You can do it!! It's so hard at first but it really does get better. Good luck!

Please help..Iam going through this right now and tmrw is my daughters first day.. I am extremely nervous scared all of the above…I don’t want her to think I just abandoned her this is the hardest thing for me to do

@@anthonyhyman5189 nothing i tell you gonna make it any easier. But she will be okay and it will be like it never happened.

Literally so glad I found this. I'm a dad that's also dropping off my daughter for her first day tomorrow. She has never beem away for more them 2 hours with my grandparents. Thank you! Because I'm a wreck

@@runNgun1516 I was the same way exact way. Especially on her first day not going to lie I cried because I was scared and I am very protective of my daughter. I don’t know the people who will be teaching and watching her and i am still not happy about the situation. I know you feel the same way. The good thing is that your daughter is going to learn quick and become and more smart plus she’s going to make friends. My daughter has made a lot of friends and is now talking a lot more and expressing herself. You will be fine bro and she will be happy. You always got me here to talk bro so we can express how we feel as our babies are taking a next step in life .

That's so sweet of you guys! It really is a surprise because there are not a ton of thank yous in the daycare world unfortunately 😅 it is SO HARD dropping them off when they're tiny. I feel like we wait for the kids to adjust but it's also a time of adjustment for us as parents too, trusting our babies with somebody new.

It is so hard!!! I hope he had a good day ❤️

Another South African mum here. I totally relate. My poor 3 year old daughter crys and crys and is crying during sleep. I feel so defeated and sad. I truly hope it improves

Hey mama fellow South African here. I feel horrible. I can't even be there to drop baby of. My nanny has been doing it for the past few days along with my sister and I feel like I'm missing out...we are a big family though so baby always has an excited aunty to chill with after school. I miss her. She is sleeping right now - my daughter.

@@usandabekebu2954 You're being a good mom by having safe people who can see her to and from daycare. Try not to feel bad ❤️ She'll adjust in time.

I'm so glad this video helped you! ❤ I hope your little one gets comfortable at daycare soon 😊

Awe I'm so happy you found it helpful! ❤ I hope she has a fun first day with minimal tears 🙏

I'm so glad it helped you! Good luck! You've got this ❤

Awe I'm so glad the videos are helping you! Good luck! 😊

Give it time! It's only day 2 ❤ it's so tough at first, but once she realizes you keep coming back for her and she is safe, she'll be okay. I know it hurts though.

Definitely a good idea to hide the mom tears lol!! I'm so glad she settled in quickly. That's awesome!

How old was your LO?

I hope she gets used to her teacher fast and learns to enjoy it there ❤ it's a process.

I'm so glad this video helped you! Good luck! ❤

You're welcome! I hope it helps!

Lots of parents think it's easier to sneak away and avoid a sad goodbye! I admit, since I've made this video I've seen it work for some kids (if they're really little). But in general I think it's better to make sure they see you go and know you'll be back 😊 good luck!!

You're welcome! It's always rough at first ❤

3 days a week is usually okay if those 3 days are in a row. Daycare prices are out of this world right now 😔 it will get better! She just needs time to get used to the environment ❤️

You go with your mom gut! Worst case, you try it out and it's not a good fit do you bring him back home ❤️ It's a blessing you're in a position where you can try it out without the pressure of working outside the house on your back 😊 There are other ways to socialize too! Library reading groups, MOPS, church. Don't feel pressured to do daycare if it's not what you want.

@@RelatableMotherhood thank you so much for this bc I really don't want to do it but I know I will only have to go through the same process when he begins school so I was thinking this would be the best start? But I DEFINITELY like the idea of groups a lot more

So sorry for the late response! KZfaq doesn't always notify me when people comment. I'm so glad you're here and I hope my videos are helping you. 😊

Give him time ❤ he needs to get used to being there and build a bond of trust with his teachers. My sister's girl is close to that age and it took her a couple of weeks to start being happy at drop off. But now she does great!

Awe I'm so glad this video helped you ❤️❤️❤️ I do have one specifically about preparing babies as well. I'll see if I can link it here for you.

Here we go. Preparing baby ❤️: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/fJqXpMmarbXRaJ8.html

It's so tough when it's their first time being away from Mom! You got this!

You're so welcome! Yes, it's easier on the parents to just dip and leave but like you said, it breaks kids trust and just makes everything harder.

I'm so glad this video helped you! Good luck! 😊

Mine is starting on Monday…. How did it go??

That's so so hard 💔 It's going to take him a while to adjust to falling asleep a different way. If you can, i'd start training him to fall asleep a different way at home too so hes always falling asleep the same way. Can he have a water bottle or something to lay with during nap? That's how I weaned my daughter from breastfeeding. I gave her a soft-tip water bottle and she took it to bed with her every night.

Good luck!! 😊

Does he go every day or just a few days a week? My sister's girl is only attending 3 days a week and it took her a while to get comfortable there. She does great now! That said, some kids just have a super hard time ❤ Follow your mom gut if you feel like he just isn't having it.

This scares me

I'd say give her another week, and if on week 3 things haven't gotten better maybe reevaluate if daycare will work for her, or of you need to switch daycares and try a new tactic to help her feel safe there.

Good luck!! 😊 it's tough at first but most kidd adjust and do great!

It does feel good to be in the same space together. Maybe even catch glimpses on your breaks 😊

You got this!!

It helps a lot!

It's so so hard at first! 💔 can their teachers text you to let you know when they stop crying? That used to help me a lot with my son. The initial goodbye can be hard, especially if your kids have never been away from you before. They just need time to trust that they're safe at daycare and to see that Mommy will come back at the end of the day. If you aren't already, it might help your three-year-old at least to tell them that "Mommy comes back after nap time" or whatever time you're going to end up picking up. For your one-year-old, you could just say "mama will be back!" They just need to witness you coming back multiple times so they can build that routine and trust up. It is so super hard though.

@@RelatableMotherhood Thank you for your reply ♥️ So Friday was much better. My son went to the teacher very happy and my daughter didn’t cry. So I was much relieved. The director of the daycare does text me just to let me know how they’re doing so that makes me feel better. I’m nervous for week 2 but I know it will get better with time. ♥️

@@erikadavila6574 oh I'm so glad they're doing a little better already!

I'm so glad!! You're welcome 😊

Thank you 😊

You're so welcome! 🤗

Awe thank you so much! I'm hoping to soon 😊

You're welcome! Good luck! 😊

I'm so glad it helped you!!

You're so welcome!!

You've got this!! I hope she surprises you and has the BEST time!

You're so welcome!

You're so welcome!

You're so welcome! I'm happy this video was helpful to you.

Awe sweet boy. It's a big adjustment. Honestly if daycare has him exhausted at the end of the day I'd let him wind down with a snack and a TV show for a little bit. We do that with my son whose in Kindergarten now. Or sometimes I'll take out coloring or play doh. Something calm and quiet to play with. And I don't do a lot of talking. I just let him be because he's had a long day of interactions and just needs a brain break.

@@RelatableMotherhood good point! Will try some quiet activities!

Thank you! 😊

That's so tough. Is there a way you can change your schedule somehow so that they go two days in a row? It's hard and confusing for little ones to go to daycare one day, then home two days, then daycare again. Part of the peace kids get after attending for a while is knowing what to expect. If you can't do two days in a row, is there a way you can make daycare days look exactly the same? You eat the same thing for breakfast, arrive at the same time, pick them up at the same time, etc. That way over time he'll realize from the time he gets up that this day is a daycare day. You could even start telling him "today is a daycare day" in your happy mom voice. And really play that up.

You're so welcome!! ❤ Good luck!

It's absolutely ridiculous that you're having to leave him at the door. I would look for a completely different daycare ❤️

As far as I'm aware of where I'm living, parents are totally allowed to drop off inside now, so I feel a little outraged on your behalf! 😅 I would call around to other daycares and see what their drop-off policies are and try to find one that lets you actually go in with him.

@@RelatableMotherhood unfortunatly in Pennsylvania spesifically philly its I think almsot all daycares, at least I have no been to one that you are allowed. I think its due to safety issues. (idk how like they know who i am!) I have tried asking. I know in other counteries that MAKE you stay first week or two so it breaks my heart right now. Im so so sad and im also so exhasted. I work from home which is a blessing, but also working 9-5 office job even from home with a toddler is hard (mainly work after hours now when he sleeps) my nanny who came part time quit and daycares has insane waitlist so been with him for 2 months! And desperetely need help... I want him to like daycare so much.. breaks my heart hearing cries "mama mama, home, mama mama home"

@@Curiousitydrive Poor buddy 😔😔 and poor Mama! I'm so sorry. Hopefully if you keep trying he'll adjust. Maybe ask your local Facebook mom group if there are any great in home daycare options?

It can sometimes. Packing the night before really helps!

It sounds like if she was having fun at first, she'll be able to get to that point again. She's at an age where separation anxiety is super normal too 😊 I'm so sorry she got sick! Unfortunately that's a side effect of starting daycare and takes a long time for kids to build their immune systems up. I would try to hype it up as much as you can and make it exciting. If she's really fighting you, maybe get her a new coat or new rain boots or something that are special for her to wear ONLY at daycare. Call them her daycare boots. Stuff like that tends to work really well with littles ❤️ Get her excited to show her teacher and don't let her wear them until its time for daycare. I might research some immune boosting vitamins too if you're worried about her getting sick again. Not a guarantee, but it doesn't hurt! Good luck!

@@RelatableMotherhood Thank you so much for reassuring me. :)

In my experience 2 days for kids that young just isn't enough 😔 it doesn't become routine because it's only a brief time and then normal home life resumes, and they're too little for you to explain to them that daycare is only on Thursdays and Fridays. Is there a way to do three days instead of just two so he has more time to get used to the new place and new people? I know daycare costs are pretty bananas right now so that might be hard. Are you working part time and that's why you only need the 2 days?

Poor little guy ❤️ it's hard at first, adjusting to being in a new place. He really just needs time to bond with his teacher and get used to being there. If he's very little it'll take some time for him to feel safe enough to nap there. Any comfort items you can bring for nap would help. Blanket, pillow, stuffed animal, binky. Whatever helps him sleep at home.

I would say as long as pick up isn't mid nap time, you're good 😊 it's more the consistency with drop off that helps them adjust because they can know what to expect every time they go.

you have really good content. new subscriber by the way.

Covid rules are ruining so much 😓 I'm so sorry.

My biggest tip for this would be to give her teacher your cell phone number and ask if she'd be willing to update you throughout the day, at least for the first few days ❤️ I would mentally prepare that she's going to have a hard first couple of days. Give the teacher any advice on how best to calm her and help her feel safe, so she can copy what you do and hopefully start building that bond with your daughter. For kids who haven't been in daycare before, her age is pretty tough and it takes a while for them to settle in. Try to be an example and show her you're excited for her to have fun at daycare! If she sees mama is worried and sad, she'll never settle ❤️

I would say so! Just as long as baby has that consistency 😊

That's so hard ❤ One positive thing I can see is that if she's following the teacher around that means she trusts her. That's a good thing. Does she cry the whole time or does she just quietly stick to her teacher? I would say if she's not crying the whole time maybe give her another week or two to see if she starts to open up and play with other kids. Is she eating well there and playing at all? Can you speak to her teacher about it and ask what she thinks? She might be able to offer some insight or comfort to you ❤ In the end trust your mom gut. I would say if after a whole month of being there she's not settling and you're not feeling good about it, go ahead and pull her if you're able to. Mom knows best. If you do go that route, you can look on Facebook for nanny groups in your area and interview people to find the right fit. Make sure they're CPR certified and set hard boundaries to make sure you get the care you want. I hope this helps! The daycare world is so new to littles who have only known mama or siblings before. Remember you call the shots! You're her advocate and you know what she needs more than anyone else ❤

@@RelatableMotherhood wow thanks a lot!!! Yes she eats there and plays too.. She is behind the teacher but the teacher is doing her own things.. May b m not able to listen thru camera that's why i feel that way But at home all these 2.5 years she was attended by a nanny and has got full attention I just hope she starts feeling better there 🤞🏻

@@shreelaxmi1000 If she's eating well and playing I'd give her a couple more weeks 😊 But it's totally up to you!

@@RelatableMotherhood thanks Jessica.. Feels so assuring

@@RelatableMotherhood today she did not take a nap.. Just sitting on her bed So as a teacher what are you supposed to do when other kids are sleeping and only one child is awake? I asked them they said the teacher is there.. But as a mom I expect them to be by her side and try to soothe her to sleep Is my expectation wrong?

If you feel like they'll be okay with you sneaking out, do it. Sometimes it works. In general I don't think it's a good idea, but you know your kids best. 😊

My sister's girl cried for several weeks before she finally settled in. Now she cries when it's time to leave! Always listen to your mom gut but if you feel like he's safe and being treated well I'd give it a little more time ❤️

@@RelatableMotherhood yes he is safe he just thinks that I’m supposed to be with him in school he will cry but soonest I’m gone his fine

11-1?? That's insane!!

If he only eats haitien food then I think it's normal for him to not want to eat the daycare food. It's probably new and weird to him. Have you asked if you can pack him lunch and snacks from home? We've had plenty of kids bring their own food in places I've worked.

@@RelatableMotherhood yes, fruit and crackers but I feel like that's not enough for the whole 7 hours, thank you so much for the videos 😊

@@sherlybolivar7507 You're welcome! 😊 They won't let you pack him a real lunch?

@@RelatableMotherhood I'm going to ask her again today but she said only snacks 😏

@@sherlybolivar7507 If he attends full time and doesn't start eating meals soon, I might look for a better daycare. That's wild that you can't pack your child lunch.

Oh that's so rough 😔😔 I'm sorry. Have you explained to your oldest that her sisters are going to copy her reaction?

Yes yes they copy her, but she doesn't want to understand it, she doesn't care

i am a single mother and mentally unstable i don't know what will happen if i break i can lose my biggest treasure in life my babies

If your child is attending consistently (multiple times a week, being dropped off and picked up at the same times, staying more than a couple hours) I would say two or three weeks. If after that long they aren't settling in I would wonder if they need more routine or if it just isn't a good fit

It's normal for kids to regress sometimes and suddenly be sad when mom leaves even if they've had a long streak of being okay at drop off. Kids go through separation anxiety in phases ❤️

That's pretty intense 😕 is there a way for you to stay for a bit during drop off and try to get him playing with something? Like sit on the floor with him so he knows you're going to stay for a bit, and he can try to get comfortable? Or maybe have a special stuffed animal he can hug when he's missing you? You didn't say how old he is, but for some kids it is super super hard to be away from mom 😔 I might shop for a different daycare if they keep calling you to come get him though, depending on how long he's been attending. Some teachers know just what to do for sad kids, and others just don't have the experience yet.

@@RelatableMotherhood He’s never been in daycare. This is just when I drop him off at a babysitter or Sunday school etc. Hes 3. However, he has been in summer camp all week. He’s cried but they seem to know how to handle it! Yay! I’ve never had me time before. It’s still hard to drop him off when he’s crying but they said he is happy later on ☺️

I agree that it's ridiculous that parents aren't allowed to go in with their kids in some places. I personally would never put my child somewhere where I wasn't allowed access to them. Trust does need to be built over time.

Try to find a routine of comforting them that works. Maybe you give them hugs and kisses, then hand them their blanket and binky (or water bottle, sippy cup, stuffed animal, etc. Whatever comfort item they have.) Then assure them you'll be back later and leave 😊 If the goodbye is too long it just drags out the sadness of you going. But you don't have to rush out of there either. Do the same things each time you say goodbye and they'll learn what to expect at drop off time.

@@RelatableMotherhood I have twins who will be 2 Friday and possible autism so I'm wondering how likely it will be

Some babies cry off and on for long periods when they're just getting started in daycare. It takes time for baby to bond with their new caregiver and feel safe in the new space. But some babies adjust well right away! It really depends on the baby. I can assure you though that in a good daycare, your baby will not be ignored. The teachers will do everything they can to calm the baby and help it feel safe. You also ask for the teachers to text you updates on baby throughout the day until they get settled into a routine.

@@RelatableMotherhood thank you very much for your reassurance 😊

I would give her more than 2 days to get used to being there. How long are you having her stay there? If you're able to start her slow, like 1 or 2 hours a day, try that. Make sure her days are in a row (Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday--not Monday Thursday Friday. That kind of thing.) It strikes me odd that the teacher was so overwhelmed she asked you to come pick her up. I've had sad kids in my class and never called a parent to pick up because of it. Is she new to teaching maybe?

@@RelatableMotherhood she is the main teacher there and been working as daycare teacher for the last 20 years, she also got 2 other assistant teacher there My baby won’t stopped crying and won’t eat anything…and she is losing weight :( This is a text from the teacher “Also, she has not stopped crying since you both have left. We are trying to comfort her with her blanket and a teacher close to her. Sophia is trying to get her to relax and maybe go to sleep on her mat. We are hoping that she will rest and feel better when she wakes up. Is there anything that we can do to help comfort her? Is there a way that she likes to be held, rub her back or hair? A certain lullaby that she likes?If we are unable console her and she doesn’t eat lunch I will call you for more guidance. She may have to be picked up. Unfortunately, I do not have enough staff to be only with her” They tried everything that we told them still not working at the daycare place, i even brought her favorite toys and blankets…

@@paulamicaela7007 Poor baby 😔 It sounds like she texted you out of concern and courtesy to you, not overwhelm. That's good. I don't know your situation, but trust your mom gut. If daycare just isn't working and you have the option to keep her home a little longer, do that. If you don't have that option and you need her in daycare, give her some more time to get used to being there. I'm so sorry she's having such a tough time ❤

@@RelatableMotherhood thank you for your advice 🙏 Yes i do have time to keep her at home, i just want her to have friends, but i guess she is not ready for daycare at the moment, she is a very happy kid at home.

It's tough with covid restrictions. Some daycare centers aren't letting parents go to the classroom. But if you can, it's great way to get your child settled in 😊

Tough to hear, but true!

Write a note and get them engaged? I can see how they might not go well together. The note is for the teacher to be able to read, to assess your child's needs after you go. Getting them engaged with toys helps your child feel comfy before you go. The idea with getting them engaged is that their teacher doesn't have a chance to speak with you because they've got their hands full with other kids. These tips also cover a range of ages too. Let me know if I can clarify anything else for you 😊

I completely agree. And it's 10 to 1 for 2.5 year olds. It's bananas

It’s 1 to 12 here in Cali I was like 1 to 7 is amazing 😂😂

@@Tennessegal 1 to 12!? That's insane!!

It’s 1:3 for under 2’s in the U.K.

@@Applesonthelawn That's amazing!

Respectful disagree. Not everyone can afford to stay home with their kids and there are amazing daycares out there.

Agreed!! It was insanely stressful. 3 to 1 sounds amazing

Songs songs and more SONGS. Put your embarrassment away and sing interactive songs with them. My favorite is Hermy the worm. Look up songs with hand motions in your spare time and memorize them to sing with the kids. 2 year olds LOVE singing with hand motions. If that fails, finger painting on the table is always a major win. Or wet the table down and squirt some Johnson and Johnson soap on it and rub it around so they can play in the bubbles (art smocks recommended lol!) If you're able to sneak an extra recess, that helps too. Outside is a magic fix for a lot of kids

If you haven't already look up Pete the Cat books. When I taught daycare those were life savers too. The books have songs you sing in them. Pete's new shoes was my class favorite

@@RelatableMotherhood THANK YOU SO MUCH !! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

@@anamartinez4002 you're welcome! 😊 I hope it helps!