Intrusive people do not respect other people’s personal boundaries.

When a nosey person asks questions, I ask,"Why?" This catches them off guard. I have told people that it was none of they're business before. No beating around the bush.

This is making my blood boil. I’m dealing with an intrusive woman like that right now.

My response to an intrusive person; I very politely respond by saying; "I realize you may be asking a simple common question, but with all due respect, I take my right to privacy very seriously and you should do the same." I just love the freedom of independence.

The worst thing about nosy people is they're so damn sensitive to rejection even though they have hundreds of friends on fb..

There's also Intrusiveness where people like family will share all of your information with other people. Best not to share any sensitive stuff with big mouth people because they don't care about your privacy.

Just ignore them. They know what they're doing, subtily dumping their negativity on you and looking for any unpleasant exchange with which to boost their pathetic egos. They do know better. Empty shells they are. Give them nothing.

They have no life and want yours))

I'm a blunt person so I just tell intrusive people to get the fuck away. Problem solved! 😂

Intrusive "friends" showing up at my front door unannounced. UGH.

For me it’s not the inconvenience/discomfort that they cause but the principle behind presuming that I’m required to answer questions. She’s absolutely right about how dignifying their questions with answers is essentially rewarding and encouraging their invasive nature.

I had an experience with a total stranger in the grocery story being intrusive with me. I screamed out help!!! Help!!! This woman is attacking me. People came running over to see what was going on. They got the manager and escorted her out of the store. My point here is. These people need to be dealt with in this manner. They are dangerous.

Narcissist are very Intrusive, it's extremely annoying

I agree with the news reporter lady people sometimes catch you off guard you don't know how to respond.

Dealing with an intrusive “friend” right now. They can be so sweet, thoughtful and caring but you have to wonder if they’re trying to “buy you” in order to be able to get more information out of you. Every time I spend time with this person, I find myself highly drained and annoyed. They’ve helped me a lot financially so I feel a little guilty for feeling this way towards them. But I have to protect my peace and boundaries. I’ve vented to my family about this and they think it’s me just not being “open” or “friendly” 🙄

I have an acquaintance who is intrusive...showing up unannounced...goes around my neighborhood introducing herself. Very nosy...wants to know everyone's business but secretive about hers. She pumps you for info and uses it to stir up discord. She is also very bossy. I put up with it for a long time. She crossed many lines with me, but when she intetferted with my daughter...I lowered the boom on her and quit going to the door, changed my phone #. Ugh.

I’m annoyed with fake friends who like to know my story but their story remains an enigma. YOU ARE NOT MY F*****G FRIEND!

my problem with some intrusive people is that they're causing INCONVENIENCE to me. disrespectful af kind of people when i didn't do anything bad to them smh

If someone asks you a question you don't have to answer it's your choice.

I hate pushy people and old nosy neighbors

Intrusive people are so used to getting their way. Once you let them in, it's really hard to establish firm boundaries. I end up cutting ties with them. It's too much pressure and I detach.

They also stalk you By asking people who might know you So they can attack you with info they’ve gathered on you.

I have this all the time, but let me tell one that was outreageous. I had a old man neighbor that rarely greet me when he walked by me, which I don't care. One day he approached me out of the blue and asked me "what do you do for a living, what's your job" "where do you work". I said work somewhere and he keeps digging and I give fake information and change subject. I can't believe why you want to know where I work. Never cares about me. Never knocks my door to offer anything, only approach me to be intrusive. Don't you love your neighbors? They only knock your doors for problem, to be a pest, never to please you.

There are a lot of people like this in the south. It is practically the culture especially among women. People think it is southern hospitality but it really is not. It is just people being nice by being nosy. Being raised with manners should be raised with boundaries as well. These people do not respect you and do not respect your boundaries. People will treat you how you will allow them to treat you.

Here’s how you deal with it: you don’t! Just distance yourself.

There is so many girls from my class asking me like what my parents do for work, how much do they earn, what car do they drive and it is so annoying...

I can't stand getting grilled by a group of peers, when I'm the main focus... It just creeps me out! It feels like I'm being sized up (or down). I had some young women grill me at work and asked if I had kids, I said I don't, then they asked if considered adoption, etc. I just said that I don't know if that's my calling in life but everyone is different.

The long stare while blinking is very effective. They get really uncomfortable and skulk off.

I’m surrounded by those nut cases!

We have a Woman in our Condominium who marches up to our front doors and will bang on it, wait 2 minutes. If You don't answer her, she will come back later, knock again. She's even followed people into their homes, opened THEIR doors and Walked/Waltzed right in. She tried that with me and would stay until SHE was ready to go home. I knew she'd only hear the "Oh, _____, you are so sweet." and Not the "You need to leave.". So I finally showed her my address and said "This is my House, don't come around any more." and closed the door in her face. She also likes to give out Hugs without asking and won't give the person the chance to say No. She'll say "I'm going to give you a Hug." and next thing you know, she's hugging you. She even made a Dad make his Daughter Hug her and she was so PROUD she "got" her hug. So when she said "I'm going to give You a hug." I was "No." When she wouldn't listen to me, I raised my voice and said "I said "No", now leave me alone.". Needless to say she's not spoken to Me since or says "Hiii______" as if I've hurt her feelings. Unfortunately I am onto that Guilt Trip game.

Just answer with a silent stare/glare and let it go on until they get the point.

I have a maintenance man that lives in our complex. One day he held my car door open asking where I was going. He wanted a rude. This made me so uncomfortable. He tried to pick up my rabbit without asking & scared him. He recently asked me what I order since I get Amazon deliveries often. I was so annoyed.

I refuse the breech of privacy

Made the mistake of being polite to a new neighbor and before you know it she’s banging on my door like we’re friends. She ended up at my moms funeral then later storms in my garage asking me how much money I inherited! Now I ignore her calls texts unless important emergency as we live in a condo building and share walls with her.

Intrusive people want you to answer in certain ways

I deal with nosy/intrusive people all the time. It gets on my nerves. Some people aren’t secure in themselves and feed off other people.

Crazy nosy rude landlords make it so challenging when they ask uncomfortable personal questions wanting to know everything about one's entire life. If they are racist even worse. Common sense really isn't common in many cases which is sad but true.

Hate when everybody says he’s your neighbor you have to be nice ugh no I don’t

What I did with a few gossip hounds I knew was I just made up any B.S. crap I could think of for an answer. I lied to everybody all the time. Eventually everyone just stopped talking to me, because they could never believe a damned thing I ever said! 😄🤣

Don't hire anyone next door or in the area for gardening,they want to live off you and harass if you want someone else..

I've learnt to give very vague answers to nosey neighbours. One neighbour always asks me where I'm going and I just say I've got an appointment, even if I'm only going shopping. I also find nosey people very gossipy, nasty and jealous.

Intrusive is also a cousin to playing on your boundaries..people that usually have that type of nerve..Have the nerve to ASK WHY ?.I DONT MIND YOUR BUSINESS GET A LIFE!.

True story..first time we invited newlywed neighbours into our home...she got up from table where we were having coffee and opened our fridge pantry kitchen cabinets. When her husband looked beyond shocked embarrassed she said she was checking to see if they were same as what they had. But didn't explain why she looked under our bed when we showed them master ensuite when touring house. She also asked price of items which we simply said we couldn't remember hoping she would take hint. She repeatedly has offered to watch our home whenever we are out of town. Needless to say...will never happen.

Oh my goodness, I love how this woman comes across. She has this healing effect. I needed to see this!

I love this. I tell people, I don't know you well enough, that's too personal, or I just leave it at that's too personal.

Job interviews are full of intrusive questions. How much did you make in your last position? Why should that matter to them? They better pay market value or higher.

Fr I’m not used to people taking interest in me or anything I do and I got a Roomster roommate who notices everything I do and always brings it to my attention.... I’m actually thinking about moving because I’m a very private person and that’s too close for comfort. I don’t like people observing and predicting my movements like some type of National Geographic... instead I get alert and defensive like I’m some hunter’s prey... the funny part is I remember what i did two weeks ago bc he’s been recording the shit back to me instead of minding his business. Now days I carry a blade around in case he tries anything.... it’s annoying but at the same time I think I suffer from high anxiety.

I don't understand why some ppl have the NEED to see what others are eating.. having been raised by narcissistic parents who try to control everything I do and know every fart of mine, it is triggering.. it's always the same ppl at work/school/housemates, some run towards me the minute I get some food out and have the damn NEED to check exactly what I'm eating.. wtf

Showing up to my house unannounced. I felt pissed but I was the nice gal. It didn't feel very good. I enjoy the company in small bits but not unannounced.

Stop being intrusive

I work retail and I get more space from customers then I do my co workers. Just because I work with you does not mean you get to know everything, it's called fucking all the way off.

I live with a person.who seems to know every private detail of my life. We are not married and never been together, I do not like it. I believe it is some type of demon..im trying to leave but I haven't been able to .. it seems super natural

If they repeatedly knock on your door or other type behavior. Just politely but straightforwardly tell them "you need to stop doing this" and tell them "you know I don't answer, you know I don't want to be bothered and yet you keep doing this. I don't have to answer my door to you. I don't have to answer to you. You know better. No go on your way mam and have a nice day. Goodbye mam. Uh uh." They will not have much response and should rightfully feel a little embarrassed. And there's nothing wrong with that. Maybe even learn to behave better? Like talking to a child. What has happened to polite , honest and assertive communication?

I had this older lady who was envious of me ask me if this was really my house, if the cake I offered her was made from scratch, if I remember the name of a person who hired me, she was just trying to find dirt on me because she was envious

If you are unwelcome, uninvited, uncomfortable, and annoying, know that you should be busy improving yourself to be a better individual even if the people around you are teaching you to be intrusive and nosy.

I refer to these personalty types as "feeder's" In the extreem they are, psychotic, obsessive, intimidating, frightening and one hundred percent intrusive, interfering into every detail of your life. They constantly look for ways to cause you pain. They are very selfish, spiteful and domineering people. The way to get rid of these types is to play to their vanity to the point that they are convinced they've got you and self assuredly, leave the relationship. Once gone, do not allow them back in no matter what! Consistently repeat to yourself and their ever listeninng ears ~ I'm not responsible for your actions in life! The answer's NO.

This is so incredible. Such valuable information!

My business is exactly that no one else’s, periodt! I just laugh in their face and carry on.

Boubdaries! These people more often had an overbearing parent or parents so they dont think anything of it. They can also be narcissists

I have a rule that if anybody persists in asking me questions that are strictly need-to-know and they don’t qualify I have the choice to make up any answer I want if I choose to answer at all.

Dealing with an intrusive knowitall neighbor. Stops to drop off food says ignorant ass things to flare me up. I’m caught off guard most times. I need help.

I came here because they kept on pestering me about my lovelife and about my work even when I don't know my neighbor too much.

A good answer to the question "how much money do you earn?" is "I don't know" Then if they persist a good come back to their persistence is "well actually yeah I do know how much money I earn" They usually take the hint after that.

They need a taste of there own medicine. They won't learn otherwise.

Highly informative. I really recommend the video.

Nosy Neighbors are SO INTRUSIVE!!!

This is how I deal with it: Intrusive person: how much money do you make? Me: that’s a personal question that I will not answer Intrude person: but in our town this is a common question Me: that’s how you were raised . I was raised to respect people’s privacy Intrusive person: but you live here now Me: yes, i will adopt some of your customs but will not adopt all of them Intrusive person: you’re weird Me: yes, it’s called having boundaries Telling people that they’re going too far with their questions is not rude, it’s educational. If you’re ok sharing personal information that’s your problem but don’t asume that all people will share.

ive noticed nosey sad people getting cancer and having heart attacks in the street , also sad miserable people who have a crap life want to bring you down to their miserable sad level

I love this. I'm dealing with this at work.

For me intrusive is a coworker or something that tries too hard to be apart of your life outside of work, don't get me wrong I'm social and like hanging out but what does it is when they're trying to meet all your family or go with you to your families places out of town

I will say "this is none of your business. Get and stay out of it." to the intrusive people.

4:04 Females are TRAINED to not offend, and are SANCTIONED much more than males in society. This is not a desire to be a "doormat," which is ridiculous. It is a desire to have smooth relations and NO PUNISHMENT.

When a person asks for your phone number and you do not want to give it to them..I will say no thank you..they can be like huh?

3:54 we just had controlling and narcissistic parents. Those who did not- do not have this problem.

Man I tell ya! Then where is the line between getting to know ppl & making friends? And then everyone has different boundaries! Some are ok with certain questions & some aren't! Geez Louise! But yeah, that money question is too much for most ppl!

If someone asks you a nosy question perhaps just give a very vague answer that doesn't really give any information.

What about nosy people in public?

Sounds like my father and his minions very intrusive and invasive .

True. I give them straight answer and then ask what is your purpose and agenda on why are you being intrusive And when they say nah nothin... then I slap them a statement just stop being intrusive and be sensitive and stop.

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1:50 No the brain doesn’t tell you- like she said in the beginning, your gut feeling does. The brain starts to offer you excuses on how to explain your Saying NO, coz not being nice is so allegedly “illegal” and scary. And if you listen to the brain- you give in eventually.

I would never ask someone to look after my kids unless i paid for it

Sometimes I'm not even sure what their intention or motive is to ask such personal questions or things they might think could be a sore spot for you. Then I feel like saying something really sarcastic back but I know now I'm better off staying in a loving place and not lowering myself to their level. Yes how do I do this to where I'm honoring myself? I'm floored by relatives and their treatment of me. I have always been the family scapegoat. I'm done playing my part. I no longer want to participate so I've removed myself because I don't know really what else to do. I still have some contact.

I lost my temper with two Intrusive people hopefully me being curt will make them back off,I tried being nice ,I tried being kind ,I tried being patient but it just made matters worse.

Who do I need to contact about my cell phone being illegally being monitor.? I have been harassed for to long by them . They have talked bad about me to my employers. I got recording .

I am in a situation where I work as a checkout clerk in a small corner store and as a part of my job I have to sell customers their requested cigarettes over the counter. But every once-in-a-while an impatient customer (usually a middle-aged guy) starts prompting me on every single step, like some kind of dog trainer pushing his dog through every minute step. This has happened often enough that I am ready to blow up and let the next person who does this really have it. I don't need this stupid prompting and in fact it is making it harder for me. Plus as a guy myself it is a bit humiliating and all I take away from this exchange is anger. but I never have the presence of mind to redirect this dynamic.

Yes she is right.

North Dakota is full of them! That is WHY WE MOVE!!!

My neighbours have gone one step ahead then the usual intrusion. They have trespassed, hacked, monitored and stalked me. Its fine though because they aint God and Gods reality and purpose is the only one I should except and if that includes this then so be it! Ps I can hear scurrying around like you got jitterbug disease.

Oh my gosh, this video is so for me.

Am a Kenyan..got into freelancing..so I just stay in the house and make money...my girlfriend is in the corporate..in a very good position...so some people who believe they 'deserve & should own her' don't know why she keeps hanging around with me...am the guy who is always in a t-shirt, big hair...so they think being in a suit is the real deal to entice women...so am really pissed, my girlfriend is uncomfortable as well..everyone always watching when we hang out...we live in a small town and am scared/uncomfortable at times...give me advise guys ...I feel intruded

Our government is a perfect example .

What could I say to a guy who asks me in the supermarket "are you a member of our non profit automobile car club"? I dont even want to answer with "no" or "yes", I dont want to give any information to anyone. Its hard to answer relativly polite in German, its easier in English.

FYI... There's a reason your right to openly discuss your wages is a right, and is wrtiien into law. Your employers know you have this right. Hundreds of people have fought and died for your right to do so; it's precisely what labor day and May day are all about. It's one of the first rules in the employees bill of rights. I absolutly can't stand when people smugly and pretensiously defend such atrocious acts of selfishness. Doing so minnimizes the importance of having rights in the first place. You're taking a defensive posture, but you're not being attacked. Emphasizing such a position just subtly disenfranchises hard working people by limiting their ability to assert themselves economically. Aside from that this was a great segment on a subject that could use more discussion. I've found it informative and very relatable.

Managers do this to size you up

Why do people allow themselves to be doormats asshole question. Why are people being so damn nosy in the first place. Why victim shame?

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I'm going to be really imature and be determined to stay mad at this person... for a stupid reason

Nosey people! Intrusive is a kind jester!

That’s the norm in England