You Aren't Successful Because You Care Too Much (How To Stop)

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What will my friends think? What will my parents think? What will they think if I fail? The truth is that nobody will ever have access to your state of mind. They don't understand. Do it anyway.
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0:00 Your Future, Their Opinions
1:18 The 4 Pillars Of Self-Confidence
2:05 Pillar 1: Perspective
3:49 Pillar 2: Perception
5:52 Pillar 3: Practice
10:44 Pillar 4: Authenticity
11:56 The Unconventional Path To Self-Confidence
16:34 A Potential Progression For Self-Improvers
17:50 Start With Writing
20:47 Branch Into Speaking
22:28 Create A Product Or Service
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@bobbysu 11 ай бұрын

"For every thought towards your future, there are 100 more against it". That hit home.

@Chancey388 11 ай бұрын

Biostorm

@Guirakkstepn 11 ай бұрын

That is so so true

@sweetcapricorn 11 ай бұрын

😮ikr

@omiloveastrotarot 10 ай бұрын

Its def a Hit⚡️

@Chancey388 10 ай бұрын

Wow and here I am Telling Everybody

@djurobrodarac3730 11 ай бұрын

lack of direction is even worse than lack of confidence. peace, bro.

@nelisasiko 11 ай бұрын

I'm struggling with that right now. I'm doing a Bachelor course at Uni but I still feel lost😢.

@Daniel-in-the-den. 11 ай бұрын

Real.

@thentheresjeff 11 ай бұрын

@@nelisasiko- may I suggest a book that I have found very helpful and have given as a gift numerous times? It’s called “Discover What You’re Best At” by Linda Gale. It assesses your aptitudes, knowledge, skills, desires, etc., to produce a profile of what you can do for a career that you can learn easily, do well at, and enjoy. It’s the most accurate book of this type that I have ever seen. Best wishes to you!

@djurobrodarac3730 11 ай бұрын

@@nelisasiko bro, I was born in a third world country, did a useless bachelor degree there. almost 10 years ago I packed my life into a suitcase and a backpack. Lived in Köln, Frankfurt, Limerick, Dublin, Milano, Berlin, Canary islands. now packing slowly to move to Zürich or Oslo and make money. self-taught programmer. I speak 6 languages. but so much wasted time, so much grief and misery, feeling lost and being lost. heartbroken since 2 years... but I am still standing bro. they don't know me... and they don't know you. learn and do things for yourself, improve, small steps. you will be alright. no matter how many times you slip or fall - always get back up. life is a just a big test, to see how much you can handle, carry and chew. you can't get through a diploma? ok, then you better be hella good at something else with your hands or mind. or work at McDonald's. but that ain't really you, is it? you are still young, I assume, take your time bro. you will have time for everything in life. peace

@chris9527 11 ай бұрын

@@spiralintobliss6785he's not this world he's a individual. And he's doing good going to school as a man he has to live a man's life become Jeff bezos or Michael Jordan unless you wanna be a nobody then give up I'm pretty sure he understands success and how to get there. For me I've overcome diversity and all kinds of stuff like pain and betrayal every man is different we just gotta use what life give us as tools to become great. Forget all that you're the world stuff that doesn't. help what is he gonna make it rain?? please explain.

@Mysticdesigner222 11 ай бұрын

“You can’t get to level 2 with the same character that got you to level 1.” A thought I could never put into words until now.

@WardrobeWinners 10 ай бұрын

That’s true, as they say new levels new devils

@abdulqadar9580 10 ай бұрын

This line likely refers to a skill-based context, suggesting that advancing to a higher level or achieving greater proficiency often requires a significant change or improvement in one's character or abilities. In other words, the strategies or qualities that helped you succeed at one level may not be sufficient for the next, necessitating adaptation and growth to progress further.

@markrusso9235 11 ай бұрын

“The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts, while the stupid ones are full of confidence.” ― Charles Bukowski

@RealziesCuts 11 ай бұрын

I care more about these leaps and personal growth I keep achieving 💫🙌 328 days no alcohol 🥇

@mattmccann1850 11 ай бұрын

Hey me 2 we must have the same date. September 14th?

@suffolk.candles 11 ай бұрын

Well done, just hit 900 days myself. I've actually gotten stuff done, chased my goals and made leaps of progress. Keep it up, good luck to you!

@sweetcapricorn 11 ай бұрын

Wow your a star 💫 keep shining 🎉love❤

@zaddisworkbench1223 10 ай бұрын

Cheering you on to the big 365!

@byDisenyo 11 ай бұрын

Overcoming anxiety is all about staying grounded and present, rather than fixating on future events, that most likely won’t happen (as most anxious thoughts are negative). Great content 👏

@cynthia-jo1zz 10 ай бұрын

I put my future into my hands....my parents were teenagers when they gave birth to us me and siblings..long story short I have wasted 20+ years yearning, crying, wasting my life to have my parents be my parents..with open eyes I see that my mother and father are rather busy trying to parent themselves ( their lives goals) I simply cannot care anymore because my future belongs to me and is up to me..I have to parent myself thank GOD I am in no serious relationship nor have any child to abuse and waste...I belong to me

@rastrus 6 ай бұрын

Parents usually did with us not correct, leaved for us a lot of trauma

@chris9527 11 ай бұрын

My manager told me at 17 you can clean everything in the store but somebody will still find something to complain about. I understood the concept.

@sfrances 11 ай бұрын

Just stumpled on this guy this week... and I'm all over his content. He's surely my game changer. I literally feel surely so. Thanks Dan.

@KaizenWithRen 11 ай бұрын

He's been 🔥 on Twitter for a while now Glad he's finally on KZfaq

@Kpurdy86 11 ай бұрын

Same!

@JohnBradydoesstuff 10 ай бұрын

Me too. It’s a a little creepy. He’s telling me exactly what I need to hear but have been able to find.

@debrabunger9302 6 ай бұрын

Same.

@JtothaLA 11 ай бұрын

I feel like Dan is like my therapist. Thank you

@edwinf9t 11 ай бұрын

Your teaching has truly empowered us to reach new heights. Here's to the invaluable lessons and growth. 🎉

@attentionlabel 11 ай бұрын

Thanks a lot Dan, really learned from this one. Favourite ideas: | "Personal growth is a gateway drug into business growth" | "If you aren't getting results, that isn't a sign to quit. It's a sign to improve" | "You cannot reach level 2 with the character that got you to level 1 - growth requires change and that's why most people settle early" | "Becoming multidimensionally jacked is the path to the good life" | "The cure to anxiety is curiosity" | "writing, speaking, marketing, sales are absolute principles which you will have to learn, no matter which business model you go into"

@sahil_arora 11 ай бұрын

Eloquently communicated as always. I really resonate with the message that you're drilling home here -- there is an abundance of opportunity and with consistency of effort, we can all reach an audience that resonates with us. Here's to all of the creators!

@shotthebreeze9370 11 ай бұрын

Beautifully stated as well! 👊🏼📷🌬

@elle_cobra 6 ай бұрын

What I love about your content is it's clear, actionable, and without fluff. One of the most freeing things is to know you have agency and choice to do whatever you want to do. I'd much rather have me holding myself back knowing I can choose to step aside when the time is right rather than something I perceive is outside of my control. Whether improving yourself or staying the same, it's all hard. Just choose your hard!

@karissaexplainsitadhdstyle 11 ай бұрын

I love that your videos/podcasts are a mixture of self help/reflection/growth and entrepreneurship. You hit my core interests all at once which makes your videos engaging. Thank you for putting out the content that you do, I'm happy to have found you online.

@ConstantPursuitDaily 11 ай бұрын

I needed this today! So much to think about! The fear of what others think I believe is the single biggest thing holding others back!

@velvetbees 10 ай бұрын

Ten seconds after most critics have dumped on you, they have already forgotten it. They are automatically back to thinking about themselves. Unless they have importance in your life, send their criticism into the sea and let it float away. And I try to deny them a second chance.

@Fekuchand_ 10 ай бұрын

@@velvetbeesyes

@iamtaylored4u1 11 ай бұрын

You said it ALL right here! Have mercy! PLEASE LISTEN to this advice! I got it and I wish I had gotten it sooner! DON'T WASTE TIME! Thank you Dan! You are doing the dang gone thang! 🙌🏾

@lnhackley 11 ай бұрын

Thanks for this Dan! So much value!!

@lelatexeira1647 11 ай бұрын

This! Thank you. I was just journaling about this before it popped up. Synchronicity gold. I wish everyone could hear this.

@Open-MindedObserver 4 ай бұрын

It’s one thing to know something and talk about it and another to articulate something very well. Dan you always articulate your messages at a high level and it’s great to hear and read!

@mindyjocelyn3537 11 ай бұрын

Currently listening to you while at the gym! 🙌🏻 Always learning

@rodrigosalazar767 10 ай бұрын

This video is just unreal. Incredible i love it!!! You inspire me so much!

@nicholasacquah 10 ай бұрын

Your always delivering bro👏, Thank you.

@itsmekarishma_____128 9 ай бұрын

Thank you dan, it was wonderful to get to know these awesome things to improve! Will surely apply them.

@jawilliamsg 10 ай бұрын

Hey Dan, thanks so much. This is a MASTER CLASS 👊🏼

@moniquelemaire5333 11 ай бұрын

Mr. Dan Koe is the modern version of Zig Ziglar!! Zig ziglar always said that our problem is the lack of direction and motivation. Dan is giving us the specifics of what to do!!! Thank you, Mr. Koe God is using you to help the world around you!! Thank you and God Bless you and your family. Miss Monique 🙂🙏💗

@moniquelemaire5333 11 ай бұрын

@Chat__upDankoe_ You will be happy to know that I am in the process of setting up a tutoring service both local and online. $50/hr for tutoring much better than $14.51/hr. for being a Front End Manager at a Crazy department store!!!! Thank you again for all the help and encouragement!!! Keep being blessed and keep being a blessing to me and others!! Miss Monique 😁🙏💗🎶🎉

@premiertrvl 6 ай бұрын

Dan, just came across your channel, and I can’t stop watching. Thank You

@infinisourced 11 ай бұрын

Every new video, wow. Concentrated, very useful, inspiring. TY Dan.

@brittany.demers 10 ай бұрын

Sooo good, thank you!

@racheljune688 11 ай бұрын

New subscriber. Just wanted to say, keep going, don't stop sharing the truth and your knowledge with others. KZfaq is hard to do and keep up with, but never give up on your dream/goals. This goes for both you (the creator) and the people watching.

@Cygx 11 ай бұрын

I am continually astonished by your eloquence, such lucidity in your thoughts. You possess an invaluable skill. Bravo!

@soyrubn 11 ай бұрын

Good stuff as always. Thanks for keeping up with the good content and helping me through my journey

@draenesteron 11 ай бұрын

Your authenticity is why I keep coming back to your videos. I wish I were more stoic-appearing, like yourself.

@bradacash 11 ай бұрын

Thank you. I'm lifting some emotional weights today. What a great and helpful perspective on the situation.

@c.j.wilkerson9112 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for your service, Dan.

@Tangi_ENT 11 ай бұрын

My dawg. The second I get a little anxious I just come back to this video. Seems I’ll be listening to this over and over for months.

@keatonmoore7413 11 ай бұрын

New subscriber as of today. I don’t know how I haven’t found your channel sooner but you offer everything that I’ve been looking for. This video is incredible. I own a trucking company and will be applying all of this information to my day to day. Thank you

@rayali9854 10 ай бұрын

I needed this.great vid Dan.

@travelniz 11 ай бұрын

Love it how you're able to bring these things so good on point 🙏❤️

@TheGratitudeWalk 11 ай бұрын

Shooting gold nuggets 😍 much appreciated! I am already applying parts from here and that makes me a bit more confident.

@BlessingAmeho 11 ай бұрын

Another powerful bomb info here.We do appreciate your contents🙏

@filipinamindset 10 ай бұрын

I subscribed right away. Great content, Dan!

@KamalTiwari82 11 ай бұрын

Thank you I feel like I needed to hear this.

@Jake-dx8pt 11 ай бұрын

Man I love your content. Genuinely extremely valueble to me. Thank you.

@mustbecome 11 ай бұрын

Here's the #1 piece of the best advice I've ever heard to help "caring what people think about you: "Don't waste HOURS concerned about the SECONDS of scrutiny a person you BARELY care about MIGHT give your life choices." Start and don't look back. Your potential is your obligation. What you can become, you Must Become.

@thegreatdivinie 11 ай бұрын

What you can become, you Must Become. fire.

@mustbecome 11 ай бұрын

@@thegreatdivinie thank you sir. Much appreciated.

@MrReconcept 11 ай бұрын

To think that the basic skills like writing, speaking, sales, and marketing are easily neglected makes me 😢😢. Thanks Dan for always ringing that reminder bell. ❤

@shubhamsonawane5597 11 ай бұрын

Great, thank You!😊

@squamish4244 10 ай бұрын

I would say that anxiety in general is by far the biggest thing that stifles people's potential. Social anxiety, existential anxiety, anxiety in all its forms. A mind that never shuts up and defaults to the negative constantly. But more importantly, anxiety is what prevents people from being _happy,_ which is what we all want, and why we want success. And it doesn't have to be loud, clinical anxiety, but that low-level feeling that something is 'off' with life. You can be wildly successful and still have that feeling, and most people do. The Buddha called it "pervasive unsatisfactoriness".

@squamish4244 7 ай бұрын

@@the_myron The gut-brain connection certainly is fascinating. I had an allergen blood test done and found some useful information, like my stomach had problems with dairy - I already knew that - super obvious - peanuts, cashews, and I was gluten intolerant, so now I only buy rye bread. I also eat much less sugar and fat. I wish I could say anxiety is my friend, but it's been a demon for the past 30 years of OCD, then a huge breakdown 17 years ago, then a narcotics addiction (thanks, doc) that destroyed my life 16 years ago. Anxiety has ripped a huge hole in my life for no reason at all. There was nothing I needed to change. Nothing at all. My life was going well, I was successful despite all my struggles. Anxiety by its very nature is wildly irrational. Our brains still think we are in the Stone Age, so they see threats everywhere. Anxiety causes you to worry about meaningless things, or things you can't change, like death. It loops crazily in your head endlessly, tormenting you, crushing the life out of you.

@SelfLovewithAT 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your wisdom and knowledge! I’m going to watch this video every day‼️👏🏾👏🏾🔥🔥💯

@jaytonburnett 11 ай бұрын

Great video, will rewatch multiple times

@Guirakkstepn 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for your work ! Just discovering your KZfaq channel right now, so much value in that video that’s insane 💪🏽🙏🏽

@weisscoaching 11 ай бұрын

Everytime I listen to you I get my dose of determination to continue. Thanks

@prestigequickcod 11 ай бұрын

this was so good i have to rewatch it thank you!

@adamelfersmusic 10 ай бұрын

This is great content 🔥

@YoBoyEd 11 ай бұрын

Koe this came at the right timing. You are doing Justice to the people that are looking for a way out.

@okanhoruz758 11 ай бұрын

This video is so amazing and unique in terms of everything . THANKS .

@jawvees2585 4 ай бұрын

Appreciate this channel alot❤thanks Bro

@Telltalesign 11 ай бұрын

Thanks for this. Will definitely rewatch this to remind myself how to grow as a creator.

@user-bd1cq6rk5g 11 ай бұрын

Thank you DK, you are appreciated

@mustaphatarfi8071 11 ай бұрын

Bro , seriously you have a great content, keep that sauce going ❤🎉

@adalizasanchez7148 11 ай бұрын

Every so often I have to pause your videos, because I feel like at times… some of the things you say go over my head.😂 powerful!❤

@MountainofInspiration 11 ай бұрын

Awesome content and awesome delivery

@shawnbruce6934 11 ай бұрын

Thanks Dan. This made Me think very differently.

@black-shiip1323 11 ай бұрын

This video was wonderful 💯🔥

@TANKSTA211 2 күн бұрын

Great video !

@lisawynne-magnuson9469 11 ай бұрын

I’m so grateful that I found you!!!🙏

@nhungbuithicam9567 10 ай бұрын

Love video. Before, i am always focus and caring others thought😢. Now, i only concentrate my goal, my inner energy. I love myself. Thank you for great video❤🎉🎉

@kaseygay6265 11 ай бұрын

Bruh I am STRUGGLING today with this. The further I go, the more the demons pile up. Thanks ofr this.

@ritasjourney 11 ай бұрын

I appreciate you so much, Dan. I’ve been watching you on KZfaq for a few months, and recently reading you on LinkedIn. I’ve been learning video creation and editing, and really excited to get into some other topics. Can’t afford your courses yet, but hopefully soon!

@ritasjourney 11 ай бұрын

PS. You probably don’t care, but I think your hair looks great. I was missing those curls :-)

@earthrooster1969 10 ай бұрын

Great message/s ❤ thank you!

@ritzy5870 11 ай бұрын

I'm glad that I subscribed your channel cause your video has depth in every words you said ❣️ Your video help me to know where I'm lacking ... Thank you ❤❤❤❤❤

@michaela2041 11 ай бұрын

Very enlightening

@caioferreiracastro 11 ай бұрын

thanks for another class

@devyanisharma720 11 ай бұрын

your work is phenomenal..:)

@pabloravizzoli345 11 ай бұрын

Nice job on this video. It's the one that made me hit subscribe.

@saidsmailgmail9498 10 ай бұрын

Thanks alot for your help

@thestarinthesky_ 11 ай бұрын

@11:29 I fall in love with you even more after this part! That’s soooop true!!! Thanks for your insightful contents 💚🙏🏽

@encon7340 Ай бұрын

11:00 confidence through authenticity id a mental game.

@chadpayne5371 11 ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏🏾 ✌🏾

@Asimut30 9 ай бұрын

The reasonability of truth here was so intense and sharp, that a week ago I put a dislike, but now, after the week long intensive rollercoaster ride through Dan’s channel videos and submersion into this paradigm, I am watching again as literally for the first time - and now a simple like is not enough 🎉🙏🙏🙏💆‍♂️

@duneetagerealautre9946 11 ай бұрын

Super content as always👌. I just started a business this year. Newness can be scary, thanks for the reminder "it is normal" 😅

@Feelgracegivegrace 10 ай бұрын

Would love to hear your recommendations regarding increasing sales and marketing skills! Thank you for this great video!

@alamalitanzeel3680 11 ай бұрын

BRILLIANT!

@o0iamandrea0o 10 ай бұрын

This was good head medicine. Thank you

@Latoija 7 ай бұрын

This was deep! ❤

@FarnazJisha 2 күн бұрын

Srsly the most authentic guy out there

@luminousconcepts4359 11 ай бұрын

You a real Guru 💯

@maiDWSW 11 ай бұрын

Nice! 👏

@traphall 11 ай бұрын

I just found this channel and I like it so much

@diatutoria 11 ай бұрын

Your videos helped me get out of my comfort zone and start producing. Let's see how this goes.

@Flowerjackson 11 ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏

@phamtrunghau369 6 ай бұрын

thank you so much for video

@dacktube6957 10 ай бұрын

❤Where was this video when I was in High School lol😂 thank you for sharing valuable guidance 💯

@greenstreetfashion9185 11 ай бұрын

Thank you

@andilemaphanga2354 11 ай бұрын

" inputs that contribute to the outputs you want to achieve on a daily basis" ❤️

@LOCOETTEMPORE 11 ай бұрын

Hi Dan, thanks again ❤ will you make any content in how finances work from your perspective? It would be so interesting. Thank you.

@svngramz5160 11 ай бұрын

Man U or right respect to you brother

@user-zk3yq6xc6x 11 ай бұрын

I love this guy he is so serious that it scares me into doing what I need to do

@NourBellouti 11 ай бұрын

Your voice is amazing ❤

@NoWorkNoCheck 5 ай бұрын

I’ve learned more about life in the past 3 days from watching this guys videos than I have from the last 5years of personal experience. Thanks Dan 🙏🏼