Good one. Was it related to this case?

@@sy_dianne5224no and I think it’s originally from Bojack Horseman

I like that line!😂😂😂👍👏👏

So very true

@@sy_dianne5224 No, it wasn't

I love this quote! As a person goes through the ages and stages of life, physical and mental health are amplified and attenuated through the the neurological plasticity processes of growth and apoptosis. Genetics expressed through epigenetics can lead to personality disorders that fall along a spectrum of clusters that can standalone or bleed into each other. Cluster A are odd or eccentric disorders. Cluster B are emotionally dramatic or erratic disorders. Cluster C are anxious or fearful disorders. In my opinion, Cluster A personalities tend to stand out isolated from the rest of society, whereas Cluster B and Cluster C personality disorders feed off each other as chronic bullies and their helpless/hopeless victims and combine through enmeshment in socially acceptable or unacceptable dark tetrad traits.

Well said brother

I feel we all have to be book smart, street smart, and spiritually smart. We all are lights, we have power of good, no matter what job we do.

U know how many woman just Creamed in there pants just now, after reading your comment???

That is an Excellent description of the word LOVE...!

These poor "patients" died awful, lingering deaths where they suffocated while Paolo celebrated! SICK!!

The truth is those people are not that bright either.

But he did live in an awesome house,l.? Did he ever even finish medicine? It seems SO weird to think he could use a piece of plastic and add stem cells to it and it would turn into a real organ? That makes absolutely no sense…at all..

Know a man through all the seasons. There is no rush.

You would have to be real stupid to go for this CHUMP! 😂

This guy was one out of the box. He was an extremely excellent conman. He was believable.

I would have believed everything until the Pope thing. Then I would have called BS on Paulo. Which basically Benita and her friends did.

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The hospitals were afraid people could sue them

​@@helenvarner5787Sweden is not USA. You just can't sue a hospital for 5 million usd in Sweden.

How could carolinska institute believe that plastic and human tissue can human tissue ? Women have to reapply acrylic nails every two weeks !! They covered for him not only to avoid lawsuits but also the ridicule they had coming for believing such an asinine and unoriginal idea

@@cgitahiSilicone is used commonly in surgery. This guy though, awful, a regular Dr. Mengele

He was clearly an excellent conman. No wonder she fell for his lies when doctors fell for his medical lies

misogyny. and women are the worst misogynists out there.

The hospitals he worked at were culpable.

I know! The Karolinska hospital in Sweden that's supposed to be top notch in the world actually stood up for him! I couldn't believe it! The whistleblowers were having their lives ruined. This world makes no sense to me. It's insanity.

Right?! She was a victim too. We all want to believe in love.

He’s done the same for me this past year. I find his calm demeanour and thoughtful insight soothing. His consistency of quality output is unparalleled. I guess you can say his content was therapeutic for me. Glad to hear he’s been helpful for you too. I wish you a year filled with many, many more ups than downs 🙂

Excellent video 📹 EX-DOCTOR PLAYBOY 🎉

@@DrLC. I appreciate you sharing that. It truly is therapeutic. DrLC, I wish you and yours nothing but the best this holiday season. Talk care of yourself!

This is awesome. I find listening to Dr Grande, therapeutic. Wishing you an amazing new year. One with peace, love and everything good.

@raegemini I'm glad I'm not alone. Have a great day, my friend, and all the best next year.

She was about status

She had enough status of her own. She was just infaruated. ​@@IceWhiteice22

When you're as vapid and superficial as Benita, being able to post Facebook pics of yourself in Paris or Milan with a rich and famous surgeon supersedes all else. Fact-checking is the last thing she would want to do, because that might eventually expose truths that would force her to have to end the relationship and stop posting her wonderful life on Facebook.

He did surgeries in various countries, traveling a lot, had money, good storyteller, romantic, etc ! So, he was already above other typical surgeons! He just added more on, creating fictitious reasons, making fictional plans! She took him at his word, too much trust! He fooled his wife, for sure! Or maybe his wife suspected he had other women already! Traveling professionals can hide other lives!

Yes, I agree! Why no one told her he was married and is not to be trusted whatever he said to her!?? Esp when they announced the Wedding! The story still needs more details to understand all this!

Reminds me of the Dr. Death story from here in the US. Dr. Christopher Duntsch. I believe his docu is on Netflix as well.

This is the problem with dark tetrad personalities being placed in positions of leadership.

I'm not a fan of the [all words starting with the same letter] thing. But I like the case stories and analysis. I've been in the True-Crime community for 30 years.

⁠@@rullvox5912the same letter nonsense is where I disconnect from the story-very unprofessionally stupid.

​@@rullvox5912alliteration

​​@@dbh7670everyone may have their quirks😂

Agreed. Having lived in Europe for a long time, weddings in castles are fairly commonplace there.

But pope? Come on

EXCEPT Catholics get married in churches. . .

@@NieceyWeesey They said the castle is the ONLY non-suspicious thing.

​@@NieceyWeeseywithout annulments and marriage prep ?

Homegirl was all about status. I find it hard to believe she did not see the red flags.

@@PHlophe I think she did, at least in a gut sense, but, like so many people, dismissed them.

@@megalopolis2015I believe that with him, it was difficult to separate fact from fiction! He was already not an ordinary surgeon! He did have many connections, knew important people! Traveling a lot for work and pleasure! Worldly, multi-lingual, sophisticated, charismatic, charming, romantic, smooth-tongued, gift of the gab, etc etc! She was swept off her feet! I’m more curious what did his wife knew or believed he was doing! Lots can be hidden when one travels for work and have periods of absences!

@@PHlopheYou can prove this status thing?? She is the Producer of a major media, so not a small fish either! I believe she was swept off her feet! He love-bombed her, was a conman! Charmers can be very smooth!

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He's a surgeon, not a psychiatrist!

LMAO! What a lunatic!

Obama must have found a way to make an exception for him, but only for him! 😂😂😂

Oh id love one on Lou Pearlman. I think in a round about way he contributed to the death of Aaron Carter.

In the real world, if all other options have been exhausted, as in these cases, you don’t really consider whether or not to go ahead. In addition, all the info you would have been given would have pointed you to go ahead. How can a patient spot a fraud that the medical world hasn’t spotted?

Rejane: Merry Christmas to you and yours!

A dangerous man

Yes, their gut says go for the wallets , and if the guts wrong fall back onto being a victim..

Well Elton John was playing so I’m sure Putin would want to be there 😂

@@Vonononie He very very rarely leaves Russia. Dictators don't leave their countries for fear of a coup.

To top it off, he could have said he invited Kim Jung Il from North Korea. 😂 Both Putin and Kim can attend the secret wedding together.

@@koalatheworld or even people brought back from the dead, by the doctor and the Pope.

@@koalatheworld😂😂😂 perfect!

Sometimes they do these things just to live rent free in the heads of their victims. I feel SOOOO sorry for Benita. I've experienced the heartbroken rage she exhibited. I can't believe he feels anything for those he has acquainted himself with.

I don't blame her for not seeing it sooner. I don't think Dr. Grande would have seen it sooner, in her position. It all boils down to how convincing this guy was, and it sounds like he was extremely so. The fantasy of fairy tale romance certainly played a role in her vulnerability, as it does for many. I wouldn't be surprised if she still has fond memories of much of it. He probably was able to convince himself of his own falsehoods, which would make him indistinguishable in emotion and behavior from someone who was authentic. That could be how he was able to get out of trouble so many times. It seems most of us have an instinct that makes see what is real and true as an ultimate authority that keeps us tethered to sanity. It's possible that some people are born without that or somehow turned it off.

I have never liked the phrase "better half" in regard to relationships because it implies that one person is the "worse half." That may be true, but why would anyone willingly involve himself or herself in a relationship with a worse half version of himself or herself, unless he or she is wearing the proverbial "rose-colored glasses" in regard to another? Personal and professional insight in doing an internal strengths and weaknesses and external opportunities and threats (SWOT) analyses are warranted in an ongoing manner. Therefore, insight is the precursor to one taking action steps in an expressed directional strategy (values>mission>vision) toward specific, measurable achievable, realistic, and time-bound (SMART) goals and objectives. Such aims align organizational culture, structure, function, and policy with that of public policy. Public policy financially supports infrastructure at the individual, interpersonal, and community levels (Matthew 13).

@@nanettevantriesteharder2469 Not sure what this comment follows from but I've never heard 'better half' used in the personal sense. It's always been used to describe their partner. I see it as elevating & complimenting them, whilst arguably being a little self deprecating. "My better half" yes but "I'm the better half"? That's a new one on me

@@hannahmitchell87 I know that people use the phrase "my better half" as a compliment. I like the phrase when envisioned as a Venn diagram of two partially overlapping circles in relationship with each other as a union of whole sets. My concern is that some sad, lonely, and needy people spend their lifetimes searching for that other half to complete themselves and they make unnecessarily poor to bad choices, which they often repeat, in doing so.

I wonder if at least some of her 'gullibility' was actually driven by narcissism. Bonita believed she was entitled to a fairytale prince, so she didn't question things that a more grounded person would have. He clearly love-bombed her, but she also clearly felt she deserved the attention (despite protesting this she continued to accept the trips, the gifts, the attention, even knowing something was off). She is a full-grown woman who gushed like a teenager over her lover's superior qualities to all of her friends. She wanted people to know that SHE had been chosen by this superman. Let's not forget that she willingly lied on his behalf when the truth about him became inconvenient for her. She seemed to be more angry that he had cheated on her and made her look like a fool than she was that he is essentially a serial killer. The whole thing was distasteful and her efforts to avenge herself after things fell apart, which was years ago and yet she's still focused on it, seem a bit like narcissistic rage. Because the real story of Paolo Macchiarini began long before Bonita even entered the picture, framing the documentary through the lens of her story and their romance, kind of irritated me. Of all the personal tragedies experienced by people who came into contact with this man, hers is arguably the least tragic. Her heart was broken and he devasted her emotionally, but she is still alive. Many others were not so lucky. The focus on their sophomoric Hallmark movie romance didn't leave enough room for the real story about how someone like Macchiarini can get away with harming so many people because of public acclaim, how a major academic center like the Karolinska Inst can become willingly complicit (and still are to this day) in horrendous human rights abuses when fame is involved, how the Hippocratic oath means nothing when the deaths of 'unimportant' people become acceptable collateral damage in the quest for fame and power, how whistleblowers have nowhere to turn when the powerful won't listen, and how a system designed to self-police via rigorous multiple level peer-review processes could fail so spectacularly--all of which began long before Bonita was around. The documentary barely scratched the surface of these critical issues. It was largely about Bonita, but she is ultimately just a bit player in the real and more important story. I am sure her emotional turmoil was extreme. Unlike the people Macchariani killed, however, she had the benefit of seeing abundant red flags that she simply chose to ignore. His other victims got no warning and had no way of knowing he was sacrificing them to his ego. None of them got their own documentary.

@@Sleepparalysisdemon2 Come on now, "He was backed by an entire institute. The most respected in their field. They couldn't see his lies or fraud," It's obvious to almost everyone that it was their reputation they were protecting. As for her, I mean she supposedly is in the top profession at sniffing out bullshit. So what were her motives here? Was she the "dumb blond" who dyed her hair brunette and thus fooled everybody into believing she was a top-notch investigative journalist or was she a gossip hack, conned by what she originally thought was going to be her "mark"?

@@TeaandTacos77 I fully agree with what you wrote.

She wasn’t as “gullible” as she knew she might have to fake. She most likely knew there was a high chance of fraud, but continued to gamble with the idea of money and glamour knowing the cushion of being an innocent and confused woman would still be there when it inevitably unraveled.

​@@Sleepparalysisdemon2She is an idiot. That isn't victim blaming.

Yeah, I agree. I don't feel for her at all. She's not a good person and happened to meet and like a monster.

Where are you guys getting her ego from? I didn't notice that

That’s precisely what I said! She had one hell of an ego! The audacity you had to possess in order to believe the pope was going to marry you and the Clintons and Obamas would be present at your wedding 😂. There are people losing their lives to this man and you think we give af about your supposed heartbreak. What a fool.

She wasn’t even totally divorced from her 2 nd husband when she jumped into bed with Paelo. She has childhood issues and needs to be with a man . She wanted all that came along with this man .listen to her when she feel “ magically in love” by the second time she saw him. While her 9 year old daughter was grieving the recent death of her father ( husband #1) she was globe trotting with her new man instead of caring for her broken hearted daughter. The only victim her is the patients he killed and their families.

@@supremlyfoxylass that's a bunch of assumptions on your part

I hope that dude is in jail and divorced. As for the journalist, the fact that she got involved, did no background check or Anything to check this guy out just astounds me. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to all!🎄🎄🎄🎄🎄🎄🎄🎄🎁🎁🎁🎁🎁☃️☃️☃️☃️☃️❄️❄️❄️❄️⛄️⛄️⛄️⛄️🎅🎅🎅🎅🥳👍👍❤️

ok, self-hater. you said the word "SHE" a billion times, meanwhile this MAN was inserting deadly body parts into innocent people's bodies. 🤦🤦🤦

Very well said! The ink wasn’t even dry on the second divorce when she started sleeping with Paelo. I’d really like to hear his take on things but he has never publicly spoken about her unlike her who has done nothing but now making a living on being a conman expert. She should have put her 9 year old daughter first, she was grieving the loss of her father and where was her mother? Globe trotting to Venice with her new boyfriend. Who brings a man into the house to stay when you have a 9 year old daughter who just lost her father? She did. ..the red flags are so blinding here but she didn’t want to know the truth about him. Most woman would be getting insurance on a ring that cost $100,000 but not her. And she said she threw it in the river. Bull. She has kept every email, pictures, videos of this man and this relationship was over YEARS ago. She’s traveled to Sweden to his court cases. And now doing podcasts and has been on every tv talk show moaning about being this victim to her “ George Clooney look alike” , the only victims here are the patients he killed and their families . Hospitals covered up his crimes even when they found out he lied about his credentials and his research or lack of it….

@@supremlyfoxylass Yes, we do not hear from Paelo. If you notice in her videos, she always has a bottle of champagne or a bottle of wine near by. When she was with Paelo, the same thing. Perhaps she needs to address her alcohol problem? Over consumption of alcohol brings problems into people's lives, as well as an entire slew of unidentified issues and problems.

@@cherylcampbell9096 I agree completely with your take on things. In her pathetic podcast same thing .the drink is always present and the glass full!

meanwhile, this MAN was fraudulently inserting deadly body parts inside of people's bodies. Jesus Christ you guys. wtf is wrong with you?

She's a noxious, vapid airhead.

This is projection

She's definitely a golddigger

I feel sick and sad, imagine the hope and faith his patients had prior to those surgeries. 😢

People are good at blaming the victims, but a con artist is just that! They can trick anyone

In my experience, developing romantic feelings for someone - or even just simple physical attraction to someone - tends to impede purely rational thought. We are much more likely to ignore warning signs and view our partner's conduct in the most positive light possible. Being "in love" amplifies that phenomena tenfold. Which makes it easy for even smart, skeptical people to get involved with bad people...

And how old re you?

@@mgw9562 Old enough to know better!

You’re a typical woman

How could a woman like Benita believe that he was actually 'checking out' someone like Hilary Clinton's health when he just wasn't there to spend New Year with her? The obvious answer would be that he was spending it with 'the wife & kids'!. How totally and absurdly gullible this woman was!

It sounded like a kid naming off all the celebs they wanna meet one day lol.

Who are you talking about losing their morals? The Physician or Benita?

It's pretty shitty to blame a victim and act like the crime against them wouldn't have happened if they had a better "moral compass"

@@katc2040 It's hard to feel sympathy for her. Even the most stupid person I know would not drop everything and fall for what are clearly lies.

@@Sleepparalysisdemon2 I assume she was referring to both parties in this highly dysfunctional, unethical, conflict of interest-ridden, and co-dependent relationship.

​@@nanettevantriesteharder2469Nobody even mentions the fact that he was already married and had two children. This alone would make him morally & ethically unacceptable, without even considering the rest of his lies. What must his nice Italian wife have been thinking of all his 'comings & goings'??? Benita is obviously the evil 'other woman', and she deserved everything she got. Who believes all that 'glamour' nonsense without pausing to 'take stock'?? What a complete airhead and self-centred fool.

Yes, he should have been writing the film scripts instead of doing those ‘pioneering’ surgeries where people died!

Apparently, they can't...at least not successfully.

@@andoletube Well he couldn't have even tried it if it weren't cleared but yes the success rate is bad.

You're calling Benita a gold digger? She was an NBC producer and had a great amount of wealth on her own. Many people fall in love with others who claim they are not who they say they are. She was just in the spotlight.

@@Sleepparalysisdemon2sometimes enough is never enough my friend.

@@Sleepparalysisdemon2 He was older & not that attractive. Am sure his wealth played into her fantasy attraction. Any logical person wouldn't fall for his continual stories. She liked the high life whether she had her own $ or not. She always wore tons of makeup, dressed fancy, had her 💅 done. That's a woman looking to marry rich.

on Netflix, too

She didn't seem to care at all either that he wasn't a good person and caused terrible suffering. Her standards were zilch as long as she had nice stuff.

​@@It-is-me...MelsieToo true. Agree 💯%.

When I first glanced at your comment I thought you had a thirteen-hour commute and that this video therefore wouldn’t use up much of that!

@@icturner23 LOL, thank goodness that wasn't the case!

@borsalinokizaru9862 she did take accountability. You're just an ass.

Finally a voice of reason on this comment thread.👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Amazing how much blame there is on Benita here when he fooled top doctors in a world renowned hospital! Dr. Grande missed the mark on this one.

Every surgeon I’ve known is really good at tying knots. This one might not be.

These bad boys get the girls like you

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂❤ so true!

One con artist conned by another.

Reminds me of Louise Fischer, a Danish journalist who reported on a swinger's club and joined in the fun while live on radio. Both she and Bonita got screwed.

IMHO, "journalist" is about the least reputable occupation anyone can have. I hold no profession lower than that of journalist.

@@tarstarkusz you mean your brain was lost to MAGA.

@@ronald3836 Which "journalist" do you hold in high regard? It is definitely not partisan. It does not matter what the subject is. It can be a mainstream political article, or an industry or other specialist press article, it's all the same. Lazy and or ignorant. On top of that, they are the most obnoxious and self-important people ever born.

Maybe he just found her more attractive than his wife.

He got that side kitty 🐱 and it probably boosted his ego having her believe all his lies.

He was playing with her, narcisists and psicopaths take great pleasure from manipulating and controling people... Pushing the boundaries and getting away with ridiculous lies boost their egos, makes them feel like gods.

To be fair though this is all clear in front of us snd the programme heavily edited / we have all done stupid things that we look back on with 20-20 hindsight & say “what was I thinking”?

@@ThePossumone she was a full grown experienced woman with a daughter. All I can say is that she was extremely naive, unprofessional and even complicit.

You mean the woman who fell in love with him during the investigation of him killing her son? That woman? Chile….

@@SLa-pb1gg yes, the woman who’s son died and he instantly started calling her to seduce her. How more vulnerable a person can be? He did that in different ways with his other patients and their families. The mother of the Russian girl noticed it too.

Very weird that you had to bring transgender people into the conversation, but thanks for sharing these deep thoughts of yours.

Paolo is just the perfect surgeon to pioneer such life saving surgery lol

There are doctors who are very greedy and are willing to forgo safety in order to collect a paycheck. Phalloplasty is an example of a procedure that can have disastrous consequences. There are People who have been reduced to using a catheter after undergoing one. It is extremely involved and surgeons who are not extremely skilled microsurgeons still attempt this surgery in order to get money.

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@isocarboxazid I brought up surgeons not people who identify as transgender individuals. Procedures like a phalloplasty and womb transplants concern me. I have data to back up my concerns. Feel free to read my comment below. I have done research. A comments section is not the place for explaining all of it but I did expand on my comment a little.