0:05 Introduction 3:09 What Is CPTSD? Part 1 7:03 What Is CPTSD? Part 2 10:52 How The Love-Hate Attention Of A Parent Influences The Child 15:57 What Are The “Recordings” And Where They Come From 19:31 What Might Happen If A Person With CPTSD Goes Into Therapy 24:40 How To Stop These “Recordings”?

I am a few weeks shy of my sixtieth birthday. Maybe there's a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel after all. Bless you for that.

At 70 finally found the answer....also being the child of a Japanese POW and a narcissistic mother was hopeless. Maybe I will have time to work through this.

Domestic violence. Living with the person who "loves" you, becoming your torturer.

One thing that people might help people is to not equate being immature with being a bad person. I used to have trouble with recovery because I had trouble coming to the realization that I was immature. I equated immaturity as being a bad person--having an imperfection, and this was unacceptable, because having an imperfection meant I was fundamentally flawed and bad. Being immature doesn't make a someone a bad person. It just means that he or she has some more growing to do. To those dealing with this: Be patient and gentle with yourself. 🌱 Thank you, sir, for brining us another helpful video!

Here I am at 29 and learning why I'm afraid of love. This was a rough video to view. Really rough. Thank you, Richard.

I just love how you start off trying to be all professional and keep your quirkiness out it, but then you're all, "I have to draw a claw foot bath of toxic shame cause I have impulse control issues" and then you let the eff bombs flow freely again and it's the Richard Spartan we know and love

Boy richard.... this is who u were meant to be..a legend! Thank u...a million times over.

Y'all need to buy the book Healing Code. I have suffered with cptsd for many years. This book changed my life. I hope this helps someone

I cried when you said "It's not your fault!"

I would say that abuse in hospitals/psychiatric hospitals as an adult could have a similar effect to being tortured as an adult in a POW camp.

I can barely listen and stay focused because I'm fighting the tears.

Mind blowing! Powerful! So incredibly helpful! I’m 46 and trying to recover from childhood abuse cptsd

I’m 75. My mother has just finally passed at nearly 103 years old. It’s a long story, but the relationship went on all these years. I finally feel free to fully explore my CPTSD. It was both parents. Thank you for these videos.

I'm 56 yrs old and now know I have CPTSD and I'm Co-Dependent. 😔. Thank you for this video 👏

Re - brainwash myself? I’m 100% in

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Super helpful, very clear and courageous. Most folks don't like to point the finger at their parents, but tough shitski it has got to be done. Be BRAVE and HEAL!!!

I so so so ADORE YOU! Every word that comes out of your mouth clicks to me! I now can understand why I am the way I am. You have given me the courage to be brave and share my truth and inspire others- thank you!

Whew I can’t believe how much I’m crying. Finally someone who breaks it down in such a digestible way and hits the nail completely on the head with every single part. Thank you. 🥺

This is the best explanation of CPTSD I´ve ever seen. Thank you, Richard, and please keep up the good work, it does such a lot of good to such a lot of people.

Richard saves the planet. Seriously how much better would the world be if this ONE video was compulsory viewing. Still feeling sad for lollipop child though...

Richard, this is extraordinary. 'The 50 yr old will turn up knowing all this stuff but still turns up as the screwed up child'. I'm spellbound by this video and will watch the other 2 straight after. For the 1st time in my life I feel I have a chance of putting myself straight and being genuinely happy through understanding my problem. When you said the CPTSD person will turn up as 2 different people at once and will flip in an instant - Jesus Christ man, it's me. It's why I feel so misunderstood all my life and why I f*** relationships up. Thankyou mate. Russell

Thank you for your videos. You taught me about CPTSD. I started applying the skills you taught about recognizing emotional flashbacks, trying to understand the message behind the emotion, and repatterning the inner parent. I am shocked to find myself understanding the specific sources of my inappropriate anger and once understood, the excessive anger vanishes. I now have compassion for the source of my anger. I am hopeful for the first time that I may be capable of becoming the woman I have always strived to be. I only saw your videos a week ago, but I have already seen significant changes within myself and my ability to regulate my emotions. I think you may have changed my life. From myself, my husband, my baby, and any future children I may have, I thank you so much for your devotion to these subjects. I've been searching for so long, and I think I finally have the tools and the understanding to become a better person. I think I'm on the right path now. I can't adequately express my gratitude. Thank you.

I had a situation with a surgeon who tried to save my friends life.I became his client and was totally smitten by him. I didn't understand why I crossed that boundary with him. Now I understand. It wasn't just that he was handsome but a form of saviour and a need to be helped. I am now seeing a therapist who reminds me of my dad. A kind smile,practical responses and freedom to Speak my truth. Trust took time but it's the best thing I've done. I couldn't work with someone like Sam as if be crushed like an insect within one session. Richard you explain things with a wonderful balance of passion for your subject and humour. Thank you .

I have DID from SRA in childhood. This is a really good video. Hoping it helps me. Praying for all of you in the comments. Jesus loves each of you and will always be there for you.

I'm so glad that people have discovered how to heal from cptsd. This is cutting edge stuff and I am HERE for it. Very hard to find the solutions even after years of therapy and group therapy and social support groups. I've been looking for answers for 10 years and think I finally found the problem and the solution. Thank you so much for your research and your hard work into this.

bless you for this work you've done. you dont know how much it's meant to me or how much I love you for it. I have committed to NOT passing these horrors onto my daughter, and your work has made this goal possible. I owe you... SO MANY pints bro. Hoist one for Charlotte someday, she blesses and thanks you from the future where she is able to live and love her own life fully and NOT spend her 20's and 30's fixing her childhood. kudos, namaste, cheers.

After the parent leaves off, we then take over the job and end up bullying ourselves. Not only can we not trust the parent, we end up not even trusting ourselves to stick up for us! Once we figure this out, learning to be our own friend can take many years. But don't give up!

You are very honest which is what heals us. Thank you.

I love you for this video! I needed this! My husband was raised by an overt narcissist father and codependent mother. He also has PTSD and TBI from several military deployments and injuries. Our children and I have been through a lot over the years, and I have been trying to find resources to help him and us, and this is EXACTLY what I needed! THANK YOU SO MUCH!

Yes, yes, yes. So helpful, I’m dying to know how to do this, I’m tired of snapping at my husband, and want to get control of emotional flashbacks while my daughter is still young.

Thank you for this. I've never heard anyone speak with such understanding of the issues!! I went through psychiatrist and therapist, one after another and talk about being gaslighted!

This is so painful yet accurate, have to watch it thru though it's triggering and sad. TY Richard 💛👍

I have been trying to work through my issues for solid year now. I’m stating to find hope; the light at the end of the tunnel. Richard, you are an angel sent from g-d and I will forever be greatful that you exist

Yes, this was tough to listen to but thank you for describing EXACTLY what has been going on for 45 years of my life. Wow. This video was an answer to prayer because I thought that I was going to have to live with CPTSD for the rest of my life. Now I KNOW there is help. If you can do it, and did it, so can I. Thank you Richard so much for this and for being real through your own personal traumas. You are a man I can listen to and learn from.

There is light at the end of the tunnel , just shy of 60 myself , to think three short years ago , i had no understanding of what was affecting me , and how drastically it was affecting my life . Went from a covert narcissist for a foster mom to a covert narcissist for a wife . Struggle , stress, and contention was seen as my lot in life . I have seen amazing progress, and experienced peace , real love , and joy . Journey is still ongoing , but the burdens are gone

Richard, this is brilliant, imho. Bad parent/evil prison guard/sick wicked ex-spouse...brainwashing in childhood and again throughout life in different relationships...this has been most helpful..it's still sinking in. I made it a favorite as I need to watch again, but this makes so much sense. I never realized I was so fluent in "stick" language, but whatever works...waiting for the next vid... cheers and thank you

My Mom was a different person every 5 minutes and none of her sides were loving. Her best side was when she was talking crap about someone else.

Thank you for taking time to make these vids for the ppl who need them. Two books that started me on my education of understanding abusive ppl are Why Does He Do That.... by Lundy Bancroft, & I Hate You-Don't Leave me by Hal Straus. I'm 61 & survived childhood w/ an abusive alcoholic mother (died when I was 16), then made bad choices of 2 alcoholic ex-husbands. The 2nd husb. really screwed me up. My healing journey continues, but I live life on my terms now. Blessings to all in their journey.

I had to learn the hard way with my oldest three, whom I gained from foster care, to step out of the parent/therapist role and redirect to self care instead because of this exact scenario. Felt horribly wrong at the time, but nearly every attempt at care I was originally doing just cycled back and got worse. Our relationships have actually grown since and are now more boundaried, happy and healthy instead of constantly fighting against turning toxic and cyclically imploding. Can't wait for the course, I've learned so much from you. Thank you, as always.

Richard, thank you for your generosity, as ever. You have repeatedly helped get me through some unspeakably tough times and helped me laugh a lot...

It's like you know my entire life... amazing how NOT alone we are, even though it feels like we are at times. Almost a cornerstone of the "schism" that you mentioned here, why we feel the shame/denial of something that wasn't actually our fault. So happy you're on the other side of it all and thank you for teaching us so authentically with your own experiences. Best wishes.

I am a child of a narcissistic father and a codependent people-pleasing mother, I was painted as the fearful child and now that I'm 18 my guess is that the consequences presented themself as my OCD, anxiety and depressive episodes. I did huge loads of ERP for OCD and been practicing mindfulness and radical acceptance for 6 months now. Prior to that I was a somewhat grandiose mask-wearing fraud, who masked my true emotions and self, ridden with learned helplessness. If anyone has a similar experience please let me know. Much love Richard, thank you for explaining some important stuff to me.

I JUST experienced an emotional flashback which caused a panic attack. I’m 1:37 in and I will do whatever is suggested in the video before hearing it even. That’s how awful it feels and I need to do something because it is overwhelming and destructive because I feel exactly like I did while in the middle of the horror that was contained exactly in that emotional flashback. Now I know what “emotional flashback” means.

Great explanation!! Then, the split child and codependent usually ends up in adult relationships or marriages, with someone who resembles or acts like the childs " bad parent" and the cycle continues, and triggers the Ptsd greatly.

You are such an inspiration man, I appreciate you more than you'll ever know.

THANK YOU FOR PUTTING THIS BACK UP!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️. This is the BEST set of videos to explain what this is. I have been sharing them with so many people. I have gotten people on your program that are getting wins themselves. You're an absolute ANGEL. Thank you 🙏🏼

That’s me I am a victim of CPTSD I’m trying to help Myself I am learning from you thank you

Great. Thanks Richard. So glad you're still here with us. Really glad. It's all true of what you speak. Hope to hear another one. If you admit your feelings to a narcissistic down in the gutter emotionally dead narcissist, you will always get a reaction of, ah ha, I see your pain and, I am going to make minced meat out of your heart. Like, if you admit a fault to a narcissist person, they will drive over it with a semi truck. They aren't here to solve problems. You, understand those things. Admitting a problem to a narc is like asking for trouble. The first step in recovery is admitting you have a problem. A narc sees that as ammunition to further their agenda. To point out flaws instead of seeing it as something positive that can be resolved. Seeking their approval is a waste of time. They are only going to point out the" bad" in you. It's a competition for them. The narc being either the ignoring type or the anger type. Both are harmful. The one that doesn't say a word, ha ha, and the one that barks non stop. The ones that don't even say anything are harder to detect. It's shocking when you discover the covert narcissist. You can't even explain it to anyone. They'd never listen to you if you tried. Thanks again Rick. It's such bull what people have been fed for the last century.

Aw Richie thanks for throwing out a free lifebuoy. Stick men to the rescue yet again. I found emotional literacy to be key. If you don't have the words to describe the feelings you can't even start. You can't know what you've never connected with. Describing the feelings made the penny drop. Self validation started here. ♡

Black sheep me learned that I was only to ever receive pain and rejection when I gave/needed love - The result of this in adulthood: "toxic relationships only" stamped across my forehead. Learning to break free from this pattern and even though the road is going to be long, am ready to walk it. Thank you for your videos, they are priceless.

Thank You Richard! My abuse started at 5. I will be 63 in a few months! I belong to several C-PTSD Forums on Face Book! You just gave me 1 more valuable piece to add to the puzzle of my whole life! You are Amazing to do this! Thank You from The Bottom of My Heart!

Thank you for this series of videos. It really helps you put it into perspective, what your parents did to you, the way that you draw the analogy between that and what happens to soldiers and political prisoners who, even as adults, are really damaged by similar tactics. No bloody wonder we're out here struggling. Thank you for the tools to get better.

What you explain about how you healed is sort of what I've been doing with the EFT tapping to heal the emotional flashbacks and calm the inner critic to heal the trauma and reduce the symptoms. Perhaps not quite the same thing, but it sounds a lot like what I've been doing in rewiring the brain, reprogramming my brain to think healthy thoughts as opposed the trash talk I used to think to myself. Btw, I love your little drawings, it's totally my kind of thing ;) Thank you so much for this in-depth explanation.

This stuff keeps me calling this for what it is. I still need to go back to this to keep grounded sometimes so this is so valuable and i appreciate you still drop these in Richard. I believe between you and Sam we have the foremost material in the world here. Thank you so much.

I've been trying to find some online help to heal my past traumas. Really grateful for these videos you've put out. Very excited to watch videos 2 and 3 :)

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I prefer your graphics because it comes from you as a flow of what you are presenting.

Thank you Richie. I started watching you on and off since you were on the black couch in Indonesia. When i feel like I'm getting above a 5 on the CPTSD scale I come back and listen again. Just want you to know you have helped me tremendously and undoubtedly countless others. I paid for this course and it was well worth it, but glad it's free for others now. I'm sure you've developed some new course i will find useful at some point. Your knowledge base grows, we can grow, and everyone can afford it as you make a goods living. It's easy to see your intentions are noble.

Intelligent & articulate, Richard Grannon is an outstanding & compassionate teacher. Truly the best expert on many disturbing & confusing mental disorders. Thank you Richard for all you do.

wow! so happy to have found you.. looking forward to the rest of this.. such a great start and makes a hell of a lot of sense.. good for you on sharing this.. so much thanks..

This is really hard to hear but at the same time I have a huge sense of relief. In dealing with the aftermath of an intimate relationship with a narcissist, I have been uncovering my own issues for almost a year. BPD and CPTSD, I am relating with on a very deep level. At this point, not only do I realize what has happened to me, but what I have done to my daughter. I have been thinking there wasn't hope for me to turn this around, as my therapist won't even really touch these issues. I don't feel so hopeless after watching this. Thank you.

One hundred percent my childhood, one hundred percent my psychological experience. Thank you Richard Grannon.

I’ve followed you on and off for a few years and I just want to say thank u for investing and putting yourself out there and offering hope!

I’m just stunned by you, the easiness in the way you present this information to me, having similar feelings as stated, seeing light at the end of the tunnel. Just about 50 in a few months... definitely continuing watching your videos 2 + 3 and many others too I’m sure! Thank you for your important message and work! Forever grateful, before I know that it will help me! Great feeling by the way! 💓 much LOVE ❤️

Your videos are so informative !!!! Thank you very much for your knowledge. This is worth gold !!! I am currently healing from Cptsd and this is helping me understand every aspect of it and knowing the foundation is helping me push through this pain I have endured my whole life . Thank you 🙏🏻

Thank you for the way you have explained this, to listen to someone who understands because they to have experienced it who then wants to heal and help others is pure gold.

I am 6 minutes in and when you talked about the weak ego I got teary eyed. This is very true. I am now learning after my mothers and ex partners narcissistic abuse.

Richard, you are a MASTER of knowledge that is beyond what a lot people think or believe

1. People who never had CPTSD will never understand us, and we'll forever be judge unfairly because of it. 2. My ;unofficially diagnosis of CPTSD; has basically ruined my chances of becoming the person that I was meant to be in life.

This is one of the most helpful videos on the subject... I've seen many videos but this one is the most clear and helpful... Thank you so much...❤

Two malignant narcissistic parents. I freeze or run or fight. Somatic therapy had me in flashbacks for days. It was terrifying. As I go into childhood rape and it is not fun. I did have to realize that it was my Dad and then the hallucinations stopped. Then I realized the sabotage from creating friendships. So I was able to undo the shame. I’ve seen people get really hurt by negligent and uneducated therapists. I hate trauma looping. My therapist didn’t let me fire her during a shame attack. I am very very grateful . I knew I had no adult onboard . I was diagnosed with avoidant self harming histrionic and borderline. He was kind enough to say I was not taught any healthy coping strategies and about living in terror with the parents who had created the trauma. I hate covert , I would prefer physical over gaslighting as there is something to show. I’m trying to break the trauma reactions. I know exactly what you are talking about. When they would say “ you do have an adult that understands the world” and I try to explained that I had no one to teach me it. I did go schizophrenia although I knew the illusions weren’t real. As soon as I understood gaslighting I stopped hallucinating. The only problem is that my Dad is still totally dis regulated and I never know when he will break. I spent two days with him mumbling to himself that girlfriend love was not the same as daughter love. He will also break and say “ who matters more in the world”. He thinks I exist for his needs. He has no empathy or compassion, just desperation and needing adulation. My Dad thinks I’m evil because he thinks he’s evil and his whole family is evil. He smothers or neglects. I’m trying boundaries but those are just challenges for him to break. I was doing okay but I’ve found if I am isolated for 4 days I will go anti social as I freeze. I have actually fallen asleep on the ground trying to get the dog fed. It’s hard when I am living in what created the cptsd. I called my cousin who wants to break the narcissistic pattern that the cruelty is too much for me to counteract. He has sabotaged me forming any real friendships. Im back here due to a guy very similar to him. I could not undo his insanity and he manipulated all my friends I had just started to feel safe to be alive and myself around. The truth is I’m in an unsafe toxic shame situation. I do not need a parent, I do need someone to help me reparent myself. I need to get my parents out of my head. As I know I need self love, I know my mind can project and I do not want a parent, I need a teacher who is not playing parent. Mine says I know more than most therapists so she has given me access to an online class of the newest trauma therapy. I want people to be who they are and me to not overreact into unhealthy behavior. My Dad is the one who can’t problem solve, I have had to call his friends ( or threaten too) in order to get a working oven. I just got pushed back into self neglect and trying to take a shower. Showers are a trigger for flashbacks. I understand when I get triggered I do not see reality if triggered and I know enough to hide out. I fight any brainwashing positive or negative although I like equality and write down anything I have done well. I am avoidant because I’m living with my covert malignant narc Dad. So I get hit with the toxic shame everyday . My prefrontal cortex shuts down if pushed to far. I’m more afraid of the flashbacks than dealing with any insane reality

I am so thankful for finding your channel and videos. I identify with most everything you say. I feel hope finally that I can heal. I am scared I have too many narcissistic tendencies myself, because of relationship issues. I am trying desperately to sort it all out. I absolutely trust you for the science in your messages and for how spot on you are in explaining and describing what's going on in our thinking and emotions. I am still afraid of therapy because of trying to get thru some with two different therapists prior. Difficult. 1 I know did not like me at all and resented having to work with me. The other really liked me and almost seemed charmed, so it just made me feel like I could not share all the darkness and just needed to keep it light and positive. I just cannot get past this need to make people trying to help me feel like they are doing a great job, even if I am not really getting better. I know I can't base all therapists on them, but because of how difficult I am in all relationships, I feel like I am just too difficult for even a therapist to really help. So, I need to be able to work thru it on my own and just keep trying, not putting this on anyone else. It's soul-sucking. I haven't really believed it was possible to heal until finding your videos. You really explain it all so well! It's exactly like you explain. IDK your history, but it's as if you experienced my childhood...you could literally tell my story. I have never in my life felt so validated. I'm gobsmacked! My mother is the narcissist, also an alcoholic and abused pain meds. My dad is the angry jackass enabler that enjoyed having someone to bully and abuse in order to please my mom. They absolutely enjoyed being cruel. I cannot even get my brain around how parents do these things to their children. I am No Contact, with only minimal contact over the past 30 yrs. And each time was a disaster. I am sorry to run on, Richard. I feel like I need to say one more thing though! I imagine that you are at a pretty good place with your healing journey for all your knowledge and hard work on this. But if you ever have doubting or dark moments, I hope you can reset those to recordings to this: You are answered prayer, an angel for so many. You are literally a hero for this work you are doing. Thank you so much! Just amazing.

Highly enlightening, amazing to hear my inner most thoughts & feelings realized & spoken by someone else. I found this concise logical advice to be obtainable. More helpful than the handful of providers I've seen that have little concept of what people with CPTSD really struggle with on a daily basis. Thank you for simplifying & acknowledging it!

I love you. I've been listening to you for a few years now and you have taught me so much. Sending you good vibes and gratitude. ❤

40 years old, in the midst of a huge crisis of meaning following constant failing relationships with repetitive patterns... The section between 8:00 and 9:00 describes me to a T. This feels at once like a tremendous relief and a painful realization (though I've been on the path of research and understanding for a while). Thank you... Now to find a way to move on when I feel like this IS my personality and I have grown to defend and love my immaturity and singularity. This part is the difficult one, the fear of losing what makes me me, what I've built as a defense and where I managed to find a certain type of solace and joy, a weird lopsided strength, the fear of letting go is real right now.

Omg, I'm 56 and super Empath...started studing this abt a year ago!! Along with a life of total mental struggle.... so much!! This is validation to the core of the wars I've been thru learning the TRUTH and Authentic LOVE OF SELF!! I'm feeling such a relief inside.. every word resonating... Wow!! I'm graduating from this after years of seeking to understand!! I'm in AWE! THANK YOU!

omg you're THE BEST Richard. YOU'RE SUCH A UNIQUE HUMAN.

Omg... why did I get scared when I heard you say "get the fuck away from me?" I was cooking and listening to you video. Following along and nodding my head. You blurted that out and I got scared. Like you were sitting in my living room yelling at me. Then I thought about how many times I heard "i beat you because I love you." No wonder I think love is pain and select people who do nothing but hurt me.

Thank you for this! ☕🍪 Every time I listen to you I learn so much😃

I'm 44 been watching you for 4 years you have changed my life Richard thanks so much for sharing ❤ 💕 💜 😊

I am glad you have recovered from a narcissistic personality disorder. You are an amazingly beautiful, loving person. Thank you so very, very much for helping me. I suffer from PTSD. You are proof that we all can change for the better.

Thank you for taking the emotional trauma serious. It's a struggld everyday for me to remember that it hurt me badly.

Thank you for your help! You are making a good job in people emotional wellbeing.

My childhood trauma was not caused by my parents, not directly anyway. At age 15 I was placed in a "drug rehab". I wasn't using drugs aside from the experimentation of most teens. This wasn't a 30 day program ... this was a long term program. Long story short, the abuse I suffered and witnessed has affected me to this day. Therapy could help but I can't get to the point where I can process the feelings associated with my experience. Thank you for this video, maybe I can find a therapist who deals with CPTSD if that's what I have.

Thank you so much for making this video public and free. It is so helpful. This describes what happened to me in a 45 year marriage to a manipulative, abusive controlling covert monster. He ticked all the boxes for Narcissistic personality disorder but of course he was never diagnosed because I was the one with all the problems!!

OMG Thank you Richard. This is me. I am the poor functioning ego who is not functioning as an adult. I got CHILLS when you said that they only way someone has PTSD is from childhood, other than war veterans. That literally gave me chills and tears in my eyes. Its domestic violence too. The same man that abused my sister has been living with us for 8 years and it went under everyones radar. We were all so brainwashed. My Dad would never do anything or kick him out even when he got abusive to me by yelling at me when I was trying to stop him from yelling in the first place. This (now ex)boyfriend of my sister emotionally abused me too and my dad finally called the cops to arrest him a month ago this January 2020. I am still suffering from PTSD from the huge destruction he left our house the day he was taken away. He dripped his own blood all over our living room and my childhood couch. This is the third abusive boyfriend my sister has had and each of them left after years of torture to me especially. I could never move out and leave my house because I was "the protector" and if I left I would leave my family behind while I got all the good things in the world and in life? How could I do that to them? Especially since I was taught I don't deserve anything I should be ashamed of my generational shame which I don't even know why we carry! People, teachers, narcissists saw that I had a tiny ego and abused me also through my life. Well now I am WOKE and I can see that my family has to face that they will lose me because I need to live my life too and stop being the only soldier on the battle field on the front line...while they sit back and keep this dysfucntion running and letting terrible trash people live in our house who my sister meets. No one does anything about it! I was the ONLY ONE ever huffing and puffing, DEFENDING our belongings and our house that this monster destroyed. And I AM A FEMALE. Girls are not BUILT TO FIGHT like I have been. and my tiny heart has been taking such a toll. My hands are so small, my bones, my legs. I am tiny and why didn't my Dad just do smoething? He never listens to me when I told him he needs to kick this guy out, he needs to lock the doors of our house with precious things in it. He never listened to me in high school about the dangerous people my sister brought over and even at 27 years old now, he STILL doesn't listen to me! I used to be so able and did my college degree and now I am crippeld and disabled with PTSD, depression, procrastination, dissociation, obsession, antisocial, anxiety attacks, agoraphobia, etc. This is all while masked under lies and fakeness of my house and family being this beautiful luxury facade on the outside in a quiet neighbourhood, while all this garbage happens on the inside. Its sickening! my PTSD feels like demonic posession, as I keep tripping over things and being so disoriented and shaky all the time. On the verge of tears 24/7. I need help. This is my bottom line.

Husband / sons father is a textbook narcissistic sociopath...9 years with him...our son is 7...i have cptsd...textbook case...i want this numbness, mind swirl, easily triggered, hypertensive, anxiety etc...to STOP REALLY NEED THESE STEPS...

Awesome Richard, you break it down so well. It started to trigger me but I took a deep breath and pushed thru, totally understand WHY I need to follow the course for minimum of 30 days.

your a natural ptsd cptsd coach for veterans Richard, and having been ,also a very young cptsd child around 3 onward to through puberty and thereafter teens you have a layman approach , which does not embroach over complicated dialog and wordin, ,g that can tire the thought spoken and articulated in complex descriptions and by from many academics/professionals ,bordering on sometimes almost patronizing traits, your passion is inspiring and your directives sound ,clear certainly got my attention which is a first in a very difficult lifetime, well done i will share this far and wide cheers mate

Tears watching this. Not because I’m necessary triggered anymore, I’ve forgiven my parents, but it just all makes sense finally. I’ve spent years knowingly yet helplessly abused in every relationship since running away from my father at 15, and then years later in adulthood reprogramming myself. I pray I’ve spared my children of this hell.

This is the best explanation I have ever heard! CPTSD is a new concept and unfortunatelly not many are familiar with it as with standard PTSD.

Thank you Richard. Having someone that’s been through this, who really knows, has been the only thing that truly resonates. I’ve been able to calm my inner critic when I’m alone. But not when I’m with others. Just being around others is my biggest trigger, and as you can imagine, has an extreme effect on my ability to function. The other thing I will say is that the truth is many people are operating from varying degrees of dysfunction. So, even as someone who has CPTSD, it has been hard to figure out what is an “emotional flashback” and what is a reaction to someone doing something that is not okay. Or maybe it’s a combination of both flashback and healthy reaction. But hard to suss it all out. Anyways. Look forward to the other videos. 🙏🙏🙏

The chart is a very good one, Richard! Your presentation is very understandable and straightforward. It is an excellent representation of what happens to children who did not get what they need while growing up. It is a lifelong effort to overcome this type of parenting if you even realize that this is what is wrong. Understanding the issue, on one hand, is critical to overcoming it, however, emotionally it takes tremendous work to change.

Brilliant on the reparenting and the truth of that crap parent.

Outstanding content. Great presentation, well articulated, and highly relatable (unfortunately!). I wish I knew wtf CPTSD was a long time ago.

Richard Grannon saved my life. I am unendingly thankful for discovering his work for curing CPTSD. Thank you so much

Just WOW old and new information, beautifully and clearly presented. VERY helpful. Thank you.

Whatever you do, please don’t ever stop dropping the F bomb. It’s one of the ways what you’re talking about really gave me the kick in the ass I needed.