My girl paid for her and myself on my birthday and our friends paid for themselves because WE'RE ADULTS!

I’m paying for what I ordered period

Birthday or not, I’m not splitting a bill that is $4,600! If everyone didn’t spend the same amount equally, it’s a no go for me.

Back in the old days "shame" was a thing

The time to discuss splitting the bill is before anything gets ordered.

The simple solution everybody pay for what they got

Where did they go to eat!? Sheesh.... Go to Texas Roadhouse or something...$4600 is my mortgage for almost 4 months....

The person that lures you to their birthday to take advantage of you, isn't a friend.

This happened to me. Was invited to a birthday party that I didn’t even want to go to because I didn’t have much money. Felt sorry for the girl who invited me so I ate before I left and just got a drink (it was a lounge so it wasn’t weird to do that.) anyways- she came to me and said the party didn’t spend enough money to have the table free so she expected me to chip in $100 when I was expecting my $12 bill. I told her straight up NO. Sorry. She was PISSED and told me “it’s MY birthday I shouldn’t have to deal with this.” Waitress didn’t want to give me my bill either! I told them they have the option of charging me $12 or I will leave without paying at all. Ended up getting my bill and cutting friendship.

I'll split the birthday girl's meal cool, but I ain't paying for the rest

Every man for himself in those situations.

I am at a grown age. I have never in my life experienced any of this foolishness over a bill. Choose your company wisely. If you sit down to a meal, you better have the money to pay for that meal whether or not someone else is willing to pay for you or not.

Pay for what your ordered. Split the birthday girls bill.

I have never seen a $4600 restaurant tab. I would have created my own separate tab from start when I saw a bunch of strangers. Don't dine with strangers.

First off I want my own bill 💵

The brotha with the blonde braids did an aftermath video. He was friends with one of the women since the 3rd grade and she straight stop being friends with him over this.

When taking advantage of other's goes wrong! 😂

I don't do group dinners with Black folks I know who never have money. I graciously decline. My social circle is very small and consists of those who are never broke

Fighting over money is silly. Pay your own +20%. Then say "Nice knowing you, bye".

what did they eat ... France ?

The #1 reason I don't do Bday dinners 😂

Normally, the wait staff asks how it's going to be split when ordering.

Everyone owns up to what they ordered and they'll see who got all the expensive stuff. Drinks add up quick in a restaurant.

For any meal with a group, everyone should know beforehand what is expected. If I get invited to a bday dinner, I'll pay for myself and at least a portion of the bday person's meal (depending on how much it is, I might just pay for it outright). The amount of this bill is atrocious... I can pay my monthly living expenses for three months on that amount!

In my culture you take people out, you pay for the bill.. Or you can decide to go somewhere extravagant and each person chips in.. BUT - all that is decided beforehand

They put a down payment on the restaurant. This is nuts. Shew

$4600??? Sounds to me like they got ripped off!!😂✌🏻😂

Pay for your own food are don't go

Exactly they really tried to live above their means on a budget thinking somebody else was going to pick it up

I’m paying for what I eat. Period

If you see a big group of people for the dinner gethering, don't even sit down and just leave. You know whoever invited you wants to split the bill

if YOU "invite" your friends for YOUR birthday to a restaurant, YOU pay for all people you invited! That s how we do it here in Germany.

The only reason they were invited is so they would have to pay 😂

If, as a grown adult, you invite people to your birthday dinner then it is your responsibility to pay.

She going to have a couple months of dishes to make up for that bill😂

People pay their own bill and split the birthday person, and if the birthday person brings dependents where they would normally pay for the bill of the dependents like children then the birthday person pays for them. This is what is normal.

This should be discussed when you invited everyone out. There are 3 acceptable scenarios here: 1) It’s my birthday and I want y’all to celebrate with me, so I’m going to cover it since it is my choice of restaurant. 2) I’m having my birthday dinner here. If you want to come it will be separate checks. So everyone pays for themselves. 3) someone else entirely invites you out for your birthday (maybe lets you bring a friend or two if they feel generous) and pays because they wanted to treat you for your birthday.

This is why it’s best not to go to a woman’s bday bash if it includes dinner at a restaurant and if you do go by chance make sure you have your bill separate from everyone else’s.

This is why you confirm the details and limit the expense before you even go so when the bill comes no one is surprised or acts like an idiot.

This situation has been happening a lot... It's annoying arguing with someone about a birthday dinner bill.... Let's just get them a nice gift and some money...

But I jus ordered breadsticks and a water..$1200!

For the life of me I can’t see how people run up a bill over $1000 lol 😂 I’m asking for MY CHECK for MY FOOD before anyone else even says anything 😂😂😂🤷🏻‍♀️

None of these people look like they even own a credit card, let alone have money for a $4600 dinner tab.

4,600.00 is irresponsible. Ridiculous! Get better friends

The birthday person never pays in my group of friends or family! That’s like having a Mother’s Day dinner and making your mom pay!😂

What the hell did they eat that the bill came out to be almost $5000?

Why did the friends think they shouldn't pay for their own meal? Why would the friends think they are supposed to eat free?

The one with the nails on the far camera-right doing the Frenchman's wave. 😅 How about the Bday girl hosts a dinner party at home instead of all this foolishnesss?

Decide the particulars before the party

American doing it backward. ITS should be the birthday boy / girl pay and because of that the birthday guy or girl will only invite few real close Friend Not entire city. Because he / he Will be pying .

YOU DONT GO OUT WITH ANYONE IF YOU CAN'T PAY THE BILL OR THE TIP. THOSE ARE NOT FRIENDS. AND YOU DON'T ASSUME SOMEONE ELSE IS PAYING FOR YOU

It makes no sense to go out for dinner that cost $4,600 unless you are a billionaire.

First of all my friend knows better than to go to a place that cost $4k to damn eat! Secondly, I always got my bestie because I’m not going nowhere without enough funds! Ugh

This should have been discussed BEFORE ordering food. I know if I get a grilled chicken Cesar salad and a glass of wine I’m not contributing $100 to a huge bill

Imagine if you purposely ordered the cheapest items on the menu while others got expensive stuff and in the end they ask you to split the bill evenly. I would be mad too. 😮

I’m white. Been to dozens of birthday dinners. You pay for your own and usually gotta fight someone else to pay for the birthday girl. Know the rules up front.

In our family we always pay our fair share

Best thing to do in this situation is avoid racking up the bill like its your final meal

Oh and I have said at "Community Meals" please be cognizant of what you order, so their is no drama when the Bill comes.

Bro. I can go out the country for 1 month with that money. What a waste

just order a pie and some chicken and the cake, that simple paying an entire downpayment for a car isnt very fun for everyone

Also, avoid people that say it's their birthday "month". No, you were born on one day and you're not special.

Part of the age of entitlement. When your birthday rolls around, it is not a holiday for others and you are not elevated to royalty. If you want to make it your personal holiday, go for it, but you can’t force others to support your self-elevation. Start these meals off with an understanding of who pays for what when the invitation is extended, and stop acting like others owe you something because it’s your birthday. They don’t. And who sits down in a restaurant and runs up a huge tab believing with total faith that somebody else sitting around them is going to pick up the tab? Next comes offense when restaurants see a large black party gathering and requires either a deposit or pre-payment.

I wouldn't pay nothen I'm paying for me and my lady an that's it,,,you notice each time this situation happens,it's like when people think someone else is paying the bill they want too order the most expensive meals they can get,,,like I said I don't care who's birthday unless it's my daughter or something,,,grown people can pay for their grown meal,💯

In the Netherlands it depends on I you say it's on you. "Shall we go out for dinner to celebrate my birthday?" is seen differently from "ill treat you to a meal for my birthday" But dinner at your place is always on you. Only exception in my friend group is if we order in. We do expect the guests to bring either a snack or a drink. The older we get, the more booze appears (not that we drink a lot)

Did you see the bones on those plates 😅😆🥳

This why you pull the waitress aside and pay for what you had and head towards the car early😅

Stop inviting others when you know they don’t have money.

They should have invited, "Dutch." 😂

I see that many people at one table that I don't know. I'm going to turn around and exit the restaurant immediately.

The crazy thing is how they are dealing with the situation. Screaming and yelling at each other instead of talking it out.

Birthday Girl probably pigged out thinking they would be okay with it 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

If they stayed on the kids meal this, this could’ve all been avoided 😂 dont order what you can’t afford. 4.6k bill is absolutely insane. I dont even spend more than 500 on groceries and that can still feed a family for months

They knew exactly what they were doing...all pre- planned , screw the restaurant and no tip. HAVE THEM ALL ARRESTED!

She should have taken herself home for her birthday. Living above your means isn't cute at all.

I go out to eat with my white friends and even when I offer to pay for my own meal they insist to let them pay....but im a prideful man so I pay my own bill. I hang out with my black friends and it's already understood that you pay for whatever you eat. Now if I take a female out on a date I have no problem paying the full bill... most dates I've been on the female would offer to pay the tip and im cool with that.

This is the reason why restaurants charge their customers upfront. You play you pay.😊

Don't go somewhere that costs so much. Food isn't any better because it costs more 99% of the time.

Everyone pays for themselves unless they agreed on something else.

Agree with the lady discussing the bill.

I don’t understand how people can start ordering anything they want along with alcoholic drinks then get all surprised when the bill arrives? 🤷‍♂️

How to spot strong independent women who don’t need a man lol.

We pay for our own, all the friends then chip in for the birthday girl or guy. 🤷🏼‍♀️ simple!!

But... did they leave a tip? Oooooohh, I shouldn't o' said _that._ Hehehe! 😆 HahaHAHAHA!🤣

But can we just talk about HOW the bill was FOUR THOUSAND SIX HUNDRED DOLLARS ???? If every individual there had a bill of $100 there would be 46 people in that dinner party - but no - there were less than 10 people there. That's about $460.00 PER PERSON !!!! That's SUS math 🤨

$4600 dinner bill ? All of those people are idiots. There is not a meal in this world worth 4600$ .

I feel like all of them should have went to all you can eat buffet and none of this would be on tiktok. Why do people even go out to eat at fancy restaurants when they know they can't afford it? And trust me some of these all you can eat buffets are really delicious!

Their first mistake is going to a place that charges $4,600 dollars for a meal for a few people. There is nothing on that table that warrants a bill for $4,600 dollars. Live within your means, people.

I believe The People who gave her The Birthday Dinner should Pay for it.😊.

Why go out with cheap people in the first place ? 😂😂

I feel like people need to discuss prices, possible limits on spending, and who is paying for what BEFORE going out.

I always come prepared and usually bring CASH MONEY HONEY & I keep track of what I spend. If we're celebrating someone, I always give money towards their Bill and the Tip. The person who we're 😂celebrating, i.e., Birthday, Anniversary, etc, should NEVER pay. I generally hate Group meals because there is always a "get over" trying to be slick and not pay. I eat beforehand, say loudly "Ill have an Appetizer and perhaps 2 drinks (Uber/Lyft) because Im not paying for broke ass people! ALWAYS BE WEARY OF THE ONES WHO GET UP EARLY AND ROLL OUT!

That's correct. I cannot stand people getting selfish on their birthday. We all have one. It doesn't make you special. If you have a birthday monthlong celebration, you have a lot of problems.

If nothing is discussed and agreed to, you pay for what you ordered. Do not assume goodwill - that's called extortion.

This is so ridiculous! I have always gone out with a group of friends for birthdays etc. We always split the bill and paid for the birthday girl. We always established with the server what goes in each bill in the beginning. We don't even split the tip. We tip the server according to the cost of our own individual bill which usually means the server ends up with a better tip in the end overall.

That's half the story. Guy invited his girl for a birthday dinner. She invited her friends who ordered up big, then expected man to pay for all of them. He disagreed, and they all tried to shame or blame him into paying.

Cultural failure

And thats why upon being seated, you always inform the server that you are paying for YOUR FOOD ONLY.

Separate checks especially with shines. Sketchy

What a waste of money, no dinner is worth that much. I wouldn't even enjoy it thinking about the bill. Once my company took us to mortons - I would have appreciated a $150 cash bonus much more!!