learn!

dude... You're awesome. And I like your fight philosophy. Blessings

Love your respectfull attitude. Thats how it should be. A real warrior is calm, friendly and he will never use his strenght in a negative way

I love it every time Ramsay says the word 'fool'. It cracks me up. I love this channel! Learning so much.

Training is NOT combat. I have zero respect or tolerance for people who are rough or domineering during training. They don't care one bit about injuring their training partners. And when you are training in limb destruction... commonly known as "joint locks" and "submissions"... that injury can easily be permanent... Brazilian Jujitsu has a troubling number of injuries and deaths precisely because of jerks not caring if they hurt their training partner, or using training as a competition. People who injure their training partners are bullies and abusers, and I can guarantee you they are doing even worse to other people in their lives, using the martial arts that you taught them. I think this is why in the "good old days", martial arts teachers used to require character references, and would also test the character of their students before teaching them anything. Also, some of those "new guys" are actually there for "dojo breaking"... They are there to beat up the students, and the teacher, and then tell everyone about how your school is fake. That is a different, unpleasant situation. In the old days, the way to take care of both bullies and dojo breakers, was for the Sifu/Sensei to personally "teach them a lesson"...one that they would never forget... but in our modern, litigious society, we have to handle bullies with kid gloves. If it was my school, I would not tolerate unnecessary roughness. I might give them a chance or two, if they were truly contrite and they just did not know their own strength, which is very unlikely as the strongest men I know, all go out of their way to be gentle... and they truly feel bad if they accidentally injure anybody. If they are just an abuser out to prove their own dominance... they are out. The martial arts are dangerous. One cannot afford any loose cannons in one's school. If they refuse to leave the premises immediately, the cops escort them out. If they get physically aggressive... well, in America at least, we have certain inalienable rights to using force for self defense... and it is a martial arts school, so... "Heeeeee Yaah!" Judo Chop. Either way, it is the teacher's responsibility to handle the bad guy, because all of the students are under his protection. A teacher does not allow his students to get hurt by a bully.

I used to teach a boxing class here in montreal and some guy came in at like 5 minutes before the end of the class (I dont allow people into the room if they're not training). I gesture'd at him to leave and he got angry (like sociopathic rage angry). But he did step out of the room and waited for the class to be over, at which point he barged in again and came up to my face yelling about me not respecting him and that my behaviour deserved a beating and what not. He was so close to my face we could've kissed lol. The best thing to do in my humble opinion is to stand firmly, not backing down but staying calm and rational, not falling into their game of threats and aggression, letting them finish then retorting with a rational argument in a stable tone of voice. They usually calm down if there is no outter interference (idiots usually get primed when a third party is watching I.e. your students).In your case, telling him to get his refund and leave, in a non-condescending or aggressive manner would have been the best option. People who showcase sociopathic behavior like that guy are not worth your time or effort and you always have more to lose than them.

I fully agree with you. I'm a Martial Art instructor, and in my Gym from day one I let everyone know what are the rules (being respectful to everybody and the art itself, is among them), and if a problem arises, I expect them to calmly talk to me so that the problem can be solved. If anyone is not OK with that, then I simply tell them that me and my Gym are not the right place for them. But even if they agree with the rules but later on start breaking them, or I realize that a person is only interested in learning a Martial Art to be a bully, I promptly offer to refund their last monthly payment if applicable, and ask them to go somewhere else.

I appreciate the genuineness of trying to understand what more could we have done? From your description, you and the students did the best that anyone could have done in that situation. And what happened in your dojo speaks highly of the quality of instructors and students and if it were not for the inner discipline, humility, and compassion displayed by instructors and students, the irate individual could have gotten more that than his pride was broken. It is unfortunate that his previous Sensei and fellow students and the exposure of the training regiment was able to counter the individual's inner demons.

A defeat you learn from is worth more than a victory.

I train hapkido for a few years and thought I was okay at it. Then a friend invited my to a kickbox class. So i went to it and it was quite a unique experience, cause it was so different to what I learned. So basically near the end of the class we paired up and spared with each other and I got one of the top guys. Since I wasn't used to tight defense with the arms right besides your body, so he landed a few punches. So this other person started slowly and got quicker and I was basically only trying to get avoided to get punched and somehow my defense droped and the other person hit my with leg kick to the head and I went down. I didn't blacked out and gladly he wore leg protection so it hadn't that much impact and didn't hurt that much. So I got back up and the other one helped my and said :"I am so sorry I should have known better, I didn't want to hurt you, are you okay?" To wich I responded : "I am fine. I droped my arms and left my head unprotected, so it was my fault not yours. I'm glad you didn't hit me full force. But that is the risk that comes with sparing. Now I know to never let the guard down, even if that's what my body wants to do. " then we shook hands and continued. What I wanted to say is, that getting hit is part of the process to learn and if that isn't something for you, you try another martial arts that doesn't involve full contact sparing or kicking and punching or so.

Thank you, Ramsey. I really like how training in on the mat applies in the outside world. I have a lot of learning to do myself. I appreciate the guidance you are sharing with all of us. I probably would have done the same thing you were trying to do. “Go.” .. much love.

Today was my first time seeing you and your channel. I like your story-telling style, your sense of logic & reason, deliberate restraint and firm but controlled demeanor. It seems like you’re a great, intelligent person to be acquainted with. I wish you many great rewards in life. Peace ✌🏼

“Nobody wins when sparring.” I never thought about it that way... I’m not like the guy that threw a tantrum in your gym at all, but I did learn a lot from this video. Thank you.

my least favorite sparring partners were the guys who'd say "let's go light" then proceed to throw hard, then complain if you come back at them with the same intensity

exactly the way your team did (or would of liked to), you're a lucky man to have great people working with you.

Again and repeat. I really appreciate this guys humility and respect. It's commendable.

Many of us fantasize after the fact. I think a point that's left out in this little story is, you as the owner of the house lacked the decisiveness there n then to cut him off/out instead of subjecting the members of your gym to his abuse. I understand that every individual is a grown mature individual able to tolerate/deal with such situations. But being equipped to do so also does not mean having the need to subject yourself to such a circumstance. On the other hand, not many of us are subject to conflict on a day to day basis so it could be a valuable learning opportunity. These individuals often prey on the generosity of society at large to advance their self interests. The next time you encounter a situation where the mature decision is to 'let it go', also realize you are inadvertently encouraging such behavior. They feed and thrive precisely on the fact that most people, prefer to just let it go.

I'd ask: "Sir, what is the problem exactly? Can we please sit down and discuss this?" If he keeps cursing, I'd just ask the cashier to give him a refund and politely tell him to just leave. If he insists on mouthing off or escalating the situation, then I'd just ignore him and calmly call the police and have them escort him outside. I'd also make sure to keep a copy of the CCTV feed for that day and make sure to memorize the guy's face just in case he feels the need to get revenge via unlawful means. I'm basically giving him a chance to keep his dignity in front of his kid while de-escalating the situation and preventing him from thinking of making it violent.

"I don't pay my money to get beaten up here" That's literally what you've paid for

This guy is actually such a good story teller

Sounds like a great club with guys who have a very tolerant attitude!

"Glass heart" means being hypersensitive and emotionally fragile

"That's human rights violation!" "Nah, man, that's Tuesday!" LOL!

i know this is an old vid but "measure yourself against [you] yesterday, not against other people" made the whole video, and my day! ty! keep up the nice stuff! love your approach on the subjects you cover! cheers!

I'm not an experienced fighter by any means, I'm only 16, but in 2nd grade, I had a Karate class as an elective in school. One day, I was sparring, on our knees, grappling and pinning. I was having fun, I didn't see it as competitive, oddly enough, but the kid that sparred against me was really into it, like REALLY into it, and he decided to headbutt me, which wasn't legal in our 2nd grade class, and I get a pretty bad nose bleed, a fair amount of blood on the mat. I could've retaliated with one of my own, or punched him with my tiny fists, but I flipped over, and stopped the "fight". Even at that age, I knew better than the guy Dewey was talking about in the video. I cleaned up in the bathroom, and our sensei didn't call the other kid dumb, he just said, "You can't do that, that's an illegal move." Makeing the experience as positive as it could've been for him, and pulled me up in front of the whole class, and gave me respect for showing restraint, and said that I was an example for them. That really stuck out to me, and I remember it to this day. So, in conclusion, showing restraint like that, or like Joseph or Vitally at the gym, is a sign of strength, and deserves a tremendous amount of respect. To most people, you appear spineless, but in reality, you respect the other party, and yourself too much to do something that you might regret.

One thing I would probably do the next time I would not allow totally beginners to spar. Also, most people don't understand what sparring is about (improving skills, and not fighting), you explained it very well, perhaps the same should be explained to newcomers. Also this stepping back, and asking for time, and explaining the problem is a very good alternative route to just increasing the power that people tend to do. This kind of alternative way of handling problems has to be explained to people so they have alternative.

Stayed for the story, subscribed because of your mentality on sparring. I've tried to explain that so many times to people, it's amazing how often this kind of thing happens.

Love your calm Ramsey.. wish we had more level-headed gym instructors

I would love to train in your gym Mr Ramsey. Best of luck.

When martial artists are the prophets of peace, love, and humanity. Very beautiful. :)

I remember when I took the martial arts I met a master who was ruled by his emotions. Right then I realized that this was not a master that I wanted to learn from. You and your students have become true masters...masters of themselves...which I have always felt is where the most important battle is fought. Continue your great work

Thank you for taking the time to tell this story. It was very much enjoyed.

13:27 and on made me feel like i was either listening to a video game monologue or listening to Captain America give a speech. good video 10/10.

"You cannot buy my respect.. that is earned, not given" Dammn, that gave me goosebumps.

Pretty good. I think the tall guy was just suddenly worried he no longer held dominion over the zone - it's pretty common to lose your head when suddenly your safety levels drop below acceptable levels.

I've always found sparring to not only be a learning experience. But an actual fun bonding experience.

"Roughly translates to Glass Heart" That's a perfect observation lol.

You have the Carl Sagan voice but for MMA instead of the Cosmos.

Well said, sir. Not just in training, but in other aspects of life, measure against yourself. Thank you.

Your approach at the gym and in teaching sounds awesome, I want to fly out just to train there!