What is Sumangali Prarthanai
This is a function meant for women, married with Husband being alive. In this function the Blessings of the departed Sumangalis, those whose deaths precede the death of their husbands are sought and those who died young before getting married.
The ladies who sit for the puja represent all the women of the family who are no more alive.
The function is presided over by the elderly lady members of the family.
Usually the kartha is a sumangali from the family.
What to buy & when to do
The menu for the feast is also very similar.
9 yds saree in silk or cotton needs be bought along with a blouse bit.
Preferable colors are red, yellow and green.
Tuesdays and Saturdays are to be avoided.
Fridays during the Waxing of the Moon (Valar Pirai) is advisable.
Wednesdays/Thursdays are also permissible.
Ashtami,Navami Thithis are normally avoided.
Panchami is preferable.
Who has to do & How many people
If the daughter is getting married, the event is done before the marriage. In the case of a son getting married, this is performed after the marriage, with the Daughter-in-law conducting it.
7 ladies and 2 young girls (preferably below the age of 10) are invited to participate in the function, to take part the feast and receive thamboolam.
The total number of ladies should always be in Odd numbers.
The maximum number of ladies allowed normally is 11.
What to give
Those to be invited, kumkum, haldi, oil, shikakai, vasanai podi are to offered at their home a day earlier
On the morning of the day, wash the 9 yds saree & a blouse bit with madi (shuddam) after bath & dry.
Pooja procedure
Kalyana kolam/Rangoli in the entrance, and semman & tie “ mavilai” at Home.
For the pudavai kalasam - put a square kolam, (padi kolam), over that keep a palakai & put kolam on that.
In front of that, put a kolam to keep the vazhai elai (banana leaf).
On both sides of the Pudavai(Sareee) kalasam put kolam for 2 elais , beside for elais facing North, East is preferred next
Fold the dry saree so that the “ pallu” comes on the top.
The corner of the same should face N. Fold the blouse & keep on that.
What to keep along with the saree
On the saree keep the following:
A small mirror
Oru kavuli ( 100 no:s) vethalai
Kali paakku
Urundai manjal
Nalangu manjal - (mix of haldi and chunnambu) on a vethalai
& bananas
Flowers - Malli, Kathambam or Roses
Maruthani on a vethalai
A ball of haldi & water on a vethalai
Chullu vella urndai in a vethalai.
A gold chain.
In a “ kudam” - water to which cardamom powder and dry ginger powder are added.
One sombu( Vessel for storing water) of panakam
One sombu of neer mor.
Coins to give ladies with vethalai pakku
On the kolam in front of pudavai kalam, put double nuni elai, one overlapping the other.
(Edge) Nuni should face North.
On other kolams, place elais and Water for Drinking.
Start before or after Rahu kalam.
How to invite
When the ladies arrive give them manjal mixed with water, to wash their legs, apply and welcome them.
Then give them chandanam(sandalwood paste), kumkum & flowers & ask them to take their seat near the elais.(plantain Leaf)
Offer all items on menu to the pudavai kalam first & then serve clockwise to other elais.
Show “ doopa deepam” to pudavai kalam first & then to all ladies.
The “ conducting person” should take in the hand akshathai & flowers, sprinkle below the pallu of the saree in the pudavai kalam & pay your respects( in mind) to all the deceased sumangalis of the family.
Show karpooram (Camphor) .
Now offer a teaspoon of Water to the pudavai kalam and to all women in their hands.
They are to drink it , start eating.
After everybody finishes eating, again offer a teaspoon of water to thepudavai kalam & move the pallu corner to the North.
One of the daughters in law should eat the pudavai kalam sappadu.
After meals the ladies should be given naeer mor, panakam & chukku vellam.
Then smear haldi on their legs and apply nalangu.(Mehendi)
Offer flowers, maruthani, chandanam & kumkum.
In a plate keep lot of vethalai, pakku, gundu manjal, coconut, kumkum bharani, comb, mirro, coin, 2 bananas, blouse piece - keep in their pallu.
Give akshathai in their hand, do namaskaram, take blessing.
Menu.
Paruppupayasa
Thayirpachadi
Vella pachadi.
Vazakkai curry.
avarai or kothavarai curry.
Poosani Kootu .
Pitlai(Paakalkai) .
Mor kuzambu .
Kadalai paruppu sugar kosemalli .
Paasiparuppu savoury kosemalli .
Coriander thogayal .
Ginger, mango pickle.
Curry leaf thogayal.
Banana.
Mango.
Jackfruit .
Ulundu Vadai .
Sojji appam .
Thengai sadam.
Lemon rice .
Kalathukku paruppu .
Ghee .
Curds.
Honey.
No Appalam or Vadams.
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