Dating A Trans Person When You're Cis (ft. NoahFinnce, notcorry & Shaaba.)

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Answering questions about what it's like to be in a relationship with a trans person when you're cis (cis = not trans).
Noah's video: • TRANS PEOPLE DATING CI...
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Shaaba's Channel: / @shaaba
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@meyu1468 4 жыл бұрын

Interracial gay AND straight trans couples?? More representation in this one video than there has ever been in the whole history of the media 💕💕

@oliviamurphy9482 4 жыл бұрын

* interracial :)

@Yeahbuddy-yf2cv 4 жыл бұрын

There’s no such thing as straight trans couple is there?

@johnkarkat5138 4 жыл бұрын

Tony S yes there is? What do you mean by this?

@Yeahbuddy-yf2cv 4 жыл бұрын

King Egg just asking I didn’t honestly know

@johnkarkat5138 4 жыл бұрын

Tony S ahhhh ok

@fabulousbaticorn9991 4 жыл бұрын

when i was 9 all the boys always said i was 'like a boy, but in a girl's body' foreshadowing

@rodentia1474 3 жыл бұрын

Fabulous Baticorn *they knew :o*

@oceanstaiga5928 3 жыл бұрын

Omg I always sand wrestled with the boys so when they told me this round is boys only and I cant join i was upset but more of like wtf that dont count for me Foreshadowing

@kai-wn6bz 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@wendywhoisit1819 3 жыл бұрын

They say that about every girl that plays with boys a lot though.

@rafatsurve1921 3 жыл бұрын

Same here 😑😑

@adrenalinejunkie2740 4 жыл бұрын

“You’re not my type!” “We’re married!”

@thatonemessyartist1760 4 жыл бұрын

I wanted to like this comment, but it has 666 likes. 😂

@spinnysponk778 3 жыл бұрын

That one messy artist 👹

@imjarrifried5819 3 жыл бұрын

@@thatonemessyartist1760 it's got over 2k you can like it now lololol

@IslasYT 3 жыл бұрын

@@imjarrifried5819 now 3k 😏

@larastyles8127 3 жыл бұрын

time stamp?

@sheccabaw 4 жыл бұрын

"Was sex an awkward subject?" "YOU GO FIRST" "NO YOU GO FIRST" So... that's a yes?

@Robin07014 3 жыл бұрын

That's a more cleae yes then a yes.

@lsedge7280 4 жыл бұрын

Shaaba: "Kids are a big thing" Corry: "Kids are like quite small" Beautifal.

@krystalsnowdon2798 4 жыл бұрын

Lj Spike beautiful*

@grassaf4354 4 жыл бұрын

Lj Spike Noah’s face when he said then sent me istg

@emilian7052 4 жыл бұрын

Can't even spell haha

@youdontknowmeokay4227 4 жыл бұрын

Emilia Grace fuck off! Im sure you’ve made spelling mistakes too.

@WindspriteM 4 жыл бұрын

I mean for Shaaba it would be the biggest deal compared to the others because she'd have the pregnancy, I think?

@doodle.drawz.dreamz 4 жыл бұрын

"hes getting ahead of himself bc he has b a l l s" is probably the best quote of the video tbh

@pastelhurricane848 4 жыл бұрын

Ayy I'm the 666th like

@TheWeirdCowMumu 4 жыл бұрын

Y e s XD

@satanschild1609 4 жыл бұрын

Oh yes

@satanschild1609 4 жыл бұрын

•_ S a d i s t i c _• But?

@mackenzie8703 4 жыл бұрын

Isabelle and Tom nook are kinda hot it was probably at 69 or 420 likes

@voidcosmic1161 4 жыл бұрын

As someone who identifies as pan, I get *really* annoyed when people say that liking trans people makes you pan. Because it doesn’t. Liking people regardless of sex or gender is what it means to be pan. If you say that you must be pan to like trans people is horribly invalidating to both trans *and* pan people, because you’re not only being transphobic, but also using the wrong definition for pan people.

@quasselstrippe1944 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@mars5277 4 жыл бұрын

I'm a lesbian and a lady is a lady and all ladies are beautiful. I hate when there's those anti-trans redditt posts or ads that are like "would YOU date a trans person" And I was like "yeah, why not?"

@mars5277 4 жыл бұрын

@Oana I mean hey, yeah, everybodys got a preference. I would date a trans woman, some people wouldn't. That's that

@protojager 3 жыл бұрын

I know in my heart of hearts that i am pan, and it does have to do with liking trans people, but what really solidified it for me was realizing that i think the gender binary is just silly. Like, identifying as a man or woman is fine, perfectly good, cool.... but like sexuality i don't believe it should be the default. You shouldn't be labeled as strictly man or woman until you make a transition into something else, everyone is a beautiful non-binary butterfly with genitals picked out of a hat at birth.

@jean_the_bean 3 жыл бұрын

Obviously it can be disrespectful, and I'm not going to disagree with that because it's true.. Some of the time it's misinformation. I am straight cis and tbh I haven't gotten my head around the differences between pan, bi and poly YET. No videos or articles I've seen have explained it in a way that makes sense to me.

@random6033 3 жыл бұрын

bi - attracted to more than one gender pan - attracted to people REGARDLESS of their gender

@thedoctor6583 3 жыл бұрын

No, bi and pan are synonyms, some people use them in different ways but they all just boil down to: attracted to people regardless of their gender. I am bi, I am attracted to people regardless of gender and every bi person I know feels that way too. This myth needs to go away.

@random6033 3 жыл бұрын

@@thedoctor6583 definitions from dictionary: bisexual - sexually attracted not exclusively to people of one particular gender; attracted to both men and women. pansexual - not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity. these are not synonyms

@kc-eq4tk 3 жыл бұрын

@@thedoctor6583 I think you might mean omnisexual which is similar to pan. It basically just means to be attracted to all gender identities (like pan) but you may have a preference (like bi)

@thedoctor6583 3 жыл бұрын

@@kc-eq4tk No, omnisexual and pansexual are both micro-labels under the bi-umbrella. For some bi+ people they're important, that's why they use them, for some people they're not, that's why they go with bi but at the end of the day, they can all mean pretty much the same thing, we fall in love with whomever we fall in love, gender really isn't a deciding factor. That's the entire point of the bi+-umbrella.

@kc-eq4tk 3 жыл бұрын

@@thedoctor6583 oh ok thanks for the clarification🙃

@18Themega 4 жыл бұрын

Corry is wearing such an ugly button-up and as a lesbian could not be more proud

@wriggleby 4 жыл бұрын

MOOD OMG

@epushzp 4 жыл бұрын

Isn’t it called a button DOWN? Wait like I’m actually questioning everything I’ve ever known is it up or down

@klaraottosson1461 4 жыл бұрын

Emily Broski I’ve always said down so I hope it’s down

@thecodthatcosplay7182 4 жыл бұрын

Its both names and I think he’s hot and the top is great

@drippy3013 4 жыл бұрын

@@epushzp I've always said button-up but whatever you do you honey boo

@StaceyStaser 4 жыл бұрын

it's like two different generations of being trans

@tickingtimebomb4139 4 жыл бұрын

Mellop

@elsiewilson1689 4 жыл бұрын

There’s like 5 years between them 😂

@user-rn6zb2jc3e 4 жыл бұрын

@@elsiewilson1689 i think its a bigger difference between ages that they met too though,, so its a combo of age difference between them and age difference that they met that makes it so interesting to hear their answers

@epushzp 4 жыл бұрын

It is

@jazwhoaskedforthis 2 жыл бұрын

Cries in aging millennial

@jessandlydiatrask2046 4 жыл бұрын

I’m Cisgender lesbian woman and my fiancée is a transgender lesbian woman and I see her as who she is.

@elmtree9951 4 жыл бұрын

I hope you two are both very happy!

@mars5277 4 жыл бұрын

Ladies are ladies and all ladies are beautifulヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉﾞ

@elijaaaah 3 жыл бұрын

Enjoy your future together!

@gooderic11 3 жыл бұрын

is that you two in the picture? so cute!sending love❤

@jessandlydiatrask2046 3 жыл бұрын

@@gooderic11 Yea it is

@RatWh1skers 4 жыл бұрын

"Noah is very, stereotypically a guy" "Thankyou"

@somerandomtransguy168 2 жыл бұрын

Best part of the video.

@amarantalopez5782 2 жыл бұрын

Agree

@el_samo 4 жыл бұрын

This is by far the most ambitious crossover I've ever seen

@4dgreentea 4 жыл бұрын

Infinity war can suck it😂

@samanthaweiss867 4 жыл бұрын

@@4dgreentea 😂😂😂

@MeMyselfForWho 4 жыл бұрын

Russo brothers: Hold our beers

@Hayden_Cat 4 жыл бұрын

it'sMe TheHerpes Says someone with that name

@samanthae.1002 4 жыл бұрын

Ever met a platypus?

@janetgraham-russell4476 4 жыл бұрын

Noah looks like he should be in a boy band.

@tiliagrace8111 4 жыл бұрын

Janet Graham-Russell So true

@vampir3lvr 4 жыл бұрын

I think he was in a band before

@lexislife6333 4 жыл бұрын

5sos would be good for him

@tealkerberus748 4 жыл бұрын

Dipper Pines they're all very tall, though. How tall is Noah now?

@CoRLex-jh5vx 4 жыл бұрын

@@tealkerberus748 4 ft

@tyffaneelavely8087 4 жыл бұрын

Shaaba has a beautiful soul. Her level of understanding is a breath of fresh air. I'm not trans, but I hate when people lack empathy and understanding. At least try to understand. Remember, we all are just human beings trying to make our way in this world the best we can. Be kind to one another. :)

@joycrossing 3 жыл бұрын

facts

@santiagoorgeira9142 2 жыл бұрын

Strongly agree.

@cukka99 11 ай бұрын

Agreed; she's amazing. And they are amazing. Though I'm a cishet man, I find a lot of what they say helpful to me in being better with my wife.

@hwsuf9698 4 жыл бұрын

Being a ftm with a ftm, it’s always hard to fully understand dysphoria when it’s not yours. Our feelings and the way we handle it are different. There’s no shame in not fully understanding, as long as you’re respecting the other’s wishes.

@giordanodsouza9563 3 жыл бұрын

That's comforting

@adrian_the_alien Жыл бұрын

I second this. I’m afab nonbinary and two of my partners (I am polyamorous) are trans ftms. Sometimes they like parts of their body that I don’t, and vice versa. For example, one of my partners enjoys having more feminine hair, around shoulder length, while I don’t like my hair below my ears. Everyone’s brains and bodies are different and even if you have the same gender identity as someone else, it doesn’t make your experiences the same.

@data6022 4 жыл бұрын

"Kids are small thats the whole thing about them" thats literaly my favourite prhase

@sofia2621 4 жыл бұрын

I read that while he said it lmao

@Teddykid54321 4 жыл бұрын

Noah saying "I've grown about an inch since we've been together.... in height" is the best thing I've ever seen!!! How cheeky!

@fitchhateclub 4 жыл бұрын

•_S a d i s t i c.魂_• britain is 4 countries...

@justyourcasualweeb7270 4 жыл бұрын

@@fitchhateclub my brain just died inside My skull

@fitchhateclub 4 жыл бұрын

Megan Rose that’s what i meant lol

@prideofmanny2981 3 жыл бұрын

This is so British

@aubreybrown1480 3 жыл бұрын

*I N H E I G H T*

@taoutdoors8110 4 жыл бұрын

When Corry mentioned meeting Noah after University, I was curious what Noah's age is because I have followed him on Instagram since the beginning and couldn't remember his age. So, like any normal human I did a quick search on Google and found out he's 19 years old, and while doing that a link to his "birth name" came up. Which, I kind of thought it was quite rude that someone wrote and article about that when it's general knowledge (in my opinion) that you shouldn't really ask that question. I clicked on it, only to read and see if they actually outed his birth name or if they put that up to make educate others on it being rude to ask, and when I clicked on it, it said "His *real name* is Noah Adams" and the "real name" part was bold lettered and it just made me immensely happy that the article was not what I had originally thought it was! ♥️

@wes4983 3 жыл бұрын

TA Outdoors aw that’s awesome I got worried then ☺️☺️

@alli97253 3 жыл бұрын

@Liza Johnson probably so that if someone goes googling for his birth name they get that instead

@tomhermann1167 3 жыл бұрын

This is the best long comment I found underneath any video so far

@cheesecakelasagna 2 жыл бұрын

@@alli97253 Good samaritan

@Charja02 4 жыл бұрын

I love how completely different all 4 fashion senses are

@fancydood5292 2 жыл бұрын

Corry: about to go to a disco Noah: about to go to the gym Shabba: about to go to a library Jammi: about to go to the store

@marinasilvania2748 2 жыл бұрын

@@fancydood5292 that was very accurate....

@cheesecakelasagna 2 жыл бұрын

@@fancydood5292 cannot unsee

@bennyton2560 2 жыл бұрын

lmao

@tessr.1000 4 жыл бұрын

Hello beautiful people! I am a 55 year old woman from the USA (from Missouri, a very conservative state, ugh) and I really don't know many of the terms you use but I am learning as I have been watching Jamie's videos since one popped up in my feed a month ago. At first I didn't understand what Trans was and was truly shocked to discover that Jamie was born in a girl's body as he is so clearly a man. I also wanted to say that I think Jamie and Shaaba (sp?) are such a perfect couple and are blessed to have found each other. Now I have met Noah and Finnce who are a great couple as well. Thank you so much for making these videos! Hugs all the way from the USA!

@dark_attribute 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being so open minded and trying to learn! We all appreciate it! Cheers from your neighbor, Oklahoma, Destry

@algriffin7630 4 жыл бұрын

Noah finnce is only one person, an Internet name. his boyfriends name is Corry.

@LucasBurrell 4 жыл бұрын

uncultured swine am I the only person who thought Noah was cheating with fincce and she was the only one who knew

@mr-idiot 4 жыл бұрын

NoahFinnce is his youtube channel name his boyfriends name is Corry lol

@natoshawomack2829 4 жыл бұрын

Also from Arkansas here and am in a relationship with my trans bf! We started dating before he realized he was trans so even a year later now, we get a lot of ignorant comments, dead naming, wrong pronouns etc. We have now moved 1.5 hours away for a fresh start though!

@courtnrysalamone7677 4 жыл бұрын

Nobody No one at all Not a single sou- Do YoU MiND ABouT ThE GenITaLs??!?!?

@subscribetostuntpegg1636 4 жыл бұрын

courtnry salamone not no one at all. Of course the persons genitals play a big part in the relationship

@althepal234 4 жыл бұрын

Jake ha It’s a joke, man

@subscribetostuntpegg1636 4 жыл бұрын

Basic Bro yep

@litchtheshinigami8936 4 жыл бұрын

@@subscribetostuntpegg1636 well i suppose.. though in my own case i wouldn't mind either way.. if i fall in love with that person i don't really care what they have between their legs.. like i already have a hard time liking anyone so if i were to put that on there aswell it would only make it worse for me. if i were to date someone then find out they are trans i'd just be like so ? i fell in love with that person for their personality not for anything around that.. like i'd fall for a man either way but if that man was born with a vagina i would easily be able to cope with that seeing as they would still be a man in my eyes i mean if it quacks like a duck and walks like a duck it must be a duck.. just because that duck might be a hybrid between a duck and a goose doesn't mean i should treat it any differently than i would otherwise

@subscribetostuntpegg1636 4 жыл бұрын

Litch The Shinigami yeah, that’s totally fine, however my point still stands that genitals play a huge part in a relationship

@rae-ex1bc 4 жыл бұрын

Corry and Noah's relationship is funny with how they're constantly teasing each other and then there is Jamie and Shaaba who are adorable. Best types of relationships = noah & corry, shaaba and jamie

@jacecarroll9844 4 жыл бұрын

"I'm by myself" - "IM BIIIIIIIII MY SELF" "IM BIIIIIIISEXUAL"

@thatssofetch3481 4 жыл бұрын

“If you’re bi and have never been in a relationship you’re not bisexual, you’re bi yourself” -Thomas Jefferson

@thelonewanderer. 3 жыл бұрын

@@thatssofetch3481 I thought it was being on standbi

@CashaeStar 3 жыл бұрын

Lol I call it bymyselfasexual

@notlaxolotl8848 3 жыл бұрын

Me to all my problems after crying on the bus: BI BI BI

@elijahwinchester6690 3 жыл бұрын

@@notlaxolotl8848 i've cried on the bus once when the guy i'd just been with told everyone. my ex girlfriend came over and began telling me that he'd just shared it with the group of friends on the ride. then, a group of our guy friends started being assholes about it all. fortunately, i didn't cry until they'd already left for their stop. hope you're okay?

@LucywithinCapture 4 жыл бұрын

Corry's 'kids are quite small' comment made me laugh so much hahah

@Levi-zq5tz 4 жыл бұрын

'dO yOU mInD AbOuT tHe GeNiTaLs" - me in any relationship i've ever been in

@clarinamascarenhas7499 4 жыл бұрын

Levi I mean if they’re a couple obviously it doesn’t matter

@jonnavenalainen3417 4 жыл бұрын

I was expecting something along the lines of "no, i really like the genitals ;D ;D"

@levblue5038 4 жыл бұрын

we have the same name (this is my sister's acc)

@winglessfairy564 3 жыл бұрын

Lmaoooo

@mamahugs 3 жыл бұрын

As many have said before, what’s between your legs doesn’t define who you are!

@massy6453 4 жыл бұрын

Dating a trans guy doesn‘t *make* anyone pan. Identifying as pan is something that has to do with your own sexuality. A cis gay man dating a trans guy is still gay. A straight cis girl dating a trans guy is still straight. A cis pan girl dating a trans man is pan.

@j_fenrir 3 жыл бұрын

EXACTLY! One of my close friends is pan and she is dating my non-binary bro and like, she was pan before they started dating??? Because that's her sexuality??? Just how my non-binary fren identifies as bisexual because for them bisexual = attraction to all genders - so that's their sexuality??? Like labels are open to interpretation and we should respect how different people interpret different things. Their identity is *only theirs* and no amount of opinions will change that.

@nicole-rb4iw 3 жыл бұрын

@@j_fenrir THANK U FOR THIS COMMENT OMG while labels do have definitions they are not set in stone and in the end it all comes down to what ppl feel comfortable identifying as !!

@j_fenrir 3 жыл бұрын

@@nicole-rb4iw YES!!

@siggithegsd9713 2 жыл бұрын

@@AAhmad3449 Why you hate man.

@nevergonnagiveyouup1180 2 жыл бұрын

@@AAhmad3449 …that’s not how it works…

@Kai-hi2ii 4 жыл бұрын

No one: Not a single entity on Earth: Q&A: DOst thOu miNd abOuT tHe gEnitALs?

@weirdanimationsworkshop573 4 жыл бұрын

Thy, does not. Or dous thy?

@j_fenrir 3 жыл бұрын

As Shakespeare once said "Thy dicc is the most important appendage"

@supechube_k 3 жыл бұрын

@@j_fenrir i-

@kunaihanaki2914 3 жыл бұрын

Kitty Kat I was laughing at this for a fat minute. Thanks for that 😂

@iateyourdog617 3 жыл бұрын

LMFAO THIS REPLY SECTION THO-💀

@tashax747 4 жыл бұрын

Shaaba: I'm gonna mum you so hard Jamie: *turns beet red* BTW, Corry, Jamie & Noah are such cutie patooties! 😍😍 & Shaaba is gorgeous!

@troyesivanfan1199 4 жыл бұрын

Lol

@Lauren-fi2rd 4 жыл бұрын

Ohhhhhhh! I swear his name was curry! These accents are killing me

@mr-idiot 4 жыл бұрын

@@Lauren-fi2rd lmao Corry is a bit of a strange name anyway, one of my brothers friends has a brother called Corey which i guess is similar but ok

@Valentin-oc5nh 4 жыл бұрын

Natasha Walden what minute?

@TheEli2Pi 4 жыл бұрын

@@Valentin-oc5nh it starts at 4:16 but she actually says it at 4:30

@caldvmon 4 жыл бұрын

It's strange coming from Noahs video because Noah flips his😂

@SalamanderDavis 4 жыл бұрын

C Damon it legit is making me so uncomfortable rn LOL

@tiana2536 4 жыл бұрын

does that mean noah flips his hair this way i-

@cubshock7151 4 жыл бұрын

@@tiana2536 he flips his videos. it's like if you watched them in a mirror, the picture is backwards

@lilactheruevet2424 4 жыл бұрын

OHH

@caitlinjopepe541 4 жыл бұрын

I'm pretty sure it's actually that Jamie flips it back, and Noah can't be bothered 😂

@soupsoup4245 4 жыл бұрын

This,,, genuinely made me really happy. As a gay trans man, I was always really worried that I could never properly be able to be in a healthy, fulfilling relationship with a cis gay man. This gives me a lot of hope

@morgantollhall 3 жыл бұрын

That's legit, though Noah's partner is bi.

@aruvoxu 2 жыл бұрын

me too- i figured i could never find a partner now that i realised my identity- so it felt comforting to see

@peterevans6480 2 жыл бұрын

I agree fully, and that might be a big part of why Noah is one of my comfort ytbers (along with Twigu of course, I love her)

@gimmemore9709 2 жыл бұрын

truth of the matter your not gay your a straight women and gay men don't sleep with women no matter how you identify.

@Kari-tu3fs 3 жыл бұрын

Noah, as a child, they misgendered him correctly. Is that a task failed successfully moment. I do beleive it is

@lukelikeslego3025 4 жыл бұрын

Awwww Shaaba's answer to Jamie being cis is sooooo cute. She was only thinking about Jamie.

@Jammidodger 4 жыл бұрын

LukelikesLego 💛

@maegarciafuentes3182 4 жыл бұрын

@@subscribetostuntpegg1636 What lol

@subscribetostuntpegg1636 4 жыл бұрын

Mae García Fuentes “Cis” - is a term for people whose gender identity matches the sex that they were assigned at birth. Everyone is the gender they are assigned at birth.

@maegarciafuentes3182 4 жыл бұрын

@@subscribetostuntpegg1636 Not everyone is, trans people are proof of that.

@subscribetostuntpegg1636 4 жыл бұрын

Mae García Fuentes your sex cannot be changed.

@AestheticWannabe 3 жыл бұрын

“If someone tells you what your identity is,They need to shut up, cause you know it better” Me,Who is in the middle of an identity crisis: *Oh,ok*

@intercat4907 3 жыл бұрын

They do it to people of color too. Accept your status as an expert and go talk to more advanced people. Best of luck and happiness.

@kyanite8451 2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes its okay for your identity to be "I need assistence" and then once you personally know more, with or without that assientence, you can fill in whatever box you feel fits best. If not, find a nice field to grow all your beautiful idgaf flowers 💛

@bennyton2560 2 жыл бұрын

@@intercat4907 they do it to neurodivergent folks too

@intercat4907 2 жыл бұрын

@@bennyton2560 Yeah. For a silly moment, it almost seems fair - jerks who go around making EVERYONE mad. But no. And what better line for their rudeness to you than, "Please ... I know my own mind!" Stay well, Bennyton; you're valuable and valued.

@cukka99 11 ай бұрын

I mean, it's still true though, isn't it?

@splorely 2 жыл бұрын

When shaaba and Corry were talking about how they didn’t feel like their partners were ever female, I totally understood. I have a friend that I’ve known since 2nd grade, and he transitioned (ftm) in 7th. He never felt, acted, or even looked female. And now he’s much happier being his true gender.

@dawnbelleini8036 2 жыл бұрын

I've have a friend that came out a few weeks ago and I honestly thought I'd just missed something and he had already came out. He hadn't yet, but he was just always just male...

@aepixel2 2 жыл бұрын

My best friend is trans masc, and despite presenting as a female before coming out, I kinda just read him as male. It's hard to explain, he just "felt" like that. And when he came out it made so much sense.

@levnuica8863 2 жыл бұрын

Two of my friends just forget I'm trans sometimes and it makes me really happy. I'll casually mention afab things and they'll be confused for a couple of seconds and you can see it on their faces. It made me realize they actually see me as an actual boy and not just a "girl pretending to be a boy".

@SwayTree Жыл бұрын

This is true. I met some people in my youth that "never felt like a girl/boy". They weren't even out then... So when they transitioned it wasn't a surprise or anything it was more like: "Yeah, seems right "

@ZayleeBasker 4 ай бұрын

I've been dating my partner for two years and he has said that he will only ever see me as a girl because I was "a girl when we first met." I'm a trans guy

@margaritam.9118 4 жыл бұрын

Me: [walks down the street] Someone: [through the loudspeaker] DO YOU MIND ABOUT GENITALS This honestly sounds like a Monty Python sketch 😂

@mr-idiot 4 жыл бұрын

yesssss Monty Python

@theophilusomhurchu4438 4 жыл бұрын

Ahhhhh I LOVE MONTY PYTHON. I miss graham chapman

@j_fenrir 3 жыл бұрын

Biggus Dickus has entered the chat

@intercat4907 3 жыл бұрын

When we can start to laugh at them, we're winning. A year later, this is still a good post Thanks.

@Bobobo-bo-bo-bobobo 2 жыл бұрын

No one expects the Spanish Inquisition!

@romancrowley1467 4 жыл бұрын

Jamie, please subtitle your videos. Accessibility in the LGBTQIA+ community is a huge issue and my deaf and HoH friends would benefit from your videos as much as anyone else :)

@sheenasapunkrocker 4 жыл бұрын

Roman Crowley English is not my first language and I couldn’t understand what Shaaba said at 21:28 so subs would have helped

@KillerKyuubi 4 жыл бұрын

To be fair, accessibility is a huge issue everywhere not just in this community

@romancrowley1467 4 жыл бұрын

@@KillerKyuubi oh, massively!

@lauraholzinger5875 4 жыл бұрын

sheenasapunkrocker it isn’t my first language either but it sounds like „your love is not halal“ what would kind of make sense in that context

@xenoclea1041 4 жыл бұрын

yes please, I'm HOH and it's hard for me to just read lips lol

@ashermorris4779 4 жыл бұрын

3:30 my phone rang as I was watching your video... it was the Transgender clinic in the city calling to tell me I have an Appointment to talk about HRT and top surgery!!!! Yay!!!! So happy that I'm finally getting what I need to help me become the man I've always been!

@emilyownsarat 4 жыл бұрын

Congratulations! :D

@MrDevil-jb1fl 4 жыл бұрын

Asher Morris Good for you!

@Royal.Angel. 4 жыл бұрын

CONGRATS!!!!

@robynnhoud4001 4 жыл бұрын

Congrats my friend! I’m so happy for you and anyone finally being able to be in the body they feel comfortable with! Good luck (I’m pretty late but I hope you’re happy)

@ivymoody4238 4 жыл бұрын

Omg congratulations!

@audoldends6799 3 жыл бұрын

Noah looks like he can tell when his partner is gearing up to do something or say something dumb and looks preemptively Done and then when it happens he looks like he’s gonna throw him out a window and that’s a quality dynamic right there

@jazwhoaskedforthis 2 жыл бұрын

I love that energy lol

@riverisenby556 2 жыл бұрын

How many times have you watched this over the past two years? Me, a teen who gets paranoid about nobody ever loving me because I'm trans: yes. edit: look at me back one year later

@kyanite8451 2 жыл бұрын

Felt (But also remember that no matter where you go in life, regardless of race, ethnicity, or background, love is blind where it matters 💛)

@the_alien_1239 Жыл бұрын

same ❤

@shaaba 4 жыл бұрын

Bloody love these three lads 💛 (also love my hair in Noah’s flipped video ngl)

@NOAHFINNCE 4 жыл бұрын

Shaaba. 🥰🥰🥰

@introspectivesteps5433 4 жыл бұрын

I didn’t look at your username and was like ‘what about shaaba’ and then I realised xD

@hirasyed9185 4 жыл бұрын

I didn't read who wrote it n took it as the three fellows n thought why not Shaba☺️💕

@ashtoneverett9250 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Shaaba

@Hellooo134 4 жыл бұрын

Lmao I didn't realize this was from you and thought it was just some random person and I was like shaabas cool too but whatever

@stephanielivingstone7571 4 жыл бұрын

Its so weird seeing Noah’s room the right way around 😂

@yeetimtrash723 3 жыл бұрын

Me when finding out no one in that room is straight: I am very comfortable with the energy we've created in the studio today

@yeetimtrash723 3 жыл бұрын

@Jonathan Roberts Jammi is a Bisexual Male, and Noah is a Gay Male. The only female in that room is Shabba

@gimmemore9709 2 жыл бұрын

what's wrong with being straight? your comment is very straightphobic

@TRACYxBEAKER 8 ай бұрын

What?! By the logics of you people Shaba and Jamie are straight ?

@sexuallyconfusedpenguin2646 3 жыл бұрын

"He doesn't try to pretend anything he is not" Honestly, one of the best compliments I have ever heard.

@highoninfinity 4 жыл бұрын

"kids are quite small, thats the whole thing about them" I CACKLED

@DreamsInWild 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you SO MUCH for saying that telling bi people they have to be pan in order to be attracted to trans people is actually quite transphobic, because this is something that really angers me! I am bi, and I know that a trans man is a MAN. A trans woman is a WOMAN. I have been attracted to both cis and trans men and women, and I don't think for a second that I need to change how I identify because of it. It's so invalidating of a trans person's gender to tell a bi person (or anyone) that they have to change how they identify if they are with a trans person.

@barns-n-noble9410 4 жыл бұрын

Kitty van Dijk I’m dating a trans man and I’m Pan, but I identified as Pan before I even met him, so now I’m a little confused and worried that it makes my boyfriend feel invalid

@DreamsInWild 4 жыл бұрын

@@barns-n-noble9410 Oh no, not at all! It has nothing to do with being bi or pan, and neither of those identities are transphobic. There is this assumption that bi people ONLY have interest in cis men and cis women, because bisexuality is rampantly misunderstood even in the queer community. People assume that bisexuality is trans-exclusionary, and that in order to be attracted to a trans person, you have to be pan because pansexuality is more gender-fluid. But this belief is transphobic because you are saying that trans men are not "real" men and trans women are not "real" women, and that they are something "other", therefore straight, gay, or bi people cannot be attracted to them. There is nothing transphobic about pansexuality at all; the transphobia comes from the belief that ONLY pan people can be interested in trans people.

@barns-n-noble9410 4 жыл бұрын

Kitty van Dijk oh I see thank you, I was worried about that, being Pan people said that I’m actually bi because of that belief, but I’ve been identifying as pan for a long time before I started dating my boyfriend so I doubt myself a lot

@DreamsInWild 4 жыл бұрын

@@barns-n-noble9410 Only you can choose what label you wish to identify with. Nobody has the right to tell you who you should or shouldn't be :)

@barns-n-noble9410 4 жыл бұрын

Kitty van Dijk thank you💗 :)

@blitzhanger 4 жыл бұрын

I love how everyone is wearing ‘normal’ clothes and then there’s Corry ...legend

@dish_cup 4 жыл бұрын

6:25 *Jamie:* we’re talking about topics and it got more and more sexual ... *Noah:* _MORE SENSUAL_ *Shaaba being the cutiest human ever* _Do you like aubergines?_

@kendlem114 4 жыл бұрын

I'm bi and I've been told I'm transphobic for being bi, when I'm attracted to anyone. Yet they don't believe me, or they say I have to go as pan.

@ceilingeye 4 жыл бұрын

I’m a bisexual trans person and it’s hilarious when i run into those people, because they have NO IDEA how to react

@sylvies5078 4 жыл бұрын

@@ceilingeye lol being bi enby is quite the time too

@wooyeah1738 4 жыл бұрын

As a pan person, I apologize for anyone who’s told you you’re transphobic or Pan. That’s idiotic. People need to stop telling people stuff like that.

@Tendo641 4 жыл бұрын

I hate being told that because I'm not attracted exclusively to men and women, I'm supposed to call myself pan, despite the fact bi is two *or more.*

@zekeleonard5247 3 жыл бұрын

Ppl tell me and my friend that we’re not real friends because I’m own and she’s bi. I don’t understand how sexuality has to do with being friends. They also tell her how she has to be pan because being bi is transphobic. She’s attracted to anyone, but feels more comfortable with the term bi. Just like I feel more comfortable with pan

@nostalgicedits426 4 жыл бұрын

Shaaba is such a beautiful soul with her attitude towards trans people, everybody should have such an open and kind mind. It would be a dream to have such an amazing partner as her during and after my transition. Corry also has such a great attitude towards these sometimes uncomfortable questions and he’s really funny. :)

@Jonasftw 4 жыл бұрын

These videos are so important. I've never even met a trans person, so I feel uncomfortable even WONDERING about stuff. Like, if I say that I think ftm people are often hotter than cis guys, am I being offensive? PROBABLY! But you don't really learn anything if you're afraid to ask questions and make mistakes. This is like getting an education without having to be scared to mess up, so thanks! xo (Literally feel like I should not hit enter now, but whatever. The point I'm awkwardly trying to make is that you guys are doing a great job opening people's hearts and minds.)

@ajAmyski 3 жыл бұрын

@Jonasftw I think it's so great that you are here to learn, I am as well 😊. About whether your comment is offensive or not I would imagine that it could be because a trans man may not like the distinction of being hotter than a cis man even if it's meant as a compliment because trans or cis, they are all men and no man is the exactly same as another regardless of whether they are cis or trans, if that makes sense? But I am a cis woman so I really can't speak on it, I'm also just here to expand my mind. Either way it was clear you have good intentions and I'm glad that you decided to post your comment 😊.

@intercat4907 3 жыл бұрын

That was a GREAT post. Glad you're in "school" with the rest of us. It's a wonderful, complicated planet, isn't it?

@j_fenrir 3 жыл бұрын

Mate, thank you so much for coming here and educating yourself! I'm may not be trans, but 3 of my friends are, so I really see how ignorance hurts them. To see someone educating themselves just to treat trans people better honestly is making me cry right now. My best mate, Jeb, has a horrible transphobic, homophobic, bible-preaching idiot of a dad. He constantly misgenders them and calls them by their birthname. He doesn't care enough to learn and I will always despise him for that. You're decision to come here just shows that some people are willing to learn and understand. Thank you for being a good human. All the love ❤❤❤

@cheesecakelasagna 2 жыл бұрын

Same. My theory as to why transmen and bi-men seem to be naturally hotter, for a cis-straight like myself, is because I notice they're usually more introspective and self-aware in most aspects in life, more mentally mature if you will. And that's sexy af.

@highbirdlx 4 жыл бұрын

i didnt even know what "LGBT" meant until I was 20 years old and my friend asked me to join the pride (didnt know what that was either) parade. and now look at me... straight as a rainbow

@joycrossing 3 жыл бұрын

haha! cute!

@CryptP 4 жыл бұрын

My boyfriend is cis and we mostly get attention from other trans people who think it's so wild I'm in an actual healthy and respectful relationship with a cis man he's a lovely guy tho so

@CryptP 4 жыл бұрын

@@max-bl6fi I think it's just because we can't trust cis people properly a lot of the time I've had relationships with people who've definitely seen me just as my assigned gender so There's at least some basis for it

@CryptP 4 жыл бұрын

@@max-bl6fi yeah, I feel that. I know a lot of trans people who suck, and a lot of great cis people. I think it's just that prejudice against trans people and transphobia are still super prevalent, so it's kinda harder as a trans person to find a cis person who properly understands and respects your identity ig Not necessarily by fault of their own, but bc they don't know any better A trans person obviously knows how it is to be trans, so it becomes a bit less of an issue when you date another trans person If that makes sense??

@user-fc2cg3jp6e 4 жыл бұрын

Its probably similar social taboo to when inter-racial and inter-faith relationships started becoming more common.

@toomanyopinions8353 4 жыл бұрын

Personally people thinking it’s wild just makes me happy

@elenamunozdedios2916 4 жыл бұрын

CrypticP hey, cis girl girl here!! I just wanted to ask you, if you don’t mind, how was it for your boyfriend to tell his parents (if he has already)?? My family is very traditional and if I one day date a trans man I’m worried they might not be very welcoming of him.

@spacecase2493 4 жыл бұрын

“I realize that sounds contradictory but it is what it is” “You’re adorable” This is what I aspire to be

@Kailey00 3 жыл бұрын

As a cis person dating a trans man this actually helped a lot, thank you

@holyhellion69 2 жыл бұрын

As someone who grew up Muslim, the phrase "your love is not halal" broke my heart. Damn. I'm pansexual, my dad still doesnt really know.

@max-jaynefish7061 4 жыл бұрын

Omg, I love this, this helped so much, I have an MtF girlfriend and this allowed me to understand I'm not the only one who thought I can't help solve their dysphoria xxx

@shaaba 4 жыл бұрын

Max-Jayne Fish you’re not alone, so glad this could be of some help! x

@max-jaynefish7061 4 жыл бұрын

@@shaaba Thank-you, this actually made my day! Both the reply and the video xxx

@eden9036 4 жыл бұрын

@@max-jaynefish7061 @shaaba hi! Another partner here, i relate so much too! It's really nice to hear of some other people's experiences!

@sarahmosley1136 4 жыл бұрын

My girlfriend is a trans girl and it's really nice as a cis person seeing videos like this and all yall are just really cool chill people and it's lovely x

@nanner3200 4 жыл бұрын

Same as a Mom to a FtM child. OK not the same as a partner but still very helpful. Also the "do not touch" comments. My child never wants to be touched. Never a hug or OMG just bumping them passing by. So thank you to you all for helping not only partners of but also parents.

@whatevenwhat 4 жыл бұрын

this is the content i signed up for

@bishwhatthehell4280 4 жыл бұрын

WhatEvenWhat the pic with this comment makes it 10 times better

@whatevenwhat 4 жыл бұрын

Bish What The Hell 😂😂

@koretmulder6316 3 жыл бұрын

Something that I think is important in every relationship is the ability to say, "I'm feeling confused, and conflicted, and a bit upset, and I don't know how to put it into words yet!" And having your partner hear that, and still know they're a good partner.

@thealexfreakingbradshw1684 3 жыл бұрын

I cannot get over how much I love Corry’s shirt

@sawyerhadley1317 4 жыл бұрын

Noah is literally looks like the younger brother of Jamie😂

@miriamfelman3591 4 жыл бұрын

“A relationship shouldn’t be wanting anything other than the person.” I love this so much.

@kennethgray4679 4 жыл бұрын

The birth name thing strikes a sore memory for me My ex (a trans man) never mentioned his birth name, and I didn't really care to ask. But one time we went to dinner with him at his dad's place, and his semi-drunken dad decided to go on a fatherly rant about the history of his "two daughters" and used my bf's birth name in past tense context. Seeing my bf's expression when that happened struck a special little spark of rage in me. It's one thing to mess up when you're still getting used to the change, it's a whole other thing to think it's okay to deadname someone just because you're referring to them in a past context.

@IceMetalPunk 4 жыл бұрын

I'm cis, and I would never pretend to fully understand dysphoria, but I did want to mention that what you all said about it rings very true about generalized anxiety disorders as well. No matter how long I've struggled with mine, I still haven't figured out how to explain the feeling to people who haven't experienced it. The best I can do is approximations and metaphors, and they usually end up still thinking "oh, you're just stressed, we've all had that". And then there's the whole "anxiety about anxiety" thing, where when I have an anxiety attack, the more I think about it the worse it gets, like you said about not wanting to talk about your dysphoria when it's happening. And some days I'm fine, other days the littlest thing will set me panicking, and I won't always even know why. So while I can't know 100% what your experience is like, I empathize with some of it

@kyanite8451 2 жыл бұрын

Im a very anxious trans person and I personally think the way my body/brain react with dysphoria is quite similar to how I feel with an anxiety attack but also different. Youre right and there isnt really a perfect way to describe any of the physical or mental emotions but it helps to have something you can relate it to

@janx8695 7 ай бұрын

Dating someone with gender dysphoria sounds like walking on some kind of emotional fragility mindfield. It would drive me crazy and I probably end up doing a Freudian Slip or mis gendering them somehow just because you are trying so hard not to

@amestevens4146 4 жыл бұрын

the hate comments thing reminded me of a Shakespeare quote " Love me or hate me, both are in my favor. if you love me im forever in your heart, if you hate me im forever in your mind" people will watch the video and leave rude and disrespectful comments but they are giving you views and comments XD their logic is so flawed

@danyweaver6920 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the beautiful quote, that’s the best way to think about it

@Hello-ly8bd 4 жыл бұрын

@James P Woods Put down??? I think you *desperately* need help. "Stupid" people aren't rabid animals, they're humans. Yes, I believe they should be quiet and keep their opinions to themselves, but they shouldn't die.

@Raven-mp7bv 4 жыл бұрын

I mean how would you even be able to leave a cohesive comment anyway (both hate comments or good comments) if you didn’t watch the video? If anything, leaving a hate comment after watching the whole video makes you more qualified to speak on the subject than you were before watching. Just saying though lol this isn’t a hate comment.

@hannahanderson4305 4 жыл бұрын

@@Hello-ly8bd people who put themselves out in public forums like you tube, twitter etc. are going to get other's opinions, like it or not, if you cannot take it, don't be a public figure and puts your shit out there.

@mr-idiot 4 жыл бұрын

@@Hello-ly8bd I think they mean stupid people need to shut up

@robotboy3104 4 жыл бұрын

Because Noah mirrors his videos, this looks so weird after watching his video first

@robotboy3104 4 жыл бұрын

@Syndaron Jade Greywood he said it's cause he thinks that when it's normal he looks weird or it looks bad and just likes the way he looks better when it's mirrored even though it doesn't seem like much of a difference

@lilactheruevet2424 4 жыл бұрын

oh myyy fodfeqvtg

@kieranshae 4 жыл бұрын

I love seeing gay cis/trans couples because one time a cis gay man told me "No self-respecting gay man would ever date you" and I'm glad there are people like this to prove him wrong

@98Clank98 3 жыл бұрын

hate comment: how the shit does Corry look good in bowling alley chic. im angry.

@cheesecakelasagna 2 жыл бұрын

Bruh, same.

@katerinarodokanaki2724 4 жыл бұрын

I can feel their back pain through the whole damn video.

@fanellaforever 4 жыл бұрын

'Do you mind about the genitals' 😂 😂 😂 I feel you could say that to any cis straight woman whether their partner is trans or not 😂😂😂

@mariahrivera6151 4 жыл бұрын

I seriously thought she said "I didn't realize I was by myself" and not "I didn't realize I was Bi, myself" 🤣🤣

@jenohehir7312 3 жыл бұрын

💕Thank you all so much. As a parent of an F2M transitioning teen, your videos are so deeply helpful for me to understand and support him. You are all adorable genuine humans and give me hope 💕

@bobarasmith 4 жыл бұрын

So great to see young and adult cis/trans couple collab like this. Would you ever consider doing a video with an older cis/trans couple? Also, loooove Shaabas jacket

@logangray8910 4 жыл бұрын

I love the dynamic of these four in this video! As a transman with a cis fiance, it was nice to see two happy couples who are just as comfortable being together as I am! I hope the best for you all!

@TD1045TD 4 жыл бұрын

I appreciate how honest this is. It's so important for others to see this.

@sfarkhoy 3 жыл бұрын

What a lovely bunch of compassionate, open people x

@phoenixmorgan8296 4 жыл бұрын

I'm ftm at 25 pre everything and this is officially my favorite video on the internet. Love everyone in it!

@phoenixmorgan8296 4 жыл бұрын

@@itsMe_TheHerpes just shut up

@phoenixmorgan3561 4 жыл бұрын

@@itsMe_TheHerpes What I feel is pity for you. You must be so bored with your life to only accept what you want to accept. I feel no need to victimize myself or explain who and how I am to you. I hope you have a blessed weekend, and do take care of yourself.

@phoenixmorgan3561 4 жыл бұрын

@@itsMe_TheHerpes To be honest, I already have reconsidered. For 25 years. But nothing really is going to change, no matter how much you're convinced that a stranger isn't who they say they are.

@phoenixmorgan3561 4 жыл бұрын

@@itsMe_TheHerpes You do realize what channel you're on, correct? You're wasting your time, love.

@heckandahalf1634 4 жыл бұрын

@@itsMe_TheHerpes yes you are. You came on this channel purely to harass people with your nonsense. Why did you click on this video? Why did you search through the comments? Do you regularly search for lgbt content just to spew your idiocy to an unwilling audience? What a sad, pathetic, tiny person you must be. You got what you wanted, which was attention, you pitiful, miserable, little, tiny, whiny baby. Now go away, so us actual adults can discuss in the comments

@jaxsonezria 4 жыл бұрын

This collabs was perfect 😍

@laurengreenberger8864 4 жыл бұрын

Me watching this video in July 2020: THAT'S NOT SOCIAL DISTANCING!!!

@jadedphoenixstudios3911 3 жыл бұрын

Right. Would not have questioned it when the video came out, but I'm cringing SO HARD now.

@elli8012 3 жыл бұрын

Same 😂 only that it's November 2020 now..

@joyfulrogers9970 3 жыл бұрын

It is now march 2021...

@turtle7039 2 жыл бұрын

I really like having all of the together in a video because you get so many more views and opinions and scenarios etc. and it's just really nice to have such a wide range of that about one topic because so many more ideas and experiences get covered

@plodiN3 4 жыл бұрын

that's a really good video .... for a tra... no. just a good video. no jokes here :P

@blom8241 4 жыл бұрын

@Sarah-yb7yv 4 жыл бұрын

"But I am also like a mom...in Person. So if I dont know whats wrong I dont know how to mom you" I think I never related more to a statement

@justanartdoof3965 3 жыл бұрын

This is one of the best videos I've ever seen. Yall are so comedic and yet explain all this stuff so well

@xoderota 4 жыл бұрын

I really like Noah's hair. I know this is a random comment but I wish my hair looked like his

@oggthekiller 4 жыл бұрын

help im stuck in an endless loop watching yours and noahs video due to the recommendations at the end

@Jammidodger 4 жыл бұрын

Oisin Clarke-Willis Good luck

@xchristinex001 4 жыл бұрын

The way Shaaba was looking at Jamie during his outro 😍 you've been together for almost a decade and you're still so in love, its adorable 💕

@steverdms 3 жыл бұрын

How much unconditional love can you squeeze into one video? I love this.

@aliciapatel3195 4 жыл бұрын

Probably the most informative video I've come across in this. As a friend of someone who's transitioned this has definitely opened my eyes. Thank you all so very much ❤️

@isobelblackburn5615 4 жыл бұрын

Okay so my boyfriend (hes ftm) and I met jamie and shaaba at pride and wow they're the sweetest in person man

@joycrossing 3 жыл бұрын

lucky!!!! i wanna meet them so baddd

@alexandermorua4567 4 жыл бұрын

Now this is what i expect from youtube's algorithm

@jamieharden5677 3 жыл бұрын

when i was 11, one of the people in my friend group said they would never date a trans person and it was just their preference... anyways, we've been dating for 7 months now ✌🏻

@thorafoster-bill1919 3 жыл бұрын

Wait lmao are you trans? That’s so great!

@joycrossing 3 жыл бұрын

awww lmao but good for you!!

@francesatty7022 3 жыл бұрын

heck yeah character development

@thorafoster-bill1919 3 жыл бұрын

Are they a guy or a girl?

@neeharika422 3 жыл бұрын

@@thorafoster-bill1919 Does it matter? No

@MellissaW 4 жыл бұрын

I've seen Jamie's videos and thought that his transition was amazing to watch and made me emotional (in a happy way). I have seen some of Noah's videos when he collabs with Evan. But if I'm perfectly honest I never even realised that he is trans! They are both amazing and I'm so happy that they can finally be comfortable with themselves after such difficult battles! I have so much love for them both

@hidingfromsomeone 4 жыл бұрын

Just want to leave Shaaba some love for being so honest about her experiences. I'm the same age as you guys (probably a few years older actually, oops) but being trans just wasn't spoken about when I was younger. I had a vague idea about "transexuals" from Rocky Horror but that was it -- I had to educate myself on a lot of things. I really relate to your comment about "don't give people grief for asking honest questions from a place of good faith" -- I think it's so easy to shoot people down for their ignorance, when they're not necessarily to blame for it -- especially people in their 30's or older. So yeah. Much love to Shaaba. I think you're awesomesauce.

@shaaba 4 жыл бұрын

hidingfromsomeone oh my goat this is so cute thank you for taking the time to share this and your experiences 💛 We shouldn’t punish people for ignorance, but if they’ve been given an opportunity to learn and still act like an idiot then that’s a different matter 😋 All the best! xx

@hidingfromsomeone 4 жыл бұрын

@@shaaba oh yeah, if you give someone a chance and they're still an idiot then punch them in the nose (I'm joking, I'm joking!!)

@MeSwanne 4 жыл бұрын

10:10 Yes. Corry hit it on the god damn nail!

@TimDinosawr 3 жыл бұрын

This video was amazingly informative! Thank you so much for raising awareness and acceptance and for answering questions that some people may feel uncomfortable asking! You all spoke so elegantly and full of love! Ace!

@YochevedDesigns Жыл бұрын

This was so, SO good! Not a single second of this video was wasted, and even as a queer person, I learned so much about the subtleties you have to keep in mind. I know that some of the questions must have been triggering, and I want to thank you for being so brave and generous with your feelings.