I'm glad all the people involved in making the decision for your long term care had your best interests at heart, including your young mother.

That was very sweet to read. Safe to say, your grandparents did a great job raising you.

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Amen. I keep in touch just enough to not be detected as a detached member. I call it “small dose” theory

@@2legit2Kwit Smart. Fly under the radar and not be detected. Lol thank you 🤔❤🇺🇸

Done and done. Happier and happier.

They resort to narcissistic abuse.

I did this, walked away felt sad at the time, happy now 😊

All kids are difficult in one way or another! I think we should start acknowledging that.

So what does it mean if your parents show favoritism toward the difficult child?

@@Mikenas213 the parent is themselves high-conflict, impulsive and immature or they find purpose in being constantly needed to patch over someone's issues. Either way, it's a giant red flag for some deep-seated issues.

​@@powderandpaint14that's not true, one of my 4 nieces is 17 now, and has been an angel. The other 3? Not so much 😂 but it's definitely possible to not be a difficult child. My father tells everyone I was a breeze to raise. My brother and sister? Not so much lol My 3rd sister is somewhere in thr middle

​@@NeeNee_B.- True. One my sisters didn't create any problems for our parents. She had minor asthma, but of course that wasn't her fault.

Agree. The mother most likely helped out Megan over and over again. That is what usually happens with people that feel entitled, that have mental issues. The mother then had Megan and her granddaughter move in, where the child could get the support (food, clothing, shelter, etc.) she needed. She was supporting them both, and obviously did not realize the lengths Megan would go to to get what she wanted. Megan likely would not accept a "no" from her mother. Helen, being the baby of the family, likely was an empath and felt responsible for her niece too. Plus we have no idea what Megan said to Helen, to make her hesitate. TG Helen did call someone, otherwise this may have turned out even worse.

Question #1: Fear and extreme anxiety. Some people's first instinct is to call a loved one, not the police, in extreme circumstances. I was wondering about the status of the 8 year old daughter the whole time too. That had to be extremely traumatic.

@@sandangels73 not calling the police immediately was in this case fatal

@@joedennehy386 I know, but I was explaining why sometimes people don't.

Probably because she had a gun on her and she couldn’t. Carlos told her to get out of the house and she said, no. She said that she stayed because of the niece. So maybe she wanted to get to the niece and take the niece out of the house but Megan was talking with her and holding a gun on her. Or, sometimes those narcissistic family dynamics makes them feel like protecting their own. Maybe she figured to get the niece out and let Megan have a running start. You never know. Just a thought.

@@bonnielee316 I'm confused by the last paragraph. What do you mean?

Were you a bad kid? Just kidding lol thats fcked up.

@Kimberly Hackney no matter what kind of person you were, inheritage should include all members of the family!! .I am sorry for what you have been gone through.

I hear ya. I’m the targeted one in my family. My sister does terrible things while I fight everyday to prove I’m worth, even to myself now. I’ll never be liked as much and I’m learning to separate myself from that thinking. I’m sry you went through that. And no. Of course there’s never ever a reason to kill someone outside of self defense, but inside, I get why it happens. I figure most of the time, escape from the hurt starts, then ways to end the trauma. I think it probably turns into a fantasy for ppl. At that point, all it takes is a trigger or a moment of dissociation. It would be helpful to everyone if we could get ppl help before it’s too late. A LOT less ppl would be dead around the world due to mental illnesses and emotional trauma. Ah well. Here’s hoping one day that society decides to put more emphases on ppls emotional state.

That is awful!! parents shouldn’t never show favoritism ever. One of my children is more responsible than the other but they will get 50-50 of anything I own and while I’m alive it is always 50-50. Favoritism is a sin and it destroys families.

Same here. I'll bet you stand out in some way above your siblings. And no need for us to take revenge; later in life Karma steps in. Just live your best life and watch 😀

Sadly, I've come to live by this mantra: trust no one, and never be disappointed.

Missy, well you are no longer naive.... you've been enlightened. Good for you.

When you grew up with toxic narcissistic or borderline parent , you tend to be naïve like that.

Consider yourself blessed, as it means you don't have such people in your life.

@@pinktights747 There's nothing good about "losing naivety". And it's not naivety, it's healthiness.

She is vulnerable rt now & users will see this & try to take advantage of her by telling her everything she needs to hear. Hope she has someone who really has her best interests for her well being💜🙏💜

It’s a good thing she wasn’t in the house when the killings happened.

His dry wit is priceless!

The topics are interesting? They are rather tragic!

Don't encourage him. People are dead.

Is there any peer reviewed research linking narcissism to most murders? My psych and criminology professors must have skipped that chapter. 😂

@@mikebrown5191 Oh let's see it's probably the 5 million YT crime vids, (alot made by doctors of psych), 2 million TV shows, that prove it. But if you need 8 million psych papers beyond that, feel free. Narcissim is a touchy subject I understand for those who lean that way, don't understand its many forms & shades, or never experienced the abuse from it😉

Zena - I so much agree with you self-centeredness and lack of empathy are almost always present in murderers! How can they feel it is their right to end another person's life?

@@bthomson Hi friend.😊 Thanks. Exactly. Lack of empathy is narcissistic. We can call it sociopathic or other things but they all fall under that umbrella. How can anyone justify a murder unless 100% self defense (they rarely are). The entitled, rude, sarcastic, uncaring in our society are all too prevalent unfortunately. Hope you have a great wknd!! 💖💛🌵🍁🌻🍨🌜⭐

@@mikebrown5191 Perhaps you need to retake them!!!!!!!

Good day CT - Always great to see your comments! Hope the family is doing well! 💐

@@bthomson Thank you my friend. Everyone is good 💐💒💒

The evidence was pretty obvious. They would have to be particularly incompetent to not get it right.

"spend time"? You mean from now on right?

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I owned a moving company and did a lot of direct help with womens' shelters. One customer that became a friend for years was a long time heroin addict and said simply: "Addicts are SELFISH people first".

@@Dwightstjohn-fo8ki That is sadly so true. Addicts are selfish people first. Their addiction will eventually take priority over everything and everyone in their lives.

Agree with every word

You can’t prove that she was on drugs.

@@Trouble_Bubble36 why would she want to buy a house with the 400k if she were a vagabond, messy type?

Or over anything

Bought her a house and left who homeless???

@@anniegaffney8378 her son's girlfriend. I've seen that, too: the "independent one" gets nothing, the clingy one gets taken care of even into adulthood. It's a conditioning process of some kind.

I don't think it is odd at all. Hellen probably though there was 0% chance she was going to make it out alive and that a call to the police would only give her less time to live.

Not clear ! Who bought what to whom! Who was left homeless?

Exactly the mom here was evil that is traumatic

Helen asked her boyfriend not to call the police. For some reason. He only called when Helen stopped replying to him

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On the other side, it's a good way to learn to say no.

@@xminusone1 Or help out friends & family.

She might have been afraid for herself and her niece, and she called the person she trusted the most - her boyfriend. It turns out there truly was much to fear.

@@lisaa.4667 all the more reason to call the police immediately

Carlos should of rang the police after speaking to Helen

@@michellethompson5638 He did several times. LE gave him the runaround because he was calling from Texas.

I think that would be a great start to the kind of story where someone makes a chilling death bed confession. Then you find out about the pesky murder!

But just one!🤣🤣🤣

This story with the background being that beautiful closet of gorgeous shirts!

No wants that, I tune in to seek daily affirmation that my evaluation of humanity is spot on. Dr Grande never disabuses me!!

That's a different channel

Best to focus on that then and back off the speeding tickets and harassing teens.

@@darcymoon2109 Some folks REQUIRE speeding tickets to give them incentive to drive SAFELY and OBEY the LAW. Some don't. "Harassing teens"? What the hell are you talking about?!? Never mind. I don't care.

@@NickvonZ I think you triggered Ms. Darcy 😂 I have a feeling she's been " harassed" by the police on more than one occasion 😉

@@kayakingirl7252 I do believe you have hit the nail on the head! 😸👍

Thank you, Nick Z, for your service. Law enforcement has to be one of the hardest jobs on earth and you don't get the respect, the pay, or the appreciation you deserve.

Some do

That's the middle sister. The oldest one is the murderer.

Older sister= megan, the killer.

Hi Dr. Grande. Sounds like another, I agree, case of selfish entitlement. Psychotic & Narcissistic people have no empathy or integrity. I hope you see this comment because I usually don't get a reply except for someone saying to post it to another ? Peace, Love, Janine Smiley✌👍☕🍩☕🥧☕🍰🦓🦄💎💍⌚🛁🛋

😂 Did you carve a cact-o'-lantern for Dr. G?! That is awesome. You've gotta be his favorite fan now, if you weren't already! 😉

@@annal7364 Lol, thanks Anna! Yes, I did carve it myself.😅😁

Wow! Did not notice the cacto-pumpkin! How cool!

I can only magine the heartbreak for the other sister, Ashley, who wasn't there that day. She lost her mother and both sisters through this heinous murder.

I would add "well deserved" back in?

He was trying to say - well deserved -

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Well deserved 😊 absolutely 💯 correct... Your line is ignorance

I was trying to say "1.22 M - well-deserved - subscribers" but KZfaq automatically read it as -well-deserved-

I was not sure Ì wouldn't get shot by my sibling after our mother died. Yet, here I am.

I think she did help out the oldest daughter that murdered her. That daughter to me looks like she's on drugs. That might be the real reason she did what she did. To get money for her habit. Not for a house. She lived back and forth with the mom and her own husband, she didn't need a house. I think the mom figured she'd somehow squander the money on drugs or whatever. That's why she didn't want to help her out anymore.

@@TheBOG3 that makes zero sense. The facts show she was attempting to purchase a home with her mother's money ...pretty sure if drugs were involved, they would have been brought up. Lol

@@kdaze10 Her family knows about the drugs and escorting she was involved in. It was brought up in the video about the escorting and how her mom was threatening to have her daughter taken away. I don't know why they didn't bring up anything about her drug use though.

Interesting point

And his pickups.

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I agree

Sometimes common?

Oh eb! Keeping us logical at all times!

Sometimes the situation is complicated ie parents have spent a lot on said child over the years and were tired and they are giving the other child same opportunities. An example is one child went to college and always been on straight path with no issues vs you have bailed out another child numerous times and paid off a lot of debt etc. So it's not that they are playing favoritism it is that one child has squandered their opportunities. If I have bailed you out to the tune of 400k and decide to buy a house for other daughter it shouldn't be an issue.

@@serenity1255 yes, this is an excellent comment, but I still feel guilty that I bought one child a house and not the other two. It didn't work out, of course, and I took a big loss when I sold it.

And R Kelly

It's such a heartbreaking crime, I've seen a few videos covering it and it's never easy to hear how those monsters tormented her.

I think the misery was handled really even handed. I left at ,17 and my little sis married at 16. My mother kept telling lies to people about how evil we were until she realized nobody believed her. At 53 she checked in to a mental health facility and never came out. Bet she drove the staff to find other careers to follow.

Maybe Megan was narcissistic and bad from the beginning? Psychopaths are born not made...

@@IMWeira well Bonnie, this is how god's laws work. If you made injustice to whomever might be, eventually you will get punished in a certain way!!. It might come late but it will come. What goes around, comes around.!!

@@elisabeth400 I don't agree Monika. Psychopaths are made by bad parenting methods. If you ask a simple question it will become clear as crystal. Why Megan and not Helen became psychopath??. They have the same mom!!. All babies born with innocent souls till they go through life situations which might include some injustices that will eventually influence them to perceive the world as a dangerous place.!!!

Life isn't fair. Everyone needs to get off of their victim pity party, grow up & get a life! There's a narcissist epidemic out there because people refuse to be accountable. This is a hotbed for tyranny. Buckle up, Brandon!

Yes please, his ASMR channel would get so big

Probably part of her plan

That's a very important question!!! Why was Helen protecting Megan? An hour and 45 minutes is a long time to be hiding in a closet with a cellphone.

She probably never imagined her sister would actually kill them both.

I dont get how you can be so horrible to your kid

Agreed!

She was married and her husband is in the military. She stayed with her mom when he was deployed. She probably thought if she stole the money for a house for them, then he'd pay the taxes and bills, I guess.

Megan likely threatened her and others (Megan's own daughter too?) if Helen called the police. Helen would be totally in shock by this whole event, and everyone has different reactions when in shock. This was her own sister...how does a young person accept the change from loving sister to cold blooded murderer? It would be hard to think clearly.

Didn't the rifle belong in the house normally?

@@eadweard. No, it was her husband's and this was not her family home. She claimed she brought it there because of some strange people hanging around but nobody else saw these men.

Why was Megan driving back, and forth from West Virginia to Virginia? I noticed she did the same thing when living in New Mexico, driving to Texas often.

At the mother's defense, we don't know how she treated the oldest daughter. She let her and the granddaughter live there with her while at the same time this woman (Megan) is married to a man and would go and live with him, too, the father of her little daughter. The Aunt (sister of the deceased mother) gave some insight into the relationship. She said that Megan used to babysit Helen but after Helen got older or grew up, she became jealous of her. I think the middle sister even said as much, too. Megan would have had to split their mom's money with the sister (the middle one) she didn't murder.

I was raised by two Narcs and never thought to harm either of them though i did think to run away many times but did not becaue I new education was the way to be free *went on to become a psychologist and animal behaviorist BA* MA* I always knew even as very young child that there was something wrong with them NOT ME Life was not easy but each of us reacts to our environments according to our own unique personalities and just because she was not favored or IF she was raised by a Narc does not mean you kill your family Sounds to be that she was spoiled Had no job ,no education and wanted a quick way to get money (my thoughts on this case)

@@lisamac8503 I’m sry u were raised in that environment. I don’t think ppl Give enough thought into the psychology of the children growing up at the hands of ppl hell bent on manipulating them. As adults it’s easier to navigate. I am not a violent person and even managed to get two university degrees, even after almost failing HS, because as a much older adult, I separated myself from my mom and suddenly realized I wasn’t an eternal screw up. The games and manipulation stopped. For years I thought it was me. I hated myself and I hated her for not loving me because I was defective. Took me years to realize this. I cannot tell you how many times I reached out for help. Just recently, we had to be all in one home due to Covid and two hurricanes that tore everything up in Louisiana. In that time, my husband and I were having an argument while washing dishes together. She walked in, rolled her eyes and told me I should just go check myself back in to a mental ward… and walked out. My husbands jaw dropped. As a kid she told me to stop hugging so much because only retarded kids do that. She told me she disliked me because I was so much like my dad who she couldn’t stand. And I tried so hard everyday to make her happy with me. Wrote essays in school about how she was my hero, almost named my son after her dad cause I thought she would be thrilled… I can forgive her now because as an adult, I realize she did not have the ability to “love” me but she did keep a roof over my head and food on the table and protected me physically. I don’t have anger now as long as I keep her at arms length. I’ve always had been a kind and shy kid. I was and am now, not violent, suffering from psychosis, nor do I have any legal records…. So for me to have had the want to end my own suffering, and recognizing my own mother as the source, it shocks me to this day. But I was there. It wasn’t a movie. It was me. So respectfully, I think you are holding ppl to a standard and assuming they experienced things similar to you and therefor should handle it as well as you did. That’s just not how it works. We can agree to disagree I guess, that was just my experience and where I’m at now as a stable adult. I’m grateful I’m here and didn’t get farther in hurting my own mom. I now have 2 amazing kids and a great husband. I’d never have had that if I would have been able to get much farther in what my brain was screaming at me that day. THAT day as a teen, I was determined to make it stop. I didn’t even see her as a person then… or myself. She was an obstacle keeping me from some form of happiness and sanity. I still don’t know what happened to me that day. Can remember feeling like something was squeezing my heart, lungs/chest and I felt rage and panic and pain. So these stories always grab my ear. I don’t ever want to justify what happened to this family and taking a life. I DO however want to share my experience so that ppl might see it from a diff perspective and we can help prevent kids from making terrible mistakes, and as a result, save a few lives.

@@butwhytho4858 Thank You for sharing your thoughts. The best thing a family can do for their children is to be as concerned about their children’s emotional well-being and mental health as much as they do their grades, sports, special talents and activities, looks etc. The kids are not OK. Imho

@@butwhytho4858 I deeply resonate with your comments and experiences shared. It is very difficult to explain to others unless they have experienced narcissistic abuse and family abuse in general what it does to one's self esteem and psyche. Like yourself, I don't condone violence or murder except in self defense, however, I do have compassion and understand how this can happen in families. It does unspeakable emotional damage and trauma. Like yourself I was raised by abusive narcissists and you can get to such a turbulent level of anger, rage, and sadness after decades and years of toxicity. Just like how I have empathy of people who snap during crimes of passion and affairs. It takes a toll on the mind and blurs your emotions. I am at that point too of cutting my mother from my life because she refuses to get professional help for her mental illness nor take accountability for her abusive actions. You are not alone and no one can understand unless they have experienced this firsthand.

Bringing people into the world that you don't want to be around sounds like a stupid Fn idea

Yes, they should have their own lives once they are adults (that is what parents are supposed to prepare their children for) but you don’t completely shut the door afterwords. Have that Thanksgiving dinner. If you celebrate Christmas or other holidays , have that gathering. Life is short and unpredictable. You may come to regret what you strongly believe later on.

damn bum

MF - If we can't even get peace in families, how can we hope to get it in the world? It is the desired state but so difficult to achieve!

@@bthomson what are you talking about?

🙏 ma-clean 😂 surprisingly dopey slip up given it’s a well known American city.

It's his "defense" strategy: Act a fool until the judge throws him out of the courtroom, then when they inevitably find him guilty he can later attempt to overturn it because the judge dismissed him AND his lawyer (since he's acting in his own defense). I've seen it before & it's pathetic.

Oops I saw you did a video on DB about a year ago.. But now, with the ongoing case and him defending himself. We know who the real DB is. So it probably would be a good revisit